You can look up “respect” and “love” in a dictionary and find the answer. Is that what you want to know? Do you want to know the superficial meaning of those words, or the significance behind them?
What is the difference between respect and love?
Love does not ask anything in return.
It’s a question that everyone seems to have a hard time answerin, because a lot of people think it goes hand in hand. Well…I beg to differ. In my opinion, you can easily separate the two. Think about it!
Definition of love– 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, sibling, friend, or significant other.
Definition of Respect-A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
Both definitions definitely describe a venerated feeling from one person to another due to admiration. It’s generally the same, but different overall. While I wish I could say that if you’re loved then you’re easily respected, I just can’t.
If you always appear to be competent, right, strong, and good, other people will admire you and respect you, but they will not love you. They will not identify with you, and they will not get close to you. People love you and get close to you only when you let them know that you are as human as they are. A human with feelings, longings, pains, disappointments, weaknesses and all the things that human beings have. Admiration and respect are fine, but there comes a time when we would trade all of that for love, for closeness, for a sense of belonging to someone.
We all like to think of ourselves as loving people. You don’t need to love everyone you meet, but you should respect everyone you meet. It’s impossible to like everyone, let alone love everyone, but it is possible to respect everyone. Love is often thought of as a feeling rather than an action and is therefore abstract and complicated. Respect is more tangible; we all hold ideas regarding what it means to act respectfully in our culture.
Feeling love for someone (or saying you feel love for someone) means nothing unless one is willing to take the actions to prove it. Too often, people say they love someone, yet they do not show it through their actions; rather they end up disrespecting the person or people they claim to love. In many types of relationships, people use the excuse “You know I love you,” to justify rude or disrespectful behavior. Just because you say you love someone does not excuse rude or disrespectful behavior.
No matter how close you become to someone in a relationship, there are still standards and levels of respect that must be met to maintain the relationship. If you have a relationship that means something to you, then act like it means something to you. Many people are unaware of how they have disrespected people they love; they think that they have been granted unconditional love in that relationship, whether due to the length of the relationship or the depth of the relationship (how deeply they care for each other). We all need to be self aware in our relationships and ask ourselves whether we are showing our appreciation for those whom we love.
However, I must acknowledge that nobody is ever taught how to show their love for another, whether friendly love, family love, or romantic love, and as a result everyone shows their love in different ways. Some choose to show it
-physically, through hugs or other forms of friendly touch,..SEX
-some choose to show it verbally, being complimented or told they are loved, and
-some choose to show their love through acts of kindness or gifts.
People love (and fall in love with) other people everyday, but we don’t always show our affections towards others in the same way. In addition to our differing preferences in showing our love, everyone likes to receive love in different ways. For example, one may feel most loved if they receive hugs or physical affection as opposed to gifts or being told they are loved. On the other hand, some people are uncomfortable with hugs or physical contact and may value compliments or verbal expressions of love above anything else. We need to respect how others want to be treated in terms of our relationships. Although it is complicated trying to understand how to best love someone, it is much less complicated trying to understand how to best respect someone.
Personally, i perfer all three with alot of SEX
I do think it is important to love the people in your life. However, I think it is more important to respect the people in your life. There is no shortage of love in the world, but there is a shortage of respect. We need to be more conscious of how our actions affect other people, especially the ones we love. We need to show the ones we want to hold closest to us that we appreciate them and that we respect them to maintain a healthy relationship. Saying you love someone is not an excuse to mistreat or disrespect them.
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