The answer is NO.
You are putting yourself in a position of disadvantage were you have to “earn her” as if she had more value than you.
This could very well be why she’s not being very respectful with you. You are also coming from a place of scarcity where you fear losing her to her ex. This is also playing against you.
So first of all, please think about all of the things that YOU are currently doing wrong which are putting you in a position of disadvantage: Giving her more value than you give to yourself, being fearful, accepting being disrespected
If you want to take care of this I want you to stop looking at the “her and her ex” situation completely and to put all of your attention to yourself: You need to work on yourself in order to take care of this situation. You need to see yourself having more value to your eyes than her. How to accomplish this? In the short term: give yourself priority, exercise, do things with her that YOU want to do, take care of your self image by being clean and wearing clothes that you like how they look on you, catch up with people that care about you, make a list of all the things you rock at. You can see where I’m going, we’re giving your self-esteem a boost. You MUST do these things if you want a permanent solution. You want to be the best version of yourself, which also includes being her man and a great partner, not her fearful (probably pleasing) boyfriend. Again, be the best man you can be.
I think if your girl was given a do over in life, she would chose her ex over you in a heart beat. The disrespect she's shown you is staggering. Sucking his dick....want to fuck him more than she want to fuck you.....You need to smell the coffee like I did in the past relationship, you know what took place there. Do you think she thought much of your feelings when she guided him inside of her? I can't imagine she felt any guilt as she climbed and top of him to give him a sexy show while she rode him cowgirl style. You may or may not have crossed her mind when she was performing oral pleasure for him. And I'm positive it wasn't you're name she was calling when he was behind her using doggie style to help achieve joy. She sounds like a little vixen. If you can accept her duality, then don't worry about it. I'm not that kind of man. I'd leave her to pursue her ex.
Do you ever wonder if your girlfriend’s still in love with her ex? Do you catch her staring at an old picture of her ex when she thinks you aren’t looking? Or Checking him out on his facebook. It’s not always easy to decipher the thoughts that run on a girl’s mind. But if you ever do get a nagging thought at the back of your mind, and wonder if your girlfriend’s not over her ex yet, chances are, you’re probably right!
Girls are subtle. And you won’t always notice the signs immediately if your girl is still lost in thoughts about her ex. But I did notice when I was with one who was still in love with her ex boyfriend.Sometimes, you may just find her being distant and aloof. Or she may want a lot of space to herself. She may appear sad and bored when she’s with you, and even keep her distance from you now and then. She doesn't like to have sex with you or doesn't want to do anything for you. All she does is order you around.
Should you put up with it? NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#1 She’s distant and confused. Your girlfriend gets distant and aloof now and then, and even if you ask her what’s wrong, she tells you it’s nothing, or tells you that it’s something she has to deal with herself.
#2 Those good old memories. Your girlfriend talks about her ex boyfriend’s memories like they’re still fresh in her head. She remembers him fondly, and speaks of him as if he was her best friend.
#3 She compares all the time. Does your girlfriend ever compare you to her ex boyfriend, and show you in negative light? Of course, she may do this only when she’s pissed off with you. But yet, if your girlfriend compares you to her ex for the silliest reasons, or when you’re late or forget to do something, it only means she’s mentally evaluating who’s the better boyfriend. But seriously, if she has no thoughts of ever dumping you and getting back with her ex, why the comparisons in the first place, right?!
#4 She’s in touch with him. She doesn't change her number or email. Exes stay as exes for a reason. And exes never make good friends. Of course, it is definitely possible for exes to stay friends, but it’s not likely.
#5 She still remembers the events. When a relationship breaks down and the ex lovers go their separate ways, one of the first things they need to do is erase their love slates clean. But if your girlfriend still remembers *their song* and hums nostalgically, or points out every single place she and her ex used to hang out at, each time both of you pass by it, it only means she’s still hanging on to the thoughts of her ex and keeping it alive. For what? Well, you know…
#6 She gets irritated. Your girlfriend’s supposedly in a relationship with you, and supposedly, she’s happy with you. But does she get irritated or annoyed when she hears that her ex is dating some other girl? She may not tell it to your face, but if you read her expressions, she may seem distracted or angry, or she may get unnaturally quiet all of a sudden.
#7 You’re the rebound guy! Your girlfriend may be using you as a rebound guy, either to get over her ex or to make him jealous. This is something that happens frequently
#8 She loves talking about her ex.
#9 She wants to be his friend. Your girlfriend and her ex boyfriend have broken up, and they’ve moved on too. And now, all of a sudden, she confesses to you that she wants to be friends with her ex because she’s finally over him and doesn’t think of him in that way anymore.Which is all bullshit
#10 She likes you, but loves him Your girlfriend tells you she loves you, but she also mentions that she thinks of her ex now and then. If your girlfriend ever says this to you, that’s probably because you’re being a doormat and letting her walk all over you. You’re probably a really nice guy, but the fact that she can tell you something like this just shows how easy she’s taking this relationship with you.
#11 She’s moody.
Is it time to break up with your girlfriend?
There’s a threshold up to which you can bear her antics and her sickeningly fond reminders of her ex. And this threshold is different for each guy. If your girlfriend pines about her ex often, or gives you any reason to doubt her, move oN
THAT IS WHAT I WOULD DO
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