Asa Akira always knew what she wanted to be when she grew up.
“I was obsessed with it,” Akira, now 28, recalls thinking when she was in middle school. “The girls were just really glamorous. They were having sex for money. I thought, ‘What’s better than that?’ ”
Akira has since appeared in more than 300 adult movies (the names of which are too filthy to reproduce here). She’s one of the richest porn stars in America, with a reported net worth of over $1.5 million. And in her new memoir, “Insatiable,” she’s unabashed about the love she has for the industry that has made her dreams a reality.
It has “shaped me into a woman I had always hoped I would be. I’ve become more confident, more empowered, more sure of myself than I’ve ever been,” she writes. “There’s nothing else I’d rather be doing.”
“I’M PART OF THE NEW ERA OF PORN.”
Akira (a stage name) says her life story doesn’t fit most porn-star stereotypes. She had a “perfectly normal” childhood, with a doting stay-at-home mother and parents who have stayed together for 30 years. She was educated at the private United Nations International School in Manhattan.
“I’m part of the new era of porn,” she tells The Post. “We’re feminists, very sex-positive people. We’re not victims of rape, not drug addicts, we don’t have any daddy issues.”
About half the women in porn have similarly “normal” life experiences before entering the industry, especially now that porn is increasingly mainstream, she says.
Born in Manhattan, Akira lived with her mother and father, both Japanese immigrants, in Soho. Her mother stayed home to take care of Akira, an only child, and later returned to work in the nonprofit world.
Akira attended private preschool at Chelsea Day School. They spoke Japanese at home (Akira is fluent) and were health nuts. “I can count on one hand the times I was ‘treated’ to dinner at McDonald’s,” she writes.
Her family moved back to Tokyo when Akira was 9 because her father, a successful portrait photographer, was relocated there for work.
“Besides the moving around, I had a really normal, happy childhood,” she says. “Honestly, nothing happened to me that can explain all this.”
Still, Akira knew from an early age that she was more sexual than other girls.
“The first time I was called a slut was in fourth or fifth grade,” she says. “I didn’t know what it meant, so I looked it up in the dictionary and it said something like ‘unkempt woman.’ Unkempt? I didn’t understand.”
“I think, ‘What’s wrong with me? What made me gravitate to this?’ I know my parents must ask themselves that,” she says. “Once in a while I think I should go see a shrink to figure this out. But part of me just doesn’t want to know.”
She remembers taking a book out of the library about the reproductive system when she was in first grade and asking her dad, who was clearly uncomfortable with the request, to read it to her.
Judy Blume’s “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret” — a story of a girl’s sexual awakening, read by multitudes of young women with flashlights under their bed covers — left a “huge impression” on her.
She watched her first pornographic movie during a sleepover at her friend’s house in third grade. It was a soft-core movie based on a fairy tale. She wasn’t turned on, but she was intrigued.
Akira was 13 when her family moved back stateside to Downtown Brooklyn and later Clinton Hill.
Because her grandfather had spent 45 years as a Japanese diplomat, she secured a scholarship to attend the prestigious UN School.
“I was surrounded by the Manhattan elite. Spoiled trust-fund babies, and children of diplomats who arrived to school in black limousines with special license plates,” she writes. “And I was the scholarship kid.”
At night, she watched Howard Stern’s TV show on E! and became obsessed with the women he interviewed.
“Slutty girls were my heroes, somehow glorified in my mind,” she writes.
The UN School didn’t invite her back for her sophomore year because of bad grades, so she enrolled in the public Washington Irving School in Gramercy Park.
She worked as a cashier at the children’s bookstore Books of Wonder on West 18th Street, but secretly had other ambitions.
She scrolled through Craigslist ads, agreeing to a “sketchy” bikini modeling shoot when she was 14. She answered an ad for a “masseuse” but chickened out when the parlor’s owner asked her to “practice” on him.
Her eye was on one prize: Porn.
“But it was a far-away concept. I didn’t know anyone in porn. I wouldn’t even know the first steps to take. It’s like saying, ‘I want to be an astronaut.’ I wouldn’t know the first thing about being an astronaut,” she says, and pauses.
“I’m sure I’m going to offend a lot of astronauts with that statement.”
For her senior year, she transferred to the progressive public City as School, which requires its students to find internships to graduate. She first worked as a teacher’s assistant at a preschool, but quickly realized she “hated it, hated the responsibility of it.”
Then she landed an internship at the high-fashion magazine V. But that wasn’t for her, either.
“I’ve never been treated so badly,” says Akira, who has made films in which she has sex with seven men. “It was the most degrading thing I’ve ever done and I’ve done a lot.”
WORKING FOR HIGH-FASHION MAGAZINE V WAS “THE MOST DEGRADING THING I’VE EVER DONE AND I’VE DONE A LOT.”
Thanks to one chance encounter after graduation, her life would change forever.
“Excuse me, miss?” a man asked her on the street. “Would you be interested in working in the adult entertainment industry?”
“It was like if you want to be an actress and ['Kids' director] Larry Clark approaches you,” she says. “I immediately said, ‘Yes.’ ”
That night, she worked a shift as a dominatrix at The Nutcracker Suite on 33rd Street.
Her first client, a pro basketball player, asked her to “role-play like we’re on a subway. I’ll like stare and stare at you, and you’re like totally creeped out by me.”
Other opportunities followed. A friend hooked her up with a gig at Larry Flynt’s Hustler Club, a gentlemen’s club off the West Side Highway.
The $600 (on a good night) she made at the dungeon no longer cut it. Now she could rake in up to $6,000 a night. She quit dominatrix work and took the stage name Akira, from an anime character.
Deep into a painkiller pill addiction, she began hooking, too, but quit after just two men because she got too close with one of her johns.
The stripper lifestyle began to sour on her, too.
“At first it was cool. I had never held so much money in my hand. But the novelty quickly wore off. I’m a bad salesperson — being like, ‘Hey, do you want some company?’ I hated that stuff,” she says.
She moved to Florida to work as a feature act on Bubba the Love Sponge’s radio show. There, she met porn star Gina Lynn, who offered her on-camera work.
“I knew that if I ever did one scene in a porno, it would change my life forever. So many jobs I can’t do now. I can’t do anything with children. I’m an only child, didn’t want to break my parents’ hearts,” she says.
Despite it all, she boarded a bus from Port Authority to Lynn’s house in Pennsylvania’s Amish country to shoot. Two days later, an agency flew her out to Los Angeles.
As one of the 5 percent of porn stars who are Asian (70 percent are white, according to The Internet Adult Film Database), Akira quickly discovered what typecasting means in porn.
“I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve covered my naked body in sushi, or played the role of a mail-order bride. ‘Masseuse’ is something I can practically list on my resume,” she writes.
There was an upside: “It pretty much guarantees me work until the day I quit, since there’s always a shortage of Asian girls in the business.”
She overcame her role as the “token Asian” by becoming a celebrated act in “Gonzo porn” — shot in close-up without much plot — for her extreme sex acts.
She decided to keep this new life from her parents, even though she found it highly unlikely that it would remain a secret. It didn’t.
Six months in, she got a phone call: “’We saw your video,’” they said. “I didn’t ask which one, so I just let it go. The conversation ended there,” she says. She never discusses it with them.
During her daily phone conversations with her mother, “I’ll be like, ‘Work is good,’ or ‘I’m going to work.’ But I’m not saying, ‘Hey Mom, I’m going to bang a bunch of guys tomorrow.’ ”
The money is good — the industry average is between $500 and $4,000 a shoot — but Akira claims it’s about more than that.
“Almost every time I shoot a sex scene, I fall a little bit in love,” she writes. “In love with being watched. In love with being on display. In love with being the center of attention.”
In many ways, hers are the travails of any actress or model. Weight issues are inevitable in a field where the average woman is 5 feet 5 and weighs 117 pounds. Instead of doing drugs and drinking, she consumes salads and smoothies, and practices yoga.
Sexually transmitted diseases are the biggest industry-specific hazard. She’s gotten chlamydia — a difficult thing to explain when you’re dating someone outside the industry, she explains. That’s one reason she’s now married to fellow porn actor Toni Ribas.
And then there’s the age issue. She’s 28 years old in an industry where the average is 22.
“I know the clock is ticking. I know soon I’ll be too old for this business and it will be my time to move on to something else,” she writes.
When she first moved to LA, she thought she’d spend two years in porn — most women only get three years in the business before they quit or are spit out — save up money, and then open a yoga studio.
Now she’s six years in and has signed a new contract with Wicked Pictures as a featured player (features have storylines and less close-ups on sex), a direction in which the porn industry in general is also heading. She’s also directing, another way to stay relevant and cash-rich in the new porn business.
Last year, she was invited to her 10-year high school reunion, but had to decline because she already scheduled her directorial debut — a group sex scene. “I told [my friend] to make sure to text me any good gossip — who’s gay, who’s rich, who’s broke, who’s fat, who’s on drugs, who’s dead,” she writes.
“Then I realized . . . Me. I’m probably the gossip. ‘Guess who’s in porn.’”
Monday, April 28, 2014
Sunday, April 27, 2014
THOUGHTS: ABOUT THE ONE
Some people tell it like you just finally find "the one." And some people say it's just work, you pick someone and they pick you and with a little work and a little luck, it works out. Some people say, "I wasn't ready till now, I had to grow," and some people say, "I was waiting for you my whole life." Romantic love contains within it the idea of knowing, and thus, for some of us, requires a leap of faith. I think you change, and keep changing, all the time. And if you find "the one", it must be that you've changed in some way that has made that possible. You've found someone with whom that particular part of you emerges, the part of you that can imagine one person, forever.
Can you remember all the other people you used to be?
Can you remember all the other people you used to be?
DATING: WHAT I FIND ATTRACTIVE IN A WOMAN
How many times have you heard, "Men fall in love with their eyes?" A lot, I'll bet.
It's true, to a certain extent. Men are visual creatures, and their initial attraction to any woman will be primarily inspired by her appearance. Primarily. Men don't fall for women they don't find visually appealing.
That doesn't mean, however, that looks are the only thing that matter. Hardly. As the saying goes, you can only look for so long.
The reality is, it really is what's on the inside that determines whether or not a man falls in love with a woman. And stays in love.
Here is what I find attractive in woman
1) Kindness. Sure, there was that popular book that claimed that men preferred unkind women. But that's not what we hear. Most mature guys aren't interested in a relationship with a demanding diva.
2) Independence. Men are attracted to women who can take care of themselves. Who have well developed lives and their own interests. A woman who has nothing better to do than sit by the phone and wait for her man to call isn't attractive.
3) Confidence. Confident people project that confidence and it shines through them, making them more attractive. This is true for both men and women. It's said so often that it really is a cliche, but you do have to love yourself first. Self-doubt (or worse, serious issues with self-esteem) make you seem less attractive than you otherwise would.
4) Supportive. We all want someone to support our dreams and goals. Men, particularly, are seeking someone who will support them in their decisions.
5) Sincerity/Authenticity. Somewhere, there's a dating advice columnist telling women to be aloof, mimic all of a man's interests and laugh at all of his jokes (even the really bad ones). Those games might indeed work, at times. But when you ask men what they seek in a partner, they say they want someone authentic and sincere. Someone who will be their true selves, be comfortable with admitting differences, laugh when they're amused and always real.
It's true, to a certain extent. Men are visual creatures, and their initial attraction to any woman will be primarily inspired by her appearance. Primarily. Men don't fall for women they don't find visually appealing.
That doesn't mean, however, that looks are the only thing that matter. Hardly. As the saying goes, you can only look for so long.
The reality is, it really is what's on the inside that determines whether or not a man falls in love with a woman. And stays in love.
Here is what I find attractive in woman
1) Kindness. Sure, there was that popular book that claimed that men preferred unkind women. But that's not what we hear. Most mature guys aren't interested in a relationship with a demanding diva.
2) Independence. Men are attracted to women who can take care of themselves. Who have well developed lives and their own interests. A woman who has nothing better to do than sit by the phone and wait for her man to call isn't attractive.
3) Confidence. Confident people project that confidence and it shines through them, making them more attractive. This is true for both men and women. It's said so often that it really is a cliche, but you do have to love yourself first. Self-doubt (or worse, serious issues with self-esteem) make you seem less attractive than you otherwise would.
4) Supportive. We all want someone to support our dreams and goals. Men, particularly, are seeking someone who will support them in their decisions.
5) Sincerity/Authenticity. Somewhere, there's a dating advice columnist telling women to be aloof, mimic all of a man's interests and laugh at all of his jokes (even the really bad ones). Those games might indeed work, at times. But when you ask men what they seek in a partner, they say they want someone authentic and sincere. Someone who will be their true selves, be comfortable with admitting differences, laugh when they're amused and always real.
SPIRTUAL/THOUGHT: HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH PEOPLE WHO GET UNDER YOUR SKIN
Resist the urge to be defensive. Understand very clearly that you cannot beat these kinds of people; they’re called “impossible” for a reason. In their minds, you are the source of all wrongdoing, and nothing you can say is going to make them consider your side of the story. Your opinion is of no consequence, because you are already guilty, no matter what.
Do not call out the other person. Bluntly stating the problem will not improve your relationship with someone who is impossible. Instead of reaching a reconciliation, he or she will likely just become more difficult. Recognize that you can’t handle this like you would any other personal conflict — it’s a special situation.
In some ways, they need to be treated like children. Give up all hope of engaging these folks in any kind of reasonable conversation. It will never happen, at least with you. Remember what happened in the course of the last fifty times you tried to have a civilized discussion about the status of your relationship with this person. Chances are, every such attempt ended in you being blamed for everything. Decide now to quit banging your head against a brick wall.
Accept the situation. Impossible people exist; there isn’t a thing you can do about it. The first step is all about facing reality: if you think you might be dealing with an impossible person, you’re probably right. When in doubt, proceed as instructed below. The headaches you save will be your own.
Remember to “detach, disassociate and diffuse.“ When you’re in the middle of a conflict with an impossible person, use this strategy:
Detach: Staying calm in the heat of the moment is paramount to your personal preservation. Spitting angry words, reacting with extreme emotions such as crying, will only stimulate them to do more of the difficult behavior.
Disassociate: Remove yourself from the situation and treat it with indifference. Do not, under any circumstances bad talk to their face or to anyone else because then you are sinking down to their level. Add something positive by redirection such as by focusing on something, anything, positive in the situation or in the conversation. Whatever you do just stay calm!
Diffuse: It can help to realize that the side of a conversation that contains the most truth will always win out, and it’s best to “name the game” that an impossible person is playing, usually by asking them or the group a question that starts “Why…,” (rephrasing their “impossible” position to illuminate the consequences). You will move the conversation to a higher level, and the group, or even just the impossible individual, in a one-on-one, will respond to this “higher truth,” although the individual will usually respond by (more) obfuscating.
Understand that it’s not you, it’s them. This can be surprisingly difficult, considering that impossible people have complete mastery of shifting the blame. Chances are, the more often they blame you, the more they themselves are actually at fault.
Keep in mind that this is not to be used as a way to blame them. Blaming is what impossible people do, and they do it well. Instead, you are only facing the facts, for your own sake.
That being said, here’s a simple way to tell: if you accept responsibility for your own faults and resolve to improve yourself, it’s probably not you. Remember, impossible people “can do no wrong.”
Prepare for projection. Understand that you are going to be accused of much (or all) of this behavior yourself. If your impossible person gets a look at this text, to them it will look like a page about you. Prepare yourself for the fact that the impossible person’s flaws and failings will always be attributed to you.
Remember, in their minds, you are at fault for everything! They will have an endless supply of arguments to support this, and if you make the mistake of encouraging them, they will be more than happy to tell you why you are the impossible person, and how ironic it is that you are under the mistaken impression that it is them.
Guard against anger. If it helps, consider the fact that your anger is actually aprecious gift to the impossible person. Anything you do or say while angry will be used against you over and over again. Impossible people tend to have amazing memories, and they will not hesitate to use a nearly endless laundry list of complaints from the past against you. Five years from now, you could be hearing about the angry remark you made today (which you didn’t even mean in the first place). Impossible people will seize anything that provides them the opportunity to lay blame like it was gold.
Long-Term Management
Be a manager. Until it is over, your task in the relationship is to manage the impossible person, so that he or she deals less damage to you.
As a manager, your best resources are silence (it really is golden in some cases such as this), humoring the other, and abandoning all hope of “fixing” the impossible person. Impossible people do not listen to reason. They can’t (and even if they could, they wouldn’t).
Recognize that you can’t convince them that they have any responsibility for the problems between you. They don’t recognize (or if they did, wouldn’t try to improve) their flaws for a very logical reason; they don’t have any flaws. You must understand and manage this mindset without casting blame and without giving in to anger. It’s far easier said than done, and you will slip from time to time, but as time goes on, you’ll become a better manager.
Don’t get cornered. Avoid one-on-ones with this type of person, actively; in other words, when you see them coming to corner you, suggest, and then demand that at least a third party be brought in. This will often thwart the impossible person’s plans, and a typical response from them will be to unilaterally decide that “we don’t need anyone else.” You are perfectly free to claim your need for a third party to help your understanding, and insist upon it. Bullies never stand up to a crowd.
Consider that it might be a question of compatibility. Sometimes, a person who gets along with everybody else quite well is an impossible person for you personally. Most relationships between people contain many shades of gray, but some people simply mix as well as oil and water.
It is common to hear your impossible person proclaim “Everyone else likes me.” This is an attempt to shift the blame to you, so don’t buy it. It doesn’t matter how this person interacts with others. The fact is, the way the two of you interact together is terrible. Remember that blame never changes the facts.
Prepare to part ways. Understand that eventually, you’ll have to create a separation between yourself and an impossible person. Whether they are a friend, a family member, a parent, even a spouse, the time to leave will eventually manifest. Maintaining a relationship with an impossible person is, literally, impossible.
If you can’t (or won’t) make a physical departure immediately, make a mental one. In your mind, you’ve already left the relationship. The only thing left to do is wait for physical reality to reflect that fact.
If this person is a spouse, and you plan to stay with them, try to recognize the places you cannot tread (i.e. The subjects that make the person impossible). Avoid, as completely as possible, bringing up these subjects. Keep to yourself. Find a truly wonderful hobby, and focus on it. If you are religious, focus on your religion. Read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder — this is a definite possibility. Even if it seems to you that they do not have NPD, read the articles about how to deal with them, because following the advice in the articles you find may help you.
Protect your self-esteem. If you have regular dealings with someone who tries to portray you as the source of all evil, you need to take active steps to maintain a positive self-image. Focus on the people who validate you. Realize that this person is hurting you on purpose to improve his or her self-image. When he or she comes out with a statement that is designed to hurt you, realize this; realize why he saying that — to get people to tell him that he’s awesome. You are bigger and better than this person if you’re not lowering yourself to this level.
Remind yourself that this person’s opinion is not necessarily the truth. Understand that oftentimes, impossible people are particularly “fact-challenged.”
If the attacks have little basis in raw fact, dismiss them. You can’t possibly be as bad as this person would like you to believe you are. Do not defend yourself out loud, however. It will only provoke the impossible person into another tirade.
Avoid picking up impossible traits. If you aren’t careful, you could find yourself adopting much of the offender’s own behavior, even if you aren’t voluntarily trying. Issue blame entirely by understanding that this is just the way the other person is. These things define the impossible person’s actions, and nothing you do can change any part of their past.
Be the opposite of them: a possible person. Live as an example of tolerance, patience, humility, and kindness.
We are all influenced by the people in our environment — they don’t have to be perfect all the time and neither do you. Give respect because you are human. If you don’t receive respect, that’s -sadly- their problem. Give understanding, and you get understanding. Ultimately this sort of behavior is probably the only thing that might get through to them. They may not change in everything, but you can safely expect a change.
Protect your privacy. Impossible people will use any information on your personal life however small as a trump card against you. They can spin stories about you to other people (especially those close to you both) on a simple comment you made over lunch. Since they are specialists in manipulation, they are very good at making you talk.
Impossible people are good at seeming normal, and unless you are very convinced of who you are and where you stand in relation to the slight madness of this person, there will be times where you think “Hey, she’s not so bad after all. I guess I could tell her what I am going through these days….” Big mistake! It will come back to you when you least expect it, in the most dirty and manipulative way. Things shared in confidence late night at the office between the two of you can be used in an ice cold analysis in front of the whole company in a moment where the impossible person needs to get on top of you. He/she will spare no information to prove to others how well they know you, and such know what the best way to “handle” you is.
TIPS
When you make your escape from the impossible person stay away. Don’t ever go back once you break away — no matter how much you love them or they say they’ve changed.
When the impossible person is abusing or slandering you, other people will start to show sympathy towards you. You don’t need to do anything to make them look bad; she/he just digs his/her grave with no help from you. If s/he is angering you, others are also likely to be annoyed.
Be detached from anything they say whether it’s a compliment or criticism. If you give them power to build you up, then you also give them power to knock you down. Learn to develop a sense of self worth from within
Do not call out the other person. Bluntly stating the problem will not improve your relationship with someone who is impossible. Instead of reaching a reconciliation, he or she will likely just become more difficult. Recognize that you can’t handle this like you would any other personal conflict — it’s a special situation.
In some ways, they need to be treated like children. Give up all hope of engaging these folks in any kind of reasonable conversation. It will never happen, at least with you. Remember what happened in the course of the last fifty times you tried to have a civilized discussion about the status of your relationship with this person. Chances are, every such attempt ended in you being blamed for everything. Decide now to quit banging your head against a brick wall.
Accept the situation. Impossible people exist; there isn’t a thing you can do about it. The first step is all about facing reality: if you think you might be dealing with an impossible person, you’re probably right. When in doubt, proceed as instructed below. The headaches you save will be your own.
Remember to “detach, disassociate and diffuse.“ When you’re in the middle of a conflict with an impossible person, use this strategy:
Detach: Staying calm in the heat of the moment is paramount to your personal preservation. Spitting angry words, reacting with extreme emotions such as crying, will only stimulate them to do more of the difficult behavior.
Disassociate: Remove yourself from the situation and treat it with indifference. Do not, under any circumstances bad talk to their face or to anyone else because then you are sinking down to their level. Add something positive by redirection such as by focusing on something, anything, positive in the situation or in the conversation. Whatever you do just stay calm!
Diffuse: It can help to realize that the side of a conversation that contains the most truth will always win out, and it’s best to “name the game” that an impossible person is playing, usually by asking them or the group a question that starts “Why…,” (rephrasing their “impossible” position to illuminate the consequences). You will move the conversation to a higher level, and the group, or even just the impossible individual, in a one-on-one, will respond to this “higher truth,” although the individual will usually respond by (more) obfuscating.
Understand that it’s not you, it’s them. This can be surprisingly difficult, considering that impossible people have complete mastery of shifting the blame. Chances are, the more often they blame you, the more they themselves are actually at fault.
Keep in mind that this is not to be used as a way to blame them. Blaming is what impossible people do, and they do it well. Instead, you are only facing the facts, for your own sake.
That being said, here’s a simple way to tell: if you accept responsibility for your own faults and resolve to improve yourself, it’s probably not you. Remember, impossible people “can do no wrong.”
Prepare for projection. Understand that you are going to be accused of much (or all) of this behavior yourself. If your impossible person gets a look at this text, to them it will look like a page about you. Prepare yourself for the fact that the impossible person’s flaws and failings will always be attributed to you.
Remember, in their minds, you are at fault for everything! They will have an endless supply of arguments to support this, and if you make the mistake of encouraging them, they will be more than happy to tell you why you are the impossible person, and how ironic it is that you are under the mistaken impression that it is them.
Guard against anger. If it helps, consider the fact that your anger is actually aprecious gift to the impossible person. Anything you do or say while angry will be used against you over and over again. Impossible people tend to have amazing memories, and they will not hesitate to use a nearly endless laundry list of complaints from the past against you. Five years from now, you could be hearing about the angry remark you made today (which you didn’t even mean in the first place). Impossible people will seize anything that provides them the opportunity to lay blame like it was gold.
Long-Term Management
Be a manager. Until it is over, your task in the relationship is to manage the impossible person, so that he or she deals less damage to you.
As a manager, your best resources are silence (it really is golden in some cases such as this), humoring the other, and abandoning all hope of “fixing” the impossible person. Impossible people do not listen to reason. They can’t (and even if they could, they wouldn’t).
Recognize that you can’t convince them that they have any responsibility for the problems between you. They don’t recognize (or if they did, wouldn’t try to improve) their flaws for a very logical reason; they don’t have any flaws. You must understand and manage this mindset without casting blame and without giving in to anger. It’s far easier said than done, and you will slip from time to time, but as time goes on, you’ll become a better manager.
Don’t get cornered. Avoid one-on-ones with this type of person, actively; in other words, when you see them coming to corner you, suggest, and then demand that at least a third party be brought in. This will often thwart the impossible person’s plans, and a typical response from them will be to unilaterally decide that “we don’t need anyone else.” You are perfectly free to claim your need for a third party to help your understanding, and insist upon it. Bullies never stand up to a crowd.
Consider that it might be a question of compatibility. Sometimes, a person who gets along with everybody else quite well is an impossible person for you personally. Most relationships between people contain many shades of gray, but some people simply mix as well as oil and water.
It is common to hear your impossible person proclaim “Everyone else likes me.” This is an attempt to shift the blame to you, so don’t buy it. It doesn’t matter how this person interacts with others. The fact is, the way the two of you interact together is terrible. Remember that blame never changes the facts.
Prepare to part ways. Understand that eventually, you’ll have to create a separation between yourself and an impossible person. Whether they are a friend, a family member, a parent, even a spouse, the time to leave will eventually manifest. Maintaining a relationship with an impossible person is, literally, impossible.
If you can’t (or won’t) make a physical departure immediately, make a mental one. In your mind, you’ve already left the relationship. The only thing left to do is wait for physical reality to reflect that fact.
If this person is a spouse, and you plan to stay with them, try to recognize the places you cannot tread (i.e. The subjects that make the person impossible). Avoid, as completely as possible, bringing up these subjects. Keep to yourself. Find a truly wonderful hobby, and focus on it. If you are religious, focus on your religion. Read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder — this is a definite possibility. Even if it seems to you that they do not have NPD, read the articles about how to deal with them, because following the advice in the articles you find may help you.
Protect your self-esteem. If you have regular dealings with someone who tries to portray you as the source of all evil, you need to take active steps to maintain a positive self-image. Focus on the people who validate you. Realize that this person is hurting you on purpose to improve his or her self-image. When he or she comes out with a statement that is designed to hurt you, realize this; realize why he saying that — to get people to tell him that he’s awesome. You are bigger and better than this person if you’re not lowering yourself to this level.
Remind yourself that this person’s opinion is not necessarily the truth. Understand that oftentimes, impossible people are particularly “fact-challenged.”
If the attacks have little basis in raw fact, dismiss them. You can’t possibly be as bad as this person would like you to believe you are. Do not defend yourself out loud, however. It will only provoke the impossible person into another tirade.
Avoid picking up impossible traits. If you aren’t careful, you could find yourself adopting much of the offender’s own behavior, even if you aren’t voluntarily trying. Issue blame entirely by understanding that this is just the way the other person is. These things define the impossible person’s actions, and nothing you do can change any part of their past.
Be the opposite of them: a possible person. Live as an example of tolerance, patience, humility, and kindness.
We are all influenced by the people in our environment — they don’t have to be perfect all the time and neither do you. Give respect because you are human. If you don’t receive respect, that’s -sadly- their problem. Give understanding, and you get understanding. Ultimately this sort of behavior is probably the only thing that might get through to them. They may not change in everything, but you can safely expect a change.
Protect your privacy. Impossible people will use any information on your personal life however small as a trump card against you. They can spin stories about you to other people (especially those close to you both) on a simple comment you made over lunch. Since they are specialists in manipulation, they are very good at making you talk.
Impossible people are good at seeming normal, and unless you are very convinced of who you are and where you stand in relation to the slight madness of this person, there will be times where you think “Hey, she’s not so bad after all. I guess I could tell her what I am going through these days….” Big mistake! It will come back to you when you least expect it, in the most dirty and manipulative way. Things shared in confidence late night at the office between the two of you can be used in an ice cold analysis in front of the whole company in a moment where the impossible person needs to get on top of you. He/she will spare no information to prove to others how well they know you, and such know what the best way to “handle” you is.
TIPS
When you make your escape from the impossible person stay away. Don’t ever go back once you break away — no matter how much you love them or they say they’ve changed.
When the impossible person is abusing or slandering you, other people will start to show sympathy towards you. You don’t need to do anything to make them look bad; she/he just digs his/her grave with no help from you. If s/he is angering you, others are also likely to be annoyed.
Be detached from anything they say whether it’s a compliment or criticism. If you give them power to build you up, then you also give them power to knock you down. Learn to develop a sense of self worth from within
PERSONAL/DATING: YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING
Don't waste your time dating lower-quality men. You only have a limited window in which you can have children. I am sorry to tell you this ..but a ticking biological clock makes all the difference and will always be an impediment to true gender equality.The inherent inequality between men and women,is that women only have a 25-year window in which they can bear children, while men have almost 75 years in which they can father children, Just ask any fertility doctor Don't squandered your best years looking for men who weren’t as interesting, educated, or want to settle down. There are many marriageable men but you didn’t recognize them, or you carelessly dismissed them for superficial reasons, If you want motherhood within marriage, you have a limited window of opportunity within which to find a husband and bear your own children. Regardless of how your marriage ends or will not end, you will love your child forever. But if you miss your chance to be pregnant and deliver your child, then that dream is off the table forever Your fertility won't if you spend the 10 years after dating the wrong men.... all your dreams of family will whither before your very eyes.
I think the problems most women seem to have finding someone is the result of Einsteins definition of insanity(google it). As a result people find themselves in the same bed of frustrations and problems(instead of a worthy mate). The biggest obstacle to women's getting married today is their failure to understand this very simple fact. Men who want to get married can snap their fingers and have a dozen candidates any time. They can wander off to to Ohio and find young women with lesser degrees who will make perfectly good wives. While having a degree and/or a decent job is all well and good, women have to keep in mind that many men don't really care about your degree or job-they just want you to be sexy
Women are socialized to believe that we can spend our 20s having fun and ignoring our biological clocks, getting tons of degrees and climbing the corporate ladder, then when we get mid-30s, find a successful alpha male to marry. Doesn't work that way often. Some women believe that their degrees entitle them to a man of a certain caliber, even if they are lacking in the looks department.
That's the way it is ladies, and yes, it's totally fair. When you were 18 and gorgeous, you could snap your fingers and get 10 guys who wanted to jump in the sack. You had power. When men reach their mid-30s and want to get married, the situation reverses and THEY have the power. Yin and yang. If you want a hubby, work for him. Prepare to be a wife, not a competitor. That means, cook and feed his ego. If you don't want a hubby strongly enough to make these compromises, then don't get married.
Men, for the first half of their lives, generally needed to scratch and claw for a woman's attention while she picked and chose without a care in the world, usually dating some bad boy(who, as it turns out, usually stays bad). Some "dweeby" guy never got a shot at some hot-bodied 20 year old. Now the dweeb, in his forties, may be making half a million a year and can date a 24 year old. Yet, the same 20 year old in her 40's (now used up and out of shape) wants to know why she needs to try so hard to find a man.
.If you are a woman who wants to meet a good guy and not a jerk than know this, the 'good guys' work for a living all day, probably go to the gym afterwards, then go home to rest and eat because they have to work again the next day. So if you want to meet a good grounded guy, you probably need to be a little more thoughtful about where you want to find them then going to high end lounges and clubs, and making yourself available to bad boys.Just recognize that it may take more time, more good fortune and luck, and patience to find guys who are good.
It's true that a woman's fertility has a clock. Her best years are her more youthful years - just ask any fertility doctor. That doesn't they they shouldn't have a career. And that doesn't mean that all of the good guys are gone if you look when you are older.
I think the problems most women seem to have finding someone is the result of Einsteins definition of insanity(google it). As a result people find themselves in the same bed of frustrations and problems(instead of a worthy mate). The biggest obstacle to women's getting married today is their failure to understand this very simple fact. Men who want to get married can snap their fingers and have a dozen candidates any time. They can wander off to to Ohio and find young women with lesser degrees who will make perfectly good wives. While having a degree and/or a decent job is all well and good, women have to keep in mind that many men don't really care about your degree or job-they just want you to be sexy
Women are socialized to believe that we can spend our 20s having fun and ignoring our biological clocks, getting tons of degrees and climbing the corporate ladder, then when we get mid-30s, find a successful alpha male to marry. Doesn't work that way often. Some women believe that their degrees entitle them to a man of a certain caliber, even if they are lacking in the looks department.
That's the way it is ladies, and yes, it's totally fair. When you were 18 and gorgeous, you could snap your fingers and get 10 guys who wanted to jump in the sack. You had power. When men reach their mid-30s and want to get married, the situation reverses and THEY have the power. Yin and yang. If you want a hubby, work for him. Prepare to be a wife, not a competitor. That means, cook and feed his ego. If you don't want a hubby strongly enough to make these compromises, then don't get married.
Men, for the first half of their lives, generally needed to scratch and claw for a woman's attention while she picked and chose without a care in the world, usually dating some bad boy(who, as it turns out, usually stays bad). Some "dweeby" guy never got a shot at some hot-bodied 20 year old. Now the dweeb, in his forties, may be making half a million a year and can date a 24 year old. Yet, the same 20 year old in her 40's (now used up and out of shape) wants to know why she needs to try so hard to find a man.
.If you are a woman who wants to meet a good guy and not a jerk than know this, the 'good guys' work for a living all day, probably go to the gym afterwards, then go home to rest and eat because they have to work again the next day. So if you want to meet a good grounded guy, you probably need to be a little more thoughtful about where you want to find them then going to high end lounges and clubs, and making yourself available to bad boys.Just recognize that it may take more time, more good fortune and luck, and patience to find guys who are good.
It's true that a woman's fertility has a clock. Her best years are her more youthful years - just ask any fertility doctor. That doesn't they they shouldn't have a career. And that doesn't mean that all of the good guys are gone if you look when you are older.
REVIEW: IN THE MOVIE MATRIX ...THE HUMANS ARE THE PROBLEM
the Matrix isn’t wrong. Not at all. In fact the humans in the Matrix are the real villains of the series. Lets look at the facts of what lead to the actual Matrix. Humanity created the machines and AI, they used them as slaves, and they rebelled. In this war they were defeated. If you watch the animatrix you actually see that the machines were willing to make peace with the humans, but they refused any such notions. Instead they kept fighting to the point where they unleashed a doomsday weapon that blotted out the sun permanently. This was an effort to kill the machines, an act of genocide, but arguably this act would destroy them as well. As expected this act actually weakened the human race by starvation, but the machines adapted quickly.
Instead of leaving the human race to die, the machines in an act of mercy decide to preserve the human race to function in a forced symbiosis. It is my belief that the machines could have used other animals to power themselves, or even used geothermal power as the humans did. Indeed, the machines are the ones who show mercy to the humans, even attempt to make their lives utopian, something the humans could have never achieved themselves, but of course they reject this. One has to even ask why the quality of life in the matrix should even matter to the machines. I believe this also proves the machines to be empathetic and more so than the human race. We actually see this empathy later with the “rogue” program that has a family (the indian couple at the train station). This empathy is something the human have not shown the machines in anyway.
So yes the matrix is a prison, but it is a prison built for humanity’s and the machines’ own protection. Humanity had proven to be not only self-destructive but also genocidal. This would be grounds enough to let the human race perish, but the machines had more mercy than to let that happen. They did realize that humanity did need to be controlled, but they actually did it in a very benevolent way, and imo they were shown a mercy that they didn’t deserve.
Furthermore, you have the rebel humans. Now lets look at these guys. You might be asking “megatom but if the machines are so benevolent and merciful why do they hunt down and kill the freed humans?” The answer is very simple. The freed humans and “the one” had all proven repeatedly to be proponents of destruction. Six times before the matrix, both humanity and the machines were brought to the edge of extinction due to the actions of the one. Granted the machines had begun to see this as some inevitability, they still needed to defend themselves from this act of terror or in reality hope to destroy it, which is why they continue to try to kill all the people of Zion.
TL;DR: The humans are the enemy, and consistently act as a force of destruction bringing both the machine race and the human race to the brink of destruction. The Matrix is a merciful prison to contain a violent race that inevitably causes destruction.
Instead of leaving the human race to die, the machines in an act of mercy decide to preserve the human race to function in a forced symbiosis. It is my belief that the machines could have used other animals to power themselves, or even used geothermal power as the humans did. Indeed, the machines are the ones who show mercy to the humans, even attempt to make their lives utopian, something the humans could have never achieved themselves, but of course they reject this. One has to even ask why the quality of life in the matrix should even matter to the machines. I believe this also proves the machines to be empathetic and more so than the human race. We actually see this empathy later with the “rogue” program that has a family (the indian couple at the train station). This empathy is something the human have not shown the machines in anyway.
So yes the matrix is a prison, but it is a prison built for humanity’s and the machines’ own protection. Humanity had proven to be not only self-destructive but also genocidal. This would be grounds enough to let the human race perish, but the machines had more mercy than to let that happen. They did realize that humanity did need to be controlled, but they actually did it in a very benevolent way, and imo they were shown a mercy that they didn’t deserve.
Furthermore, you have the rebel humans. Now lets look at these guys. You might be asking “megatom but if the machines are so benevolent and merciful why do they hunt down and kill the freed humans?” The answer is very simple. The freed humans and “the one” had all proven repeatedly to be proponents of destruction. Six times before the matrix, both humanity and the machines were brought to the edge of extinction due to the actions of the one. Granted the machines had begun to see this as some inevitability, they still needed to defend themselves from this act of terror or in reality hope to destroy it, which is why they continue to try to kill all the people of Zion.
TL;DR: The humans are the enemy, and consistently act as a force of destruction bringing both the machine race and the human race to the brink of destruction. The Matrix is a merciful prison to contain a violent race that inevitably causes destruction.
Saturday, April 26, 2014
THOUGHTS: Immortality
You are alive right this second. That is an amazing thing When you consider the nearly infinite number of forks in the road that lead to any single person being born, they said, you must be grateful that you’re you at this very second. Think of the enormous number of potential alternate universes where, for example, your great-great-grandparents never meet and you never come to be. Moreover, you have the pleasure of living on a planet where you have evolved to breathe the air, drink the water, and love the warmth of the closest star. You’re connected to the generations through DNA — and, even farther back, to the universe, because every cell in your body was cooked in the hearts of stars. We are star stuff, my dad famously said, and he made me feel that way.
Friday, April 25, 2014
LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
Today as I sit here thinking about that chance of a lifetime, I have found mine in you, for you are on my mind all of the time. All of my life I have searched for you, now that you are here, I will hold you ever so near.So close and near to me, my love,for now I know, that your love was sent to me from above.We spend most of our lives searching for the love of our life, Someone that will be by our side until the day we die.We search for our chance of a lifetime so near and yet so far, we are even sometimes guided by the evening star.Once we have found that love that is ever so great,to let the world know we just can't wait. We tell everyone of the good news that has come our way, we even fall on our knees and pray. That God will keep this love that is ever so true, no matter what we may have to go through, When the love of a life time comes your way, don't let it pass you by, lift up your head and give thanks to the man that sits up high. The chance of a lifetime will surely come your way real soon,for there is someone that was made for you, from the time that they was conceived in their mother's womb.This love will be all that you will ever need, in your search I wish you god's speed. I have found my love of a lifetime, and that I have found in you, you came into my life and made this guy feel brand new. God sent you into my life, and I am so happy you are here,for you and your love I will cherish ever so dear,To all of you that are still looking, one day that person will come along, and you will know without a doubt, that this is the love that will be able to stand against life's storms. Don't give up in your search for that special someone that can fill the empty space in your heart, forever in your life they will be a part, Part of all your hopes and dreams and so much more. for whomsoever it may be, this person will hold the keys to your heart's door, To your heart's door that only this special someone can open up and let your love come shining out, out of the very depths of your soul you will never have anymore doubt. Now here I stand as a man who knows that a great love such as this, really do exist. for in my life there will be on greater love such as this. Thank god for the love of my lifetime that I have found in you.... for you and only you makes me feels the way I do. You are the chance of my lifetime, for in you I see my future and so much more.....a love that I will forever adore,For an eternity and a day,thank god for sending you my way.The love of my lifetime.
How can I make you see how much you mean to me?That you are my world and all that I may be. How can I make you see what you do to me, when I hear your voice, as you say you need me? How can I put into words the joy deep in me loving you brings? How can I make you see, baby, you're my heart... my soul... my hopes... my dreams! How can I thank you for all you've given me, the inner peace I feel when I picture you holding me? How can I thank you for loving me for what I am not who I will be How can I put into words all you do for me you look past my faults and see the inner me How could I go on should you ever go away I love you baby forever and a day.You are the one that I have chosen to spend my life with..to love honor and cherish...to smile at and hug and kiss You are the one that I have chosen from beginning to end to be my companion and my lover, my soul mate and my best friend. You are the one that I have chosen."Till death do us part" To you I give my mind.My body my soul my heart. You are the one that I have chosen for all eternity.I love you very much because you complete me
Thursday, April 24, 2014
LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
Tonight will be a night to remember,you and I sharing this moment forever. Sipping wine, toasting these feelings we share and our love will always be there. The lights are dimmed, fire place chilled soft music plays as we dance the night away. The mood is right as I see passion in your eyes when I'm holding you tonight.I need your warmth to hold me tight,to share your joy would make it feel so right.Let's make it a night,kiss and hold me tight cherish our love forever.Let me make you feel alright, come snuggle in my arms and let me love you tonight.When I look into your eyes I lose myself in you all over again- it's like falling in love a thousand times!! No words could ever explain
Tonight will be a night to remember,you and I sharing this moment forever. Sipping wine, toasting these feelings we share and our love will always be there. The lights are dimmed, fire place chilled soft music plays as we dance the night away. The mood is right as I see passion in your eyes when I'm holding you tonight.I need your warmth to hold me tight,to share your joy would make it feel so right.Let's make it a night,kiss and hold me tight cherish our love forever.Let me make you feel alright, come snuggle in my arms and let me love you tonight.When I look into your eyes I lose myself in you all over again- it's like falling in love a thousand times!! No words could ever explain
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
PERSONAL: THIS DAY IS NOT AN ORDINARY DAY
Just an ordinary day... started out the same old way, but then I looked into my email and read your message..I. knew today would be a first for me... the day I fall in love. In my real life I search everywhere to find you, but in my dreams you are always there with me, your hands in mine, touching the stars, flying in the sky as the moon brightens our night and maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before finding the right one, so that when we finally find the right one, we will know how to be grateful.We found each other somewhere between the day and the night amidst the past and the future; and now we are tangled up with each other
Imagine that in all the eons of time, of all the stars in the heavens, You and I came together for one brief and shining sliver of time.Supposing in the grand infinity of this universe two particles of life, You and I, swirl endlessly like grains of sand in the oceans of the world -- how much of a chance is there for these two particles, these two grains of sand, to collide, to rest briefly together... at the same moment in time?That is what happened with you and I... this miracle of chance. That is life, isn’t it? Fate. Luck. Chance. A long series of what-if’s that lead from one moment to the next, time never pausing for you to catch your breath, to make sense of the cards that have been handed to you. And all you can do is play your cards and hope for the best, because in the end, it all comes back to those three basics.
Fate. Luck. Chance.Truth be told, strangers are but a mere accident away from being best friends or profound lovers
For my destiny is to love someone who will never stop loving me. If I reach for your hand, will you hold it? If I hold out my arms, will you hug me? If I go for you lips, will you kiss me? If I capture your heart, will you love me?
The perfect girl is one who looks like she could break hearts - but doesn't. A good woman inspires a man. A brilliant woman interests him. A beautiful woman fascinates him. But a sympathetic woman gets him .How do you know you found the one? You find arms that will hold you at your weakest, eyes that will see you at your ugliest, lips that will kiss you in both instances, and a heart that will love you at your worst. Only then will you have found your true love.What is love all about? It's all about giving, taking, sharing and keeping. If you are willing to do all this, then you are ready to love that someone special. If you think you found the right person... stop the search and never let them go. Rememeber that the world is a huge place, for when you lose someone, you have to search the world all over again
I am looking for someone, who can take as much as I give, give back as much as I need, and still have the will to live. I am intense, It's difficult to find someone like you; it's like opening a hundred shells under the sea to find one pearl. But finding you makes the dive worth it.What I want most in life is to find that one person who makes the world seem beautiful.You can break my heart a million times, but I will not fear love. It is not Love that caused my pain, but caring for someone who could not feel my love.Love won't wait for you forever. If you let everything pass you by, you'll never find out how beautiful life can really be. Don't be afraid to get hurt; if you don't risk something you'll never gain anything.True love is about honesty, sincerity, sharing and fairness. Always get to know each other's needs. Just as you need qualifications to get a job, herein are the qualifications you must have to get love.
Sometimes the slightest things change the directions of our lives, the merest breath of a circumstance, a random moment that connects like a meteorite striking the earth. Lives have swiveled and changed direction on the strength of a chance remark. Let me tell you something. You gotta pay attention to signs. When life reaches out with a moment like this it's a sin if you don't reach back...It's funny. No matter how hard you try, you can't close your heart forever. And the minute you open it up, you never know what's going to come in. But when it does, you just have to go for it! Because if you don't, there's not point in being here.
I felt attracted to you because your soul spoke to me through your eyes, even when you didn't know it. It's the part of you, that you hold the secret to, that many don't see, and I want to dig deeper. With this comes the undeniable passion and sexuality that can fly us heavenward. Your eyes carried a certain kind of silence that begged to be understood and I felt as if i was a scientist, staring with eager, feverant eyes into galaxies that have not yet had the chance to be named.
It's funny isn't it? People claim to know what love is -- yet the minute they're given the opportunity to prove it -- they bail.When you love someone, it's nothing. When someone loves you, it's something. When you love someone and they love you back, it's everything. Sometimes you need to take the chance and risk it all. Everything might come to an abrupt end or lead to a prosperous beginning either way you would have got your answers, answers you happened to seek which will only be given to you when you ask for them, when you speak.Destiny never gives you chances, but in life you get many chances to change your destiny and here is one. If it is meant to be, our hearts will find each other when we meet. And if our hearts melt together so will our bodies and souls. Then every word and every touch will fuel our passion flame. I will be yours, you will be mine, and we will be one.It's kindness in a person, not beauty, which wins my love
You know when you're truly in love, when all you can do is just be speechless and stare at nothing 'cause you're just amazed that you just found this incredible person.The beating of my heart is a drum, and it's lost, and it's looking for a rhythm like you. My heart is a traveler, and its destination is you. I'm lost in your heart, Don't use your eyes to look for love for it's your heart that knows it.If you want me to fall for you, you have to give me something worth tripping over.I can only wonder how touching you would make me feel
Imagine that in all the eons of time, of all the stars in the heavens, You and I came together for one brief and shining sliver of time.Supposing in the grand infinity of this universe two particles of life, You and I, swirl endlessly like grains of sand in the oceans of the world -- how much of a chance is there for these two particles, these two grains of sand, to collide, to rest briefly together... at the same moment in time?That is what happened with you and I... this miracle of chance. That is life, isn’t it? Fate. Luck. Chance. A long series of what-if’s that lead from one moment to the next, time never pausing for you to catch your breath, to make sense of the cards that have been handed to you. And all you can do is play your cards and hope for the best, because in the end, it all comes back to those three basics.
Fate. Luck. Chance.Truth be told, strangers are but a mere accident away from being best friends or profound lovers
For my destiny is to love someone who will never stop loving me. If I reach for your hand, will you hold it? If I hold out my arms, will you hug me? If I go for you lips, will you kiss me? If I capture your heart, will you love me?
The perfect girl is one who looks like she could break hearts - but doesn't. A good woman inspires a man. A brilliant woman interests him. A beautiful woman fascinates him. But a sympathetic woman gets him .How do you know you found the one? You find arms that will hold you at your weakest, eyes that will see you at your ugliest, lips that will kiss you in both instances, and a heart that will love you at your worst. Only then will you have found your true love.What is love all about? It's all about giving, taking, sharing and keeping. If you are willing to do all this, then you are ready to love that someone special. If you think you found the right person... stop the search and never let them go. Rememeber that the world is a huge place, for when you lose someone, you have to search the world all over again
I am looking for someone, who can take as much as I give, give back as much as I need, and still have the will to live. I am intense, It's difficult to find someone like you; it's like opening a hundred shells under the sea to find one pearl. But finding you makes the dive worth it.What I want most in life is to find that one person who makes the world seem beautiful.You can break my heart a million times, but I will not fear love. It is not Love that caused my pain, but caring for someone who could not feel my love.Love won't wait for you forever. If you let everything pass you by, you'll never find out how beautiful life can really be. Don't be afraid to get hurt; if you don't risk something you'll never gain anything.True love is about honesty, sincerity, sharing and fairness. Always get to know each other's needs. Just as you need qualifications to get a job, herein are the qualifications you must have to get love.
Sometimes the slightest things change the directions of our lives, the merest breath of a circumstance, a random moment that connects like a meteorite striking the earth. Lives have swiveled and changed direction on the strength of a chance remark. Let me tell you something. You gotta pay attention to signs. When life reaches out with a moment like this it's a sin if you don't reach back...It's funny. No matter how hard you try, you can't close your heart forever. And the minute you open it up, you never know what's going to come in. But when it does, you just have to go for it! Because if you don't, there's not point in being here.
I felt attracted to you because your soul spoke to me through your eyes, even when you didn't know it. It's the part of you, that you hold the secret to, that many don't see, and I want to dig deeper. With this comes the undeniable passion and sexuality that can fly us heavenward. Your eyes carried a certain kind of silence that begged to be understood and I felt as if i was a scientist, staring with eager, feverant eyes into galaxies that have not yet had the chance to be named.
It's funny isn't it? People claim to know what love is -- yet the minute they're given the opportunity to prove it -- they bail.When you love someone, it's nothing. When someone loves you, it's something. When you love someone and they love you back, it's everything. Sometimes you need to take the chance and risk it all. Everything might come to an abrupt end or lead to a prosperous beginning either way you would have got your answers, answers you happened to seek which will only be given to you when you ask for them, when you speak.Destiny never gives you chances, but in life you get many chances to change your destiny and here is one. If it is meant to be, our hearts will find each other when we meet. And if our hearts melt together so will our bodies and souls. Then every word and every touch will fuel our passion flame. I will be yours, you will be mine, and we will be one.It's kindness in a person, not beauty, which wins my love
You know when you're truly in love, when all you can do is just be speechless and stare at nothing 'cause you're just amazed that you just found this incredible person.The beating of my heart is a drum, and it's lost, and it's looking for a rhythm like you. My heart is a traveler, and its destination is you. I'm lost in your heart, Don't use your eyes to look for love for it's your heart that knows it.If you want me to fall for you, you have to give me something worth tripping over.I can only wonder how touching you would make me feel
LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate
Is it your heart I feel pounding within my chest?Mine is too frail to beat.It twitches at its best.It must be your love flowing through my viens.Mine is gone with you.Nothing of that remains.Was it your star that collided with another,illuminating the heavens we see?That burnt like a supernova fierce and so free?What was the warm touch on my cheek during that cold December night? Could it have been you, though you were not within my sight? Are these your eyes I see through that make everything seem so bright?Are these your dreams I have that bring peaceful sleep at night?These must be your hands, for I've never felt so soft.It has to be your soul inside me.I know this can't be wrong.You are the only one that makes me who I am...And when from the path I fall.It's your love that makes me stand.I breath so I can be with you.I see so I can look in your eyes and have them staring back at me.I feel so when you touch me, my body goes out of control.The reason I am living is because my heart keeps beating for you I hear so I know when you're calling my name I taste so I can taste the sweetness of your kiss.I smell so I can tell when you're around. The reason I am living is because my heart keeps beating for you.You sing your song of love to me...a melody of sheer delight. Your notes fall upon my ears as sweet tones of joyful longing.A love tinged with the honeyed soulfulness of your absolute perfection.You ride the waves of life, not alone for our love provides a cushion. A softness of pillowed passion as I caress the chasm of your wonder. So, sing your song of love to me and hold me in your arms. Dance with me to the music of the spheres of universal love and our souls will touch yet again.As our spirits soar on playful vespers softly wind kissed forever more by the spirit of love.
Is it your heart I feel pounding within my chest?Mine is too frail to beat.It twitches at its best.It must be your love flowing through my viens.Mine is gone with you.Nothing of that remains.Was it your star that collided with another,illuminating the heavens we see?That burnt like a supernova fierce and so free?What was the warm touch on my cheek during that cold December night? Could it have been you, though you were not within my sight? Are these your eyes I see through that make everything seem so bright?Are these your dreams I have that bring peaceful sleep at night?These must be your hands, for I've never felt so soft.It has to be your soul inside me.I know this can't be wrong.You are the only one that makes me who I am...And when from the path I fall.It's your love that makes me stand.I breath so I can be with you.I see so I can look in your eyes and have them staring back at me.I feel so when you touch me, my body goes out of control.The reason I am living is because my heart keeps beating for you I hear so I know when you're calling my name I taste so I can taste the sweetness of your kiss.I smell so I can tell when you're around. The reason I am living is because my heart keeps beating for you.You sing your song of love to me...a melody of sheer delight. Your notes fall upon my ears as sweet tones of joyful longing.A love tinged with the honeyed soulfulness of your absolute perfection.You ride the waves of life, not alone for our love provides a cushion. A softness of pillowed passion as I caress the chasm of your wonder. So, sing your song of love to me and hold me in your arms. Dance with me to the music of the spheres of universal love and our souls will touch yet again.As our spirits soar on playful vespers softly wind kissed forever more by the spirit of love.
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
I would wait a thousand years for a day with you. I would walk a thousand miles for one glance at you just to be with you, just to be with you.I think you are beautiful and I want to be there with you when the sun goes down I want to be...be with you.there's a place within my heart that was made for you.I have loved so many girls but none like you just to be with you, just to be with you.There's a fire within my soul and it burns for you. All these words that I say out loud are words so true so true just like you, just to be with you. Being with you is like coming home to the warm, the familiar, the comfortable. Being with you means simply being me,without the need for masks,without the pretensions of being somebody else grand. Being with you is like coming home once again. and i want to come home...It doesn't exist, a moment in a day in which I can part from you. The world seems so distant when you are not by my side. There is no beautiful melody in which I wouldn't think of you that is why I don't want to hear it if you don't hear it too.You have become a part of my soul.no, nothing consoles me any more. If you are not there with me.Far away from your lips from the moon and the stars with you in the distance, my love...I don't exist
I would wait a thousand years for a day with you. I would walk a thousand miles for one glance at you just to be with you, just to be with you.I think you are beautiful and I want to be there with you when the sun goes down I want to be...be with you.there's a place within my heart that was made for you.I have loved so many girls but none like you just to be with you, just to be with you.There's a fire within my soul and it burns for you. All these words that I say out loud are words so true so true just like you, just to be with you. Being with you is like coming home to the warm, the familiar, the comfortable. Being with you means simply being me,without the need for masks,without the pretensions of being somebody else grand. Being with you is like coming home once again. and i want to come home...It doesn't exist, a moment in a day in which I can part from you. The world seems so distant when you are not by my side. There is no beautiful melody in which I wouldn't think of you that is why I don't want to hear it if you don't hear it too.You have become a part of my soul.no, nothing consoles me any more. If you are not there with me.Far away from your lips from the moon and the stars with you in the distance, my love...I don't exist
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