Wednesday, June 25, 2014

POETRY: EXPRESS TO ME

My love flows deeper than the deepest river;
through my veins into my soul,
where it possesses my whole being.
You have taken over my every waking thought, my every dream.
You came into my life and stole my heart and made it yours.
I am yours for, though unconsciously, you made me love you.
Perhaps, my heart gave in willingly...
though my brain couldn't let me tell you.
Still the fact remains, that somehow, someway,
I fall deeper in love with you every day.
Deeper then any river, any lake, any valley.
Deeper then I ever thought possible.


2

Express to me what you want, and see if I can understand,
For you want to be fulfilled, and this I also demand.
Hope is only held suspended by one single strand,
For the love that I possess in my heart never can be known as bland.

Open up your heart to me, so that I may prove to you my devotions.
Allow me to convey true beliefs, and tender emotions.
Let us ponder fantasies so explicit, exploring, capturing passions,
Intensifying feelings so deep, yearning for shivering reactions.
 
Express to me what you want, and see if I can understand,
For you want to be fulfilled, and this I also demand.
Hope is only held suspended by one single strand,
For the love that I possess in my heart never can be known as bland.

Sprinkle me with your caring heart and this will not be in vain,
Gratifying the void of your soul with my tongue,
  the truth you will gain.
The undesirable spirit of vanity in this situation will be slain,
And the attempt for capitalism on your emotions I will not obtain.

Express to me what you want, and see if I can understand,
For you want to be fulfilled, and this I also demand.
Hope is only held suspended by one single strand.
For the love that I possess in my heart never can be known as bland.

   


3


As I feel the warmth
Of your breath
My soul shudders
My mind explodes

Feelings of love
Kisses foretold
Your lips upon mine
Your body so close

The truest beauty
Of heaven therefore
Taking it all in
The volume of love

Expansion extreme
The feeling of your lips
So vibrant, so tender
Kissing my neck

The whisp of your breath
Once more I can feel
The hottness of your lips
The passionate kiss


4


Everyday my eyes are awake with you in my mind
Your tender love always keeps me so blind
I wanna light up your face with happiness
And erase every single trace of sadness
Just to be sure you're always embraced

I wanna hold your hands and take you to foreign lands
Making sure you're living nice feeling like you're in paradise
You and me are a team that can together live our dream
I think of you and me and how things should be
That's you and me together living our dream

At nights I reminisce how we were together in bliss
Hearing your voice and imagining your sweet kiss
No one can feel for you the way I do
You've faced closed doors and are sore
So let me be yours and you will always see open doors

Monday, June 23, 2014

PERSONAL : THE REAL MAN

Hello!! Yes, I know you are going to skip this first line and go look at my photos right away. It’s OK, I don’t mind. After all, I’m going to do the same thing with yours… if I haven’t already!

You’re back? Good, I didn’t scare you away after all. Well, since you aren’t phased by my Adonis-like look, I should probably tell you other wonderful things about myself!

What do you call a guy who has the best traits of the Bad Boy and Nice Guy rolled into one? A Real Man. This is the figure that women crave when they say “I want a real man,” or “Where have all the real men gone? By day I’m a slave to Armani and Kenneth Cole, but in the evening you’ll find I’m best friends with worn in Diesel denim and a pair of supple Steve Madden loafers.Somewhere in my stack of Sports Illustrated you’ll notice a few carefully concealed copies of GQ. Just because I’m a man doesn’t mean I don’t want to look great when I take my girl out on the town. Chivalry isn’t dead. Don’t be offended if I open the door for you, offer you my arm as we walk, and give you my jacket if the night turns cold. That’s just the way it is  

I love to hike, and like to explore the mountains every chance I get. On occasion I take my neighbor’s Labrador retriever with me on longer walks (everything’s better with a dog!) It’s worked out to my advantage, since he carries his weight, makes great conversation, drags me up the steep parts, and knows the trails even better than I do.I had my friends over for poker last night (every first Friday of the month) and told them about this online dating thing. They were surprisingly supportive. I then proceeded to beat the pants off them and take all their money. Hey, it’s poker, what can I say! I love’em, but I ain’t letting them win! For me, travel is romance and adventure rolled into one. There is something breathtaking about stepping onto a plane in a modern city of skyscrapers and freeways and stepping off mere hours later into a city of ancient cathedrals, narrow cobblestone roads, steamy crowded markets and tiny theaters. While I love a white sandy beach at an all-inclusive resort, the real adventure for me is exploring places that your average tourist passes up. Personally...I think I put my travel agent’s kids through med school by the time I was 25. If it has got a white sandy beach and crystal clear blue water with gulls squawking overhead, I’ve either been there or am going next week! I’ll bring the coconut drinks with umbrellas – you bring the sun block!    

During the summer you’ll find me covered in sand at my rec beach volleyball league (psst, we need a cheerleader!) We have so much fun, it’s worth the occasional mouthful of sand, especially with the crashing waves and cool breeze making a perfect setting. And in the winter? Before the snow starts falling in the mountains I’ve already got the first snowboarding trip lined up. Priority one is finding a cozy little ski lodge with a steamy. Adventure runs in my family and you will never get bored with me around.  My idea of real romance is to pick you up after work, not tell you where we are going, drive far up into the mountains under the stars, and build us a small fire in the still night air. The silence is broken only by the odd owl hooting in the distance. We’ll pop open a bottle of bubbly champagne, set up a tent, then I’ll tell you… I accidentally brought only one sleeping bag…Although I grew up with my parents listening to Simon & Garfunkle, Pink Floyd opened me up to real music. From there it became Guns ‘N Roses, then Pearl71Jam, then Sublime, then the Fugees, then Bob Marley, then Johnny Cash. Now I’m somehow back to Simon & Garfunkle. Go figure.  I’m a horror movie buff, but don’t worry, I won’t subject you to Friday The 13thpart 27… I only dig the classics… Shining, Jaws, Night of The Living Dead. I’ll cover your eyes during the scary parts if you need me to.

I read this great e-book on online dating once… OK, seriously though, when they started putting coffee shops into book stores, my life became heaven. You can find me there every other Sunday, browsing for an hour before I pick up my book for the following week. Did you know Las Vegas has a law stating that you can’t ride a donkey into a casino while wearing an Elvis costume? I didn’t either. Yeah… It was a hell of a bachelor party until the cops showed up.
While I’ve never taken a cooking class, I take pride in my self taught culinary skills. A good third of the books I own are cookbooks. Canard a l’orange, lambsouvlaki, Kraft Dinner & hot dogs… you name it, I can cook it. And if I can’t? Well there are lots of good restaurants near my house instead.  I love to dance. There are few pleasures as sensual as moving on the dance floor, the warm hand of a beautiful woman in yours, while the rhythmic beat of the music fills you both up from head to toe. The background blurs away into a sea of swirling strobe lights and all you can see are each other’s eyes as your bodies sway together, late into the night

I love where I live, my gym is not that far from my house and my work so I can always get a good workout either in the morning or on the way home. I’m not addicted to it, but I love the feeling of exercise and no girl ever complained about a guy who stays fit!. I usually get approached by women who are only interested in me for my job and always ask what type of doctor I am.. I’d much rather let you like me for me, not for what I do. How about I tell you at the end of the first date? It’s been a long standing tradition in my family for the men to BBQ ribs. Yes, we even have a secret family recipe. They are delicious, tender, sweet, and juicy. No I won’t give the recipe to you, but if we get along you’re in for a treat.

As for the family, my sister (younger) is still one of my best friends. Mom and Dad are amazed, since we fought constantly as kids.She’s married now and has two sons and now I’ve got a tshirt that says “World’s Best Uncle”. If they only knew how many cartoons we watch while I’m babysitting…Those are the things that all my friends know about me. Here’s the thing that they don’t… All the reading and music my parents tried to force on me… stuck. My big secret is this: My favorite way to spend a Saturday isn’t sports, but to curl up in my oversized hammock in the back yard with a good book, cool drink, and my favorite girl snuggled up beside me with a book of her own.If that’s the type of weekend you enjoy, if you don’t mind a guy who constantly picks you up in his arms and carries you out to the back yard to join him, and if you can handle having someone play guitar for you once in a while, we should talk. Looking forward to your email.


I’d better start wrapping this up, got to head out with my friends for the evening and I need some prep time. Nothing stages a great evening like a hot shower and a crisp clean shirt to feel your best for a night out on the town.But before I leave...imagine.....meeting a man who wants to enjoy living and experiencing life to its fullest. How will it feel when you meet a man that you can relax with, feel comfort with and attraction for...and be your true fun loving self?  If you can imagine yourself getting to know a well educated, successful, established doctor and sharing what life has to offer, make sure you have a photo with your response. It isn't that I care about how you look...but, have you ever just looked at someone and right away....you feel a instantaneous connection with this person? Have you ever seen someone and instantly, you feel like you need to get to know this guy better?

As your sitting at your computer, reading this, and wondering if ]you should reply, i should let you know that I appreciate good looks, but I am more interested in a woman with a strong spirit and a great outlook on life.I am looking for a smart and honest women. A women who knows that it is good to be friends as well as lovers...isn't it? like I said above- good looks are common, inner beauty is much harder to find.

POETRY: SERENDIPITY LED US

We are so fortunate,you and I. serendipity led us into the same patch of light,and there,in a moment of blessed revelation,we saw the complement of Self in each other.Perhaps that is the moment love dawns:when each senses in the other a redolence branded in memory:and that scent burns to beget lucidity, in which faith is birthed.Holding hands is transmuted to the act of coming home: Fingers forget which hand they belong to, only know that where before was space, is kinship.Love dawns and we - benighted and bemused - belong.Time cannot erase memories of moments deeply felt. Timid Love songs veiled in poetry,knocking on the door to your heart or those indescribable emotions stirred in me while looking in your eyes... One by one the years, they pass in utter indifference, leaving us with our share of life's experiences.Slowly, but surely, though,wisdom grows from the ever fading doubts. Some day when we are on the great Cosmic journey,and the Earth is a million miles behind,I'll see you hold in your hands,The magic of a shooting star.I'll smile to you as you cry tears of laughter,and wonder at the fulfilment of promises,to an answered wish, I made light years ago.





Summer nights,
burning slow.
Together we are quiet
we have no place to go.
 
Happy from the words,
you sweetly speak.
Joy is right before me,
no longer will I seek.
 
For in these moments,
spent with you
I find I am complete,
and all around us shines.....
...a brilliant golden hue.



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I hear you singing in my heart
Your voice, so clear and compassionate
Your expression, so bold and sure
It draws me closer to you

I see the sincerity of your heart
In everything you do
Helping others who really need it
Changing the lives of the lost

I gaze in awe and wonder
Jesus, who is this I see?
Has anyone ever shown so much love?
She can?t be human, maybe straight from above

No wings on her back
She doesn?t shine as bright
But something inside... pure and right
Though I give into reality
She will always be an angel to me



3

An eternity of emptiness cannot compare to her moment's disregard,
Nor can hell's hot breath sear my soul as can her touch.
Her slightest whim becomes my lifetime's most cardinal pursuit,
And my greatest achievements are measured by the length of her smile.
Dare I compare the depths of her eyes to heaven's great vastness?
For surely such injustice cannot be endured by God's greatest work



4

Gazing deep into my eyes
you read into the thoughts deep in my soul
you become me
feeling all of me
seeing what I see
we are one
like no other
we are we
you are me
I am you
a love so true
like nothing we have ever felt or seen before
quenching the thirst of my thirsty heart
Raining down on my drought
transforming my calm stream
into a raging river
filled with a burst of ecstasy
my heart is overflwing with your love
it drips with bliss
it runs with happiness
a joy of fullfillment
like spring after winter
flowers bloom
the earth turns green
I am experiencing
New love



4

Dear Sweetheart... 
To have found a love like ours 
is like a beautiful garden of flowers  
with a heavenly scent, 
and more loveliness than we mortals 
have ever had the rashness to achieve. 
Our garden of life is like a sweet dream,  
or an afterlife in which real people 
know the joy that we thought 
only angels could enjoy.

Sunday, June 22, 2014

LOVE/DATING :TO ALL THE WOMAN WHO FINALLY WANT THE NICE GUYS

You had your chance on our first (and only) date. I held the door open for you and bought you dinner at that 5-star restaurant you so slyly worked into the conversation. You looked amazing and I went all out to impress you. You walked through the door I held open for you without a thank you or really any acknowledgement of my little gesture.

I asked you about your hopes and dreams and listened to you bitch about your ex-boyfriend as you ordered that $100 bone-in ribeye and the wine with the fancy vintage you just had to try. You finished the wine but took most of the steak home in a doggy bag. I only now realize that it was the ex-boyfriend you were texting all evening, I hope he enjoyed the steak I bought him. By the way that “emergency call” you got after dinner didn’t fool anyone. I’m not stupid, unlike most of the guys you’ve dated.

You’re not nice, honey, you’re bitter.

I was wonderful to you, I was a gentleman. I treated you with respect, like a lady deserves to be treated. I enjoyed your company and you had my full attention. I didn’t expect anything in return except a chance to win your heart. I’m stable, I’m a good provider, I want marriage and kids in my future. I’m the man of your dreams, but you couldn’t see that. Or maybe you just didn’t care. You were pretty preoccupied with your texting.

But now you’re ready to date me? Really? You’ll excuse me if I’m not jumping for joy. You’ve dissed me, rejected me, took advantage of me, dodged my goodnight kiss and couldn’t wait to get away from me. Now suddenly you want me? Sorry, I’m not buying it.

I get it though, now that you’re on the downside of 30, the wrinkles are starting, the body is sagging and you have stretch marks and that c-section scar from pushing out that bad boy’s rugrat. I know it was impossible to see that that deadbeat irresponsible jerk was actually a deadbeat irresponsible jerk, but that’s not my problem. While you were waiting for those texts that never came I was busy getting my career in order and maximizing my credit score. Now my biggest issue is deciding which color BMW I’m going to buy. Why in the world would I choose to take on you and your problems?

In your twenties you barely gave me the time of day. Meanwhile you were jumping in bed with any guy with a neck tattoo or a prison record. Why would I date you? I know where you’ve been, and I hope you’ve been tested. From the trail of bad boys and the mistreatment you tolerated, no, invited into your life and seeing all the drama you created for yourself, I can only conclude that you don’t need a nice guy, you need therapy! I’m a simple guy and like my life uncomplicated. You are the human embodiment of drama and chaos, I’d have to be crazier than, well… YOU to take on your baggage.

Face it, you’d get sick of me and my nice guy ways. I’ll remember your birthday and our anniversary and I’ll buy you flowers on both. I’ll treat you with respect and you’ll get bored. I know damn well you’re going to end up cheating on me, and I don’t plan on giving you half my stuff when you do. I work hard for what I have and now that I’ve achieved a little success I would love someone to share my life with. But that’s not going to be you. You thought I wasn’t worthy of you back then and I feel you’re not worthy of me now.

Now that the bad boys have used you up and moved on to women 10 years younger, so have I. It’s a funny thing, now that I’ve achieved a little success, drive a nice car and have stability in my life, I’m getting attention from those girls too. I don’t need you anymore. I’m not in the mood to deal with you, your issues, or your ex and his issues. I’m not looking to help you raise the mini-me version of some guy you used to bang. I want my own children someday, not the offspring of Mr. Neck Tattoo.

Truth is though, I’m happy for you. I really am. It’s about time you matured and came to your senses about the thugs and losers you just couldn’t resist. But I wasn’t sitting by the phone waiting for you to realize I’m a great guy. I wrote you off long ago. You’ve learned some important lessons and so have I. In fact you taught me one, you taught me not to date girls like you.

Speaking for the nice guys out there, you’re too late.

We want a good girl not some bad boy’s leftovers. And the fact that you’re still out there dating tells me the bad boys don’t want you either. Enjoy dressing your cat up for Halloween and cherish your bad boy memories, I hope they keep you warm at night. I’m just not that into you anymore.

LOVE: THE DATE ENVELOPE

So when I finally in a good relationship...I thought of a good idea for dating

A basket holds 12 envelopes.  Each labeled with a month of the year.  And each envelope contains a pre-planned, (mostly) pre-paid date just for us.  Some of the dates will take place at home, some are planned for the local area, and some will take us into town.  All 12 dates are different.  Several, actually nearly all of the dates are things we have never done before.

The plan is to open the envelope together at the beginning of the month, look at the calendar and decide on a date.  So right from the beginning of the month, we'll have a fun date on the calendar to look forward to.

the date envelope

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

POETRY: HERE'S TO THE ONE I TRULY LOVE

Here's to the one I truly love,
the one I truly trust,
the one I?d live and die for
and the one who puts up with me
day in and day out...
How you do it, I may never know
but, what I do know is,

I truly love you with
all my might,
   all my glory,
      all my mind,
         all my body,
            all my heart and
               all my soul.

I love you for who you are,
who you want to be and for how you will be.
I love you for being there when I need you most,
even though I don't open up to you.
I love you too much for words to describe
or for pictures to show.

You are that special someone,
the special someone I am lucky to have met.
Though it hurts not to be able to be with you,
it's to my comfort to know you love me.

This is to you, the one I truly love.




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Beauty , I do
    I married, always cherish
               
           Beauty is you
  It's the way your soul sparkles
          on a rainy day
    And when we lay in bed, warm
     when it's 20 below outside
 
       Beauty , is coming home
    2 a smile, 2 a hand of peace
  2 arms of love , 2 all in my life

 Beauty, is somthing that begins inside
    I thank you, 4 opening my eye's
         2 a beauty so divine

Honey, baby, Beauty is combing your hair
 while we watch the late night matinee
      Beauty, is the inspiration
  I receive from you 2 write this song
 And if I was blind, It wouldn't matter
Because the beauty I feel, is coming from
    the light inside your divine soul
 Only God  knows truly, but I'm planning
        2 do the best 2 return
   All the beauty ,I've found in you




3


Nothing can describe the way you look right now
In the candlelight
Except maybe the warm bask of an angel
The innocent presence of a sleeping child
The heart-warming smile of a little puppy
The calming waves of the ocean
The steady sway of the trees
The inspiring shapes of the clouds
Or the uncontrollable beat of my heart
And if you smile at me now
I think it will collapse




4

I need your love, I can?t explain,
Your touch eases my every pain.
It seems you?re always on my mind,
Without your sweet love, my heart is blind.
I just can?t get enough of how you make me feel,
The sound of your voice is what lets me heal.
I know you have the nicest moves,
The throbbing in my chest, your kiss soothes.
I can count on you to always be there,
My every sickness you can repair.
The day that you?re my wife
Will remove that stabbing knife.
Do you see? You?re my cure.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

POETRY: YOUR KISS

1

Twinkle, twinkle little star
Tell me where's my love tonight.
Tell me who, tell me where.
Twinkle, twinkle little star,

How come you look so sad
On this bright, shiny night?
What will happen tommorow night?
The world is resting while you are watching
Keep me safe and keep me warm.
Give me dreams and make them true.




2

Love saves in turbulent times
   of life's unpredictable moments
   And rescues from dangers
   of life's undetectable changes
Love reveals lost identity
   in figment of imaginations
   And traces elapsed memories
   in lonely pools of sadness
Love delivers from insidious enemies
   in perfidious paths of life
   And fills the souls with
   endless possibilities beyond mind's eye
Love fills the heart with
   indestructible pride and boldness
   And revives the forgotten
   hopes and dreams before its dawn
Love is all we ever live
   to desire and aspire
   To transform our hearts in life's
   diverse streams of pain and pleasure



3

if you were a teardrop in my eye
for fear of losing you i would never cry
and if the golden sun should cease to shine its light
just one smile from you would make my whole world bright
when leaves have fallen from the trees
and the sky has filled up with storm
just the thought of your gentle touch
is enough to keep me warm
when the moon up in the sky
shines a faint blue light
memories of times we shared
will keep me from sleep at night
if i only had the courage to speak these words to you
every one is from the heart and couldn't be more true!

     



4

With one soft touch,
You had me wrapped around your little finger.
My devotion...
You had it from the start.
A companionship of pure illusion.
An experience like no other in the past.
Your subtle, charming ways leave me breathless.
All at once I find myself pushing you away,
But deep inside hoping, praying that maybe this time it will last.
Never can I find the words to express what I feel.
You've brought happiness into my life by showing me where to find it.
As expected there is pain,
But joy is never far behind.
Emotion once restrained no longer stays in hiding.
Indecision screams at me saying this couldn't be real.
Somehow my heart knows it is not true.
I often ask God why I deserve a friend like you.
Someone who makes me feel so whole,
Makes everything that once caused me so much pain feel clean, new.
The answer to this question I may never know.
They say nothing lasts forever,
But friend, my heart could never let you go.



5

Here we are, you and me,
                  For you and I were meant to be.
                      Here we are, all alone
               In this place I like to call my home.

                      Here we are, sitting down,
                 Both with smiles, none with frowns.
                  Here we are thinking of what to do,
                    Then you say, "Come here,."

                    Here we are, kissing each other
                   All alone with no one to bother.
                        Here we are, on my bed
                And I am thinking, "What's in my head?"

                      Here we are, making love,
              Knowing that we were both sent from above.

                      Here We are, Kissing Again
                All alone and not surrounded by friends
                       Here we are, you and me
                 Loving each other for all ETERNITY.


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When you press your lips to mine
With a love so pure, so genuine
The feelings you arouse I can't resist
Sensual emotions, the power of just one kiss

The way you look into my eyes
The way our bodies harmonize
The caressing motion of an endless ocean
Sailing us away into infinity
I become you, you become me

As I lie in your embrace
The look of beauty upon your face
The yearning of my heart, the burning desire
The longing to be a part of you forever
The feelings you arouse I can't resist
Sensual emotions, the power of just one kiss

     

LOVE LETTER FOR YOU: MY BELOVED, WHEN I MET YOU....

My beloved, when I met you, I knew you  though not your face, not your body, not your laugh, not your smile.not the you that is standing before me. My beloved, when I met you, I knew you the true and quiet you, the one whose face touches dear to me, a feeling that is much like a delicate caress.My beloved, when I met you, I knew you the essence of you that was emitted somehow through the sparkle in the deep warm melting of your eyes. My beloved, when I met you, I knew you  by the way your soul reached through all the barriers life caused me to erect calming me, loving me, comforting me. My beloved, when I met you, I knew you because I finally found the one food that could sustain me, love me, keep me and make me weep in brilliant joy.My beloved, when I met you, I knew you  because my soul and your soul finally found each other. I've been waiting for what seems like forever...I glance in your direction, you're such a precious treasure.Longing to hold you... to feel your warm embrace...and to be the cause of the smile upon your face.I want to share a lifetime with another, and the other, that I want to spend forever with, is you...I just want to be happy... and content with everything, and only you can cause that here... the happiness I need.


When I tell you that I love you, I hope you don't take these words for granted,For they come from the heart, my heart,A place where I hold you dearly.All my life I wondered if there would ever be a girl for me,Then you came into my life.From the first time I laid my eyes on you.I knew I was in love with you,I knew I had found the one and only girl for me. God has sent me an angel to love and care for me.You are my guardian angel.I never want to lose you.I don't know where I'd be without you.I think about you all the time.I think about all the things that I want to do with you.When I hold you close to me,I never want to let go, because if I did,I wouldn't know where I'd go when I can't see,For I am blind without you.With your beautiful  eyes You give me the sight to see the light.Your beauty, the courage you give me, and the reassurance of your love for me are what keep me going. If you were to cry a tear for me,Make sure it's a tear of happiness,For sadness in you brings sadness in me.We may disagree at times,But in the end it all turns out fine.So when I say these seven words,I will love you forever and always,It's because I love and care about you,Because I want to be with you for the rest of my life.There's no one who could ever change the way I feel about you.You are the only one for me, and I love you.

JOURNAL: THE ANNIVER. OF GHOSTBUSTER AND OJ RUNAWAY.

Where did all the time go? I remember exactly where I was at those two events. I can close my eyes and I am there again. I wish I did things differently....appreciate just everything about those moments.


ARTICLE: Study Asserts Startling Numbers of Insider Trading Rogues By ANDREW ROSS SORKIN



There is often a tip.

Before many big mergers and acquisitions, word leaks out to select investors who seek to covertly trade on the information. Stocks and options move in unusual ways that aren’t immediately clear. Then news of the deals crosses the ticker, surprising everyone except for those already in the know. Sometimes the investor is found out and is prosecuted, sometimes not.

That’s what everyone suspects, though until now the evidence has been largely anecdotal.

Now, a groundbreaking new study finally puts what we’ve instinctively thought into hard numbers — and the truth is worse than we imagined.

A quarter of all public company deals may involve some kind of insider trading, according to the study by two professors at the Stern School of Business at New York University and one professor from McGill University. The study, perhaps the most detailed and exhaustive of its kind, examined hundreds of transactions from 1996 through the end of 2012.

The professors examined stock option movements — when an investor buys an option to acquire a stock in the future at a set price — as a way of determining whether unusual activity took place in the 30 days before a deal’s announcement.

The results are persuasive and disturbing, suggesting that law enforcement is woefully behind — or perhaps is so overwhelmed that it simply looks for the most egregious examples of insider trading, or for prominent targets who can attract headlines.

The professors are so confident in their findings of pervasive insider trading that they determined statistically that the odds of the trading “arising out of chance” were “about three in a trillion.” (It’s easier, in other words, to hit the lottery.)

But, the professors conclude, the Securities and Exchange Commission litigated only “about 4.7 percent of the 1,859 M.&A. deals included in our sample.”

The S.E.C. and the Justice Department have publicly made prosecuting insider trading a priority. Judging from the headlines about traders at Steven A. Cohen’s hedge fund or the hedge fund manager Raj Rajaratnam or the investigation involving the activist investor Carl C. Icahn, they do appear to be focused on it. The S.E.C. recently hired Palantir Technologies, a firm that has helped the government analyze data to find terrorists, to help it uncover illegal trading activity. And with the mini-merger boom — the first quarter of merger activity this year was the most active since 2007, according to Mergermarket — there should be fresh evidence of more insider trading.

Yet if history is any guide, based on the results of the study over 16 years, the government has a lot of catching up to do.

The professors found that “it takes the S.E.C., on average, 756 days to publicly announce its first litigation action in a given case. Thus, assuming that the litigation releases coincide approximately with the actual initiations of investigations, it takes the S.E.C. a bit more than two years, on average, to prosecute a rogue trade.” The average “rogue trade” the professors found, was worth about $1.6 million.

A spokeswoman for the S.E.C. had no immediate comment.

The professors — Menachem Brenner and Marti G. Subrahmanyam at N.Y.U. and Patrick Augustin at McGill — began their study, which won the Investor Responsibility Research Center Institute’s annual investor research competition, two years ago.

“We became intrigued by reports of a number of illegal insider trading cases in options ahead of takeover announcements, in particular, the leveraged buyout of Heinz by Warren Buffett and 3G Capital,” Professor Augustin said in a statement. In that case, two Brazilian brothers were caught using inside information on that deal to trade options ahead of the announcement through a SwissGoldman Sachs brokerage account owned by an entity based in the Cayman Islands. The men were fined $5 million.

“The statistical evidence we present is consistent with informed trading strategies, and is too strong to be dismissed as just random speculation,” Professor Augustin said.

The study found that “informed trading is more pervasive in cases of target firms receiving cash offers.” The professors surmise that is because cash deals are more definitive and stock deals are harder to bet on.

The professors found that the bigger the deal and the more trading volume in the stock of the target company, the more likely there will be insider trading. “Over all, our interpretation of the evidence is that informed traders are more likely to trade on their private information when the anticipated abnormal stock price performance upon announcement is larger and when they have the opportunity to hide their trades due to greater liquidly of the target companies.”

The study also found, perhaps surprisingly, that there weren’t more leaks to investors based on the number of advisers — bankers and lawyers — involved in the deal. The professors had expected to find a correlation, and other studies have shown that there can be more leaks to the media when more advisers are involved. But the data, the professors said, was “not statistically significant.”

Of the deals the S.E.C. pursued, the professors found that the agency usually investigated cases of insider trading when deals had been completed and often missed those in transactions that later collapsed.

“Completed deals are strong predictors of options litigation, as a withdrawn or rumored deal is about 22 times less likely to be investigated,” the professors found.

“The S.E.C., being resource-constrained, pursues larger-sized cases that provide the biggest ‘bang for the buck’ from a regulatory perspective.”

Perhaps oddly, the professors say that the S.E.C. is more inclined to pursue cases involving a foreign buyer than a domestic one.

The professors also suggested that the S.E.C. may be looking in the wrong place when it comes to insider trading.

The S.E.C., according to the study’s findings, found “102 unique cases involving insider trading in options ahead of M.&A.’s from January 1990 to December 2013, with an average of about four cases per year.” The study found that the S.E.C., though, is more focused strictly on stock trading, not options: “We find 207 M.&A. transactions investigated in civil litigations because of insider trading in stock only.”

The professors concluded, “The large number of investigations for stock trades relative to option trades stands in contrast to our finding of pervasive abnormal call option trading volumes that are relatively greater than the abnormal stock volumes.”

While we all may have suspected that insider trading was going on, who knew it was this pervasive?

Monday, June 16, 2014

PERSONAL: I AM NOT LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE

I've always had this deep-down conviction that I'm not like everybody else, and there's an amazingly exciting new life waiting for me just around the corner Things end. People leave. And you know what? Life goes on. Besides, if bad things didn't happen, how would you be able to feel the good ones?.Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me. Perhaps I've spent too long in the company of watching romantic movies and consequently my ideals and expectations are far too high. I know the person that I will end up with won't be perfect, she might hate movies, she might not have blond hair, she might too strong, but when I put those things together with the rest of her, it makes her into the most perfectly imperfect woman I’ve ever known.

To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give, we seek romantic relationships. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. True love does have the power to redeem but only if we are ready for redemption. Love saves us only if we want to be saved. .Only love of a good woman will make a man question every choice, every action. Only love makes a warrior hesitate for fear that his lady will find him cruel. Only love makes a man both the best he will ever be, and the weakest. Sometimes all in the same moment. And then there are the rare ones who know love, who understand it. Who freely give of themselves, demanding only a return of that love,that trust.When I am an old man and I can remember nothing else, I will remember that moment. The first time my eyes beheld an angel in the flesh...which was you..I will remember your body and your eyes, your beautiful face and breasts, I will remember your scent and your touch and how it felt to love you. But most of all, I will remember how it felt to gaze at true beauty, both inside and out. For you are fair, my beloved, in soul and in body, generous of spirit and generous of heart. And I will never see anything this side of heaven more beautiful than you. I want to find a goddess that I can be with and you might think you are not one, but you are. A goddess, a princess, a queen. As a soldier, I pledge myself to your service. As a prince, I grant you any boon within my power. As a man, I ask to sit at your feet and worship you. Ask me to do anything for you and I will do it.I have so much love for you, I could fill rooms with it. Buildings. You’re surrounded by it wherever you go, you walk through it, breathe it...it’s in your lungs, and under your tongue, and between your fingers and toes..When you decide you want to be with someone forever, you want forever to start right now.There are some experiences in life they haven't invented the right words for. Love is not a choice. Love is a thirst. A need as vital to the soul as water is to the body. Love is a precious draught that not only soothes a parched throat, but it vitalizes a man. It fortifies him enough that he is willing to slay dragons for the woman who offers it

THOUGHTS: THE TRUTH ABOUT ROMEO AND JULIET.

I used to think Romeo and Juliet was the greatest love story ever written. But now that I’m middle-aged, I know better. Oh, Romeo certainly thinks he loves his Juliet. Driven by hormones, he unquestionably lusts for her. But if he loves her, it’s a shallow love. You want proof? Soon after meeting her for the first time, he realizes he forgot to ask her for her name. Can true love be founded upon such shallow acquaintance? I don’t think so. And at the end, when he thinks she’s dead, he finds no comfort in living out the remainder of his life within the paradigm of his love, at least keeping alive the memory of what they had briefly shared, even if it was no more than illusion, or more accurately, hormonal. Yes, those of us watching events unfold from the darkness know she merely lies in slumber. But does he seek the reason for her life-like appearance? No. Instead he accuses Death of amorousness, convinced that the ‘lean abhorred monster’ endeavors to keep Juliet in her present state, cheeks flushed, so that she might cater to his own dissolute desires. But does Romeo hold her in his arms one last time and feel the warmth of her blood still coursing through her veins? Does he pinch her to see if she might awaken? Does he hold a mirror to her nose to see if her breath fogs it? Once, twice, three times a ‘no.’ His alleged love is so superficial and so selfish that he seeks to escape the pain of loss by taking his own life. That’s not love, but infatuation. Had they wed―Juliet bearing many children, bonding, growing together, the masks of the star-struck teens they once were long ago cast away, basking in the love born of a lifetime together―and she died of natural causes, would Romeo have been so moved to take his own life, or would he have grieved properly for her loss and not just his own.

LOVE: COME AWAY WITH ME

It slowly began to dawn on me that I had been staring at her for an impossible amount of time. Lost in my thoughts, lost in the sight of her. But her face didn't look offended or amused. It almost looked as if she were studying the lines of my face, almost as if she were waiting. I wanted to take her hand. I wanted to brush her cheek with my fingertips. I wanted to tell her that she was the first beautiful thing that I had seen in three years. The sight of her yawning to the back of her hand was enough to drive the breath from me. How I sometimes lost the sense of her words in the sweet fluting of her voice. I wanted to say that if she were with me then somehow nothing could ever be wrong for me again. In that breathless second I almost asked her. I felt the question boiling up from my chest. I remember drawing a breath then hesitating--what could I say? Come away with me? Stay with me?

LOVE LETTER FOR YOU: LET ME BE THE ONE

Let me be the one...That wakes up next to you each morning as the sun rises,Fills your life with wonderful surprises,Holds your hand when you're walking in the park,on the street, at work,or when we do what lovers do in the dark.Let me be the one...That holds you when you're feeling low and takes you to those places you always wanted to go. Let me be the one...that runs you a bath when you get home,and will just be there if you're feeling all alone,that massages your body whenever you're feeling tense, and listens to your woes, even if they don't make sense. I'll be your partner on the dance floor, and rub your feet whenever they feel sore. Let me be the one...that touches your body, so softly and intimately,and tells you now and then, just how much you mean to me,that loves you all so passionately,and will be yours, forever and eternally.Let me be the one...that goes to bed with you at night, I'd hold you real close... but not too tight.These are just a few things we could do,If you would, Let me be the one... for you!

If i have a dream or two, i want them all to be of you. Let fill my night with you in sight. I never want to leave your arms,...in my dreams i reminisce those words of love and your kiss. The days i know must have an end, but in a dream i depend they will be of you. When you leave and i will sleep in my dreams our love i'll keep. When i awake, the whole day through  I think about those dreams of you. Until i hold you in my arms again your lips so close to mine, those dreams will have to do, those dreams are all of you.Let me fill the night with you in sight. Let me have my dreams of you.Let me reminisce the closeness of your lips, the thoughts of your kiss. I always have a dream or two, my dreams are all of you.In my tiny corner of the world. Where only you and I exist. Where my garden blooms just for you. There the orchards resemble our trust. The roses our contradicting love. I tender it just for you. I watch it bloom through you. Watch it blossom as our affections grow and await the day when we will be one. When we can sit under a flowery shade enjoying a sweet embrace and sharing a kiss in bliss..

I asked 12 men over 60 what they miss most about their 40s and not one of them said their career, their body, or their social life — every single one described a moment so specific and so small that I had to pull over to write them down by Tommy Baker

You know what I miss? The sound of the garage door when she’d get home from her pottery class on Thursday nights.” That’s what Frank told m...

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