SEX/ LOVE: THE IMPORTANCE OF SEX

Many men are living with a deep sense of loneliness that is quite foreign to most woman And making love is the purest salve for that loneliness. A man really does feel isolated, even with his wife. But in making love, there is one other person in this world that you can be completely vulnerable with and be totally accepted and non-judged. It is a solace that goes very deep into the heart of a man.Fulfilling sex gives him confidence. What happens in the bedroom really does affect how I feel the next day at the office.Sex is a release of a day-to-day pressures and seems to make everything else better.

A man can't just turn off the physical and emotional importance of sex, which is why its lack can be compared to the emotional pain you'd feel if your husband simply stopped talking to you. If you view sex as a purely physical need, it might indeed seem comparable to sleep. But once you realize that your man is actually saying, "This is essential to my feeling of being loved and desired by you, and is critical to counteract my stress, my fears, and my loneliness," well… that suddenly puts it in a different category. So  how might you respond?

First, know that you're responding to a tender heart hiding behind all that testosterone. If responding physically seems out of the question, let your words be heart words—reassuring, affirming, adoring. Do everything in your power—using words and actions your man understands—to keep those pangs of personal rejection from striking the man you love. Leave him in no doubt that you love to love him.

FROM A FAN

 I'm on all fours, with my eyes closed. I feel your hands, stroking, caressing & kissing me all over my body. You push between my shoulder blades, so I drop down onto my forearms & my ass is sticking straight up. You grab my left wrist then my right wrist & maneuvered them behind my back. I can feel your warmth around me & I can hear your heart thumping in your chest.

I spread my legs a little wider for you...then feel your throbbing head against my tight pussy & it gets wet with anticipation. You grind into my tight hole slowly, agonizingly pleasurably, one inch at a time. I hear you hear groan & every movement is a groan of pleasure. I match your groans, as you grind your cock harder into my pussy.

It's rough. It's sexy ... it's AMAZING.

You make it all the way inside me & I feel so full, my pussy is dripping. You slow dance with me, while your cock is still buried deep inside. I groan even louder & you slide it out, then rapidly back in. I gasp, as its so intense & so good, it's a hard pussy pounding. And I take it, because I'm a slut. I love how hard your fucking me, sliding it in and out, smacking my ass as you do it. My only purpose in life is pleasuring your rock hard cock, getting stretched out & pounded. It's incredible!!!

You stops abruptly pulling out, again I gasp, because I want you back inside.I moan & plead because I WANT YOU SO BADLY!!!

SPIRITUAL/LOVE/SEX: SEX AND THE SPIRIT

A woman's heart and genitals are usually deeply connected. When a woman's heart is truly open to you, so are her genitals (or "coochie," as a friend calls it), and when she opens herself sexually to you, she also opens herself emotionally. For most women, emotional, sexual, and spiritual openness are all part of the same ritual of trust, openness, and love. In fact, for many women, their deepest sexual experiences are their deepest spiritual experiences.A woman learns to surrender sexually, her emotions open and she feels the undercurrent of love -- yours and hers. No matter what you say you're feeling on the surface, deep down you want to give and receive total love, and guess what -- so does she. Shit, she can feel your heart buried deep beneath the
anger and shame. She can feel her own heart deep underneath her own resistance

When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman's heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man's essence up to her heart and beyond. I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the "micro-cosmic orbit". This is accomplished as he sends desire / love / power / energy out of his genitals and she breathes the energy into her and pulls it as light or sensation or intention up to her heart or to the crown (top) of her head. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to
his genitals in the same fashion. It continues to be sent around this circle while building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man's erection.

When a man notices a beautiful woman he has a choice of how he directs the energy in his body. He can feel desire in his mind or in his genitals. He can make a mental judgment or critique of her looks or how she puts her energy out. He can go through a quick mental exercise of assessing the likelihood of interacting with her in various ways and his chances with her. He can perhaps judge himself for his lustful thoughts.

A man who goes around feeling lust for random women will be constantly reinforced by what he does not have. It is much better to feel each passing beauty as just that. Allow yourself to be blessed and let it pass. Depending on the proximity and the level of desire the woman can sense the man's attention. She will likely feel it either as an undesirable "taking" or something sweet depending on the quality of the man's intent.

When a beautiful woman turns your head and transmuting that feeling into an appreciation for her as a creation of God. Breathe with the feelings in your body at the sight of her form as if it were elixir, as a desert traveler coming across a spring of water.

The feeling that is alive in the moment for you can be circulated in your body energetically to nourish your cells. If you feel energy in your genitals first then pull the sensation with your breath up to your heart. Breathe in the aliveness and optimism you feel and collect it with the breath at your heart. Feel gratitude to God for your life and for the beauty of women. This isn't something you think so much as it is a sensation and an emotion. Allow the feeling to glow outward from your heart as if it were a warm, soft, conscious light. Let your skin tingle as your body fills with optimism and light. Perhaps you may generate a feeling of love for all beings.

Do not let yourself imagine taking away from her in any way. But, rather take your own feeling as confirmation that you are alive and well and let it feed you as a moment of appreciation that such beings
inhabit our world. You may even develop a little message to think to yourself such as "I would protect and serve her were she ever indanger" or "God has truly blessed this world", for example.

SUBMISSION/ SEX/: SUBMIT TO YOUR MAN BY ORAL SEX AND SEX

Men love sex.. and it's not JUST because it feels good. Although, this is definitely a part of why men love oral sex so much, too. At first instance, most women think that men love it because they don't have to do anything themselves, and can just sit back wait for thewoman to do all the work. Without being crass, as this is not my intention, if it was because they don't have to do anything themselves, then why don't men get their pet dog to do it for them?

Indeed, if you ask a man why he wants oral sex so much, he probably won't always be able to articulate exactly why he does. Men aren't always as good as women are at decoding and expressing their own feelings and needs.

To put it simply, and generally, the basic reason why men love being given oral sex is because it is one of the ultimate feminine acts of love. Let me explain why below.



Submission

The first reason is submission. In order for you to give your man oralsex , you have to be vulnerable to him, and you have to submit to him. This is one quick way for a man to feel more like a man; having a woman give him oral sex.

The visual aspect of submission is also a factor. For example, if a woman kneels before a man, this indicates that she is completely submitting to him, and giving him power/letting him dominate. Of course, the act of giving a man a blow job is a feminine act (if she cares about him), as a woman has to (at least to large extent) be in her feminine (although not always, as some women are closed when they do it, and do it out of obligation) in order to actually give him oral sex. It is possible to shut down and remove yourself from the
experience and not be fully present with your man when you are doing it.



Vulnerability



In order to give a man oral sex, a woman has to be vulnerable to him. In fact, she has to open to him and be comfortable with being vulnerable to him. Of course, some women engage in oral sex out of obligation, or feel that they have to in order to please their man, so they do it.

In other words, their heart is not in it. If a woman's heart is not in it, and she's doing it on autopilot, then she is not fully vulnerable to him, and the man will sense this, although he will most likely not want to accept that she is doing it out of obligation.

The concept of vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with the idea of trust. The masculine energy/men has a real need to be trusted. And of course, if you are comfortable being fully vulnerable to him, then this indicates that you are trusting of him. The act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration...



Admiration

Another reason is that the act of being given oral sex is a symbol of admiration for the man. Without being rude or unnecessarily graphic, a man's penis is as close to the heart of his manhood as you can get. Men subconsciously or consciously see it as part of what makes them a man. If a woman rejects this part of him, it leads him to think that she is not attracted to him, or that she doesn't love him.


Perceived Love

Women often perceive love in different things than what men do (obviously). A woman may perceive love in a man taking the time to listen to her, buy her gifts, take her out, commit to her, protect her, talk to her, put her first, hug her, caress her, call her, write her letters, making the first move, being the rock and the leader in
the relationship, complimenting her, etc. Whilst many of these things are important to men too, men also perceive great love in being given oral sex and having sex in general. They are not so much talkers like women are, and perceive that a woman loves him if she does have sex with him regularly. (Not always – but
I'm not condoning casual sex here – I'm referring to those in a relationship).

There are many ways to express love. In this respect, men speak a different language of love, and it is no use telling a man you love him, and admire him (which is always fantastic, by the way!) if you will not open up to him sexually. If a man loves a woman, he craves for her to be open to him/accept him, not only sexually, but
emotionally, mentally and spiritually as well.

The important thing to take out of this point is that by giving your man oral sex, you are giving him love in the way that he understands it and can receive it. In order to truly give to someone, you have to understand how they perceive love, and being taken care of. It's the same in an intimate relationship.

Although you may not always perceive love in being given oral sex by him (at least not as much as he perceives love in being given oral sex), he perceives love. This is sometimes very difficult for women to relate to, which is why I am writing this post. It's very easy for a woman to consider a man insensitive, sleazy or selfish if he is regularly asking for sex.

And, it is often that women exclaim in confusion: 'Why is it all about the sex?!!" It isn't. It's about how men perceive love, acceptance and admiration. For many years now, men have been encouraged to reject the
'ungentlemanly' side of themselves which breaks the rules, and wants to engage in passionate sex with a woman.

A lot of men are afraid to 'hurt' their woman, and fear asking for ex, for fear of rejection. This leads to a painful contradiction for a man. He fears rejection if he asks, yet he feels rejection anyway, when you don't want to have sex with him. To a man, if a woman wants to have sex with him regularly, it means she loves him and is attracted to him. It's important women understand that the masculine energy perceives importance and significance in a woman being very sexually attracted to him.

Connection

We have already established that men don't talk as much as women do in order to connect with other human beings. But why do men perceive so much connection in sex? The reason is because – men don't generally
communicate to other men the way women communicate with other women (and men). It's hard for a man to go to his guy friends to talk, to connect and to feel loved.

The masculine energy is all about getting things done, moving on to the next challenge, putting an end to things – and letting go. The feminine energy doesn't let go, it holds on. This holding on entails the emotional side of things. We are much more emotional creatures, and simply don't need sex to feel regularly connected to other human beings. (Not that men cannot connect with others through talking too).

The difference is that men do. This is one of the primary ways in which men can feel connected to, and loved by their woman. Some women are uncomfortable with the idea of giving their man a blow-job, because they dislike being vulnerable (not that they consciously use these words).

They hate being asked for it, and they unfortunately start to make their man feel bad about his need for sex, and because the man loves the woman, he slowly rejects the intensely sexual part of himself in order to feel more loved and accepted by her, and in order not to hurt' her.

The reality is that the masculine energy is very much driven by sex. This doesn't have to mean that men always just want to have sex, no, no! Sexual energy can be used in many other ways to benefit an intimate relationship.


Living in your Feminine

To put it very simply, if a woman lives mainly in her feminine, and appreciates and chooses to understand rather than reject the masculine energy – she will have no trouble understanding and even appreciating, loving and enjoying the fact that her man gets a lot of his needs met through sex.

LOVE: IN LOVING YOU, I SEE IN YOU A PART OF ME

Whenever we express our personality, we make known our values, our intelligence, our sense of life, our rhythm and temperament. Each of us express ourselves in our behavior - - how we act and what we say.
Whatever we express in our behavior can be reflected back by the response and the behavior expressed by others. We see how others respond if we are paying attention. The way they act, how they look at us, the way they speak to us, and especially the ways in which they don't respond.

When we encounter a person who thinks as we do, and notices what we do, and values what we do, we experience a strong feeling of contact with that person. In loving you, I see in you a part of me that is also you.. I also see in you something that is really me. And there is you, a person of many qualities-- a person who is a mystery-- a person I am drawn to.Visibility (the desire to be seen) The desire to be seen and understood are inseparable. When we are told we are loved, there is something in us that feels joy. And there is something in us that wants to know what others see. The desire for visibility is related to our desire to be understood. For any individual, blind love may help numb or settle anxiety, but it will not answer our hunger to be seen and understood. People who feel misunderstood will often go to great lengths to be seen.

Being visible does not always lead to love. But love devoid of visibility is an illusion. The desire to be validated is not a sign of low self-esteem. But people with good self-esteem do not run around acting super normal, hiding their faults, showing off, or trying to impress people just to be validated. The more they take pride in who they are, and the more they act in a way that makes them proud, the more eager they are to be
seen for who we are. Self-esteem means confidence in our capable nature, and it means confidence in a loveable identity.

We are not mistakes. Mistakes are how we learn. We are all inherently loveable and capable. We may not be treated that way. We may even come to believe we are not lovable and capable because of the way people treat us. All love endures between people who recognize their lovable and capable nature and that nature in the others.

When we feel lovable and capable we want others to see us as we truly are -- not who we pretend to be. We look to see if they can see and communicate to us their discovery of who we really are. We want people
to see and value the identity we were born with and what we have grown to become. We want people to see us and treat us as lovable and capable.

We also experience ourselves as male and female. Our sexual identity is rooted in the reality of our biological nature. Our sexuality is not simply our physical maleness or femaleness. Our sexual identity is the experience of our maleness and our femaleness.Our sexual identity is central to who we are. We not only want to be seen by others as a certain kind of human being. We want to be seen as a man or woman.

As far as I can tell, masculinity is the expression of man's belief that the creation of a woman was natures most brilliant idea. And femininity is the expression of women's belief that the creation of man is natures most brilliant idea.

We have all heard how some people can meet someone for the first time and then experience a sudden shock of recognition. There is an odd sense of familiarity, a mysterious sense of having encountered the
person before - as if the person was already known. These people experience a sense of fascination over this mysterious familiarity and strangeness. Something is known about this person in a powerful way. If you are in love, you might ask yourself, What part of myself does my lover bring me into fresh contact with? How do I experience myself in this relationship? When I am with my lover, what feels most alive within me?

LOVE: WOMAN SAYING " I NEED A MAN WHO CAN HANDLE ME"

I know a lot of “regular guys” who are unable to find a woman that is interested in being with them. This is especially true in their mid-twenties, when everyone is single and living fancy-free, with little expectation for long-term commitment. Some of the women these ”regular guys” are interested in are not paying them much attention to them, mainly because the woman has become enchanted with the dream-like alpha male in her life: the guy who fits every single portion of the checklist (height, income, education, toe nail length, swag, etc.), but who may not be available for a monogamous, long-term relationship. What many women seem to forget is that there are some men who always have room for another woman on the roster. If you’re wasting all your time with the lying, cheating, super dog, you might miss out on the chance to be with the man who will love you forever and father all of your children. He may not come in the same package, and by comparing the two without considering the differences in what each of them offers, you may be passing up on your opportunity.

I once saw a neck swinging, energized woman say, “I need a man who can handle me!” What I wanted to tell her is that your man should not have to “handle” you as if you are a wild bull with his testicles sewn together. The act of love is a process of being open, feeling and sharing, not trying to dominate one another. So, if you need to be “handled” in your relationships, realize that you are likely going to only attract men who are mean, rough and insensitive enough to handle you effectively. In fact, you’re not searching for a mate, you may be actually looking for a pimp. Fighting and domination is not the same as love – let’s not get it twisted.

LOVE LETTER/PERSONAL: WHISPERING WORDS OF LOVE

Whispering words of love into your ear so passionately, slowly I kiss your lips and embrace you in my arms. So soft and delicate is your olive skin. You leave me breathless with every word you say. I can never get enough of all that you are, stunning and intelligent so gorgeous in every way. Never let go of the passion all of the magic that we share. Believe in us with all of your heart and what this relationship can become. We've come so far together and with every breath that I take I want you to know that you will always be first in my life.

You say that you're looking for commitment, someone that will follow through with you.You want something tangible that you can feel, a secure foundation that you can build upon. Well I know that deep inside I can give you that, becauseI too am in search of something more than an I love you. A love that is unconditional and everlasting,that will leave a lasting impression on my heart. I want you to know that my words are sincere, and that I'll never do anything to break your heart. Please take my hand and believe all that I have said. Give me the opportunity to prove it all to you.

I can tell something is on your mind. Give me a sign, a signal, a snap of the fingers. I can take you somewhere special and get lost in time with you, where you can forget all your problems, or if you want to, tell me all about them. Because you know I’d listen, offer advice and give a cuddle too. I know you feel like you need to wear a mask to hide yourself from those big mean strangers, but you’re beautiful the way you are and all I ask is for you to drop that shield when you’re with me because I’m no stranger. And I love the way you are, whether you’re crying, hurt, or broken. You don’t need to hide your scars. So close your eyes and let me remove the make-up, because you’re not in danger, here. There’s no need to hide from fear. I know the stage lights are blinding and sometimes the feeling in the pit of your stomach when the curtains open is binding your hands, and everyone is there waiting for you to perform ready to criticize should you not succeed. Expectations, right? I’m so proud of you for not shying from the light, but you’re safe now. You can talk to me. You can trust me. I’m here for only you. And I need you to use me.



The warm summer breeze caressing your face... while our arms entwine. Holding each other so close and tight, I am astounded by your elegant beauty and grace. Having you with me brings my heart utter delight. Staring into your eyes I see them sparkle with genuine passion. You smile at me and say the words from your heart and I try and show you all that is inside my heart. Looking into each other's yeys, we know there is nothing that will tear us apart. Around us the sound of the waves echoes as they gently lap against the shore while moonbeams dance like ballerinas on a liquid stage. Oh my darling, it is you I unconditionally love. Standing here on this shore I can’t hold back what I feel inside. Our lips long for them to engage in a tender kiss...eventually my lips move closer, oh so much closer to yours. This tenderness we long for can no longer be denied and only this one soft embrace our love reassures .Beneath a sea of sparkling stars, I kiss you so tenderly my love, showing you all my heart has for you, embracing this strong and passionate love of ours within one kiss that will for ever say... I LOVE YOU.

JOURNAL: MY LOVE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH

My love is not good enough.Anyone I've loved .. or even wanted to love .. has made that perfectly clear. Nobody wants me. Nobody wants to touch me. Nobody .. my love isn't wanted. I'm not wanted. Oh of course, I've heard people say that someone will ..... but it never happens. Watch others find someone. Watch them cheat, be abusive, and they get another chance. And then another. And another. I can't even find someone to hold. Can't find my first, ever, kiss. Nobody will try ... which says so much more than any cliche about waiting.

It started to look like some sick stage play, where i was forced to see girl after girl stand before me and come up with yet another excuse or situation that got in the way of dating her. It started to feel like I was selected as the experiment, like everybody except me has agreed to leave me out.

PERSONAL/LOVE/THOUGHTS: SHE BUILT A HOME IN THE BASE OF MY HEART

Love is a funny thing. You expect it to be easy. You expect it to be a world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. You expect her to always say the right thing and always know exactly how you feel or how to react to it. You expect her to calm you down when you’re yelling or to chase er when she run away. You expect so much that you feel entirely and utterly defeated when something doesn’t exactly match up with all your plans. But that’s the thing, love isn’t a plan. It doesn’t have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or a visible finish line to those deeply in it. Love happens and it’s so incredibly messy.A friend of mine asked me “If love is full of pain, then why do we always fall in love?” My answer was" We fall in love time and time again because we know that underneath all the pain there is happiness.”

So let’s say that theoretically I really like you, and theoretically even though it sounds moronically cliché and overused, you give me butterflies. And just for kicks, lets add that all in theory of course you may be one of the most wonderful people I have ever met, and hypothetically my heart beats ten times faster when I see you. Do you think that you would supposedly and in the most theoretical sense feel the same way? People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something in order to gain something greater. But the love we have for each other is bigger than those small differences, and that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot. Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you,and trusting them not to. To say that you can love one person for the rest of your life is like saying that one candle will continue to burn for as long as you live.If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever? It takes three seconds to say I love you. Three hours to explain it and a lifetime to prove it. The best proof of love is “trust”. They said that “disneyland” is the best place in the world – Obviously they’ve never been in your arms

I remember when I first felt love when I was young. I woke up one day to find her taken me by surprise; that she built a home in the base of my heart and her laugh was an echo filling all the corners of my head. I woke up one day to find that things made sense; that she was where goodness began and ended and that I was happier than I could ever fathom being. I woke up one day and knew her kiss as a cure; her smell was a luxury and her eyes were a gift. I woke up one day and saw that she had stolen me, and that I was hoping you’d never set me free.I can’t help it. I can’t help caring. I’m forced. I’m too weak to restrain myself from her. I can’t help looking for her in a crowd. I can’t help thinking of her in the middle of night, day, or anytime at all. I can’t help wishing that she would love me. I can’t help waiting until the moment we talk again.. I can’t help the way I love her..When i’m with her, i feel a sense of security, like she was protecting me no matter what happens., i felt happy to know her because if i didn’t, i don’t know how my life would be. The rest of the world doesn’t mean anything to me. as long as she was with me, then everything’s fine.



When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self,any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. I know she won't be perfect. I am not perfect and the us will never be perfect. But if she can make you laugh at least once, causes me to think twice, and if she admits to being human and making mistakes...i would hold on to her. It’s been said that there’s one word that will free us from the weight and the pain of life. And that word is love. And I believe that. That doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been hard, or that it won’t be. It just means that I’ve found a stillness and a bravery in myself when I’m with her. The greatest feeling in the world is to be around someone who wants to hold you, wants to kiss your forehead, wants to be around you, wants to call you at night, wants to see you smile. But I think what’s better than that is finding someone who does it all because she wants to see you happy


It’s not about finding someone who won’t fight with you, or make you sad, or mad. It’s about finding the person who will still be standing there, wiping the tears away, holding you in their arms after a fight, and it’s about finding the one who will never leave, no matter how hard things get.To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return; to just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt. It’s not the person you’re with but the person you become when you’re with that person. certain people bring out your best self. that’s who you need to find, a woman who brings out your best self.

If you love someone, if you truly love someone, you’ll put aside foolish pride and fear and love them without regret, without worry, because you know that without them there’s no reason for caring.i can’t be with someone who has doubts, no matter how small they are. i need someone who wants to be with me as much as i want to be with them. i don’t want just part of your heart, i want all of it. I deserve the right kind of love. the kind of love that makes me happy. the fantastic love that’s in books and movies. even if we aren’t together forever, i want to look back and never regret having fallen in love with you. that’s the kind of love i think we all deserve. I still believe in the resilience of the human heart & the essential validity of love; I still believe that connections between people can be made & that the spirits which inhabit us sometimes touch. I still believe that the cost of these connections is horribly, outrageously high… & I still believe that the value received far outweighs the price which must be paid.



There is a lot of longing in this life- longing for people to understand us, longing for the love of your life, longing to be distracted from the pain of it all.

I think my life experience has shown me that if we let this longing dictate our lives, we are destined to never really be understood or to be loved in the way that we all want. Love based on need is not love, and it is destined to fail because needs are fickle.


Nothing in the world that is free is as valuable as love presented to another person. All you can do is show your very best and if that person does not reciprocate then you have done all you can do. It is up to you when you feel you should move on but don't waste something as valuable as your love when it will not be returned

LOVE/PESONAL/THOUGHT:YOU BECOME THE RIGHT PERSON

Are you waiting for the right person to live happily ever after? I guarantee you’ll wait forever. Where is this right person? Well, there will never be the right person because of our ever-changing expectations. Remember, there is no right person. We BECOME the RIGHT person and every moment after that becomes the right moment and every relationship after that becomes the right relationship because happiness becomes apart of who we are....and that is what I am doing all my life...to become the right person.

There comes a time in your life, when you must walk away from all the drama and people who thrive on it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right and love the ones who don’t…from a distance…allowing them to BE in their own way. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life; getting back up is living

I know your life is empty, and you hate to face this world alone, so you're searching for someone that can make you whole. Here I am ...my heart, my life, my soul....you have the key to them all. You but need to turn the key and allow me to surround you... with my warmth and love. I understand the impulse: the impulse to want to put out your hand and want someone to be there at the end of your reach... to want someone to be close to.... to want to kiss or touch. Sometimes I feel there is a hole inside of me, and emptyness that at times, seems to burn. I think that if you lifted my heart to your ears, you could hear the ocean. And the moon tonight, there's a circle around it, a sign of trouble not far behind. I have this dream of being whole, of not going to sleep each night wanting. But still, sometimes, when the wind is warm and the crickets sing, I dream of a love that even time will lie down and be still for. I just want someone to love me, I want to be seen.

We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, and hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives. True love is when your heart and your minds are saying the same thing. Kindness in women, not their beauteous looks, Shall win my love. You know what I want? I want to be someone's reason for waking up, someone's reason for going through another day. Just once, I want to be the one being wished for, I want a woman to say to herself, 'I'm so lucky to have him.' To put it simply, I want to be someone's everything. What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction. I just want someone to say to me, I'll always be there when you need me

PERSONAL/LOVE: FAMILY USED TO CALL ME "HOPELESS ROMANTIC"

Friends and family used to call me a "Hopeless romantic," but after so many years, they understand now that I approach potential love with strength and maturity. When I fall, I may fall harder than most, but I also get back up and somehow rise up a more loving and giving person...not that I am perfect, far from it. However, I don't wither, but instead blossom and deepen in color like a rose reaching it's full potential. I have experienced the highs and lows of relationships. I acknowledge the pitfalls; yet find the lessons they offer fascinating. I am capable of giving and sharing my complete and honest self, including my strengths and weaknesses. I am not afraid, even when I acknowledge a move to be bold and scary. Always out to learn and grow more to reach my greater potential, I no doubt chose the exceptional and extraordinary. This is a class all by itself. Neither money nor success alone can define it, but you must match me in this way. Beauty does not stand on its own here, either, but I must find you attractive by my standards. Inner beauty, strength inside and out, the ambition to be significant in this world and the knowledge to understand the difference between success and significance are but a few qualities, which define this echelon. I am looking for extraordinary and exceptional love, one that lasts a lifetime, like my grandparents shared. I meet plenty of potentially qualified women. Some become really good friends. Still, I continue searching for that one person, who is the right fit for me, the person who feels like home, someone who inspires me to be an even better person, like I will inspire her. That is something worth waiting for. I am not looking for the illusion. I want the reality. If I don't discover it in you or you in me, I wish you the best in your search. If what I said resonates with you to the fullest, then you decide what you want to do about that. I won't waste your time, as mine is precious, as well. It's only personal, in that I know what I want, and I won't settle for less. I live a great life. I don't need someone. I want a partner, a distinct difference. I am lucky to know it.

PERSONAL/ THOUGHTS/LOVE: WE BECOME THE RIGHT PERSON

Are you waiting for the right person to live happily ever after? I guarantee you’ll wait forever. Where is this right person? Well, there will never be the right person because of our ever-changing expectations. Remember, there is no right person. We BECOME the RIGHT person and every moment after that becomes the right moment and every relationship after that becomes the right relationship because happiness becomes apart of who we are....and that is what I am doing all my life...to become the right person.

There comes a time in your life, when you must walk away from all the drama and people who thrive on it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right and love the ones who don’t…from a distance…allowing them to BE in their own way. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life; getting back up is living


This world is crazy. All I'm asking is for someone to be crazy with. The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows and the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.

Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile, And finds in your presence that life is worth while, So when you are lonely, remember it's true: Somebody, somewhere is thinking of you. Since I can't be with you right now I will have to be content just dreaming about when we will be together.I think we dream so we don't have to be apart so long. If we're in each other's dreams, we can be together all the time. It is at times like this that I know what my purpose is in life. I am here to love you, to hold you in my arms, to protect you. I am here to learn from you and receive your love in return. I am here because there is no other place to be.There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps



Congratulations! You’re not perfect! It’s ridiculous to want to be perfect anyway. But then, everybody’s ridiculous sometimes, except perfect people. You know what perfect is? Perfect is not eating or drinking or talking or moving a muscle or making even the teensiest mistake. Perfect is never doing anything wrong – which means never doing anything at all. Perfect is boring! So you’re not perfect! Wonderful! Have fun! Eat things that give you bad breath! Trip over your own shoelaces! Laugh! Let somebody else laugh at you! Perfect people never do any of those things. All they do is sit around and sip weak tea and think about how perfect they are. But they’re really not one-hundred-percent perfect anyway. You should see them when they get the hiccups! Phooey! Who needs ‘em? You can drink pickle juice and imitate gorillas and do silly dances and sing stupid songs and wear funny hats and be as imperfect as you please and still be a good person. Good people are hard to find nowadays. And they’re a lot more fun than perfect people any day of the week.


You know you're in love when you can say anything to the person and know they wont laugh at you, when you can see their face when you close your eyes, when you can still feel their arms around you holding you tight long after they are gone, when you can still taste theeir kiss after you have said goodbye. You can tell you're in love when you miss them before they are gone, when their voice lingers in your ears, when their presence eases any pain, when thir name sends chills down your spine, when they are the only thing you can think about. You know you're in love when you can see all their hopes and dreams and soul when you look into their eyes, when they call at four in the morning to say, 'I love you,' and mean it, when your tears stain not only their shirt but their heart, when they are hurt just because of these tears, when even a simple chore with them can become a lasting memory. Ultimately, you know you're in love when you can't imagine living without them and can't figure out how you did live before you knew them, when they fulfill every need and without them you are imcomplete. The love of someone else completes the heart, and soal, and mind all at once


The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes

LOVE: WHY WOMAN CAN;T FIND A GUY

One has to be skeptical of the beautiful, intelligent, fully capable woman who simply says that she can’t find a good man anywhere. I know a couple of woman who are well-balanced and who also appreciate the idea of respecting men in the same way they would like to be respected, have no trouble finding suitable mates. Sorry to break this to you, but the only constant variable in your relationships is a person called YOU. I think that if you have trouble finding a good man its because you have become enchanted with the dream-like alpha male: the guy who fits every single portion of the checklist (height, income, education, toe nail length, swag, etc.), but who may not be available for a monogamous, long-term relationship. What many women seem to forget is that there are some men who always have room for another woman on the roster. If you’re wasting all your time with the lying, cheating, super dog, you might miss out on the chance to be with the man who will love you forever and father all of your children. He may not come in the same package, and by comparing the two without considering the differences in what each of them offers, you may be passing up on your opportunity.

I have heard many woman talk about how they can't find a good man. The truth is, they are not looking in the right places and they are not being true to themselves. A relationship is a "give and take" situation. You have to think about what you are willing to give and what you want out of a relationship to make it work. As much as I hate to say it.... a lot of times what you see is what you get. This is true with guys and women. If you are looking for a woman who will love you, be loyal, and stand by you through thick and thin, then continue reading.

So, if you are wondering "where are all the good men?" - think about all the things you may have said or done to any man you've dated. Chances are, you had a good man, but good isn't good enough. It seems to me that women just want a "perfect" man. You show me a perfect woman, and I'll show you Jesus. Here's a secret about men: love a man unconditionally and he will happily worship the ground you walk on See how that works? It's not easy, but nobody ever said love is easy.. You'll get what you're looking for, and most men will be what you want them to be if you treat them right.

One of the most important qualities for me is her level of intelligence.Finding someone with a similar level of education or intellect ensures you will always have something to talk about and you will not be frustrated with a partner who does not care about or understand topics that you find important. If the relationship is going to last, the woman and man both need to have something to say.

I had a debate with my friend-girl one day about her odds of success versus mine. At the time, I assumed we had the same odds of initially meeting a good man/woman. If 10 random men approached you, how many of them would be, at minimum, boyfriend material? it is rarely above 50% it is my understanding there are more women than men on Earth and in most major cities

A lot of women "not all" (because i have met many that aren't) are looking for that guy that "has it all" in their eyes". So it is not true that men do not like to get married. In my opinion, what is happening is that we have become more picky now since technology allows us to search from a larger pool of candidates (so we keep looking for that perfect match, that truly doesn't exist) and two, despite the advances in technology, there is no perfect system yet that can bring two people on this planet who are made for each other


I hear a lot of women (and sometimes, even myself) complain about not being able to find a guy that measures up to their “high standards”. Sometimes I have to ask what they consider standards, because some of these so-called standards are just ridiculous.

Take for instance a friend of mine who I love dearly, but has some of the most bizarre “standards” I’ve seen. I’m not going to say her standards are ridiculously high, because they’re not. I’ve seen her turn down nice, good looking, respectable, guys and go for better looking guys who happen to be assholes that treat her like crap. If her standards were at all high, she wouldn’t for one minute accept how some of the guys she has dated act.

it occurred to me that most of the women I talk to list certain heights as “requirements”. He can’t be shorter than 6′. He has to be at least 2″ taller than me when I have heels on.

REALLY!? Really? Really.

C’mon, let’s think about this for a second:

Since when has a person’s height had ANYTHING to do with the things that matter? Like if he’ll treat you well, make you laugh, have good conversations with you or even give you great sex!? Give me a one good reason, ladies, that being short has anything do with that without putting your own insecurities out there.

Heres an example. Lets say im only attracted based on my standards to 3% of the population. i dont even notice the other 97% despite there being plenty of good women in that 97%, albeit missing certain qualities here and there. But since im so focused on that small percent the chances are slim to none of me scoring a mate from that "worthy" market. There is pleny of good mates FOR both sides. The question is when do we re-evaluate our standards to focus on must needs instead of wants+needs.

The reason men might have better options is because initially, we don't have that much criteria. Im convinced the majority of men are looking at women from a sexual perspective first. Thats why we dont have the same laundry list of deal breakers that women do. ONce we get past that and get to know a woman better, then we are pulling out our questionnaires to see whats good.

Men also have the f*ck it factor – we are willing to say f*ck it and deal with certain unpleasing qualities in women if the whole > the sum of their parts. Women won't do the same (not that theres anything wrong with that)

What Im saying is that men see women first for their physical characteristics. If that is appealing to them, then they make sure the major points are covered

1) is she crazy? Will she left eye Lopez (RIP) the crib? Will she stalk me?

2) is her personality agreeable? Does she sound like a dumb box of rocks or is she as interesting as drying paint? is she cool?

3) General BG – Who do I know that knows her? School? Job? Is she lookin for a come-up? etc.

These are major points we can ascertain from a few convos or initial meeting. From there its a go. Over time is where men decide whether it can go past physical or just "attraction" to something realer. I would argue thqat 90% of relationships on a mans side originated from "shes attractive I want her" to "shes GF material"

Do you seriously believe that a man's brain works through some sort of algorithm?

(1) Meet woman
(2) Date woman
(3) Have sex with woman
(4) Have LTR with woman
(5) Make decision about woman
(5a) Is woman hot?
(5b) Is woman hot enough?
(5c) Is woman too hot?
(5d) Does woman have good head on her shoulders?
(5e) Does head on shoulders conflict with hotness?
(5f) Perform cost/benefit analysis
(6) Marry / Don't marry woman.

Some things are rational, some are not. Any relationship is a mix of the two. Rational decisions can be applied in RLs, but attraction itself is not rational.

Yes, a man will want to marry a woman with a good head on her shoulders. He will also want to be attracted to her. But I think you are assuming that attraction is based only on looks. Some of it is to do with her looks. Some of it is to do with her personality. The balance of those things is down to the individual man. There is no single answer. The closest you can get to one is that "Men want good personality + good looks". Like I said, common sense should tell you that.


I don't necessarily think there are less "good" men from which women can select. I think there are less men who want the same kind of committed that the majority of women want. I believe the majority of women want a strong, exclusive relationship w/a man she adores and he adores her back. But it seems that a lot of men don't want this until later in their life. I hate the term "settle down" because it implies that one a person decides to commit to one person that they are some how settling. It seems that a lot of men feel that they have to all their fun as a bachelor. Once they are old, tired and spent they will fully commit to someone. Women seem to view a commitment/marriage like the beginning of a whole new world where they will have a partner to enjoy life with and build together. Men and women just view marriage very different. So it's not so much that there aren't good men. I think it's a shortage of men who don't absolutely dread the idea or marriage or long term committment and think it's something embark on once they've squoze every ounce of fun outta their bachelorhood that they can.


When someone uses that excuse that there aren't any good men or not as many good men, I hear that to mean, she doesn't think she has the quan to get the man she wants and needs more chances. If you are happy with the type of men you attract and that approach you, GREAT! However, if you are not, it seems to me that you might want to make a change of some kind because you are not happy with your results and I doubt applying the same formula to the same problem will ever return a different result…namely, because that doesn't make any damn sense. So the problem, if you can call it a problem, is not a shortage of one gender, changes in gender roles, or anything else. The cause lies solely with the person deciding upon who they feel meets their standards. If you decide all you want is to date an educated man or woman with a good personality, you're dating pool opens up. If your ideal mate has to be no shorter than 6'3" or no taller than 5'3", has good hair, skin the color of cafe au lait, commands $75K+ per year, and has a DD cup or 10 inches, then your options narrow…considerably. Many men who have the qualities that most women would deem "good men," ie men who are: handsome, attractive, sexy, have swag, charming, educated, good job, making good money (close to six figures), out-going, fun-loving, romantic, kind, caring, considerate, etc etc etc Do Not necessarily want a long term, committed relationship, much less marriage.You have to become what you want in most all things in this life. Women don't really understand how much power they have. They have the ability to obtain good men – if they are good women. If every man on earth had to be a "stand up guy" in order to get somewhere (sexually or otherwise) with women the perspective would be very different. Men do a lot for the attention of women. Ideally if the requirements change, so does the market – and therefore the results.

LOVE/THOUGHTS/SPIRITUAL: WHEN WE'RE INCOMPLETE, WE'RE ALWAYS SEARCHING

When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter. To me....what makes life worth living is knowing that one day you'll wake up and find the person that makes you happier than anything in the whole world. We often meet a series of people over our lives, each of them right of us in different ways. If you meet one that is right for you in enough ways, you try to build a life with that person—until one or the other of you changes too much, and then the process starts again. Sometimes that person seems so right for you that you imagine he or she is the only person for you; you can't imagine anyone else being as right (much less more so), and you believe that you were meant for each other. Those feelings are fantastic, but we must be careful not to put the cart before the horse: this person is right for you because you fit, not because the universe told you he or she is the right person (despite a less-than-perfect fit down the road).

A relationship is not about a mate fulfilling your long and detailed list of needs and expectations. The bottom line is that if you hope to receive more, you must first fully commit yourself to giving more. Some of us are taught that we should expect the world and not offer anything in return: that’s a perfect recipe for getting dumped. A woman who gets her husband is the one who makes the man WANT to be married: she let’s him feel free, strong, needed, loved and supported. While this may seem to be a primitive concept, the reality is that the reverse is true for sex: Men and women both want it, but men know they have to work just a little bit harder to “get some.” They’ve got to buy flowers, take the woman to dinner, and make her feel comfortable. It would be silly for a man to think that a woman should buy him flowers and beg him to have sex with her. The converse is true for marriage – where getting a man to overcome his anxiety is a great way to get him to give you what you want. Two people merging their hearts and their lives is one of the most amazing (if not literally magical) things that can happen to us. That's why stories of romance captivate so many of us—we want to dream of finding true love, a romantic connection with another person that fulfills us like nothing else. We swoon—well, I do, at least—when the two people finally come together at the end of the movie after their various travails and missteps


Love is not who you can see yourself with it is who you can’t see yourself without. You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions, not words, that matter. The most beautiful people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen and I am not talking about how are person looks like. When you start to really know someone, all her physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in her energy, recognize the scent of her skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. I could be the most delectable, delicious and most wondrous peach in the world and I could offer it to everyone. But there are people who are allergic to peaches. They may really want a banana and so often we become a banana for others. All the lost energy it takes to be a banana, when your really a peach! If you wait long enough, you’ll find a peach lover and then you can live your life as the finest peach and not a 2nd rate banana. I learn a long time ago..if someone wants to be a part of your life they’ll make an effort to be in it. So don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay. Remember, there comes a point where you have to realize that you’ll never be good enough for some people, but that’s not your problem

PUSSY/LOVE/THOUGHTS: HOW DO YOU KEEP YOUR MAN?

How do you keep a man? The right answer would be to give him the best ass he’s ever had. But those who think that are single and currently figuring out what dress to wear to the club this weekend. Women who have locked down men, and I’m not talking about 6 months, I’m talking years, those women brought something to the table much more powerful than good sex.

You think you’re pretty, you think you’re smart, I bet you think you’re the most interesting woman on the planet right? But how do men view you? I’m not talking about does he turn and look when you walk by, let’s go deeper than the physical bullshit girls use as a crutch. Does he think you’re smart? Does he find you interesting? Are you classy in his mind or just another basic broad he’s ran through? Take a moment to think about the last dude you were seriously involved with. What did he like most about you? If it was something like “My smile” or “The way I rode it” you have a serious problem. Are you the type of woman he can spend all day talking to and has a connection deeper than the physical attraction or are you simply Pussy? And by Pussy I mean your only value to that man is to satisfy his physical needs. Your job is to make him cum. Pussy isn't just the hoe or the slut, it's also the girlfriend who we have no intention of marrying or keeping around past a year. Men love pussy, but we do not marry Pussy. A man may show Pussy off to his friends. He might buy Pussy gifts. Occasionally Pussy gets to come out of the house and get treated to dinner. Pussy even gets pregnant and becomes the Baby Mama.

Does he take you out? Stop being the drive thru hoe. Yeah he’s on hard times, his pockets aren’t built like that, but guess what? That guy has money to buy a $59.99 PS3 game; he can scrape up a few dollars to take you to a restaurant that doesn’t have pictures on the menu. Your homgirls are single and fine dining and you’re taking Wing Stop to go, you’re not winning because you have a man, you’re losing because you have a man who keeps your dumb ass on Dracula duty, buried in the crib, only coming out when it’s time to buy condoms and Dutch masters.

Have you met his family? I’m not talking about his boys at the smoke house who he chills with and you happen to tag along. Has his mother laid eyes on you? I remember sneaking this girl into my mother’s house and she caught me. I was pissed because this girl was dumb as a brick, and my mother is nosey. My mother asked how she was doing and the bitch stood there as if she were asked to name elements from the periodic table. For years she joked me about the “retarded chinky eyed girl”. If he’s feeling you, you’ll meet the people who are most important to him. Being in the car and waving “hi” or seeing someone for a minute isn’t an introduction. Stop being smuggled hoe!

What do you talk about? “We spend all night on the phone talking, we have so much in common”, Bitch please. Do you know how many hours I’ve spent on the phone with girls who I couldn’t stand? I’ve stayed up until 6am more times than I can count, and it wasn’t because the girl was interesting, it was because I wanted what she had and was putting in work. Take away the gossip, the TV show talk, and the sexual flirting; what the fuck did I talk to you about? We both like the same colors… wow. We both randomly know Chauncey the stick up boy… incredible. Spending twenty minutes saying “Did You Miss Me” and having a back and forth on who missed who gets played. The number one question a man wants to know, “When can I see you”. Why? Because you’re Pussy and we can’t get Pussy over the phone.

Are You Jeopardy Girl or Family Feud Girl? You’re not the brightest, you can tie your shoe and put your hair into a bun, but that’s where your genius ends. Stop pretending as if you visit CNN.com before you visit mediatakeout.com. It’s okay to be into basic shit, but be able to put together a sentence. If I say, “So why didn’t you like Black Swan” don’t come at me with, “That was some white people shit”. That’s not a movie review, that’s a woman with poor analytical skills who tuned out as soon as she realized this wasn’t a comedy. There are more important things than Chris Brown’s dick. If I wanted to date a woman with the life experience of a 17 year old I would have become a gym teacher or a stepfather. Stop being afraid to ask questions, research things you don’t understand, have a desire to be the best dressed at the party and the most interesting.

If a man won’t commit then he sees you as Pussy. You were in a relationship for 3 months, and he started acting funny… Did you really break up with him or did he sabotage the relationship after your Pussy expired? Yes, pussy has an expiration date. It expires exactly 3-4 months after we first hit it. The more you smash the faster it expires. It’s not milk, you can continue to hit pussy after it’s long expired, people are married and love hitting expired pussy, it still feels good. But it will never be at the height it was when it was considered new pussy. As a wise man once said, “There’s no pussy like new pussy, and that’s how a nigga feel”. Being extra freaky or dating during the winter months may buy you an extra two months of that new pussy smell, but that’s it. No matter If it lasts 4 months or 6 months, the man will show signs of cabin fever because you don’t have anything real that keeps him tied to you. This man didn’t suddenly become an asshole, that’s not the real reason you’re arguing after months of lovey dovey shit, he’s tired of your pussy and he’s ready to move on to the next girl because you don’t stimulate him mentally. Sure he may come back to hit it after the relationship is over, but no junkie stops cold turkey. The point is he’s now only using you for Pussy, and that reaffirms that from the jump he saw you as Pussy never wifey! There is no such thing as Marry Me Pussy. No matter how good you think your shot is, there has yet to be a vagina built that can make a man throw a ring on it. Personality, charm, charisma > Pussy. If you want to keep a man, not just have someone to roll around in the bed and eat lemon pepper strips with, look in the mirror and ask, “Would I want me?” It’s like a job interview, the strengths are obvious and often times exaggerated. The weaknesses, those are hard to figure out, it’s not because you don’t have any, it’s because we rarely take a serious look at what’s wrong with us. Other than stupidity which we can’t really cure, there are several things that hold men back from promoting women, but here are my top two,

Are You Boring: No one wants a girl who sits around saying “I’m bored”? If you’re a bored female, that means you are boring. I don’t care how pretty you are I don’t want to waste my time with a boring chick who always needs to be entertained by the most basic shit. I’m bored my phone’s not ringing today. I’m bored nobody’s texting me. I’m bored nothing’s on TV. Guess what? I’m bored after fucking you for a month because all you do is seek attention. Your coochie may be wet, but your personality is dry! There are people that make things happen and there are people who complain that nothing’s happening. Which are you?

Are You Loyal: Yeah yeah you would never cheat physically, but who do you talk to besides him? Who do you flirt with besides him? Men know when a female has an active phonebook. Do you think he’s going to see you as more than a good time girl if you have dudes blowing up your phone? He can say, “cut every other dude off for me” but let’s be realistic, you have excuses to why you talk to these niggas, he’s your brother, he’s your best male friend, you work with him… the list goes on. If you’re not willing to let go of your backup dick then why should he upgrade you from the Pussy to the potential wifey?

If you are a girl who’s tired of the dating game and want something deeper than 9 inches and a text message, then it’s time to get serious and change the way men view you. When you go out on dates have something to say, push the conversation in directions you haven’t taken it before. Show him that you aren’t like the rest of these girls out here; make him feel as if you’re the type of woman he can raise children with… not drop children in. They say that beside every great man there is a great woman. History doesn’t remember women who could do it with no hands; they remember women who could do it with their brains. Stop Being Pussy, that’s how you keep a man.