SUBMISSION/ SEX/: SUBMIT TO YOUR MAN BY ORAL SEX AND SEX

Men love sex.. and it's not JUST because it feels good. Although, this is definitely a part of why men love oral sex so much, too. At first instance, most women think that men love it because they don't have to do anything themselves, and can just sit back wait for thewoman to do all the work. Without being crass, as this is not my intention, if it was because they don't have to do anything themselves, then why don't men get their pet dog to do it for them?

Indeed, if you ask a man why he wants oral sex so much, he probably won't always be able to articulate exactly why he does. Men aren't always as good as women are at decoding and expressing their own feelings and needs.

To put it simply, and generally, the basic reason why men love being given oral sex is because it is one of the ultimate feminine acts of love. Let me explain why below.



Submission

The first reason is submission. In order for you to give your man oralsex , you have to be vulnerable to him, and you have to submit to him. This is one quick way for a man to feel more like a man; having a woman give him oral sex.

The visual aspect of submission is also a factor. For example, if a woman kneels before a man, this indicates that she is completely submitting to him, and giving him power/letting him dominate. Of course, the act of giving a man a blow job is a feminine act (if she cares about him), as a woman has to (at least to large extent) be in her feminine (although not always, as some women are closed when they do it, and do it out of obligation) in order to actually give him oral sex. It is possible to shut down and remove yourself from the
experience and not be fully present with your man when you are doing it.



Vulnerability



In order to give a man oral sex, a woman has to be vulnerable to him. In fact, she has to open to him and be comfortable with being vulnerable to him. Of course, some women engage in oral sex out of obligation, or feel that they have to in order to please their man, so they do it.

In other words, their heart is not in it. If a woman's heart is not in it, and she's doing it on autopilot, then she is not fully vulnerable to him, and the man will sense this, although he will most likely not want to accept that she is doing it out of obligation.

The concept of vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with the idea of trust. The masculine energy/men has a real need to be trusted. And of course, if you are comfortable being fully vulnerable to him, then this indicates that you are trusting of him. The act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration...



Admiration

Another reason is that the act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration for the man. Without being rude or unnecessarily graphic, a man's penis is as close to the heart of his manhood as you can get. Men subconsciously or consciously see it as part of what makes them a man. If a woman rejects this part of him, it leads him to think that she is not attracted to him, or that she doesn't love him.


Perceived Love

Women often perceive love in different things than what men do (obviously). A woman may perceive love in a man taking the time to listen to her, buy her gifts, take her out, commit to her, protect her, talk to her, put her first, hug her, caress her, call her, write her letters, making the first move, being the rock and the leader in
the relationship, complimenting her, etc. Whilst many of these things are important to men too, men also perceive great love in being given oral sex and having sex in general. They are not so much talkers like women are, and perceive that a woman loves him if she does have sex with him regularly. (Not always – but
I'm not condoning casual sex here – I'm referring to those in a relationship).

There are many ways to express love. In this respect, men speak a different language of love, and it is no use telling a man you love him, and admire him (which is always fantastic, by the way!) if you will not open up to him sexually. If a man loves a woman, he craves for her to be open to him/accept him, not only sexually, but
emotionally, mentally and spiritually as well.

The important thing to take out of this point is that by giving your man oral sex, you are giving him love in the way that he understands it and can receive it. In order to truly give to someone, you have to understand how they perceive love, and being taken care of. It's the same in an intimate relationship.

Although you may not always perceive love in being given oral sex by him (at least not as much as he perceives love in being given oral sex), he perceives love. This is sometimes very difficult for women to relate to, which is why I am writing this post. It's very easy for a woman to consider a man insensitive, sleazy or selfish if he is regularly asking for sex.

And, it is often that women exclaim in confusion: 'Why is it all about the sex?!!" It isn't. It's about how men perceive love, acceptance and admiration. For many years now, men have been encouraged to reject the
'ungentlemanly' side of themselves which breaks the rules, and wants to engage in passionate sex with a woman.

A lot of men are afraid to 'hurt' their woman, and fear asking for ex, for fear of rejection. This leads to a painful contradiction for a man. He fears rejection if he asks, yet he feels rejection anyway, when you don't want to have sex with him. To a man, if a woman wants to have sex with him regularly, it means she loves him and is attracted to him. It's important women understand that the masculine energy perceives importance and significance in a woman being very sexually attracted to him.

Connection

We have already established that men don't talk as much as women do in order to connect with other human beings. But why do men perceive so much connection in sex? The reason is because – men don't generally
communicate to other men the way women communicate with other women (and men). It's hard for a man to go to his guy friends to talk, to connect and to feel loved.

The masculine energy is all about getting things done, moving on to the next challenge, putting an end to things – and letting go. The feminine energy doesn't let go, it holds on. This holding on entails the emotional side of things. We are much more emotional creatures, and simply don't need sex to feel regularly connected to other human beings. (Not that men cannot connect with others through talking too).

The difference is that men do. This is one of the primary ways in which men can feel connected to, and loved by their woman. Some women are uncomfortable with the idea of giving their man a blow-job, because they dislike being vulnerable (not that they consciously use these words).

They hate being asked for it, and they unfortunately start to make their man feel bad about his need for sex, and because the man loves the woman, he slowly rejects the intensely sexual part of himself in order to feel more loved and accepted by her, and in order not to hurt' her.

The reality is that the masculine energy is very much driven by sex. This doesn't have to mean that men always just want to have sex, no, no! Sexual energy can be used in many other ways to benefit an intimate relationship.


Living in your Feminine

To put it very simply, if a woman lives mainly in her feminine, and appreciates and chooses to understand rather than reject the masculine energy – she will have no trouble understanding and even appreciating, loving and enjoying the fact that her man gets a lot of his needs met through sex.