DATING: A SURVEY FOR WOMAN TO DETERMINE IF THEY WANT TO CUCKOLD THEIR PARTNER AND BE A HOTWIFE

Hotwife/Vixen Interest Survey for Women

On a scale of 1 to 10,

with 10 being you are very interested, 5 being neutral and 1 being not at all interested,

please answer these following questions:

Becoming a hotwife?
Caging your husband’s cock?
Having sex with other men while your husband only watches?
Having sex with other men without your husband there?
Having sex with other men and your hushed at the same time?
Having anal sex?
Role playing with your husband?
Having a secrete lover that your husband doesn’t know about?
Having one time sex with men without your husband knowing?
Playing with sex toys?
Playing with bondage?
Going to nude beaches?
Watching your husband have sex with another woman?
Having sex with another woman in front of your husband?
Having sex alone with another woman?
Having your husband film you having sex?
Letting your husband pick men to share you with?
Having a monogamous relationship with your husband?
Going on vacation alone to have sex with other men?
Going on vacation with your husband and having sex with other men?
Going to a female strip club with your husband?
Going to a female strip club without your husband?
Going to a male strip club with your husband
Going to a male strip club without your husband?
Stripping at a bachelor or private party for a group of men?
Serving men during a football game or poker night wearing seductive clothing?
Sending men you meet online sexy photos and videos?
Sharing your messages/conversations with your husband that you have with other men?
Keeping secret you conversations with other men?
Edging your husband husband close to orgasm and then denying him repeatedly?
Ruining your husbands orgasms?
Limiting your husbands orgasms?
Making your husband clean his cum out/off of you?
Making your husband clean another man’s cum out/off of you?
Surprising your husband with a used pussy when you get home?
Making your husband suck another man’s cock in front of you?
Making your husband clean off the cum from another man that just fucked you?
Kissing your husband after another man came in your mouth?
Having your husband lick your clit while another man fucks your pussy?
Having you husband lick your clit while another man fucks your ass?
Having your husband lick your asshole while another man fucks your pussy?
Making your husband were a cock extension when he has sex with you?
Making your husband wear a cock cage in front of other men you are fucking?
Make your husband where a cock cage when he works?
Make you husband wear a cock cage while you watch porn and masturbate?
Make you husband were a gag dildo and you fuck his face?
Trying to stretch your pussy to take a fist?
Trying to stretch your asshole to take a fist?
Wearing an anal plug at home?
Wearing an anal plug out in public?
Having sex in your marital bed with another man?
Having sex only with men that do not know where you live?
Having sex with men you and your husband know personally?
Having sex with your husband’s friends?
Having sex with a coworker?
Having sex with your boss?
Answering the door nude?
Walking around the house daily nude?
Swinging or swapping partners with another couple?
Participating in a gangbang (3 or more men at the same time) with your husband there?
Participating in a gangbang (3 or more men at the same time) without your husband there?
Masturbating alone with toys?
Masturbating alone without toys?
Masturbating in front of your husband?
Masturbating in front of a bull?
Mutual masturbating with your husband or bull?
Sucking cock?
Sucking big cock, 8+ inches
Sucking small cock, less than 5 inches?
Having sex with big cocks?
Having sex with small cocks?
Getting a tattoo?
Getting piercings?
Getting your nipple pierced?
Getting your clit pierced?
Getting your bellybutton pierced?
Getting matching tattoos?
Wearing a hotwife anklet?
Wearing the key to your husband’s cock cage lock?
Squirting?
Letting your husband give you an enema?
Using a sex toy on your husband?
Fucking your husband with a dildo?
Fucking your husband with a strap-on dildo?
Being blindfolded during sex with your husband?
Blindfolding your husband during sex?
Tying your husband to the bed for sex?
Allowing your husband to listen on the phone to you having sex with another man?
Taking photos of you having sex with another man and sending them to your hubsand?
Video taping you having sex with another man and then showing your husband when you return?
Having your husband reclaim you after you have sex with other men?
Going to a sex club and allowing other strangers to watch you have sex with your husband?
Going to a sex club to meet other men to have sex with in front of strangers?
Going to a sex club to only watch others having sex?
Going to a sex club without your husband?
Going to a nude resort on vacation without your husband?
Going on vacation without your husband?
Allowing your husband to go to a sex club without you?
Allowing your husband to go on vacation without you?
100.Flashing your husband in public?
101.Having sex in public places?
102.Going out in a skirt without panties?
103.Having sex in a car or limo?
104.Having sex in the back of a car with a man while your husband drives?
105.Having your husband drive you to meet your date and then having him pick you up?
106.Having your husband thank your bull for fucking you good?
107.Having your husband ask your bulls to cum in you?
108.Always having to ask for permission from your husband before having sex with anyone else?
109.Having the freedom to have sex with anyone you want any time you want without your husband’s permission?
110.Accidentally getting pregnant by another man?
111.Getting pregnant by another man with you husband permission?
112.Having sex with string muscular men?
113.Having sex with men over 50?
114.Having sex with men under 30?
115.Having sex with black men?
116.Having sex for money?
117.Having sex while your husband is hiding in the closet?
118.Having sex while your while your husband is in the guest room?
119.Having your husband bring your drinks while you have sex with another man?
120.Have your husband shave you?
121.Have your husband watch you get ready for a date with another man?
122.Have your husband help you prepare for a date with another man?
123. Have your husband tied up and caged while you have sex with another man in the same room?
124.Have your husband tied up and caged while you have sex with another man in the same an adjoining room where he can only hear the moans?
125.Clean the house naked?
126.Cook naked?
127.Be waiting naked at the door when your husband got home from work?
128.Be waiting naked at the door when your date comes to visit?
129.Give a stranger you met in a bar a blow job or have sex in the bar bathroom?
130.Give a stranger you met in a bar a blow job or have sex with him in the parking lot?
131.Let another man finger you in a public place?
132.Dance with hot men at clubs?
133.Flirt with hot men at bars?
134.Go on vacations with other men without your husband?
135.Have one man fuck you in the ass while another man fucks your pussy?
136.Have one man fuck your ass while another fucks your pussy and another fucks your mouth?
137.Continue living a hotwife lifestyle if you become pregnant?
138.Stop living the hotwife lifestyle if you became pregnant?
139.Only have sex with your husband?
140. Allowing your husband to lick your pussy anytime he wants?
141.Allowing your husband to fuck your pussy anytime he wants?
142.Allowing your husband to fuck your ass anytime he wants?
143.Giving your husband a blow job anytime her wants?
144.Making your husband lick your pussy anytime you want?
145. Making your husband fuck you whenever you demand?
146.Get massages from your husband?
147.Get massages from other men?
148.Get massages from women?
149.Let other women give your husband full body massages?
150.Suck a cock after it’s been in your pussy?
151.Suck a cock after it was in your ass?
152.Be treated like a Princess in public but a whore in the bed?
153.Rough sex?
154.Talking dirty during sex?
155.Telling your husband about other men you have fucked during sex?
156.Using a cock cage on your husband to get things that you want sexually?
157.Using a cock cage to get your husband to reach goals..like weight loss…
158.Vacations were only you and your husband have sex together?
159.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once per week?
160.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once every two weeks?
161.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once per month?
162.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once every two or three months?
163.Sex with bulls/other men on average of about once or twice per year?
164.Having your husband surprise you by planning sexual adventures/nights which include other men?
165.Having sex in a pool?
166.Having sex in a hot tub?
167.Having sex in a shower?
168.Having sex on a boat?
169.Having sex in a plane?
170.Keeping secrets from your husband?
171.Using floggers/whips/paddles?
172.Having your husband use flogger or spank you when you are bad?
173.Using a flogger or spanking your husband if he is bad
174.Wearing a ball gage while you have sex?
175.Making your husband wear a ball gag?
176.Making your husband cum inside is cage?
177.Play with hot wax?
178.Explore robe bondage?
179.Share your sex life relationship on a Tumblr blog, but hid your identities?
180.Shop at a adult book store with your husband?
181.Shop at an adult book store alone?
182.Shop at an adult book store with a man other than your husband?
183.Go to a bar with your husband but pretend you don’t know him and flirt with others while he watches?
184.Drive around in a car naked?
185.Be driven in a car naked?
186.Grow old with your husband?
187.Divorce you husband when he gets too old?
188.Have an open relationship where husband and wife can have sex with others?
189.Never allowing your husband to have sex with any other woman?
190.Allowing your husband to have sex with another woman only with your permission and by your rules?
191.Setting up rules for being a hotwife?
192.Setting up punishments for breaking the rules?
193.Sharing all of your personal communication outlets and passwords with your husband including phone messages and all social media messaging?
194.Having all of your husband’s communication and social media passwords?
195.Allowing your husband to make all the rules?
196.Playing the dominant role and having your husband play a submissive role all of the time?
197.Playing the dominant role and having your husband play a submissive role most of the time?
198.Playing the submissive role and having your husband play a dominant role all of the time?
199.Playing the submissive role and having your husband play a dominant role most of the time?
200.Alternating about 50/50 between playing the submissive role and dominant roles with our husband?
201.Have your bulls be dominant?
202.Have your bulls be submissive?
203.Becoming friends with your bulls?
204.Have the same bulls long term rather than many strangers?
205.Have the bull always wear condoms?
206.Have the bulls not wear condoms?
207.Allowing the husband to stop a date or sex at anytime for any reason without getting mad?
208.Allowing your husband to decide he wants you to stop being a hotwife and live a monogamous traditional lifestyle?
209.Having kids with your husband?
210.Being wealthy?
211.Always telling the truth?
212.Always getting the truth from your husband?
213.Trying new sex positions?
214.Trying new sex techniques?
215.Watching porn with your husband?
216.Watching porn alone?
217.Privacy while talking to other en on the phone?
218.Privacy while on the computer chatting with other men?
219.Fulfilling your husbands fantasies?
220.Fulfilling your fantasies?
221.Sharing your fantasies with your husband?
222.Hearing your husband’s fantasies?
223.Having a fit muscular husband?
224.Using nipple clamps during sex?
225.Having your husband use a pussy pump on you?
226.Using a penis pump on your husband?
227.Using a sex swing with your husband?
228.Using a sex swing with other men?
229.Role playing with your husband (doctor/patient, student/teacher, master/slave)
230.Playing sex games with your husband?
231.Playing sex games with others?
232.Hiding your sexual activities from friends and family?
233.Having similar interests are your husband?
234.You husband having similar interests as you?
235.Sacrificing to give you husband pleasure?
236.You husband sacrificing to give you pleasure?
237.Sleeping naked in bed with your husband nightly?
238.Having your husband wake you up in the middle of the night for sex?
239.Waking your husband up in the middle of the night for sex?
240.Knowing where your husband is all the time?
241.Spending nights in bed alone without your husband?
242.Always sleeping with your husband?
243.Always sleeping with someone?
244.Never sleeping alone?
245.Showing public displays of affection?
246.Having sex while having your period?
247.Playfully humiliating your husband when having sex alone with him?
248.Playfully humiliating your husband with having sex with another man in front of you husband?

On a scale of 1 to 10,

with 10 being you are most important and 1 being not important at all,

please answer these following questions:

How important is:

Trust in your marriage?
Sex in your marriage?
Honesty in your marriage?
Wealth in your marriage?
Health in your marriage?
Kids in your marriage?
Having time to spend with your friends?
Having time alone?
Having time to spend with family?
Sharing home chores?
Shopping together?
Working together?
Both having jobs?
Being a housewife?

How many kids do you want to have?

How would you feel if you had no kids with your husband?

Can you accept being a stepmother and treat your husbands kids as your own?

How would you feel about becoming pregnant by a man other than your husband?

At what age do you want to retire?

Where would you like to live when you retire?

What is an ideal sized home for you and your husband?

A. very small, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom, living room, kitchen, laundry room

B. small - 2 bedroom, living room, kitchen, laundry room

C. medium - 2-3 bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, game room

D. large -3-4 bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, game room, garage, big yard

E. very big - 3-4 bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, game room, large yard, garage, pool

Explain why that is your ideal home size:

Would you rather go to the movies or watch a movie at home?

Who do you prefer does the:

(husband, wife, both equally, husband most of the time, wife most of the time)

Laundry

Cooking

Cleaning

Making the bed
Yard work

Gardening

Driving

Shopping

Dishes

Banking/accounting

Work - earring money

Initiating sex

Ironing

Decorating

Planning vacations

Deciding where to spend money

How many times a month would be an ideal number of time to have sex?

Do you think men or women desire sex more?

What are your true feelings about the hotwife or vixen lifestyle?

Do you feel you that a hotwife or vixen lifestyle is right for you? Explain

How important is your partners appearance?

How important is your husband’s physical appearance?

Are you interested in becoming a hotwife/vixen?

Why or why not:

What rules would you like to have if living a non traditional marriage?

Is your husband’s cock enough to keep you totally satisfied?

What more could your husband do to keep you sexually satisfied?

POETRY: MY HEART WAS LOST AND NOW IT'S FOUND

Please, please pardon me
can you tell me if you see
My years of pointless time
all spent just trying to find
Love's meaning, life's desire
A love to set my soul on fire

I lived this life in such loss
paid a cold and tragic cost
A heart alone will truly cry
if left too long will surely die
My life alone, in dark's abound
waiting for my heart to be found

on that fateful day and by chance
in love's glimmer I felt romance
stunned by the very sight of you
and love's meaning I finally knew
you touched the very soul of me
this sweet love has set me free
from a life with no possibility

Love echoes this heart of mine
your touch is so tender, so kind
Like the sweetness of a new day
this light of love shows my way
in your kiss a rapture all complete
gentle loving made it all so sweet
no questions of how it could seem
for fear I'll awake from this dream
Now in love's bright and joyful sound
my heart was lost and now it's found

PART 2

In the canyons of my loving Echoes resound in the chasms of a deathly gloom Emptiness here in the dust of a thousand kisses You gone in the mirage of a forgotten happiness Desolate here in my loneliness And in the distance -- Rivers of longing Hope in a shimmering illusion Reaching out through the dusty storms of our parting Grasping at the distant dream And hoping, hoping the river is reality

PART 3

You drive me insane
For being away for so long.
You make me have lonely nights
Without knowing when it would end.

You make my heart skip a beat
Everytime I see your face.
You swiftly set my heart ablaze
Everytime I hear your voice.

You send chills all  through my veins
Whenever you're around.
You break down all my defenses
Making me lose my senses.

Flowing out of my body is
This river of joy.
Coming out of my spirit
Is this ocean of peace.

You keep me in suspense
Knowing I always want you.
You'll never be a stranger to me
Because forever, you're mine.

PART 4

What makes me so sure that my search for finding the one
     is accomplished?
     What feeling makes this so sure,
     and what love makes this heart complete?
     What tears shed makes her worth all the hurt,
      guilt,and pain?
     What joy given and received makes her
      the holder of my heart?
     What thought indulged makes her vulnerable to my flesh,
      the desire of my heart?
     What need makes her the blood that flows through my veins,
      the air that I breathe?
     And what memory keeps her constantly on my mind?
     But what feeling is this that I question
      for the first time?

THOUGHTS: THERE ARE TIMES IN LIFE.....................

I miss you, my lover, more than my next breath. I am constantly thinking of you and my heart sighs and my body aches to be with you. Your words echo in my mind and I hold your promises as a bouquet of flowers that perfumes my soul. Where this path of love we have both embarked on will lead I do not know but I do know there is no one whose hand I would rather hold while walking it. Keep me safe in your heart, do not forget about me but keep me in every poem, in every song, in every dream, in every ray of moonlight, in every jasmine flower, as I do

PART 2

We are all here on this planet, as it were, as tourists. None of us can live here forever. The longest we might live is a hundred years. So while we are here we should try to have a good heart and to make something positive and useful of our lives. Whether we live just a few years or a whole century, it would be truly regrettable and sad if we were to spend that time aggravating the problems that afflict other people, animals, and the environment. The most important things is to be a good human being

PART 3

There are times in life, when you feel like you’re as close to magic as possible.
These moments emerge out of nowhere,
Only to engulf you thoroughly.
A window shattering wind blows,
Over a dull grey sky,
But it’ that makes your heart fly.
Amidst chaos and cheer,
Unable to distinguish confusion from fear,
You find that sliver of glitter,
To light up your day.
between words and actions,
You’re stuck, for you have to make a choice,
But each choice opens an endless door of opportunities,
Exactly halving the possibilities.
Warmth by words and hugs,
Cannot be matched,
For these carve out a special corner for themselves.
With every note, beat and crescendo,
The music seeps deeper into our veins,
Breaking free from the chains,
Of stress and anxiety,
To give birth to a smile at the end.
With independence at the midnight hour,
When we took up the reins of power,
It wasn’t just liberation,
It was then that a magical bird of independence had flown.
With every up and down,
High and low,
We realise that life isn’t perfect,
But to cherish a brush with magic, we sure do know.

PART 4

When someone tells you, ‘I love you,’ and then you feel, ‘Oh, I must be worthy after all,’ that’s an illusion. That’s not true. Or someone says, ‘I hate you,’ and you think, 'Oh, God, I knew it; I’m not very worthy,’ that’s not true either. Neither one of these thoughts hold any intrinsic reality. They are an overlay. When someone says, 'I love you,’ he is telling you about himself, not you. When someone says, 'I hate you,’ she is telling you about herself, not you. World views are self views-literally


PART 5

Have you met someone in your life and say to yourself:
“I love this person.
I want to be with this person.
I won’t stop praying for this person.
I would love to share everything with this person.
I choose this person.
I am blessed to have this person.
I want to spend the rest of my life with this person”
That’s love.
That’s decision.
That’s commitment.


PART 6

My promise to you isn’t that you will not fall, But rather that when you do I’ll help pick you up.

My promise to you isn’t a lifetime of happiness, but a world full of colour, and a paintbrush to cover the grey.

My promise to you isn’t that you’ll never feel sad, but that when you do I’ll do everything in my power not to make you laugh for a second, but to make you feel okay again for as long as possible.

My promise to you isn’t a love where nothing goes wrong, but a love that has enough trust and respect to not let arguments cause earthquakes.

My promise to you is that on days when the colors go away, I make you breakfast and we go for a walk and go to sleep early so that maybe tomorrow is a little bit better.

My promise to you is to do everything in my power to help you feel the tiniest bit better when the world feels like it’s falling down.

I know I cannot cure you and make it all go away,

but I promise I’ll do my best to make sure it doesn’t always stay.




PART 7

It’s not about looking into someone’s eyes in the middle of a storm and them having the power to make it stop.

It’s about being able to look into someone’s eyes and know that their gaze will never waver whether the world is falling apart around you or you’re in the middle of the beach on a sunny day.

It’s about knowing that they can’t stop the tidal waves from coming- but that they’ll do everything they can to help you board up the windows for when they do.

It’s about facing monsters that you can’t see- that you didn’t even know existed, for someone that’s been facing them alone their whole life.

This is what Love is.

This is what Love should be.

A million little moments where someone stays.




PART 8

Have you ever tracked a shooting star across the sky?
Burdened it with your hopes and dreams?
Imbued it with meaning,
Watched as it came to rest before the constellation Apus-the bird of paradise
That lie between her eyes amidst the galaxy that is her beautiful mind

And remarked the Daedal canvass sky- stained violet and blue by the inks with which you write her odes?
Marvelled at the endless possibilities and gaudy clockwork/design
Or tried to count the near infinite aspirations that glow bright against the cosmos?

Around these orbit dreams like planets around a star
But the line that separates them is blurred
For she truly believes she can do anything her heart desires
And believe me, she is not wrong



PART 9

Tell me what happens the first time you see a woman naked.’

‘The first time you see a woman naked will not be like you imagined. There will be no love, no trust, no intimacy. You won’t even be in the same room as her.

You won’t get to smile as she undresses you and you undress her. You won’t get to calm her nerves with nerves of your own. You won’t get to kiss her, feeling her lips and the edge of her tongue. You won’t get to brush your fingers over the lace of her bra or count her ribs or feel her heartbeat.

The first time you see a woman naked you will be sitting in front of a computer screen watching someone play at intimacy and perform at sex. She will contort her body to please everyone in the room but her. You will watch this woman who is not a woman, pixelated and filtered and customized. She will come ready-made, like an order at a restaurant. The man on the screen will be bigger than you, rougher than you. He will teach you how to talk to her. He will teach you where to put your hands and he will teach you what you’re supposed to like. He will teach you to take what is yours.

You must unlearn this. You must unlearn this twisted sense of love. You must unlearn the definition of pleasure and intimacy you are being taught. Kill this idea of love, this idea of entitlement, this way of scarring one another


PART 10

All you want is to be happy. All your desires, whatever they may be, are longing for happiness. Basically, you wish yourself well…desire by itself is not wrong. It is life itself, the urge to grow in knowledge and experience. It is choices you make that are wrong. To imagine that some little thing-food, sex, power, fame-will make you happy is to decieve oneself. Only something as vast and deep as your real self can make you truly and lastingly happy


PART 11

This sounds like wishful thinking, but it’s true. When it comes to how I experience life (my happiness and general mood) the state of my mind is more influential than the state of my circumstances. The world holds no inherent meaning beyond my perception of it. Nobody’s perception of reality is objectively true; everyone’s point-of-view is merely an interpretation. If 100 people sat where I am sitting now, each 100 people would have a different interpretation of their surroundings based on their points-of-view and past experiences. The world is a blank canvas. My perception creates the picture.

When I perceive imperfection in another person or see a flaw in my life, do these flaws actually reside in the person and my circumstances, or does the flaw reside in my perception? My thoughts are so fundamental to my interpretation of life that I rarely notice how every day I am painting the canvas of my experience through the lens of my perception. Every thought is another brush stroke. Each subconscious judgement is another color. Soon I am looking at a painting (my experience of life) and have forgotten that I created it.

The kindest thing I can do for myself is remembering to slow down and observe my thinking mind – each inhale and exhale of thought – instead of giving it free reign to shape my experience of life without supervision. This is the point of meditation. My mind has the power to perceive both heaven and hell in each passing moment. Heaven is the state of unbiased and non-attached awareness. Hell is the hurricane of mental chaos. Regardless of what is happening in my life, I have the power to choose my point-of-view. My thoughts may seem insignificant compared to the big bad world, but the state of the world – with all its monsters, demons, angels, and lovers – does not impact my emotions as much as the state of my mind.

Logic does not help here. Only awareness. Because the world is an unfair place, seeing life from a happy perspective is not always rational. There are a million good reasons to be unhappy and blame others. But when I shift my focus from my circumstances to my awareness, I remember that peace-of-mind is always a choice.



PART 12

Maybe the problem with love these days is that someone says they love you, and you just wonder how long for.




PART 13

Miss someone until they come back, or until you come back, until their absence in your life becomes something to be avoided at all costs. Miss them until you don’t have to anymore, until you’re reunited in your favorite booth in your favorite restaurant ordering your favorite meal, miss them until it feels like you never left. Or miss them until you can’t anymore, until the things you miss are identified and cataloged as things and not a person, until you figure out that easy company and long talks and unblinking, all-knowing eye contact will find you again the way they found you the first time. Miss someone until you don’t


PART 14

When love shows up,we hold on to it so tight.
It is something we can’t really let go of without a fight.
How it colours everything with beautiful delight.
For we claim to hold it forever if we do right.
But when love told us to let go,we couldn’t help but cry.
So when ‘love’ finds us again we grip our hearts so tight.
While our minds pray for ‘forever’ this time.
For we find solace in believing that this ‘love’,won’t end in a goodbye


PART 15 

When you drop a glass or a plate to the ground, it makes a loud crashing sound. When a window shatters, a table leg breaks, or when a picture falls off the wall, it makes a noise. But as for your heart when that breaks it is completely silent. You would think as it is so important it would make the loudest noise in the whole world or even have some sort of ceremonious sound like the gong of a cymbal or the ringing of a bell. But it is silent and you almost wish there was a noise to distract you from the pain. If there is a noise it is internal. It screams and no one can hear it but you. It screams so loud your ears ring and your head aches. It trashes around in your chest like a great white shark caught in the sea, it roars like a mother bear whose cub has been taken. That is what it looks like and that is what it sounds like a trashing, panicking, trapped great, big beast roaring like a prisoner to its own emotions. But that is the thing about love, no one is untouchable

DATING: DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH A WOMAN WHO IS STILL IN LOVE WITH HER EX BOYFRIEND.

Would you really want a woman laying next to you, knowing that in her heart, it feels like she's laying next to the wrong guy?

The answer is NO.

You are putting yourself in a position of disadvantage were you have to “earn her” as if she had more value than you.

This could very well be why she’s not being very respectful with you. You are also coming from a place of scarcity where you fear losing her to her ex. This is also playing against you.

So first of all, please think about all of the things that YOU are currently doing wrong which are putting you in a position of disadvantage: Giving her more value than you give to yourself, being fearful, accepting being disrespected 

If you want to take care of this I want you to stop looking at the “her and her ex” situation completely and to put all of your attention to yourself: You need to work on yourself in order to take care of this situation. You need to see yourself having more value to your eyes than her. How to accomplish this? In the short term: give yourself priority, exercise,  do things with her that YOU want to do, take care of your self image by being clean and wearing clothes that you like how they look on you, catch up with people that care about you, make a list of all the things you rock at. You can see where I’m going, we’re giving your self-esteem a boost. You MUST do these things if you want a permanent solution. You want to be the best version of yourself, which also includes being her man and a great partner, not her fearful (probably pleasing) boyfriend. Again, be the best man you can be.

I think if your girl was given a do over in life, she would chose her ex over you in a heart beat. The disrespect she's shown you is staggering. Sucking his dick....want to fuck him more than she want to fuck you.....You need to smell the coffee like I did in the past relationship, you know what took place there. Do you think she thought much of your feelings when she guided him inside of her? I can't imagine she felt any guilt as she climbed and top of him to give him a sexy show while she rode him cowgirl style. You may or may not have crossed her mind when she was performing oral pleasure for him. And I'm positive it wasn't you're name she was calling when he was behind her using doggie style to help achieve joy. She sounds like a little vixen. If you can accept her duality, then don't worry about it. I'm not that kind of man. I'd leave her to pursue her ex.

Do you ever wonder if your girlfriend’s still in love with her ex?  Do you catch her staring at an old picture of her ex when she thinks you aren’t looking? Or Checking him out on his facebook. It’s not always easy to decipher the thoughts that run on a girl’s mind. But if you ever do get a nagging thought at the back of your mind, and wonder if your girlfriend’s not over her ex yet, chances are, you’re probably right!

Girls are subtle. And you won’t always notice the signs immediately if your girl is still lost in thoughts about her ex.  But I did notice when I was with one who was still in love with her ex boyfriend.Sometimes, you may just find her being distant and aloof. Or she may want a lot of space to herself. She may appear sad and bored when she’s with you, and even keep her distance from you now and then. She doesn't like to have sex with you or doesn't want to do anything for you. All she does is order you around.

Should you put up with it? NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#1 She’s distant and confused. Your girlfriend gets distant and aloof now and then, and even if you ask her what’s wrong, she tells you it’s nothing, or tells you that it’s something she has to deal with herself.

#2 Those good old memories. Your girlfriend talks about her ex boyfriend’s memories like they’re still fresh in her head. She remembers him fondly, and speaks of him as if he was her best friend.

#3 She compares all the time. Does your girlfriend ever compare you to her ex boyfriend, and show you in negative light? Of course, she may do this only when she’s pissed off with you. But yet, if your girlfriend compares you to her ex for the silliest reasons, or when you’re late or forget to do something, it only means she’s mentally evaluating who’s the better boyfriend. But seriously, if she has no thoughts of ever dumping you and getting back with her ex, why the comparisons in the first place, right?!

#4 She’s in touch with him. She doesn't change her number or email. Exes stay as exes for a reason. And exes never make good friends. Of course, it is definitely possible for exes to stay friends, but it’s not likely.

#5 She still remembers the events. When a relationship breaks down and the ex lovers go their separate ways, one of the first things they need to do is erase their love slates clean. But if your girlfriend still remembers *their song* and hums nostalgically, or points out every single place she and her ex used to hang out at, each time both of you pass by it, it only means she’s still hanging on to the thoughts of her ex and keeping it alive. For what? Well, you know…

#6 She gets irritated. Your girlfriend’s supposedly in a relationship with you, and supposedly, she’s happy with you. But does she get irritated or annoyed when she hears that her ex is dating some other girl? She may not tell it to your face, but if you read her expressions, she may seem distracted or angry, or she may get unnaturally quiet all of a sudden.

#7 You’re the rebound guy! Your girlfriend may be using you as a rebound guy, either to get over her ex or to make him jealous. This is something that happens frequently 

#8 She loves talking about her ex. 

#9 She wants to be his friend. Your girlfriend and her ex boyfriend have broken up, and they’ve moved on too. And now, all of a sudden, she confesses to you that she wants to be friends with her ex because she’s finally over him and doesn’t think of him in that way anymore.Which is all bullshit

#10 She likes you, but loves him Your girlfriend tells you she loves you, but she also mentions that she thinks of her ex now and then. If your girlfriend ever says this to you, that’s probably because you’re being a doormat and letting her walk all over you. You’re probably a really nice guy, but the fact that she can tell you something like this just shows how easy she’s taking this relationship with you.

#11 She’s moody. 

Is it time to break up with your girlfriend?

There’s a threshold up to which you can bear her antics and her sickeningly fond reminders of her ex. And this threshold is different for each guy. If your girlfriend pines about her ex often, or gives you any reason to doubt her, move oN

THAT IS WHAT I WOULD DO

DATING: STAY AWAY FROM WOMAN WHO ARE ADDICTED TO DRAMA

Some people are addicted to drama. It’s a drug which triggers a part of their brains causing them to crave the activity. They claim they hate drama as they call you,  and tell the latest tale to anyone willing to listen....especially to their ex boyfriends. They are like meth addicts who claim to hate the stuff even as their teeth fall out, their skin ages, and they no longer resemble their driver’s license photo.

I had a relationship with a woman who kept telling me that all she wanted was a peaceful life, But her life was always full of drama. Drama at work. Drama in relationship with me. Drama with money,....Drama in general. She would leave her wallet at home,,,,miss her train stop....forget her glass. Nothing was ever simple with the woman.

During my relaitonship with her. I  was  trying to help her from living in a chaotic situation.  But she kept on making bad choices and the consequences of those choices were difficult. After weeks of trying to give her advice....I finally realized, it didn’t matter how many times I helped this woman, she would always repeat the decisions to get back into a chaotic situation.

It was the only life she knew. Like a person in bankruptcy who wins the lottery only to lose it all again, this woman did not know how to live a life of peace.If given the choice of peace or drama, she would choose drama all the while claiming she hated the drama. Like many people, she was addicted to the drama. She couldn’t help herself.


Yet continual drama is not a natural consequence of life. A normal flow of peaceful times and chaotic times should be expected. Rare seasons of frequent turmoils are normal. But at some point, an overwhelming amount of drama could be a signal, not that drama is finding us but, that we are finding it. She would make excuse about her drama. Her drama was due to her childhood,,,not having enough money,,,,,wrong timing....ALL Bullshit.!!!!!!


 Look for peace and you will find it. Look for conflict and you will find it. Drama addicts are constantly looking for their drug, and so, they often find it.

Most drama addicts believe if they are experiencing peace, something must be wrong. They are surprised by it. They are uncomfortable with it. This uneasiness is what causes them to seek out problems or even create them. They simply do not know how to handle an absence of drama so they will unconsciously create it.

The problem with being addicted to drama is the same problem as any other addiction, it doesn’t satisfy. It is exhausting. It’s a horrible way to live.

Thankfully, life doesn’t have to be this way.

There are other options.

You can live a life:

with a small amount of drama which doesn’t overwhelm you.
I like to have drama in my sex life . That is the only area that I like drama in. But I find woman want the same routine with sex. Not open to anything....like food and sex...or role playing...or wear wigs....etc.

with a deep satisfaction of life and your relationships
with an ability to help others without taking on their problems
with an ability to feel empathy for others without feeling overwhelmed
with proper boundaries


Running from one emergency to another, these individuals carry out virtually all everyday tasks with a sense of high drama. They’re either late, almost late, or afraid of being late. Situations at work  mushroom out of control, and they’re constantly letting everyone know just how bad it is. Lengthy phone calls, meetings, or exclamation-filled emails provide all the gory details.


Healthy relationships are characterized by peace, maturity, and mutual respect. Your relationship has too much drama if….

-You are on again off again more times than a game of musical chairs.

-You spend more time arguing than you do actually communicating.

-You often leave a conversation feeling frustrated and unresolved.

-Your relationship is plagued by jealousy, mistrust, and fear.

-You are constantly having to review and rehash boundaries that have been crossed again, and again.

-You feel like you at an amusement park- because of the constant emotional roller-coaster, but without the cotton candy.

-You receive  more criticism than encouragement.

-Your friends/family have to regularly ask you if you’re “back together”.

-You regularly find yourself sifting the truth from the dishonesty.

-You or your partner regularly exchange words that are degrading, hurtful, and mean. ( Like you are not hot enough...i don;t love you. I don't like having sex with you)

-You don’t feel the freedom to engage in open communication about how you really feel.

-You’re having to deal with constant issues involving “other women” or “other men” that shouldn’t be part of the relationship.

-You find yourself “getting over” problems instead of “working through” them.

-You’re commonly concerned about whether or not your significant other is being faithful to you.

-You often wonder if you have made the wrong choice in this relationship.

Relationships aren’t meant to be this complicated. They really aren’t. Healthy relationships are marked by peace. They happen naturally, and so they don’t have to be forced. Seek this kind of a relationship: a relationship that’s filled with life, peace, grace, maturity. Strive for that. You owe it to yourself. Because what you see in dating- you will always, always, always see multiplied and magnified in marriage. So do yourself a favor, and quit while you’re ahead.


Some woman like to create drama to test you. And I don't have time for that crap or mind games. Drama is employed by women to put men, on the spot, by exploiting their emotional strengths and weaknesses to the breaking point.




Here are some examples of how women employ drama,

"So, where are you taking me?" {wants sense of mystery/romance created for her}
"Can you do this for me...pleaseeeeee?" {test of a man's integrity}
"This place sucks!"
"I want this (clothing/food)." {anything impulsive}
"I am annoyed." {any extreme emotion}
"Those people are bothering me."
"I have a lot of guy friends." {testing waters of jealousy, insecurity}
"All girls are bitches...I don't have many female friends." {same as above, but w/hint of autonomy}
"Why are you looking at her?!" {test of loyalty through use of overt jealousy}
"This guy asked me out. He told me I'm hot/cute." {testing waters of jealousy, insecurity}
"I am going here instead." {sense of mystery w/ display of independence}
"Leave me alone!" {"I want to talk about something with you." Or, "Leave me alone."}
"I don't play games." {"I play games CONSTANTLY."}
"I'm not worried about guys...just focused on /work." {diversions that are props or "fronts"}

All these techniques are a women's way of testing men to see if the man is jealous, insecure, overly-nice, manipulative, self-serving, spineless, or basically, worth their trouble. To a woman, the most UNATTRACTIVE thing in the world is INSECURITY in men. Why do you think nice guy's finish last? Because being nice, usually means, but not always, being insecure in one way or another. I am a nice guy.....but I don't have time for woman who keep testing me

Other reasons why woman like drama:

-They don’t want to take responsibility for rejecting a man outright, they make Drama to turn themselves into Superbitch so that he’ll make it easy for us by initiating the breakup himself.

-they are just plain crazy

Over the years, I’ve slowly disassociated from people who brought constant drama into my life. Why? Because I want to surround myself with people who understand that living in drama impacts all areas of our lives. It’s much easier to stay out of drama when you surround yourself with people who don’t live in drama.

I have a good friend named Kevin, he is my medial assistant who is one of the happiest people I have ever met. He lives totally drama free because he chooses to live By Design. When I asked him how he stays out of the drama, he explained he sees life as a movie. If we can see each moment as nothing more than a scene, before you know it, the next scene will be up on the screen and that moment of drama will be in the past. I love that analogy because it’s a simple way to see every moment, good or bad for what they are. A moment in time that will soon pass.

DATING: THE REASON WHY YOU WILL NEVER EVER GET MARRIED UNLESS YOU CHANGE.

I was in a relationship once with a woman who never really had a serious relationship before. Most of her  past relationship was either long distance or they would not see each other on a regular basis. I don't know what you would call that. In the short time I was with her.which was on the weekend.. The total amount of time we were physically together was more than either of the other relationship she ever had in her life. This should have been a red flag. My mistake. This remind me of another ex girlfriend I had who was 39 years old and never been in relationship longer than 4-6 months. And both of these woman wanted to get married. What bullshit!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You should stay away from these type of woman These woman never had a normal relationship. 

If you are a woman who is reading this. The problem is not men, it’s you. Sure, there are lame men out there, but they’re not really standing in your way. Because the fact is — if whatever you’re doing right now was going to get you married, you’d already have a ring on. So without further ado, let’s look at the top six reasons why you’re not married.

1. You’re a Bitch.
Here’s what I mean by bitch. I mean you’re angry. You probably don’t think you’re angry. You think you’re super smart, or think you are HOT. But the truth is you’re pissed. At your mom.At your dad, At your life, At your money situation At your ex boyfriend.. And it’s scaring men off.

The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them.  Here’s what my men wants out of life:  Food, love and alot of sex.. Have you ever seen Kim Kardashian angry? I didn’t think so. You’ve seen Kim Kardashian smile, wiggle, and make a sex tape. Female anger terrifies men. I know it seems unfair that you have to work around a man’s fear and insecurity in order to get married — but actually, it’s perfect, since working around a man’s fear and insecurity is big part of what you’ll be doing as a wife.

2. You’re Shallow.
When it comes to choosing a husband, only one thing really, truly matters: character. So it stands to reason that a man’s character should be at the top of the list of things you are looking for, right? But if you’re not married, I already know it isn’t. Because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are, by definition, willing to commit.

Instead, you are looking for someone tall. Or rich. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of a teenaged girl. And men of character do not want to marry teenaged girls. Because teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either.

3. You’re a Slut.
If you’re having sex outside committed relationships or if you still want to have sex with other men or still thinking about your ex you will have to stop. Why? Because Not one want to marry a woman like you.

4. You’re a Liar.
It usually goes something like this: Your ex boyfriend isn't  really available for a relationship. He has two kids and works two jobs and have no money that absolutely precludes his availability, Or maybe he just comes right out and says something cryptic and open to interpretation like, “I’m not really available for a relationship right now.”

You know if you tell him the truth — that you’re ready for marriage — he will stop calling. Usually that day. And you don’t want that. So you just tell him how perfect this is because you only want to have sex for fun! You love having fun sex! And you don’t want to get in a relationship at all! You swear!

About ten minutes later, the oxytocin kicks in. You start wanting more. But you don’t tell him that.  Instead, you hang around, having sex with him, waiting for him to figure out that he can’t live without you. I have news: he will never “figure” this out. He already knows he can live without you just fine. And so do you. Or you wouldn’t be lying to him in the first place.

5. You’re Selfish.
If you’re not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don’t have one, Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy — or at least a guy with a really, really good job — would solve all your problems.

However a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids. This is why you see a lot of celebrity women getting husbands after they adopt. The kids put the woman on notice: Bitch, hello! It’s not all about you anymore! After a year or two of thinking about someone other than herself, suddenly, Brad Pitt or Harrison Ford comes along and decides to significantly other her. Which is also to say — if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.

6. You’re Not Good Enough.
Oh, I don’t think that. You do. I can tell because you’re not looking for a partner who is your equal. No, you want someone better than you are: better looking, better family, better job.

Here is what you need to know: You are enough right this minute. Period. Not understanding this is a major obstacle to getting married, since women who don’t know their own worth make terrible wives. Why? You can fake it for a while, but ultimately you won’t love your spouse any better than you love yourself. Smart men know this.

The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You’re just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won’t. Once the initial high wears off, you’ll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.

Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something — it’s about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession — a free-agent penis — and for us, it’s the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.

The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don’t deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway — because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self — you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along: Love.