PERSONAL

No Ordinary Guy

Somewhere out there is my perfect match ... and when I find her she will be cherished.I believe any relationship should be built on honesty and respect, with a whole heap of love, understanding and tenderness as well. We all have our own dreams and goals, and being in a relationship that nurtures both of us is really important to me. I guess I'm a bit of a romantic really! Closeness is very important, and I'm very caring and affectionate. I like to walk down the street holding my girl's hand. It's just a nice way of saying "you're special to me and I care".But mixed with that gentleness is a determination to do the very best I can in everything I do, and every goal I've set. That's given me the chance to have many different experiences in my life.  What I'm really missing is someone to share the journey with. Someone to care for ... someone to be a best friend, to share the joys of life with.I do like to take care of myself as well, present myself nicely and keep as fit and healthy as I can. I'm drawn to a woman who does the same and knows what she wants in her life. And although I'm not fanatical, I like to keep things neat and tidy around the home. Yep, I'm even house trained! :) Of course I love a good laugh and catch up with friends, but I'm just as happy to stay home with someone special.

What you see, is what you get with me. But I am much more than the words you will find on this page. At the risk of sounding cliche, the truth is, I love to laugh just as much as I am stimulated by intellectual conversations. And, as a true intellectual... I base all my decisions on my Magic 8 ball. I can't emphasize enough how important having a sense of humor is! I like to be goofy and sarcastic at times, but it's all in good fun. I’m looking for someone with whom I can continue my traveling adventures and get lost on unbeaten paths. I also enjoy the simple things in life. In all reality, I flow across the spectrum and can be found  watching a good movie. I am compassionate, loyal, and have a huge heart. My family and friends are very important to me and they know when I commit to something, I follow through and they can count on me. I am a pretty easy going kind of guy and not too hard to please. I'm currently striving to strike a balance between working hard and enjoying life because there is definitely a silly, carefree, "live in the moment" side of me. I'm fascinated by human behavior. The more deviant the behavior the more I want to learn about it. It is difficult to describe what I am looking for...but someone who breaks free from the mundane lifestyle. Someone who is intelligent, physically fit, genuine, passionate (about something), driven, and has a great sense of humor. The most important component of a relationship is a genuine connection. So that’s it for now. Why lay everything on the table? That takes the fun away. Like I said in my profile, what you see is what you get and as of now, my profile is all you see so message me if you want to know more.

DATING/LOVE: IT SEEM TO ME THAT SOME WOMAN

It seems to me that some women, truly believe that they are open, seeking, and attempting to find a committed relationship, though really they aren’t. These women want to believe this of themselves, maybe, because it is easier to make ill-fated attempts to find a relationship than to actually be in a relationship. It’s easier to hang out online, than to tackle whatever issues that may be keeping them from participating in a committed relationship. In my mind the women I am meeting are either ready, willing, and able to love, or they’re not. Despite what I’m realizing about the women on this site, I am encouraged by my own responses and reactions, which are different from what they were when I first tried online dating before I got married and now divorced. This time around I do not feel so emotionally vulnerable to the process. I find that I am getting much less invested in the 100-word-profiles that I like. I feel much less troubled by acknowledged incompatibility between a match and me. Most importantly, though, I have noticed that this time around, I have shifted my focus with respect to women I want to date. Before, I was open to and willing to “work with” a woman as long as she was a  attractive. Happily, this time around my heart genuinely desires a woman who is kind and who shows this love by how she lives. This new confidence to be myself,  means I’m growing, right? And if I am becoming healthier and more real, and if I am less willing to get stuck pursuing less healthy or compatible men, then, maybe, hopefully, God-willing, I’m on my way!

PERSONAL

Have you ever wandered into a supermarket looking for a few things and then realized you’ve left with a bag full of items you didn’t even know you were looking for? That’s sort of how I believe the best relationships work out. You walk in thinking you know what you want and then realize all the things you got that weren’t even on your list. For me, it’s that discovery that really hits the sweet spot of fun, playfulness and gratitude in a relationship. Although I couldn’t begin to summarize myself into an essay, I’ll give it a go since I love trying anything new, once in a while. I have spent a lot of time traveling the world and always come back with an appreciation for the best in others and for all we have access to here in NY. I'm glad to say I haven't lost that sense of wonder about the world and can handle a rainy day.  I spend a little too much time searching for the best cup of coffee in NY When life is stressful, I do the little things to make life easier – cook your favorite meal, pick up the dry-cleaning and bring a smile to your face. We really are that fun, easygoing couple because we are totally able to be ourselves and have each others’ backs. I have a particular fondness for picnics and look forward to doing more of that in the coming year as part of my New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you can join me...

PERSONAL

We go through life searching for that one person who is right for us. But once you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect that maybe there is no right person…just varying degrees of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself aren’t the right person, so you seek out partners who compliment your wrongness. It takes a lot of living to grow fully and finally into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you are forced to meet your darkest demons, your deepest pain—the characteristics that make you truly who you are—then, and only then, do you finally understand what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person…someone you lay your forehead upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.” I want someone who is as real and honest as I am. I'm looking for my right wrong. Want to know me? Here's a start... I'm an extremely independent, self-sufficient guy... that being said... Mix tapes never go out of style. To me, they will always be a way to show you care. Obviously, I'm a child of the 80's. Also, a nerd of the 80's (and 90's plus...)

PERSONAL

Let's put aside all the bs and make this happen!

I think everyone is destined to be with someone who is their perfect match. Unfortunately, for some of us, we haven't found that one person or else we wouldn't be here. All want is to someone to love and be kind to me. Seems that's a little difficult nowadays, but i know there's a nice woman out there for me. Where are you?? Come find me! Lol ME: I don't date much. In fact, I hate dating, but I have to get myself out there so I don't end up alone forever. I am a happy man and comfortable with who I am. The older I get, the more beautiful and sexier I feel! I like to look nice; however, I am not superficial. I am far from it. It isn't all about looks.Trust me. Don't let the good looks fool you. I'm not perfect. I make mistakes like we all do. I'm family-oriented so friends and family are very important to me. I hang out with them more than I go on dates. It's kinda sad really! LOL! I don't play games. I'm way too old for all of that. I definitely do not follow what's on the PAU sites. It's all a bunch of crap. Who wrote it anyway?! When I'm free, I hang out with my friends or catch up on some alone time. YOU: Be funny! Make me laugh and I'm all yours! There's nothing more attractive to me than a woman who can make me laugh. I need to be physically attracted to who I'm dating . It's that connection you have with someone. You know what I mean, right? My time is very precious and I'm not on here to waste anyone's time or mine. So, if my profile sounds interesting to you, send me a message and lets get to know each other :) Have fun on your search and good luck!!

ARTICLE: Report Finds More Flaws in Digitizing Patient Files By REED ABELSON and JULIE CRESWELL

Report Finds More Flaws in Digitizing Patient Files
By REED ABELSON and JULIE CRESWELL

Although the federal government is spending more than $22 billion to encourage hospitals and doctors to adopt electronic health records, it has failed to put safeguards in place to prevent the technology from being used for inflating costs and overbilling, according to a new report by a federal oversight agency.

The report, released on Wednesday by the Office of the Inspector General for the Health and Human Services Department, is the second in two months to warn about flaws in the oversight of the ambitious federal program aimed at converting patient records from paper to electronic. It comes as the Obama administration continues to face broad criticism over the troubled rollout of its health care law — especially the HealthCare.gov site.

Despite spending “considerable resources to promote widespread adoption of E.H.R.’s,” or electronic health records, the government has “directed less attention to addressing potential fraud and abuse,” according to the report. Medicare has not changed the way it tries to detect fraud and has provided its contractors “with limited guidance,” the report said.

The report was especially critical of the lack of guidelines around the widely used copy-and-paste function, also known as cloning, available in many of the largest electronic health record systems. The technique, which allows information to be quickly copied from one document to another, can reduce the time a doctor spends inputting patient data. But it can also be used to indicate more extensive — and expensive — patient exams or treatment than actually occurred. The result, some critics say, is that hospitals and doctors are overcharging Medicare for the care they are providing. While the report did not estimate the amount of fraud that may be occurring, earlier government estimates have said it could run in the hundreds of millions of dollars. Although the amount is a fraction of the trillions of dollars spent annually on health care, the lack of safeguards at a time when the new technology is becoming pervasive could allow the fraud to balloon.

“As E.H.R. adoption has increased, so has its involvement in our cases,” said Michael Cohen, an inspector at the oversight agency’s investigations office, which is charged with investigating health care fraud in government programs.

In a separate analysis released last month, the inspector general’s office found that three-quarters of the hospitals it surveyed had no formal policy surrounding the use of copy-and-paste for electronic health records. Its latest report faults Medicare for failing to provide guidance to the contractors who actually handle the payments on how to ferret out fraud stemming from the digital transformation. The office plans to make the scrutiny of cloning a priority for the coming year.

In a statement, Medicare officials called preventing fraud “a top priority” and said, “We are working to create strong standards for validating electronic health records to ensure that we allow beneficiaries to receive the care they need and at the same time protect taxpayers from fraud waste and abuse.”

They also said they were developing better instructions for their contractors, but argued that the agency’s specific recommendation about how contractors should detect fraud — by closely reviewing changes to specific patient documents — would not be appropriate for every situation. Hospitals say they are already carefully monitoring the use of electronic records.

“Hospitals already have strong safeguards,” said Linda E. Fishman, a senior executive for public policy at the American Hospital Association. But, she said, they are also being pushed to adopt the new systems as quickly as possible. Federal officials “don’t want providers to take their foot off their gas pedal,” she said.

In addition, some experts say, doctors and hospitals are overloaded with demands to input electronic data and are copying some routine information from one file to another to save precious time.

“We’re continuing to see the use of cut-and-paste in health care organizations because clinicians find it is one of the only ways they can manage the documentation process,” said Michelle Dougherty, the senior director of research and development at the American Health Information Management Association, a group that focuses on improving the quality of health information. “But there is the potential that there is information being copied that is not relevant or even erroneous,” she added.

Proponents of electronic records say the administration’s goal of propelling more hospitals and doctors into the digital age has been successful and is critical to providing better, more coordinated patient care. The percentage of hospitals adopting a basic electronic system has nearly tripled since 2009 to 44 percent of all institutions.

Under a 2009 law, Congress enacted a program to provide billions of dollars in incentive payments for physicians and hospitals to install electronic health records. If they fail to meet the deadline, they will start to see reductions in their Medicare reimbursements by 2015.

But the rapid, vast metamorphosis in health care — like transformations of industries before — has been difficult, expensive and controversial. Hospitals have spent tens of billions of dollars buying systems that many have discovered are complicated to use, and critics have raised serious concerns about both patient privacy and safety. A study released last fall found that emergency-room physicians in a community hospital spent 43 percent of their time entering data, clicking up to 4,000 times during a 10-hour shift, compared with only 28 percent directly caring for patients.

As much as electronic records have the potential to provide better care, many are disappointed in the current technology. The boosters of electronic health records “spent a lot of years overhyping and overselling it,” said Dr. Ashish K. Jha, professor of health policy at the Harvard School of Public Health.

One of the biggest questions around electronic health records is whether doctors and hospitals are using the technology to “upcode,” or charge for services that were not provided. An analysis in September 2012 by The New York Times found a surge in Medicare spending on the most costly services at hospitals that had received money to put into place the new record systems. Hospitals said the increase reflected more accurate documentation of visits.

Administration officials and others then issued stern warnings against doctors and hospitals using digital records to overbill.

ARTICLE: NY TIMES: Why Bankers Have Gotten a Pass BY Teresa Tritch

Why Bankers Have Gotten a Pass

In recent years, it has become increasingly clear that no prominent banker would be prosecuted for fraud in the run-up to the financial crisis. In the current issue of The New York Review of Books, Judge Jed Rakoff of the Federal District Court in Manhattan asks why.

The comforting answer — that no fraud was committed — is possible, but implausible. “While officials of the Department of Justice have been more circumspect in describing the roots of the financial crisis than have the various commissions of inquiry and other government agencies,” he wrote, “I have seen nothing to indicate their disagreement with the widespread conclusion that fraud at every level permeated the bubble in mortgage-backed securities.”

So why no high-level prosecutions? According to Judge Rakoff, evidence of fraud without prosecution of fraud indicates prosecutorial weaknesses.

This is not the first time Judge Rakoff has weighed in on the prosecutorial response to the financial crisis. In 2011, he rejected a settlement between Citigroup and the Securities and Exchange Commission because it did not require the bank to admit wrongdoing.

His insights on financial-crisis cases also apply to cases that have emerged since then, like JPMorgan Chase’s settlement with the government this week over the bank’s role in Bernard Madoff’s Ponzi scheme.

Under the deal, JPMorgan Chase, which served as Mr. Madoff’s primary bank for more than two decades, must pay a $1.7 billion penalty, essentially for turning a blind eye to Mr. Madoff’s fraud. It must also take steps to improve its anti-money-laundering controls. And it had to acknowledge, among other facts, that shortly before the fraud was revealed, the bank withdrew nearly $300 million of its money from Madoff-related funds.

By adhering to the settlement terms, the bank will avoid criminal indictment on two felony violations of the Bank Secrecy Act. No individuals were named or charged.

And that is the problem. Until relatively recently, it was rare for corporations to face criminal charges without the simultaneous prosecution of managers or executives. That changed over the past three decades, as prosecutors shifted their focus away from individuals and toward corporations, as if fault resides not in executives, but in corporate culture.

That shift, in Judge Rakoff’s view, largely explains the lack of banker prosecutions from the financial crisis. It also explains the JPMorgan Chase settlement in the Madoff case. A likely consequence of this approach is more wrongdoing, since, as Judge Rakoff argues, imposing compliance measures that are often just window-dressing is far less potent than “the future deterrent value of successfully prosecuting individuals.”

Even worse is the distortion of justice. In the financial crisis, prosecutors not only took a hands-off approach to bankers, but to banks as well for fear that indicting a big bank could harm the economy.

The JPMorgan Chase settlement in the Madoff case also sidesteps justice by relying on “deferred prosecution.” That tactic, wrote Judge Rakoff, makes prosecutors happy because they tell themselves that the threat of prosecution will deter future crime; it makes corporations happy because they avoid indictment; and happiest of all are the executives or former executives responsible for the misconduct who are left untouched.

In addition, he explains, deferred prosecution is “technically suspect” because, under the law, prosecutors should not threaten to indict a company unless they can prove that some company manager committed the alleged crime, and if that can be proved, why not indict the manager? He also finds it “morally suspect” because it punishes innocent shareholders and employees for wrongdoing committed by unprosecuted individuals.

As the myriad cases against JPMorgan Chase and other banks demonstrate, misconduct was not limited to the mortgage bubble. But unless prosecutorial weaknesses are remedied, justice will continue to prove elusive.

LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE

Dear Soulmate

The beauty within her radiates through me feeling the warmth of her love within I long for the chance to take her beautiful hand in mine and kiss her soft lips, and caress her smooth skin.As we sit on the beach holding each other I look up and pray that this love will last forever. We watch together as the sun sets across the ocean. The pleasureableness is no competition for the beauty beside me. As the last glimpse of sunlight disappears over the horizon we move in closer to each other, our lips touch. Finally, the moment I've waited for has arrived. It was in slow motion, I did not want it to end. We part and interlocking hands we stand walking off the beach, never to forget those 2 beautiful seconds.Your face is simply beautiful.My eyes are in such awe...The way your mouth shapes into a smile. That easily comforts me like no other. For some time, I've been alone.My heart has dealt with incomparable pain. I was left with the feeling of regret...  For giving too much of myself to someone who could have cared less, For dwelling in what took place in the past, For allowing my pride to deny myself real happiness. But when you became a part of my life everything completely changed.You have been there for me when I needed you most.You restored my loss of faith in love.You spent time with me when I needed someone to talk to,Your thoughtfulness makes me feel special. I admire you for just being yourself. You possess the qualities that I felt were missing,Qualities other woman I've known have lacked. Even the little things let me know how much you care about me... A touch of your hand always brightens up the day. I just can't get enough of how perfect you are.

When I wake up in the morning with you lying beside me,Sometimes you smile when you feel me kiss your shoulder softly. Then as I kiss your neck, the smile begins to grow, Makes me happy that you enjoy my touch, and you always let me know. As each dawn shines through the pane, and each day begins anew, I see God's blessings within your face, my one and only you. Slowly your eyes open... a beam lights your face, as you awaken and realize, The love you sensed was not a dream as you gaze into my eyes. A gentle touch upon your cheek, a kiss that's soft and warm. Within my arms you're safe and sound and will never again know harm. For, my love, I dedicate my life to you. With every breath I inhale, The love we share is so much more, than words could ever tell. Glad I can live this life with you, nevermore to ever part. For life with you is more than a dream come true, 
it's ecstasy of the heart.

LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE

Dear Soulmate

Today someone asked me if I would like to be able to go back and change all the things that had gone wrong in my life? I thought at first the idea seemed appealing. I'm comfortable in the knowledge, that since you arrived in my life you have brought perfection.You have given me something that no one else can.You have this incredible soul with the gift of laughter, the miracle of honesty, friendship, and the blessing of a caring soul.That made me think that there is no point of going back.In this world, nothing compares to you, not even the sun, moon and stars that shine through and through. Everything about you is beautiful,which makes me wonder. How can a person be so perfect,yet love someone that's such a blunder? My heart stops when you are near, just knowing you are roaming this earth, makes me wish you were here. You are breathtaking beyond all recognition,no matter how hard life becomes, you're still my ambition. There are many creations, but none as precious as you, it's a blessing  there's someone out there so perfect and true. I sat down with the thoughts of you. Ready to write you a poem brand new, but I couldn't describe you with the right words.There are many thoughts going through my head, but there's one I missed that I just heard. I picked up a poem that I just wrote and it read,

"I THOUGHT ABOUT BEAUTIFUL, WHICH IS WHAT YOU ARE.
I THOUGHT ABOUT LOVE, WHICH STANDS AWAY SO FAR.
THOUGHTS OF YOU MADE MY HEART BEAT.
ALL THROUGH MY BODY, THERE WAS SO MUCH HEAT.
YOU ARE MY HEART'S DESIRE.
YOU HAVE JUST SET MY HEART ON FIRE."

With words like that, where's the meaning of love? I've searched through the words, which are only a few. Time has passed and after reading and searching I've found that the meaning of love... is you.

PERSONAL: DATING

I never thought I would go the route of online dating but am not getting any where with trying to meet quality women in bars. I'm looking for someone who is my best friend - someone who is truly accepting of who I am. If you are in a place in your life where you don't think you are ready to seriously commit to someone, I understand, but please do not contact me.I think this site has the potential to connect people who wouldn't have otherwise met. I'm sure there are many interesting people out there who I wouldn't normally cross paths with due to the routine of our every day lives. I'm not looking for someone who agrees with everything I say or likes everything I like – how boring! :) But, I do think that having basic core values align makes it much easier in the long run to weather the ups and downs of life….. What I look for in a person– integrity, honesty, loyalty, maturity, sense of humor, all of the typical things that every man is looking for. I am drawn to self confidence and intelligence but not arrogance. I can adapt to most situations easily and have a good perspective on life. I don't want to make a running list of what I want because sometimes what we are looking for comes to us in an unexpected way. I try to live every single day to its fullest and to always remember to be grateful along the way. The most valuable thing you can give to someone is your time. I'm ready to share it with that special person, who i'm hoping to meet soon. I'm ready to share my precious time with someone positive and fun, who can put a smile on my face.Ready for an adventure  Excited to meet someone who wants to take on the world - from day trips up the coast, a last minute getaway to watching a great movie for the 88th time. Loves : sushi, wine, my dogs, family and being pleasantly surprised. Looking for someone smart with a great sense of humor who is passionate about love and life. Being silly but goal oriented is required. I have a great life, very lucky. Looking for someone fantastic to share it with... No drama please

DATING/ LOVE/PERSONAL/JOURNAL: MY MOM LIED TO ME...WHEN I WAS A KID...

When I was a little boy, my family members, especially mom, grandmas, and other female members, got in the habit of telling anyone who would listen (and those who wouldn’t) that I would one day become a ladykiller. “Look at those eyes,” they would say. “any woman would die to have him" . And silly though their exuberant encomiums were to my precocious ears, they somehow persisted, even into the troubled teen years when the wheat is separated from the chaff with the jagged thresher of social order and reality slaps you around for fun.

Fast forward their compliments now sound like feeble charity, if not downright fraudulent. You lied to me, Mom, you lied!  I cannot but look back on their pollyannish prophecies and shake my head. What the FUCK? Where are all those conquered hearts?

Here I am,  somehow miraculously  divorce and now single,yanting about he short victories and crushing defeats. Small bubbles of evanescent joy popping at the surface of a cauldron boiling up with disappointment. Has Cupid’s arrow missed so many times, piercing friends and foes alike in his eternal crossfire with fate? Where is that lothario spirit the parents had been hinting at for so many years? Am I to join the Hall of Shame along with the other legendary busts of my time—  What empty curse is this? What unfulfilled promise?

No one has a way of accounting for the future. The child who hears his parents boast of wildly unrealistic feats must one day take responsibility for his own life and his own identity—warts and all—and accept what he is and what he is not. He must navigate the inimical terrain of dating and relationships and all the bullshit they introduce—personalities, awkwardness, infatuations, attraction, availability, rejection, chemistry, and not least of all, timing—without learning to hate everyone who doesn’t give him his way while gaining the confidence to push aside anything that gets into it. He must never forget how good it felt when it was really good and embrace it when it comes again. And he must keep going, because life does not stop for whiners.

Whatareyagonnado? I look back on past, most of which were spent fretting about what was to come. And, you know what? Things aren’t too bad. I became a doctor, got a house of my own, a great car, saving..great family, and my health. ...but sometimes that seems hard to believe, but then I’ll wake up, find no one is laying next to me.. I keep hoping my scot-free days of singledom will one day soon be behind me, and I’ll suck up the last incriminating shreds of bacheloresque indiscretions with my cordless hand vac, but that won’t stop me from enjoying my freedom while I have it. One day soon I’ll happily hang the chains of coupledom on their familiar grooves and swing them as I whistle down the street. And then, suddenly, my parents won’t be liars anymore. After all, one mom’s ladykiller is another woman’s lovable dork.

LOVE LETTER, LOVE, SOULMATE: MY SWEETNESS

My sweetness who I care for so dear. Who is the the only woman i wanna pull near...so I hold you ever so close and hear you breathe knowing that you're the only woman that I will need. So i cry in uttermost happiness because you're with me...only if you think you love me then you will see that i have loved you ever since we met and from that moment my heart has been set. When I was blind you gave me sight. Disoriented from life, you gave me direction.Lost and lonely, you're my only companion In the comfort of your arms you attend to me.Forever grateful for all you've done for me. In appreciation... I'm pouring my heart to you. Lean on me, I'll never love another nor will I ever lead you astray Forever in my heart you've come to stay..only you I give this precious key to my heart. I can never write a poem as beautiful as you.I can never see in a woman as much as I see in you.Gentle hands,loving touch, mesmorizing eyes, facinating body, beautiful lips.Every part of you...so perfect,...so real.And When you are old and grey,you will still be perfect in my eyes.For my love for you is timeless.

Who needs pictures, when you have the lantern of soul music
You're wearing high heels
But you didn't need them to make yourself seen
You're clearly the center of attention in the ballroom

Flawless, exquisite skin
Shining with such radiance that people have to get closer
Within a foot of you to see the diamonds you are wearing
Throwing your head back, your hair slowly cascades down
Everyone in the room collectively holds their breath
The hair seems to be moving in time-lapse photography
Every one catches their breath again through an act of sheer will power
But they are helplessly unprepared for what is next

You had your eyes wide shut, but as they are slowly opened
Every one's lives flash before their eyes
Minds tricked into believing they are on their way to heaven
Eyes are the window to the soul
And the soul emanating from your pools
Your sacred brown pools must be an imperfect diamond
Flawed only by the effects of living in a world of utter darkness
Devoid of anything resembling your kind

Yet, the flaws astonishingly make the diamond that much more enchanting
For despite the darkness, it still shines like a lighthouse
A beacon for lost and weary hearts
No one in the room can conceive of how a thing of such beauty

Looking in your eyes, they see their own imperfections
Magnified and held up to their windows
But they smile, because if you can somehow exist
There must be a God
A God that wanted His people to be so joyous that He created You
Created You for them to behold

And then you smile, pearly white teeth emerging from their slumber
Emerging behind full, rosy lips
If the sound of a heart breaking could be heard, how might it sound?
I'd tell you, because I just heard it happen to every one in the room
But putting it into words would desecrate it
Robbing it of its timeless essence

Wondering how I could be with you
I am still able to summon the courage to take your silken hand
Your fingers close around mine
We both tremble in ecstasy from the sparks generated
I am sure I will be consumed in your fire
Like a moth to a flame
Yet, for the moment I am spared
Then we...

PERSONAL: WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU?

I’m a tender and charming man. The main my quality is kindness. I have no bad habits and consider health the main thing we should value and take care of. My main goal is to make people that are around me happier and believe one should make only good to people as only good and kind smile can pave the way to people’s hearts.

What's important to you ? Warmth? Beauty... Sure. Intelligence? Wit, Heart... Definitely. How about: Awareness ? Someone who tries to be aware of opportunities to learn, give, share? Warm, Bright, Real man - here. Best line ever: Susan Sarandon answers 'Why commit to Someone...?' : "Because they give a reason for the little things no one else notices ... appreciates. A reason to keep going when otherwise - you'd just give up. Because that Someone becomes witness to your Life - gives it meaning ... Let's face it: if you're not lovin Somebody, honey - you're not LIVING, let alone existing. Immediate gratification? - that's livin on Empty. I want Someone at the end to say, "This person gave my life Meaning." So what can I write - to reach you? You work hard. Me, too. Had relationships - some great - now have stronger idea of Who it is we want to let in to our world. Success doesn't mean much without that Other Half, to share hard-won victories.  If you're thinking of trying something, even if it seems risky - TRY it. Like - for example ... this. It sure as hell is not convenient - nothing about a Search is. :) Most of us have been conditioned thru media (or our families) to believe Love will just 'feel right' - happens 'when it's meant to be'... yet here we are - knowing that in NY - where careers/ materialistic success are THE priority ...obviously we need to put in effort / elbow grease,  to meet someone special and make it stick. Luck is awesome - anything worth keepin takes input & care. So please : reach out. So much to gain... Be the woman not window-shopping. READY to give my all to a real, savvy, caring woman. YOU Want: Attractive, Grounded, Generous, Bright guy who strives to be his best - has a sense of balance when things go Wrong. (They will ... its Life) You Desire: a guy you are happy to be with... warm n real, to let your armor down around. Someone you trust. With your world. You are: balanced between work / 'off clock'. You enjoy stayin fit - but are not all about the physical. I like a strong jolt of chemistry much as the next -- there needs to be a well-toned heart beneath a healthy exterior =). You want a family in the not too distant sometime ... please - if this is something you don't (or no longer) wish for at some point your future - we are not a Match. 'Perfect Relationships' include: fallibility, friendship, imperfection, forgiveness, honesty. Speak your heart in real time - be authentic with yourself. Say what's on your mind, never assume the other knows what's on your mind... communicate No matter how 'attractive' - if a woman lacks compassion & generous spirit - not attractive. You'll settle for nothing less than a warm, beautiful guy -- inside and out.

SPIRITUALITY/PERSONAL/LOVE:MOST PEOPLE DON'T RECOGNISE THE PREFECT MATCH

There’s no point whatsoever in an unloving man or woman bemoaning their inability to find a partner. They’re doomed to endless frustration because they don’t recognise the perfect match when it appears. That loving person could be right here, right now, and their resistance doesn’t allow them to see it. The unloving person continues to blame bad luck or external factors for their not having a loving relationship. If no one showed up, it was because you needed to handle something on your own and therefore attracted no one to fulfill your energy level at that time.

Love can only be attracted by and returned by love. 

Spiritually you’re already connected to those you want in your life – so act like it. You share the same Source energy with everyone, and consequently, you must begin to think and act in a way that reflects your awareness of this principle. When you feel the need to have the right person show up, being to change your inner dialogue to reflect this awareness. Rather than saying, I wish this person would show up because I need to get out of this rut, activate a thought that reflects your connection, such as: I know the right person will be arriving in divine order at precisely the perfect time.

It’s all unfolding in divine order. By now you should affirming that everyone you need for this journey of yours will show up, and that they’ll be perfect in every way for whatever needs you have at this time. Furthermore, they’ll arrive at precisely the right moment. In this intelligent system that you’re part of, everything arrives from the field of intention where the infinite, invisible life force flows through everyone and everything. This includes you, and everyone else as well. Trust in this invisible life force and the all-creating mind that intends everything into existence.

Don't believe me?....I suggest that you do a quick review, and note all of the people who’ve shown up as characters in this play called your life. It’s has all been perfect. You may feel that they didn’t show up when you needed them, that in fact, you were alone and no one showed up at all, but I urge you to see it from the perspective of all of life being in divine order. If no one showed up, it was because you needed to handle something on your own and therefore attracted no one to fulfill your energy level at that time. Viewing your past as a play in which all characters and all entrances and exits were scripted by your Source and was what you attracted at the time , frees you from the very low energies of guilt, regret, and revenge.

To be infinitely patient means to have an absolute knowing within you that you’re in vibrational harmony with the all-creating force that intended you here. You are, in fact, a co-creator of your life. You know that the right people will show up on divinely ordained schedule. Attempting to rush the schedule based on your own timetable is akin to getting down on your knees and tugging at an emerging tulip shoot, insisting that you need the flower to grow. Creation reveals its secrets by and by, not according to your agenda.

The immediate result that you’ll receive from your infinite patience is a deep sense of peace. You’ll feel the love of the creation process, you’ll stop making incessant demands, and you’ll start being on the lookout for exactly the right person.

LOVE/DATING/PERSONAL: EVERYTHING WILL HAPPENS AS IT SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN

We’ve heard the phrase “ “Everything happens in God’s time”, but when you’ve been patiently waiting and nothing happens what do you do?  Give up or continue to wait until something magical occurs? At a certain age we’ve done all we can and ready for that moment. The moment where we meet someone that enriches our lives for the better. Someone who changes our way of thinking, feeling and loving. Many people wait a whole lifetime waiting for that “one” to come along. Dismissing a few of the rotten apples, bypassing the not so together and totally ignoring the baggage filled. We search for what we can’t find and complain that we don’t see it. You’re waiting for this miracle of a person to appear, the right person is right there and you can’t see it because you just refuse to believe it was that simple. 

Don’t get me wrong; I do believe patience is a virtue and everything happens in God’s time, but some people have this unrealistic expectation of the “one”.  As I got older and fell in love with the wrong fucking people I realized that what I wanted was so different from what I needed. As I got older I learned that love can take you all the way down and can turn around and build you all the way up. Finding that right person can take as much time as it needs to take, but when it’s suppose to happen it will. The one thing you’ve gotta learn is to keep your options open. All that energy you’re putting into one person and they turn out to be a fraud. This is the mess we face as we wait. The salesmen/saleswomen who try to enter our lives only to  get us open and drain the love from us. Only to misuse it and disrespect it. Hence why there are so many single people today. Too scared to open up, but want to but fear the hurt. 

You might get to the point where you’re ready to give up. Trust me giving up only shows God that you were never ready.  If you aren’t truly ready there is no way to receive what he has to offer. Open your eyes to the beauty of what could be and stop living in the land of doubt. No matter how “ready” you think you are it’s still not going to happen until it’s your time. In the meantime allow yourself to open up to the possibilities you never thought were possibilities. Like I said it all happens in God’s time, but what if she’s shown you but you just refused to see what was right in front of you.