LOVE: THE DATE ENVELOPE

So when I finally in a good relationship...I thought of a good idea for dating

A basket holds 12 envelopes.  Each labeled with a month of the year.  And each envelope contains a pre-planned, (mostly) pre-paid date just for us.  Some of the dates will take place at home, some are planned for the local area, and some will take us into town.  All 12 dates are different.  Several, actually nearly all of the dates are things we have never done before.

The plan is to open the envelope together at the beginning of the month, look at the calendar and decide on a date.  So right from the beginning of the month, we'll have a fun date on the calendar to look forward to.

the date envelope

POETRY: HERE'S TO THE ONE I TRULY LOVE

Here's to the one I truly love,
the one I truly trust,
the one I?d live and die for
and the one who puts up with me
day in and day out...
How you do it, I may never know
but, what I do know is,

I truly love you with
all my might,
   all my glory,
      all my mind,
         all my body,
            all my heart and
               all my soul.

I love you for who you are,
who you want to be and for how you will be.
I love you for being there when I need you most,
even though I don't open up to you.
I love you too much for words to describe
or for pictures to show.

You are that special someone,
the special someone I am lucky to have met.
Though it hurts not to be able to be with you,
it's to my comfort to know you love me.

This is to you, the one I truly love.




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Beauty , I do
    I married, always cherish
               
           Beauty is you
  It's the way your soul sparkles
          on a rainy day
    And when we lay in bed, warm
     when it's 20 below outside
 
       Beauty , is coming home
    2 a smile, 2 a hand of peace
  2 arms of love , 2 all in my life

 Beauty, is somthing that begins inside
    I thank you, 4 opening my eye's
         2 a beauty so divine

Honey, baby, Beauty is combing your hair
 while we watch the late night matinee
      Beauty, is the inspiration
  I receive from you 2 write this song
 And if I was blind, It wouldn't matter
Because the beauty I feel, is coming from
    the light inside your divine soul
 Only God  knows truly, but I'm planning
        2 do the best 2 return
   All the beauty ,I've found in you




3


Nothing can describe the way you look right now
In the candlelight
Except maybe the warm bask of an angel
The innocent presence of a sleeping child
The heart-warming smile of a little puppy
The calming waves of the ocean
The steady sway of the trees
The inspiring shapes of the clouds
Or the uncontrollable beat of my heart
And if you smile at me now
I think it will collapse




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I need your love, I can?t explain,
Your touch eases my every pain.
It seems you?re always on my mind,
Without your sweet love, my heart is blind.
I just can?t get enough of how you make me feel,
The sound of your voice is what lets me heal.
I know you have the nicest moves,
The throbbing in my chest, your kiss soothes.
I can count on you to always be there,
My every sickness you can repair.
The day that you?re my wife
Will remove that stabbing knife.
Do you see? You?re my cure.

POETRY: YOUR KISS

1

Twinkle, twinkle little star
Tell me where's my love tonight.
Tell me who, tell me where.
Twinkle, twinkle little star,

How come you look so sad
On this bright, shiny night?
What will happen tommorow night?
The world is resting while you are watching
Keep me safe and keep me warm.
Give me dreams and make them true.




2

Love saves in turbulent times
   of life's unpredictable moments
   And rescues from dangers
   of life's undetectable changes
Love reveals lost identity
   in figment of imaginations
   And traces elapsed memories
   in lonely pools of sadness
Love delivers from insidious enemies
   in perfidious paths of life
   And fills the souls with
   endless possibilities beyond mind's eye
Love fills the heart with
   indestructible pride and boldness
   And revives the forgotten
   hopes and dreams before its dawn
Love is all we ever live
   to desire and aspire
   To transform our hearts in life's
   diverse streams of pain and pleasure



3

if you were a teardrop in my eye
for fear of losing you i would never cry
and if the golden sun should cease to shine its light
just one smile from you would make my whole world bright
when leaves have fallen from the trees
and the sky has filled up with storm
just the thought of your gentle touch
is enough to keep me warm
when the moon up in the sky
shines a faint blue light
memories of times we shared
will keep me from sleep at night
if i only had the courage to speak these words to you
every one is from the heart and couldn't be more true!

     



4

With one soft touch,
You had me wrapped around your little finger.
My devotion...
You had it from the start.
A companionship of pure illusion.
An experience like no other in the past.
Your subtle, charming ways leave me breathless.
All at once I find myself pushing you away,
But deep inside hoping, praying that maybe this time it will last.
Never can I find the words to express what I feel.
You've brought happiness into my life by showing me where to find it.
As expected there is pain,
But joy is never far behind.
Emotion once restrained no longer stays in hiding.
Indecision screams at me saying this couldn't be real.
Somehow my heart knows it is not true.
I often ask God why I deserve a friend like you.
Someone who makes me feel so whole,
Makes everything that once caused me so much pain feel clean, new.
The answer to this question I may never know.
They say nothing lasts forever,
But friend, my heart could never let you go.



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Here we are, you and me,
                  For you and I were meant to be.
                      Here we are, all alone
               In this place I like to call my home.

                      Here we are, sitting down,
                 Both with smiles, none with frowns.
                  Here we are thinking of what to do,
                    Then you say, "Come here,."

                    Here we are, kissing each other
                   All alone with no one to bother.
                        Here we are, on my bed
                And I am thinking, "What's in my head?"

                      Here we are, making love,
              Knowing that we were both sent from above.

                      Here We are, Kissing Again
                All alone and not surrounded by friends
                       Here we are, you and me
                 Loving each other for all ETERNITY.


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When you press your lips to mine
With a love so pure, so genuine
The feelings you arouse I can't resist
Sensual emotions, the power of just one kiss

The way you look into my eyes
The way our bodies harmonize
The caressing motion of an endless ocean
Sailing us away into infinity
I become you, you become me

As I lie in your embrace
The look of beauty upon your face
The yearning of my heart, the burning desire
The longing to be a part of you forever
The feelings you arouse I can't resist
Sensual emotions, the power of just one kiss

     

LOVE LETTER FOR YOU: MY BELOVED, WHEN I MET YOU....

My beloved, when I met you, I knew you  though not your face, not your body, not your laugh, not your smile.not the you that is standing before me. My beloved, when I met you, I knew you the true and quiet you, the one whose face touches dear to me, a feeling that is much like a delicate caress.My beloved, when I met you, I knew you the essence of you that was emitted somehow through the sparkle in the deep warm melting of your eyes. My beloved, when I met you, I knew you  by the way your soul reached through all the barriers life caused me to erect calming me, loving me, comforting me. My beloved, when I met you, I knew you because I finally found the one food that could sustain me, love me, keep me and make me weep in brilliant joy.My beloved, when I met you, I knew you  because my soul and your soul finally found each other. I've been waiting for what seems like forever...I glance in your direction, you're such a precious treasure.Longing to hold you... to feel your warm embrace...and to be the cause of the smile upon your face.I want to share a lifetime with another, and the other, that I want to spend forever with, is you...I just want to be happy... and content with everything, and only you can cause that here... the happiness I need.


When I tell you that I love you, I hope you don't take these words for granted,For they come from the heart, my heart,A place where I hold you dearly.All my life I wondered if there would ever be a girl for me,Then you came into my life.From the first time I laid my eyes on you.I knew I was in love with you,I knew I had found the one and only girl for me. God has sent me an angel to love and care for me.You are my guardian angel.I never want to lose you.I don't know where I'd be without you.I think about you all the time.I think about all the things that I want to do with you.When I hold you close to me,I never want to let go, because if I did,I wouldn't know where I'd go when I can't see,For I am blind without you.With your beautiful  eyes You give me the sight to see the light.Your beauty, the courage you give me, and the reassurance of your love for me are what keep me going. If you were to cry a tear for me,Make sure it's a tear of happiness,For sadness in you brings sadness in me.We may disagree at times,But in the end it all turns out fine.So when I say these seven words,I will love you forever and always,It's because I love and care about you,Because I want to be with you for the rest of my life.There's no one who could ever change the way I feel about you.You are the only one for me, and I love you.

JOURNAL: THE ANNIVER. OF GHOSTBUSTER AND OJ RUNAWAY.

Where did all the time go? I remember exactly where I was at those two events. I can close my eyes and I am there again. I wish I did things differently....appreciate just everything about those moments.

ARTICLE: Study Asserts Startling Numbers of Insider Trading Rogues By ANDREW ROSS SORKIN

There is often a tip.

Before many big mergers and acquisitions, word leaks out to select investors who seek to covertly trade on the information. Stocks and options move in unusual ways that aren’t immediately clear. Then news of the deals crosses the ticker, surprising everyone except for those already in the know. Sometimes the investor is found out and is prosecuted, sometimes not.

That’s what everyone suspects, though until now the evidence has been largely anecdotal.

Now, a groundbreaking new study finally puts what we’ve instinctively thought into hard numbers — and the truth is worse than we imagined.

A quarter of all public company deals may involve some kind of insider trading, according to the study by two professors at the Stern School of Business at New York University and one professor from McGill University. The study, perhaps the most detailed and exhaustive of its kind, examined hundreds of transactions from 1996 through the end of 2012.

The professors examined stock option movements — when an investor buys an option to acquire a stock in the future at a set price — as a way of determining whether unusual activity took place in the 30 days before a deal’s announcement.

The results are persuasive and disturbing, suggesting that law enforcement is woefully behind — or perhaps is so overwhelmed that it simply looks for the most egregious examples of insider trading, or for prominent targets who can attract headlines.

The professors are so confident in their findings of pervasive insider trading that they determined statistically that the odds of the trading “arising out of chance” were “about three in a trillion.” (It’s easier, in other words, to hit the lottery.)

But, the professors conclude, the Securities and Exchange Commission litigated only “about 4.7 percent of the 1,859 M.&A. deals included in our sample.”

The S.E.C. and the Justice Department have publicly made prosecuting insider trading a priority. Judging from the headlines about traders at Steven A. Cohen’s hedge fund or the hedge fund manager Raj Rajaratnam or the investigation involving the activist investor Carl C. Icahn, they do appear to be focused on it. The S.E.C. recently hired Palantir Technologies, a firm that has helped the government analyze data to find terrorists, to help it uncover illegal trading activity. And with the mini-merger boom — the first quarter of merger activity this year was the most active since 2007, according to Mergermarket — there should be fresh evidence of more insider trading.

Yet if history is any guide, based on the results of the study over 16 years, the government has a lot of catching up to do.

The professors found that “it takes the S.E.C., on average, 756 days to publicly announce its first litigation action in a given case. Thus, assuming that the litigation releases coincide approximately with the actual initiations of investigations, it takes the S.E.C. a bit more than two years, on average, to prosecute a rogue trade.” The average “rogue trade” the professors found, was worth about $1.6 million.

A spokeswoman for the S.E.C. had no immediate comment.

The professors — Menachem Brenner and Marti G. Subrahmanyam at N.Y.U. and Patrick Augustin at McGill — began their study, which won the Investor Responsibility Research Center Institute’s annual investor research competition, two years ago.

“We became intrigued by reports of a number of illegal insider trading cases in options ahead of takeover announcements, in particular, the leveraged buyout of Heinz by Warren Buffett and 3G Capital,” Professor Augustin said in a statement. In that case, two Brazilian brothers were caught using inside information on that deal to trade options ahead of the announcement through a SwissGoldman Sachs brokerage account owned by an entity based in the Cayman Islands. The men were fined $5 million.

“The statistical evidence we present is consistent with informed trading strategies, and is too strong to be dismissed as just random speculation,” Professor Augustin said.

The study found that “informed trading is more pervasive in cases of target firms receiving cash offers.” The professors surmise that is because cash deals are more definitive and stock deals are harder to bet on.

The professors found that the bigger the deal and the more trading volume in the stock of the target company, the more likely there will be insider trading. “Over all, our interpretation of the evidence is that informed traders are more likely to trade on their private information when the anticipated abnormal stock price performance upon announcement is larger and when they have the opportunity to hide their trades due to greater liquidly of the target companies.”

The study also found, perhaps surprisingly, that there weren’t more leaks to investors based on the number of advisers — bankers and lawyers — involved in the deal. The professors had expected to find a correlation, and other studies have shown that there can be more leaks to the media when more advisers are involved. But the data, the professors said, was “not statistically significant.”

Of the deals the S.E.C. pursued, the professors found that the agency usually investigated cases of insider trading when deals had been completed and often missed those in transactions that later collapsed.

“Completed deals are strong predictors of options litigation, as a withdrawn or rumored deal is about 22 times less likely to be investigated,” the professors found.

“The S.E.C., being resource-constrained, pursues larger-sized cases that provide the biggest ‘bang for the buck’ from a regulatory perspective.”

Perhaps oddly, the professors say that the S.E.C. is more inclined to pursue cases involving a foreign buyer than a domestic one.

The professors also suggested that the S.E.C. may be looking in the wrong place when it comes to insider trading.

The S.E.C., according to the study’s findings, found “102 unique cases involving insider trading in options ahead of M.&A.’s from January 1990 to December 2013, with an average of about four cases per year.” The study found that the S.E.C., though, is more focused strictly on stock trading, not options: “We find 207 M.&A. transactions investigated in civil litigations because of insider trading in stock only.”

The professors concluded, “The large number of investigations for stock trades relative to option trades stands in contrast to our finding of pervasive abnormal call option trading volumes that are relatively greater than the abnormal stock volumes.”

While we all may have suspected that insider trading was going on, who knew it was this pervasive?

PERSONAL: I AM NOT LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE

I've always had this deep-down conviction that I'm not like everybody else, and there's an amazingly exciting new life waiting for me just around the corner Things end. People leave. And you know what? Life goes on. Besides, if bad things didn't happen, how would you be able to feel the good ones?.Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me. Perhaps I've spent too long in the company of watching romantic movies and consequently my ideals and expectations are far too high. I know the person that I will end up with won't be perfect, she might hate movies, she might not have blond hair, she might too strong, but when I put those things together with the rest of her, it makes her into the most perfectly imperfect woman I’ve ever known.

To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved. .Only love of a good woman will make a man question every choice, every action. Only love makes a warrior hesitate for fear that his lady will find him cruel. Only love makes a man both the best he will ever be, and the weakest. Sometimes all in the same moment. And then there are the rare ones who know love, who understand it. Who freely give of themselves, demanding only a return of that love,that trust.When I am an old man and I can remember nothing else, I will remember that moment. The first time my eyes beheld an angel in the flesh...which was you..I will remember your body and your eyes, your beautiful face and breasts, I will remember your scent and your touch and how it felt to love you. But most of all, I will remember how it felt to gaze at true beauty, both inside and out. For you are fair, my beloved, in soul and in body, generous of spirit and generous of heart. And I will never see anything this side of heaven more beautiful than you. I want to find a goddess that I can be with and you might think you are not one, but you are. A goddess, a princess, a queen. As a soldier, I pledge myself to your service. As a prince, I grant you any boon within my power. As a man, I ask to sit at your feet and worship you. Ask me to do anything for you and I will do it.I have so much love for you, I could fill rooms with it. Buildings. You’re surrounded by it wherever you go, you walk through it, breathe it...it’s in your lungs, and under your tongue, and between your fingers and toes..When you decide you want to be with someone forever, you want forever to start right now.There are some experiences in life they haven't invented the right words for. Love is not a choice. Love is a thirst. A need as vital to the soul as water is to the body. Love is a precious draught that not only soothes a parched throat, but it vitalizes a man. It fortifies him enough that he is willing to slay dragons for the woman who offers it

THOUGHTS: THE TRUTH ABOUT ROMEO AND JULIET.

I used to think Romeo and Juliet was the greatest love story ever written. But now that I’m middle-aged, I know better. Oh, Romeo certainly thinks he loves his Juliet. Driven by hormones, he unquestionably lusts for her. But if he loves her, it’s a shallow love. You want proof? Soon after meeting her for the first time, he realizes he forgot to ask her for her name. Can true love be founded upon such shallow acquaintance? I don’t think so. And at the end, when he thinks she’s dead, he finds no comfort in living out the remainder of his life within the paradigm of his love, at least keeping alive the memory of what they had briefly shared, even if it was no more than illusion, or more accurately, hormonal. Yes, those of us watching events unfold from the darkness know she merely lies in slumber. But does he seek the reason for her life-like appearance? No. Instead he accuses Death of amorousness, convinced that the ‘lean abhorred monster’ endeavors to keep Juliet in her present state, cheeks flushed, so that she might cater to his own dissolute desires. But does Romeo hold her in his arms one last time and feel the warmth of her blood still coursing through her veins? Does he pinch her to see if she might awaken? Does he hold a mirror to her nose to see if her breath fogs it? Once, twice, three times a ‘no.’ His alleged love is so superficial and so selfish that he seeks to escape the pain of loss by taking his own life. That’s not love, but infatuation. Had they wed―Juliet bearing many children, bonding, growing together, the masks of the star-struck teens they once were long ago cast away, basking in the love born of a lifetime together―and she died of natural causes, would Romeo have been so moved to take his own life, or would he have grieved properly for her loss and not just his own.

LOVE: COME AWAY WITH ME

It slowly began to dawn on me that I had been staring at her for an impossible amount of time. Lost in my thoughts, lost in the sight of her. But her face didn't look offended or amused. It almost looked as if she were studying the lines of my face, almost as if she were waiting. I wanted to take her hand. I wanted to brush her cheek with my fingertips. I wanted to tell her that she was the first beautiful thing that I had seen in three years. The sight of her yawning to the back of her hand was enough to drive the breath from me. How I sometimes lost the sense of her words in the sweet fluting of her voice. I wanted to say that if she were with me then somehow nothing could ever be wrong for me again. In that breathless second I almost asked her. I felt the question boiling up from my chest. I remember drawing a breath then hesitating--what could I say? Come away with me? Stay with me?

LOVE LETTER FOR YOU: LET ME BE THE ONE

Let me be the one...That wakes up next to you each morning as the sun rises,Fills your life with wonderful surprises,Holds your hand when you're walking in the park,on the street, at work,or when we do what lovers do in the dark.Let me be the one...That holds you when you're feeling low and takes you to those places you always wanted to go. Let me be the one...that runs you a bath when you get home,and will just be there if you're feeling all alone,that massages your body whenever you're feeling tense, and listens to your woes, even if they don't make sense. I'll be your partner on the dance floor, and rub your feet whenever they feel sore. Let me be the one...that touches your body, so softly and intimately,and tells you now and then, just how much you mean to me,that loves you all so passionately,and will be yours, forever and eternally.Let me be the one...that goes to bed with you at night, I'd hold you real close... but not too tight.These are just a few things we could do,If you would, Let me be the one... for you!

If i have a dream or two, i want them all to be of you. Let fill my night with you in sight. I never want to leave your arms,...in my dreams i reminisce those words of love and your kiss. The days i know must have an end, but in a dream i depend they will be of you. When you leave and i will sleep in my dreams our love i'll keep. When i awake, the whole day through  I think about those dreams of you. Until i hold you in my arms again your lips so close to mine, those dreams will have to do, those dreams are all of you.Let me fill the night with you in sight. Let me have my dreams of you.Let me reminisce the closeness of your lips, the thoughts of your kiss. I always have a dream or two, my dreams are all of you.In my tiny corner of the world. Where only you and I exist. Where my garden blooms just for you. There the orchards resemble our trust. The roses our contradicting love. I tender it just for you. I watch it bloom through you. Watch it blossom as our affections grow and await the day when we will be one. When we can sit under a flowery shade enjoying a sweet embrace and sharing a kiss in bliss..

LOVE LETTER: TAKE A WALK WITH ME

Would you like to take a walk with me?Just take my hand and leave with me to go outside where now it's winter time and we shiver and cuddle down inside our coats just a little further;and I hold your hand a little tighter and tuck your hand with mine into my coat pocket and pretend it's for warmth as I smile up at you, and we walk.Time passes by and we talk some,and laugh a lot and smile some and we sometimes just walk quietly a bit and listen to the silence between us speak volumes of caring and the enjoyment of "us". And I just look into your eyes, and see my smile to you mirrored back into mine.Soon we realize that so much time has gone by but it really was just an instant, wasn't it? Wasn't it!! Do we really have to turn around and go back? Will the time seem longer as we return? I pray it does, but no matter - we're here.When we return, we just smile and know how special that little bit of time was just you and me, smiling and laughing as we walked and shivered just a little in the cold but not feeling anything but the warmth between us as we walked along and just shared "you and me".If this could be, as I picture it here would you, Dear One, take a walk with me?Come, take my hand..just "you and me" 8-) I'd love for you to take a walk with me.

There are so many things I want to thank you for and when I think I have thought of them all, I suddenly think of more.So here is a list of some things, just a few to let you know a little, about what I think of you.I guess a good place to start is your lips, sweet and soft to the touch when pressed against mine no words are spoken, yet they say so much.Then we could go to your hands, that are so gentle and so kind.When you brush them against me, it sends chills down my spine..Continuing on with your heart, so sensitive yet so tough you always give me your time and understanding, when I need it so much.Then there are your ears, that listen to me every day no matter if I'm happy or crying, you hear what I have to say.Next there is your humor, and all your silly jokes.You can always make me smile or laugh, just when I need it the most.I must also mention your honesty, I know you'll never lie. You always make me so happy, it makes me want to cry.Now there is your patience with me, that seems to have no end and I love you for the fact that I can call you my best friend.Then there are your eyes, that can see deep within my heart. I know that we'll always be together, that we'll never have to part. I think you are so beautiful, in every little way.There is a million and one more things that I could still say.But I have one more thing that I will leave you withIt will just take some simple arithmetic...You + Me, and add in some 'Forever' and that = a lifetime we can share together

PERSONAL: CHANGING THE PICTURE IN MY HEAD

We all have individual goals and aspirations that we want to achieve at different points in our lives.

We each have certain milestones we expect to happen by a certain age; by the time we turn 18, we expect to graduate high school, go to college and have a degree by age 22.Some of us also have a set picture in our minds of what our lives should look like.

I expect to date and marry someone only if she has “X” common interests,  or comes from “X” cultural background. I also hope to live in “X” neighborhood and have “X” lifestyle. All I have to do next is take the necessary actions, and voila! All will fall into place… right?

Despite my best efforts, sometimes life doesn’t always go as anticipated and opportunities just don’t present themselves. Then I start thinking in “shoulds,” “musts” or “have tos.” For example, “I SHOULD have a family of my own by now; “I HAVE TO date someone who likes the same music as I do.” We place extra pressure on ourselves to make complete that image in our heads.
It’s pertinent to have an easygoing disposition because we have no idea what the future holds. Unfortunately, there is no way to predict it. Sometimes, surrendering to the unknown is our only option. Embarking on new territory can be frightening, but also freeing. We don’t always have control over what will happen to us or who will impact our lives, and that’s okay!

There are a million unexpected possibilities regarding what could go wrong. Perhaps a family member gets ill..or lime me..I got divorce. We all have experienced some type of obstacle or setback. Though these events may not be what you had predicted for your life, there is no use in feeling dejected or immobilized by them.

“It would be nice if I were in a relationship, but I am okay being single for now.” This is what I say to myself.. I notice I started to i became less rigid and less anxious. There’s no proof that my original assumptions about life would pan out, anyway. Who knows; the harsh realities of situations could lead to better circumstances and be more rewarding than your original dream. Changing the picture in my head isn’t settling or lowering your standards; it’s cutting myself some slack, rolling with the punches and being okay with plan B. It’s opening yourself up to a world of opportunity you never knew existed..like being in this site.I am opening my life new possibilities. Remember, “What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.”

PERSONAL: TO BE DESIRED

All the bruised lives, searching hearts...Everyone wants a love story but few will risk what it takes to live one.To have a caring and committed heart toward someone—a heart so firm in its devotion as to sooner stop beating than neglect the object of its desire despite the person's state of health, appearance, reputation, finances, troubles, or challenges—that, dear world, is love. It is a rare find. There is something beautiful about watching two people lovingly act silly together; behaving as though no one else existed.How we take it for granted – those trivial conversations; those mundane moments that we think hold no meaning. We never realise how much we rely on the ordinariness of everyday life. When love is gone – when our entire world is gone – only then do we understand those moments are what we live for


Sometimes you want to stay with someone, not only because it's magic and it's promising and it feels like home; but sometimes you find someone and you want to stay with her—because you're the same kind of animal.Then there are the simple things. The way she fits against my side when we’re sitting together. How she can silence my addled thoughts with one look. The sound of my name from her lips. The way she can make a moment, any moment, a thousands times better when she is there. How the simplest pleasures in life become exciting with the promise of sharing the experience with her.Sometimes the best and worst times of your life can coincide. It is a talent of the soul to discover the joy in pain—-thinking of moments you long for, and knowing you’ll never have them again. The beautiful ghosts of our past haunt us and yet we still can’t decide if the pain they caused us out weighs the tender moments when they touched our soul. This is the irony of love


When you finally meet the right one for you, it suddenly becomes clear why everyone else was so wrong.All relationships are tough. Just like with music, sometimes you have harmony and other times you have cacophony. We are not written for one instrument alone; I am not, neither are you. It’s so evident to me now that just because someone is a great woman doesn’t guarantee we’ll make a great couple, no matter how much I work at it and want it. I don't want words, as seductive, pleasant and warming as they can be. I want to see that I am  worth some sacrifice or some great deed. And it's not that people are always worth it, it's that love is.Love is . . . needing to be with this one person. No—it’s more like wanting to need to be with this one person. I remember my English professor long ago  once read us this great Robert Frost quotation that went something like, ‘Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.In neuroscience, the brain scans of people newly in love look a lot like the brain scans of patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder. In each case, your dopamine is suppressing your serotonin

There comes a moment in life when one must acknowledge that you just can't keep looking back into your past for reasons to keep someone in your present and future. Regardless of how much looking that cruel reality in the eye hurts...memories can't be enough.You can never recover from losing a person you love, but you can find a way to let it be part of your life rather than letting it take over every part of you

PERSONAL: EVERY PERSON IS ATTRACTIVE

Every person is attractive to somebody. You are. I am. Jim Bob over there is, too. Every person is probably ugly to somebody, too. You are. I am. Jim Bob over there is, too. Don’t take it personally.

And, we all need to do ourselves a favor. We need to believe people when they tell us we’re beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or hunkalicious, especially when that someone is somebody that we think is beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or babealicious.

Because you know what? They probably really think so. They probably aren’t lying. They probably don’t give a damn that you don’t look like Pamela Anderson.

Being with you today is worth all the broken hearts of yesterday. In a flash, all of the stumbling blocks of relationships gone wrong have become the stepping stones to our perfect love.

We fit. I now understand the feeling I used to think was pain that came along with love was actually the discomfort from being in a place I didn’t fit.

Thank you for being you… for sharing your love with me… for inspiring me to accept myself… for helping me see the unique beauty in imperfection… for showing me that love is something you do; something not just to be said, but also to be shown.

I am not perfect; neither are you. I love that!

Our love is perfect. And even though we may not be, our love creates a bridge that spans over our imperfections and joins us where it matters.

I love you

PERSONAL: SOULMATE

Soul Mate

When we are born, the soul we are given is split apart and half of it is given to someone else. Throughout our lives, we search for the person with the other half of our soul. Very few ever succeed.

I am blessed that we have met. In a sudden moment, warm within your loving glare, my soul said, “At last! I can rest. I have found my missing half.” When this happens, it is said we have found our soul mate. We are happy and at peace. When we shared ourselves, we were engulfed in eternity, dancing in a timeless universe. I am truly blessed because that day, my heart recognized you as a part of its own.

Thank you for blessing me with you. Thank you for dreaming with me - for seeing the same future as I do. For your beautiful eyes, reminding me of the truest bliss in life. I am forever grateful for you.

I will spend an eternity loving you, caring for you, respecting you, showing you every day that I hold you as high as the stars.

I am sorry that it’s taken me this long to find you – I shall make it up to you, my flower, as long as we live.

I love you!