PERSONAL: WHY I HAVE SEX ON THE FIRST DATE

I do expect sex on the first date and this might scary people off, but let me explain:

1-A lot of woman, if they have great chemistry with a guy will have sex with them on the first date. They will make it easy. Sheer attraction was the leading factors in their decision. Surprise surprise ​Women seem to like to talk about how pure they are and there’s this idealized romantic notion that we’re all going to be pure perfect people and saintly about how long we wait to share our sex organs.  Then there’s the gritty reality, you either click and there’s chemistry, or you don’t. If the vibe is right and they like the person enough to want to go on a date with them, why not enjoy everything if they can? It doesn’t even  mean if they will have to have a relationship — or even have a second date.

I can’t even find very many women who are marriage-minded anymore, they are looking for certain types of niche relationship that fit their busy lifestyles. They either get something from you, or they discard you and move onto the next. For the most part though woman like men with different sex organs, they have similar sexual wants and needs. Hit the right buttons and they will be just as interested in sex as you are. Screw it up and you can be left waiting, and paying, and waiting, and paying.


2-Some woman are like "I make you wait because you are boyfriend material" while letting other guys hit in in the first 20 minutes. That will make your "boyfriend" feel real good right? Other guys could hit it within minutes but he had to wait because he was "special". This doesn't make me feel special at all.  What is the point of letting one guy get rewarded and another guy getting nothing. If you can't see how much of a catch I am and will make me wait, then I am not special enough for you. Don't waste my time, because I am not going to waste your. Don't act like a virgin with me and a slut with some other guy


3-Sex is not casual for me. If we have sex, we are in a relationship. Period. I don't go on a lot of dates..hences I don't sleep with a lot of woman anymore. Women are more hesitant to jump into bed than men are, for good reason. Women have to screen for creeps and monsters, not to mention dudes who will rhapsodize about the tender romance they really want, and then take off as soon as they get a blowjob. Men are, of course, deceived in this fashion too, but not as often, and they tend not to worry about the woman getting violent. So, it’s men who usually have to prove they’re sex-worthy.  As a result, it’s seen as kind of a win when a woman wants to sleep with you on the first date. You’re charming enough that you, a random schlub picked off an online dating site, has earned a woman’s trust. You’ve cast a beautiful spell over her, and now she can’t resist — she just has to see how your impeccably sculpted muscles ripple as you do, well, whatever.


4-I believe in sex on the first date, I had an experience where I had been dating a woman for a few months before the first time, then we did it and it was bad. And weird. Easily the worst sex of my life. If we had done it earlier, I would have saved myself some time and energy.  When you go to somebody’s profile and read through the things they’ve written, and sometimes you might go through the questions, and you get a sense of the person before you even start chatting with them. That usually leads to questions that probe a little bit deeper, What are you dating for anyway if not to find a new person to sleep with? Lets me honest... Sure, you might want a partner and all of that relationship stuff, but sex is a pretty big deal. And do you really want to date someone you don’t vibe with sexually? So why not get right to the point and see if you have sexual chemistry? Yes, sometimes the first time sleeping with someone is not always their best performance, but it’s smart to at least get an idea how they work in bed.


5-Whether you sleep with someone within 15 minutes of meeting them or wait forever, there is no way to guarantee that any date will evolve into a long-term relationship, so at the end of the day

I don’t go on dates with women. I go on dates with women who want to be with me...who want a relationship with me.. We avoided the games, the manipulation, the fears, all the rest of planning relationship like we are gods and we can control fate,  All that bullshit when to kiss, when to hold hands, when to touch and all this talk about where it’s all about some power game. To who text first, who calls first, and do you reply immediately or an hour later or a day later because it might look desperate. It’s just plain crazy adults behaving in this manner and we should have left these games and manipulation, and fears when we left school but there we go, it’s still there.

That’s why I make it clear in the beginning what I will not meet someone unless we have sex and that sex will end in a relationship and marriage down the line., I call it being direct. I call it screening out and attracting women who have similar understanding as I do about it all.

 I do talk about sex. Yes. I do and I will know if she wants to string things along because she got an agenda of relationship but why would I ever consider relationship when then most important for me hasn’t been done….sex. Sex is important to me, I’m high sexual and love sex, and I don’t want to be with women who has issue about sex, see it as taboo or got a long line of beliefs and rules about it that come from social conditioning.

And when we do have sex, it not like we didn't have a connection before we see each other face to face. By that time, we talking on the phone, text...shared thoughts ...dream. If you went in there and had sex with virtually no connection established other than some playful, sexy banter and verbal foreplay, that will work against you in terms of being evaluated as a relationship partner. On the other hand, if you established a profound, deep, meaningful connection first before the sex, then there’s a possibility. Sex and relationship feelings are WORLDS apart for guys in the beginning – they are completely separate during the beginning of a relationship and then merge later on down the line (at the love stage).  If you want a relationship, I would encourage you to find ways to connect on a deeper level.  Let him know you…  get to know him.  Understand him, give him space to open up.  If you want him to be more open with you, demonstrate openness.

ARTICLE: So You're Smart, But You're Not Rich? This Eye-Opening New Scientific Study Tells You Why BY Chris Matyszczyk

Could there be a reason? Yes, it seems there could.

Absurdly Driven looks at the world of business with a skeptical eye and a firmly rooted tongue in cheek.

Don't you look at rich people and find too many of them, well, dull?

Don't you listen to rich people and think: "What have they got that I haven't? Other than money."?

In fact, doesn't it astonish you a little that you know so much, see so much and can do so much, yet you really don't have much money at all?

A new study offers you a reason for your lack of wealth.

It's one that's going to hurt.

The study, entitled Talent vs Luck: the role of randomness in success and failure looked at people over a 40-year period.

Alessandro Pluchino of the University of Catania in Italy and his colleagues created a computer model of talent.

I can't imagine that was easy or, to every mind, entirely satisfying.

After all, one person's idea of talent is another person's idea of Simon Cowell.

Still, Pluchino and friends mapped such apparent basics as intelligence, skill and ability in various fields.

They then looked at people over a 40-year period, discerned what sort of things had happened to them, and compared that with how wealthy they had become.

They discovered that the conventional distribution of wealth -- 20 percent of humanity enjoys 80 percent of the wealth -- held true.

But then they offered painful words.

They still hurt, even though we know they're true: "The maximum success never coincides with the maximum talent, and vice-versa."

Never.

It's galling, isn't it, to look at some of the relatively talentless quarterwits who bathe in untold piles of lucre?

"So what is it that makes the difference?," I hear you pant, with an agonious grimace.

Are you ready for this?

"Our simulation clearly shows that such a factor is just pure luck," say the researchers.

The researchers actually looked at different events that had happened in people's lives and ranked them according to how lucky or unlucky these events were.

"It is evident that the most successful individuals are also the luckiest ones. And the less successful individuals are also the unluckiest ones," they said.

The danger here is that such a conclusion offers a blessed excuse to many who have chosen not to use their talents in ways that might have brought them fortunes.

But there are those, too, who actively don't seek to be wealthy, but prefer a life that makes them, well, happier.

The scientists, though, offer some rude awakenings to those who prefer to imagine that the wealthy have some special talent.

"If it is true that some degree of talent is necessary to be successful in life, almost never the most talented people reach the highest peaks of success, being overtaken by mediocre but sensibly luckier individuals," they say.

This leads them to suggest that their research "sheds new light on the effectiveness of assessing merit on the basis of the reached level of success and underlines the risks of distributing excessive honors or resources to people who, at the end of the day, could have been simply luckier than others."

I admit -- perhaps you will too -- that when I look at the likes of, say, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg or, well, other prominent types who enjoy unseemly wealth, I wonder just how talented they really are.

Indeed, I've worked over the years with one or two colossally wealthy types and come away, in more than one case, thinking, in the words of the great Los Lobos: "Is this all there is?"

Perhaps, if this study is to be believed, the wealthy sorts simply couldn't believe their luck and managed to be level-headed enough to capitalize on it and intelligent enough to realize just how much power it gave them.

On the other hand, I meet so many wonderful, talented, fascinating people who never made much money at all.

In the end, my test is very simple: "With whom would I rather have dinner? With whom would there be glorious laughter?"

I will leave you, though, with the researchers' words, ones that may say so much about our current world: "Our results are a warning against the risks of what we call the 'naive meritocracy' which, underestimating the role of randomness among the determinants of success, often fail to give honors and rewards to the most competent people."

They're talking about you, aren't they?

DATINGl DO YOU KEEP LOOKING FOREVER FOR THE PERFECT COMBINATION OF LOOKS AND PERSONALITY?

If you want something for one night or a fling, it’s easy to meet people. Something more that is a different story. Because everybody thinks that they can do better. They think they can find someone better looking or who has more money or whatever.  People who are scared to be absolute in promising themselves to a person (committing) because they worry that if they say that this is it, that out there might be a better opportunity and then they’ll be kicking themselves, even though if they were genuinely committed to someone, they fail to realise that they wouldn’t be looking around because they’d be too busy with the person they’re with

Wondering if you can do better all the time, is a bit like when you sit down to watch TV but instead of choosing a programme, watching it and engaging in it, you spend the time surfing around on the off chance that there’s something better to watch.

It’s like you hate the idea that you might have missed out on viewing something better that would have left you as satisfied as you expect. Next thing the whole evening has gone by and you’ve not really watched anything. Then you think, Ah…I should have watched X…” something that you skipped over earlier and then you end up feeling dissatisfied about not choosing that as well.

The trouble with being perennially dissatisfied and shopping around for a better deal, is that not only does it get far too superficial but you’re just never really in anything to have truly enjoyed it. Ever tried to have a conversation with someone or do something where your mind is elsewhere, or you’re constantly looking over your shoulder, or evaluating and analysing things? Your mind isn’t where it’s supposed to be – in the present.

Striving to be with someone with bigger breasts, or more hair, or who has more money, more status, who gives you eight orgasms a week instead of five isn’t really going to lead to relationship satisfaction. No doubt when you do find these things, you start wondering if you can improve upon these too

If you’re asking yourself if you can do better than a relationship that isn’t mutually fulfilling and lacks love, care, trust, and respect as well as shared values and other landmarks? Yeah you can.

If you’re asking if you can do better and find someone who is more satisfying on secondary values like appearance, or how much money they have, or how much more IQ they can have, or whatever, you might want to consider whether it’s time to look a bit deeper and make sure you’re actually living your life congruent with your values and seeking partners who you can actually forge a future with.

 How does one choose a person with whom to spend any time? The answer is probably something in your preference for a physical type. Part of any decision you make needs to be whether sex with love is the best sex ever for you vs. sex with someone whose physical type just makes it more intense, whatever the relationship.

So what is one to do?  Keep looking forever for the perfect combination of looks and personality?

I don't think so

THOUGHTS: HOW TO SURRENDER YOURSELF TO YOUR MAN

We tell you to surrender. Sometimes directly, sometimes in subtle ways. You wonder what it really means. How do you let Men win. How do you truly surrender. After all, you’re so tired of resisting. So tired of fighting.

Here’s how.
Surrender your own style. Your style is ‘sexy.’ Not goth, or punk, or chic, or professional. Hot. Show off your body. Wear makeup. You have no style or fashion sense, just parts to expose and reveal.

Surrender your opinion. This can feel optional. It isn’t. If a man says something you think is wrong, agree with it. If a man says something you think is right, agree as well. Agreement doesn’t have to be enthusiastic, just permanent. Nod your head whenever Men speak.

Surrender your will. Do as you’re told. Get coffee, suck cock, make copies, leave the room, kneel, put on a collar, slap yourself in the face. Whatever it is, do it instantly. If you can’t do it instantly, apologize. If you don’t know how to do something, admit you’re not smart enough and get help.

Surrender the word ‘No.’ Forget it. It doesn’t exist for you.

Surrender your pride. Never compete with a man and never feel proud of your accomplishments. You have value only in the pleasure you provide. Accept that you’re not good enough and you’re not pretty enough and you’re not smart.

Surrender your name. Do everyone know you as Jennifer or Rebecca or Mrs. Smith? Call yourself Jenni with an “i” or answer only to ‘bitch’ or ‘slut.’ Don’t give your full name and don’t answer to it. You have a silly stripper’s name, a child’s name. Don’t be taken seriously.

Surrender your ambition. Are you getting a degree? Quit. Are you up for a promotion? Stop trying. Are you looking for work? Look for a husband instead. The highest level you can hope to achieve is being a good girl.

Surrender your limits. Did you have hard limits on posting pics? Anal sex? BDSM? Do you always negotiate a safe word? You have no limits anymore. Surrender them. Let other decide if you need thresholds or boundaries. It’s not up to you.

Surrender your interests. No more reading books, no more reading magazines, no more learning about politics or ideas. Read texts, look at pictures. No more hobbies. Surrender the part of you that wants to learn and express yourself. No one cares what you think or what you can do. Give up.

Surrender your body. Does a man think you should have bigger tits? Pay to be plastic. A smaller waist? Diet and work out. Does he want piercings? Tattoos? Change for Him. He wants your pussy shaved? Shave it. It’s not your body anymore.




1. I am surrendering my own style. My style is sexy. I will wear makeup. I will expose and reveal myself.

2. I am surrendering my opinion. 

3. I surrender my will. I will do what I’m told.

4. I surrender the word no. The only answer I know is yes.

5. I surrender my pride. My pride is now on taking as much cock and cum as possible in and on my body. I have value only when pleasing cock and earning cum. I’m not and never will be good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough.

6. I surrender my name. My name is now whatever you want it to be. I will answer to anything degrading and humiliating.

7. I surrender my ambition. I’m ready to quit school whenever you say and I’m ready to be yours.

8. I surrender my limits. I have no limits. You decide my limits and thresholds, not me.

9. I surrender my interests. My interests are now pleasing you. Pleasing as much cock and taking as much cum as possible. Exposing myself for you. And improving myself for you.

10. I surrender my body. My body is yours to do with as you please. Change me however you want to make me perfect for you.

11. I surrender my mind. My mind off your new playground. Toy and play with my mind. Fuck it up. Turn it against me.

12. I surrender my soul. Turn my soul into whatever you want. Do with it what you will. Sell it, keep it, rent it out, kill it….

PERSONAL: PRAYING TO GOD FOR LOVE

I ask for you assistance
In releasing that which stands in the way of true love.

My heart is pure; my intentions clear.
Please bring to me my most perfect partner.
I seek a partner who enhances me by his/her very being.
who brings more love, joy, peace and prosperity to my life,
Who I can love fully and who can fully receive my love,
Who loves, honors and cherishes me completely, and always.

May my heart be open and my head be clear.
May my life be ready to welcome True love.
May I be embraced in a circle of your love
An uplifted by your grace.
And so it is.



PART 2

Dear God, I am ready to have a relationship
with a wonderful person,
who truly gets me, loves me, adores me,
and is ready to build a life with me.

I know in my heart there is a special person out there for me.
My name is written across his/her heart.
Please put me on the right track toward true love.
and lead me to a place of committed love.

I am willing to work on myself and
To make myself ready for love.
Please grant me the power
to look at love through spiritual eyes,
And to remain sincere about
finding the relationship I have longed for.


PART 3

Dear God, 
Committed love is a sacred treasure

I long to find the one who is mine.

I trust you will grant my desires for love –
to love of myself , and to find love with my true soul mate.

I trust you will bring this to me gently and sweetly,
in a way that is completely right for me and my true love.

I give thanks for your presence, your guidance and your love.
And so it is.

PERSONAL; I WANT A RELAITONSHIP WITH AN ADULT WOMAN...NOT A WOMAN-CHILD

I was in a relationship that wasn't a partnership. I was in a marriage that wasn't a partnership.

Too many marriages devolve into a parent-child relationship.I HATE WHEN IT HAPPENS

One spouse plays the role of the parent:

They see the big picture.
They make the tough decisions.
They prevent the other spouse from doing foolish things.


The other spouse plays the role of the child:

They hide things from their mate.
They are more focused on having fun than reaching long-term goals.
They do not carry their share of the workload or responsibility.



I have notices that  woman are, emotionally speaking, children in adult bodies. They’re stuck in a state of arrested development on a continuum of infancy to snide, bitchy, ungrateful teenager. This kind of woman-child doesn’t know how to meet her own needs, that is, if she even knows what her needs are. Many of these women are ambulatory masses of unmet, unnamed needs.

“I want, I want, I want. I need, I need, I need,” but damned if she knows what it is she wants and needs. She just know she wants and needs . . . something and your job is to figure it out and give it to her. Adult partners are expected to magically know and meet her needs and if they fail to deliver—look out!

This woman is very much the infant who uses the same distress cry for wet diaper, physical pain, “Validate meeeeeee!” and, “Pick me up, I’m bored!” Every need and want, no matter how trivial, is experienced and expressed with the same extreme urgency.

On the other end of the continuum is the woman-child who knows exactly what she wants—everything. She tells her partner or ex in excruciating detail everything she wants, needs and is “owed,” well, more like demands. She wants total financial and emotional support, blind loyalty and unconditional love—especially when her behavior is horrid and abusive. Furthermore, you must not expect her to reciprocate. Ever. This is the selfish, haughty teenager.

Kids are basically selfish beings; they’re supposed to be. The lid off the id-enfant terrible can sometimes be cute—in actual children. However, the same behaviors and attitudes in adult women aren’t at all cute. They’re obnoxious, contemptible and abusive. In her mind, it’s your job to provide her with the unconditional love mommy and daddy didn’t provide and/or the over-indulgent, permissive, no accountability, “you’re wonderful and special” parenting that created this overgrown child.

These women are children and you simply can’t treat them like adults or try to reason with them like adults; nor can you use logic. They are children and are not capable of reasoning beyond an adolescent’s mind on a good day.

You can also forget gratitude for their “allowance,” ego massages, blind loyalty and acceptance and humoring their delusions of grandeur to keep the peace. Much like a child, this woman believes it’s daddy’s/mommy’s (i.e., her partner’s) responsibility to take care of her and make her feel good. She sincerely believes she could be a CEO, have her own successful business or be a prima ballerina/president/astronaut/cowboy if she hadn’t “sacrificed” everything for you.

When you try to point out the flaws in her reasoning, you get the same convoluted reasoning you’d get from a kid. Ultimately, it comes down to this: “You’re supposed to take care of meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!” and, in many cases, thank her for the “privilege” of doing so. She thinks that just because she has sex with you..that is all the work she need to do.

The bottom line: You can’t have a reciprocal, mutual, interdependent relationship of equals with a child and this includes a child masquerading in the body of a woman. You either need to resign yourself to the thankless parental role in which she’s force fitting you,



When you tell your partner to stop acting like a child...they don't want to listen..or start arguring with you. You deserve and so do I a full-partner, not another dependent. They need to do their job. They need to support the family financially, be responsible, stop making foolish decisions, act their age, pick up their things, stop asking for things everything they go shopping, share the household chores, save money instead of spending it, and a host of other common sense actions which a partner in a business relationship would assume is normal.

So what do you do? I decided that I am going to stop acting like a parent from this point on in any relationship I am in.

In the same way the partner who is acting like a child needs to stop acting like a child, a partner who is acting like a parent needs to stop acting like a parent. It  mean they do what they are supposed to do and stop doing what their partner should do.

Why should they grow up if they never experience the negative consequences of their decisions? If the worst thing that happens to them is an occasional cold shoulder or huff from their spouse, there isn’t a driving reason for them to stop drinking, come home on time, or get a job.

You have every right to list your boundaries in regards to your relationship with your spouse: Some woman actually told me that my standard are too high?

This isn’t controlling or manipulating; it is a clear communication of what you are and are not willing to do.

Marriage can be the most important and fulfilling relationship in a person’s life but it only happens when two people are equal partners. This doesn’t mean they do the same things or have the same skills. It does mean they are equally invested, equally involved, and equally responsible.

PERSONAL: WHEN SOMEONE TELL YOU THAT THEY RESPECT YOU MORE THAN THEY LOVE YOU....WHAT THE HELL DOES IT MEAN?

You can look up “respect” and “love” in a dictionary and find the answer. Is that what you want to know? Do you want to know the superficial meaning of those words, or the significance behind them?

What is the difference between respect and love?

Love does not ask anything in return.

It’s a question that everyone seems to have a hard time answerin, because a lot of people think it goes hand in hand. Well…I beg to differ. In my opinion, you can easily separate the two. Think about it!

Definition of love– 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, sibling, friend, or significant other.

Definition of Respect-A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

Both definitions definitely describe a venerated feeling from one person to another due to admiration. It’s generally the same, but different overall. While I wish I could say that if you’re loved then you’re easily respected, I just can’t. 

If you always appear to be competent, right, strong, and good, other people will admire you and respect you, but they will not love you. They will not identify with you, and they will not get close to you. People love you and get close to you only when you let them know that you are as human as they are. A human with feelings, longings, pains, disappointments, weaknesses and all the things that human beings have. Admiration and respect are fine, but there comes a time when we would trade all of that for love, for closeness, for a sense of belonging to someone.

We all like to think of ourselves as loving people. You don’t need to love everyone you meet, but you should respect everyone you meet. It’s impossible to like everyone, let alone love everyone, but it is possible to respect everyone.  Love is often thought of as a feeling rather than an action and is therefore abstract and complicated. Respect is more tangible; we all hold ideas regarding what it means to act respectfully in our culture.

Feeling love for someone (or saying you feel love for someone) means nothing unless one is willing to take the actions to prove it. Too often, people say they love someone, yet they do not show it through their actions; rather they end up disrespecting the person or people they claim to love. In many types of relationships, people use the excuse “You know I love you,” to justify rude or disrespectful behavior. Just because you say you love someone does not excuse rude or disrespectful behavior. 

No matter how close you become to someone in a relationship, there are still standards and levels of respect that must be met to maintain the relationship. If you have a relationship that means something to you, then act like it means something to you. Many people are unaware of how they have disrespected people they love; they think that they have been granted unconditional love in that relationship, whether due to the length of the relationship or the depth of the relationship (how deeply they care for each other). We all need to be self aware in our relationships and ask ourselves whether we are showing our appreciation for those whom we love.

However, I must acknowledge that nobody is ever taught how to show their love for another, whether friendly love, family love, or romantic love, and as a result everyone shows their love in different ways. Some choose to show it 

-physically, through hugs or other forms of friendly touch,..SEX

-some choose to show it verbally, being complimented or told they are loved, and

-some choose to show their love through acts of kindness or gifts. 

People love (and fall in love with) other people everyday, but we don’t always show our affections towards others in the same way. In addition to our differing preferences in showing our love, everyone likes to receive love in different ways. For example, one may feel most loved if they receive hugs or physical affection as opposed to gifts or being told they are loved. On the other hand, some people are uncomfortable with hugs or physical contact and may value compliments or verbal expressions of love above anything else. We need to respect how others want to be treated in terms of our relationships. Although it is complicated trying to understand how to best love someone, it is much less complicated trying to understand how to best respect someone.

Personally, i perfer all three with alot of SEX

I do think it is important to love the people in your life. However, I think it is more important to respect the people in your life. There is no shortage of love in the world, but there is a shortage of respect. We need to be more conscious of how our actions affect other people, especially the ones we love. We need to show the ones we want to hold closest to us that we appreciate them and that we respect them to maintain a healthy relationship. Saying you love someone is not an excuse to mistreat or disrespect them.

DATING: RED FLAGS YOU SHOULD WATCH OUT FOR IN RELATIONSHIPS

1-Trust issues 
If you've been dating for more than 6 months and for some reason you still don't trust your partner then there's definitely a problem. The basic foundation of a healthy relationship is trust and if you don't at least have that then the whole relationship will crumble sooner or later.

2-You lie or without the truth


3 Comparing.

It's not cool when your parents compare you to your cousins or your siblings. So what makes it any more acceptable if you're comparing your partner to other partner you had or your friend have.

4. Whenever partner talking to you you never pay attention and refuse to listen.

That's just rude. If you can't take the time to listen to him then he shouldn't have to listen to what you have to say. But obviously that's what you guys are there for so if nobody's listening to each other than is this really what you would call 'relationship goals'?


5-. You're embarrassed to admit your relationship around other people.

Hey, it was your decision to get into a relationship with your man. Even if you're perfectly content with him, if you're afraid to post pictures with him or walk around holding his hand in public then it just shows how much you really want to be with him.

6-You take the sweet gestures he does for you for granted.

He took the time to give you things and watch over you and listen to you complain about Anna from work. The least you can do is take the time to say thank you and repay the favour back to show that you do in fact appreciate his efforts.

7-. You boss him around.

The thing about relationships is that you two are equals. There is nobody in charge or nobody in the submissive-- you are equals. That being said, there is one thing to be assertive and another thing to boss him around. That makes him feel unappreciated, unimportant and below  you which should not be the case in any relationship.

8-. You demand to be spoiled but cheap out when it comes to treating him out.

Every girlfriend wants to be treated like a princess,  But it's another thing to completely expect him to spoil you simply because you are the girl in the relationship. Pay for the bill once in a while and treat him the way he treats you.

9-You never stick to your word.

Is it not the most annoying thing when you make a promise with someone and they never follow through with wha they say? Yes it's annoying and it's even more annoying coming from someone who you could potentially spend the rest of your life with. Don't be an asshole and fulfill one or two of your promises once in a while because, yes, true love is unconditional but true love is also honest and consistent.

It's gonna take some work, but you've made your bed--- so it's time to lay in it sistah.

10-. One of the reasons you're dating your man is because of his paycheque.

The thing about using people is that it dehumanizes the person being used. This guy might really, really like you but little does he know that you don't see him for what he is-- you see him as a bank. If that doesn't say what type of girlfriend you are , then I don't know what will.

11- You're always keeping tabs on favours.

Everyone thinks that relationship is give & take. To some extent it's true but at the same time it really isn't. The theory of give and take kind of works on the theory that one person from the party is to give the equal amount of what was taken. The thing about relationships is that both of you work in harmony to help each other grow in life. Cutting all the sappy info out, what I'm basically saying is that there is no 50/50 in a relationship.

Both of you give to one another because you genuinely care and want to help make life easier for the other person. If you decide to keep track of who does what for the other person, it takes away from the genuine intention of being in a relationship.

12- You don't know what you want.

We don't know what we want whether we want pizza or pasta, to watch a movie or go out for a walk, to nurture a real relationship or play some games to keep you occupied.

People often walk into relationships thinking that they can handle the full commitment of it all but sometimes people aren't always ready and realize that they have other goals and intentions to pursue. Other times, people realize that they can't handle a long term relationship and that they want to have 'fun' with different people before settling down.


13- You treat others like crap..including him.

What can I say, bad girlfriends who treat their S/Os like crap are often shitty people who treat other people like crap. The first step to treating your boyfriend with the right care and nurturing is to treat other people with a basic sense of respect and kindness. It's corny but it's true. If you're a bully to others, you're most probably a bully to him too. And nobody want to stay in a relationship with a bully... or a bad girlfriend.

DATING: IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED...START ACTING LIKE A WIFE

To all the girls who are saying they want to be a wife, but can’t seem to find yourself in a healthy relationship — it’s time to stop acting like a single girl without a care in the world and start acting like a wife.

Don’t be a tease. it’s easy. don’t go flirting with every boy you see just because you can...(unless that turns him on)  While it may be fun and feel good to have a flirt buddy or have the attention of someone, the flirting game merely devalues you and your interactions. When you meet the guy of your dreams, you want him know that you’re totally interested in him. you don’t want a flirtatious reputation to proceed you. and you definitely don’t want him to think that you are flirty with every male that walks by. You want him to feel like your flirtiness is on reserve for just him. Make it easy for the guy to have sex with you...IF he is the one you want.

Pick one boy.  Online dating combined with our need for attention has made it socially acceptable for any girl  to be talking to a handful of people at one time. but let’s be real— no one wants to date like the bachelor does in real life. it’s stressful and is downright unnatural. If you don’t want to be one of a million girls that a guy is talking to, be honorable and treat men with the same decency. basically, stop using boys to pass the time and as avenue to boost your self-esteem. If you’re using boys to make you feel better about yourself, it won’t matter how many boys you talk to— you’ll still always feel empty. which, leads me to

Learn self-control. We’re living in a world where people do things just because they “feel like it”. people make wrong choices because in the moment they “feel like it” or they “want it”. plain and simple, that’s selfish living. love— love does the opposite. love is selfless. loves says, “i feel like doing “this”, but i know my actions have influence and will affect someone else  so therefore, i will exercise self-control and do what is right. In some relationship i have been, certain woman do what they want....with no thoughts of me...just because they think they can and rationalize it because of who they are.

Forgive and move on. it’s really quite simple— don’t hold grudges. don’t take forever to talk about things. If you have an issue with someone or something, talk about it. forgive. then move on. That is if you can talk to her. Sometimes when I bring something up....i get angry, not understanding. It a conflict things and the other person doesn't want to listen at all.And since I hate to fight....i sometimes keep it inside.....because it really a hassle to talk to her....about I truly feel. She come up with a laundry list of things she does for me and I should appreciate everything she done for me. If I do something, I don't keep a score card and bring it up. This is one thing I hate about people....if you are doing something that is not coming out of love...THEN DON'T FUCKEN DO IT. Stop complaining that it takes you hours to travel to my place....or whatever you are upset about..cooking...cleaning..whatever...

Don’t play games. plain and simple, no one has time / energy / or heart space to play games when it comes to matter of the hearts. be honest, be real. if you like a guy, let him know. don’t make it a game. if you’re trying to get attention from a guy, do it in an honorable way — don’t mess with his mind. playing mind games, attempting to gain the upper hand, trying to pay someone back— it’s not wife material. when it comes to relationships, all games do is cause drama and destruction. Don't say you love someone when you really don't. Or want to be with him when you are still in love with someone else.


Marriage is a loving, intimate and safe space where two people choose to learn and grow together.Oh, and this. Marriage has a foundation of unconditional acceptance and kindness anchored by shared personal values and relationship values including mutual support, honesty, respect, openness and trust. Finally…and I’ve always liked this one…marriage is not a place to learn how to be happy. It is a place where we are to learn how to love. They should ACT like that stuff matters more than anything else. Anything. Including kids, friends and parents.

But it’s not always that that simple, is it?

THOUGHTS:LIFE IS ALL ABOUT DECISIONS.....CHOOSE WISELY

I believe in love and lust and sex and romance. I don’t want everything to add up to some perfect equation I want mess and chaos I want someone to go crazy out of his mind for me. I want to feel passion and heat and sweat and madness I want it all

If you are to find someone else, you must find someone who cherishes you inside and out.

Absolutely unconditionally.

Completely and without a doubt.

You must find someone who loves you not only on the outside, but from your very core. Not only for the shape or your body or the touch of your skin, but for the magnificent beauty that exists within you.

You deserve to be treasured, for there is far more to you than what lies on the surface.


That glow before you smile, it feels like a sunrise hiding in the mountains; waiting for the right moment to beam so bright. The way your lips twist beside trying not to show those pearls that could blind my sight, it feels like a spotlight. How your cheeks look like being kissed by sakura petals, it’s so cherry-like, making my heart light. It feels as though I’m the chosen one when I see you that happy. It’s the privilege this earth bestowed upon me. And I am glad I can witness such creation so detailed. You are the living Mona Lisa, in the 21st century, more beautiful the more I stare


We are the poets, dying in the eternity of waves

Why aren’t you here ? Oh, why aren’t you here ?

You and I have almost achieved that which is never achieved: we sit in each other’s souls


To feel at home,

To feel at home with these thoughts, with these words;for how do I begin to write if I do not know how these words will end?

To feel at home with all these indifferences of familiarity

To feel at home with this silence that has been my inbetween of the things unknown.

To feel at home with my body, with this breathe that breathe’s me.

With these fingers that have grazed my skin,but I cannot still say that, that I am.

To feel at home with these hands that cannot hold me.

To feel at home with the distance between the steps my feet take.

To feel at home with this distance that ties me from life to death.

To feel at home with this distance that separates me from another,

another?

To feel at home with this distance that separates me from the things known and unknown.

To feel at home with this distance in my mind that separates me from myself;

And so, I sang myself a lullaby to catch me when I fall in my dreams.


Send me an emoji

😎 - I stalk your blog on the regular
😩 - You’re sexy as fuck
😈 - I wanna fuck you
😊 - I think you’re cool
😍 - I adore you
😘 - I’d date you
🙅 - You ain’t all that
🙈- You make me horny
😝 - I don’t like you
💩 - You’re blog is shit
💋 - I wanna make out with you
💘 - I have a serious crush on you
💦 - You make me wet
🙊 - I wish we talked
🙇 - I worship you
👅 - I wanna eat you out
👎 - Delete your blog


It’s scary to find someone that makes you happy. You starting giving them all your attention because they’re what makes you forget everything bad that’s going on in your life. They’re the first person you want to talk to in the morning and the last one before you sleep just so you can start and end your day with a smile. It all sounds great to have that someone, but it’s scary to think about how easily they could just leave and take that happiness away when they go.



Life is all about decisions. Choose wisely.

It all starts by the time you wake up in the morning. It is up to you whether to be positive since you’re expecting something or be negative since you’re sick of the monotony and mundaneness of things.

It is about the opportunities that come to you. It is on your hands whether to take them or just ignore them all completely. Sometimes, you got to take a huge leap to experience the change you’ve been yearning all year long.

It is about the love you’ve been searching for so long. It lies on your decision whether to confess or just remain silent, waiting for someone else to take up the challenge. You could also just wait for the other party to realize that you love him/her. That is if (s)he’s wise enough to realize your true intentions  behind those sweet words you’ve uttered and all the while, you’re just that one “friend” who’s always there. It is also lies on your decision to accept the love that has been laid before you. you should think carefully if you’re ready to reciprocate such love or you prefer more to remain as friends. You could also think of it only as an experience and see whether you’re up to the challenge of loving.

It is about the effort to stay alive amidst the struggles and obstacles that bar your way to success. You may think of them as inspirations to jump high over the hurdles or may remain low-spirited and think of yourself as a complete failure.

Life has more to offer. Many experiences both good and bad will come your way to test you. It is up to you to live it to the fullest or stay living but is dead at the core.

PERSONAL: IT'S HARD TO FIND A WOMAN WHO LOVES SEX

It hard to find a woman who love sex.

I had two woman in my life who rare desert flower.  They were ready, willing, and able to get it on nearly 24/7.  We are both total freaks and enjoy a variety of kinks, so it’s constantly different and exciting. We had sex on Sunday we woke up, fucked, got some lunch, fucked, got some dinner, fucked, and fucked some more until we passed out.

I like to fuck  about 5- 6 times  day on average (sometimes more). I’m addicted to it, mostly because of the emotions that come with it.  I love a woman who love to give blowjobs. And I get so fucking sick of the "women would rather have chocolate /shoes/purses/etc. than sex" stereotype that I want to vomit. Chocolate’s nice, but it doesn’t hold a candle to when a woman to suck my dick off, then have I cuddle up with her and fall into a post-orgasm nap knowing that she reduced me to a blissful puddle of goo. I miss the days when my girlfriend wanted to please me all the time.....suprise me with a BJ in a car....wearing a short dress and no underwear.....wanting to touch me ...fucking me....MAKING ME FEEL WANTED.

Women sometimes feel like men want one thing — sex. This is not true.What guys really wants is for you to WANT to have sex with him, for you to ENJOY being with him and for you to INITIATE it. His deeper needs, and yours, will be met when you, as the woman, initiate a physical connection, rather than leaving it up to him all the time to see that it happens.

Ladies, I'm talking to you. Let's be honest here. Think back to the last time you initiated sex . I know all the excuses that are coming to your mind right now — too tired, don't need it, takes too much energy, etc., etc., etc. No one likes excuses — we all like positive results. If you are too tired, you shouldn't use that as an excuse night after night. You should decide that your physical relationship needs to be important to you, too, and not just to your boyfriend You should decide to take a nap, or grab your hubby by the hand earlier and start showing him affection instead of waiting until you fall into bed, half dead from exhaustion.

Why

HE needs to know you are crazy about him. What your man really wants is YOU. He needs to know that you need him, in a physical way, just like he needs you. When you show him that you want to be physically intimate with him (and often), it will let him know, in a very obvious way, that he excites you. He ignites passion within you. That feeling will make him feel more manly and more loved than he has felt in a long time.

I usually come quickly when a woman is down on her knee and sucking my balls...my shaft....hungry for my cum.

Sex =Validation

The biological effect semen and sperm  diminish on women is very noticeable when you compare when a  man has had a vasectomy. The proteins and such that sperm carry have extremely strong bonding effects on women. It helps prevent pre-eclampsia, allows the cervix to soften, moderates the immune system in receiving women, has antidepressant effects, antispasmodic effects (pain caused by prostaglandins such as period cramps), gives a buzz via dopamine receptor, and also calming. They enhance female vaginal orgasm by enhancing contractions wherein the cervix moves and "sucks up" semen into the uterus. While the effects are more greatly felt or shall I say received via the vagina (within 10-30 minutes post ejaculation). The effects are also felt anally and orally. Proof in the bonding effects are that women literally cannot break up with a male so long as sex with him ejaculating into the female continues

The best way for a woman to understand this dynamic is to relate it to another physiological need. If you've had a baby, you may relate to the experience of milk building up in your breasts a few days after giving birth. The buildup of breast milk becomes annoying (and even painful) until the milk is expressed. You may have even had the embarrassing experience of leaking breast milk when it was not expressed. A male's semen buildup is sometimes released through nocturnal emissions if it is not otherwise relieved. Just as with breast milk, sperm production tends to "keep up with demand." The more often a man has sex, the more semen his body is likely to produce.

To me, the real evil is the over-romanticized idea of relationships that movies and books often portray. Women view sex as an extension of love and romance, and I believe this gives them a warped view of sexuality from the beginning. The idea that we each have only one true soul mate with whom we will live in harmonious and uncomplicated bliss for all eternity is a crock of shit. If people would focus their attention on finding a partner who, while not perfect, shares most of their core values and at least a few of their personal interests, and then treat their partner’s sexual desires with respect and an eagerness to ensure their fulfillment in whatever way works for that individual, we’d have many more happily coupled people in this world. We have to not only destroy the idea that good sex is some kind of automatic bonus dropped in your lap when you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, we also have to destroy the idea that there is only one particular Mr. or Ms. Right for each person, in whom all relationship problems will magically vanish.

PERSONAL: THERE ARE THREE TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP

There are 3 types of relationship I think

No. 1: Couple who find each other useful.

In this scenario, people may see in their relationship an opportunity for profit, often focusing on financial gain. They may, for example, decide to create a mutually beneficial business partnership.  Since the whole basis of the relationship is what each person can get out of it, it is self-oriented and can quickly lead to quarrels if one or the other partner feels he or she is being shortchanged. And such quarrels often spell the end . If either partner feels the relationship is no longer useful to them, they will likely simply cut off the relationship and move on.

No. 2: People who find it pleasurable to be together.

This type of relationship is higher than the first,  Because couples who come together for profit may not actually enjoy spending time with each other. But couples who come together for pleasure are often witty and do actually enjoy each other’s company. They may, for example, like to get together on the weekends and go out for a good time on the town. These relationship can, indeed, be very pleasant, but when  problems can quickly arise in these kinds of relationships, as well. As with relationship of utility, relationship of pleasure are also self-oriented, with the goal for each person being the pleasure they can get from it. And if the relationship somehow stops leading to pleasure, the realtionship will likely quickly part, with the relationship coming to an end. Both of these types of  realtionship are instrumental. We enter into them because of something we can get out of them. And when we stop getting what we want from them—profit or pleasure—we see no value in the relationship, and it simply dies.

No. 3: People who are attracted to each other because of the good they see in the other person.

This kind of relationship is based on the good. Two people are attracted to each other because of the good they see in the other person. They value the other person’s character and want to help it continue to grow and develop in healthy directions. The good they see in the other person may also inspire them to want to become better themselves. This type of relationship is not self-oriented or instrumental. Each person is focused not on him- or herself but on the other person. The partners love each other for who they are and not for what they can get out of the relationship.

This type of relationship will probably be much more enduring than the first two since it is likely to be brought to an end only if one of the persons involved becomes corrupt and stops being good. Although this realtinoship are not motivated by the quest for profit or pleasure, often do turn out to be useful and pleasurable, as well as good.

Think about your relationship from the standpoint To what degree have you and your partner been drawn together by utility, pleasure, or goodness? Relationships of utility focus on how each partner can profit (e.g., financially, socially, etc.) from the relationship. Relationships of pleasure focus on how each partner can find enjoyment (e.g., shared hobbies, interests, sexual relations, etc.) in the relationship. Relationships of goodness are focused on the other person. They are not motivated by what each person can get from the relationship but rather by the goodness each person sees in the other.

PERSONAL: WANTING YOU FOR ONLY SECURITY

What type of woman do you think chases men primarily for their money?

These are women who care most about living a lavish lifestyle. They will pretend to be invested in you as long as they get that monetary value.

I’ve seen these types of women gaslight men, use sex as a bargaining chip, threaten to leave, and cause endless drama.

I’ve watched men keep buying their women big homes, fancy cars, luxurious vacations, plastic surgery procedures, and loads of high-end jewelry. Almost always they run out of money…even the rich. 

Eventually, you’re going to run out of money or your woman is going to find a man who she’s both attracted to as a person AND/OR has money. When you have nothing left to offer, there’s no reason for her to stay.

So when does using money as your primary value work with women? When you’re looking for quick sex and not much more. Also, when you’re looking for a relationship based on what you both can provide for each other (money, sex, attention) and not based on deep emotional connection.

But even if your money doesn’t buy a woman’s loyalty, what’s the harm? Isn’t it just another tool at your disposal?

There’s always a catch: when you do this, you’re NOT positioning yourself as a genuine, long-term romantic partner.

For a woman to seriously consider you, she first has to become emotionally attracted to YOU. She should want to connect with you for your personality. She should desire your confidence, character, kindness, and sexuality.

She must value you as a potential lover first and foremost. Then you can eventually be a provider as well.

I missed being loved like that. With the two big loves of my life...i didn't have any money.

When you’re trying to impress a woman with money, what are you conveying?

You’re telling her that your primary value is what you can offer.  You’re showing her that your real assets are…your assets. Not you.

And the fact that you give up those assets so readily to someone you barely know tells her you don’t really value yourself. You are desperate. Because any man who has worked hard for his money wouldn’t give it up so frivolously.

She knows how it feels to be truly attracted to a guy, and she’ll know that she’s not attracted to you in the same way.

You’ll always be the backup plan whose primary role is to provide for her. She may settle with you because it’s easy…but not because she’s in love with you.

PERSONAL: I MISS THE GOOD OLD DAYS

I wish I was single in the 90s. There were no dating apps then. No cell phones, really. Certainly no cell phones people took seriously. Back then it was considered rude to be broken up with over the phone, with the worst offense occurring via answering machine. You were broken up with in person. Those were the days of women. Now a women simply stops speaking to you without warning, leaving you to wonder if she was hit by a bus on her way to meet you or if she left you sitting alone at a bar entirely on purpose and without regard for your feelings. And that’s only if you had plans to see each other again. In today’s dating world, you literally never know if your first, or fifteenth date will be the last time you see or hear from someone. Both are just as likely, percentage wise.

I’m of the last generation that will ever remember both. The world with the Internet, and without. But what the generation above me has that I don’t is the fact that they were single, and dating, in the 90s. What was it like? When you made plans with someone, you actually had to show up, as the text flake-out was not a menu item available to you. Maybe people were more cautious about making plans, knowing they’d really have to keep them? Maybe the quality of a night out was improved by people being more selective? I want to study this like an anthropologist. It’s baffling, and also I feel like we need to preserve these stories for generations to come. My grandkids (ugh) will be hanging out via video chat (in my day it was the mall) and going to school through virtual reality (I took a bus, like an American). In the future no one will ever leave the house and dating will be determined by algorithm. Let’s make sure to tell future generations just how good we had it, hmm?

Entire relationships now take place without the use of the human voice. Texting, the least-warm communications method short of a fire engine’s siren is how we connect to and interact with other human beings. Major decisions, life changes are determined via text. Moving in together, merging bank accounts, divorce, these things can legitimately be decided upon with nothing more than our thumbs, and it’s ruffling my goddamn feathers. It’s also just an illogical way to build up an affinity for someone. I don’t think it’s bragging if I say I can write a decent sentence suitable for texting. I’m not bad at that particular activity. But I don’t think it’s possible to fall in love with me (or even just fall in like with me), through texting alone. But it’s all I’ve got.

There was a time in my single life when I was still taking “advice.” I was listening to what other people had to say, following their instructions, because I didn’t want to seem (or even truly be) closed off or stubborn. I still figured anything was worth a shot. A good friend of mine, slightly older and one of the first to really utilize online dating (with success) told me I had to stop the texting and demand that a woman call me. Person-to-person connection and attachment development couldn’t happen via text, voice had to be involved. I resisted, but she was married to a guy she met online, the girl had clout. I went out on a date with a very nice, funny, charming woman, who then texted me nonstop, never really asking to see me again, but not leaving me alone, either. She said I was not to write back to one more text message, I was simply to say: Hey, I’m really busy at work right now. Why don’t you give me a call tonight and we can make plans?

And she did! She actually called me on the phone and I heard her voice. This was a triumph, a success. Except for the part where she didn’t know how to speak on the phone very well or even form coherent sentences and it was the worst and most awkward 2:13 of my entire life. We didn’t make any concrete plans, and I never heard from her again, via phone, text, or carrier pigeon. I haven’t asked a woman to call me since. This was three years ago. I don’t take advice anymore.

I remember when (holy shit that sounds old) the only way you could communicate with your friends if you were not in the same room was via telephone. We lived and died by our phones, and our answering machines. I had the clear kind with the colorful innards and a neon cord. Now dusty relics in the basement of a hoarder, these items were once the primary tools utilized by the unmarried and mating human adult. So was memory, for goodness sake. Count, if you will, the number of phone numbers you currently know by heart. If you can’t get past Mom….Dad, you’ve fallen victim. We’re not currently using our memories, our speaking skills, or our manners. We did in the 90s.

And, my goodness, did they meet people naturally back then? Like, out at places? During events that were not specifically and obviously set ups? Can you imagine a buzzyworthy bar back in the 90s? Just picture it! It must have been full of people looking up, for fuck’s sake, paying attention to what was happening in front of them, in the room, rather than a device and 4G connection away, all with a backdrop of 90s alternative/rock (real, not like..The Verve Pipe), playing perfectly above their heads. There were no craft cocktails being over-elaborately shaken by mustached men in vests. There were just shots and beers doled out by tall, dirty-haired men or lipsticked women who took no shit. Did these people know how good they had it? Now house music blares seizure-inducing tones and frequencies as a sea of faces lights up with a light blue glow, as people involve themselves in something fake somewhere else that is more important than something real in the room right now.

And I know what you’re thinking: , the things you want are probably not happening because of you, not because it’s no longer the 90s. Live in the now. And I’m sure you’re right. There’s probably something inherently terrible about me that’s preventing women from saying hello. Friends and colleagues have often referred to me as intimidating, but I don’t know what that means, I engage in actual conversation and have real thoughts and questions and opinions and I don’t hide myself to seem less of myself in order to make people like me. My friends and family like me just fine. I’m assuming one day, one woman, might do the same. If anything, it’s a filter, my personality. If I scare or intimidate you, good. Away with you. I have a thing for bravery.

Now single men spend an inordinate amount of time asking each other one question, over and over and over:

“Where do single woman go?”

We simply don’t know. We can’t find them. They’re insects scattering at the flip of a light switch. They’re not at bars, or restaurants. They don’t attend events. I’ve never sat next to one on an airplane Somewhere along the way we decided to start lying to each other, suggesting we try to meet woman at the grocery store. Some gremlin put a scene like that in a movie and we all decided to take it as gospel because that was a much better story to tell our grandkids. You actually can meet women at the grocery store, but you have to hunt them down, like safari.

So yes, I miss the 90s. When I still listened to music on an actual radio and taped songs as they came on. I had to work for my music collection, rather than simply opening Spotify. Boys asked girls out by passing them notes or like…actually asking. A time when there were no cell phones on dinner tables, no dating apps exposing us to everyone, anyone, on the off chance one of those millions of someones was a person we might like. Ghosting, if it existed, didn’t have a name. Seeing a movie in the theater still cost less than purchasing the DVD of it. The family all shared one computer. There was a little bit of accountability in dating. And all my phone knew how to do was ring.