SPIRITUAL/LOVE/SEX: SEX AND THE SPIRIT

A woman's heart and genitals are usually deeply connected. When a woman's heart is truly open to you, so are her genitals (or "coochie," as a friend calls it), and when she opens herself sexually to you, she also opens herself emotionally. For most women, emotional, sexual, and spiritual openness are all part of the same ritual of trust, openness, and love. In fact, for many women, their deepest sexual experiences are their deepest spiritual experiences.A woman learns to surrender sexually, her emotions open and she feels the undercurrent of love -- yours and hers. No matter what you say you're feeling on the surface, deep down you want to give and receive total love, and guess what -- so does she. Shit, she can feel your heart buried deep beneath the
anger and shame. She can feel her own heart deep underneath her own resistance

When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman's heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man's essence up to her heart and beyond. I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the "micro-cosmic orbit". This is accomplished as he sends desire / love / power / energy out of his genitals and she breathes the energy into her and pulls it as light or sensation or intention up to her heart or to the crown (top) of her head. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to
his genitals in the same fashion. It continues to be sent around this circle while building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man's erection.

When a man notices a beautiful woman he has a choice of how he directs the energy in his body. He can feel desire in his mind or in his genitals. He can make a mental judgment or critique of her looks or how she puts her energy out. He can go through a quick mental exercise of assessing the likelihood of interacting with her in various ways and his chances with her. He can perhaps judge himself for his lustful thoughts.

A man who goes around feeling lust for random women will be constantly reinforced by what he does not have. It is much better to feel each passing beauty as just that. Allow yourself to be blessed and let it pass. Depending on the proximity and the level of desire the woman can sense the man's attention. She will likely feel it either as an undesirable "taking" or something sweet depending on the quality of the man's intent.

When a beautiful woman turns your head and transmuting that feeling into an appreciation for her as a creation of God. Breathe with the feelings in your body at the sight of her form as if it were elixir, as a desert traveler coming across a spring of water.

The feeling that is alive in the moment for you can be circulated in your body energetically to nourish your cells. If you feel energy in your genitals first then pull the sensation with your breath up to your heart. Breathe in the aliveness and optimism you feel and collect it with the breath at your heart. Feel gratitude to God for your life and for the beauty of women. This isn't something you think so much as it is a sensation and an emotion. Allow the feeling to glow outward from your heart as if it were a warm, soft, conscious light. Let your skin tingle as your body fills with optimism and light. Perhaps you may generate a feeling of love for all beings.

Do not let yourself imagine taking away from her in any way. But, rather take your own feeling as confirmation that you are alive and well and let it feed you as a moment of appreciation that such beings
inhabit our world. You may even develop a little message to think to yourself such as "I would protect and serve her were she ever indanger" or "God has truly blessed this world", for example.