Like in a normal bell curve, 5% of the women were found to be the least attractive and 5% were found to be the most attractive, with most women falling in the middle 90%.
It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
Women, on the other hand, rate 80% of men as below average.
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
It's a stark realization when you see just how few men woman even find to be average looking.
PART 2
I read — and have read — A LOT of women’s profiles — and most women seem to be describing — in terms of looks — the SAME guy — a very George Clooney / Jon Hamm type guy — 6 feet plus, head of hair (no matter what age), athletic, handsome (“I want to feel goosebumps when he walks into a room” etc.).
I have lived on the upper west side and I rarely, rarely see any guys who come close to that type — I moved to Long Island and didn’t see any guys who looked like that…. I went on vacation in Florida and there was only ONE guy I saw who look like what most woman want.
But don’t get me wrong I am quite realistic about the kind of woman I can attract. On one particular dating site, you have the option of having your pictures evaluated by other members, where you are rated on a scale of 1-10 in terms of looks. I thought what to heck — let them rate me. And as I remembered, my average rating was a 7.8, according to the others members.
Maybe something’s just wrong with me? Generally speaking, if someone is interested in me and seems to have enough in common with me (in terms of future plans, beliefs, morals, et al), I’ll go out with her.
None of the woman I’ve dated look anything like one another, as I’m not so much interested in a “look” or a “type” as I am who they are. A lot of my guy friends will wonder why I’m with a woman because they’ll think she is “unattractive” or “not in my league.” But a woman’s looks haven’t ever been the top attribute I seek when searching for a partner.
When it comes to being too picky. The main reasons I rate so many people poorly are the following, in roughly descending order of importance/frequency:
Profile writing quality is poor (proxy for “low intelligence”)
Profile too short (< 400 words)
Obese
Single mother
Not a college graduate
I’m more of the guy next door type, so I’d rather be with a good hearted, fun loving, respectful caring woman — and if she happens to be a 9 or 10, whatever. I’m not all that pressed. My past girlfriend makes me laugh constantly and treats me well. Because of those reasons, she’s sexy to me. Isn’t that all that matters? I also realize that the attraction won’t be based just on looks; I’ve gotta have the whole package! So, in my world, average-looking woman who seem intelligent and show themselves to have the important qualities like loyalty and integrity quickly become a 10.
I write not to the women whom I think are in the “top 10%” (or 5% or 20% or whatever), but instead to the women whom I find attractive going from their profiles (and who, I think from looking at their preferences, might go for me). I’m not positive how all the other men rate the women I write to, but I do hope that I am able to outshine the competition and get the attention of these women.
Whether by accident or on purpose, women have gorged themselves on unrealistic expectations of what they find “attractive”. By all means, do not settle for an average guy, even if you are average. It will only end in misery for both of you.
There is nothing left to do but let the train run off the cliff into lonely, bitter old age for these women. It is unfixable. Periodically, a few of them will wise up and train themselves to be be humble and learn to destroy the unrealistic expectations that are destroying their chance at love and happiness.
The rest will watch shows like Mad Men and fantasize about Don Draper until they are old and ugly. Watch for life expectancies to drop in the future as legions of unloved men and unloved women die an early spiritual death followed closely by a physical death
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
It's a stark realization when you see just how few men woman even find to be average looking.
Most woman are probably Passing Up their Soulmate, And Don’t Even Know It
Yep, that sounds about right.PART 2
I read — and have read — A LOT of women’s profiles — and most women seem to be describing — in terms of looks — the SAME guy — a very George Clooney / Jon Hamm type guy — 6 feet plus, head of hair (no matter what age), athletic, handsome (“I want to feel goosebumps when he walks into a room” etc.).
I have lived on the upper west side and I rarely, rarely see any guys who come close to that type — I moved to Long Island and didn’t see any guys who looked like that…. I went on vacation in Florida and there was only ONE guy I saw who look like what most woman want.
But don’t get me wrong I am quite realistic about the kind of woman I can attract. On one particular dating site, you have the option of having your pictures evaluated by other members, where you are rated on a scale of 1-10 in terms of looks. I thought what to heck — let them rate me. And as I remembered, my average rating was a 7.8, according to the others members.
Maybe something’s just wrong with me? Generally speaking, if someone is interested in me and seems to have enough in common with me (in terms of future plans, beliefs, morals, et al), I’ll go out with her.
None of the woman I’ve dated look anything like one another, as I’m not so much interested in a “look” or a “type” as I am who they are. A lot of my guy friends will wonder why I’m with a woman because they’ll think she is “unattractive” or “not in my league.” But a woman’s looks haven’t ever been the top attribute I seek when searching for a partner.
When it comes to being too picky. The main reasons I rate so many people poorly are the following, in roughly descending order of importance/frequency:
Profile writing quality is poor (proxy for “low intelligence”)
Profile too short (< 400 words)
Obese
Single mother
Not a college graduate
I’m more of the guy next door type, so I’d rather be with a good hearted, fun loving, respectful caring woman — and if she happens to be a 9 or 10, whatever. I’m not all that pressed. My past girlfriend makes me laugh constantly and treats me well. Because of those reasons, she’s sexy to me. Isn’t that all that matters? I also realize that the attraction won’t be based just on looks; I’ve gotta have the whole package! So, in my world, average-looking woman who seem intelligent and show themselves to have the important qualities like loyalty and integrity quickly become a 10.
I write not to the women whom I think are in the “top 10%” (or 5% or 20% or whatever), but instead to the women whom I find attractive going from their profiles (and who, I think from looking at their preferences, might go for me). I’m not positive how all the other men rate the women I write to, but I do hope that I am able to outshine the competition and get the attention of these women.
Whether by accident or on purpose, women have gorged themselves on unrealistic expectations of what they find “attractive”. By all means, do not settle for an average guy, even if you are average. It will only end in misery for both of you.
There is nothing left to do but let the train run off the cliff into lonely, bitter old age for these women. It is unfixable. Periodically, a few of them will wise up and train themselves to be be humble and learn to destroy the unrealistic expectations that are destroying their chance at love and happiness.
The rest will watch shows like Mad Men and fantasize about Don Draper until they are old and ugly. Watch for life expectancies to drop in the future as legions of unloved men and unloved women die an early spiritual death followed closely by a physical death
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
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