Where did all the time go? I remember exactly where I was at those two events. I can close my eyes and I am there again. I wish I did things differently....appreciate just everything about those moments.
Tuesday, June 17, 2014
ARTICLE: Study Asserts Startling Numbers of Insider Trading Rogues By ANDREW ROSS SORKIN
There is often a tip.
Before many big mergers and acquisitions, word leaks out to select investors who seek to covertly trade on the information. Stocks and options move in unusual ways that aren’t immediately clear. Then news of the deals crosses the ticker, surprising everyone except for those already in the know. Sometimes the investor is found out and is prosecuted, sometimes not.
That’s what everyone suspects, though until now the evidence has been largely anecdotal.
Now, a groundbreaking new study finally puts what we’ve instinctively thought into hard numbers — and the truth is worse than we imagined.
A quarter of all public company deals may involve some kind of insider trading, according to the study by two professors at the Stern School of Business at New York University and one professor from McGill University. The study, perhaps the most detailed and exhaustive of its kind, examined hundreds of transactions from 1996 through the end of 2012.
The professors examined stock option movements — when an investor buys an option to acquire a stock in the future at a set price — as a way of determining whether unusual activity took place in the 30 days before a deal’s announcement.
The results are persuasive and disturbing, suggesting that law enforcement is woefully behind — or perhaps is so overwhelmed that it simply looks for the most egregious examples of insider trading, or for prominent targets who can attract headlines.
The professors are so confident in their findings of pervasive insider trading that they determined statistically that the odds of the trading “arising out of chance” were “about three in a trillion.” (It’s easier, in other words, to hit the lottery.)
But, the professors conclude, the Securities and Exchange Commission litigated only “about 4.7 percent of the 1,859 M.&A. deals included in our sample.”
The S.E.C. and the Justice Department have publicly made prosecuting insider trading a priority. Judging from the headlines about traders at Steven A. Cohen’s hedge fund or the hedge fund manager Raj Rajaratnam or the investigation involving the activist investor Carl C. Icahn, they do appear to be focused on it. The S.E.C. recently hired Palantir Technologies, a firm that has helped the government analyze data to find terrorists, to help it uncover illegal trading activity. And with the mini-merger boom — the first quarter of merger activity this year was the most active since 2007, according to Mergermarket — there should be fresh evidence of more insider trading.
Yet if history is any guide, based on the results of the study over 16 years, the government has a lot of catching up to do.
The professors found that “it takes the S.E.C., on average, 756 days to publicly announce its first litigation action in a given case. Thus, assuming that the litigation releases coincide approximately with the actual initiations of investigations, it takes the S.E.C. a bit more than two years, on average, to prosecute a rogue trade.” The average “rogue trade” the professors found, was worth about $1.6 million.
A spokeswoman for the S.E.C. had no immediate comment.
The professors — Menachem Brenner and Marti G. Subrahmanyam at N.Y.U. and Patrick Augustin at McGill — began their study, which won the Investor Responsibility Research Center Institute’s annual investor research competition, two years ago.
“We became intrigued by reports of a number of illegal insider trading cases in options ahead of takeover announcements, in particular, the leveraged buyout of Heinz by Warren Buffett and 3G Capital,” Professor Augustin said in a statement. In that case, two Brazilian brothers were caught using inside information on that deal to trade options ahead of the announcement through a SwissGoldman Sachs brokerage account owned by an entity based in the Cayman Islands. The men were fined $5 million.
“The statistical evidence we present is consistent with informed trading strategies, and is too strong to be dismissed as just random speculation,” Professor Augustin said.
The study found that “informed trading is more pervasive in cases of target firms receiving cash offers.” The professors surmise that is because cash deals are more definitive and stock deals are harder to bet on.
The professors found that the bigger the deal and the more trading volume in the stock of the target company, the more likely there will be insider trading. “Over all, our interpretation of the evidence is that informed traders are more likely to trade on their private information when the anticipated abnormal stock price performance upon announcement is larger and when they have the opportunity to hide their trades due to greater liquidly of the target companies.”
The study also found, perhaps surprisingly, that there weren’t more leaks to investors based on the number of advisers — bankers and lawyers — involved in the deal. The professors had expected to find a correlation, and other studies have shown that there can be more leaks to the media when more advisers are involved. But the data, the professors said, was “not statistically significant.”
Of the deals the S.E.C. pursued, the professors found that the agency usually investigated cases of insider trading when deals had been completed and often missed those in transactions that later collapsed.
“Completed deals are strong predictors of options litigation, as a withdrawn or rumored deal is about 22 times less likely to be investigated,” the professors found.
“The S.E.C., being resource-constrained, pursues larger-sized cases that provide the biggest ‘bang for the buck’ from a regulatory perspective.”
Perhaps oddly, the professors say that the S.E.C. is more inclined to pursue cases involving a foreign buyer than a domestic one.
The professors also suggested that the S.E.C. may be looking in the wrong place when it comes to insider trading.
The S.E.C., according to the study’s findings, found “102 unique cases involving insider trading in options ahead of M.&A.’s from January 1990 to December 2013, with an average of about four cases per year.” The study found that the S.E.C., though, is more focused strictly on stock trading, not options: “We find 207 M.&A. transactions investigated in civil litigations because of insider trading in stock only.”
The professors concluded, “The large number of investigations for stock trades relative to option trades stands in contrast to our finding of pervasive abnormal call option trading volumes that are relatively greater than the abnormal stock volumes.”
While we all may have suspected that insider trading was going on, who knew it was this pervasive?
Monday, June 16, 2014
PERSONAL: I AM NOT LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE
I've always had this deep-down conviction that I'm not like everybody else, and there's an amazingly exciting new life waiting for me just around the corner Things end. People leave. And you know what? Life goes on. Besides, if bad things didn't happen, how would you be able to feel the good ones?.Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me. Perhaps I've spent too long in the company of watching romantic movies and consequently my ideals and expectations are far too high. I know the person that I will end up with won't be perfect, she might hate movies, she might not have blond hair, she might too strong, but when I put those things together with the rest of her, it makes her into the most perfectly imperfect woman I’ve ever known.
To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved. .Only love of a good woman will make a man question every choice, every action. Only love makes a warrior hesitate for fear that his lady will find him cruel. Only love makes a man both the best he will ever be, and the weakest. Sometimes all in the same moment. And then there are the rare ones who know love, who understand it. Who freely give of themselves, demanding only a return of that love,that trust.When I am an old man and I can remember nothing else, I will remember that moment. The first time my eyes beheld an angel in the flesh...which was you..I will remember your body and your eyes, your beautiful face and breasts, I will remember your scent and your touch and how it felt to love you. But most of all, I will remember how it felt to gaze at true beauty, both inside and out. For you are fair, my beloved, in soul and in body, generous of spirit and generous of heart. And I will never see anything this side of heaven more beautiful than you. I want to find a goddess that I can be with and you might think you are not one, but you are. A goddess, a princess, a queen. As a soldier, I pledge myself to your service. As a prince, I grant you any boon within my power. As a man, I ask to sit at your feet and worship you. Ask me to do anything for you and I will do it.I have so much love for you, I could fill rooms with it. Buildings. You’re surrounded by it wherever you go, you walk through it, breathe it...it’s in your lungs, and under your tongue, and between your fingers and toes..When you decide you want to be with someone forever, you want forever to start right now.There are some experiences in life they haven't invented the right words for. Love is not a choice. Love is a thirst. A need as vital to the soul as water is to the body. Love is a precious draught that not only soothes a parched throat, but it vitalizes a man. It fortifies him enough that he is willing to slay dragons for the woman who offers it
To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved. .Only love of a good woman will make a man question every choice, every action. Only love makes a warrior hesitate for fear that his lady will find him cruel. Only love makes a man both the best he will ever be, and the weakest. Sometimes all in the same moment. And then there are the rare ones who know love, who understand it. Who freely give of themselves, demanding only a return of that love,that trust.When I am an old man and I can remember nothing else, I will remember that moment. The first time my eyes beheld an angel in the flesh...which was you..I will remember your body and your eyes, your beautiful face and breasts, I will remember your scent and your touch and how it felt to love you. But most of all, I will remember how it felt to gaze at true beauty, both inside and out. For you are fair, my beloved, in soul and in body, generous of spirit and generous of heart. And I will never see anything this side of heaven more beautiful than you. I want to find a goddess that I can be with and you might think you are not one, but you are. A goddess, a princess, a queen. As a soldier, I pledge myself to your service. As a prince, I grant you any boon within my power. As a man, I ask to sit at your feet and worship you. Ask me to do anything for you and I will do it.I have so much love for you, I could fill rooms with it. Buildings. You’re surrounded by it wherever you go, you walk through it, breathe it...it’s in your lungs, and under your tongue, and between your fingers and toes..When you decide you want to be with someone forever, you want forever to start right now.There are some experiences in life they haven't invented the right words for. Love is not a choice. Love is a thirst. A need as vital to the soul as water is to the body. Love is a precious draught that not only soothes a parched throat, but it vitalizes a man. It fortifies him enough that he is willing to slay dragons for the woman who offers it
THOUGHTS: THE TRUTH ABOUT ROMEO AND JULIET.
I used to think Romeo and Juliet was the greatest love story ever written. But now that I’m middle-aged, I know better. Oh, Romeo certainly thinks he loves his Juliet. Driven by hormones, he unquestionably lusts for her. But if he loves her, it’s a shallow love. You want proof? Soon after meeting her for the first time, he realizes he forgot to ask her for her name. Can true love be founded upon such shallow acquaintance? I don’t think so. And at the end, when he thinks she’s dead, he finds no comfort in living out the remainder of his life within the paradigm of his love, at least keeping alive the memory of what they had briefly shared, even if it was no more than illusion, or more accurately, hormonal. Yes, those of us watching events unfold from the darkness know she merely lies in slumber. But does he seek the reason for her life-like appearance? No. Instead he accuses Death of amorousness, convinced that the ‘lean abhorred monster’ endeavors to keep Juliet in her present state, cheeks flushed, so that she might cater to his own dissolute desires. But does Romeo hold her in his arms one last time and feel the warmth of her blood still coursing through her veins? Does he pinch her to see if she might awaken? Does he hold a mirror to her nose to see if her breath fogs it? Once, twice, three times a ‘no.’ His alleged love is so superficial and so selfish that he seeks to escape the pain of loss by taking his own life. That’s not love, but infatuation. Had they wed―Juliet bearing many children, bonding, growing together, the masks of the star-struck teens they once were long ago cast away, basking in the love born of a lifetime together―and she died of natural causes, would Romeo have been so moved to take his own life, or would he have grieved properly for her loss and not just his own.
LOVE: COME AWAY WITH ME
It slowly began to dawn on me that I had been staring at her for an impossible amount of time. Lost in my thoughts, lost in the sight of her. But her face didn't look offended or amused. It almost looked as if she were studying the lines of my face, almost as if she were waiting. I wanted to take her hand. I wanted to brush her cheek with my fingertips. I wanted to tell her that she was the first beautiful thing that I had seen in three years. The sight of her yawning to the back of her hand was enough to drive the breath from me. How I sometimes lost the sense of her words in the sweet fluting of her voice. I wanted to say that if she were with me then somehow nothing could ever be wrong for me again. In that breathless second I almost asked her. I felt the question boiling up from my chest. I remember drawing a breath then hesitating--what could I say? Come away with me? Stay with me?
LOVE LETTER FOR YOU: LET ME BE THE ONE
Let me be the one...That wakes up next to you each morning as the sun rises,Fills your life with wonderful surprises,Holds your hand when you're walking in the park,on the street, at work,or when we do what lovers do in the dark.Let me be the one...That holds you when you're feeling low and takes you to those places you always wanted to go. Let me be the one...that runs you a bath when you get home,and will just be there if you're feeling all alone,that massages your body whenever you're feeling tense, and listens to your woes, even if they don't make sense. I'll be your partner on the dance floor, and rub your feet whenever they feel sore. Let me be the one...that touches your body, so softly and intimately,and tells you now and then, just how much you mean to me,that loves you all so passionately,and will be yours, forever and eternally.Let me be the one...that goes to bed with you at night, I'd hold you real close... but not too tight.These are just a few things we could do,If you would, Let me be the one... for you!
If i have a dream or two, i want them all to be of you. Let fill my night with you in sight. I never want to leave your arms,...in my dreams i reminisce those words of love and your kiss. The days i know must have an end, but in a dream i depend they will be of you. When you leave and i will sleep in my dreams our love i'll keep. When i awake, the whole day through I think about those dreams of you. Until i hold you in my arms again your lips so close to mine, those dreams will have to do, those dreams are all of you.Let me fill the night with you in sight. Let me have my dreams of you.Let me reminisce the closeness of your lips, the thoughts of your kiss. I always have a dream or two, my dreams are all of you.In my tiny corner of the world. Where only you and I exist. Where my garden blooms just for you. There the orchards resemble our trust. The roses our contradicting love. I tender it just for you. I watch it bloom through you. Watch it blossom as our affections grow and await the day when we will be one. When we can sit under a flowery shade enjoying a sweet embrace and sharing a kiss in bliss..
If i have a dream or two, i want them all to be of you. Let fill my night with you in sight. I never want to leave your arms,...in my dreams i reminisce those words of love and your kiss. The days i know must have an end, but in a dream i depend they will be of you. When you leave and i will sleep in my dreams our love i'll keep. When i awake, the whole day through I think about those dreams of you. Until i hold you in my arms again your lips so close to mine, those dreams will have to do, those dreams are all of you.Let me fill the night with you in sight. Let me have my dreams of you.Let me reminisce the closeness of your lips, the thoughts of your kiss. I always have a dream or two, my dreams are all of you.In my tiny corner of the world. Where only you and I exist. Where my garden blooms just for you. There the orchards resemble our trust. The roses our contradicting love. I tender it just for you. I watch it bloom through you. Watch it blossom as our affections grow and await the day when we will be one. When we can sit under a flowery shade enjoying a sweet embrace and sharing a kiss in bliss..
LOVE LETTER: TAKE A WALK WITH ME
Would you like to take a walk with me?Just take my hand and leave with me to go outside where now it's winter time and we shiver and cuddle down inside our coats just a little further;and I hold your hand a little tighter and tuck your hand with mine into my coat pocket and pretend it's for warmth as I smile up at you, and we walk.Time passes by and we talk some,and laugh a lot and smile some and we sometimes just walk quietly a bit and listen to the silence between us speak volumes of caring and the enjoyment of "us". And I just look into your eyes, and see my smile to you mirrored back into mine.Soon we realize that so much time has gone by but it really was just an instant, wasn't it? Wasn't it!! Do we really have to turn around and go back? Will the time seem longer as we return? I pray it does, but no matter - we're here.When we return, we just smile and know how special that little bit of time was just you and me, smiling and laughing as we walked and shivered just a little in the cold but not feeling anything but the warmth between us as we walked along and just shared "you and me".If this could be, as I picture it here would you, Dear One, take a walk with me?Come, take my hand..just "you and me" 8-) I'd love for you to take a walk with me.
There are so many things I want to thank you for and when I think I have thought of them all, I suddenly think of more.So here is a list of some things, just a few to let you know a little, about what I think of you.I guess a good place to start is your lips, sweet and soft to the touch when pressed against mine no words are spoken, yet they say so much.Then we could go to your hands, that are so gentle and so kind.When you brush them against me, it sends chills down my spine..Continuing on with your heart, so sensitive yet so tough you always give me your time and understanding, when I need it so much.Then there are your ears, that listen to me every day no matter if I'm happy or crying, you hear what I have to say.Next there is your humor, and all your silly jokes.You can always make me smile or laugh, just when I need it the most.I must also mention your honesty, I know you'll never lie. You always make me so happy, it makes me want to cry.Now there is your patience with me, that seems to have no end and I love you for the fact that I can call you my best friend.Then there are your eyes, that can see deep within my heart. I know that we'll always be together, that we'll never have to part. I think you are so beautiful, in every little way.There is a million and one more things that I could still say.But I have one more thing that I will leave you withIt will just take some simple arithmetic...You + Me, and add in some 'Forever' and that = a lifetime we can share together
There are so many things I want to thank you for and when I think I have thought of them all, I suddenly think of more.So here is a list of some things, just a few to let you know a little, about what I think of you.I guess a good place to start is your lips, sweet and soft to the touch when pressed against mine no words are spoken, yet they say so much.Then we could go to your hands, that are so gentle and so kind.When you brush them against me, it sends chills down my spine..Continuing on with your heart, so sensitive yet so tough you always give me your time and understanding, when I need it so much.Then there are your ears, that listen to me every day no matter if I'm happy or crying, you hear what I have to say.Next there is your humor, and all your silly jokes.You can always make me smile or laugh, just when I need it the most.I must also mention your honesty, I know you'll never lie. You always make me so happy, it makes me want to cry.Now there is your patience with me, that seems to have no end and I love you for the fact that I can call you my best friend.Then there are your eyes, that can see deep within my heart. I know that we'll always be together, that we'll never have to part. I think you are so beautiful, in every little way.There is a million and one more things that I could still say.But I have one more thing that I will leave you withIt will just take some simple arithmetic...You + Me, and add in some 'Forever' and that = a lifetime we can share together
Sunday, June 15, 2014
PERSONAL: CHANGING THE PICTURE IN MY HEAD
We all have individual goals and aspirations that we want to achieve at different points in our lives.
We each have certain milestones we expect to happen by a certain age; by the time we turn 18, we expect to graduate high school, go to college and have a degree by age 22.Some of us also have a set picture in our minds of what our lives should look like.
I expect to date and marry someone only if she has “X” common interests, or comes from “X” cultural background. I also hope to live in “X” neighborhood and have “X” lifestyle. All I have to do next is take the necessary actions, and voila! All will fall into place… right?
Despite my best efforts, sometimes life doesn’t always go as anticipated and opportunities just don’t present themselves. Then I start thinking in “shoulds,” “musts” or “have tos.” For example, “I SHOULD have a family of my own by now; “I HAVE TO date someone who likes the same music as I do.” We place extra pressure on ourselves to make complete that image in our heads.
It’s pertinent to have an easygoing disposition because we have no idea what the future holds. Unfortunately, there is no way to predict it. Sometimes, surrendering to the unknown is our only option. Embarking on new territory can be frightening, but also freeing. We don’t always have control over what will happen to us or who will impact our lives, and that’s okay!
There are a million unexpected possibilities regarding what could go wrong. Perhaps a family member gets ill..or lime me..I got divorce. We all have experienced some type of obstacle or setback. Though these events may not be what you had predicted for your life, there is no use in feeling dejected or immobilized by them.
“It would be nice if I were in a relationship, but I am okay being single for now.” This is what I say to myself.. I notice I started to i became less rigid and less anxious. There’s no proof that my original assumptions about life would pan out, anyway. Who knows; the harsh realities of situations could lead to better circumstances and be more rewarding than your original dream. Changing the picture in my head isn’t settling or lowering your standards; it’s cutting myself some slack, rolling with the punches and being okay with plan B. It’s opening yourself up to a world of opportunity you never knew existed..like being in this site.I am opening my life new possibilities. Remember, “What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.”
We each have certain milestones we expect to happen by a certain age; by the time we turn 18, we expect to graduate high school, go to college and have a degree by age 22.Some of us also have a set picture in our minds of what our lives should look like.
I expect to date and marry someone only if she has “X” common interests, or comes from “X” cultural background. I also hope to live in “X” neighborhood and have “X” lifestyle. All I have to do next is take the necessary actions, and voila! All will fall into place… right?
Despite my best efforts, sometimes life doesn’t always go as anticipated and opportunities just don’t present themselves. Then I start thinking in “shoulds,” “musts” or “have tos.” For example, “I SHOULD have a family of my own by now; “I HAVE TO date someone who likes the same music as I do.” We place extra pressure on ourselves to make complete that image in our heads.
It’s pertinent to have an easygoing disposition because we have no idea what the future holds. Unfortunately, there is no way to predict it. Sometimes, surrendering to the unknown is our only option. Embarking on new territory can be frightening, but also freeing. We don’t always have control over what will happen to us or who will impact our lives, and that’s okay!
There are a million unexpected possibilities regarding what could go wrong. Perhaps a family member gets ill..or lime me..I got divorce. We all have experienced some type of obstacle or setback. Though these events may not be what you had predicted for your life, there is no use in feeling dejected or immobilized by them.
“It would be nice if I were in a relationship, but I am okay being single for now.” This is what I say to myself.. I notice I started to i became less rigid and less anxious. There’s no proof that my original assumptions about life would pan out, anyway. Who knows; the harsh realities of situations could lead to better circumstances and be more rewarding than your original dream. Changing the picture in my head isn’t settling or lowering your standards; it’s cutting myself some slack, rolling with the punches and being okay with plan B. It’s opening yourself up to a world of opportunity you never knew existed..like being in this site.I am opening my life new possibilities. Remember, “What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.”
Thursday, June 12, 2014
PERSONAL: TO BE DESIRED
All the bruised lives, searching hearts...Everyone wants a love story but few will risk what it takes to live one.To have a caring and committed heart toward someone—a heart so firm in its devotion as to sooner stop beating than neglect the object of its desire despite the person's state of health, appearance, reputation, finances, troubles, or challenges—that, dear world, is love. It is a rare find. There is something beautiful about watching two people lovingly act silly together; behaving as though no one else existed.How we take it for granted – those trivial conversations; those mundane moments that we think hold no meaning. We never realise how much we rely on the ordinariness of everyday life. When love is gone – when our entire world is gone – only then do we understand those moments are what we live for
Sometimes you want to stay with someone, not only because it's magic and it's promising and it feels like home; but sometimes you find someone and you want to stay with her—because you're the same kind of animal.Then there are the simple things. The way she fits against my side when we’re sitting together. How she can silence my addled thoughts with one look. The sound of my name from her lips. The way she can make a moment, any moment, a thousands times better when she is there. How the simplest pleasures in life become exciting with the promise of sharing the experience with her.Sometimes the best and worst times of your life can coincide. It is a talent of the soul to discover the joy in pain—-thinking of moments you long for, and knowing you’ll never have them again. The beautiful ghosts of our past haunt us and yet we still can’t decide if the pain they caused us out weighs the tender moments when they touched our soul. This is the irony of love
When you finally meet the right one for you, it suddenly becomes clear why everyone else was so wrong.All relationships are tough. Just like with music, sometimes you have harmony and other times you have cacophony. We are not written for one instrument alone; I am not, neither are you. It’s so evident to me now that just because someone is a great woman doesn’t guarantee we’ll make a great couple, no matter how much I work at it and want it. I don't want words, as seductive, pleasant and warming as they can be. I want to see that I am worth some sacrifice or some great deed. And it's not that people are always worth it, it's that love is.Love is . . . needing to be with this one person. No—it’s more like wanting to need to be with this one person. I remember my English professor long ago once read us this great Robert Frost quotation that went something like, ‘Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.In neuroscience, the brain scans of people newly in love look a lot like the brain scans of patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder. In each case, your dopamine is suppressing your serotonin
There comes a moment in life when one must acknowledge that you just can't keep looking back into your past for reasons to keep someone in your present and future. Regardless of how much looking that cruel reality in the eye hurts...memories can't be enough.You can never recover from losing a person you love, but you can find a way to let it be part of your life rather than letting it take over every part of you
Sometimes you want to stay with someone, not only because it's magic and it's promising and it feels like home; but sometimes you find someone and you want to stay with her—because you're the same kind of animal.Then there are the simple things. The way she fits against my side when we’re sitting together. How she can silence my addled thoughts with one look. The sound of my name from her lips. The way she can make a moment, any moment, a thousands times better when she is there. How the simplest pleasures in life become exciting with the promise of sharing the experience with her.Sometimes the best and worst times of your life can coincide. It is a talent of the soul to discover the joy in pain—-thinking of moments you long for, and knowing you’ll never have them again. The beautiful ghosts of our past haunt us and yet we still can’t decide if the pain they caused us out weighs the tender moments when they touched our soul. This is the irony of love
When you finally meet the right one for you, it suddenly becomes clear why everyone else was so wrong.All relationships are tough. Just like with music, sometimes you have harmony and other times you have cacophony. We are not written for one instrument alone; I am not, neither are you. It’s so evident to me now that just because someone is a great woman doesn’t guarantee we’ll make a great couple, no matter how much I work at it and want it. I don't want words, as seductive, pleasant and warming as they can be. I want to see that I am worth some sacrifice or some great deed. And it's not that people are always worth it, it's that love is.Love is . . . needing to be with this one person. No—it’s more like wanting to need to be with this one person. I remember my English professor long ago once read us this great Robert Frost quotation that went something like, ‘Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.In neuroscience, the brain scans of people newly in love look a lot like the brain scans of patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder. In each case, your dopamine is suppressing your serotonin
There comes a moment in life when one must acknowledge that you just can't keep looking back into your past for reasons to keep someone in your present and future. Regardless of how much looking that cruel reality in the eye hurts...memories can't be enough.You can never recover from losing a person you love, but you can find a way to let it be part of your life rather than letting it take over every part of you
PERSONAL: EVERY PERSON IS ATTRACTIVE
Every person is attractive to somebody. You are. I am. Jim Bob over there is, too. Every person is probably ugly to somebody, too. You are. I am. Jim Bob over there is, too. Don’t take it personally.
And, we all need to do ourselves a favor. We need to believe people when they tell us we’re beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or hunkalicious, especially when that someone is somebody that we think is beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or babealicious.
Because you know what? They probably really think so. They probably aren’t lying. They probably don’t give a damn that you don’t look like Pamela Anderson.
Being with you today is worth all the broken hearts of yesterday. In a flash, all of the stumbling blocks of relationships gone wrong have become the stepping stones to our perfect love.
We fit. I now understand the feeling I used to think was pain that came along with love was actually the discomfort from being in a place I didn’t fit.
Thank you for being you… for sharing your love with me… for inspiring me to accept myself… for helping me see the unique beauty in imperfection… for showing me that love is something you do; something not just to be said, but also to be shown.
I am not perfect; neither are you. I love that!
Our love is perfect. And even though we may not be, our love creates a bridge that spans over our imperfections and joins us where it matters.
I love you
And, we all need to do ourselves a favor. We need to believe people when they tell us we’re beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or hunkalicious, especially when that someone is somebody that we think is beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or babealicious.
Because you know what? They probably really think so. They probably aren’t lying. They probably don’t give a damn that you don’t look like Pamela Anderson.
Being with you today is worth all the broken hearts of yesterday. In a flash, all of the stumbling blocks of relationships gone wrong have become the stepping stones to our perfect love.
We fit. I now understand the feeling I used to think was pain that came along with love was actually the discomfort from being in a place I didn’t fit.
Thank you for being you… for sharing your love with me… for inspiring me to accept myself… for helping me see the unique beauty in imperfection… for showing me that love is something you do; something not just to be said, but also to be shown.
I am not perfect; neither are you. I love that!
Our love is perfect. And even though we may not be, our love creates a bridge that spans over our imperfections and joins us where it matters.
I love you
PERSONAL: SOULMATE
Soul Mate
When we are born, the soul we are given is split apart and half of it is given to someone else. Throughout our lives, we search for the person with the other half of our soul. Very few ever succeed.
I am blessed that we have met. In a sudden moment, warm within your loving glare, my soul said, “At last! I can rest. I have found my missing half.” When this happens, it is said we have found our soul mate. We are happy and at peace. When we shared ourselves, we were engulfed in eternity, dancing in a timeless universe. I am truly blessed because that day, my heart recognized you as a part of its own.
Thank you for blessing me with you. Thank you for dreaming with me - for seeing the same future as I do. For your beautiful eyes, reminding me of the truest bliss in life. I am forever grateful for you.
I will spend an eternity loving you, caring for you, respecting you, showing you every day that I hold you as high as the stars.
I am sorry that it’s taken me this long to find you – I shall make it up to you, my flower, as long as we live.
I love you!
When we are born, the soul we are given is split apart and half of it is given to someone else. Throughout our lives, we search for the person with the other half of our soul. Very few ever succeed.
I am blessed that we have met. In a sudden moment, warm within your loving glare, my soul said, “At last! I can rest. I have found my missing half.” When this happens, it is said we have found our soul mate. We are happy and at peace. When we shared ourselves, we were engulfed in eternity, dancing in a timeless universe. I am truly blessed because that day, my heart recognized you as a part of its own.
Thank you for blessing me with you. Thank you for dreaming with me - for seeing the same future as I do. For your beautiful eyes, reminding me of the truest bliss in life. I am forever grateful for you.
I will spend an eternity loving you, caring for you, respecting you, showing you every day that I hold you as high as the stars.
I am sorry that it’s taken me this long to find you – I shall make it up to you, my flower, as long as we live.
I love you!
PERSONAL: IF YOU CLOSE YOUR MIND TO THE ENDLESS POSSIBILITIES
Single life is the best life until you get hit by lonely nights.Holding people away from you, and denying yourself love, that doesn't make you strong. if anything, it makes you weaker. Because you're doing it out of fear.Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart
If you close your mind to the endless possibilities of dreams yet to be fulfilled, and allow your heart to grow cold, merely due to the fear of it being broken yet again . . . When the time is right, how will one then be able to see you for you & accept you for all that you are?
You will not know from where, exactly when, or even how. When it comes to happiness, it is what it is! It will be there without any notice at all ~ If you open your eyes & seek out that strength within you to continue forever forward, will yourself to carry on & allow yourself to be vulnerable, imagine the possibilities!
The pale colors of the horizon just prior to that evening storm will suddenly appear brighter! And as you find yourself gazing upon the leaves dancing in a whirlwind with all the debris and foliage amongst the trees . . . in that single moment, it's almost as if you could actually hear the wind whispering to your soul 'Let me in, I'm wanting only to warm your heart.
A relationship is one of those things that builds upon itself, incident upon incident. Words and gestures and phrases pile up, and in the end, they either make something that's strong and pleasing, or they're a sort of ramshackle mess and you know it's time to walk away. To me....having a relationship with people of questionable character is like playing with a razor blade on your skin, and pretending to observe that it is harmful to your body.The search for the soul mate, the perfect partner to complete you, is a bit like searching for the perfect food when you’ve got a giant ulcer in your stomach. No matter what you find, it will never be good enough.And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater.
May the way I look at you, the way I speak with you, and the way I treat you reflect the truth that... I have loved you since forever
If you close your mind to the endless possibilities of dreams yet to be fulfilled, and allow your heart to grow cold, merely due to the fear of it being broken yet again . . . When the time is right, how will one then be able to see you for you & accept you for all that you are?
You will not know from where, exactly when, or even how. When it comes to happiness, it is what it is! It will be there without any notice at all ~ If you open your eyes & seek out that strength within you to continue forever forward, will yourself to carry on & allow yourself to be vulnerable, imagine the possibilities!
The pale colors of the horizon just prior to that evening storm will suddenly appear brighter! And as you find yourself gazing upon the leaves dancing in a whirlwind with all the debris and foliage amongst the trees . . . in that single moment, it's almost as if you could actually hear the wind whispering to your soul 'Let me in, I'm wanting only to warm your heart.
A relationship is one of those things that builds upon itself, incident upon incident. Words and gestures and phrases pile up, and in the end, they either make something that's strong and pleasing, or they're a sort of ramshackle mess and you know it's time to walk away. To me....having a relationship with people of questionable character is like playing with a razor blade on your skin, and pretending to observe that it is harmful to your body.The search for the soul mate, the perfect partner to complete you, is a bit like searching for the perfect food when you’ve got a giant ulcer in your stomach. No matter what you find, it will never be good enough.And no relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater.
May the way I look at you, the way I speak with you, and the way I treat you reflect the truth that... I have loved you since forever
PERSONAL: WHY WOMAN DON'T WANT NICE GUYS: WANTS AND NEED
Most women go through life looking for love, and looking for someone to treat them like a queen. For some women finding real love seems to be something that will never happen. I believe that finding love is not as hard as people make it seem. The reason that some women can't find real love is because they look for more than just real love. A lot of women know what they need in a relationship, and thats for a man to love that woman with all of his heart, and to treat her real good. Most women have guys in their life or guys that try to get with them that could really love them and treat them real good. Those are usually the guys that get forced into that friend zone or rejected upfront. See those guys could give them what they need, but not what they want. “Wants” can be anything from a woman wanting a man to have certain materialistic things, or she could want him to look a certain way, those are a few examples of the things that some of them want, but they vary depending on the female. What some females don't understand is that none of the things that they want has anything with love or how that person will treat you. You could find a man that looks perfect, has a house and car, he can be a college graduate with a good job, and you could still end up being with a person that doesn't truly love you, and will treat you like shit. What I am trying to say is that the person who could treat you good and really love you could already be in your life, but you could have been blinded by the things you want in a man so you overlooked the person that you were really looking for. And by the way there are men that do the same thing; I just wanted to be clear on that
Real romance is not only about the love songs, the nice words or things that people do on special days to get you or impress you – it’s about a commitment of love. It’s being able to cook you a hot meal as often as necessary; cleaning up your puke at midnight and sitting at your side when you’re sick; going to an event that you don’t even like because your partner loves it; handling each other’s moods, their goals and desires and still being able to think they’re the best thing in the world
When it comes to love, your point of view, your imagination and your energy can carry you through anything. As you love, it will spill over to everyone and everything you encounter and beyond. There is no force imaginable that is more powerful than the act of love. Dear soulmate, Im gonna be a pretender the rest of my life. Pretending i dont wish every girl i kiss isnt you. Pretending i dont wish every girl i sleep with isnt you. Im gonna have to pretend i dont wish my next relationship wont be with you. Pretend that i dont wish the girl i get engaged to isnt you. Pretend i dont wish the girl i marry isnt you. Pretend i dont wish the mother of my kids to be you. Pretend its not you i want to spend the rest of my life with. Everything will be a lie the rest of my life. Thats so hard to accept
Real romance is not only about the love songs, the nice words or things that people do on special days to get you or impress you – it’s about a commitment of love. It’s being able to cook you a hot meal as often as necessary; cleaning up your puke at midnight and sitting at your side when you’re sick; going to an event that you don’t even like because your partner loves it; handling each other’s moods, their goals and desires and still being able to think they’re the best thing in the world
When it comes to love, your point of view, your imagination and your energy can carry you through anything. As you love, it will spill over to everyone and everything you encounter and beyond. There is no force imaginable that is more powerful than the act of love. Dear soulmate, Im gonna be a pretender the rest of my life. Pretending i dont wish every girl i kiss isnt you. Pretending i dont wish every girl i sleep with isnt you. Im gonna have to pretend i dont wish my next relationship wont be with you. Pretend that i dont wish the girl i get engaged to isnt you. Pretend i dont wish the girl i marry isnt you. Pretend i dont wish the mother of my kids to be you. Pretend its not you i want to spend the rest of my life with. Everything will be a lie the rest of my life. Thats so hard to accept
PERSONAL: EVERY HUMAN RELATIONSHIP BEGINS WITH A COINCIDENCE.
Every human relationship begins with a coincidence. Even the most fundamental relationship - that of parent and child - begins entirely with a coincidence. The child is produced by whatever serendipity brought its parents together, and the fact that the child was born to its particular parents instead of to another couple is pure happenstance. Thus, children have no choice over the relationship that is most important to their existence.By contrast, friends and lovers choose each other, but even these choices are reactions to whatever random coincidence made the resulting relationship possible
In this story.I am the poet.You're the poetry.Every person is a puzzle with a password. By solving the puzzle, the potential for emotional and physical intimacy is realized. Sensitive people like myself are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them. They remain the most compassionate people worth knowing and the ones that often become activists for the broken hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. I kept loving and loving and loving. Every waking hour, I marveled on how these moments would make made me feel. I wanted to love the world and be the change it so deliciously craved.Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows people to be comfortable
I was familiar with the little mating rituals of getting to know each other, of dragging out the stories from childhood, of having a portrait of yourself, all the while making yourself out to be a little brighter, a little more deep than deep down you knew you actually were. And though I hadn’t had more than three or four relationships, I already knew that each time the thrill of telling another the story of yourself wore off a little more, each time you threw yourself into it a little less, and grew more distrustful of an intimacy that always, in the end, failed to pass into true understanding. I am a nice guy and when a person thinks you are too good for them, they create a wall without even taking a chance. The best life that God has in store for a person is often thrown away because of what he or she thinks they deserve. True love is not the life you had, but the life you never realized you could have.For the woman who is meant for me..I love you with every little bit of everything that has ever consumed me and I will forever love you and forever find you in every life time and so on. Until the stars die out and the universe leaps but even then, my love will remain.Every broken piece of me fell on every broken piece of you and when I took the missing parts, like the emptiness of me I saw the emptiness of you and I poured my half upon you to fill you whole. I risked it all just to dream you complete and catch you one day free in the wild
In this story.I am the poet.You're the poetry.Every person is a puzzle with a password. By solving the puzzle, the potential for emotional and physical intimacy is realized. Sensitive people like myself are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them. They remain the most compassionate people worth knowing and the ones that often become activists for the broken hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. I kept loving and loving and loving. Every waking hour, I marveled on how these moments would make made me feel. I wanted to love the world and be the change it so deliciously craved.Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows people to be comfortable
I was familiar with the little mating rituals of getting to know each other, of dragging out the stories from childhood, of having a portrait of yourself, all the while making yourself out to be a little brighter, a little more deep than deep down you knew you actually were. And though I hadn’t had more than three or four relationships, I already knew that each time the thrill of telling another the story of yourself wore off a little more, each time you threw yourself into it a little less, and grew more distrustful of an intimacy that always, in the end, failed to pass into true understanding. I am a nice guy and when a person thinks you are too good for them, they create a wall without even taking a chance. The best life that God has in store for a person is often thrown away because of what he or she thinks they deserve. True love is not the life you had, but the life you never realized you could have.For the woman who is meant for me..I love you with every little bit of everything that has ever consumed me and I will forever love you and forever find you in every life time and so on. Until the stars die out and the universe leaps but even then, my love will remain.Every broken piece of me fell on every broken piece of you and when I took the missing parts, like the emptiness of me I saw the emptiness of you and I poured my half upon you to fill you whole. I risked it all just to dream you complete and catch you one day free in the wild
PERSONAL: EVERY ROMANCE TURNS INTO A NEGOTIATION
I'd been around the block enough to know that sooner or later every romance turns into a negotiation. It's a matter of give and take. Give too little and you breed resentments, take too little and you start feeling used. How does a candlelight dinner stack up against changing the oil in her car? It is not your job to rearrange your whole life for someone you love when they won’t even try or give you a sign of their love in return. Love is proved by two people, not one. God might bring the right person into your life, but he can’t force them to meet you half way. He can only plant a whisper in their heart and a vision in their mind of a life they could have, if they have the courage to believe that there are no such things as coincidences.
Maybe that's what love is. Having someone who guides you through different experiences, coaxes you to try news things but still makes you feel safe.There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.My dear, if heaven is truly a place, then it is situated in your heart, that special place, that was reserved for me.The state of sharing a deep bond with a lover initiates changes in you, going far beyond the plain gift of what happens when you're together. Seeing that effect on myself every day, even during the times I was alone, I wanted to put a name to this special state when the loved one is not even near but still changes everything inside and around me, and I came up with these few words – having been granted the authorization to wait!
Let us find someone who will never break our heart, who will always be there for us, who will make us happy all the time, who will respect, love and cherish us in everything, and we can't go far in the search because such personality is within us, not in the world we are living now! i know there are thousands of woman out there who are looking for someone like me, why should I get upset with those who doesn't deserve me and my love? When I give, it does not come with strings. I’m not keeping track of what you owe me. When I give, I choose to do so without ulterior motives. I give because I know what it’s like to be without. To long for and be ignored; to speak and not be heard; to care for and have nothing returned. When I give it’s because I know the value in what I have in my heart. And I refuse to let the world stop me from sharing that, But when things start being taken for granted, When you no longer appreciate my sincerity, I won’t switch, I won’t get angry, and I won’t be spiteful. I’ll just get smart, and change your role in my life. Because when I give, I’m all in. But when I’m done, there’s no turning back.
Maybe that's what love is. Having someone who guides you through different experiences, coaxes you to try news things but still makes you feel safe.There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.My dear, if heaven is truly a place, then it is situated in your heart, that special place, that was reserved for me.The state of sharing a deep bond with a lover initiates changes in you, going far beyond the plain gift of what happens when you're together. Seeing that effect on myself every day, even during the times I was alone, I wanted to put a name to this special state when the loved one is not even near but still changes everything inside and around me, and I came up with these few words – having been granted the authorization to wait!
Let us find someone who will never break our heart, who will always be there for us, who will make us happy all the time, who will respect, love and cherish us in everything, and we can't go far in the search because such personality is within us, not in the world we are living now! i know there are thousands of woman out there who are looking for someone like me, why should I get upset with those who doesn't deserve me and my love? When I give, it does not come with strings. I’m not keeping track of what you owe me. When I give, I choose to do so without ulterior motives. I give because I know what it’s like to be without. To long for and be ignored; to speak and not be heard; to care for and have nothing returned. When I give it’s because I know the value in what I have in my heart. And I refuse to let the world stop me from sharing that, But when things start being taken for granted, When you no longer appreciate my sincerity, I won’t switch, I won’t get angry, and I won’t be spiteful. I’ll just get smart, and change your role in my life. Because when I give, I’m all in. But when I’m done, there’s no turning back.
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