My love for you is relentless,
As your sweet sonnets fall upon my soul
Whispering a quiet melody
My spirit aching for more
My desires for you are relentless
Your breath flows like fire upon my skin
Capturing my deepest fantasies
While my mind plays charades with my soul
My need for you is relentless
As our spirits collide in passion
Your soul passing through mine
Reaching every corner of my inner being
My beating heart is relentless
Pounding like thunder upon an ocean
You capture my heart within your soul
It cascades your silhouette
Our desire relishes in sweetness
Our hearts singing a sighing rhapsody
Allowing our passion to rage on
Leaving us relentless...
Monday, July 16, 2012
GOD: DEAR GOD
Dear God,
Are the desires of my heart aligned with yours? Are the things I want the things you want for me? This cry pierces the depths of my being, the core of my soul, the deepest, darkest corners of my heart.
Where would I be without you? I am nothing and no one, so will you make me something? Will you open my heart to the things you desire of me? Will you teach me your ways and how to walk in them?
Hear my cries Father, please, hear them from the depths of my heart. A heart that is hungry for you.
Are the desires of my heart aligned with yours? Are the things I want the things you want for me? This cry pierces the depths of my being, the core of my soul, the deepest, darkest corners of my heart.
Where would I be without you? I am nothing and no one, so will you make me something? Will you open my heart to the things you desire of me? Will you teach me your ways and how to walk in them?
Hear my cries Father, please, hear them from the depths of my heart. A heart that is hungry for you.
POETRY: I AM WITH YOU, NOW YOU'RE MINE
She whimpered in a passionate sigh,
Her one true love was gone.
She watched in horror as they buried him,
And let out a mournful cry.
She'd never felt such a sense of loneliness,
Or such a sense of pain.
Her heart and soul were torn apart,
But remained a love untamed.
Although their love would last forever,
Her sorrow would not pass,
She knew that he'd be gone forever,
But their memories will last.
And with a shaky hand,
She placed a rose beside his name,
And looked into the heavens,
And shouted out in vain.
After all he gave to her,
One thing she held on high.
His true undying love for her,
And that would never die.
PART II
as your eyes shine innocently
they are my guiding light,
through the lonely days without you,
only if I could hold your hand,
my heart would be content for eternity.
your hair is all over,
gently caressing the roses,
I wish to be near them everyday,
intoxicating my sense of smell,
wandering away in
your sweet lips murmuring away,
what secrets only known to you,
yearning for their gentle words,
to fill this heart with comforting words,
to hold you close to my heart,
feel the warmth from yours to mine.
you make me shudder at every word you say,
how could I have missed you all this time?
only a divine plan it could be,
if there is a life,
it could be only with you.
PART III
To love again
How that would feel?
The tense song sung only for thee
To hold such... unheld hopes
Of a warm touch found wanting of warmth
From a cold, harsh world of yesterday
To the sunny path that leads to your heart
To love again
To hold true that which was lost
To place thee above... even sight
To wish a oneness never felt
To wake in the morning with eyes met
And to know tomorrow will find those eyes
Knowing that those eyes seek only yours
And will find a loving smile... as a frame
To love again
To know the need to be
And to be half... only whole with you
Yet, I love the feeling of incompleteness
For my half knows his better
And my mistakes find their perfection
In the eyes of thee
Whom I wish...
To love again
PART IV
My heart is racing, time is timid.
Lightened sky, darkened hall,
Frightening noise, deadly fall.
Racing toward the misty grove
What I feel is you should know.
Heart is racing, eyes on fire.
All I have is this desire.
Feeling lonely in this place,
Seeing starlight on your face.
Simple image, one desire.
I wish to be your one desire.
Running through the darkened woods,
Seeing faces in the hoods.
Catching breath, there is no time.
I am with you, now you're mine.
PART V
Innocence is a fleeting thing.
We only grasp it for a moment, then it is gone.
Our first love is innocent.
It is the first time we experience the feeling,
so it is at its purest.
We know not of the pain, the heartache,
or the ecstasy that accompanies it.
We know only love, so it is the emotion at its purest.
If only we knew to grasp that feeling
with all of our strength, and never let it go.
Falling in love is a double-edged sword.
We grow addicted to the feeling,
so we feel the need to search for it.
We abandon the person we fell in love with
to search for the feeling.
That is where the pain and hurt
that accompanies love comes in.
After we spend time trying to fall in love again,
we realize what we lost.
Unfortunately, that can never, ever be regained,
and we are left with the empty shell
of something that once was,
and we spend the rest of our lives
trying to fill that shell, but it never happens.
We have lost our innocence,
we have lost love in its purest, most basic state.
We regret that forever.
Though we may fall in love again,
it is never with that same fervor or abandon.
We never again cast ourselves blindly into love's arms.
We may fall in love again,
but it is always with a slight reservation,
that cautious look behind the shoulder,
or glimpse ahead into the chasm
that we are about to throw ourselves into.
It is never blind again, only that first "innocent" time,
for after, we know of the pain that can accompany love.
We never want to feel that wrenching pain again,
and we are scarred forever,
Our heart wears a black band which may never be removed.
We have lost our innocence.
Her one true love was gone.
She watched in horror as they buried him,
And let out a mournful cry.
She'd never felt such a sense of loneliness,
Or such a sense of pain.
Her heart and soul were torn apart,
But remained a love untamed.
Although their love would last forever,
Her sorrow would not pass,
She knew that he'd be gone forever,
But their memories will last.
And with a shaky hand,
She placed a rose beside his name,
And looked into the heavens,
And shouted out in vain.
After all he gave to her,
One thing she held on high.
His true undying love for her,
And that would never die.
PART II
as your eyes shine innocently
they are my guiding light,
through the lonely days without you,
only if I could hold your hand,
my heart would be content for eternity.
your hair is all over,
gently caressing the roses,
I wish to be near them everyday,
intoxicating my sense of smell,
wandering away in
your sweet lips murmuring away,
what secrets only known to you,
yearning for their gentle words,
to fill this heart with comforting words,
to hold you close to my heart,
feel the warmth from yours to mine.
you make me shudder at every word you say,
how could I have missed you all this time?
only a divine plan it could be,
if there is a life,
it could be only with you.
PART III
To love again
How that would feel?
The tense song sung only for thee
To hold such... unheld hopes
Of a warm touch found wanting of warmth
From a cold, harsh world of yesterday
To the sunny path that leads to your heart
To love again
To hold true that which was lost
To place thee above... even sight
To wish a oneness never felt
To wake in the morning with eyes met
And to know tomorrow will find those eyes
Knowing that those eyes seek only yours
And will find a loving smile... as a frame
To love again
To know the need to be
And to be half... only whole with you
Yet, I love the feeling of incompleteness
For my half knows his better
And my mistakes find their perfection
In the eyes of thee
Whom I wish...
To love again
PART IV
My heart is racing, time is timid.
Lightened sky, darkened hall,
Frightening noise, deadly fall.
Racing toward the misty grove
What I feel is you should know.
Heart is racing, eyes on fire.
All I have is this desire.
Feeling lonely in this place,
Seeing starlight on your face.
Simple image, one desire.
I wish to be your one desire.
Running through the darkened woods,
Seeing faces in the hoods.
Catching breath, there is no time.
I am with you, now you're mine.
PART V
Innocence is a fleeting thing.
We only grasp it for a moment, then it is gone.
Our first love is innocent.
It is the first time we experience the feeling,
so it is at its purest.
We know not of the pain, the heartache,
or the ecstasy that accompanies it.
We know only love, so it is the emotion at its purest.
If only we knew to grasp that feeling
with all of our strength, and never let it go.
Falling in love is a double-edged sword.
We grow addicted to the feeling,
so we feel the need to search for it.
We abandon the person we fell in love with
to search for the feeling.
That is where the pain and hurt
that accompanies love comes in.
After we spend time trying to fall in love again,
we realize what we lost.
Unfortunately, that can never, ever be regained,
and we are left with the empty shell
of something that once was,
and we spend the rest of our lives
trying to fill that shell, but it never happens.
We have lost our innocence,
we have lost love in its purest, most basic state.
We regret that forever.
Though we may fall in love again,
it is never with that same fervor or abandon.
We never again cast ourselves blindly into love's arms.
We may fall in love again,
but it is always with a slight reservation,
that cautious look behind the shoulder,
or glimpse ahead into the chasm
that we are about to throw ourselves into.
It is never blind again, only that first "innocent" time,
for after, we know of the pain that can accompany love.
We never want to feel that wrenching pain again,
and we are scarred forever,
Our heart wears a black band which may never be removed.
We have lost our innocence.
JOURNAL: How Close Are We to New Great Depression? Posted By: Catherine Boyle
How Close Are We to New Great Depression?
Posted By: Catherine Boyle
The risk of a new depression — a sustained, severe recession — has
struck fear into the heart of markets and driven monetary policy in
developed economies since the current financial crisis began.
"We're in a very unfortunate position to be here," Richard Duncan,
author of The New Depression, warned on CNBC's "Squawk Box Europe"
Monday.
"When we broke the link between money and gold, this removed all
constraints on credit creation. This explosion of credit created the
world we live in, but it now seems that credit cannot expand any
further because the private sector is incapable of repaying the debt
it has already, and if credit begins to contract, there's a very real
danger that we will collapse into a new Great Depression," he argued.
"If this credit bubble pops, the depression could be so severe that I
don't think our civilization could survive it."
The explosion in cheap credit has been widely blamed for the global
financial crisis, but the debate about how to fix the problem
continues.
In the past few years, central banks including the U.S. Federal
Reserve , the European Central Bank and the Bank of England have
pumped liquidity into their financial systems through a number of
ways, including quantitative easing and the ECB's long-term
refinancing operation (LTRO).
"We could keep deferring the depression, but that could just encourage
the bad guys. If you do this, you possibly do more harm than good,"
Roger Nightingale, economist and strategist at RND Associates, told
CNBC Monday.
"You can defer, but not prevent."
Nightingale argued that previous credit booms, for example in Japan in
the 1980s, have led to sustained recessions.
"When you throw money into the system at a rate much in excess of the
requirements of the real economy, you're trying to get people to
borrow and spend, but the good guys out there won't because they're
too cautious. It's the bad guys who come in, the malefactors," he
said.
"When the central banks realize what is going on and raise interest
rates, it flings the world economy into depression."
The ideas of Milton Friedman, the Nobel Prize-winning economist who
argued that monetary policy should constantly expand, informed some of
the Fed's response to the crisis.
"Policymakers really believe that if we allow credit to contract, we
will reach a new Depression," Duncan said.
"The increase in government debt is making total debt grow, otherwise
we would already have collapsed in to a debt-deflation death spiral.
This creates great perils, but also tremendous opportunities."
Duncan argues that governments in the developed world should borrow
"massive" amounts of money at the current low interest rates to invest
in new technologies like renewable energy and genetic engineering.
"Even if this is wasted, at least we could enjoy this civilization for
another ten years before it collapses," he said.
His views counter those of economists who believe that governments
should focus on cutting their debt, particularly where repayments on
that debt are threatening to reach unsustainable levels, like in
Greece.
Posted By: Catherine Boyle
The risk of a new depression — a sustained, severe recession — has
struck fear into the heart of markets and driven monetary policy in
developed economies since the current financial crisis began.
"We're in a very unfortunate position to be here," Richard Duncan,
author of The New Depression, warned on CNBC's "Squawk Box Europe"
Monday.
"When we broke the link between money and gold, this removed all
constraints on credit creation. This explosion of credit created the
world we live in, but it now seems that credit cannot expand any
further because the private sector is incapable of repaying the debt
it has already, and if credit begins to contract, there's a very real
danger that we will collapse into a new Great Depression," he argued.
"If this credit bubble pops, the depression could be so severe that I
don't think our civilization could survive it."
The explosion in cheap credit has been widely blamed for the global
financial crisis, but the debate about how to fix the problem
continues.
In the past few years, central banks including the U.S. Federal
Reserve , the European Central Bank and the Bank of England have
pumped liquidity into their financial systems through a number of
ways, including quantitative easing and the ECB's long-term
refinancing operation (LTRO).
"We could keep deferring the depression, but that could just encourage
the bad guys. If you do this, you possibly do more harm than good,"
Roger Nightingale, economist and strategist at RND Associates, told
CNBC Monday.
"You can defer, but not prevent."
Nightingale argued that previous credit booms, for example in Japan in
the 1980s, have led to sustained recessions.
"When you throw money into the system at a rate much in excess of the
requirements of the real economy, you're trying to get people to
borrow and spend, but the good guys out there won't because they're
too cautious. It's the bad guys who come in, the malefactors," he
said.
"When the central banks realize what is going on and raise interest
rates, it flings the world economy into depression."
The ideas of Milton Friedman, the Nobel Prize-winning economist who
argued that monetary policy should constantly expand, informed some of
the Fed's response to the crisis.
"Policymakers really believe that if we allow credit to contract, we
will reach a new Depression," Duncan said.
"The increase in government debt is making total debt grow, otherwise
we would already have collapsed in to a debt-deflation death spiral.
This creates great perils, but also tremendous opportunities."
Duncan argues that governments in the developed world should borrow
"massive" amounts of money at the current low interest rates to invest
in new technologies like renewable energy and genetic engineering.
"Even if this is wasted, at least we could enjoy this civilization for
another ten years before it collapses," he said.
His views counter those of economists who believe that governments
should focus on cutting their debt, particularly where repayments on
that debt are threatening to reach unsustainable levels, like in
Greece.
Thursday, July 12, 2012
JOURNAL: The Market Has Spoken, and It Is Rigged By SIMON JOHNSON
The Market Has Spoken, and It Is Rigged
By SIMON JOHNSON
Simon Johnson is the Ronald A. Kurtz Professor of Entrepreneurship at
the M.I.T. Sloan School of Management and co-author of "White House
Burning: The Founding Fathers, Our National Debt, and Why It Matters
to You."
In the aftermath of the Barclays rate-fixing scandal, the most
surprising reaction has been from people in the financial sector who
fully understand the awfulness of what has happened. Rather than
seeing this as an issue of law and order, some well-informed people
have been drawn toward arguments that excuse or justify the behavior
of the Barclays employees.
This is a big mistake, in terms of the economics at stake and the
likely political impact.
The behavior at Barclays has all the hallmarks of fraud - intentional
deception for personal gain, causing significant damage to others.
The Commodity Futures Trading Commission nailed the detailed mechanics
of this deception in plain English in its Order Instituting
Proceedings (which is also a settlement and series of admissions by
Barclays). Most of the compelling quotes from traders involved in this
scandal come from the commission's order, but too few commentators
seem to have read the full document. Please look at it now, if you
have not done so already.
The commission's order portrays a wide-ranging conspiracy (or perhaps
a set of conspiracies) to rig markets, including, but not limited to,
any securities for which the price is linked to a particular set of
short-term interest rates.
The collective term for these rates is the London Interbank Offered
Rate, known as Libor, but the use of this nomenclature sometimes hides
the fact that there is a separate Libor daily for each of 10
currencies at 15 maturities, from overnight to 12 months, according to
the British Bankers Association. The notional size of the derivatives
involved is on the order of $360 trillion.
Barclays could not have manipulated those rates by themselves - and
that is not what the C.F.T.C. found or the basis of the Barclays
settlement. Rather, some Barclays employees colluded with people at
other banks in a way that, over a period of years, moved Libor rates
up and down, depending on what would favor the trading positions of
the people and organizations involved.
Each Libor "panel" of banks involves seven to 18 banks. Participating
banks submit the rate at which they can supposedly borrow at a
particular maturity and in a specified currency, and an average is
calculated (taking out high and low values). No one bank is likely to
be able to move the calculated Libor rates by itself.
Once the global financial crisis began to bite, there appears to have
been a more systematic manipulation of Libor reporting by Barclays
management in a particular direction - downward, to make it seem that
the bank was healthier and therefore able to borrow from other banks
at a cheaper rate.
George Osborne, Britain's chancellor of the Exchequer (the equivalent
position to the secretary of the Treasury) and a Conservative Party
member, said recently, "Fraud is a crime in ordinary business; why
shouldn't it be so in banking?" The answer, of course, is that fraud
is not allowed in any well-run country.
Anyone who takes personal responsibility seriously should want all
those involved to be held accountable - to the full extent of the law
in all jurisdictions. Anything that lets individuals escape
consequences will further undermine the legitimacy that underpins all
markets. Bankers should be leading the charge to clean up their
industry.
Nevertheless, five arguments put forward in the last 10 days, singly
or collectively, attempt to provide some sort of cover for what
happened at Barclays. None of these arguments have any merit.
First, it is argued that this kind of cheating around Libor has been
going on for a long time. This may be true, but it is a sad and lame
excuse that is unlikely to get anyone off. The bigger question must
be: Is the financial sector crooked at its core? Statements about a
pattern of behavior only strengthen the case that incentives, culture
and organizations are all badly broken at the heart of the world's
financial system.
Second, it is also asserted that "everyone does it." This is not any
kind of defense - try it next time you are accused of fraud. But the
perception that many people could be involved is part of the reason
why this scandal has legs. A broad range of involvement across the
financial sector is consistent with what is in the C.F.T.C. order -
although the full scope of the conspiracies has not yet been made
clear.
There are three United States banks involved in Libor panels: JPMorgan
Chase, Bank of America and Citigroup. Are they also implicated in some
aspect of rigging interest rates and therefore securities prices?
Barclays was the first to settle with the C.F.T.C., presumably
enabling investigators to gain better access to information about who
else is involved. It would not be a surprise if bigger fish are still
to come.
Third, Libor-rigging is defended as a "victimless crime." This is
untrue. Traders at Barclays and other banks gained from this series of
manipulations, so someone else lost. That may have been investors, who
received lower returns than they would have otherwise. Or it may have
been borrowers, who paid higher interest rate and related costs than
would have been necessary in an honest market. Other losers are
presumably everyone who was effectively overcharged by all the
intermediaries involved in crooked behavior. Some local governments
have also lost heavily, at a time when these losses put pressure on
essential services and will tend to increase taxes.
Honest people in the financial sector should be up in arms about the
behavior of Barclays and other megabanks.
Fourth, some contend that it is the regulators' responsibility and
fault that there was cheating on Libor. It is certainly the case that
there was regulatory capture at work -- that is, officials in Britain,
the United States and perhaps elsewhere should have been paying closer
attention. I made exactly this point on National Public Radio's "All
Things Considered" last Saturday.
The mystique of the financial sector wowed many people - including
many prominent policy intellectuals, Democratic and Republican - in
the years before 2008. But who does the capturing in regulatory
capture? Big banks work long and hard and lobby at many levels to push
regulators toward paying less attention.
Fifth, the weakest argument is, "It was only a few basis points, here
and there" (where a basis point is a hundredth of a percentage point,
i.e., 0.01 percent). Either the Libor reporting process and,
consequently, the pricing of derivatives has been corrupted by a
criminal conspiracy, or it has not. There is no "just a little" in
this context for the enormous global securities market.
Robert E. Diamond Jr., who resigned last week as chief executive of
Barclays, reportedly said, "On the majority of days, no requests were
made at all" to cheat on Libor. The Economist, which does not make a
general habit of criticizing prominent people in the financial sector,
observed, "This was rather like an adulterer saying that he was
faithful on most days."
Mr. Diamond has fallen. Who is next? How will this play in American
politics? There is still time for politicians on the right and on the
left of the political spectrum to get ahead of the issue. Digging in
around specious arguments in favor of price-fixing cartels is not the
way to go.
Power corrupts, and financial market power has completely corrupted
financial markets. Barclays and the other global megabanks involved in
fixing Libor have brought their own industry very low - completely
destroying the legitimacy on which sensible financial intermediation
needs to be based.
Who trusts a banker at this point? The collateral damage is enormous.
Who in their right mind would buy a complex derivative product from
Barclays or anyone else implicated in this growing scandal?
By SIMON JOHNSON
Simon Johnson is the Ronald A. Kurtz Professor of Entrepreneurship at
the M.I.T. Sloan School of Management and co-author of "White House
Burning: The Founding Fathers, Our National Debt, and Why It Matters
to You."
In the aftermath of the Barclays rate-fixing scandal, the most
surprising reaction has been from people in the financial sector who
fully understand the awfulness of what has happened. Rather than
seeing this as an issue of law and order, some well-informed people
have been drawn toward arguments that excuse or justify the behavior
of the Barclays employees.
This is a big mistake, in terms of the economics at stake and the
likely political impact.
The behavior at Barclays has all the hallmarks of fraud - intentional
deception for personal gain, causing significant damage to others.
The Commodity Futures Trading Commission nailed the detailed mechanics
of this deception in plain English in its Order Instituting
Proceedings (which is also a settlement and series of admissions by
Barclays). Most of the compelling quotes from traders involved in this
scandal come from the commission's order, but too few commentators
seem to have read the full document. Please look at it now, if you
have not done so already.
The commission's order portrays a wide-ranging conspiracy (or perhaps
a set of conspiracies) to rig markets, including, but not limited to,
any securities for which the price is linked to a particular set of
short-term interest rates.
The collective term for these rates is the London Interbank Offered
Rate, known as Libor, but the use of this nomenclature sometimes hides
the fact that there is a separate Libor daily for each of 10
currencies at 15 maturities, from overnight to 12 months, according to
the British Bankers Association. The notional size of the derivatives
involved is on the order of $360 trillion.
Barclays could not have manipulated those rates by themselves - and
that is not what the C.F.T.C. found or the basis of the Barclays
settlement. Rather, some Barclays employees colluded with people at
other banks in a way that, over a period of years, moved Libor rates
up and down, depending on what would favor the trading positions of
the people and organizations involved.
Each Libor "panel" of banks involves seven to 18 banks. Participating
banks submit the rate at which they can supposedly borrow at a
particular maturity and in a specified currency, and an average is
calculated (taking out high and low values). No one bank is likely to
be able to move the calculated Libor rates by itself.
Once the global financial crisis began to bite, there appears to have
been a more systematic manipulation of Libor reporting by Barclays
management in a particular direction - downward, to make it seem that
the bank was healthier and therefore able to borrow from other banks
at a cheaper rate.
George Osborne, Britain's chancellor of the Exchequer (the equivalent
position to the secretary of the Treasury) and a Conservative Party
member, said recently, "Fraud is a crime in ordinary business; why
shouldn't it be so in banking?" The answer, of course, is that fraud
is not allowed in any well-run country.
Anyone who takes personal responsibility seriously should want all
those involved to be held accountable - to the full extent of the law
in all jurisdictions. Anything that lets individuals escape
consequences will further undermine the legitimacy that underpins all
markets. Bankers should be leading the charge to clean up their
industry.
Nevertheless, five arguments put forward in the last 10 days, singly
or collectively, attempt to provide some sort of cover for what
happened at Barclays. None of these arguments have any merit.
First, it is argued that this kind of cheating around Libor has been
going on for a long time. This may be true, but it is a sad and lame
excuse that is unlikely to get anyone off. The bigger question must
be: Is the financial sector crooked at its core? Statements about a
pattern of behavior only strengthen the case that incentives, culture
and organizations are all badly broken at the heart of the world's
financial system.
Second, it is also asserted that "everyone does it." This is not any
kind of defense - try it next time you are accused of fraud. But the
perception that many people could be involved is part of the reason
why this scandal has legs. A broad range of involvement across the
financial sector is consistent with what is in the C.F.T.C. order -
although the full scope of the conspiracies has not yet been made
clear.
There are three United States banks involved in Libor panels: JPMorgan
Chase, Bank of America and Citigroup. Are they also implicated in some
aspect of rigging interest rates and therefore securities prices?
Barclays was the first to settle with the C.F.T.C., presumably
enabling investigators to gain better access to information about who
else is involved. It would not be a surprise if bigger fish are still
to come.
Third, Libor-rigging is defended as a "victimless crime." This is
untrue. Traders at Barclays and other banks gained from this series of
manipulations, so someone else lost. That may have been investors, who
received lower returns than they would have otherwise. Or it may have
been borrowers, who paid higher interest rate and related costs than
would have been necessary in an honest market. Other losers are
presumably everyone who was effectively overcharged by all the
intermediaries involved in crooked behavior. Some local governments
have also lost heavily, at a time when these losses put pressure on
essential services and will tend to increase taxes.
Honest people in the financial sector should be up in arms about the
behavior of Barclays and other megabanks.
Fourth, some contend that it is the regulators' responsibility and
fault that there was cheating on Libor. It is certainly the case that
there was regulatory capture at work -- that is, officials in Britain,
the United States and perhaps elsewhere should have been paying closer
attention. I made exactly this point on National Public Radio's "All
Things Considered" last Saturday.
The mystique of the financial sector wowed many people - including
many prominent policy intellectuals, Democratic and Republican - in
the years before 2008. But who does the capturing in regulatory
capture? Big banks work long and hard and lobby at many levels to push
regulators toward paying less attention.
Fifth, the weakest argument is, "It was only a few basis points, here
and there" (where a basis point is a hundredth of a percentage point,
i.e., 0.01 percent). Either the Libor reporting process and,
consequently, the pricing of derivatives has been corrupted by a
criminal conspiracy, or it has not. There is no "just a little" in
this context for the enormous global securities market.
Robert E. Diamond Jr., who resigned last week as chief executive of
Barclays, reportedly said, "On the majority of days, no requests were
made at all" to cheat on Libor. The Economist, which does not make a
general habit of criticizing prominent people in the financial sector,
observed, "This was rather like an adulterer saying that he was
faithful on most days."
Mr. Diamond has fallen. Who is next? How will this play in American
politics? There is still time for politicians on the right and on the
left of the political spectrum to get ahead of the issue. Digging in
around specious arguments in favor of price-fixing cartels is not the
way to go.
Power corrupts, and financial market power has completely corrupted
financial markets. Barclays and the other global megabanks involved in
fixing Libor have brought their own industry very low - completely
destroying the legitimacy on which sensible financial intermediation
needs to be based.
Who trusts a banker at this point? The collateral damage is enormous.
Who in their right mind would buy a complex derivative product from
Barclays or anyone else implicated in this growing scandal?
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
SURRENDER/SUBMISSIVE/LOVE: BEING SUBMISSIVE IS NOT ABOUT PLAYING DUMB
I'm not encouraging women to play dumb, be in a 'housewife' role, or be helpless and have no opinions. Being submissive to a man is not about that at all. I'm also not encouraging women to be submissive all the time – being submissive is just another role than a woman can take up every now and then in her relationship.
The reason I'm talking about being submissive is because it can bring more passion, strength and life to a relationship, and awaken the most masculine yet tender character in a man. Submission is almost never about admitting you're 'wrong', 'incapable' or 'weaker' than a man. Being submissive just allows for a man to feel more like a man around you.The problem with this is that, in the face of conflict in a relationship (there always IS conflict and always will be, it's natural and good) women use these steel masks to cover up their
vulnerabilities and argue at the same level with their man.
Most men don't want to be with a woman who doesn't respect a man's opinion, walks all over his ego, criticizes him, blames him, points the finger, demands things that are unreasonable, acts manipulative and deceiving, uses sex to get what she wants, etc. Instead, in the face of conflict, a woman can decide to open up to her man and remove the mask.Let him in and let him be the protector and the leader. Men are becoming more feminine, and part of this is because they no longer have as much of a masculine role anymore.
The truth is,we are built naturally stronger than women. And, we operate differently to women mentally too (think about a woman's handbag, and how she magically fits in the contents of an entire HOUSE in it; versus a man who only carries a wallet with a few cards and some money; men are much simpler and women are much more complex and thoughtful creatures). Deep down, all women have vulnerabilities and deep fears and feelings of uncertainty, especially in the face of violence.
A man wants you to show him this!! Show him he is your man, and you are his woman! Being submissive is also about trusting your man enough to let him show you the way sometimes. And, asking him for help. Or asking him for his opinion, or asking him for solutions. Most men who are in touch with their masculinity at their core would jump at the chance to help a woman with something – really! It makes him feel needed, and
useful. Not to mention manly.Give him trust where you know it is deserved, and do it without question. The masculine energy wants to be trusted.
Have you seen men with their little girls/daughters? They don't want to let ANYTHING hurt their little girl! The same goes with their wife or girlfriend, if only she could show a little innocence and submission like a child might – looking up to him as the leader. No masculine man wants to fail at leadership.
To be submissive, a woman has to be ok with being uncertain. She has to let her guard down, peel off the mask and look of 'steel' and be free. Just look to your man as a possible source of strength for you when you might need it. Like he is the rock to your 'ocean of emotion' This is incredibly strong from a woman's part. A lot of people think that by not trusting people, they are being strong, independent and smart. But, where does a lack of trust get you really? It gets you a whole world of pain, that's what it does. You walk around, holding yourselves back, not able to be free and to let go, and to fully enjoy what life has to offer, and not able to give people a chance to show their better side (often if you trust someone, they want to please MORE, as I was saying above about not trusting a man and how this can sometimes push him to betrayal).
The happiness and freedom you are able to experience in your life now, and in the future is in DIRECT PROPORTION to the level of UNCERTAINTY you can comfortably handle. The same goes with your intimate relationship! The quality of your relationship with your man is in direct proportion to the level of uncertainty that you can handle.
Part of knowing how to be submissive, and knowing that it doesn't mean you are inferior is understanding that by surrendering to a man's leadership and strength at times, you allow your relationship to flow, be real and just be free. Without so much pent up anger and negative association that plagues many modern marriages and relationships. If your man isn't being made to feel like a man around you, he'll be attracted to some other woman who DOES make him feel that way. Trust me.
The reason I'm talking about being submissive is because it can bring more passion, strength and life to a relationship, and awaken the most masculine yet tender character in a man. Submission is almost never about admitting you're 'wrong', 'incapable' or 'weaker' than a man. Being submissive just allows for a man to feel more like a man around you.The problem with this is that, in the face of conflict in a relationship (there always IS conflict and always will be, it's natural and good) women use these steel masks to cover up their
vulnerabilities and argue at the same level with their man.
Most men don't want to be with a woman who doesn't respect a man's opinion, walks all over his ego, criticizes him, blames him, points the finger, demands things that are unreasonable, acts manipulative and deceiving, uses sex to get what she wants, etc. Instead, in the face of conflict, a woman can decide to open up to her man and remove the mask.Let him in and let him be the protector and the leader. Men are becoming more feminine, and part of this is because they no longer have as much of a masculine role anymore.
The truth is,we are built naturally stronger than women. And, we operate differently to women mentally too (think about a woman's handbag, and how she magically fits in the contents of an entire HOUSE in it; versus a man who only carries a wallet with a few cards and some money; men are much simpler and women are much more complex and thoughtful creatures). Deep down, all women have vulnerabilities and deep fears and feelings of uncertainty, especially in the face of violence.
A man wants you to show him this!! Show him he is your man, and you are his woman! Being submissive is also about trusting your man enough to let him show you the way sometimes. And, asking him for help. Or asking him for his opinion, or asking him for solutions. Most men who are in touch with their masculinity at their core would jump at the chance to help a woman with something – really! It makes him feel needed, and
useful. Not to mention manly.Give him trust where you know it is deserved, and do it without question. The masculine energy wants to be trusted.
Have you seen men with their little girls/daughters? They don't want to let ANYTHING hurt their little girl! The same goes with their wife or girlfriend, if only she could show a little innocence and submission like a child might – looking up to him as the leader. No masculine man wants to fail at leadership.
To be submissive, a woman has to be ok with being uncertain. She has to let her guard down, peel off the mask and look of 'steel' and be free. Just look to your man as a possible source of strength for you when you might need it. Like he is the rock to your 'ocean of emotion' This is incredibly strong from a woman's part. A lot of people think that by not trusting people, they are being strong, independent and smart. But, where does a lack of trust get you really? It gets you a whole world of pain, that's what it does. You walk around, holding yourselves back, not able to be free and to let go, and to fully enjoy what life has to offer, and not able to give people a chance to show their better side (often if you trust someone, they want to please MORE, as I was saying above about not trusting a man and how this can sometimes push him to betrayal).
The happiness and freedom you are able to experience in your life now, and in the future is in DIRECT PROPORTION to the level of UNCERTAINTY you can comfortably handle. The same goes with your intimate relationship! The quality of your relationship with your man is in direct proportion to the level of uncertainty that you can handle.
Part of knowing how to be submissive, and knowing that it doesn't mean you are inferior is understanding that by surrendering to a man's leadership and strength at times, you allow your relationship to flow, be real and just be free. Without so much pent up anger and negative association that plagues many modern marriages and relationships. If your man isn't being made to feel like a man around you, he'll be attracted to some other woman who DOES make him feel that way. Trust me.
SEX/ LOVE: THE IMPORTANCE OF SEX
Many men are living with a deep sense of loneliness that is quite foreign to most woman And making love is the purest salve for that loneliness. A man really does feel isolated, even with his wife. But in making love, there is one other person in this world that you can be completely vulnerable with and be totally accepted and non-judged. It is a solace that goes very deep into the heart of a man.Fulfilling sex gives him confidence. What happens in the bedroom really does affect how I feel the next day at the office.Sex is a release of a day-to-day pressures and seems to make everything else better.
A man can't just turn off the physical and emotional importance of sex, which is why its lack can be compared to the emotional pain you'd feel if your husband simply stopped talking to you. If you view sex as a purely physical need, it might indeed seem comparable to sleep. But once you realize that your man is actually saying, "This is essential to my feeling of being loved and desired by you, and is critical to counteract my stress, my fears, and my loneliness," well… that suddenly puts it in a different category. So how might you respond?
First, know that you're responding to a tender heart hiding behind all that testosterone. If responding physically seems out of the question, let your words be heart words—reassuring, affirming, adoring. Do everything in your power—using words and actions your man understands—to keep those pangs of personal rejection from striking the man you love. Leave him in no doubt that you love to love him.
A man can't just turn off the physical and emotional importance of sex, which is why its lack can be compared to the emotional pain you'd feel if your husband simply stopped talking to you. If you view sex as a purely physical need, it might indeed seem comparable to sleep. But once you realize that your man is actually saying, "This is essential to my feeling of being loved and desired by you, and is critical to counteract my stress, my fears, and my loneliness," well… that suddenly puts it in a different category. So how might you respond?
First, know that you're responding to a tender heart hiding behind all that testosterone. If responding physically seems out of the question, let your words be heart words—reassuring, affirming, adoring. Do everything in your power—using words and actions your man understands—to keep those pangs of personal rejection from striking the man you love. Leave him in no doubt that you love to love him.
Monday, July 9, 2012
FROM A FAN
I'm on all fours, with my eyes closed. I feel your hands, stroking, caressing & kissing me all over my body. You push between my shoulder blades, so I drop down onto my forearms & my ass is sticking straight up. You grab my left wrist then my right wrist & maneuvered them behind my back. I can feel your warmth around me & I can hear your heart thumping in your chest.
I spread my legs a little wider for you...then feel your throbbing head against my tight pussy & it gets wet with anticipation. You grind into my tight hole slowly, agonizingly pleasurably, one inch at a time. I hear you hear groan & every movement is a groan of pleasure. I match your groans, as you grind your cock harder into my pussy.
It's rough. It's sexy ... it's AMAZING.
You make it all the way inside me & I feel so full, my pussy is dripping. You slow dance with me, while your cock is still buried deep inside. I groan even louder & you slide it out, then rapidly back in. I gasp, as its so intense & so good, it's a hard pussy pounding. And I take it, because I'm a slut. I love how hard your fucking me, sliding it in and out, smacking my ass as you do it. My only purpose in life is pleasuring your rock hard cock, getting stretched out & pounded. It's incredible!!!
You stops abruptly pulling out, again I gasp, because I want you back inside.I moan & plead because I WANT YOU SO BADLY!!!
SPIRITUAL/LOVE/SEX: SEX AND THE SPIRIT
A woman's heart and genitals are usually deeply connected. When a woman's heart is truly open to you, so are her genitals (or "coochie," as a friend calls it), and when she opens herself sexually to you, she also opens herself emotionally. For most women, emotional, sexual, and spiritual openness are all part of the same ritual of trust, openness, and love. In fact, for many women, their deepest sexual experiences are their deepest spiritual experiences.A woman learns to surrender sexually, her emotions open and she feels the undercurrent of love -- yours and hers. No matter what you say you're feeling on the surface, deep down you want to give and receive total love, and guess what -- so does she. Shit, she can feel your heart buried deep beneath the
anger and shame. She can feel her own heart deep underneath her own resistance
When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman's heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man's essence up to her heart and beyond. I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the "micro-cosmic orbit". This is accomplished as he sends desire / love / power / energy out of his genitals and she breathes the energy into her and pulls it as light or sensation or intention up to her heart or to the crown (top) of her head. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to
his genitals in the same fashion. It continues to be sent around this circle while building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man's erection.
When a man notices a beautiful woman he has a choice of how he directs the energy in his body. He can feel desire in his mind or in his genitals. He can make a mental judgment or critique of her looks or how she puts her energy out. He can go through a quick mental exercise of assessing the likelihood of interacting with her in various ways and his chances with her. He can perhaps judge himself for his lustful thoughts.
A man who goes around feeling lust for random women will be constantly reinforced by what he does not have. It is much better to feel each passing beauty as just that. Allow yourself to be blessed and let it pass. Depending on the proximity and the level of desire the woman can sense the man's attention. She will likely feel it either as an undesirable "taking" or something sweet depending on the quality of the man's intent.
When a beautiful woman turns your head and transmuting that feeling into an appreciation for her as a creation of God. Breathe with the feelings in your body at the sight of her form as if it were elixir, as a desert traveler coming across a spring of water.
The feeling that is alive in the moment for you can be circulated in your body energetically to nourish your cells. If you feel energy in your genitals first then pull the sensation with your breath up to your heart. Breathe in the aliveness and optimism you feel and collect it with the breath at your heart. Feel gratitude to God for your life and for the beauty of women. This isn't something you think so much as it is a sensation and an emotion. Allow the feeling to glow outward from your heart as if it were a warm, soft, conscious light. Let your skin tingle as your body fills with optimism and light. Perhaps you may generate a feeling of love for all beings.
Do not let yourself imagine taking away from her in any way. But, rather take your own feeling as confirmation that you are alive and well and let it feed you as a moment of appreciation that such beings
inhabit our world. You may even develop a little message to think to yourself such as "I would protect and serve her were she ever indanger" or "God has truly blessed this world", for example.
anger and shame. She can feel her own heart deep underneath her own resistance
When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman's heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man's essence up to her heart and beyond. I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the "micro-cosmic orbit". This is accomplished as he sends desire / love / power / energy out of his genitals and she breathes the energy into her and pulls it as light or sensation or intention up to her heart or to the crown (top) of her head. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to
his genitals in the same fashion. It continues to be sent around this circle while building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man's erection.
When a man notices a beautiful woman he has a choice of how he directs the energy in his body. He can feel desire in his mind or in his genitals. He can make a mental judgment or critique of her looks or how she puts her energy out. He can go through a quick mental exercise of assessing the likelihood of interacting with her in various ways and his chances with her. He can perhaps judge himself for his lustful thoughts.
A man who goes around feeling lust for random women will be constantly reinforced by what he does not have. It is much better to feel each passing beauty as just that. Allow yourself to be blessed and let it pass. Depending on the proximity and the level of desire the woman can sense the man's attention. She will likely feel it either as an undesirable "taking" or something sweet depending on the quality of the man's intent.
When a beautiful woman turns your head and transmuting that feeling into an appreciation for her as a creation of God. Breathe with the feelings in your body at the sight of her form as if it were elixir, as a desert traveler coming across a spring of water.
The feeling that is alive in the moment for you can be circulated in your body energetically to nourish your cells. If you feel energy in your genitals first then pull the sensation with your breath up to your heart. Breathe in the aliveness and optimism you feel and collect it with the breath at your heart. Feel gratitude to God for your life and for the beauty of women. This isn't something you think so much as it is a sensation and an emotion. Allow the feeling to glow outward from your heart as if it were a warm, soft, conscious light. Let your skin tingle as your body fills with optimism and light. Perhaps you may generate a feeling of love for all beings.
Do not let yourself imagine taking away from her in any way. But, rather take your own feeling as confirmation that you are alive and well and let it feed you as a moment of appreciation that such beings
inhabit our world. You may even develop a little message to think to yourself such as "I would protect and serve her were she ever indanger" or "God has truly blessed this world", for example.
SUBMISSION/ SEX/: SUBMIT TO YOUR MAN BY ORAL SEX AND SEX
Men love sex.. and it's not JUST because it feels good. Although, this is definitely a part of why men love oral sex so much, too. At first instance, most women think that men love it because they don't have to do anything themselves, and can just sit back wait for thewoman to do all the work. Without being crass, as this is not my intention, if it was because they don't have to do anything themselves, then why don't men get their pet dog to do it for them?
Indeed, if you ask a man why he wants oral sex so much, he probably won't always be able to articulate exactly why he does. Men aren't always as good as women are at decoding and expressing their own feelings and needs.
To put it simply, and generally, the basic reason why men love being given oral sex is because it is one of the ultimate feminine acts of love. Let me explain why below.
Submission
The first reason is submission. In order for you to give your man oralsex , you have to be vulnerable to him, and you have to submit to him. This is one quick way for a man to feel more like a man; having a woman give him oral sex.
The visual aspect of submission is also a factor. For example, if a woman kneels before a man, this indicates that she is completely submitting to him, and giving him power/letting him dominate. Of course, the act of giving a man a blow job is a feminine act (if she cares about him), as a woman has to (at least to large extent) be in her feminine (although not always, as some women are closed when they do it, and do it out of obligation) in order to actually give him oral sex. It is possible to shut down and remove yourself from the
experience and not be fully present with your man when you are doing it.
Vulnerability
In order to give a man oral sex, a woman has to be vulnerable to him. In fact, she has to open to him and be comfortable with being vulnerable to him. Of course, some women engage in oral sex out of obligation, or feel that they have to in order to please their man, so they do it.
In other words, their heart is not in it. If a woman's heart is not in it, and she's doing it on autopilot, then she is not fully vulnerable to him, and the man will sense this, although he will most likely not want to accept that she is doing it out of obligation.
The concept of vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with the idea of trust. The masculine energy/men has a real need to be trusted. And of course, if you are comfortable being fully vulnerable to him, then this indicates that you are trusting of him. The act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration...
Admiration
Another reason is that the act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration for the man. Without being rude or unnecessarily graphic, a man's penis is as close to the heart of his manhood as you can get. Men subconsciously or consciously see it as part of what makes them a man. If a woman rejects this part of him, it leads him to think that she is not attracted to him, or that she doesn't love him.
Perceived Love
Women often perceive love in different things than what men do (obviously). A woman may perceive love in a man taking the time to listen to her, buy her gifts, take her out, commit to her, protect her, talk to her, put her first, hug her, caress her, call her, write her letters, making the first move, being the rock and the leader in
the relationship, complimenting her, etc. Whilst many of these things are important to men too, men also perceive great love in being given oral sex and having sex in general. They are not so much talkers like women are, and perceive that a woman loves him if she does have sex with him regularly. (Not always – but
I'm not condoning casual sex here – I'm referring to those in a relationship).
There are many ways to express love. In this respect, men speak a different language of love, and it is no use telling a man you love him, and admire him (which is always fantastic, by the way!) if you will not open up to him sexually. If a man loves a woman, he craves for her to be open to him/accept him, not only sexually, but
emotionally, mentally and spiritually as well.
The important thing to take out of this point is that by giving your man oral sex, you are giving him love in the way that he understands it and can receive it. In order to truly give to someone, you have to understand how they perceive love, and being taken care of. It's the same in an intimate relationship.
Although you may not always perceive love in being given oral sex by him (at least not as much as he perceives love in being given oral sex), he perceives love. This is sometimes very difficult for women to relate to, which is why I am writing this post. It's very easy for a woman to consider a man insensitive, sleazy or selfish if he is regularly asking for sex.
And, it is often that women exclaim in confusion: 'Why is it all about the sex?!!" It isn't. It's about how men perceive love, acceptance and admiration. For many years now, men have been encouraged to reject the
'ungentlemanly' side of themselves which breaks the rules, and wants to engage in passionate sex with a woman.
A lot of men are afraid to 'hurt' their woman, and fear asking for ex, for fear of rejection. This leads to a painful contradiction for a man. He fears rejection if he asks, yet he feels rejection anyway, when you don't want to have sex with him. To a man, if a woman wants to have sex with him regularly, it means she loves him and is attracted to him. It's important women understand that the masculine energy perceives importance and significance in a woman being very sexually attracted to him.
Connection
We have already established that men don't talk as much as women do in order to connect with other human beings. But why do men perceive so much connection in sex? The reason is because – men don't generally
communicate to other men the way women communicate with other women (and men). It's hard for a man to go to his guy friends to talk, to connect and to feel loved.
The masculine energy is all about getting things done, moving on to the next challenge, putting an end to things – and letting go. The feminine energy doesn't let go, it holds on. This holding on entails the emotional side of things. We are much more emotional creatures, and simply don't need sex to feel regularly connected to other human beings. (Not that men cannot connect with others through talking too).
The difference is that men do. This is one of the primary ways in which men can feel connected to, and loved by their woman. Some women are uncomfortable with the idea of giving their man a blow-job, because they dislike being vulnerable (not that they consciously use these words).
They hate being asked for it, and they unfortunately start to make their man feel bad about his need for sex, and because the man loves the woman, he slowly rejects the intensely sexual part of himself in order to feel more loved and accepted by her, and in order not to hurt' her.
The reality is that the masculine energy is very much driven by sex. This doesn't have to mean that men always just want to have sex, no, no! Sexual energy can be used in many other ways to benefit an intimate relationship.
Living in your Feminine
To put it very simply, if a woman lives mainly in her feminine, and appreciates and chooses to understand rather than reject the masculine energy – she will have no trouble understanding and even appreciating, loving and enjoying the fact that her man gets a lot of his needs met through sex.
Indeed, if you ask a man why he wants oral sex so much, he probably won't always be able to articulate exactly why he does. Men aren't always as good as women are at decoding and expressing their own feelings and needs.
To put it simply, and generally, the basic reason why men love being given oral sex is because it is one of the ultimate feminine acts of love. Let me explain why below.
Submission
The first reason is submission. In order for you to give your man oralsex , you have to be vulnerable to him, and you have to submit to him. This is one quick way for a man to feel more like a man; having a woman give him oral sex.
The visual aspect of submission is also a factor. For example, if a woman kneels before a man, this indicates that she is completely submitting to him, and giving him power/letting him dominate. Of course, the act of giving a man a blow job is a feminine act (if she cares about him), as a woman has to (at least to large extent) be in her feminine (although not always, as some women are closed when they do it, and do it out of obligation) in order to actually give him oral sex. It is possible to shut down and remove yourself from the
experience and not be fully present with your man when you are doing it.
Vulnerability
In order to give a man oral sex, a woman has to be vulnerable to him. In fact, she has to open to him and be comfortable with being vulnerable to him. Of course, some women engage in oral sex out of obligation, or feel that they have to in order to please their man, so they do it.
In other words, their heart is not in it. If a woman's heart is not in it, and she's doing it on autopilot, then she is not fully vulnerable to him, and the man will sense this, although he will most likely not want to accept that she is doing it out of obligation.
The concept of vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with the idea of trust. The masculine energy/men has a real need to be trusted. And of course, if you are comfortable being fully vulnerable to him, then this indicates that you are trusting of him. The act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration...
Admiration
Another reason is that the act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration for the man. Without being rude or unnecessarily graphic, a man's penis is as close to the heart of his manhood as you can get. Men subconsciously or consciously see it as part of what makes them a man. If a woman rejects this part of him, it leads him to think that she is not attracted to him, or that she doesn't love him.
Perceived Love
Women often perceive love in different things than what men do (obviously). A woman may perceive love in a man taking the time to listen to her, buy her gifts, take her out, commit to her, protect her, talk to her, put her first, hug her, caress her, call her, write her letters, making the first move, being the rock and the leader in
the relationship, complimenting her, etc. Whilst many of these things are important to men too, men also perceive great love in being given oral sex and having sex in general. They are not so much talkers like women are, and perceive that a woman loves him if she does have sex with him regularly. (Not always – but
I'm not condoning casual sex here – I'm referring to those in a relationship).
There are many ways to express love. In this respect, men speak a different language of love, and it is no use telling a man you love him, and admire him (which is always fantastic, by the way!) if you will not open up to him sexually. If a man loves a woman, he craves for her to be open to him/accept him, not only sexually, but
emotionally, mentally and spiritually as well.
The important thing to take out of this point is that by giving your man oral sex, you are giving him love in the way that he understands it and can receive it. In order to truly give to someone, you have to understand how they perceive love, and being taken care of. It's the same in an intimate relationship.
Although you may not always perceive love in being given oral sex by him (at least not as much as he perceives love in being given oral sex), he perceives love. This is sometimes very difficult for women to relate to, which is why I am writing this post. It's very easy for a woman to consider a man insensitive, sleazy or selfish if he is regularly asking for sex.
And, it is often that women exclaim in confusion: 'Why is it all about the sex?!!" It isn't. It's about how men perceive love, acceptance and admiration. For many years now, men have been encouraged to reject the
'ungentlemanly' side of themselves which breaks the rules, and wants to engage in passionate sex with a woman.
A lot of men are afraid to 'hurt' their woman, and fear asking for ex, for fear of rejection. This leads to a painful contradiction for a man. He fears rejection if he asks, yet he feels rejection anyway, when you don't want to have sex with him. To a man, if a woman wants to have sex with him regularly, it means she loves him and is attracted to him. It's important women understand that the masculine energy perceives importance and significance in a woman being very sexually attracted to him.
Connection
We have already established that men don't talk as much as women do in order to connect with other human beings. But why do men perceive so much connection in sex? The reason is because – men don't generally
communicate to other men the way women communicate with other women (and men). It's hard for a man to go to his guy friends to talk, to connect and to feel loved.
The masculine energy is all about getting things done, moving on to the next challenge, putting an end to things – and letting go. The feminine energy doesn't let go, it holds on. This holding on entails the emotional side of things. We are much more emotional creatures, and simply don't need sex to feel regularly connected to other human beings. (Not that men cannot connect with others through talking too).
The difference is that men do. This is one of the primary ways in which men can feel connected to, and loved by their woman. Some women are uncomfortable with the idea of giving their man a blow-job, because they dislike being vulnerable (not that they consciously use these words).
They hate being asked for it, and they unfortunately start to make their man feel bad about his need for sex, and because the man loves the woman, he slowly rejects the intensely sexual part of himself in order to feel more loved and accepted by her, and in order not to hurt' her.
The reality is that the masculine energy is very much driven by sex. This doesn't have to mean that men always just want to have sex, no, no! Sexual energy can be used in many other ways to benefit an intimate relationship.
Living in your Feminine
To put it very simply, if a woman lives mainly in her feminine, and appreciates and chooses to understand rather than reject the masculine energy – she will have no trouble understanding and even appreciating, loving and enjoying the fact that her man gets a lot of his needs met through sex.
LOVE: IN LOVING YOU, I SEE IN YOU A PART OF ME
Whenever we express our personality, we make known our values, our intelligence, our sense of life, our rhythm and temperament. Each of us express ourselves in our behavior - - how we act and what we say.
Whatever we express in our behavior can be reflected back by the response and the behavior expressed by others. We see how others respond if we are paying attention. The way they act, how they look at us, the way they speak to us, and especially the ways in which they don't respond.
When we encounter a person who thinks as we do, and notices what we do, and values what we do, we experience a strong feeling of contact with that person. In loving you, I see in you a part of me that is also you.. I also see in you something that is really me. And there is you, a person of many qualities-- a person who is a mystery-- a person I am drawn to.Visibility (the desire to be seen) The desire to be seen and understood are inseparable. When we are told we are loved, there is something in us that feels joy. And there is something in us that wants to know what others see. The desire for visibility is related to our desire to be understood. For any individual, blind love may help numb or settle anxiety, but it will not answer our hunger to be seen and understood. People who feel misunderstood will often go to great lengths to be seen.
Being visible does not always lead to love. But love devoid of visibility is an illusion. The desire to be validated is not a sign of low self-esteem. But people with good self-esteem do not run around acting super normal, hiding their faults, showing off, or trying to impress people just to be validated. The more they take pride in who they are, and the more they act in a way that makes them proud, the more eager they are to be
seen for who we are. Self-esteem means confidence in our capable nature, and it means confidence in a loveable identity.
We are not mistakes. Mistakes are how we learn. We are all inherently loveable and capable. We may not be treated that way. We may even come to believe we are not lovable and capable because of the way people treat us. All love endures between people who recognize their lovable and capable nature and that nature in the others.
When we feel lovable and capable we want others to see us as we truly are -- not who we pretend to be. We look to see if they can see and communicate to us their discovery of who we really are. We want people
to see and value the identity we were born with and what we have grown to become. We want people to see us and treat us as lovable and capable.
We also experience ourselves as male and female. Our sexual identity is rooted in the reality of our biological nature. Our sexuality is not simply our physical maleness or femaleness. Our sexual identity is the experience of our maleness and our femaleness.Our sexual identity is central to who we are. We not only want to be seen by others as a certain kind of human being. We want to be seen as a man or woman.
As far as I can tell, masculinity is the expression of man's belief that the creation of a woman was natures most brilliant idea. And femininity is the expression of women's belief that the creation of man is natures most brilliant idea.
We have all heard how some people can meet someone for the first time and then experience a sudden shock of recognition. There is an odd sense of familiarity, a mysterious sense of having encountered the
person before - as if the person was already known. These people experience a sense of fascination over this mysterious familiarity and strangeness. Something is known about this person in a powerful way. If you are in love, you might ask yourself, What part of myself does my lover bring me into fresh contact with? How do I experience myself in this relationship? When I am with my lover, what feels most alive within me?
Whatever we express in our behavior can be reflected back by the response and the behavior expressed by others. We see how others respond if we are paying attention. The way they act, how they look at us, the way they speak to us, and especially the ways in which they don't respond.
When we encounter a person who thinks as we do, and notices what we do, and values what we do, we experience a strong feeling of contact with that person. In loving you, I see in you a part of me that is also you.. I also see in you something that is really me. And there is you, a person of many qualities-- a person who is a mystery-- a person I am drawn to.Visibility (the desire to be seen) The desire to be seen and understood are inseparable. When we are told we are loved, there is something in us that feels joy. And there is something in us that wants to know what others see. The desire for visibility is related to our desire to be understood. For any individual, blind love may help numb or settle anxiety, but it will not answer our hunger to be seen and understood. People who feel misunderstood will often go to great lengths to be seen.
Being visible does not always lead to love. But love devoid of visibility is an illusion. The desire to be validated is not a sign of low self-esteem. But people with good self-esteem do not run around acting super normal, hiding their faults, showing off, or trying to impress people just to be validated. The more they take pride in who they are, and the more they act in a way that makes them proud, the more eager they are to be
seen for who we are. Self-esteem means confidence in our capable nature, and it means confidence in a loveable identity.
We are not mistakes. Mistakes are how we learn. We are all inherently loveable and capable. We may not be treated that way. We may even come to believe we are not lovable and capable because of the way people treat us. All love endures between people who recognize their lovable and capable nature and that nature in the others.
When we feel lovable and capable we want others to see us as we truly are -- not who we pretend to be. We look to see if they can see and communicate to us their discovery of who we really are. We want people
to see and value the identity we were born with and what we have grown to become. We want people to see us and treat us as lovable and capable.
We also experience ourselves as male and female. Our sexual identity is rooted in the reality of our biological nature. Our sexuality is not simply our physical maleness or femaleness. Our sexual identity is the experience of our maleness and our femaleness.Our sexual identity is central to who we are. We not only want to be seen by others as a certain kind of human being. We want to be seen as a man or woman.
As far as I can tell, masculinity is the expression of man's belief that the creation of a woman was natures most brilliant idea. And femininity is the expression of women's belief that the creation of man is natures most brilliant idea.
We have all heard how some people can meet someone for the first time and then experience a sudden shock of recognition. There is an odd sense of familiarity, a mysterious sense of having encountered the
person before - as if the person was already known. These people experience a sense of fascination over this mysterious familiarity and strangeness. Something is known about this person in a powerful way. If you are in love, you might ask yourself, What part of myself does my lover bring me into fresh contact with? How do I experience myself in this relationship? When I am with my lover, what feels most alive within me?
Sunday, July 8, 2012
LOVE: WOMAN SAYING " I NEED A MAN WHO CAN HANDLE ME"
I know a lot of “regular guys” who are unable to find a woman that is interested in being with them. This is especially true in their mid-twenties, when everyone is single and living fancy-free, with little expectation for long-term commitment. Some of the women these ”regular guys” are interested in are not paying them much attention to them, mainly because the woman has become enchanted with the dream-like alpha male in her life: the guy who fits every single portion of the checklist (height, income, education, toe nail length, swag, etc.), but who may not be available for a monogamous, long-term relationship. What many women seem to forget is that there are some men who always have room for another woman on the roster. If you’re wasting all your time with the lying, cheating, super dog, you might miss out on the chance to be with the man who will love you forever and father all of your children. He may not come in the same package, and by comparing the two without considering the differences in what each of them offers, you may be passing up on your opportunity.
I once saw a neck swinging, energized woman say, “I need a man who can handle me!” What I wanted to tell her is that your man should not have to “handle” you as if you are a wild bull with his testicles sewn together. The act of love is a process of being open, feeling and sharing, not trying to dominate one another. So, if you need to be “handled” in your relationships, realize that you are likely going to only attract men who are mean, rough and insensitive enough to handle you effectively. In fact, you’re not searching for a mate, you may be actually looking for a pimp. Fighting and domination is not the same as love – let’s not get it twisted.
I once saw a neck swinging, energized woman say, “I need a man who can handle me!” What I wanted to tell her is that your man should not have to “handle” you as if you are a wild bull with his testicles sewn together. The act of love is a process of being open, feeling and sharing, not trying to dominate one another. So, if you need to be “handled” in your relationships, realize that you are likely going to only attract men who are mean, rough and insensitive enough to handle you effectively. In fact, you’re not searching for a mate, you may be actually looking for a pimp. Fighting and domination is not the same as love – let’s not get it twisted.
LOVE LETTER/PERSONAL: WHISPERING WORDS OF LOVE
Whispering words of love into your ear so passionately, slowly I kiss your lips and embrace you in my arms. So soft and delicate is your olive skin. You leave me breathless with every word you say. I can never get enough of all that you are, stunning and intelligent so gorgeous in every way. Never let go of the passion all of the magic that we share. Believe in us with all of your heart and what this relationship can become. We've come so far together and with every breath that I take I want you to know that you will always be first in my life.
You say that you're looking for commitment, someone that will follow through with you.You want something tangible that you can feel, a secure foundation that you can build upon. Well I know that deep inside I can give you that, becauseI too am in search of something more than an I love you. A love that is unconditional and everlasting,that will leave a lasting impression on my heart. I want you to know that my words are sincere, and that I'll never do anything to break your heart. Please take my hand and believe all that I have said. Give me the opportunity to prove it all to you.
I can tell something is on your mind. Give me a sign, a signal, a snap of the fingers. I can take you somewhere special and get lost in time with you, where you can forget all your problems, or if you want to, tell me all about them. Because you know I’d listen, offer advice and give a cuddle too. I know you feel like you need to wear a mask to hide yourself from those big mean strangers, but you’re beautiful the way you are and all I ask is for you to drop that shield when you’re with me because I’m no stranger. And I love the way you are, whether you’re crying, hurt, or broken. You don’t need to hide your scars. So close your eyes and let me remove the make-up, because you’re not in danger, here. There’s no need to hide from fear. I know the stage lights are blinding and sometimes the feeling in the pit of your stomach when the curtains open is binding your hands, and everyone is there waiting for you to perform ready to criticize should you not succeed. Expectations, right? I’m so proud of you for not shying from the light, but you’re safe now. You can talk to me. You can trust me. I’m here for only you. And I need you to use me.
The warm summer breeze caressing your face... while our arms entwine. Holding each other so close and tight, I am astounded by your elegant beauty and grace. Having you with me brings my heart utter delight. Staring into your eyes I see them sparkle with genuine passion. You smile at me and say the words from your heart and I try and show you all that is inside my heart. Looking into each other's yeys, we know there is nothing that will tear us apart. Around us the sound of the waves echoes as they gently lap against the shore while moonbeams dance like ballerinas on a liquid stage. Oh my darling, it is you I unconditionally love. Standing here on this shore I can’t hold back what I feel inside. Our lips long for them to engage in a tender kiss...eventually my lips move closer, oh so much closer to yours. This tenderness we long for can no longer be denied and only this one soft embrace our love reassures .Beneath a sea of sparkling stars, I kiss you so tenderly my love, showing you all my heart has for you, embracing this strong and passionate love of ours within one kiss that will for ever say... I LOVE YOU.
You say that you're looking for commitment, someone that will follow through with you.You want something tangible that you can feel, a secure foundation that you can build upon. Well I know that deep inside I can give you that, becauseI too am in search of something more than an I love you. A love that is unconditional and everlasting,that will leave a lasting impression on my heart. I want you to know that my words are sincere, and that I'll never do anything to break your heart. Please take my hand and believe all that I have said. Give me the opportunity to prove it all to you.
I can tell something is on your mind. Give me a sign, a signal, a snap of the fingers. I can take you somewhere special and get lost in time with you, where you can forget all your problems, or if you want to, tell me all about them. Because you know I’d listen, offer advice and give a cuddle too. I know you feel like you need to wear a mask to hide yourself from those big mean strangers, but you’re beautiful the way you are and all I ask is for you to drop that shield when you’re with me because I’m no stranger. And I love the way you are, whether you’re crying, hurt, or broken. You don’t need to hide your scars. So close your eyes and let me remove the make-up, because you’re not in danger, here. There’s no need to hide from fear. I know the stage lights are blinding and sometimes the feeling in the pit of your stomach when the curtains open is binding your hands, and everyone is there waiting for you to perform ready to criticize should you not succeed. Expectations, right? I’m so proud of you for not shying from the light, but you’re safe now. You can talk to me. You can trust me. I’m here for only you. And I need you to use me.
The warm summer breeze caressing your face... while our arms entwine. Holding each other so close and tight, I am astounded by your elegant beauty and grace. Having you with me brings my heart utter delight. Staring into your eyes I see them sparkle with genuine passion. You smile at me and say the words from your heart and I try and show you all that is inside my heart. Looking into each other's yeys, we know there is nothing that will tear us apart. Around us the sound of the waves echoes as they gently lap against the shore while moonbeams dance like ballerinas on a liquid stage. Oh my darling, it is you I unconditionally love. Standing here on this shore I can’t hold back what I feel inside. Our lips long for them to engage in a tender kiss...eventually my lips move closer, oh so much closer to yours. This tenderness we long for can no longer be denied and only this one soft embrace our love reassures .Beneath a sea of sparkling stars, I kiss you so tenderly my love, showing you all my heart has for you, embracing this strong and passionate love of ours within one kiss that will for ever say... I LOVE YOU.
JOURNAL: MY LOVE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH
My love is not good enough.Anyone I've loved .. or even wanted to love .. has made that perfectly clear. Nobody wants me. Nobody wants to touch me. Nobody .. my love isn't wanted. I'm not wanted. Oh of course, I've heard people say that someone will ..... but it never happens. Watch others find someone. Watch them cheat, be abusive, and they get another chance. And then another. And another. I can't even find someone to hold. Can't find my first, ever, kiss. Nobody will try ... which says so much more than any cliche about waiting.
It started to look like some sick stage play, where i was forced to see girl after girl stand before me and come up with yet another excuse or situation that got in the way of dating her. It started to feel like I was selected as the experiment, like everybody except me has agreed to leave me out.
It started to look like some sick stage play, where i was forced to see girl after girl stand before me and come up with yet another excuse or situation that got in the way of dating her. It started to feel like I was selected as the experiment, like everybody except me has agreed to leave me out.
PERSONAL/LOVE/THOUGHTS: SHE BUILT A HOME IN THE BASE OF MY HEART
Love is a funny thing. You expect it to be easy. You expect it to be a world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. You expect her to always say the right thing and always know exactly how you feel or how to react to it. You expect her to calm you down when you’re yelling or to chase er when she run away. You expect so much that you feel entirely and utterly defeated when something doesn’t exactly match up with all your plans. But that’s the thing, love isn’t a plan. It doesn’t have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or a visible finish line to those deeply in it. Love happens and it’s so incredibly messy.A friend of mine asked me “If love is full of pain, then why do we always fall in love?” My answer was" We fall in love time and time again because we know that underneath all the pain there is happiness.”
So let’s say that theoretically I really like you, and theoretically even though it sounds moronically cliché and overused, you give me butterflies. And just for kicks, lets add that all in theory of course you may be one of the most wonderful people I have ever met, and hypothetically my heart beats ten times faster when I see you. Do you think that you would supposedly and in the most theoretical sense feel the same way? People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something in order to gain something greater. But the love we have for each other is bigger than those small differences, and that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot. Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you,and trusting them not to. To say that you can love one person for the rest of your life is like saying that one candle will continue to burn for as long as you live.If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever? It takes three seconds to say I love you. Three hours to explain it and a lifetime to prove it. The best proof of love is “trust”. They said that “disneyland” is the best place in the world – Obviously they’ve never been in your arms
I remember when I first felt love when I was young. I woke up one day to find her taken me by surprise; that she built a home in the base of my heart and her laugh was an echo filling all the corners of my head. I woke up one day to find that things made sense; that she was where goodness began and ended and that I was happier than I could ever fathom being. I woke up one day and knew her kiss as a cure; her smell was a luxury and her eyes were a gift. I woke up one day and saw that she had stolen me, and that I was hoping you’d never set me free.I can’t help it. I can’t help caring. I’m forced. I’m too weak to restrain myself from her. I can’t help looking for her in a crowd. I can’t help thinking of her in the middle of night, day, or anytime at all. I can’t help wishing that she would love me. I can’t help waiting until the moment we talk again.. I can’t help the way I love her..When i’m with her, i feel a sense of security, like she was protecting me no matter what happens., i felt happy to know her because if i didn’t, i don’t know how my life would be. The rest of the world doesn’t mean anything to me. as long as she was with me, then everything’s fine.
When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self,any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. I know she won't be perfect. I am not perfect and the us will never be perfect. But if she can make you laugh at least once, causes me to think twice, and if she admits to being human and making mistakes...i would hold on to her. It’s been said that there’s one word that will free us from the weight and the pain of life. And that word is love. And I believe that. That doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been hard, or that it won’t be. It just means that I’ve found a stillness and a bravery in myself when I’m with her. The greatest feeling in the world is to be around someone who wants to hold you, wants to kiss your forehead, wants to be around you, wants to call you at night, wants to see you smile. But I think what’s better than that is finding someone who does it all because she wants to see you happy
It’s not about finding someone who won’t fight with you, or make you sad, or mad. It’s about finding the person who will still be standing there, wiping the tears away, holding you in their arms after a fight, and it’s about finding the one who will never leave, no matter how hard things get.To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return; to just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt. It’s not the person you’re with but the person you become when you’re with that person. certain people bring out your best self. that’s who you need to find, a woman who brings out your best self.
If you love someone, if you truly love someone, you’ll put aside foolish pride and fear and love them without regret, without worry, because you know that without them there’s no reason for caring.i can’t be with someone who has doubts, no matter how small they are. i need someone who wants to be with me as much as i want to be with them. i don’t want just part of your heart, i want all of it. I deserve the right kind of love. the kind of love that makes me happy. the fantastic love that’s in books and movies. even if we aren’t together forever, i want to look back and never regret having fallen in love with you. that’s the kind of love i think we all deserve. I still believe in the resilience of the human heart & the essential validity of love; I still believe that connections between people can be made & that the spirits which inhabit us sometimes touch. I still believe that the cost of these connections is horribly, outrageously high… & I still believe that the value received far outweighs the price which must be paid.
There is a lot of longing in this life- longing for people to understand us, longing for the love of your life, longing to be distracted from the pain of it all.
I think my life experience has shown me that if we let this longing dictate our lives, we are destined to never really be understood or to be loved in the way that we all want. Love based on need is not love, and it is destined to fail because needs are fickle.
Nothing in the world that is free is as valuable as love presented to another person. All you can do is show your very best and if that person does not reciprocate then you have done all you can do. It is up to you when you feel you should move on but don't waste something as valuable as your love when it will not be returned
So let’s say that theoretically I really like you, and theoretically even though it sounds moronically cliché and overused, you give me butterflies. And just for kicks, lets add that all in theory of course you may be one of the most wonderful people I have ever met, and hypothetically my heart beats ten times faster when I see you. Do you think that you would supposedly and in the most theoretical sense feel the same way? People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something in order to gain something greater. But the love we have for each other is bigger than those small differences, and that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot. Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you,and trusting them not to. To say that you can love one person for the rest of your life is like saying that one candle will continue to burn for as long as you live.If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever? It takes three seconds to say I love you. Three hours to explain it and a lifetime to prove it. The best proof of love is “trust”. They said that “disneyland” is the best place in the world – Obviously they’ve never been in your arms
I remember when I first felt love when I was young. I woke up one day to find her taken me by surprise; that she built a home in the base of my heart and her laugh was an echo filling all the corners of my head. I woke up one day to find that things made sense; that she was where goodness began and ended and that I was happier than I could ever fathom being. I woke up one day and knew her kiss as a cure; her smell was a luxury and her eyes were a gift. I woke up one day and saw that she had stolen me, and that I was hoping you’d never set me free.I can’t help it. I can’t help caring. I’m forced. I’m too weak to restrain myself from her. I can’t help looking for her in a crowd. I can’t help thinking of her in the middle of night, day, or anytime at all. I can’t help wishing that she would love me. I can’t help waiting until the moment we talk again.. I can’t help the way I love her..When i’m with her, i feel a sense of security, like she was protecting me no matter what happens., i felt happy to know her because if i didn’t, i don’t know how my life would be. The rest of the world doesn’t mean anything to me. as long as she was with me, then everything’s fine.
When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self,any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. I know she won't be perfect. I am not perfect and the us will never be perfect. But if she can make you laugh at least once, causes me to think twice, and if she admits to being human and making mistakes...i would hold on to her. It’s been said that there’s one word that will free us from the weight and the pain of life. And that word is love. And I believe that. That doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been hard, or that it won’t be. It just means that I’ve found a stillness and a bravery in myself when I’m with her. The greatest feeling in the world is to be around someone who wants to hold you, wants to kiss your forehead, wants to be around you, wants to call you at night, wants to see you smile. But I think what’s better than that is finding someone who does it all because she wants to see you happy
It’s not about finding someone who won’t fight with you, or make you sad, or mad. It’s about finding the person who will still be standing there, wiping the tears away, holding you in their arms after a fight, and it’s about finding the one who will never leave, no matter how hard things get.To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return; to just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt. It’s not the person you’re with but the person you become when you’re with that person. certain people bring out your best self. that’s who you need to find, a woman who brings out your best self.
If you love someone, if you truly love someone, you’ll put aside foolish pride and fear and love them without regret, without worry, because you know that without them there’s no reason for caring.i can’t be with someone who has doubts, no matter how small they are. i need someone who wants to be with me as much as i want to be with them. i don’t want just part of your heart, i want all of it. I deserve the right kind of love. the kind of love that makes me happy. the fantastic love that’s in books and movies. even if we aren’t together forever, i want to look back and never regret having fallen in love with you. that’s the kind of love i think we all deserve. I still believe in the resilience of the human heart & the essential validity of love; I still believe that connections between people can be made & that the spirits which inhabit us sometimes touch. I still believe that the cost of these connections is horribly, outrageously high… & I still believe that the value received far outweighs the price which must be paid.
There is a lot of longing in this life- longing for people to understand us, longing for the love of your life, longing to be distracted from the pain of it all.
I think my life experience has shown me that if we let this longing dictate our lives, we are destined to never really be understood or to be loved in the way that we all want. Love based on need is not love, and it is destined to fail because needs are fickle.
Nothing in the world that is free is as valuable as love presented to another person. All you can do is show your very best and if that person does not reciprocate then you have done all you can do. It is up to you when you feel you should move on but don't waste something as valuable as your love when it will not be returned
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