PERSONAL/LOVE/THOUGHTS: SHE BUILT A HOME IN THE BASE OF MY HEART

Love is a funny thing. You expect it to be easy. You expect it to be a world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. You expect her to always say the right thing and always know exactly how you feel or how to react to it. You expect her to calm you down when you’re yelling or to chase er when she run away. You expect so much that you feel entirely and utterly defeated when something doesn’t exactly match up with all your plans. But that’s the thing, love isn’t a plan. It doesn’t have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or a visible finish line to those deeply in it. Love happens and it’s so incredibly messy.A friend of mine asked me “If love is full of pain, then why do we always fall in love?” My answer was" We fall in love time and time again because we know that underneath all the pain there is happiness.”

So let’s say that theoretically I really like you, and theoretically even though it sounds moronically cliché and overused, you give me butterflies. And just for kicks, lets add that all in theory of course you may be one of the most wonderful people I have ever met, and hypothetically my heart beats ten times faster when I see you. Do you think that you would supposedly and in the most theoretical sense feel the same way? People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something in order to gain something greater. But the love we have for each other is bigger than those small differences, and that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot. Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you,and trusting them not to. To say that you can love one person for the rest of your life is like saying that one candle will continue to burn for as long as you live.If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever? It takes three seconds to say I love you. Three hours to explain it and a lifetime to prove it. The best proof of love is “trust”. They said that “disneyland” is the best place in the world – Obviously they’ve never been in your arms

I remember when I first felt love when I was young. I woke up one day to find her taken me by surprise; that she built a home in the base of my heart and her laugh was an echo filling all the corners of my head. I woke up one day to find that things made sense; that she was where goodness began and ended and that I was happier than I could ever fathom being. I woke up one day and knew her kiss as a cure; her smell was a luxury and her eyes were a gift. I woke up one day and saw that she had stolen me, and that I was hoping you’d never set me free.I can’t help it. I can’t help caring. I’m forced. I’m too weak to restrain myself from her. I can’t help looking for her in a crowd. I can’t help thinking of her in the middle of night, day, or anytime at all. I can’t help wishing that she would love me. I can’t help waiting until the moment we talk again.. I can’t help the way I love her..When i’m with her, i feel a sense of security, like she was protecting me no matter what happens., i felt happy to know her because if i didn’t, i don’t know how my life would be. The rest of the world doesn’t mean anything to me. as long as she was with me, then everything’s fine.



When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self,any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. I know she won't be perfect. I am not perfect and the us will never be perfect. But if she can make you laugh at least once, causes me to think twice, and if she admits to being human and making mistakes...i would hold on to her. It’s been said that there’s one word that will free us from the weight and the pain of life. And that word is love. And I believe that. That doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been hard, or that it won’t be. It just means that I’ve found a stillness and a bravery in myself when I’m with her. The greatest feeling in the world is to be around someone who wants to hold you, wants to kiss your forehead, wants to be around you, wants to call you at night, wants to see you smile. But I think what’s better than that is finding someone who does it all because she wants to see you happy


It’s not about finding someone who won’t fight with you, or make you sad, or mad. It’s about finding the person who will still be standing there, wiping the tears away, holding you in their arms after a fight, and it’s about finding the one who will never leave, no matter how hard things get.To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return; to just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt. It’s not the person you’re with but the person you become when you’re with that person. certain people bring out your best self. that’s who you need to find, a woman who brings out your best self.

If you love someone, if you truly love someone, you’ll put aside foolish pride and fear and love them without regret, without worry, because you know that without them there’s no reason for caring.i can’t be with someone who has doubts, no matter how small they are. i need someone who wants to be with me as much as i want to be with them. i don’t want just part of your heart, i want all of it. I deserve the right kind of love. the kind of love that makes me happy. the fantastic love that’s in books and movies. even if we aren’t together forever, i want to look back and never regret having fallen in love with you. that’s the kind of love i think we all deserve. I still believe in the resilience of the human heart & the essential validity of love; I still believe that connections between people can be made & that the spirits which inhabit us sometimes touch. I still believe that the cost of these connections is horribly, outrageously high… & I still believe that the value received far outweighs the price which must be paid.



There is a lot of longing in this life- longing for people to understand us, longing for the love of your life, longing to be distracted from the pain of it all.

I think my life experience has shown me that if we let this longing dictate our lives, we are destined to never really be understood or to be loved in the way that we all want. Love based on need is not love, and it is destined to fail because needs are fickle.


Nothing in the world that is free is as valuable as love presented to another person. All you can do is show your very best and if that person does not reciprocate then you have done all you can do. It is up to you when you feel you should move on but don't waste something as valuable as your love when it will not be returned