Thursday, November 28, 2013
Wednesday, November 27, 2013
PERSONAL: WHERE ARE YOU?
I feel you beside me,but turn around to find no one there.Your presence is near, but you are only God knows where.At times I wish I could have you near, just so I may kiss your tears away and say,"everything will be ok".At times I just want you to be here and comfort me when all isn't right, and then we both tuck away to bed, asleep in our arms just where we should be,Feeling we could stay that way for eternity.I know where I want you, But know you can't be for there is a reason greater than me. Why do you have my heart, why is it you? Oh angel of mine, please stay pure of heart and pure of body 'til I can be with you again in time.
LOVE: LOVE IS LIKE
Love is like an onion, layered and protected from sudden consumption.First, the outside looking in, you see it hard and solid,but a protected treasure is hidden away.Soon, your desires force you to peel back the first layer and the shell breaks; you find more silky layers and begin your journey.You soon notice the detailed lines;for the fine composition you develop a sudden admiration and you find familiarity.Soon, you see even more silky layers; iridescence fills your senses, alive with wonder,and soon your desire leads you to a center and sweet aromas give you pleasure.Consumed with desire, you take a first bite, and then another,repeating the act to fill your body with the sweet taste of the flesh and you learn to indulge yourself in these new wonders you've found.Finally, all the sweet layers peeled away and consumed with earthly delight, you find an unexpected end... But alas, ode to joy, the sheer memories of past onions will bring tears to your eyes and sweet reminiscence.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate
When I gaze deep into your eyes our destiny is what I see.There aren't any words to explain to you what you mean to me. I wish there was a word beyond love.A word so powerful, true, and strong with every passion combined that's real for this secretly unknown word, for you is how I feel. How everything but you seems to fade away when you appear into my sight and how a warm feeling forms inside me telling me (since you're there) everything's going to be all right.Because of you, my life has color,Not plain white and black and what really brightens me up is the way you love me back.You're the most amazing person who's ever come into my life and what I promise to you and won't forget is when we first met you were the mysterious woman in my dreams.Who I've been searching for and desiring to have and when I saw you, I took a second glance and knew it was true and from that moment on, I was in love with you! My love for you consumes my heart.My desire for you, my mind.My soul's discovered an eternal warmth without you it couldn't find. When I look into your eyes it's like looking into heaven.I'm looking into a world of absolute perfection. Your voice is an addiction when you sing I almost weep to hear you say I love you and to puts my worries all to sleep.Your lips like cotton candy so soft and sweet as can be.There's not a thing more wonderful than the way you kiss me.Your love holds me together without you I'd fall apart I need you more than the air I breathe.To lose you would break my heart
When I gaze deep into your eyes our destiny is what I see.There aren't any words to explain to you what you mean to me. I wish there was a word beyond love.A word so powerful, true, and strong with every passion combined that's real for this secretly unknown word, for you is how I feel. How everything but you seems to fade away when you appear into my sight and how a warm feeling forms inside me telling me (since you're there) everything's going to be all right.Because of you, my life has color,Not plain white and black and what really brightens me up is the way you love me back.You're the most amazing person who's ever come into my life and what I promise to you and won't forget is when we first met you were the mysterious woman in my dreams.Who I've been searching for and desiring to have and when I saw you, I took a second glance and knew it was true and from that moment on, I was in love with you! My love for you consumes my heart.My desire for you, my mind.My soul's discovered an eternal warmth without you it couldn't find. When I look into your eyes it's like looking into heaven.I'm looking into a world of absolute perfection. Your voice is an addiction when you sing I almost weep to hear you say I love you and to puts my worries all to sleep.Your lips like cotton candy so soft and sweet as can be.There's not a thing more wonderful than the way you kiss me.Your love holds me together without you I'd fall apart I need you more than the air I breathe.To lose you would break my heart
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
When I think of all the things I've seen and all the things I'll never see, I think of you and your immaculate smile that radiates grace... and I give thanks. When I think of all the things I've heard and all the things I'll never hear, the sound of your sweet voice whispers in my ears, so vibrant to my soul... and I give thanks.When I think of all the things I've touched and all the things I'll never touch, I call your name and hold your heart close to my soul so firm and yet forever... and I give thanks.Your love is like pulsars giving off love signals over an entire galaxy, as I am a planet being forced by my gravitational pull of love... into your orbit.You are the one who makes me feel complete when you are here and broken when you are away.The one upon which my heart and my mind dwell.The one who fills me with happiness.The one who is a part of my every dream and every thought.The one who always finds a way to brighten my day.I - me, my soul, my mind, and my heart filled a great amount of . . .LOVE - an emotion far greater than any other, that is impossible to explain and which I have a multitude for . . .YOU - the person I care for, dream of, and adore. All I care about is that your in my life. You take away my every breath. Every time I look at you, I fall so much more in love with you. You make me so helpless that I never know what to do.you know my love for you is as important to me as the air I breathe. In my tiny corner of the world where only you and I exist, where my garden blooms just for you.
When I think of all the things I've seen and all the things I'll never see, I think of you and your immaculate smile that radiates grace... and I give thanks. When I think of all the things I've heard and all the things I'll never hear, the sound of your sweet voice whispers in my ears, so vibrant to my soul... and I give thanks.When I think of all the things I've touched and all the things I'll never touch, I call your name and hold your heart close to my soul so firm and yet forever... and I give thanks.Your love is like pulsars giving off love signals over an entire galaxy, as I am a planet being forced by my gravitational pull of love... into your orbit.You are the one who makes me feel complete when you are here and broken when you are away.The one upon which my heart and my mind dwell.The one who fills me with happiness.The one who is a part of my every dream and every thought.The one who always finds a way to brighten my day.I - me, my soul, my mind, and my heart filled a great amount of . . .LOVE - an emotion far greater than any other, that is impossible to explain and which I have a multitude for . . .YOU - the person I care for, dream of, and adore. All I care about is that your in my life. You take away my every breath. Every time I look at you, I fall so much more in love with you. You make me so helpless that I never know what to do.you know my love for you is as important to me as the air I breathe. In my tiny corner of the world where only you and I exist, where my garden blooms just for you.
Monday, November 25, 2013
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: THIS IS TO YOU...MY ANGEL
This is to you, My angel. You are the one I need,.You have brought me out of the darkness. You have brought a glorious loving light with thee whenever we talk to one another. Your loving, caring, gentle eyes have enchanted me into your loving grace and with your caressing touch you have given me something to live for. And that something to live for is you, My sweet, sweet Angel. How could I come upon such a lovely creature like you and deserve you.You, my beloved Angel, have ended the long lonely existence for me I wish for you to know that my heart and soul are at your commanding grace for you are gods greatest creation for the rest of eternity. You are the greatest thing that has ever happen to me. For I love you for the rest of eternity and beyond. Whenever you speak your lovely voice of yours has evoked me into your bewitching spell.I never want to be freed from what you have cast upon me, My love I wish to never be set free from your spell of love and to always be at your side whenever you have need of me. You are the one I have always dreamed of while I sleep and I never wish to leave you.
I don't know where to start but when I do It's from the bottom of my heart.If I could read the hearts of every girl alive, nothing would compare to the love I have inside. I give it all to you. I'd give the world, too. If I was able to, It would be yours. The love I found inside of you couldn't be dreamed in any dream. It's a love, unconditional. It's a love, so true that begins in the hearts of you and me. Oh, ever since the day that Cupid's arrow pierced my heart
My love's gone all to you, never ending, from the start.Oh, all the letters, all the hours, all the words, and all the flowers can't even begin to show the love I have inside for you.
I don't know where to start but when I do It's from the bottom of my heart.If I could read the hearts of every girl alive, nothing would compare to the love I have inside. I give it all to you. I'd give the world, too. If I was able to, It would be yours. The love I found inside of you couldn't be dreamed in any dream. It's a love, unconditional. It's a love, so true that begins in the hearts of you and me. Oh, ever since the day that Cupid's arrow pierced my heart
My love's gone all to you, never ending, from the start.Oh, all the letters, all the hours, all the words, and all the flowers can't even begin to show the love I have inside for you.
Sunday, November 24, 2013
GETTING TO THE CORE: FEAR
If only I could get rid of the difficulties I am facing, if only I could just "get it right" then I could get on with having a great relationship.
Someone says something that hurt me and touched off a fight.At first I get caught up in feeling hurt and my body aches and my mind is swarming with painful thoughts.
I don't like to feel this way.so I start to react against it. The more I struggle, the more entangled I get. I start to tell myself stories...
-she attacking me
-she will never understand me
-she is aggressive
-if I plug into the story...she likes to attack me, that's just the way she is. I then to do something to get back at hero or close myself off to her.
I must put away my stories.
These kind of stories are mental fabrication, judgement or interpretations that put what's happening into familiar framework.. Usually we do not recognize these stories as our own invention, instead we believe that they represent some reality. Stories often operate in the background of the mind as part of an ongoing stream of gossip that we keep us with ourselves. The less conscious we are of how they control us, the more they keep us locked into old patterns of behavior.
The greatest obstacles in relationship are often our stories about how we think relationship should be..
-if you love someone you should always keep them happy
-you should always want to be there
-you should set aside angry.
At the core of my fear is fear of loss. I am afraid of being neglected or abandoned again. And I cling to relationship in a addictive way and demanding my partner to continually prove their love...to surrender to me...to let me be in control. I guess my parent never responded to my need for love and caring..even thought they were good parents and did the best they can. I feel ashamed and disempowered when I have need to connect to someone. I play out the same self defeating patterns over and over again.
I keep telling myself
I am not really worthy of a wonderful relationship.
I can't have such wonderful feelings.
Therefore I'd better grab what I can right now, before this woman disappears...I can't believe this will ever last..and I would immediately give himself to the relationship...and this usually scary people away confirming I can't really have this...
This master script keep telling me...
"There is something wrong with me....I am not enough"
It's just my way of coping with sever deprivation and neglect in childhood. I am trying to understand why my parents were not more loving ..and it must be that I am bad and undeserving of love. Maybe my parents neglect is because I am not good enough. In believing that...i solidified my deprivation into an identity....I found a way to make something (an identity for myself) out of nothing (unfulfilled needs)
This provided a security of sort...the only kind that was available when I was young.I feel more fully of myself when I am empty,hungry, and deprived. Despite the pain it caused it gave me security.
Believing this story as truth and accurate..it just conditions my belief system.This story become my life script that give me identity.
This essential need to be loved is not acknowledged and we express it in distorted ways. The critic in my head...makes me feel guilty and ashamed of the need...it's somehow wrong, bad. The solution is to establish a straightforward adult relationship with my needs ...so the critic nor the wounded child remain in charge.
Surrendering involves letting go of what we already know or have and letting be...opening to the situation that life presents.Many people distrust the nothing of surrendering because they confuse it to submission to another's will...which can in fact have disastrous consequences in a relationship. Submission means giving over power to someone else, putting that person above us
Someone says something that hurt me and touched off a fight.At first I get caught up in feeling hurt and my body aches and my mind is swarming with painful thoughts.
I don't like to feel this way.so I start to react against it. The more I struggle, the more entangled I get. I start to tell myself stories...
-she attacking me
-she will never understand me
-she is aggressive
-if I plug into the story...she likes to attack me, that's just the way she is. I then to do something to get back at hero or close myself off to her.
I must put away my stories.
These kind of stories are mental fabrication, judgement or interpretations that put what's happening into familiar framework.. Usually we do not recognize these stories as our own invention, instead we believe that they represent some reality. Stories often operate in the background of the mind as part of an ongoing stream of gossip that we keep us with ourselves. The less conscious we are of how they control us, the more they keep us locked into old patterns of behavior.
The greatest obstacles in relationship are often our stories about how we think relationship should be..
-if you love someone you should always keep them happy
-you should always want to be there
-you should set aside angry.
At the core of my fear is fear of loss. I am afraid of being neglected or abandoned again. And I cling to relationship in a addictive way and demanding my partner to continually prove their love...to surrender to me...to let me be in control. I guess my parent never responded to my need for love and caring..even thought they were good parents and did the best they can. I feel ashamed and disempowered when I have need to connect to someone. I play out the same self defeating patterns over and over again.
I keep telling myself
I am not really worthy of a wonderful relationship.
I can't have such wonderful feelings.
Therefore I'd better grab what I can right now, before this woman disappears...I can't believe this will ever last..and I would immediately give himself to the relationship...and this usually scary people away confirming I can't really have this...
This master script keep telling me...
"There is something wrong with me....I am not enough"
It's just my way of coping with sever deprivation and neglect in childhood. I am trying to understand why my parents were not more loving ..and it must be that I am bad and undeserving of love. Maybe my parents neglect is because I am not good enough. In believing that...i solidified my deprivation into an identity....I found a way to make something (an identity for myself) out of nothing (unfulfilled needs)
This provided a security of sort...the only kind that was available when I was young.I feel more fully of myself when I am empty,hungry, and deprived. Despite the pain it caused it gave me security.
Believing this story as truth and accurate..it just conditions my belief system.This story become my life script that give me identity.
This essential need to be loved is not acknowledged and we express it in distorted ways. The critic in my head...makes me feel guilty and ashamed of the need...it's somehow wrong, bad. The solution is to establish a straightforward adult relationship with my needs ...so the critic nor the wounded child remain in charge.
Surrendering involves letting go of what we already know or have and letting be...opening to the situation that life presents.Many people distrust the nothing of surrendering because they confuse it to submission to another's will...which can in fact have disastrous consequences in a relationship. Submission means giving over power to someone else, putting that person above us
DATING/LOVE: QUALITY OF GIRL
I guess I've always just figured that the more time you spend with someone, the more you'll have invested in them. You'll have more shared experiences, more history - more memories. You'll know each other's habits, likes, dislikes, routines and quirks so much better than any new person's, that the temptation to leave won't really be that strong. You'd have to throw away everything and start again. I hate going through relationship after relationship. Breaking up and then finding someone else
I realized that choosing someone to marry wasn't so much a matter of taking a gamble on the best girl possible as it was a choice of a girl to start to build a life with. In other words, the strength of the resulting relationship wasn't merely a function of the quality of the girl I would choose; much more important would be the life we'd live together - even if it wasn't perfect. By simply choosing to bind our lives together, we would be choosing to invest ourselves in each other; and before long, that investment would outweigh the greater sexual attraction of some hotter girl, or the excitement of sexual novelty.There is always a hotter, richer or more-compatible partner out there; finding them isn't a prerequisite for a happy marriage, and you aren't going to renounce your vows just because you encounter them after marrying someone else. Your partner will always have the advantage of the time you've spent together and the relationship you've built.
I realized that choosing someone to marry wasn't so much a matter of taking a gamble on the best girl possible as it was a choice of a girl to start to build a life with. In other words, the strength of the resulting relationship wasn't merely a function of the quality of the girl I would choose; much more important would be the life we'd live together - even if it wasn't perfect. By simply choosing to bind our lives together, we would be choosing to invest ourselves in each other; and before long, that investment would outweigh the greater sexual attraction of some hotter girl, or the excitement of sexual novelty.There is always a hotter, richer or more-compatible partner out there; finding them isn't a prerequisite for a happy marriage, and you aren't going to renounce your vows just because you encounter them after marrying someone else. Your partner will always have the advantage of the time you've spent together and the relationship you've built.
JOURNAL: WHAT REALLY MATTERS
Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.
So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.
So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.
Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.
So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.
So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.
Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.
COMMITMENT/DATING/LOVE: YOU ARE SINGLE BECAUSE OF YOU
You are single…you want to be. Yes, just that simple. EVERYONE has the exact love/relationship/dating life that they want. So turn that accusing finger right around to your self because women, your daddy, the economy…none of those people or things are to blame.
I think all people, ALL people, who are looking for something more, who are in search for a significant other or who just feel like, “when’s my time to meet the one?” Should take a minute and assess what they have been doing, what they could do better and what they’re not willing to do to find someone to spend their life with…it may surprise you what you come up with when you stop playing the blame game with your love life.
In the end, be the change you want to see. If you want a guy or girl to stop treating you like you don’t matter, than you’ve got to know you’re better than that. If you keep finding people who you think are with you for superficial reasons then you’ve got to seek a deeper connection than “I thought they were hot in the bar.” We’ve all be hurt, come back from a break up, dealt with a liar/cheater, picked the wrong person, felt wronged, felt hurt and Lord knows felt confused. You’re not the only one, get past that, save the pity party and get out there and live the answers. Seriously, what are you waiting for?
So many woman think they can outsmart getting hurt Even thought I get hurt from taking chances...I also had the time of my life and so many woman never had the time of their life,,never fall in love and my question to them..., what are you waiting for?Getting hurt is not the same as being weak.It seems to me that if you are going to lose in love, or in anything else, the only thing that makes the loss bearable and honorable is having given it everything you’ve got
I think all people, ALL people, who are looking for something more, who are in search for a significant other or who just feel like, “when’s my time to meet the one?” Should take a minute and assess what they have been doing, what they could do better and what they’re not willing to do to find someone to spend their life with…it may surprise you what you come up with when you stop playing the blame game with your love life.
In the end, be the change you want to see. If you want a guy or girl to stop treating you like you don’t matter, than you’ve got to know you’re better than that. If you keep finding people who you think are with you for superficial reasons then you’ve got to seek a deeper connection than “I thought they were hot in the bar.” We’ve all be hurt, come back from a break up, dealt with a liar/cheater, picked the wrong person, felt wronged, felt hurt and Lord knows felt confused. You’re not the only one, get past that, save the pity party and get out there and live the answers. Seriously, what are you waiting for?
So many woman think they can outsmart getting hurt Even thought I get hurt from taking chances...I also had the time of my life and so many woman never had the time of their life,,never fall in love and my question to them..., what are you waiting for?Getting hurt is not the same as being weak.It seems to me that if you are going to lose in love, or in anything else, the only thing that makes the loss bearable and honorable is having given it everything you’ve got
DATING/JOURNAL/LOVE: BEWARE OF MATCH. (MATCH TERMINATED MY ACCOUNT WITHOUT AN EXPLANATION)
UPDATE: I called and they give me my account back. They made a mistake....WHAT A BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!
I had been a member of Match.com for more than 6 months now and since I didn't met anyone and with their 6 month guarantee they would have to give me the next 6 months for free.I updated my profiles and pictures two days ago and yesterday,,,. I couldn't log in anymore and was advised to contact Customer Care.
Customer Care informed me that I have violated the Terms and Conditions listed on their website and due to the "nature of the violation", my account has been terminated because match believe their action was in the best interests of their member community.
My experience with match hasn't been that great. Most people give you winks rather than respond to you..which I don't understand. It has been disappointing..but anyway...I went through the Terms and Conditions and felt that I have not violated them in anyway. By refusing to provide me an explanation, I am considering that Match.com has terminated my account on an uninformed basis so to make me pay for the service.. Prior to the termination, I even received emails that my updated profile and pictures were approved. I am especially enraged by their dismissive attitude.My profile is perfectly legitimate (no, I didn't solicit in any manner). I wrote and asked for specifics since I had complied with all of the requirements and done nothing wrong and they said that to protect the privacy of their clients I would have to submit a court order. I don't have the time to go get a civil litigation attorney and filing a breach of contract action against Match.com
You know what so funny....Match is presently be sued my Model Yuliana Avalos for using her picture from the internet to post false ads in the form of fake dating profile. MATCH.COM YOU SHOULD GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR before accusing me of anything. http://nypost.com/2013/11/22/model-suing-match-com-for-1-5b-over-fraudulent-fake-profiles/
I had been a member of Match.com for more than 6 months now and since I didn't met anyone and with their 6 month guarantee they would have to give me the next 6 months for free.I updated my profiles and pictures two days ago and yesterday,,,. I couldn't log in anymore and was advised to contact Customer Care.
Customer Care informed me that I have violated the Terms and Conditions listed on their website and due to the "nature of the violation", my account has been terminated because match believe their action was in the best interests of their member community.
My experience with match hasn't been that great. Most people give you winks rather than respond to you..which I don't understand. It has been disappointing..but anyway...I went through the Terms and Conditions and felt that I have not violated them in anyway. By refusing to provide me an explanation, I am considering that Match.com has terminated my account on an uninformed basis so to make me pay for the service.. Prior to the termination, I even received emails that my updated profile and pictures were approved. I am especially enraged by their dismissive attitude.My profile is perfectly legitimate (no, I didn't solicit in any manner). I wrote and asked for specifics since I had complied with all of the requirements and done nothing wrong and they said that to protect the privacy of their clients I would have to submit a court order. I don't have the time to go get a civil litigation attorney and filing a breach of contract action against Match.com
You know what so funny....Match is presently be sued my Model Yuliana Avalos for using her picture from the internet to post false ads in the form of fake dating profile. MATCH.COM YOU SHOULD GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR before accusing me of anything. http://nypost.com/2013/11/22/model-suing-match-com-for-1-5b-over-fraudulent-fake-profiles/
Friday, November 22, 2013
DATING/LOVE: WHY GUYS LIKE ME GO FOR WHORES AND SLUTS
What we learned as kids is that we males are each owed, and will eventually be awarded, a beautiful woman. We were told this by every movie, TV show, novel, comic book, video game and song we encountered…
In each case, the woman has no say in this — compatibility doesn’t matter, prior relationships don’t matter, nothing else factors in. If the hero accomplishes his goals, he is awarded his favorite female. Yes, there will be dialogue that maybe makes it sound like the woman is having doubts, and she will make noises like she is making the decision on her own. But we, as the audience, know that in the end the hero will “get the girl,” just as we know that at the end of the month we’re going to “get our paycheck.” Failure to award either is breaking a societal contract. The girl can say what she wants, but we all know that at the end, she will wind up with the hero, whether she knows it or not.
And now you see the problem. From birth we’re taught that we’re owed a beautiful girl. We all think of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and we all (whether we admit it or not) think we’re heroes for just getting through our day.
So it’s very frustrating, A contract has been broken. These women, by exercising their own choices, are denying it to us. It’s why every Nice Guy is shocked to find that buying gifts for a girl and doing her favors won’t win him sex. It’s why we go to “slut” and “whore” as our default insults — we’re not mad that women enjoy sex. We’re mad that women are distributing to other people the sex that they owed us.
In each case, the woman has no say in this — compatibility doesn’t matter, prior relationships don’t matter, nothing else factors in. If the hero accomplishes his goals, he is awarded his favorite female. Yes, there will be dialogue that maybe makes it sound like the woman is having doubts, and she will make noises like she is making the decision on her own. But we, as the audience, know that in the end the hero will “get the girl,” just as we know that at the end of the month we’re going to “get our paycheck.” Failure to award either is breaking a societal contract. The girl can say what she wants, but we all know that at the end, she will wind up with the hero, whether she knows it or not.
And now you see the problem. From birth we’re taught that we’re owed a beautiful girl. We all think of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and we all (whether we admit it or not) think we’re heroes for just getting through our day.
So it’s very frustrating, A contract has been broken. These women, by exercising their own choices, are denying it to us. It’s why every Nice Guy is shocked to find that buying gifts for a girl and doing her favors won’t win him sex. It’s why we go to “slut” and “whore” as our default insults — we’re not mad that women enjoy sex. We’re mad that women are distributing to other people the sex that they owed us.
Thursday, November 21, 2013
PERSONAL/DATING: I KNOW WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR
I know what I’m looking for. I want a woman that has her act together. Everything else beyond that is just a bonus. What do I mean by having her act together? If she has kids, she takes care of them. If she doesn’t have a job, she better have a better reason for it other than “I’m collecting Welfare because I’m too lazy to work”. Oh, and not having any STD’s or terminal illnesses would be fantastic too!”
“I’m a one woman man. I don’t need 5 girls on the side. Not that having 5 girls on the side wouldn’t be fun, but I’m happier with just one drama-free girl. I need a woman that knows her role. No, not in the kitchen (although if you can cook, that’s great!). My ideal woman’s role will be to be herself. That’s right – I don’t want to change who you are. I want you to feel comfortable being who you are around me.”
“Someone told me I needed to make this humorous to attract women. I guess my sexy photo isn’t enough?? No? Alright, well then I guess I’m just going to have to tell you a little bit about who I am and what I’m looking for. I am a man and I’m looking for a woman. If you’re a woman and looking for a man, we should talk!”
“I’m not going to list all of my interests here because then we won’t have anything to talk about. I am very open-minded. I love to get down and dirty when working on cars, but I love staying in and watching a completely stupid comedy as well. I will try anything once (twice if it was fun) as long as it doesn’t involve me being urinated on or ending up in the hospital.”
“They say that since we only live once, we should always live life to the fullest. I can’t say I’ve lived my life to the fullest up to this point, but I do like to have a good time all the time. Life is about having fun. So many people spend so much time stressing about the littlest things. To heck with that! I live my life with no stress. I do what I want to do, when I want to do it. If I want to take a random road trip to Las Vegas to get wasted and blow some money at the Craps table, I’m going to do it. If I want to hike the Rocky Mountains
“Welcome to my world! It’s a beautiful, fun place. I get up in the morning, go to work. And by “go to work”, I mean I being a doctor and helping people.I’m not into games, I’m not into chatting online for hours, I’m not into complimenting women for nothing. I’m a very funny (yes, I know some few jokes), a bit of a serious and jealous guy when it comes to the woman with me and ambitious in his future, who wants a woman who is not skinny at all and who is slim to athelitic can make a man feel happy. I’m not looking for a lazy woman who can’t cook a meal and only cares about her nails; I want a real woman to be with me. If you think you don’t qualify or you are a bit of a drama queen, don’t contact me. However, if you think you are the one I’m looking for, drop me a line or two and tell me a little about you”.
“I’m a one woman man. I don’t need 5 girls on the side. Not that having 5 girls on the side wouldn’t be fun, but I’m happier with just one drama-free girl. I need a woman that knows her role. No, not in the kitchen (although if you can cook, that’s great!). My ideal woman’s role will be to be herself. That’s right – I don’t want to change who you are. I want you to feel comfortable being who you are around me.”
“Someone told me I needed to make this humorous to attract women. I guess my sexy photo isn’t enough?? No? Alright, well then I guess I’m just going to have to tell you a little bit about who I am and what I’m looking for. I am a man and I’m looking for a woman. If you’re a woman and looking for a man, we should talk!”
“I’m not going to list all of my interests here because then we won’t have anything to talk about. I am very open-minded. I love to get down and dirty when working on cars, but I love staying in and watching a completely stupid comedy as well. I will try anything once (twice if it was fun) as long as it doesn’t involve me being urinated on or ending up in the hospital.”
“They say that since we only live once, we should always live life to the fullest. I can’t say I’ve lived my life to the fullest up to this point, but I do like to have a good time all the time. Life is about having fun. So many people spend so much time stressing about the littlest things. To heck with that! I live my life with no stress. I do what I want to do, when I want to do it. If I want to take a random road trip to Las Vegas to get wasted and blow some money at the Craps table, I’m going to do it. If I want to hike the Rocky Mountains
“Welcome to my world! It’s a beautiful, fun place. I get up in the morning, go to work. And by “go to work”, I mean I being a doctor and helping people.I’m not into games, I’m not into chatting online for hours, I’m not into complimenting women for nothing. I’m a very funny (yes, I know some few jokes), a bit of a serious and jealous guy when it comes to the woman with me and ambitious in his future, who wants a woman who is not skinny at all and who is slim to athelitic can make a man feel happy. I’m not looking for a lazy woman who can’t cook a meal and only cares about her nails; I want a real woman to be with me. If you think you don’t qualify or you are a bit of a drama queen, don’t contact me. However, if you think you are the one I’m looking for, drop me a line or two and tell me a little about you”.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate
You are my mystery woman. I remember looking into your eyes.Eyes that hypnotise. Eyes that looked deep deep into my soul. I couldn't help myself from looking back. Looking back deep into your soul.We were locked. Locked in an eternal stare. I was mesmerised. I was hypnotised. It lasted a moment. It lasted forever. Our spirits merged. Merged and combined what paradise would I find It was a moment.A moment so sublime...was it a dream that was too good to be true.I'm still locked...locked in that eternal stare. Bonding of souls, most sacred are we.All I want from you is love and compassion.All I want from you is your love and care. All I want from you is...you.I say to you, that all there is, is yours to be taken.I pray you find some comfort in me, I just want to hold you in my arms; Sweet solice of your embrace, In this secret place of ours. Can't it be just you and me? Alone,in this beautiful universe of your love.With your love beside me, I do nothing wrong. With your eyes upon me, with your heart in mine, the cares of this world are left easily behind.When a man loves a woman, he finds inner peace. A sense of belonging, a sense of release.It is you I cannot stop thinking about,. It is you that makes me happy.It is you that I love. Pinch me, am I dreaming? At the moment you penetrated my soul, my heart shattered into a billion grains of joy encircled in your arms .Our bodies and spirits connected. I felt you lift me from the realm of earthly consciousness and we soared on the rarefied breath of rapture with kisses, Swallowing the flood of my surrendering soul, I holding it inside your heart knowing it is a gift that you cannot take from me but reverently share with me.Waves crash over our heads.I cling to you, trusting you will not let me drown in this glorious ocean of rapture.Our bodies tumble with the fierce and gentle whims of the tide washed with saltwater and sand. Our love consolidates into a shining stone.My heart fills with unbearable gladness to know pure love that flows and grows with each moment. Contentedly buoyed in your arms...I float into sleep
You are my mystery woman. I remember looking into your eyes.Eyes that hypnotise. Eyes that looked deep deep into my soul. I couldn't help myself from looking back. Looking back deep into your soul.We were locked. Locked in an eternal stare. I was mesmerised. I was hypnotised. It lasted a moment. It lasted forever. Our spirits merged. Merged and combined what paradise would I find It was a moment.A moment so sublime...was it a dream that was too good to be true.I'm still locked...locked in that eternal stare. Bonding of souls, most sacred are we.All I want from you is love and compassion.All I want from you is your love and care. All I want from you is...you.I say to you, that all there is, is yours to be taken.I pray you find some comfort in me, I just want to hold you in my arms; Sweet solice of your embrace, In this secret place of ours. Can't it be just you and me? Alone,in this beautiful universe of your love.With your love beside me, I do nothing wrong. With your eyes upon me, with your heart in mine, the cares of this world are left easily behind.When a man loves a woman, he finds inner peace. A sense of belonging, a sense of release.It is you I cannot stop thinking about,. It is you that makes me happy.It is you that I love. Pinch me, am I dreaming? At the moment you penetrated my soul, my heart shattered into a billion grains of joy encircled in your arms .Our bodies and spirits connected. I felt you lift me from the realm of earthly consciousness and we soared on the rarefied breath of rapture with kisses, Swallowing the flood of my surrendering soul, I holding it inside your heart knowing it is a gift that you cannot take from me but reverently share with me.Waves crash over our heads.I cling to you, trusting you will not let me drown in this glorious ocean of rapture.Our bodies tumble with the fierce and gentle whims of the tide washed with saltwater and sand. Our love consolidates into a shining stone.My heart fills with unbearable gladness to know pure love that flows and grows with each moment. Contentedly buoyed in your arms...I float into sleep
Monday, November 18, 2013
FROM A FAN/ DATING: I WOULD BE YOUR BEST GIRLFRIEND EVER
10 Reasons Why I Would Be Your Best Girlfriend Ever:
10. You will see me wearing sexy lingerie more than “comfortable” undies. [I think this is fairly obvious.]
9. You won’t hear me nag and complain because I don’t sweat the small stuff. [Men loathe nagging and complaining. It's sandpaper on our eardrums and on our brains.]
8. You will be proud to have me on your arm when we go out in public and your friends will probably be envious. [Dresses, skirts, high heels makeup, and good hair. A man wants to take pride in the woman on his arm.]
7. You will never, ever compete with me. [Men compete with each other, not the woman in his life. competitiveness is a masculine trait.]
6. You will be nicely surprised when I kiss you passionately at unexpected times and in unexpected places. [Affection helps to bond a man to you.]
5. You will never see me roll my eyes at you when you say something because I will respect you. [Men want respect and even small signs of disrespect will drive a man away from you. Try that shit in public and I advise the man to walk away immediately without regret.]
4. You will see my smile far more often than my frown. [Negative feelings are mostly unnecessary drama for men. As the Swedes say about a good woman - she should be happy, horny, and grateful]
3. You will find yourself thinking seriously about my observations on life and current events. [Many men won't well tolerate a woman who only knows shopping and reality TV.]
2. You won’t be holding my purse at the shoe store. You won’t even BE at the shoe store with me. [Do you see that bored chump in the shoe store holding his girl's purse? 'Nuff said.]
1. You rarely, if ever, hear these awful words: “I’m not in the mood”. [Deny sex too often and he will deny or break his commitment. Go ahead ladies, try it. If he still sticks around anyway then you will quickly learn to loathe him.]
10. You will see me wearing sexy lingerie more than “comfortable” undies. [I think this is fairly obvious.]
9. You won’t hear me nag and complain because I don’t sweat the small stuff. [Men loathe nagging and complaining. It's sandpaper on our eardrums and on our brains.]
8. You will be proud to have me on your arm when we go out in public and your friends will probably be envious. [Dresses, skirts, high heels makeup, and good hair. A man wants to take pride in the woman on his arm.]
7. You will never, ever compete with me. [Men compete with each other, not the woman in his life. competitiveness is a masculine trait.]
6. You will be nicely surprised when I kiss you passionately at unexpected times and in unexpected places. [Affection helps to bond a man to you.]
5. You will never see me roll my eyes at you when you say something because I will respect you. [Men want respect and even small signs of disrespect will drive a man away from you. Try that shit in public and I advise the man to walk away immediately without regret.]
4. You will see my smile far more often than my frown. [Negative feelings are mostly unnecessary drama for men. As the Swedes say about a good woman - she should be happy, horny, and grateful]
3. You will find yourself thinking seriously about my observations on life and current events. [Many men won't well tolerate a woman who only knows shopping and reality TV.]
2. You won’t be holding my purse at the shoe store. You won’t even BE at the shoe store with me. [Do you see that bored chump in the shoe store holding his girl's purse? 'Nuff said.]
1. You rarely, if ever, hear these awful words: “I’m not in the mood”. [Deny sex too often and he will deny or break his commitment. Go ahead ladies, try it. If he still sticks around anyway then you will quickly learn to loathe him.]
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