Tuesday, September 24, 2013
JOURNAL
I am beginning to believe that most woman are just stupid. They are unable to love and be loved. I want to learn to be deattached from this world so I can find some peace...to not invest so much to anything.
LOVE/SPIRITUAL/DATING: TRYING TO FIND MY VIBRATIONAL MATCH
In the year 1905, Albert Einstein proved that we can break matter down into smaller components and that, when we do, we move beyond the material realm and into a realm in which everything is energy.
This is the Law of Vibration, a law of nature that states that ‘nothing rests; everything moves; every-thing vibrates.’ The lower the vibration, the slower the vibration; the higher the vibration the faster the vibration.
The difference between the manifestations of the physical, mental, emo-tional and spiritual result simply from different levels of vibrating energy, or frequencies. So, while the feelings of fear, grief and despair vibrate at a very low frequency, the feelings of love, joy and gratitude vibrate much quicker.
The most common unit of measure for frequency is the Hertz, which is one vibrational cycle per second. So a frequency of 460 Hz means that there are 460 cycles of vibration occurring every single second.
All the physical matters are composed of vibration.
Dr. Max Planck
But what is most interesting is that, if a frequency is vibrating fast enough, it’s emitted as a color of Light.
If we wanted to convert sound to Light, we would simply raise its frequency forty octaves. This results in a vibration in the trillions of cycles per second. So, if a pianist could press a key way above the eighty-eight keys that exist on a piano, that key would produce Light. They could create a chord of Light in the same way they can create a chord of sound. And it would be seen as colors of Light because it would be moving at the speed of Light.
The philosophical and scientific basis for this Law of Vibration can be found in quantum physics and in Einstein’s Theory of Relativity. Energy is related to matter and the speed of Light. This is Einstein’s famous E = mc2 equation.
When two frequencies are brought together, the lower will always rise to meet the higher. This is the principle of resonance. So, when a piano is tuned, a tuning fork is struck, and then brought close to the piano string that carries that same musical tone. The string then raises its vibration automatically and attunes itself to the same rate at which the fork is vibrating.
Every thought vibrates. Every thought radiates a signal. Every thought attracts a matching signal back. That process is the Law of Attraction.We attract into our lives, whatever we give our energy, attention and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted. Since our thought is energy, people holding certain thoughts and vibrating a certain way become magnets and attract to them people vibrating at more or less the same frequency. That’s why we say “Birds of the same feathers flock together.” For example, let us say you are vibrating at 75; it is very likely that you would attract people vibrating at 70 – 80 level and very unlikely that you would attract people vibrating at say 30. If you want to attract your ideal partner, you have to become a “vibrational match” to the person you want to share your life with.
If you are a very positive person, you will be emitting a positive vibration and positive people will surround you. If on the other hand, you are a person who is constantly angry, doubtful, fearful, etc, you will be emitting a negative vibration, and you will tend to attract negative people, situations and experiences into your life.
Have you ever seen someone in a bad mood walk into a room and bring everyone in it down? The atmosphere in the entire room changes. Suddenly everyone becomes more irritable, on edge, and pessimistic. Likewise, a person in a great mood can walk in and make everyone feel better, lighter, and more optimistic. Suddenly people are joking around more, smiling and laughing. What happened? From an energetic standpoint, the person walking into the room actually changed the vibration of the people who were already there, and brought them down or up to their level
If you want to attract your ideal partner, first, you have to see what you are currently attracting in this particular area of your life and what vibration you are emitting. If you are not attracting the relationship you want, you will have to be very clear about what you want in a relationship.
One of the best ways to become clear is to make a list of qualities and characteristics that you do not like in your existing or previous relationships. You don’t have to focus on what you do not want to attract but just examine briefly what you do not like or want. Once you have made a list of qualities and characteristics that you do not like, you can proceed by making the list of characteristics that you do want in an ideal partner. The things that we want are the exact opposite of the things that we don’t want.
Once you have a list of all the characteristics that you want in a partner, you start focusing only on this list and then you proceed with the next step which is to become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner you want to attract.
How do we become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner we want to attract?
Well, suppose in your list that you want to attract a loving and caring partner. If you, yourself are not caring and loving, it will be difficult for you to attract a loving and caring person. According to the Law of Attraction, you attract what you vibrate. You must therefore start raising your vibration to become loving and caring. It is only then that you can attract what you want into your life.
Once you have become clear about what you want and you have raised your vibration to attract your ideal partner, the last step is to allow your ideal partner to come to you. Allowing is the absence of doubt. If you have a strong desire to attract your ideal partner but at the same time, you have strong doubts, you will never be able to attract what you want because you will be sending mixed signals in the universe. If on the other hand, you have a strong desire and some doubt, you will attract your ideal partner, but it will take a little longer. The best combination for rapid manifestation of your ideal relationship is when you have a strong desire and no doubt at all.
Have you ever seen someone in a bad mood walk into a room and bring everyone in it down? The atmosphere in the entire room changes. Suddenly everyone becomes more irritable, on edge, and pessimistic. Likewise, a person in a great mood can walk in and make everyone feel better, lighter, and more optimistic. Suddenly people are joking around more, smiling and laughing. What happened? From an energetic standpoint, the person walking into the room actually changed the vibration of the people who were already there, and brought them down or up to their level
This is the Law of Vibration, a law of nature that states that ‘nothing rests; everything moves; every-thing vibrates.’ The lower the vibration, the slower the vibration; the higher the vibration the faster the vibration.
The difference between the manifestations of the physical, mental, emo-tional and spiritual result simply from different levels of vibrating energy, or frequencies. So, while the feelings of fear, grief and despair vibrate at a very low frequency, the feelings of love, joy and gratitude vibrate much quicker.
The most common unit of measure for frequency is the Hertz, which is one vibrational cycle per second. So a frequency of 460 Hz means that there are 460 cycles of vibration occurring every single second.
All the physical matters are composed of vibration.
Dr. Max Planck
But what is most interesting is that, if a frequency is vibrating fast enough, it’s emitted as a color of Light.
If we wanted to convert sound to Light, we would simply raise its frequency forty octaves. This results in a vibration in the trillions of cycles per second. So, if a pianist could press a key way above the eighty-eight keys that exist on a piano, that key would produce Light. They could create a chord of Light in the same way they can create a chord of sound. And it would be seen as colors of Light because it would be moving at the speed of Light.
The philosophical and scientific basis for this Law of Vibration can be found in quantum physics and in Einstein’s Theory of Relativity. Energy is related to matter and the speed of Light. This is Einstein’s famous E = mc2 equation.
When two frequencies are brought together, the lower will always rise to meet the higher. This is the principle of resonance. So, when a piano is tuned, a tuning fork is struck, and then brought close to the piano string that carries that same musical tone. The string then raises its vibration automatically and attunes itself to the same rate at which the fork is vibrating.
Every thought vibrates. Every thought radiates a signal. Every thought attracts a matching signal back. That process is the Law of Attraction.We attract into our lives, whatever we give our energy, attention and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted. Since our thought is energy, people holding certain thoughts and vibrating a certain way become magnets and attract to them people vibrating at more or less the same frequency. That’s why we say “Birds of the same feathers flock together.” For example, let us say you are vibrating at 75; it is very likely that you would attract people vibrating at 70 – 80 level and very unlikely that you would attract people vibrating at say 30. If you want to attract your ideal partner, you have to become a “vibrational match” to the person you want to share your life with.
If you are a very positive person, you will be emitting a positive vibration and positive people will surround you. If on the other hand, you are a person who is constantly angry, doubtful, fearful, etc, you will be emitting a negative vibration, and you will tend to attract negative people, situations and experiences into your life.
Have you ever seen someone in a bad mood walk into a room and bring everyone in it down? The atmosphere in the entire room changes. Suddenly everyone becomes more irritable, on edge, and pessimistic. Likewise, a person in a great mood can walk in and make everyone feel better, lighter, and more optimistic. Suddenly people are joking around more, smiling and laughing. What happened? From an energetic standpoint, the person walking into the room actually changed the vibration of the people who were already there, and brought them down or up to their level
If you want to attract your ideal partner, first, you have to see what you are currently attracting in this particular area of your life and what vibration you are emitting. If you are not attracting the relationship you want, you will have to be very clear about what you want in a relationship.
One of the best ways to become clear is to make a list of qualities and characteristics that you do not like in your existing or previous relationships. You don’t have to focus on what you do not want to attract but just examine briefly what you do not like or want. Once you have made a list of qualities and characteristics that you do not like, you can proceed by making the list of characteristics that you do want in an ideal partner. The things that we want are the exact opposite of the things that we don’t want.
Once you have a list of all the characteristics that you want in a partner, you start focusing only on this list and then you proceed with the next step which is to become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner you want to attract.
How do we become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner we want to attract?
Well, suppose in your list that you want to attract a loving and caring partner. If you, yourself are not caring and loving, it will be difficult for you to attract a loving and caring person. According to the Law of Attraction, you attract what you vibrate. You must therefore start raising your vibration to become loving and caring. It is only then that you can attract what you want into your life.
Once you have become clear about what you want and you have raised your vibration to attract your ideal partner, the last step is to allow your ideal partner to come to you. Allowing is the absence of doubt. If you have a strong desire to attract your ideal partner but at the same time, you have strong doubts, you will never be able to attract what you want because you will be sending mixed signals in the universe. If on the other hand, you have a strong desire and some doubt, you will attract your ideal partner, but it will take a little longer. The best combination for rapid manifestation of your ideal relationship is when you have a strong desire and no doubt at all.
Have you ever seen someone in a bad mood walk into a room and bring everyone in it down? The atmosphere in the entire room changes. Suddenly everyone becomes more irritable, on edge, and pessimistic. Likewise, a person in a great mood can walk in and make everyone feel better, lighter, and more optimistic. Suddenly people are joking around more, smiling and laughing. What happened? From an energetic standpoint, the person walking into the room actually changed the vibration of the people who were already there, and brought them down or up to their level
Monday, September 23, 2013
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: TO YOU, MY FUTURE DARLING SOULMATE
To you, my future darling soulmate, I say that all throughout the day, you are the only one for me. That in my mind an image of us is drawn when I wake up at dawn.I can already see your smile that warms me all the way up.It sends me to sing all the love songs dedicated to you.You opened to me to another new world where true love is nearby. Sometimes, I feel so shy when I'm around you because my darling, you always give this feeling that I cannot put in plain words.I don't want our passion for each other to have an ending. Darling I want to be with you and hold you ,to be beside you and kiss you on the lips.I don't know where this letter is leading.but I just have to express what I'm feeling today. But my darling je? taime...
Now that I have found you. I can't imagine what I ever did without you or how my life could change in the blink of an eye. The thought burns in my head how easily we could have flashed by one another and never caught this moment. You melted my ice with your smile, and now I can finally breathe... You set me free, though words can never express the unspoken connection I feel with you. And now all my days are sunny and there's no more endless waiting, and no more aching wanting, only a feeling of bliss, a slice of harmony. You touch me and my flesh seems to melt and all my walls come tumbling down... exposing my naked soul, that's been waiting to be released. And all it took was a look in your eyes to release the seal, to know what I've never truly known before. Through your decency you mended my soul. Through your gifts you gave me hope. Through your kindness,you gave me strength. Through your acceptance,you gave me love.And through your love,you gave me you...and now you feel like home to me.
PART 2
Rememberance of the smile you wore burning in my memory.You are the morning sun! Tonight a special one. This the first night I've spent alone with you.Your personality sweet, kind, and new.Oh! The joy in my heart I feel. For never have I met someone so real. Someone to relate to and understand. The pleasant memory of holding your hand. You are to me a warm and caring woman. Never do I want this feeling to fade. In the palm of your hand I felt a piece of your heart. This is sweet; a rare start! Emptiness through your touch forever gone! The battle 'tis won! Happiness now, lives on and on!
Listening to the wind whisper through her hair.As soft as a gentle breeze, a feather in the air.A romantic carress of emotional desire.One sweet kiss, the touch of her lips, each breath builds this eternal fire Lying this close, feelings so strong a love so deep, nothing here is wrong.I feel closer to you than with anyone I ever knew. There's no place I'd rather be than in these arms with you. In your eyes, every star reflects off the sea.In each sparkle shows the layers of beauty I see. Like a fairy tale in a dream, you bring a light into the night shining from your soul through your eyes. With you there is nothing hard to say.There are no words that get lost on the way.A touch of your skin, as smooth as porcelain.I want to hold you forever in this love we share together.Never a day will go through without showing my love to you. Love and eternity, visions and dreams, of any of these you'll never go unseen.This trust isn't just what others have when I promise forever, forever's what I am. In your heart lies emotion, stronger than the deepest ocean. In you I see the greatest power of devotion.My love I vow forever on this night as I stare in the beauty of your eyes
POETRY: TWO HEARTS ENTWINED
If only you could
step inside my heart
for just a moment or two
you might be overwhelmed
by what I feel for you
Love, pure and simple love
that has no end
and longs to hold you near
for now and forever;
for as long as we’re both here
I want to hold you close
I want to hold your hand
I never want to let you go;
you’re the best I’ve ever had
I want to protect you
I want to keep you safe
I never want to see you cry
or feel an ounce of pain
I want to see you smile
I want to make you laugh
I never want you to wish
for something other than what you have
I want to give you everything
I want to give you my all
I never want to give you less
than anything you want
Because it’s simple
my love for you is pure
and you are the one
I’ve waited my whole life for.
2
Life has a funny way of leading you
If it is done through religion
Or the cold path of lonliness
Some take their chances
The chance is love
Hearts brake; New love is born
Timeless limit on a spacious, concealed heart
Time and time again you try to break free
The struggle of love cannot be conquered by you or me
I was there many of times
Stupidly engaged once, but
Smartly this time
I have had my share of games, blames, and fights
Love is a bitter cold event
But if you are lucky you find it steady
Full of hopes and dreams
Nightly screams
And joy to you and the one you love
I think I've found it now
Came upon me
and was there the whole time
You can look for love in every place
But I found it
right under my nose
Love is short, or is embedded in the heart forever
You can die young and be happier
than a lover who's lost love forever
I hope and dream that I've picked the love of my dreams,
for now we've moved Up a step to permenancy:
The Ring
3
Silver stars of joy shone in my eyes,
As I looked at your face,
so perfect.
a smile danced on your lips as you
caressed my face with your hand,
so gentle.
your breath tickled my ear,
as you whispered,
"I'll love you, forever".
Well, maybe, I'm mistaken,
maybe, I'm the fool,
But, my vision of forever,
was much different from yours.
In my mind,
forever... is eternity.
until the last stars fall from the sky,
and the moon slowly closes it's eyes and dies.
Until our very soul departs from our imperfect bodies.
To me... that is forever.
To you, it is a simple word.
where are you now?
What happened to forever?
You are gone, and I am here alone,
wondering if we'll find... forever, again.
4
I remember pain, it moves my heart churning and aching.
Feel it...
T'was the Dawn that buried that Day into past, unrelenting.
Soon, even the echoes of your voice will haunt no more...
The glimpse of your face will fade into emptiness...
The strenght of your humour will linger...just momentarily
And I scamper to embrace your memory afresh each day...
to remember.
But, as you go on charting your life against the Walls of Eternity
And seek me from here and yonder...
Hold fast the lamp of Hope; yield not into exhaustion.
Though the storms of trials may flicker the light
And the suffering of your spirit may rend ypur heart...
Weep not...for I remember.
And in life's great mystery, our paths will cross again,
like before, coincidentally. At last...
The moment you take my hand and hold it tight...I will smile
The moment you look into my eyes and ask me why...I will cry
And as you search my heart and find it's no longer you...
I will pray.
Know this, the time you asked for my heart,
I gave it away sincerely.
Your love has been my heart all the while...
Understand...it has been a long time since the day
I started waiting
Yet, not a sight of you...
Look...in my heart, the scar of our love remains...
Etched painfully but beautifully,
Healed by constant reminiscence
For I hold it dear...
I still remember...
I pray, even as we lose each other's presence and
commit our lives for someone else...
May He bind our hearts as one...
Unite our souls forever...
Enshrine our love into the memory of man...
To treasure each other beyond the realm of time...
May the love we once knew and tended...
Remain in our hearts...
Forever...to remember.
5
You are my love, my moonlit sky,
the reason for my happiness, and the reason I cry.
You are all the things I want and desire,
you've turned my heart from ice to fire.
A fire that burns brighter than the brightest star,
so bright I can see it no matter where you are.
A star that turns the night to day,
and leaves me speechless with nothing to say.
A feeling of pure love, peace, and tranquility,
erasing all thoughts of hate and hostility.
These are the things you give to me,
your love has set my spirit free,
Just knowing our love was meant to be.
6
Is love around the corner for me today?
I really do not know, I really cannot say.
Why is love so hard to find,
And why is love always on my mind?
I search for love high and low;
I look for it every where I go.
Why is love always eluding me;
Why can't I find someone to set my heart free?
Am I suppose to always be alone?
Why can't I find a love of my own?
I will keep searching for love no matter how far I must go,
Because everyone has and needs love to show.
I hope and pray I will find my love one day;
A love that is perfect in each and every way.
She does not have to be a princess or a queen;
I know I could love someone in between.
So, if love eludes you each and everyday,
Maybe you can look my way.
To you who searches for love both high and low,
I have a lot of love I have to show.
Look my way and make it true;
I want you to know my love will never make you blue.
7
You are the star
That fell upon me-
That sparkled like magic,
Upon my eyes, above me...
Your passionate love
And comforting warmth,
Your sweetest words
And tender touch,
Your beating heart
Your loving soul,
Surrounds me, in-between...
Your sparkling eyes
And mystic face,
Your smile that glows
Through my everyday needs.
The sweetest things
You do for me
Makes me sink
Into your arms, beneath me,
And drowns me ever so deep
8
Two hearts entwined, tied together by invisible threads of love
strong enough to hold any pressure, yet gentle as a dove.
Soft and silky threads woven from compassion and happiness
that stretch and bend but never break, holding with tenderness.
Blessed by God and woven by Angels for You and me
to keep us safe together in love for all the world to see.
Two hearts unconditionally joined in a sweet gentle embrace,
A raptured look of devotion sculpturing joy on each face.
Ordained in God's plan to gently guide us through eternity
like butterflies floating on air from Angel's wings, our destiny.
The threads of love embroidering a beautiful tapestry of life
creating a picture of two hearts together as husband and wife.
DATING: WHY NICE GUY DATE SKANKS AND BAD BOYS DATE THE REST
This is part of my push to educate people in the ways of intelligent dating and is an aspect of the system of advice I affectionately refer to as "Get Picky."
Ladies, if you think "I must have terrible taste in men, because I always end up dating assholes" then I have some good news for you. It's not your fault, the odds are stacked against your favor. More often than not the assholes are the only ones who will ask you out. It is not because there is anything wrong with you, they just don't care about you and that makes it easier for them. Allow me to explain.
When a Bro (I use the term "Bro" because they are one of the lowest forms of human beings and generally have no feelings towards the opposite sex that do not originate from their pants) enters a club or bar, they look around at all of the attractive women and think to themselves "Yep, my odds look good tonight!" When he approaches a woman and she turns him down, he just moves on to the next set of walking tits. He has no emotional attachment to the girl he approaches, he has no agenda to fulfill a girls dreams, he has no plans to ever take her out for a romantic dinner that ends with hot chocolate while watching a meteor shower. His end goal is to find someone to share a bed with for a finite period of time. At best he could be looking for a steady lay. Either way, he doesn't actually care about you and therefore he doesn't run the risk of being hurt by you, which is why it is so easy to approach you or ask you out.
However, a Nice Guy IS afraid to ask you out precisely because he does run the risk of being hurt by you. When a Nice Guy enters a club or bar, he looks around and thinks to himself "Do I know anyone here? Better make sure I don't make a fool of myself." A Nice Guy wont approach you, because if you do shoot him down he isn't just going to turn to another girl, think "Hey, she has boobs too" and try again. The Nice Guy will most likely be crushed, lose faith in himself and be convinced that he is not "good enough" (bro-ish enough) to attract women. Unlike the bro, the Nice Guy has everything to lose and is afraid to risk losing it by asking you out.
This should explain why so many women date terrible men. It's not that you have terrible taste. The terrible men are just the only ones actually asking you out.
This behavior can be easily explained if we compare it to the lottery. Very few people would play a lottery with a 1 in 10 chance to win one million dollars if the ticket cost $10,000. It doesn't matter that even if you lose 9 out of 10 times you would still have made $900,000. The initial risk is just too high for most people to even attempt it. Now, if there was a lottery with a 1 in 200 million chance of winning one million (Powerball perhaps?) and the cost of a ticket was only $1, you are going to get a lot of people paying for those tickets. No one really cares if they lose a single dollar. Losing $10,000, now that's a bit scarier.
Nice Girls out there may be wondering why so many Nice Guys date "Skanky." It's a fair question and deserves a fair answer. Skanky Bitches actually got off their asses and and make it easier for Nice Guys to ask them out.
Ladies, if you think "I must have terrible taste in men, because I always end up dating assholes" then I have some good news for you. It's not your fault, the odds are stacked against your favor. More often than not the assholes are the only ones who will ask you out. It is not because there is anything wrong with you, they just don't care about you and that makes it easier for them. Allow me to explain.
When a Bro (I use the term "Bro" because they are one of the lowest forms of human beings and generally have no feelings towards the opposite sex that do not originate from their pants) enters a club or bar, they look around at all of the attractive women and think to themselves "Yep, my odds look good tonight!" When he approaches a woman and she turns him down, he just moves on to the next set of walking tits. He has no emotional attachment to the girl he approaches, he has no agenda to fulfill a girls dreams, he has no plans to ever take her out for a romantic dinner that ends with hot chocolate while watching a meteor shower. His end goal is to find someone to share a bed with for a finite period of time. At best he could be looking for a steady lay. Either way, he doesn't actually care about you and therefore he doesn't run the risk of being hurt by you, which is why it is so easy to approach you or ask you out.
However, a Nice Guy IS afraid to ask you out precisely because he does run the risk of being hurt by you. When a Nice Guy enters a club or bar, he looks around and thinks to himself "Do I know anyone here? Better make sure I don't make a fool of myself." A Nice Guy wont approach you, because if you do shoot him down he isn't just going to turn to another girl, think "Hey, she has boobs too" and try again. The Nice Guy will most likely be crushed, lose faith in himself and be convinced that he is not "good enough" (bro-ish enough) to attract women. Unlike the bro, the Nice Guy has everything to lose and is afraid to risk losing it by asking you out.
This should explain why so many women date terrible men. It's not that you have terrible taste. The terrible men are just the only ones actually asking you out.
This behavior can be easily explained if we compare it to the lottery. Very few people would play a lottery with a 1 in 10 chance to win one million dollars if the ticket cost $10,000. It doesn't matter that even if you lose 9 out of 10 times you would still have made $900,000. The initial risk is just too high for most people to even attempt it. Now, if there was a lottery with a 1 in 200 million chance of winning one million (Powerball perhaps?) and the cost of a ticket was only $1, you are going to get a lot of people paying for those tickets. No one really cares if they lose a single dollar. Losing $10,000, now that's a bit scarier.
Nice Girls out there may be wondering why so many Nice Guys date "Skanky." It's a fair question and deserves a fair answer. Skanky Bitches actually got off their asses and and make it easier for Nice Guys to ask them out.
DATING: MEN GETTING REJECTED FOR NO REASON.
Most times, it seems so capricious why anyone (ok, why any man) gets rejected. Stephen Hawking doesn't understand it. Everything sounds great online, you correspond for weeks, and then in the first face to face meeting she kills the relationship. She won't say why. Maybe she can't, if the real reason is something biological. He didn't smell different or musky enough. Or he's not tall enough. Or she's no gold digger, not consciously, yet the car he pulled up in was too cheap, small, and old. Or she's testing him with mind games, wants to see if he can figure out when no means no, and when no doesn't really mean no, maybe looking for persistence from him, seeing in that an indication that he is serious. What does "let's just be friends" really mean? Or despite professing a desire for a smart man, she didn't really mean that, and actually wants the big dumb infatuated ox who is easy for her to manipulate and mentally dominate.
Really baffling is seeing what some women choose. She rejects a bunch of great guys and ends up going with a total cad, the most shallow, superficial, lying, hypocritical loser and fool available, the kind of guy who abuses women and cheats even as he preaches about morality. You know, guys like Newt Gingrich except without the wealth and power. Well, maybe he has cute interns working for him as well as money, power, and fame. Maybe it's because she's selling herself short, doesn't believe she deserves better. Sometimes she comes to her senses, and can't understand herself why she ever dated or married a guy like that.
The only way I've ever been able to make much sense of it all is through a biological view. We're even more enslaved to our hormones than we realize. Men's lot is to ask and ask and ask, and be rejected almost every time but not quite, and the reason why it's like that is the biological fact that the effort of producing offspring falls almost entirely on women.
Really baffling is seeing what some women choose. She rejects a bunch of great guys and ends up going with a total cad, the most shallow, superficial, lying, hypocritical loser and fool available, the kind of guy who abuses women and cheats even as he preaches about morality. You know, guys like Newt Gingrich except without the wealth and power. Well, maybe he has cute interns working for him as well as money, power, and fame. Maybe it's because she's selling herself short, doesn't believe she deserves better. Sometimes she comes to her senses, and can't understand herself why she ever dated or married a guy like that.
The only way I've ever been able to make much sense of it all is through a biological view. We're even more enslaved to our hormones than we realize. Men's lot is to ask and ask and ask, and be rejected almost every time but not quite, and the reason why it's like that is the biological fact that the effort of producing offspring falls almost entirely on women.
JOURNAL: OPTIONS I HAVE BESIDE DATING.
Now that I'm older, I've actually been asked out on a date once or twice, and I've turned them down. There's no bitterness; it's simply no longer something I want to do. I've got a reasonably-fulfilling career in medicine; I get up, play with computers for a few hours, come home, and flip a coin deciding whether to
(a) cook something (and crack open a bottle of something) nice and spend the rest of the evening evening vegging out reading Slashdot, Reddit, and Fark,
(b) tinker on something at work
(c) play video games.
Sex? If the urge for sex strikes, there's an entire Internet full of pron out there, and then I can get back to whatever it was I was doing. I'm content in my lifestyle, and when every waking hour is filled spending something I do want to do, and I realized that a woman has to bring something to the table.
In the same way as the woman who settled for a good guy who'd be content to take care of her and help her raise the family, men can "settle" too. Sour grapes? Sure, there's a little bit of that. But on a risk-reward basis, I'm grateful that the human palate adjusts.
In the same way as the woman who settled for a good guy who'd be content to take care of her and help her raise the family, men can "settle" too. Sour grapes? Sure, there's a little bit of that. But on a risk-reward basis, I'm grateful that the human palate adjusts.
DATING: YOUR EXPECTATIONS IS 50% OF THE PROBLEM
We're ALL trained to find a mate of ultimate attractiveness/power. All the boys lust after the hot girls in high school, and all the girls like the adventurous/athletic/popular guys (all is an overstatement, but you get the idea). Somewhere in their 20's MOST girls re-arrange their expectations to marry someone who is good to them. The trick is being the first nice guy to come along after those expectations have been re-arranged. So, nice guys DO finish last... and when they finish that's one more girl off the market.
This creates the illusion that girls are not interested in nice guys, as they may date 20 assholes and one or two nice guys, but it's the one or two nice guys that they marry (and don't divorce a couple years later.... there are girls who marry the assholes and then become the single-divorced-30's women with baggage.)
That said, guys can be their own problem: There is NO shortage of women out there who would be more than happy to be with you. You probably just don't think they're attractive enough, so your own expectations are 50% of the problem.
You can't expect the girl who exercises, eats right, and puts resources into looking attractive to be interested in you if you're not doing the same things. So if you're not peak attractiveness, and you're not revamping your diet and popping in the P90X to bring up your physical appearance, time to dial down your own expectations to "normal looking people".
What it comes down to for me is women fall into two categories: attractive, and accessible to me.
Most men AND women I know are working on "climbing that ladder" throughout their 20's and into their early 30's. They score that first "career job" after finishing school (or dropping out with it partially finished, as the case may be?) and start obtaining things such as their first new car or truck, perhaps a home of their own (or even stepping up from a small apartment unit to a rental house or townhouse apartment counts).... and sooner or later, they're considering obtaining a life partner too. Still working from the angle of "I've got nowhere to go from here but up!", they're concerned with their appearance to their peers, and with selecting a partner who has the best possible combination of looks, intelligence and personality/character.
When you're still in THAT stage of life? Yeah, dating is very competitive and you really can finish last in that area if you bring integrity and "character" to the table, but not much else. Without money and/or looks, you're short a couple of key items that help "sell" yourself vs. your competition.
Where things change, is somewhere between the mid 30's and 40's. By that time, many people already TRIED a marriage that ended badly. Others just matured a bit (or even simply let life wear them down a bit, to where they quit trying to impress -- and resigned themselves to just getting up each day, going to their 9-5 job, and keeping busy with whatever chores and tasks life demanded of them). All of a sudden, they're no longer focusing time and energy on searching for someone. They're just being themselves, and are actually in a better position to stumble across someone else like-minded who likes them for them.
I really think wealth serves as a huge barrier to one's self-awareness. Why do so many Hollywood celebs and pro sports athletes have relationship problems? Why do big-shot CEOs constantly get involved in sex scandals? When you have enough money, you're able to spend your way out of looking in the mirror and getting a true sense of who you are. Someone's always happy to stroke your ego, hoping for some sort of payoff. Doctors and surgeons will do all sorts of procedures to you, to make sure you physically appear younger than you really are. You can afford all the best/trendiest clothing items, vehicles, and everything else that distracts people from seeing who YOU are when they look at you. Every time you screw up in public, you can pay off someone to bail you back out of the situation.
This creates the illusion that girls are not interested in nice guys, as they may date 20 assholes and one or two nice guys, but it's the one or two nice guys that they marry (and don't divorce a couple years later.... there are girls who marry the assholes and then become the single-divorced-30's women with baggage.)
That said, guys can be their own problem: There is NO shortage of women out there who would be more than happy to be with you. You probably just don't think they're attractive enough, so your own expectations are 50% of the problem.
You can't expect the girl who exercises, eats right, and puts resources into looking attractive to be interested in you if you're not doing the same things. So if you're not peak attractiveness, and you're not revamping your diet and popping in the P90X to bring up your physical appearance, time to dial down your own expectations to "normal looking people".
What it comes down to for me is women fall into two categories: attractive, and accessible to me.
Most men AND women I know are working on "climbing that ladder" throughout their 20's and into their early 30's. They score that first "career job" after finishing school (or dropping out with it partially finished, as the case may be?) and start obtaining things such as their first new car or truck, perhaps a home of their own (or even stepping up from a small apartment unit to a rental house or townhouse apartment counts).... and sooner or later, they're considering obtaining a life partner too. Still working from the angle of "I've got nowhere to go from here but up!", they're concerned with their appearance to their peers, and with selecting a partner who has the best possible combination of looks, intelligence and personality/character.
When you're still in THAT stage of life? Yeah, dating is very competitive and you really can finish last in that area if you bring integrity and "character" to the table, but not much else. Without money and/or looks, you're short a couple of key items that help "sell" yourself vs. your competition.
Where things change, is somewhere between the mid 30's and 40's. By that time, many people already TRIED a marriage that ended badly. Others just matured a bit (or even simply let life wear them down a bit, to where they quit trying to impress -- and resigned themselves to just getting up each day, going to their 9-5 job, and keeping busy with whatever chores and tasks life demanded of them). All of a sudden, they're no longer focusing time and energy on searching for someone. They're just being themselves, and are actually in a better position to stumble across someone else like-minded who likes them for them.
I really think wealth serves as a huge barrier to one's self-awareness. Why do so many Hollywood celebs and pro sports athletes have relationship problems? Why do big-shot CEOs constantly get involved in sex scandals? When you have enough money, you're able to spend your way out of looking in the mirror and getting a true sense of who you are. Someone's always happy to stroke your ego, hoping for some sort of payoff. Doctors and surgeons will do all sorts of procedures to you, to make sure you physically appear younger than you really are. You can afford all the best/trendiest clothing items, vehicles, and everything else that distracts people from seeing who YOU are when they look at you. Every time you screw up in public, you can pay off someone to bail you back out of the situation.
/DATING/THOUGHTS: BREAKING THE PATTERN
Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Why is it that we repeat the same mistakes over and over? No matter how bad it made us feel last time, or how much of a drama it was, we quickly throw away all common sense and just jump right back to where we were.
To make matters worse we tend to talk about the negative outcome (which, realistically, we could see coming anyway) to anyone who will listen. This is a pattern that can quite literally last a lifetime and can be very destructive, particularly when it comes to relationships and careers.
About nine years ago I found myself in a string of dysfunctional relationships. For several years I was in denial about one fact – the common factor in all of those relationships was actually me, not them. I committed to break that pattern.I decided to write down what I was looking for in a partner in terms of personality traits, the kind of relationship I would have and how I felt in it. Remember, any pattern can be broken and a new way of thinking can be established. I use this same approach to any area of my life that I feel isn’t really working. Are you going from job to job, diet to diet or, like me, from date to date? We are all human and we all make mistakes. It’s just up to us how we handle them and what lessons we walk away with.
It’s important to note that there are a lot of people out there who love to listen to your drama and really feed that negative energy. You share with them and they share with you. Although sometimes satisfying, it’s actually a very destructive conversation. It holds you back from moving forward to new possibilities.
To make matters worse we tend to talk about the negative outcome (which, realistically, we could see coming anyway) to anyone who will listen. This is a pattern that can quite literally last a lifetime and can be very destructive, particularly when it comes to relationships and careers.
About nine years ago I found myself in a string of dysfunctional relationships. For several years I was in denial about one fact – the common factor in all of those relationships was actually me, not them. I committed to break that pattern.I decided to write down what I was looking for in a partner in terms of personality traits, the kind of relationship I would have and how I felt in it. Remember, any pattern can be broken and a new way of thinking can be established. I use this same approach to any area of my life that I feel isn’t really working. Are you going from job to job, diet to diet or, like me, from date to date? We are all human and we all make mistakes. It’s just up to us how we handle them and what lessons we walk away with.
It’s important to note that there are a lot of people out there who love to listen to your drama and really feed that negative energy. You share with them and they share with you. Although sometimes satisfying, it’s actually a very destructive conversation. It holds you back from moving forward to new possibilities.
LOVE/DATING: THE BEAUTY AND THE HUNCHED BACK
A hot woman will always catch my eye, but of the women I’ve actually dated, it was the woman that grew on me after I got to know them. So I’ve never been with anyone that I didn’t feel attracted to, but I grew into the attraction every time (with a serious relationship). Attraction doesn’t have to be “instant” to be attraction. We’re all sometimes attracted to people who are not “our type”, because there’s just something about them. As much as physical beauty and attraction are important in our world, when it comes to relationships to me.... more hinges on what one says, their energy, how they conduct themselves, and especially how they treat people. When you have to be around the person all the time, it’s more about compatibility and meshing of personalities: what you both value in people and life.You may surprise yourself when you can’t place a finger on why you’re attracted to someone after talking with them or spending time with them, and afterwards you realize they are not your physical ideal. Very shallow person go for the "pretty boy" types, even though they might be HOT themselves. When we are looking for the other half of our soul, we are looking for their essence… the things that matter. Is she a good woman?, Is she kind? Is she passionate?
A lot of the times a good looking woman thinks that because she has the looks she is everything a man wants. Well, that’s wrong, of course being physically attractive is VERY IMPORTANT to a man but the truth is that this is not the only factor necessary for longevity.My ex wife was beautiful woman but she lack the kindness, and honesty that matter in any relationship. I am not going to make the same mistake again.
Physical attractiveness isn’t really important to me either, judging from my past relationships. I’ve dated girls that were highly attractive, and others that weren’t all that attractive. My tendency is to care a lot about looks before I know a girl, and then they fade from priority once I start talking with someone.Most woman seem to agree that I’m “good-looking” .I guess in the end physical attractiveness matters only insofar as we attach importance to it. For me it’s middling important, but for others it might be more (or less). I think for men and women it’s different KINDS. Men want stereotypical “hot” features, but women seem to want very specific things. Either muscles, or a chiseled chin, or certain eyes, or certain hair, or very tall, or not too tall, lighter skin, or darker skin, bone structure (I always laugh when girls say they want a guy with good bone structure, it sound so incongruous to the situation), and of course, body hair/no body hair. So when it comes to defining how many women view attractiveness, you need to be more specific than you need to be for many men.
I want to leave you with a story I heard many years ago. There was a young woman, who was supposed to marry a young man. They had never met, as it was an arranged marriage. So, the day approached, and the young man came to the home of the young woman to meet with her before the wedding. To the bride’s astonishment she saw that her fiancé had a profoundly hunched back. She told her father to cancel the wedding; she could not marry this man. The father broke the news gently to the young man. And he accepted the news graciously, but he asked if he could meet with her just one more time. She agreed.
They met again, and he told her the story of his hunched back. “When our soul was separated into two halves in Heaven, God decreed that you would have this hunched back, so I begged and pleaded that He would give it to me instead, that I would carry this burden, and not you.” The young woman heard the truth in his words and with a whole and grateful heart, agreed to marry him.
A lot of the times a good looking woman thinks that because she has the looks she is everything a man wants. Well, that’s wrong, of course being physically attractive is VERY IMPORTANT to a man but the truth is that this is not the only factor necessary for longevity.My ex wife was beautiful woman but she lack the kindness, and honesty that matter in any relationship. I am not going to make the same mistake again.
Physical attractiveness isn’t really important to me either, judging from my past relationships. I’ve dated girls that were highly attractive, and others that weren’t all that attractive. My tendency is to care a lot about looks before I know a girl, and then they fade from priority once I start talking with someone.Most woman seem to agree that I’m “good-looking” .I guess in the end physical attractiveness matters only insofar as we attach importance to it. For me it’s middling important, but for others it might be more (or less). I think for men and women it’s different KINDS. Men want stereotypical “hot” features, but women seem to want very specific things. Either muscles, or a chiseled chin, or certain eyes, or certain hair, or very tall, or not too tall, lighter skin, or darker skin, bone structure (I always laugh when girls say they want a guy with good bone structure, it sound so incongruous to the situation), and of course, body hair/no body hair. So when it comes to defining how many women view attractiveness, you need to be more specific than you need to be for many men.
I want to leave you with a story I heard many years ago. There was a young woman, who was supposed to marry a young man. They had never met, as it was an arranged marriage. So, the day approached, and the young man came to the home of the young woman to meet with her before the wedding. To the bride’s astonishment she saw that her fiancé had a profoundly hunched back. She told her father to cancel the wedding; she could not marry this man. The father broke the news gently to the young man. And he accepted the news graciously, but he asked if he could meet with her just one more time. She agreed.
They met again, and he told her the story of his hunched back. “When our soul was separated into two halves in Heaven, God decreed that you would have this hunched back, so I begged and pleaded that He would give it to me instead, that I would carry this burden, and not you.” The young woman heard the truth in his words and with a whole and grateful heart, agreed to marry him.
Friday, September 20, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: STARLIGHT STAR BRIGHT, FIRST STAR I SEE TONIGHT
"Starlight, starbright, first star i see tonight,I wish I may, I wish I might Have this wish I wish tonight." Oh star up there, I know you hear me, way down here on earth. Listen to my cry, oh, please,I'm wishing for all I'm worth. Bring the woman that is meant for me soon.Tell her that I will always love her. Star o mine, please don't go dim! Starlight, Starbright, So far away
Give her eternal sight, and always light her way! Starlight, Starbright,When I see you tonight, I know my wish I made out of might will be answered of her tonight.
Once I was afraid I'd never find someone to really care about. I wanted someone perfect, at least for me. A special kind of talking, an honest way of listening. Not being afraid to laugh or cry. Kindness and understanding, fun and excitement, someone to lift my heart with joy. I guess I expected a lot, but I'm a believer. And I believed that someday, someone's particular magic would transform my life. So in spite of all the waiting, all the loneliness, all the almost-giving-up, it's been worth it. It's all been worth while. And wishes really do come true, because what I've always wanted isn't a dream...It's you.
I never told a woman I loved her, at least before I met you.I felt that love was more than words,and I needed to know love was true. But now that you are in my life,and I love you more each day.Just saying 'I love you' isn't enough,
I want to spend my life with you, and laugh and cry and dance.I want to hold you close at night,and show you a little romance.And if we one day do decide,to have a child or two. I want to watch them grow and have them remind me of you. I want to watch the seasons change,and be there by your side. I want to grow old loving you, if you choose to be my bride.Words can barely begin to express, what I feel and want to do. It hardly seems enough at all,just to say, "I love you".
Oh darling, when will our breath merge,in syncopated motion?Our blood flow in one heart of ours? Our mouths taste forever the same.A finger's touch, endless with our eyes we look upon, in mirrored reflection, each other.Souls that fit so perfectly in every way together.
At times I sit and ask myself the question,
why do I love you?
Why does the wind blow?
Why does the sun shine?
Why do the birds sing with such grace?
Why does the rain fall down on my face?
Why does the earth spin?
Why does the water reach the shore?
And please tell me...
why do I love you like I do?
Give her eternal sight, and always light her way! Starlight, Starbright,When I see you tonight, I know my wish I made out of might will be answered of her tonight.
Once I was afraid I'd never find someone to really care about. I wanted someone perfect, at least for me. A special kind of talking, an honest way of listening. Not being afraid to laugh or cry. Kindness and understanding, fun and excitement, someone to lift my heart with joy. I guess I expected a lot, but I'm a believer. And I believed that someday, someone's particular magic would transform my life. So in spite of all the waiting, all the loneliness, all the almost-giving-up, it's been worth it. It's all been worth while. And wishes really do come true, because what I've always wanted isn't a dream...It's you.
I never told a woman I loved her, at least before I met you.I felt that love was more than words,and I needed to know love was true. But now that you are in my life,and I love you more each day.Just saying 'I love you' isn't enough,
I want to spend my life with you, and laugh and cry and dance.I want to hold you close at night,and show you a little romance.And if we one day do decide,to have a child or two. I want to watch them grow and have them remind me of you. I want to watch the seasons change,and be there by your side. I want to grow old loving you, if you choose to be my bride.Words can barely begin to express, what I feel and want to do. It hardly seems enough at all,just to say, "I love you".
Oh darling, when will our breath merge,in syncopated motion?Our blood flow in one heart of ours? Our mouths taste forever the same.A finger's touch, endless with our eyes we look upon, in mirrored reflection, each other.Souls that fit so perfectly in every way together.
At times I sit and ask myself the question,
why do I love you?
Why does the wind blow?
Why does the sun shine?
Why do the birds sing with such grace?
Why does the rain fall down on my face?
Why does the earth spin?
Why does the water reach the shore?
And please tell me...
why do I love you like I do?
POETRY: I SEE ME GIVING MY HEART TO YOU
I see a picture in my mind,
The music that I hear.
Takes me back so far away,
The time that you were near.
Shadows dancing, fire burning,
Snow is falling, love is turning,
To think of you.
I miss those times we had together.
Thunder clouds and stormy weather.
You, so close and warm beside me.
And even now the fire burns,
The love, forever, in my heart,
With no place to go,
But the picture in my mind,
And the music that I hear.
Is you.
2
Rose of purity, fresh and white
Pink pastel pallor in the morning
Light of a pale day
You my love in your demure ways
Delicately taking of the day
In an exaltation of giving
Pure pink passion in white
O how exquisitely seductive
Your magical looks of innocence
In knowing the world and wanting
To love and be loved
A spiritual child of refreshing vitality
A lover of the flesh in mystical
Movements of an endless longing
Loving and giving
White pink rose of heightened desires
Passionate purity in your eyes
Your form perfect in its youthful vibrance
In calmness a princess of the stars
Ethereal in persuasion, earthly in needs
An earthy vision of sensuality
A rose of purity divinely given
3
My love for you
is deeper than
the grand canyon,
and stronger than
a tornado.
It will forever be
this way...
I can't explain
the way i am,
words just can't
touch how i feel.
I know that we
are meant to be.
This love we share
thru eternity.
The road ahead
will be long
and there will
be hurdles for
us to overcome--
but i am not
worried about
these things--
we will overcome
whatever they may be--
because a love
like ours.....
must be destiny!
4
When I need you
I just hold out my hand
And I'll touch you.
You're there when I need you
To give a shoulder to cry on
When I feel I need to die
You're there to wipe away my tears
And share all my hopes and fears.
When I need someone to lend
A helping hand
I just turn to you and you're there
To advise and understand.
When I need someone to share all
My hopes and dreams
You open up your arms
And show me what love means.
When I need you you're always there
To listen, advise and care
You always show your affection
And say you love me so
You tell me that you need me
and that you never want to let me go
5
Once I knew you, but now you've disappeared
I thought I saw you, but you weren't there
I thought you knew what love was- maybe you didn't
I knew I had love for you - there was no question
But I didn't care if you really loved me
Or if they were just words that you spoke
I clung to you and needed you
But you died and are now a ghost
A vague picture in my mind
Why can you love what you can't see?
Why do you feel the touch of what's no longer there?
I can still remember in my dreams
But when my eyes awake my dream closes and reality stares me in
my face,
Yes,I know my heart.
I'm in love with your ghost.
6
Without you
I would not exist
In any shape or form
Without you
Life would mean nothing
No emotions
NONE...
Without you
There would be no us
To look forward to
AND...
Without you
The sun would not rise
In my soul
I would be left empty... forever
7
She is my sun, my moon, my stars
she holds half the love we call ours.
She is my grass, my bush, my tree
she makes me happy and her love comes free.
She is my gust, my wind, my breeze
she is my love that comes with so much ease.
She is my emotions, my happy, my sad
I'd gladly give her all the love that I have.
She is my earth, my air, my sky
everything beautiful I see with my eyes.
She is my drink, my snack, my food
she always puts me in a good mood.
She is my eyes, my lips, my heart
our love has made a brand new start.
She is my river, my lake, my streams
she is my everything, whatever it means.
She is my blonde, my brunette, my red
8
A little boy stands all alone
gazing among the trees,
he watches as the birds fly by
and falls to his knees.
He looks straight up into the tree,
much to his surprise,
a little bird falls from it's nest
and lands by his side.
He watches as the bird lies still,
lying on the ground.
He cuddles the bird in his palm
and begins to look around.
The other birds fly close
making a shreaking sound,
the mother bird flies by his side and
he lays the little bird down.
The mother bird looks at the boy
the boy begins to cry,
then the little bird gets straight up
and soon begins to fly.
The little boy looks at the mother bird
with a smile upon his face.
He lifts the mother bird into the air
I guess "everything has it's place".
Now the little boy has grown up
and a family of his own,
he'll never forget that little bird
and the love it's mother had shown
9
How can i define the word Love?
Love comes from the heart
It's like heaven and hell
It's like a game with no one control
It's like a balloon, going whichever way the wind blows
It's has different emotions
It's like an angel or a devil
It's just as much as you think it is
It's like a riddle
It can make you hurt and drive you crazy
It can give you a whole new world
It can also destroy your world
It tastes like strawberries
A little sour, a little sweet
It will never stop until you die...
10
I close my eyes and see you there
waiting
arms open, ready to love me
to hold me close to your heart.
I see you motioning me to you
...my self needing your touch.
I see our hearts intertwining
a love that can sustain us
...can carry us to the unknown.
I see us embracing
...falling into each other.
I feel you kissing me tenderly
taking me to a place only we can be.
I see our love overpowering any doubts we may have had
carrying us to a world of love and happiness.
I see me giving my heart to you
...having yours in return.
I see my future beginning with you
...yours with me.
I see me loving you
...you loving me.
Us together
...eternally.
The music that I hear.
Takes me back so far away,
The time that you were near.
Shadows dancing, fire burning,
Snow is falling, love is turning,
To think of you.
I miss those times we had together.
Thunder clouds and stormy weather.
You, so close and warm beside me.
And even now the fire burns,
The love, forever, in my heart,
With no place to go,
But the picture in my mind,
And the music that I hear.
Is you.
2
Rose of purity, fresh and white
Pink pastel pallor in the morning
Light of a pale day
You my love in your demure ways
Delicately taking of the day
In an exaltation of giving
Pure pink passion in white
O how exquisitely seductive
Your magical looks of innocence
In knowing the world and wanting
To love and be loved
A spiritual child of refreshing vitality
A lover of the flesh in mystical
Movements of an endless longing
Loving and giving
White pink rose of heightened desires
Passionate purity in your eyes
Your form perfect in its youthful vibrance
In calmness a princess of the stars
Ethereal in persuasion, earthly in needs
An earthy vision of sensuality
A rose of purity divinely given
3
My love for you
is deeper than
the grand canyon,
and stronger than
a tornado.
It will forever be
this way...
I can't explain
the way i am,
words just can't
touch how i feel.
I know that we
are meant to be.
This love we share
thru eternity.
The road ahead
will be long
and there will
be hurdles for
us to overcome--
but i am not
worried about
these things--
we will overcome
whatever they may be--
because a love
like ours.....
must be destiny!
4
When I need you
I just hold out my hand
And I'll touch you.
You're there when I need you
To give a shoulder to cry on
When I feel I need to die
You're there to wipe away my tears
And share all my hopes and fears.
When I need someone to lend
A helping hand
I just turn to you and you're there
To advise and understand.
When I need someone to share all
My hopes and dreams
You open up your arms
And show me what love means.
When I need you you're always there
To listen, advise and care
You always show your affection
And say you love me so
You tell me that you need me
and that you never want to let me go
5
Once I knew you, but now you've disappeared
I thought I saw you, but you weren't there
I thought you knew what love was- maybe you didn't
I knew I had love for you - there was no question
But I didn't care if you really loved me
Or if they were just words that you spoke
I clung to you and needed you
But you died and are now a ghost
A vague picture in my mind
Why can you love what you can't see?
Why do you feel the touch of what's no longer there?
I can still remember in my dreams
But when my eyes awake my dream closes and reality stares me in
my face,
Yes,I know my heart.
I'm in love with your ghost.
6
Without you
I would not exist
In any shape or form
Without you
Life would mean nothing
No emotions
NONE...
Without you
There would be no us
To look forward to
AND...
Without you
The sun would not rise
In my soul
I would be left empty... forever
7
She is my sun, my moon, my stars
she holds half the love we call ours.
She is my grass, my bush, my tree
she makes me happy and her love comes free.
She is my gust, my wind, my breeze
she is my love that comes with so much ease.
She is my emotions, my happy, my sad
I'd gladly give her all the love that I have.
She is my earth, my air, my sky
everything beautiful I see with my eyes.
She is my drink, my snack, my food
she always puts me in a good mood.
She is my eyes, my lips, my heart
our love has made a brand new start.
She is my river, my lake, my streams
she is my everything, whatever it means.
She is my blonde, my brunette, my red
8
A little boy stands all alone
gazing among the trees,
he watches as the birds fly by
and falls to his knees.
He looks straight up into the tree,
much to his surprise,
a little bird falls from it's nest
and lands by his side.
He watches as the bird lies still,
lying on the ground.
He cuddles the bird in his palm
and begins to look around.
The other birds fly close
making a shreaking sound,
the mother bird flies by his side and
he lays the little bird down.
The mother bird looks at the boy
the boy begins to cry,
then the little bird gets straight up
and soon begins to fly.
The little boy looks at the mother bird
with a smile upon his face.
He lifts the mother bird into the air
I guess "everything has it's place".
Now the little boy has grown up
and a family of his own,
he'll never forget that little bird
and the love it's mother had shown
9
How can i define the word Love?
Love comes from the heart
It's like heaven and hell
It's like a game with no one control
It's like a balloon, going whichever way the wind blows
It's has different emotions
It's like an angel or a devil
It's just as much as you think it is
It's like a riddle
It can make you hurt and drive you crazy
It can give you a whole new world
It can also destroy your world
It tastes like strawberries
A little sour, a little sweet
It will never stop until you die...
10
I close my eyes and see you there
waiting
arms open, ready to love me
to hold me close to your heart.
I see you motioning me to you
...my self needing your touch.
I see our hearts intertwining
a love that can sustain us
...can carry us to the unknown.
I see us embracing
...falling into each other.
I feel you kissing me tenderly
taking me to a place only we can be.
I see our love overpowering any doubts we may have had
carrying us to a world of love and happiness.
I see me giving my heart to you
...having yours in return.
I see my future beginning with you
...yours with me.
I see me loving you
...you loving me.
Us together
...eternally.
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