Sunday, August 25, 2013
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER/PERSONAL/ LOVER LETTER: DEAR YOU
Dear You
There are a great number of cliches floating around that one could use to describe the relationship (or lack thereof) that I share with you. All of them are correct and meaningful, but it seems to me that I will do you the most justice by refraining from using someone else's love story to tell mine.
Right now, you aren't in love me with me. You are unsure if you ever will be. You are a fan of classical romance, and you read and watch deeply into Pride and Prejudice. I think you long for a lover, but do not know exactly how to obtain the kind you want. You are especially unsure if I can satisfy that longing, I think. You don't think we are familiar enough. The thought of us as an 'us' has crossed your mind, but the butterflies I've given you are, to date, inadequate. You want more. You want them to last. You do not trust a crush.
I, on the other hand, am completely and irreversibly in love with you. It has nothing to do with how beautiful you are, even though no one I know stands up to you physically. If it had to do with looks, I could have forgotten you long ago. I have intentionally tried to forget you. It hurts to love you. I have wanted to be yours and to have you be mine. In the end, I'm just a guy, and you're just a girl. But I love you. I love you. I love you so much that everything in life is inadequate, just as I am to you. Nothing satisfies me, because nothing is comparable to the happiness I feel when you speak to me, darling. I am so proud, yet my love for you has humbled me to the state of a docile tulip. When you condescend to share with me your gorgeous smile, I fall apart with joy. It lights me up inside as bread offered to the starving, a miraculous child to the infertile, a sunrise to the irreparably blind. All the light in the world is contained within you, my sweet and lovely girl. Let it spill over into me, or let the blackness swallow me whole. Let me go insane. For I will not choose death. To the ill-fated lover death comes too easily. To me, death is a cop-out. After all my suffering, and all the love I feel, death would be a vile interruption. Nothing will stand in the way of my love until my mind is gone and my body is unresponsive and inoperable. Please, darling. Let me tell you. Let me hold you and love you. Let me share in your strength and wit. Shelter me with your brilliant gaze, and warm me with your kindness. Keep away the blackness, darling. I will be so indebted to you.
There are a great number of cliches floating around that one could use to describe the relationship (or lack thereof) that I share with you. All of them are correct and meaningful, but it seems to me that I will do you the most justice by refraining from using someone else's love story to tell mine.
Right now, you aren't in love me with me. You are unsure if you ever will be. You are a fan of classical romance, and you read and watch deeply into Pride and Prejudice. I think you long for a lover, but do not know exactly how to obtain the kind you want. You are especially unsure if I can satisfy that longing, I think. You don't think we are familiar enough. The thought of us as an 'us' has crossed your mind, but the butterflies I've given you are, to date, inadequate. You want more. You want them to last. You do not trust a crush.
I, on the other hand, am completely and irreversibly in love with you. It has nothing to do with how beautiful you are, even though no one I know stands up to you physically. If it had to do with looks, I could have forgotten you long ago. I have intentionally tried to forget you. It hurts to love you. I have wanted to be yours and to have you be mine. In the end, I'm just a guy, and you're just a girl. But I love you. I love you. I love you so much that everything in life is inadequate, just as I am to you. Nothing satisfies me, because nothing is comparable to the happiness I feel when you speak to me, darling. I am so proud, yet my love for you has humbled me to the state of a docile tulip. When you condescend to share with me your gorgeous smile, I fall apart with joy. It lights me up inside as bread offered to the starving, a miraculous child to the infertile, a sunrise to the irreparably blind. All the light in the world is contained within you, my sweet and lovely girl. Let it spill over into me, or let the blackness swallow me whole. Let me go insane. For I will not choose death. To the ill-fated lover death comes too easily. To me, death is a cop-out. After all my suffering, and all the love I feel, death would be a vile interruption. Nothing will stand in the way of my love until my mind is gone and my body is unresponsive and inoperable. Please, darling. Let me tell you. Let me hold you and love you. Let me share in your strength and wit. Shelter me with your brilliant gaze, and warm me with your kindness. Keep away the blackness, darling. I will be so indebted to you.
Thursday, August 22, 2013
JOURNAL/LOVE: TRYING TO BE MORE LOVING
OK, so this is a pretty big, mushy subject. It tends to make people giggle nervously, squirm in their seats, and pretend they are too cool, tough and independent to need it. But what is more basic or universal than the need to love and be loved?
It’s actually kind of funny that we want it, need it and wish to express it, yet we are more comfortable uttering profane four-letter words than saying “love.” So why the big secret … who are we trying to fool?
I’m going to out myself here and declare that I enjoy loving people. And not just romantic love, but the love I feel for my friends, family, children and even strangers I pass by. I feel their pain, their hope, their humanity and recognize my own spirit in their eyes. Suffice it to say, I am a mush-pot.
What is Love?
So what is this strange, ever-present, yet at the same time elusive thing called love?
Love is a hard thing to define. Scholars, musicians and poets have philosophized about the true nature of love since the first stirrings of emotion were felt in human hearts.
While we have all probably felt love at different points in our lives, I think most of our thinking about love tends to revolve around experiences of conditional love. We love someone because of what they give us, or how they make us feel. If they change or stop giving us what we need and want, we stop loving them. That, by definition, is conditional love. It’s loving someone for a reason. A good reason, perhaps, but still … that kind of love can be taken away, can dissolve when life rains on it. I would call this little “l” love.
Unconditional love (big “L” love) isn’t about wanting something from someone, or expecting another to make us happy. And it’s not about finding someone who is without flaw, or perfect for us. It’s about wanting to share life, love and happiness with another, from a place of fullness, not from a big gaping hole that needs to be filled. It’s accepting the whole person, warts and all. It’s about wanting what is best for our loved ones, and helping them to fulfill their dreams and be the fullest expression of who they really are. It is seeing ourselves in the other, and wanting to do no harm, since harming another is ultimately harming ourselves.
Here are a few quotes about love, which I think capture the spirit of unconditional love:
“We are made by love, we are made of love, and we are made for love. Everything is love anyway. Our hate is love turned sour, jealousy is love turned bitter, our fears are love standing upside down, greed is love gone overboard, attachment is love gone sticky.”
—Khurshed Batliwala, blogger
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
—Rumi, thirteenth-century Sufi poet
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
—Robert A. Heinlein, author (1907 – 1988)
“Don’t settle for love of this or that, he or she; that is all so, so small. Stubbornly hold out for love itself—beyond everything.”
—Bruce Allen, spiritual counsellor
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
—Aristotle, Greek philosopher (384 BC – 322 BC)
“There is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame that heats our soul, energizes our spirit, and supplies passion to our lives.”
—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, psychiatrist and author (1926 – 2004)
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”
—Judy Garland, American actress and singer (1922 – 1969)
Love Is All There Is
We tend to look to others to “bring” us love. But we do not need to look outside ourselves to experience love. At the risk of sounding corny, love is what we are made of. We may physically be 99% water, but spiritually I believe we are 100% love. The reason we don’t always feel that way, or we do things that aren’t good for ourselves or others, is because we forget who we really are.
In Love for No Reason, we attach our love to things and people.
Think about someone or something you really love. Let your mind wander to all the things you love about this person or thing.
Now take your focus away from the person or thing you were thinking about, and focus entirely on the feeling of love.
Notice how you feel – the sensation of warmth in your chest, the smile that probably comes to your face, the light-heartedness.
You are now experiencing love as love itself. That love really comes from you, not from something or someone else. It is always there within you, ready to access whenever you choose.
This brings up an important point. Love is, essentially, a choice, not something you get from others. It is a practice, something you choose to bring to the world. Really, the success of our relationships with other people is determined by our own capacity to love. It is what we give to others that determines what we get back.
At this point, you may be thinking, “But I give a lot to the people I care about, and they don’t give it back to me.” I know I have had that experience on more than one occasion. But that is, again, because we are thinking about conditional love. Unconditional love is giving love without expecting it to be returned. It is loving the person anyway, even if they don’t act the way we want them to.
This does not mean we have to stay in a relationship that is not good for us. After all, unconditional love also requires us to love ourselves. And sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and the other person is to leave a relationship. For example, is it love to stay in an abusive relationship? Of course not. It is not loving to you, and it is not loving to the one who is treating you that way. Leaving in that situation is an act of love, because it teaches the other person that their behaviour is not loving, and encourages them to change for the better.
My 5 year marriage ended 2 years ago. The relationship was not abusive, but it was dysfunctional, and neither my spouse nor I were happy. But she decided to leave...and to me commitment is something I took very seriously. But staying would not have been an act of love. It would have been an act of fear – fear of the unknown, of hurting people, of what others would say, of being alone, of being wrong.
The most loving thing I could do for myself was to let go of the guilt and fear and believe that I was deserving of the kind of love I knew in my heart was possible.
“It’s easy to love things that are charming and attractive, but the real challenge is to experience love in difficult situations and with people you don’t even like. To maintain an open heart when your spouse is being difficult, your child is throwing a tantrum, or your boss is making what seem like unreasonable demands requires a commitment to love as the number one priority in your life.”
—Marci Shimoff, author, Love for No Reason
I am still trying to sort out what love is, and to be more loving with the people in my life. But this much I know for sure: to experience unconditional love, you have to be willing to give it. To receive love, you have to be open to it. It is very difficult to feel love with a closed heart. We cannot simultaneously protect our hearts from hurt and experience real love. Fear is the opposite of love.
I have been hurt before. I could choose to close my heart off to protect myself. But I know that doing that will prevent me from giving love to others, and ultimately from receiving love too. So I choose to live with my heart wide open. It makes me vulnerable, but also allows me to share my happiness with others and opens me to the wonderful experience of love. While we all fear pain, there is a tremendous strength in the softness and vulnerability of love. We can survive being hurt. We cannot survive without love.
But what should we do when love goes awry?
Let’s face it: human relationships are complicated. It is so easy to lose ourselves in them, and to find it hard to know what to do. When I feel stuck about a situation (whether it involves a relationship or not), my two favourite questions to ask myself are:
Who do I want to be in this situation?
Is this decision coming from a place of love, or a place of fear?
I know when I make decisions out of fear, I am filled with anxiety and I almost always live to regret them. When I make them from a place of love, things turn out well in the end and I am left with a feeling of peace and light-heartedness.
You may still be wondering, “But how do I attract more love into my life?” Well, the truth is, you will attract more love when you give more love. Like attracts like. But to break it down into a practical process, this is what I have learned from my research and personal experience:
Let go of past hurts. Your heart cannot give or receive love if you are hanging on to pain, or judging the actions of others. Do what you need to do toprocess your feelings. Then let them go. Realize that most times, people don’t mean to hurt us. They are simply human and doing the best they can. Release them with love and move on.
Fill your own cup. You can’t give love if your glass is half empty. And if you try to receive it in this state, you will end up draining the other person’s glass. It is important to fill your own cup first. Learn to love yourself and believe you are worthy of love. Do nice things for yourself. Try something you’ve always wanted to do. Spend time doing things you love. Your life will automatically become richer and fuller, and you will be able to approach new relationships from a place of fullness instead of lack.
Be grateful for the love you already have. The quickest shortcut to getting more of what you want is to be thankful for what you already have. Look around your life and see how much love is already in it. Make a list of the wonderful people you know, and the experiences you have had that make you feel alive. Really stop and appreciate them. Look at this list whenever you are feeling down or lonely.
Keep your heart open. Stay positive and loving no matter what the outcome. If you don’t immediately get what you want, trust that the process is working and that something better is coming your way. If you get hurt, look for what you can learn from the situation, and choose to keep your heart open to love.
Give love to others. Choose to be loving with every decision you make, word you say and action you take. Send love out into the world, and like a boomerang it will come back to you (often when you least expect it!).
Love really isn’t as elusive as we think. Real, unconditional love is everywhere when we stop and look for it.
I believe the true nature of love is generosity – it’s giving everything you can to another because you want to, not because it’s expected. It’s caring just because. It’s acknowledging that people aren’t perfect, but you love them anyway. Love just is, whether it makes sense to others or not. When you see it, touch it and feel it, it is a beautiful thing to behold. And like a ripple across a smooth, expansive lake, it only gets bigger when you share it.
Choose to love unconditionally. Live with an open heart. Let yourself be vulnerable, so people can have the chance to know the real, wonderful you. Look for the love already present in your life. Believe more is possible. And above all, spread this wonderful gift to others.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
It’s actually kind of funny that we want it, need it and wish to express it, yet we are more comfortable uttering profane four-letter words than saying “love.” So why the big secret … who are we trying to fool?
I’m going to out myself here and declare that I enjoy loving people. And not just romantic love, but the love I feel for my friends, family, children and even strangers I pass by. I feel their pain, their hope, their humanity and recognize my own spirit in their eyes. Suffice it to say, I am a mush-pot.
What is Love?
So what is this strange, ever-present, yet at the same time elusive thing called love?
Love is a hard thing to define. Scholars, musicians and poets have philosophized about the true nature of love since the first stirrings of emotion were felt in human hearts.
While we have all probably felt love at different points in our lives, I think most of our thinking about love tends to revolve around experiences of conditional love. We love someone because of what they give us, or how they make us feel. If they change or stop giving us what we need and want, we stop loving them. That, by definition, is conditional love. It’s loving someone for a reason. A good reason, perhaps, but still … that kind of love can be taken away, can dissolve when life rains on it. I would call this little “l” love.
Unconditional love (big “L” love) isn’t about wanting something from someone, or expecting another to make us happy. And it’s not about finding someone who is without flaw, or perfect for us. It’s about wanting to share life, love and happiness with another, from a place of fullness, not from a big gaping hole that needs to be filled. It’s accepting the whole person, warts and all. It’s about wanting what is best for our loved ones, and helping them to fulfill their dreams and be the fullest expression of who they really are. It is seeing ourselves in the other, and wanting to do no harm, since harming another is ultimately harming ourselves.
Here are a few quotes about love, which I think capture the spirit of unconditional love:
“We are made by love, we are made of love, and we are made for love. Everything is love anyway. Our hate is love turned sour, jealousy is love turned bitter, our fears are love standing upside down, greed is love gone overboard, attachment is love gone sticky.”
—Khurshed Batliwala, blogger
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
—Rumi, thirteenth-century Sufi poet
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
—Robert A. Heinlein, author (1907 – 1988)
“Don’t settle for love of this or that, he or she; that is all so, so small. Stubbornly hold out for love itself—beyond everything.”
—Bruce Allen, spiritual counsellor
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
—Aristotle, Greek philosopher (384 BC – 322 BC)
“There is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame that heats our soul, energizes our spirit, and supplies passion to our lives.”
—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, psychiatrist and author (1926 – 2004)
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”
—Judy Garland, American actress and singer (1922 – 1969)
Love Is All There Is
We tend to look to others to “bring” us love. But we do not need to look outside ourselves to experience love. At the risk of sounding corny, love is what we are made of. We may physically be 99% water, but spiritually I believe we are 100% love. The reason we don’t always feel that way, or we do things that aren’t good for ourselves or others, is because we forget who we really are.
In Love for No Reason, we attach our love to things and people.
Think about someone or something you really love. Let your mind wander to all the things you love about this person or thing.
Now take your focus away from the person or thing you were thinking about, and focus entirely on the feeling of love.
Notice how you feel – the sensation of warmth in your chest, the smile that probably comes to your face, the light-heartedness.
You are now experiencing love as love itself. That love really comes from you, not from something or someone else. It is always there within you, ready to access whenever you choose.
This brings up an important point. Love is, essentially, a choice, not something you get from others. It is a practice, something you choose to bring to the world. Really, the success of our relationships with other people is determined by our own capacity to love. It is what we give to others that determines what we get back.
At this point, you may be thinking, “But I give a lot to the people I care about, and they don’t give it back to me.” I know I have had that experience on more than one occasion. But that is, again, because we are thinking about conditional love. Unconditional love is giving love without expecting it to be returned. It is loving the person anyway, even if they don’t act the way we want them to.
This does not mean we have to stay in a relationship that is not good for us. After all, unconditional love also requires us to love ourselves. And sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and the other person is to leave a relationship. For example, is it love to stay in an abusive relationship? Of course not. It is not loving to you, and it is not loving to the one who is treating you that way. Leaving in that situation is an act of love, because it teaches the other person that their behaviour is not loving, and encourages them to change for the better.
My 5 year marriage ended 2 years ago. The relationship was not abusive, but it was dysfunctional, and neither my spouse nor I were happy. But she decided to leave...and to me commitment is something I took very seriously. But staying would not have been an act of love. It would have been an act of fear – fear of the unknown, of hurting people, of what others would say, of being alone, of being wrong.
The most loving thing I could do for myself was to let go of the guilt and fear and believe that I was deserving of the kind of love I knew in my heart was possible.
“It’s easy to love things that are charming and attractive, but the real challenge is to experience love in difficult situations and with people you don’t even like. To maintain an open heart when your spouse is being difficult, your child is throwing a tantrum, or your boss is making what seem like unreasonable demands requires a commitment to love as the number one priority in your life.”
—Marci Shimoff, author, Love for No Reason
I am still trying to sort out what love is, and to be more loving with the people in my life. But this much I know for sure: to experience unconditional love, you have to be willing to give it. To receive love, you have to be open to it. It is very difficult to feel love with a closed heart. We cannot simultaneously protect our hearts from hurt and experience real love. Fear is the opposite of love.
I have been hurt before. I could choose to close my heart off to protect myself. But I know that doing that will prevent me from giving love to others, and ultimately from receiving love too. So I choose to live with my heart wide open. It makes me vulnerable, but also allows me to share my happiness with others and opens me to the wonderful experience of love. While we all fear pain, there is a tremendous strength in the softness and vulnerability of love. We can survive being hurt. We cannot survive without love.
But what should we do when love goes awry?
Let’s face it: human relationships are complicated. It is so easy to lose ourselves in them, and to find it hard to know what to do. When I feel stuck about a situation (whether it involves a relationship or not), my two favourite questions to ask myself are:
Who do I want to be in this situation?
Is this decision coming from a place of love, or a place of fear?
I know when I make decisions out of fear, I am filled with anxiety and I almost always live to regret them. When I make them from a place of love, things turn out well in the end and I am left with a feeling of peace and light-heartedness.
You may still be wondering, “But how do I attract more love into my life?” Well, the truth is, you will attract more love when you give more love. Like attracts like. But to break it down into a practical process, this is what I have learned from my research and personal experience:
Let go of past hurts. Your heart cannot give or receive love if you are hanging on to pain, or judging the actions of others. Do what you need to do toprocess your feelings. Then let them go. Realize that most times, people don’t mean to hurt us. They are simply human and doing the best they can. Release them with love and move on.
Fill your own cup. You can’t give love if your glass is half empty. And if you try to receive it in this state, you will end up draining the other person’s glass. It is important to fill your own cup first. Learn to love yourself and believe you are worthy of love. Do nice things for yourself. Try something you’ve always wanted to do. Spend time doing things you love. Your life will automatically become richer and fuller, and you will be able to approach new relationships from a place of fullness instead of lack.
Be grateful for the love you already have. The quickest shortcut to getting more of what you want is to be thankful for what you already have. Look around your life and see how much love is already in it. Make a list of the wonderful people you know, and the experiences you have had that make you feel alive. Really stop and appreciate them. Look at this list whenever you are feeling down or lonely.
Keep your heart open. Stay positive and loving no matter what the outcome. If you don’t immediately get what you want, trust that the process is working and that something better is coming your way. If you get hurt, look for what you can learn from the situation, and choose to keep your heart open to love.
Give love to others. Choose to be loving with every decision you make, word you say and action you take. Send love out into the world, and like a boomerang it will come back to you (often when you least expect it!).
Love really isn’t as elusive as we think. Real, unconditional love is everywhere when we stop and look for it.
I believe the true nature of love is generosity – it’s giving everything you can to another because you want to, not because it’s expected. It’s caring just because. It’s acknowledging that people aren’t perfect, but you love them anyway. Love just is, whether it makes sense to others or not. When you see it, touch it and feel it, it is a beautiful thing to behold. And like a ripple across a smooth, expansive lake, it only gets bigger when you share it.
Choose to love unconditionally. Live with an open heart. Let yourself be vulnerable, so people can have the chance to know the real, wonderful you. Look for the love already present in your life. Believe more is possible. And above all, spread this wonderful gift to others.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
I love you. My life is empty without you. Before I met you I never lived, because I never knew love before I knew you. When I die, my love will live on, as my spirit has been infused with your touch and grace and your love has forever embraced my soul. You have etched your name in my heart. And my heart is made of gold, dipped in your love. The gold flecks flow through my bloodstream filling my entire body with joy and love. When we make love, my golden rod impales you, until my metal smelts and my excalibur is lifted from your warm stone. Hours into days into weeks into years, I think of you. When I shower I think of you. If we make love in the morning, I tie a shower cap around my dick, so that your love will not be washed away, and carry your love with me all day. Before I sleep, I pray to the gods above that you will love me more in the morning, and I beg them to take my breath in the night if I should ever lay next to you unloved. When the song is over, I press repeat at least 5 times to better harmonize the lyrics to my voice, soaked in love and lemon honey water. When I go to the beach, I bring your love and an umbrella, for one shades me from the sun, and the other ignites me like a solar storm. When my love wanes, I build it back with steroid shots of your kisses. Your kisses remind me that our love is stronger than Hercules. Your kisses are my achilles heel. Your love is my Venus. You are my moon.
Sincerely,
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
I love you. My life is empty without you. Before I met you I never lived, because I never knew love before I knew you. When I die, my love will live on, as my spirit has been infused with your touch and grace and your love has forever embraced my soul. You have etched your name in my heart. And my heart is made of gold, dipped in your love. The gold flecks flow through my bloodstream filling my entire body with joy and love. When we make love, my golden rod impales you, until my metal smelts and my excalibur is lifted from your warm stone. Hours into days into weeks into years, I think of you. When I shower I think of you. If we make love in the morning, I tie a shower cap around my dick, so that your love will not be washed away, and carry your love with me all day. Before I sleep, I pray to the gods above that you will love me more in the morning, and I beg them to take my breath in the night if I should ever lay next to you unloved. When the song is over, I press repeat at least 5 times to better harmonize the lyrics to my voice, soaked in love and lemon honey water. When I go to the beach, I bring your love and an umbrella, for one shades me from the sun, and the other ignites me like a solar storm. When my love wanes, I build it back with steroid shots of your kisses. Your kisses remind me that our love is stronger than Hercules. Your kisses are my achilles heel. Your love is my Venus. You are my moon.
Sincerely,
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
POETRY: HOW CAN I EXPRESS THIS FEELING
I stand here all alone
Waiting for you to come home
Every second seems to last
As long as every year that passed.
How can I express this feeling,
Pain as the wounds start healing
Flames encircle my heart
Yet this is only the start
How may times have I cried
Wishing you would be by my side
The pain that I have to endure.
I would gladly endure more.
Just to get you back here
I would face every fear
Just to fell your touch
Would mean so very much.
But for that I'll just have to wait
Years of I have to for my soul-mate
2
You are the sunshine in my days,
The moonlight in my nights,
The song in my heart,
You are the wind beneath my wings,
allowing my spirit to soar,
Forever I shall cherish you
Our lips locked, our bodies entwined
You drive me wild,
Our spirits merge
I am yours, you are mine
You are My One
My Soulmate
I Love You
3
"Soulmate"
Two hearts,
Two people,
Two different paths yet simple,
One has a generous smile,
While,
One has an open heart,
Although still apart,
Will one day meet,
Two hearts that are meant to beat,
For each other only,
One who has been lonely,
Will soon find out she was never meant to be alone,
One who has been broken,
Will soon be whole again,
Smiles will appear,
Sorrows will disappear,
.
One who will give,
All there is to believe,
One who will see,
How miracles came to be
4
In the mist all around
There a faithless soul
Shall be marked and found
Returned to earth with a different role
When all the soul desires
Is to find the other half of its whole
With each passing moment that hope expires
Until a brief glimpse across the mist
A recognition only a soulmate requires
A feeling the two souls had 'til now missed
Kindles in their matched halves of hearts
Love and Hope they neither could resist
Their souls shall find
When they to earth return this time
A meeting of two souls as one entwined
5
One heart in two bodies
Wandering, roaming th world
Desperately searching for its other half
Fate will show them
Destiny will guide them
But will Love bind them?
A faint yet visible trace of…shadow…
Hesitation… Confusion…
Uncertainty… Doubt…
Fear…?
How do you know?
How can you tell…
Fate from Fake
The journey
The wait
The risk
The fear
All in search of a soulmate..
In search of eternal happiness...
6
True love is found
In a soulmate
A perfect fit
The socks to your shoes
The butter to your bread
The love to your life
Someone you put even before yourself
Who once you have them
You cannot imagine a life
Without
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Waiting for you to come home
Every second seems to last
As long as every year that passed.
How can I express this feeling,
Pain as the wounds start healing
Flames encircle my heart
Yet this is only the start
How may times have I cried
Wishing you would be by my side
The pain that I have to endure.
I would gladly endure more.
Just to get you back here
I would face every fear
Just to fell your touch
Would mean so very much.
But for that I'll just have to wait
Years of I have to for my soul-mate
2
You are the sunshine in my days,
The moonlight in my nights,
The song in my heart,
You are the wind beneath my wings,
allowing my spirit to soar,
Forever I shall cherish you
Our lips locked, our bodies entwined
You drive me wild,
Our spirits merge
I am yours, you are mine
You are My One
My Soulmate
I Love You
3
"Soulmate"
Two hearts,
Two people,
Two different paths yet simple,
One has a generous smile,
While,
One has an open heart,
Although still apart,
Will one day meet,
Two hearts that are meant to beat,
For each other only,
One who has been lonely,
Will soon find out she was never meant to be alone,
One who has been broken,
Will soon be whole again,
Smiles will appear,
Sorrows will disappear,
.
One who will give,
All there is to believe,
One who will see,
How miracles came to be
4
In the mist all around
There a faithless soul
Shall be marked and found
Returned to earth with a different role
When all the soul desires
Is to find the other half of its whole
With each passing moment that hope expires
Until a brief glimpse across the mist
A recognition only a soulmate requires
A feeling the two souls had 'til now missed
Kindles in their matched halves of hearts
Love and Hope they neither could resist
Their souls shall find
When they to earth return this time
A meeting of two souls as one entwined
5
One heart in two bodies
Wandering, roaming th world
Desperately searching for its other half
Fate will show them
Destiny will guide them
But will Love bind them?
A faint yet visible trace of…shadow…
Hesitation… Confusion…
Uncertainty… Doubt…
Fear…?
How do you know?
How can you tell…
Fate from Fake
The journey
The wait
The risk
The fear
All in search of a soulmate..
In search of eternal happiness...
6
True love is found
In a soulmate
A perfect fit
The socks to your shoes
The butter to your bread
The love to your life
Someone you put even before yourself
Who once you have them
You cannot imagine a life
Without
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
JOURNAL: THIS FEELING I HAVE IN MY HEART
Anyone who has felt their heart’s deep calling for “the One” will know that these soulful echoes can leave you feeling as if a significant piece of the puzzle is missing from your life.
And in many respects, it is.However, just like a puzzle, not any piece will do. Forcing a piece that doesn’t fit properly will mean that another part of the puzzle will also be broken, and even when it’s complete – something will always be out of place.
The same is true when finding the right fit for your heart.And while we may get anxious when each piece we pick up doesn’t fit, time is actually always on our side – as only a true alignment with another person will ever satisfy our heart’s soulful calling.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
And in many respects, it is.However, just like a puzzle, not any piece will do. Forcing a piece that doesn’t fit properly will mean that another part of the puzzle will also be broken, and even when it’s complete – something will always be out of place.
The same is true when finding the right fit for your heart.And while we may get anxious when each piece we pick up doesn’t fit, time is actually always on our side – as only a true alignment with another person will ever satisfy our heart’s soulful calling.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
LOVE: ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF WHY MOST WOMAN ARE FUCKED UP
Men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness. This doesn’t mean that they’re not shallow (they are), but rather, that they are consistent and reasonable in terms of “rating” women’s looks.
Like in a normal bell curve, 5% of the women were found to be the least attractive and 5% were found to be the most attractive, with most women falling in the middle 90%.
It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Like in a normal bell curve, 5% of the women were found to be the least attractive and 5% were found to be the most attractive, with most women falling in the middle 90%.
It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
Women, on the other hand, rate 80% of men as below average.
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
It's a stark realization when you see just how few men woman even find to be average looking.
PART 2
I read — and have read — A LOT of women’s profiles — and most women seem to be describing — in terms of looks — the SAME guy — a very George Clooney / Jon Hamm type guy — 6 feet plus, head of hair (no matter what age), athletic, handsome (“I want to feel goosebumps when he walks into a room” etc.).
I have lived on the upper west side and I rarely, rarely see any guys who come close to that type — I moved to Long Island and didn’t see any guys who looked like that…. I went on vacation in Florida and there was only ONE guy I saw who look like what most woman want.
But don’t get me wrong I am quite realistic about the kind of woman I can attract. On one particular dating site, you have the option of having your pictures evaluated by other members, where you are rated on a scale of 1-10 in terms of looks. I thought what to heck — let them rate me. And as I remembered, my average rating was a 7.8, according to the others members.
Maybe something’s just wrong with me? Generally speaking, if someone is interested in me and seems to have enough in common with me (in terms of future plans, beliefs, morals, et al), I’ll go out with her.
None of the woman I’ve dated look anything like one another, as I’m not so much interested in a “look” or a “type” as I am who they are. A lot of my guy friends will wonder why I’m with a woman because they’ll think she is “unattractive” or “not in my league.” But a woman’s looks haven’t ever been the top attribute I seek when searching for a partner.
When it comes to being too picky. The main reasons I rate so many people poorly are the following, in roughly descending order of importance/frequency:
Profile writing quality is poor (proxy for “low intelligence”)
Profile too short (< 400 words)
Obese
Single mother
Not a college graduate
I’m more of the guy next door type, so I’d rather be with a good hearted, fun loving, respectful caring woman — and if she happens to be a 9 or 10, whatever. I’m not all that pressed. My past girlfriend makes me laugh constantly and treats me well. Because of those reasons, she’s sexy to me. Isn’t that all that matters? I also realize that the attraction won’t be based just on looks; I’ve gotta have the whole package! So, in my world, average-looking woman who seem intelligent and show themselves to have the important qualities like loyalty and integrity quickly become a 10.
I write not to the women whom I think are in the “top 10%” (or 5% or 20% or whatever), but instead to the women whom I find attractive going from their profiles (and who, I think from looking at their preferences, might go for me). I’m not positive how all the other men rate the women I write to, but I do hope that I am able to outshine the competition and get the attention of these women.
Whether by accident or on purpose, women have gorged themselves on unrealistic expectations of what they find “attractive”. By all means, do not settle for an average guy, even if you are average. It will only end in misery for both of you.
There is nothing left to do but let the train run off the cliff into lonely, bitter old age for these women. It is unfixable. Periodically, a few of them will wise up and train themselves to be be humble and learn to destroy the unrealistic expectations that are destroying their chance at love and happiness.
The rest will watch shows like Mad Men and fantasize about Don Draper until they are old and ugly. Watch for life expectancies to drop in the future as legions of unloved men and unloved women die an early spiritual death followed closely by a physical death
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
It's a stark realization when you see just how few men woman even find to be average looking.
Most woman are probably Passing Up their Soulmate, And Don’t Even Know It
Yep, that sounds about right.PART 2
I read — and have read — A LOT of women’s profiles — and most women seem to be describing — in terms of looks — the SAME guy — a very George Clooney / Jon Hamm type guy — 6 feet plus, head of hair (no matter what age), athletic, handsome (“I want to feel goosebumps when he walks into a room” etc.).
I have lived on the upper west side and I rarely, rarely see any guys who come close to that type — I moved to Long Island and didn’t see any guys who looked like that…. I went on vacation in Florida and there was only ONE guy I saw who look like what most woman want.
But don’t get me wrong I am quite realistic about the kind of woman I can attract. On one particular dating site, you have the option of having your pictures evaluated by other members, where you are rated on a scale of 1-10 in terms of looks. I thought what to heck — let them rate me. And as I remembered, my average rating was a 7.8, according to the others members.
Maybe something’s just wrong with me? Generally speaking, if someone is interested in me and seems to have enough in common with me (in terms of future plans, beliefs, morals, et al), I’ll go out with her.
None of the woman I’ve dated look anything like one another, as I’m not so much interested in a “look” or a “type” as I am who they are. A lot of my guy friends will wonder why I’m with a woman because they’ll think she is “unattractive” or “not in my league.” But a woman’s looks haven’t ever been the top attribute I seek when searching for a partner.
When it comes to being too picky. The main reasons I rate so many people poorly are the following, in roughly descending order of importance/frequency:
Profile writing quality is poor (proxy for “low intelligence”)
Profile too short (< 400 words)
Obese
Single mother
Not a college graduate
I’m more of the guy next door type, so I’d rather be with a good hearted, fun loving, respectful caring woman — and if she happens to be a 9 or 10, whatever. I’m not all that pressed. My past girlfriend makes me laugh constantly and treats me well. Because of those reasons, she’s sexy to me. Isn’t that all that matters? I also realize that the attraction won’t be based just on looks; I’ve gotta have the whole package! So, in my world, average-looking woman who seem intelligent and show themselves to have the important qualities like loyalty and integrity quickly become a 10.
I write not to the women whom I think are in the “top 10%” (or 5% or 20% or whatever), but instead to the women whom I find attractive going from their profiles (and who, I think from looking at their preferences, might go for me). I’m not positive how all the other men rate the women I write to, but I do hope that I am able to outshine the competition and get the attention of these women.
Whether by accident or on purpose, women have gorged themselves on unrealistic expectations of what they find “attractive”. By all means, do not settle for an average guy, even if you are average. It will only end in misery for both of you.
There is nothing left to do but let the train run off the cliff into lonely, bitter old age for these women. It is unfixable. Periodically, a few of them will wise up and train themselves to be be humble and learn to destroy the unrealistic expectations that are destroying their chance at love and happiness.
The rest will watch shows like Mad Men and fantasize about Don Draper until they are old and ugly. Watch for life expectancies to drop in the future as legions of unloved men and unloved women die an early spiritual death followed closely by a physical death
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
LOVE: WHY WE PUSH YOUR SOULMATE AWAY
We push our soul mates away! Why would we do such a thing?
Because it's terrifying to love someone so much!
One of the major reasons we fail to fearlessly embrace these relationships is because we get a ton of advice that tells us not to.
Unfortunately, most people don't know what they're talking about when it comes to love. A good rule of thumb is: Don't take love advice from someone who doesn't have a relationship you admire. The blind leading the blind will not get you to happily ever after.
A lot of this poor relationship advice focuses on these two themes:
Your partner isn't giving you enough, so you should move on.
Your partner makes you feel negative emotions (i.e. frustration, annoyance, fear, anger, crazy … take your pick), so you should move on.
I'd like to address this advice, and explain why you should think twice about kicking your heart's desire to the curb.
1. It's not your choice to move on.
Try it. I'm serious. Let me know how that goes.
You can't will yourself to stop loving someone. That's like trying to use your mind outsmart your heart. It doesn't work like that!
I talk to plenty of people who have continued to love someone for years despite having tried to "let them go." What they really end up doing is blocking them out (i.e. shutting down their hearts), which is just torturous and fails every time.
Instead of blocking someone out, I encourage you to trust that your heart has a plan. Say yes to your soul mate and find out what the lessons are.
2. Relationships are not about getting; they're about giving.
We become obsessed with all the things that we aren't "getting" in relationships, but relationships are where we learn to GIVE. They are not about another person completing us!
People love talking about this. "She's not doing _____, so you should walk away." Really? Why not explore what you aren't doing?
How can you show up in a fuller way? How can you fearlessly love? These are the real questions you should be asking yourself.
When we genuinely give more to our partners, we receive more love. It's a simple equation. This is a major lesson you must learn if you are going to have successful relationships.
3. Yes, this relationship makes you feel negative emotions!
That's what happens in relationships! If you didn't feel negative emotions, you wouldn't grow!
Does this mean you have to endure frustration, annoyance, fear, and craziness forever? No! You get to move beyond these feelings. It's called evolution. But again, no discomfort, no growth.
People jump on challenges in relationships like they're a horrible thing. And I get it, it's not comfortable in be pushed to your edge. But having strong emotional experiences doesn't mean something is wrong! This is one of the biggest misconceptions about love. Your emotions indicate where you have room to grow.
I know, I know. You want to believe the fantasy that there's someone out there who will never push your buttons. Sweetheart, it ain't true. The sooner you accept this and face the discomfort in your relationship as a means for your own spiritual growth, the more at peace you're going to be.
When in comes to your relationship the most important thing to do is be true to you. When your heart is attached to a particular person, get curious about why that is. There just might be a reason for it.
Your soul mate is the person that you can't help but want, that you can't help but love, that you can't forget about no matter what. I say, "Don't fight the feeling!"
By accepting our soul mates, we're signing up for the richest type of life, one that includes the most potent emotions, twists and turns, depth and fullness. Trust me, this is what you really want — this is what it is to be alive.
Take my advice and jump into the current of your heart. Go for it! Your soul mate is waiting for you to say yes.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Because it's terrifying to love someone so much!
One of the major reasons we fail to fearlessly embrace these relationships is because we get a ton of advice that tells us not to.
Unfortunately, most people don't know what they're talking about when it comes to love. A good rule of thumb is: Don't take love advice from someone who doesn't have a relationship you admire. The blind leading the blind will not get you to happily ever after.
A lot of this poor relationship advice focuses on these two themes:
Your partner isn't giving you enough, so you should move on.
Your partner makes you feel negative emotions (i.e. frustration, annoyance, fear, anger, crazy … take your pick), so you should move on.
I'd like to address this advice, and explain why you should think twice about kicking your heart's desire to the curb.
1. It's not your choice to move on.
Try it. I'm serious. Let me know how that goes.
You can't will yourself to stop loving someone. That's like trying to use your mind outsmart your heart. It doesn't work like that!
I talk to plenty of people who have continued to love someone for years despite having tried to "let them go." What they really end up doing is blocking them out (i.e. shutting down their hearts), which is just torturous and fails every time.
Instead of blocking someone out, I encourage you to trust that your heart has a plan. Say yes to your soul mate and find out what the lessons are.
2. Relationships are not about getting; they're about giving.
We become obsessed with all the things that we aren't "getting" in relationships, but relationships are where we learn to GIVE. They are not about another person completing us!
People love talking about this. "She's not doing _____, so you should walk away." Really? Why not explore what you aren't doing?
How can you show up in a fuller way? How can you fearlessly love? These are the real questions you should be asking yourself.
When we genuinely give more to our partners, we receive more love. It's a simple equation. This is a major lesson you must learn if you are going to have successful relationships.
3. Yes, this relationship makes you feel negative emotions!
That's what happens in relationships! If you didn't feel negative emotions, you wouldn't grow!
Does this mean you have to endure frustration, annoyance, fear, and craziness forever? No! You get to move beyond these feelings. It's called evolution. But again, no discomfort, no growth.
People jump on challenges in relationships like they're a horrible thing. And I get it, it's not comfortable in be pushed to your edge. But having strong emotional experiences doesn't mean something is wrong! This is one of the biggest misconceptions about love. Your emotions indicate where you have room to grow.
I know, I know. You want to believe the fantasy that there's someone out there who will never push your buttons. Sweetheart, it ain't true. The sooner you accept this and face the discomfort in your relationship as a means for your own spiritual growth, the more at peace you're going to be.
When in comes to your relationship the most important thing to do is be true to you. When your heart is attached to a particular person, get curious about why that is. There just might be a reason for it.
Your soul mate is the person that you can't help but want, that you can't help but love, that you can't forget about no matter what. I say, "Don't fight the feeling!"
By accepting our soul mates, we're signing up for the richest type of life, one that includes the most potent emotions, twists and turns, depth and fullness. Trust me, this is what you really want — this is what it is to be alive.
Take my advice and jump into the current of your heart. Go for it! Your soul mate is waiting for you to say yes.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR GIRL
Dear Girl,
I don't know your name. But for the past few years, you have been known to me by "Girl". I've prayed for you and to you. I've written letters and poems for you. I've cried and begged God for your presence. I've wished and hoped for you, but you're so far away.
You are my girl, and my girl alone. I don't want to be selfish, but I want you, I truly, heartily do. Right now, I need your kisses and strength and touch. I need everything that defines you, although I don't know what that is. I've loved you from the start, although I don't know what I'm loving. I'm trusting in God that what I'm loving is true and real; and I'm trusting in you that you are you, dear Girl.
I'm so afraid sometimes that you are not there. I'm terrified that no one loves me. I'm hurt by the fact that no girl has found me as a temporary guy. I'm torn that I can't have you. It's the day before Christmas, and you are my gift, and the day is years upon years, literally. You may be wrinkled around the edges, and you may have some odd wrapping and an old bow, but you are still girl. You are my girl, the girl I need.
I want you to know that I'm insecure right now, and may always be. I don't believe I'm handsome, no matter what is said by whom. I try to please, then give up quickly, knowing, or assuming, that pleasing is too hard. That's why I've wished for you.
I want you to know that I may act strange sometimes. Some of those times, I'll have a reason, but the majority of the time, I won't. I'll embarrass and annoy you, but I don't mean to do so. I love you too much to hurt you like that. It's just because I am me, and I tend to be weird occasionally. I will apologize afterwards.
I want you to know that I can be mean and judgmental, but I really don't have a bitter heart. Deep down, I'm just reminded of someone or something that has hurt me, and I become vicious. Please gently bring me back and tell me that I don't need to be so mean. That will be enough.
I want you to know that I will always work hard, and when I slack off, I always have a reason. Please ask for that reason if my slacking off is hurting you, and I will explain.
I want you to know that I have a hard time making choices. I make choices for me in the favor of someone else, which makes it difficult. Please encourage me to choose in the favor of my heart and soul, and tell me it's okay to do so. I'll need to talk to you about my problems, but I will solve yours. I will go to the ends of the Earth to solve your problems. I'll need you to hold me, but I'll hold you, too. I will need you to wipe my tears away, but I'll wipe away your own. I'll need you tell me I'm handsome every day, but I want you to say it if you meant it only, and if you do, please say it sincerely and often; in return, I will comment on your beauty, which shines in every way. I will need you to tell me the truth and be honest, but I'll be the same for you. I will need your help in my weaknesses as well as my strengths, but I'll play both sides for you, too. Your face has probably never been viewed in my eyes. Yet I have no doubt that you are the sweetest, most wonderful woman ever. I I don't need to know what you look like to know that I love you. You are the epitome of unconditional and premeditated love. I will wait for you, even though I want to have you right now. I will wait for however long God has intended, but know that within that time I am missing you and loving you and imagining you. Dear Girl I love you . .
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
I don't know your name. But for the past few years, you have been known to me by "Girl". I've prayed for you and to you. I've written letters and poems for you. I've cried and begged God for your presence. I've wished and hoped for you, but you're so far away.
You are my girl, and my girl alone. I don't want to be selfish, but I want you, I truly, heartily do. Right now, I need your kisses and strength and touch. I need everything that defines you, although I don't know what that is. I've loved you from the start, although I don't know what I'm loving. I'm trusting in God that what I'm loving is true and real; and I'm trusting in you that you are you, dear Girl.
I'm so afraid sometimes that you are not there. I'm terrified that no one loves me. I'm hurt by the fact that no girl has found me as a temporary guy. I'm torn that I can't have you. It's the day before Christmas, and you are my gift, and the day is years upon years, literally. You may be wrinkled around the edges, and you may have some odd wrapping and an old bow, but you are still girl. You are my girl, the girl I need.
I want you to know that I'm insecure right now, and may always be. I don't believe I'm handsome, no matter what is said by whom. I try to please, then give up quickly, knowing, or assuming, that pleasing is too hard. That's why I've wished for you.
I want you to know that I'll expect a lot from you, but it's only because I've set up imaginary standards. Gently remind me that I can't do that to you, and I'll try to stop. If you can let me know it's okay, that you'll take care of me, that is the best thing you can do for me.
I want you to know that I may act strange sometimes. Some of those times, I'll have a reason, but the majority of the time, I won't. I'll embarrass and annoy you, but I don't mean to do so. I love you too much to hurt you like that. It's just because I am me, and I tend to be weird occasionally. I will apologize afterwards.
I want you to know that I can be mean and judgmental, but I really don't have a bitter heart. Deep down, I'm just reminded of someone or something that has hurt me, and I become vicious. Please gently bring me back and tell me that I don't need to be so mean. That will be enough.
I want you to know that I will always work hard, and when I slack off, I always have a reason. Please ask for that reason if my slacking off is hurting you, and I will explain.
I want you to know that I have a hard time making choices. I make choices for me in the favor of someone else, which makes it difficult. Please encourage me to choose in the favor of my heart and soul, and tell me it's okay to do so. I'll need to talk to you about my problems, but I will solve yours. I will go to the ends of the Earth to solve your problems. I'll need you to hold me, but I'll hold you, too. I will need you to wipe my tears away, but I'll wipe away your own. I'll need you tell me I'm handsome every day, but I want you to say it if you meant it only, and if you do, please say it sincerely and often; in return, I will comment on your beauty, which shines in every way. I will need you to tell me the truth and be honest, but I'll be the same for you. I will need your help in my weaknesses as well as my strengths, but I'll play both sides for you, too. Your face has probably never been viewed in my eyes. Yet I have no doubt that you are the sweetest, most wonderful woman ever. I I don't need to know what you look like to know that I love you. You are the epitome of unconditional and premeditated love. I will wait for you, even though I want to have you right now. I will wait for however long God has intended, but know that within that time I am missing you and loving you and imagining you. Dear Girl I love you . .
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER/LOVE LETTER: LEAVING EVERYTHING OBLITERATED
Soulmate
Today I waited for my soul mate; I thought we'd made it. Left the rest to fate, I guess I was ill fated. The love we had created seemed to have suddenly dissipated. All the words she said that made me feel elated seem so deflated. I hate it, it hurts, my heavy heart unearthed by the words she dictated. I can't equate it with anything related, my emotions desecrated Overrated how love is supposed to conquer all when it leaves everything obliterated. Silver-plated, but underneath it lies waiting to take something great and abate it and the advice given: to fuck all their shit and keep living. Trust me I try.
To live without you by my side I think I'd rather die. But I'm a man so I won't give into suicide or cry. I don't know how you can say you love me then leave And suddenly I feel so hurt I don't even know what to believe. Your love is worth the fight; your arms hold the key to what could be destiny.My only fault was loving you to much because I thought we were meant to be
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Today I waited for my soul mate; I thought we'd made it. Left the rest to fate, I guess I was ill fated. The love we had created seemed to have suddenly dissipated. All the words she said that made me feel elated seem so deflated. I hate it, it hurts, my heavy heart unearthed by the words she dictated. I can't equate it with anything related, my emotions desecrated Overrated how love is supposed to conquer all when it leaves everything obliterated. Silver-plated, but underneath it lies waiting to take something great and abate it and the advice given: to fuck all their shit and keep living. Trust me I try.
To live without you by my side I think I'd rather die. But I'm a man so I won't give into suicide or cry. I don't know how you can say you love me then leave And suddenly I feel so hurt I don't even know what to believe. Your love is worth the fight; your arms hold the key to what could be destiny.My only fault was loving you to much because I thought we were meant to be
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE...I REALLY NEED YOU TODAY
Dear Soulmate,
Where are you? I've been waiting for you. It seems like I've been waiting forever. You know me, just as I know you. We're supposed to be together. We're supposed to meet somewhere crowded, and run right into each other and laugh and both realize that we can't live without each other. You're supposed to have eyes that can see right inside of me. Eyes that shine brightly and lips that smile every time we're together.
I think I already know you. I think my soul knows you. It's crying for yours. Can't you year it? The silence is deafening.
Where are you?
Am I going to have to travel across the Earth to find you? Or have I already lost my chance? What if I've ruled you out, or rejected you because your eyes looked dead or your hair didn't catch the light the way I wanted. What if your soul didn't scream to mine so after we bumped into each other at the mall or the supermarket or on the street, I kept walking and I never looked back?
What if you're already with someone, or you're dead and I wasn't there to hold your hand, so your soul was taken alone and your last few minutes were spent wondering where I was, and I was probably sleeping or writing and wasn't even thinking about you.
But where are you?
Your soul could scream to mine as loud as it wanted and mine would never hear. Never notice. then your soul would slowly resign itself to someone else and by the time I'd realize it'd be too late.
To be honest with you, soulmate, I'm afraid. What if I never find you? What tif I expect too much or too little and I die all alone because I never saw you when you were there? What if just one day I miss the bus or the train that you're on and you find someone else? And then one day you'll be married and meet me and I'll tell you We're supposed to be together. I'm Alex, your soulmate. We were supposed to meet a long time ago but I missed the bus and now it's too late.' But you wont listen because you'll be happy and have a nice house and dog and 1.3 kids. You wont' throw it all away for a maybe. Your soul won't remember its useless cries. You'll be lost. Lost to me.
So please find me, Soulmate.
I need you today.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Where are you? I've been waiting for you. It seems like I've been waiting forever. You know me, just as I know you. We're supposed to be together. We're supposed to meet somewhere crowded, and run right into each other and laugh and both realize that we can't live without each other. You're supposed to have eyes that can see right inside of me. Eyes that shine brightly and lips that smile every time we're together.
I think I already know you. I think my soul knows you. It's crying for yours. Can't you year it? The silence is deafening.
Where are you?
Am I going to have to travel across the Earth to find you? Or have I already lost my chance? What if I've ruled you out, or rejected you because your eyes looked dead or your hair didn't catch the light the way I wanted. What if your soul didn't scream to mine so after we bumped into each other at the mall or the supermarket or on the street, I kept walking and I never looked back?
What if you're already with someone, or you're dead and I wasn't there to hold your hand, so your soul was taken alone and your last few minutes were spent wondering where I was, and I was probably sleeping or writing and wasn't even thinking about you.
But where are you?
Your soul could scream to mine as loud as it wanted and mine would never hear. Never notice. then your soul would slowly resign itself to someone else and by the time I'd realize it'd be too late.
To be honest with you, soulmate, I'm afraid. What if I never find you? What tif I expect too much or too little and I die all alone because I never saw you when you were there? What if just one day I miss the bus or the train that you're on and you find someone else? And then one day you'll be married and meet me and I'll tell you We're supposed to be together. I'm Alex, your soulmate. We were supposed to meet a long time ago but I missed the bus and now it's too late.' But you wont listen because you'll be happy and have a nice house and dog and 1.3 kids. You wont' throw it all away for a maybe. Your soul won't remember its useless cries. You'll be lost. Lost to me.
So please find me, Soulmate.
I need you today.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
LOVE: WHY I BELIEVE THE ONE THAT IS FOR YOU IS IN FRONT OF YOU RIGHT NOW
Are you looking for the ONE?
Stop waiting. You are the one.
I don’t believe that your soulmate is something you ATTRACT, rather is something that you ARE. Your soulmate is simply an expression of your Self. As you connect more with your soul, that perfect mate will come to you as a mirror manifestation of who and what you are. It is not about finding your soulmate, but removing the barriers, illusions and blocks to the realization of yourself as Love.
BE your SOULMATE. Your own soul is your ultimate mate. Your soul is the source of your true fulfillment. As you recognize who you are, you realize a deeper dimension of your innate wholeness. Out of this wholeness the outer manifestation of your soulmate happens.
As you cultivate this relationship with yourself, and see the truth of your being. A deep intimacy opens up. A deep communion with everything. The feelings of aloneness dissolve as you realize that you are “all one” with all things and that you are profoundly connected with everyone. At the deepest level everything and everyone is your soul mate. There is only “The One.” All of life is the One Source manifesting as a multiplicity of form. From this place of wholeness you are no longer seeking to get something. You are complete. You know that you are Love itself.
When you drop your search for the one, you will find what has never been lost: You. As you give up waiting Love blossoms more fully and comes alive in your heart. You become Love alive. This is the most attractive quality. This energy is palpable and felt by those around you.
If you have ever or are currently debating in your mind “Is this person the ONE?”
Ultimately, they are “the one” that is in front of you right now. They are the one that is inviting you into a deeper possibility of loving. The person in your life right now is giving you the opportunity to open your heart more fully, heal more deeply, and love more freely. Regardless of whether you are with them for a week, a month, a year or a lifetime.
Rather than looking for the one, Be the ONE. Be the one that loves each moment fully. Love each moment like your dear lover. Love this very moment as if it were your soulmate.
If in the aftermath of a relationship, you feel heartbroken, know that even though the relationship might have ended, you dared to open your heart and love, and no one can take that away from you. By the act of loving your heart will never be the same. It will have expanded to hold a bigger capacity for love.
Because a relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean it was a failure. The real question is ”Did you grow?” Did you become more of who you really are? Did you learn the lessons that brought that person into your life?”
So long as you got the lesson, then the relationship was a great success.
There are no failures in Love. Only the refusal to love.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Stop waiting. You are the one.
I don’t believe that your soulmate is something you ATTRACT, rather is something that you ARE. Your soulmate is simply an expression of your Self. As you connect more with your soul, that perfect mate will come to you as a mirror manifestation of who and what you are. It is not about finding your soulmate, but removing the barriers, illusions and blocks to the realization of yourself as Love.
BE your SOULMATE. Your own soul is your ultimate mate. Your soul is the source of your true fulfillment. As you recognize who you are, you realize a deeper dimension of your innate wholeness. Out of this wholeness the outer manifestation of your soulmate happens.
As you cultivate this relationship with yourself, and see the truth of your being. A deep intimacy opens up. A deep communion with everything. The feelings of aloneness dissolve as you realize that you are “all one” with all things and that you are profoundly connected with everyone. At the deepest level everything and everyone is your soul mate. There is only “The One.” All of life is the One Source manifesting as a multiplicity of form. From this place of wholeness you are no longer seeking to get something. You are complete. You know that you are Love itself.
When you drop your search for the one, you will find what has never been lost: You. As you give up waiting Love blossoms more fully and comes alive in your heart. You become Love alive. This is the most attractive quality. This energy is palpable and felt by those around you.
If you have ever or are currently debating in your mind “Is this person the ONE?”
Ultimately, they are “the one” that is in front of you right now. They are the one that is inviting you into a deeper possibility of loving. The person in your life right now is giving you the opportunity to open your heart more fully, heal more deeply, and love more freely. Regardless of whether you are with them for a week, a month, a year or a lifetime.
Rather than looking for the one, Be the ONE. Be the one that loves each moment fully. Love each moment like your dear lover. Love this very moment as if it were your soulmate.
If in the aftermath of a relationship, you feel heartbroken, know that even though the relationship might have ended, you dared to open your heart and love, and no one can take that away from you. By the act of loving your heart will never be the same. It will have expanded to hold a bigger capacity for love.
Because a relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean it was a failure. The real question is ”Did you grow?” Did you become more of who you really are? Did you learn the lessons that brought that person into your life?”
So long as you got the lesson, then the relationship was a great success.
There are no failures in Love. Only the refusal to love.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
PERSONAL/ LETTERS: OUR SOULS ARE CONNECTED..MAYBE THEY ALWAYS HAVE BEEN
Poets like myself often describe love as an emotion that we can't control, one that overwhelms logic and common sense. that's what it was like for me. i didn't plan on falling in love with you, and i doubt if you planned on falling in love with me. but once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. we fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created. for me, love like that has happened only once, and that's why every minute we spent together has been seared in my memory. i'll never forget a single moment of it.
The reason why it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected. maybe they always have been and will be. maybe we've lived a thousand lives before this one and in each of them we've found each other. and maybe each time, we've been forced apart for the same reasons. that means that this goodbye is both a goodbye for the past ten thousand years and a prelude to what will come.
When i look at you, i see your beauty and grace and know they have grown stronger with every life you haved lived. and i know i have spent every life before this one searching for you. not someone like you, but you, for your soul and mine must always come together. and then. for a reason neither of us understands, we've been forced to say goodbye.
I would love to tell you that everything will work out for us, and i promise to do all i can to make sure it does. but if we never meet again and this is truly goodbye, i know we will see each other again in another life. we will find each other again, and maybe the stars will have changed, and we will not only love each other in that time, but for all the times we've had before.
PART 2
I don't know what to say anymore except that i couldn't sleep last night because i knew that it is over between us. it is a different feeling for me, one that i never expected, but looking back, i suppose it couldn't have ended another way.
You and i were different. we came from different worlds, and yet you were the one who taught me the value of love. you showed me what it was like to care for another, and i am a better man because of it. i don't want you to ever forget that.
I am not bitter because of what has happened. on the contrary, i am secure in knowing that what we had was real, and i am happy we were able to come together for even a short period of time. and if, in some distant place in the future, we see each other in our new lives, i will smile at you with joy, and remember how we spent a summer beneath the trees, learning from each other and growing in love. and maybe, even for a brief moment, you'll feel it too, and you'll smile back, and savor the memories we will always share together.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
The reason why it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected. maybe they always have been and will be. maybe we've lived a thousand lives before this one and in each of them we've found each other. and maybe each time, we've been forced apart for the same reasons. that means that this goodbye is both a goodbye for the past ten thousand years and a prelude to what will come.
When i look at you, i see your beauty and grace and know they have grown stronger with every life you haved lived. and i know i have spent every life before this one searching for you. not someone like you, but you, for your soul and mine must always come together. and then. for a reason neither of us understands, we've been forced to say goodbye.
I would love to tell you that everything will work out for us, and i promise to do all i can to make sure it does. but if we never meet again and this is truly goodbye, i know we will see each other again in another life. we will find each other again, and maybe the stars will have changed, and we will not only love each other in that time, but for all the times we've had before.
PART 2
I don't know what to say anymore except that i couldn't sleep last night because i knew that it is over between us. it is a different feeling for me, one that i never expected, but looking back, i suppose it couldn't have ended another way.
You and i were different. we came from different worlds, and yet you were the one who taught me the value of love. you showed me what it was like to care for another, and i am a better man because of it. i don't want you to ever forget that.
I am not bitter because of what has happened. on the contrary, i am secure in knowing that what we had was real, and i am happy we were able to come together for even a short period of time. and if, in some distant place in the future, we see each other in our new lives, i will smile at you with joy, and remember how we spent a summer beneath the trees, learning from each other and growing in love. and maybe, even for a brief moment, you'll feel it too, and you'll smile back, and savor the memories we will always share together.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Saturday, August 17, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR MISSING HALF
Dear Missing Half
Oh, what’s it like to be you? Darling, what’s it like to be you? Whenever you smile. It’s a lighthouse to the lost. A beacon of the found. Your voice is a heavenly sound singing life into dried ground. Your heart is a halo displayed for all to see. It shines in the darkest places. Oh, won’t you shine on me?
Please, come and shine on me
Would we talk. from the ocean to the coffee shop? Or would you go on without me and leave me beside the sea. Wondering the things I always have. Wishing you were my missing half. Give love a chance to unfurl. Maybe I could be with you. Darling, maybe, could I be with you?
PART 2
Dear Missing Half,
I have searched for you all of my life. And as I finally heard those golden lips speak. I couldn't tame the emotions that rose from my soul. Your halo shined so bright and in my mind , you are my shining nights star. I am your armor...holding you in my arms made me feel so warm when normally my blood ran cold
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
Oh, what’s it like to be you? Darling, what’s it like to be you? Whenever you smile. It’s a lighthouse to the lost. A beacon of the found. Your voice is a heavenly sound singing life into dried ground. Your heart is a halo displayed for all to see. It shines in the darkest places. Oh, won’t you shine on me?
Please, come and shine on me
Would we talk. from the ocean to the coffee shop? Or would you go on without me and leave me beside the sea. Wondering the things I always have. Wishing you were my missing half. Give love a chance to unfurl. Maybe I could be with you. Darling, maybe, could I be with you?
PART 2
Dear Missing Half,
I have searched for you all of my life. And as I finally heard those golden lips speak. I couldn't tame the emotions that rose from my soul. Your halo shined so bright and in my mind , you are my shining nights star. I am your armor...holding you in my arms made me feel so warm when normally my blood ran cold
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
LOVE:HOLDING YOUR STANDARD ON WOMAN
As a child, did your parents ever tell you that you'd fall in love more than once? Or when your mother; who treated you like a prince. tell you that you deserve the best and nothing more. How about the time you were a teenaged boy and in "love" for the first time.. the soaring heartbreak that followed a year later.. you thought it was over.. it was definitely the end of the world, because there wasn't another woman like that out there.. Trust me.. there is sadly. But, then your mother 'the wise one' who says, " There are plenty of fish in the sea." or "You can't cut down a forest in one day.. one tree at a time." That is a parallel statement.. the metaphor can be used for more than one reasoning. I believe that my mom was right on a lot of things, but she forgot to mention a few things. I should stop holding high standards on women.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.
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