Friday, December 6, 2013
LOVE/DATING: WISDOM
There is a time and a place for everyone to see their true love face to face. I've witnessed first hand false love and what a wise one once told me:"True love won't hide, false love hides behind close heart".This wise one is one I used to love, do love, and always will love. This person taught me things that would have taken forever to learn on my own. Therefore, I am thankful for all the things this being has taught me. Then, I witnessed true love for the first real time. This love showed me that you can never put all your trust into unsure facts.Love also showed me pain like no other, pain that cut through my soul, pain that eventually made me stronger, and somehow made me love this love more. Although I have hurt a few and have been hurt by a couple, no one is the total blame for how my heart cried. I say what can kill me will, and what doesn't won't, but what seems to hurt more than death itself makes me stronger. Most think, just as the wise one does, that love is simply a manipulation of the mind and isn't worth the run around once more once you have been hurt. I say it's not love that hurts you, it's the people you fall in love with. Not to say that you can control whom you love, but try to choose more carefully who you share your temple and your mind with. You may not fall as hard and get as disappointed as you seem to have done in the past.It is said that if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything. I stand for true love, because I am blessed to have love and one who loves me. I will stand by love and wisdom through it all, because I believe that they are the keys to leading a better life. I have based my life on the love that love has shown me through love, and the wisdom that has been taught to me by wisdom. Love and Wisdom is all I need on this earth to survive life's never ending turmoil and pain.Thank you Love, Thank you Wisdom.
Thursday, December 5, 2013
FAN: FROM A FAN
I was in love with you for such a long time, for so long you were in my every thought and in many actions. I carried this love around with me somewhat secretively and silently. It had no where to go. I was alone with it. There was nobody and no body to accept it. But I realized later it is what it is. Cant change anybody, cant make them love or want you if they don't. Being committed is not about chasing someone in hopes they will return your love and accept you. No, I made that mistake before also. Being committed needs to be about a relationship, a relationship with two minds, hearts, and souls. If there is only one person loving the other it is not that, and if you commit yourself to that you are committing yourself to the lonely zone of unrequited love. And there is no reason to try to be a matyr and savior, we already have Jesus. And don't try to understand things, if you live in the world of why, you wont get out. The hardest thing maybe is trying to figure out what to do with that space. Kinda like decorating. What do you do with that empty space? Take a breather and enjoy the extra oxygen, or fill the space with something new, or cherish the development of a different type of love a renewed friendship of sorts.
I love you Alex. And I love you for you, I see and feel you I always will. God can explain that that one to me when I meet him. When im old and grey, without one glimmer of sexiness left in me, I will still love and would like you to meet my grandchildren, maybe they can be friends with yours, although ill be watching what you whisper in your grandson ear about my granddaughter, saying go after that, that is some good pussy right there.
PERSONAL: DEAR FUTURE SOULMATE...YOU ARE NOT A DREAM
Dear Future Soulmate,
Many nights I sit and ponder. I dream but I cannot find the truth. Who am I? Who is the one? I go through life searching for.In my dreams you are there with your blue eyes like liquid sky. Blond hair of midnight lust.Your touch sends shiver to my heart and your embrace is like soft silk. On a fresh crisp morning, need I speak of your kiss.Passionate, loving....How long did I long for thee.I count the seconds 'till next I rest in your arms. Every waking hour my heart beats for you. My thoughts are always centered around you, yet when I wake the morning air, cool and soft hits me and I know it's just a dream. Yet how can something so real be just a dream? I know who you are.You know who I am.We hunger for the touch, the embrace of our souls. But one day I will reach you and then all will know that you are real.Your soft arms will embrace me...I can even now feel their warmth.I can see your eyes of blue ice glitter as you look upon me.And your lips-how I yearn for their breathtaking touch...So soft and pure.Always shall I love you.But for now I'll wait for you see, you've already captured my heart.So, it can be won by no other.They all wonder why I sit and wait on a dream, but you are not a dream.You are my life. If it takes forever, I will wait for you hold the key and you are miles away,Yet I know that as soon as you are near,I will sense your presence. For you and I are connected by a sliver of silver thread. My heart is yours and yours is mine and all I ask is that you do not wait too long to bring the key and open my inner soul.For I am but a half without you, you see you are not a dream because our love is written in the crystalline stars. In the quiet of the night,I felt your touch. Two hearts blending as one, Souls reaching out for that familiar feeling of completeness. Peace at last, the day is done.
Many nights I sit and ponder. I dream but I cannot find the truth. Who am I? Who is the one? I go through life searching for.In my dreams you are there with your blue eyes like liquid sky. Blond hair of midnight lust.Your touch sends shiver to my heart and your embrace is like soft silk. On a fresh crisp morning, need I speak of your kiss.Passionate, loving....How long did I long for thee.I count the seconds 'till next I rest in your arms. Every waking hour my heart beats for you. My thoughts are always centered around you, yet when I wake the morning air, cool and soft hits me and I know it's just a dream. Yet how can something so real be just a dream? I know who you are.You know who I am.We hunger for the touch, the embrace of our souls. But one day I will reach you and then all will know that you are real.Your soft arms will embrace me...I can even now feel their warmth.I can see your eyes of blue ice glitter as you look upon me.And your lips-how I yearn for their breathtaking touch...So soft and pure.Always shall I love you.But for now I'll wait for you see, you've already captured my heart.So, it can be won by no other.They all wonder why I sit and wait on a dream, but you are not a dream.You are my life. If it takes forever, I will wait for you hold the key and you are miles away,Yet I know that as soon as you are near,I will sense your presence. For you and I are connected by a sliver of silver thread. My heart is yours and yours is mine and all I ask is that you do not wait too long to bring the key and open my inner soul.For I am but a half without you, you see you are not a dream because our love is written in the crystalline stars. In the quiet of the night,I felt your touch. Two hearts blending as one, Souls reaching out for that familiar feeling of completeness. Peace at last, the day is done.
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE/ FUTURE WIFE
Dear Soulmate,
The light in your eyes is the love in your eyes and the love in your eyes is mine.So the love in my eyes meets the light in your eyes to wine and dine through time. If i try to sleep... i dream of you. Awake, I walk still dreaming tooI live to love you nothing more...what else is this poor heart for? When kissed by you, my lips are blessed and when I'm alone with you my soul undressed. Kiss me again and never cease for when I'm alone with you my mind has peace. When i hold you ...I hold everything from your resplendent eyes my existence springs. The world may stop and the moon might bust but this dream lives on... just the two of us....I love you. I love the fact I wake up every morning with a smile on my face because thinking about you places it there. I love the fact that when I talk to you I lose all my words and my senses. I love the fact that the more I talk to you is the more I want to talk to you.
The light in your eyes is the love in your eyes and the love in your eyes is mine.So the love in my eyes meets the light in your eyes to wine and dine through time. If i try to sleep... i dream of you. Awake, I walk still dreaming tooI live to love you nothing more...what else is this poor heart for? When kissed by you, my lips are blessed and when I'm alone with you my soul undressed. Kiss me again and never cease for when I'm alone with you my mind has peace. When i hold you ...I hold everything from your resplendent eyes my existence springs. The world may stop and the moon might bust but this dream lives on... just the two of us....I love you. I love the fact I wake up every morning with a smile on my face because thinking about you places it there. I love the fact that when I talk to you I lose all my words and my senses. I love the fact that the more I talk to you is the more I want to talk to you.
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE..I CAN SEE ALL THE PAIN
Dear Soulmate
I can see all the pain you hide. No one can see how your hurting inside, but I can see so much when I look in your eyes and I can feel the pain from all the good-byes.Baby, just come to me and cry because on me you can rely.No more do you have to fear because I finally found you, I'm here.Just open your heart and let me in.I can make love and happiness begin.You won't be in the dark tonight because I'm here with your light, I've been through it all and I've taken that painful fall, but you walked into my life.Now I know that I'll be alright.I'll do whatever it takes to make the rain go away. That's the promise that I'll make...you don't have to be afraid. All you have to do is trust me and take my hand because I've been through it too, I understand.Break your heart, no I'll never...I want to be here, past forever. I've fallen in love with you, Can you tell? Do you know? Here in this charmed night that spinning lights shine down on us. And I can only think througout the sound of your voice echoing in my mind that I have found forever in your eyes. As we move together...past being strangers and the shadows;I still can't speak one word of this truth.My love is a silence,but then you take my hand and you take my soul with you whispered words:"I've fallen in love with you"The pleasant memory of holding your hand. Never do I want this feeling to fade.In the palm of your hand I felt a piece of your heart.
I can see all the pain you hide. No one can see how your hurting inside, but I can see so much when I look in your eyes and I can feel the pain from all the good-byes.Baby, just come to me and cry because on me you can rely.No more do you have to fear because I finally found you, I'm here.Just open your heart and let me in.I can make love and happiness begin.You won't be in the dark tonight because I'm here with your light, I've been through it all and I've taken that painful fall, but you walked into my life.Now I know that I'll be alright.I'll do whatever it takes to make the rain go away. That's the promise that I'll make...you don't have to be afraid. All you have to do is trust me and take my hand because I've been through it too, I understand.Break your heart, no I'll never...I want to be here, past forever. I've fallen in love with you, Can you tell? Do you know? Here in this charmed night that spinning lights shine down on us. And I can only think througout the sound of your voice echoing in my mind that I have found forever in your eyes. As we move together...past being strangers and the shadows;I still can't speak one word of this truth.My love is a silence,but then you take my hand and you take my soul with you whispered words:"I've fallen in love with you"The pleasant memory of holding your hand. Never do I want this feeling to fade.In the palm of your hand I felt a piece of your heart.
Monday, December 2, 2013
PERSONAL: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
** PLEASE READ THIS ENTIRE AD CAREFULLY BEFORE CONTACTING ME INCLUDING THE FAQs/COMMENTS AT THE END. THANK YOU.
(P.S. If you contact me it will be assumed you have read, understood and agree with everything on this page. If you disagree or don't like anything please don't contact me. On the other hand, "If you SNOOZE, you lose. . .") Please take this as a fair and friendly prior warning.
ME = A very nice, mature , "gentleman." with a higher college degree and education. I have my own house (not apartment), car, income, etc. A professional man with a GOOD BACKGROUND. Better than 99% of what you will find, GUARANTEE #1.
YOU = Good girl for friendship and romance. You would be treated very well and nobody will treat you better (GUARANTEE #2). HOWEVER IN ORDER FOR THIS TO HAPPEN . . .YOU HAVE TO BE. . . "Worthy," "Deserving" and "Reciprocate."
IF YOU WANT A RESPONSE, please E-mail
(1) your name,
(2) your email address,
(3) phone number.
If your email message is incomplete (does not include all 6 items above), ignorant, disrespectful or sarcastic you will NOT get a response. NO exceptions or excuses. The email gets deleted without paying any attention to it. DO NOT contact me if you are unwilling or unable to exchange phone #, talk on the phone a
*Note #1 - If you are currently pregnant or have children, it won't work out. DO NOT contact me. I have been with single mom before and it didn't work out.
* Note #2 - Remember something ladies, especially THOSE OF YOU who "Complain" about "Men." The problem is NOT "Men." The problem is YOUR "Pick," "Selection" and "Taste" in men. Do you see the difference? Choose "Better" men and you will have "Better" experiences with men. GET IT? I tell all ladies the same thing. Either you appreciate, value and can recognize a "good" man (gentleman) or you don't. If you do, you benefit (win). If you don't, you lose. The smart ones do and the dumb ones don't. WHICH ONE ARE YOU??
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) & Comments. . .
1) Question: If you are such an amazing guy then why are you still searching or single?
Answer: Good question. I am looking for a "Worthy and Deserving" girl. By this, I mean, "mature," "intelligent," "responsible," "grateful," etc. That's like finding a needle in a haystack. Basically, I'm looking for "quality" over "quantity" so that takes longer to find.
2) Question: Most guys say they are great or a gentleman. How do I know that's really you?
Answer: Good question. I also find that most girls tell me they are a "Good Girl" too or "Worthy and Deserving" but often that's not the case either. Thus, the best and ONLY way to really know if the guy or girl is "great," is by talking to them and eventually met that persons and having conversations, etc. Otherwise, you will never know for sure. This works both ways for men and women. The man has to "test" the woman and vice-versa.
3) Question: Do you really think online dating is a good or serious place to find what you are looking for? Do you really take this serious?
Answer: What do you have to lose by trying? You never know for certain unless you try. Right? If you have a negative expectation, the results will be the same. Thus, I look at "online" places as another place with "potential" and "possibilities" instead of looking at it from a negative or pessimistic perspective.
4) Question: I'm not in New York I currently live in where ever. Is that OK?
Answer: No. If you live "outside" of New York it will be very difficult or impossible for a real friendship or relationship requiring traveling.
Long distance relationship don't work. As long as we are both in New York. it's not a major problem UNLESS you are unwilling or unable to "drive" —OR- use public transportation including the bus or train. I will drive to you but you must also be able or willing to travel to me and to some equal extent. I may ask you to drive or travel to me on the first meeting to "test" if you are serious. The focus and priority is on the "person" not their distance. If you allow "distance" to distract your attention from the main focus (the two people) or use "distance" as your excuse then DO NOT contact me because you have your priorities and focus out of line.
I wish we lived in a "perfect" world and everything was across the street from my house or within walking distance so none of us would need cars, trains or airplanes. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect or ideal world. This world is full of "challenges" for everyone. Relationships (especially "successful" ones) require enormous time, energy and effort from both man and woman. Relationships are like a full time "JOB." It's NOT "EASY." If you are not able or willing to commit to the challenges of the "job" then you are not ready for the "job." It's that simple. (P.S. If everyone could find someone close to them or across the street, then none of us would need to be looking online for someone. Right? Get it?).
5) Question: What exactly are you looking for?
Answer: A romantic relationship that will end in marriage. Thus, if this is not what you are looking for then you SHOULD NOT contact me. (P.S. I am NOT looking for a Facebook, email, telephone, texting or platonic friend. I am NOT looking for patients either. So don't contact me for anything besides what is described above).
6) Question: I'm only 18 or 27. Don't you think you are too old for me?
Answer: DEPENDS on your level of "MATURITY," mental growth, intelligence and overall cognitive understanding. If you are MATURE for your age it shouldn't be a problem unless you are still playing with barbie dolls, teddy bears, video games, etc. Generally speaking the MAN should be OLDER than the woman because females mature or age faster than males (both physically and mentally). This is a scientific fact. For example, females reach puberty on average at age 9 or 10. Males don't reach puberty until 14 or 15 on average. Another reason why bigger or older age gaps work better is because older men have more resources, maturity, education, life experiences, etc., to provide, treat or care for a woman properly.Generally, men under age 40 are still considered "young" while women under 30 are considered "young." Age has a different meaning and consequence for men and women.
7) Question ("Comment"): You sound or seem rude, aggressive, controlling or cocky. Just like my asshole ex-boyfriend or husband.
Answer: And you sound ignorant just like my XXXXX ex-girlfriend. It's ignorant and ridiculous to judge someone so quickly without ever talking to them, meeting them and not even spending 10 minutes with them. Trust me, I am not like your ex-boyfriend or husband. I'm much better. Don't be quick to judge someone (especially negatively) until you really get to know them which takes time.
8) Question: Are you at least 6 foot tall? Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
Answer: NO. And if this is your first focus or priority don't contact me. Instead, you need to FIRST "educate" yourself about the keys to success and happiness in relationships. These are not based on how many tattoos or inches on a ruler.
9) Question: I am super cute and have a great body. Are you good enough for me?
Answer: Tell me something about yourself that I or other men cannot $$ PURCHASE $$ for a few dollars off the street and you will have my attention. Being cute or attractive is no doubt appealing but NOT sufficient. Sadly and more humorous, most girls think just being "cute" or "pretty" will get them far or that's all they need to be successful with men. Sorry, this is not the case especially with smarter and more intelligent men with resources. We know better and not easily fooled by just a "pretty" girl. You need more than "pretty" ladies, especially if you want something real, serious or long-term with a man.
10) Question: Do you drink alcohol like beer or liquor? Do you smoke or do any type of drugs? Do you mind if I do?
Answer: NO and I don't mind if you drink on once in a while, but I personally don't drink, smoke or take drut.
11) Question: I like to be "spoiled" and I want to know how much you are going to spend on me. How much?
Answer: You sound like a gold-digger or prostitute. My headline doesn't say $ATM$ Machine. If you are looking for an ATM Machine to finance and "spoil" yourself look somewhere else. You have to appreciate the company of a "gentleman" and at the same time appreciate any amount he spends on you, if any. He has no obligation to spend a dollar on you BUT he MAY depending on what he thinks you are worthy and deserving of (not what you think) and how well you reciprocate and show appreciation for it. If you are focused on his money instead of him or if you are a gold-digger, escort or prostitute don't bother. (P.S. I don't need to be online to find a XXXXX. and are easily accessible. Get it?)
12) Question ("Comment"): Sorry, I passed out in bed and wasn't able to call or text you back. Now I am in bed sick, I have a sore throat. My phone battery died too.
Answer: I think I have heard you say that before or that you had to take your dog to the vet or something else. If you have a tendency to make "excuses" for a lot of things, then you probably aren't ready for any friendship or relationship for that manner. So that gives you a hint. If you are an "excuse-maker" don't contact me. It won't get you far with me.
13) Question: Do you have any children? Do you have a wife?
Answer: NO I am divorce
14) Question: What type of music do you like? Do you like dogs? I need to know before I send you any information about myself.
Answer: I will answering your questions when I know who you are and know you are serious. This will give me confidence that I'm not wasting a lot of time answering questions to a fake or phony person. As of right now, and if you have been reading this far, you know A LOT more about me than I know about you.
15) Question ("Comment"): I can only text or email you -OR- I can't talk much over the phone —OR- I will let you know in a few days when we can meet.
Answer: Seems like you aren't too serious and aren't looking for something real or serious either. If you are looking for a "texting" relationship or uncertain as to what exactly you want, then DO NOT contact me. If you have read this far, it should be clear to you what I am looking for.
16) Question ("Comment"): I am scared of "Internet" dating. I don't meet anyone from the Internet.
Answer: Then why are you on the "Internet" and searching here? You don't get into a car and start driving and then tell your passengers inside the car that you are afraid to drive. Either you are scared or not. Do yourself a favor. On the top right of your screen there is a "Log-Out" or "X" button. Close your screen and turn off your computer and hopefully your fear will go away soon.
17) Question ("Comment"): I am going to be evicted from my house and will be homeless soon. My parents are also going through a divorce and I have to go to Court next week.
Answer: Sounds like you have a lot of personal problems or distractions in your life at the moment. It's best to resolve whatever your personal tragedies or challenges are first and before you pursue a relationship with someone. DO NOT contact me if you are too distracted from personal matters in your life because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship.
18) Question ("Comment"): I have to work all this week and my school starts the week after. I am super busy and don't have time to meet or date for some time.
Answer: It sounds like you don't have time for a "relationship" either which is like another "JOB." You have to be "available" and willing to set aside time to show up to the "JOB." You have to resolve whatever "outside" distractions or obstacles you have (i.e., other jobs, school, etc) so you can be available for at least 2-3 full days per week and at various times including weekends for dating, hanging out, etc. DO NOT contact me if you are too "busy" or "unavailable" because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship. You will not make any progress in that matter and in the area of relationships.
19) Question: Why can't you XXX?! —OR- I want to know why XXX!?.
Answer: Asking questions is fine but "arguing" is NOT attractive. You have a right to disagree BUT if your intention is to "argue," just do us both a favor and don't contact me at all. Men, in general, are TURNED-OFF by aggressive or argumentative woman BECAUSE it is characteristic of a traditional "masculine" person and NOT someone feminine. Have you heard of the "Bitch" stereotype? That's what I mean. When men date the opposite sex they don't want to feel they are with another man but with a female. If this is your style, please DO NOT contact me because we won't get along.
(P.S. If you contact me it will be assumed you have read, understood and agree with everything on this page. If you disagree or don't like anything please don't contact me. On the other hand, "If you SNOOZE, you lose. . .") Please take this as a fair and friendly prior warning.
ME = A very nice, mature , "gentleman." with a higher college degree and education. I have my own house (not apartment), car, income, etc. A professional man with a GOOD BACKGROUND. Better than 99% of what you will find, GUARANTEE #1.
YOU = Good girl for friendship and romance. You would be treated very well and nobody will treat you better (GUARANTEE #2). HOWEVER IN ORDER FOR THIS TO HAPPEN . . .YOU HAVE TO BE. . . "Worthy," "Deserving" and "Reciprocate."
IF YOU WANT A RESPONSE, please E-mail
(1) your name,
(2) your email address,
(3) phone number.
If your email message is incomplete (does not include all 6 items above), ignorant, disrespectful or sarcastic you will NOT get a response. NO exceptions or excuses. The email gets deleted without paying any attention to it. DO NOT contact me if you are unwilling or unable to exchange phone #, talk on the phone a
*Note #1 - If you are currently pregnant or have children, it won't work out. DO NOT contact me. I have been with single mom before and it didn't work out.
* Note #2 - Remember something ladies, especially THOSE OF YOU who "Complain" about "Men." The problem is NOT "Men." The problem is YOUR "Pick," "Selection" and "Taste" in men. Do you see the difference? Choose "Better" men and you will have "Better" experiences with men. GET IT? I tell all ladies the same thing. Either you appreciate, value and can recognize a "good" man (gentleman) or you don't. If you do, you benefit (win). If you don't, you lose. The smart ones do and the dumb ones don't. WHICH ONE ARE YOU??
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) & Comments. . .
1) Question: If you are such an amazing guy then why are you still searching or single?
Answer: Good question. I am looking for a "Worthy and Deserving" girl. By this, I mean, "mature," "intelligent," "responsible," "grateful," etc. That's like finding a needle in a haystack. Basically, I'm looking for "quality" over "quantity" so that takes longer to find.
2) Question: Most guys say they are great or a gentleman. How do I know that's really you?
Answer: Good question. I also find that most girls tell me they are a "Good Girl" too or "Worthy and Deserving" but often that's not the case either. Thus, the best and ONLY way to really know if the guy or girl is "great," is by talking to them and eventually met that persons and having conversations, etc. Otherwise, you will never know for sure. This works both ways for men and women. The man has to "test" the woman and vice-versa.
3) Question: Do you really think online dating is a good or serious place to find what you are looking for? Do you really take this serious?
Answer: What do you have to lose by trying? You never know for certain unless you try. Right? If you have a negative expectation, the results will be the same. Thus, I look at "online" places as another place with "potential" and "possibilities" instead of looking at it from a negative or pessimistic perspective.
4) Question: I'm not in New York I currently live in where ever. Is that OK?
Answer: No. If you live "outside" of New York it will be very difficult or impossible for a real friendship or relationship requiring traveling.
Long distance relationship don't work. As long as we are both in New York. it's not a major problem UNLESS you are unwilling or unable to "drive" —OR- use public transportation including the bus or train. I will drive to you but you must also be able or willing to travel to me and to some equal extent. I may ask you to drive or travel to me on the first meeting to "test" if you are serious. The focus and priority is on the "person" not their distance. If you allow "distance" to distract your attention from the main focus (the two people) or use "distance" as your excuse then DO NOT contact me because you have your priorities and focus out of line.
I wish we lived in a "perfect" world and everything was across the street from my house or within walking distance so none of us would need cars, trains or airplanes. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect or ideal world. This world is full of "challenges" for everyone. Relationships (especially "successful" ones) require enormous time, energy and effort from both man and woman. Relationships are like a full time "JOB." It's NOT "EASY." If you are not able or willing to commit to the challenges of the "job" then you are not ready for the "job." It's that simple. (P.S. If everyone could find someone close to them or across the street, then none of us would need to be looking online for someone. Right? Get it?).
5) Question: What exactly are you looking for?
Answer: A romantic relationship that will end in marriage. Thus, if this is not what you are looking for then you SHOULD NOT contact me. (P.S. I am NOT looking for a Facebook, email, telephone, texting or platonic friend. I am NOT looking for patients either. So don't contact me for anything besides what is described above).
6) Question: I'm only 18 or 27. Don't you think you are too old for me?
Answer: DEPENDS on your level of "MATURITY," mental growth, intelligence and overall cognitive understanding. If you are MATURE for your age it shouldn't be a problem unless you are still playing with barbie dolls, teddy bears, video games, etc. Generally speaking the MAN should be OLDER than the woman because females mature or age faster than males (both physically and mentally). This is a scientific fact. For example, females reach puberty on average at age 9 or 10. Males don't reach puberty until 14 or 15 on average. Another reason why bigger or older age gaps work better is because older men have more resources, maturity, education, life experiences, etc., to provide, treat or care for a woman properly.Generally, men under age 40 are still considered "young" while women under 30 are considered "young." Age has a different meaning and consequence for men and women.
7) Question ("Comment"): You sound or seem rude, aggressive, controlling or cocky. Just like my asshole ex-boyfriend or husband.
Answer: And you sound ignorant just like my XXXXX ex-girlfriend. It's ignorant and ridiculous to judge someone so quickly without ever talking to them, meeting them and not even spending 10 minutes with them. Trust me, I am not like your ex-boyfriend or husband. I'm much better. Don't be quick to judge someone (especially negatively) until you really get to know them which takes time.
8) Question: Are you at least 6 foot tall? Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
Answer: NO. And if this is your first focus or priority don't contact me. Instead, you need to FIRST "educate" yourself about the keys to success and happiness in relationships. These are not based on how many tattoos or inches on a ruler.
9) Question: I am super cute and have a great body. Are you good enough for me?
Answer: Tell me something about yourself that I or other men cannot $$ PURCHASE $$ for a few dollars off the street and you will have my attention. Being cute or attractive is no doubt appealing but NOT sufficient. Sadly and more humorous, most girls think just being "cute" or "pretty" will get them far or that's all they need to be successful with men. Sorry, this is not the case especially with smarter and more intelligent men with resources. We know better and not easily fooled by just a "pretty" girl. You need more than "pretty" ladies, especially if you want something real, serious or long-term with a man.
10) Question: Do you drink alcohol like beer or liquor? Do you smoke or do any type of drugs? Do you mind if I do?
Answer: NO and I don't mind if you drink on once in a while, but I personally don't drink, smoke or take drut.
11) Question: I like to be "spoiled" and I want to know how much you are going to spend on me. How much?
Answer: You sound like a gold-digger or prostitute. My headline doesn't say $ATM$ Machine. If you are looking for an ATM Machine to finance and "spoil" yourself look somewhere else. You have to appreciate the company of a "gentleman" and at the same time appreciate any amount he spends on you, if any. He has no obligation to spend a dollar on you BUT he MAY depending on what he thinks you are worthy and deserving of (not what you think) and how well you reciprocate and show appreciation for it. If you are focused on his money instead of him or if you are a gold-digger, escort or prostitute don't bother. (P.S. I don't need to be online to find a XXXXX. and are easily accessible. Get it?)
12) Question ("Comment"): Sorry, I passed out in bed and wasn't able to call or text you back. Now I am in bed sick, I have a sore throat. My phone battery died too.
Answer: I think I have heard you say that before or that you had to take your dog to the vet or something else. If you have a tendency to make "excuses" for a lot of things, then you probably aren't ready for any friendship or relationship for that manner. So that gives you a hint. If you are an "excuse-maker" don't contact me. It won't get you far with me.
13) Question: Do you have any children? Do you have a wife?
Answer: NO I am divorce
14) Question: What type of music do you like? Do you like dogs? I need to know before I send you any information about myself.
Answer: I will answering your questions when I know who you are and know you are serious. This will give me confidence that I'm not wasting a lot of time answering questions to a fake or phony person. As of right now, and if you have been reading this far, you know A LOT more about me than I know about you.
15) Question ("Comment"): I can only text or email you -OR- I can't talk much over the phone —OR- I will let you know in a few days when we can meet.
Answer: Seems like you aren't too serious and aren't looking for something real or serious either. If you are looking for a "texting" relationship or uncertain as to what exactly you want, then DO NOT contact me. If you have read this far, it should be clear to you what I am looking for.
16) Question ("Comment"): I am scared of "Internet" dating. I don't meet anyone from the Internet.
Answer: Then why are you on the "Internet" and searching here? You don't get into a car and start driving and then tell your passengers inside the car that you are afraid to drive. Either you are scared or not. Do yourself a favor. On the top right of your screen there is a "Log-Out" or "X" button. Close your screen and turn off your computer and hopefully your fear will go away soon.
17) Question ("Comment"): I am going to be evicted from my house and will be homeless soon. My parents are also going through a divorce and I have to go to Court next week.
Answer: Sounds like you have a lot of personal problems or distractions in your life at the moment. It's best to resolve whatever your personal tragedies or challenges are first and before you pursue a relationship with someone. DO NOT contact me if you are too distracted from personal matters in your life because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship.
18) Question ("Comment"): I have to work all this week and my school starts the week after. I am super busy and don't have time to meet or date for some time.
Answer: It sounds like you don't have time for a "relationship" either which is like another "JOB." You have to be "available" and willing to set aside time to show up to the "JOB." You have to resolve whatever "outside" distractions or obstacles you have (i.e., other jobs, school, etc) so you can be available for at least 2-3 full days per week and at various times including weekends for dating, hanging out, etc. DO NOT contact me if you are too "busy" or "unavailable" because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship. You will not make any progress in that matter and in the area of relationships.
19) Question: Why can't you XXX?! —OR- I want to know why XXX!?.
Answer: Asking questions is fine but "arguing" is NOT attractive. You have a right to disagree BUT if your intention is to "argue," just do us both a favor and don't contact me at all. Men, in general, are TURNED-OFF by aggressive or argumentative woman BECAUSE it is characteristic of a traditional "masculine" person and NOT someone feminine. Have you heard of the "Bitch" stereotype? That's what I mean. When men date the opposite sex they don't want to feel they are with another man but with a female. If this is your style, please DO NOT contact me because we won't get along.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
A vision of a woman without a face stays with me day and night.This woman, this perfect woman is my perfect princess. She made her way into my life,not knowing what we would share.I knew she existed, but didn't see her standing there. One night, one perfect night,our paths crossed once more.A vision of a woman without a face...gone, when you opened the door. I had the dream, again, last night,you were there with open arms waiting for me to join you......The smile on your face,the light in your eyes said it all.......You came to rescue me, to give me love,life.......You always knew I wanted to live again to be free to laugh,love......You could feel it in my words,in my actions and you came for me......And I ran to you, to hold you, to love you......From the moment I first met you,I knew right then-you were the one.You bring happiness to my life.from the moment you touched me-our life had begun.Nothing else matters but you and me.You followed the path to my heart and then you became my destiny.When we kissed.. I felt forever. I can feel your breath upon my skin. I can feel your love from deep within.
A vision of a woman without a face stays with me day and night.This woman, this perfect woman is my perfect princess. She made her way into my life,not knowing what we would share.I knew she existed, but didn't see her standing there. One night, one perfect night,our paths crossed once more.A vision of a woman without a face...gone, when you opened the door. I had the dream, again, last night,you were there with open arms waiting for me to join you......The smile on your face,the light in your eyes said it all.......You came to rescue me, to give me love,life.......You always knew I wanted to live again to be free to laugh,love......You could feel it in my words,in my actions and you came for me......And I ran to you, to hold you, to love you......From the moment I first met you,I knew right then-you were the one.You bring happiness to my life.from the moment you touched me-our life had begun.Nothing else matters but you and me.You followed the path to my heart and then you became my destiny.When we kissed.. I felt forever. I can feel your breath upon my skin. I can feel your love from deep within.
Sunday, December 1, 2013
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate
Everyone in this world dreams of the perfect relationship at one time or another. I think I stumbled upon what I have dreamed all my life.But can this be real? Can this be it? Do I finally have my wish of all wishes, to be with someone who will make me truly happy? When you get what you wish for, it almost doesn't seem real or true, I never thought it would happen for me! I talk to you late at night or early day, I have this silly grin from ear to ear. As if you can hear me smiling through the phone. Did you know I had a smile on my face each time I spoke with you? I wondered if you could hear it in my voice. Ecstasy is you here with me..The way that things should be A simple touch, A gentle kiss. Those the things that I most miss. A loving stare, a simple phrase. Can keep me going on for days. You are the most beautiful thing to ever meet my eyes,More beautiful than a sunrise in the vast sun-broken sky. I'm going to make you part of me. You're going to be a part of my soul. Every breath you take I'll take it with you. And in every thought of mine, you'll be there to make me smile and forget my sorrows.And every tear you shed I'll be there to help you through your pain. With every day that passes by I will love you even more. And when we grow old and there is no more tomorrow, I want to be there by your side because when the day comes to leave it all behind,I want to know that every day of my life was spent with you by my side.
Everyone in this world dreams of the perfect relationship at one time or another. I think I stumbled upon what I have dreamed all my life.But can this be real? Can this be it? Do I finally have my wish of all wishes, to be with someone who will make me truly happy? When you get what you wish for, it almost doesn't seem real or true, I never thought it would happen for me! I talk to you late at night or early day, I have this silly grin from ear to ear. As if you can hear me smiling through the phone. Did you know I had a smile on my face each time I spoke with you? I wondered if you could hear it in my voice. Ecstasy is you here with me..The way that things should be A simple touch, A gentle kiss. Those the things that I most miss. A loving stare, a simple phrase. Can keep me going on for days. You are the most beautiful thing to ever meet my eyes,More beautiful than a sunrise in the vast sun-broken sky. I'm going to make you part of me. You're going to be a part of my soul. Every breath you take I'll take it with you. And in every thought of mine, you'll be there to make me smile and forget my sorrows.And every tear you shed I'll be there to help you through your pain. With every day that passes by I will love you even more. And when we grow old and there is no more tomorrow, I want to be there by your side because when the day comes to leave it all behind,I want to know that every day of my life was spent with you by my side.
Saturday, November 30, 2013
PERSONAL: THE HUSBAND STORE
The Husband Store
You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of
the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item
from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you
CANNOT go back down except to exit the building.
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
The 1st floor sign on the door reads:
Floor 1: These men have jobs.
The 2nd floor sign reads:
Floor 2: These men have Jobs and Love Kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads:
Floor 3: These men have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and help with Housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
Floor 5: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6: You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor.
There are no men on this floor.
This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
The 3rd,4th, 5th and 6th floors have never been visited.
Friday, November 29, 2013
SPIRITUAL: TRYING NOT TO BE RIGID
A friend of mine told me that I was rigid...and she was right. And then I remember Dr. Wayne Dwyer special in PBS..about Lao Tzu
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” - Lao-Tzu
No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control — and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress.
The simple solution: learn to go with the flow.
For example, let’s say you’ve created the perfect peaceful morning routine. You’ve structured your mornings so that you do things that bring you calm and happiness. And then a water pipe bursts in your bathroom and you spend a stressful morning trying to clean up the mess and get the pipe fixed.
You get angry. You are disappointed, because you didn’t get to do your morning routine. You are stressed from all these changes to what you’re used to. It ruins your day because you are frustrated for the rest of the day.
Not the best way to handle things, is it? And yet if we are honest, most of us have problems like this, with things that disrupt how we like things, with people who change what we are used to, with life when it doesn’t go the way we want it to go.
Go with the flow.
What is going with the flow? It’s rolling with the punches. It’s accepting change without getting angry or frustrated. It’s taking what life gives you, rather than trying to mold life to be exactly as you want it to be.
“Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.” - Chuang Tzu
Realize that you can’t control everything. I think we all know this at some level, but the way we think and act and feel many times contradicts this basic truth. We don’t control the universe, and yet we seem to wish we could. All the wishful thinking won’t make it so. You can’t even control everything within your own little sphere of influence — you can influence things, but many things are simply out of your control. In the example above, you can control your morning routine, but there will be things that happen from time to time (someone’s sick, accident happens, phone call comes at 5 a.m. that disrupts things, etc.) that will make you break your routine. First step is realizing that these things will happen. Not might happen, but will. There are things that we cannot control that will affect every aspect of our lives, and we must must must accept that, or we will constantly be frustrated.
You can’t change things in your head if you’re not aware of them. You have to become an observer of your thoughts, a self-examiner. Be aware that you’re becoming upset, so that you can do something about it. It helps to keep tally marks in a little notebook for a week — every time you get upset, put a little tally. That’s all — just keep tally. And soon, because of that little act, you will become more aware of your anger and frustration.
Breathe. When you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated, take a deep breath. Get perspective. This always helps me. I get angry over something happening — my car breaks down,— and then I take a deep breath, and take a step back. You know how you’re watching a movie and the camera zooms away and you can see much more of the world on the screen than you could before? How it goes from closeup to a larger, panoramic view of things? That’s what happens in my mind’s eye. I start to zoom away, until I’m pretty far away from things. Then whatever happened doesn’t seem so important. A week from now, a year from now, this little incident won’t matter a single whit. No one will care, not even you. So why get upset about it? Just let it go, and soon it won’t be a big deal.
Practice. It’s important to realize that, just like when you learn any skill, you probably won’t be good at this at first. Who is good when they are first learning to write, or read, or drive? No one I know. Skills come with practice. So when you first learn to go with the flow, you will mess up. You will stumble and fall. That’s OK — it’s part of the process. Just keep practicing, and you’ll get the hang of it.Keep a journal. This is one of the best uses of a journal actually. Once a day, try to recall what all your tally marks were for — and then write about those situations. Why did you get upset? What did you try to do? Did it work, and if not, why not? What can you do next time? This kind of recollection and examination, after the fact, will help you learn from the process.Meditate. If you aren’t good at keeping a journal, at least do a daily review in your head. Do some meditation, or have a bath, or a cup of hot tea, and as you’re de-stressing, go over your day and examine it. Don’t get frustrated — you’re learning. Do some deep breathing, and then go over each situation, trying to see it as a detached observer. This kind of review will help you improve in the learning process.
Accept change and imperfection. When we get things the way we like them, we usually don’t want them to change. But they will change. It’s a fact of life. We cannot keep things the way we want them to be … instead, it’s better to learn to accept things as they are. Accept that the world is constantly changing, and we are a part of that change. Also, instead of wanting things to be “perfect” (and what is perfect anyway?), we should accept that they will never be perfect, and we must accept good instead.
Enjoy life as a flow of change, chaos and beauty. Remember when I asked what “perfect” is, in the paragraph above? It’s actually a very interesting question. Does perfect mean the ideal life and world that we have in our heads? Do we have an ideal that we try to make the world conform to? Because that will likely never happen. Instead, try seeing the world as perfect the way it is. It’s messy, chaotic, painful, sad, dirty … and completely perfect. The world is beautiful, just as it is. Life is not something static, but a flow of change, never staying the same, always getting messier and more chaotic, always beautiful. There is beauty in everything around us, if we look at it as perfect.
“I accept chaos. I am not sure whether it accepts me.” - Bob Dylan
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” - Lao-Tzu
No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control — and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress.
The simple solution: learn to go with the flow.
For example, let’s say you’ve created the perfect peaceful morning routine. You’ve structured your mornings so that you do things that bring you calm and happiness. And then a water pipe bursts in your bathroom and you spend a stressful morning trying to clean up the mess and get the pipe fixed.
You get angry. You are disappointed, because you didn’t get to do your morning routine. You are stressed from all these changes to what you’re used to. It ruins your day because you are frustrated for the rest of the day.
Not the best way to handle things, is it? And yet if we are honest, most of us have problems like this, with things that disrupt how we like things, with people who change what we are used to, with life when it doesn’t go the way we want it to go.
Go with the flow.
What is going with the flow? It’s rolling with the punches. It’s accepting change without getting angry or frustrated. It’s taking what life gives you, rather than trying to mold life to be exactly as you want it to be.
“Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.” - Chuang Tzu
Realize that you can’t control everything. I think we all know this at some level, but the way we think and act and feel many times contradicts this basic truth. We don’t control the universe, and yet we seem to wish we could. All the wishful thinking won’t make it so. You can’t even control everything within your own little sphere of influence — you can influence things, but many things are simply out of your control. In the example above, you can control your morning routine, but there will be things that happen from time to time (someone’s sick, accident happens, phone call comes at 5 a.m. that disrupts things, etc.) that will make you break your routine. First step is realizing that these things will happen. Not might happen, but will. There are things that we cannot control that will affect every aspect of our lives, and we must must must accept that, or we will constantly be frustrated.
You can’t change things in your head if you’re not aware of them. You have to become an observer of your thoughts, a self-examiner. Be aware that you’re becoming upset, so that you can do something about it. It helps to keep tally marks in a little notebook for a week — every time you get upset, put a little tally. That’s all — just keep tally. And soon, because of that little act, you will become more aware of your anger and frustration.
Breathe. When you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated, take a deep breath. Get perspective. This always helps me. I get angry over something happening — my car breaks down,— and then I take a deep breath, and take a step back. You know how you’re watching a movie and the camera zooms away and you can see much more of the world on the screen than you could before? How it goes from closeup to a larger, panoramic view of things? That’s what happens in my mind’s eye. I start to zoom away, until I’m pretty far away from things. Then whatever happened doesn’t seem so important. A week from now, a year from now, this little incident won’t matter a single whit. No one will care, not even you. So why get upset about it? Just let it go, and soon it won’t be a big deal.
Practice. It’s important to realize that, just like when you learn any skill, you probably won’t be good at this at first. Who is good when they are first learning to write, or read, or drive? No one I know. Skills come with practice. So when you first learn to go with the flow, you will mess up. You will stumble and fall. That’s OK — it’s part of the process. Just keep practicing, and you’ll get the hang of it.Keep a journal. This is one of the best uses of a journal actually. Once a day, try to recall what all your tally marks were for — and then write about those situations. Why did you get upset? What did you try to do? Did it work, and if not, why not? What can you do next time? This kind of recollection and examination, after the fact, will help you learn from the process.Meditate. If you aren’t good at keeping a journal, at least do a daily review in your head. Do some meditation, or have a bath, or a cup of hot tea, and as you’re de-stressing, go over your day and examine it. Don’t get frustrated — you’re learning. Do some deep breathing, and then go over each situation, trying to see it as a detached observer. This kind of review will help you improve in the learning process.
Realize that you can’t control others. Ah, one of the biggest challenges. We get frustrated with other people, because they don’t act the way we want them to act. Maybe it’ our spouse or significant other, maybe it’s our coworker or boss, maybe it’s our mom or best friend. But we have to realize that they are acting according to their personality, according to what they feel is right, and they are not going to do what we want all of the time. And we have to accept that. Accept that we can’t control them, accept them for who they are, accept the things they do. It’s not easy, it takes practice.
Accept change and imperfection. When we get things the way we like them, we usually don’t want them to change. But they will change. It’s a fact of life. We cannot keep things the way we want them to be … instead, it’s better to learn to accept things as they are. Accept that the world is constantly changing, and we are a part of that change. Also, instead of wanting things to be “perfect” (and what is perfect anyway?), we should accept that they will never be perfect, and we must accept good instead.
Enjoy life as a flow of change, chaos and beauty. Remember when I asked what “perfect” is, in the paragraph above? It’s actually a very interesting question. Does perfect mean the ideal life and world that we have in our heads? Do we have an ideal that we try to make the world conform to? Because that will likely never happen. Instead, try seeing the world as perfect the way it is. It’s messy, chaotic, painful, sad, dirty … and completely perfect. The world is beautiful, just as it is. Life is not something static, but a flow of change, never staying the same, always getting messier and more chaotic, always beautiful. There is beauty in everything around us, if we look at it as perfect.
“I accept chaos. I am not sure whether it accepts me.” - Bob Dylan
Thursday, November 28, 2013
THOUGHTS: WHY DO WE ALL HAVE TO WORK?
We must do away with the absolutely specious notion that everybody has to earn a living. It is a fact today that one in ten thousand of us can make a technological breakthrough capable of supporting all the rest. The youth of today are absolutely right in recognizing this nonsense of earning a living. We keep inventing jobs because of this false idea that everybody has to be employed at some kind of drudgery because, according to Malthusian-Darwinian theory, he must justify his right to exist. So we have inspectors of inspectors and people making instruments for inspectors to inspect inspectors. The true business of people should be to go back to school and think about whatever it was they were thinking about before somebody came along and told them they had to earn a living.
-Buckminster Fuller
Buckminster Fuller making a point about work and responsibility in a high-tech society. Namely: maybe people don’t have to work. Maybe, if machines become really good at producing the basic necessities of life, rather than bemoaning a loss of jobs we should celebrate our liberation from the toil of labor.
As a practical matter, I recognize that this might be hopelessly utopian. It amounts to saying that we should have fairly high taxes, and redistribute most of the money as a minimal income to every person. Nothing wrong with working and earning additional money, but everyone would get their personal share no matter what, and in principle that might be enough to live on. But the social will is nowhere near making it happen. I can even imagine a utilitarian argument against it, based on the supposition that letting people learn and loaf and enjoy themselves rather than working for a living would lead to less innovation and competition, which in turn would make the world a less enjoyable place. I’m not sure if that’s right, but it’s at least non-obvious that work should be gradually phased out.
But nevertheless the spirit is admirable, and that’s what I want to endorse. There’s nothing morally wrong with the idea that people should spend their time in non-productive pursuits rather than working to earn extra income. It’s not “socialism,” since we’re not changing the free market or the ownership of the means of production. It would just be nice to live in a world where people did challenging things because they wanted to, not because they were forced to in order to survive. Maybe someday.
Pope Francis condemned trickle-down economics and the world of inequality and exclusion it fosters in the first apostolic exhortation of his papacy:
“Some people continue to defend trickle-down theories which assume that economic growth, encouraged by a free market, will inevitably succeed in bringing about greater justice and inclusiveness in the world. This opinion, which has never been confirmed by the facts, expresses a crude and naïve trust in the goodness of those wielding economic power and in the sacralized workings of the prevailing economic system. Meanwhile, the excluded are still waiting. To sustain a lifestyle which excludes others, or to sustain enthusiasm for that selfish ideal, a globalization of indifference has developed.”
Francis asked, “How can it be that it is not a news item when an elderly homeless person dies of exposure, but it is news when the stock market loses two points?”
-Buckminster Fuller
Buckminster Fuller making a point about work and responsibility in a high-tech society. Namely: maybe people don’t have to work. Maybe, if machines become really good at producing the basic necessities of life, rather than bemoaning a loss of jobs we should celebrate our liberation from the toil of labor.
As a practical matter, I recognize that this might be hopelessly utopian. It amounts to saying that we should have fairly high taxes, and redistribute most of the money as a minimal income to every person. Nothing wrong with working and earning additional money, but everyone would get their personal share no matter what, and in principle that might be enough to live on. But the social will is nowhere near making it happen. I can even imagine a utilitarian argument against it, based on the supposition that letting people learn and loaf and enjoy themselves rather than working for a living would lead to less innovation and competition, which in turn would make the world a less enjoyable place. I’m not sure if that’s right, but it’s at least non-obvious that work should be gradually phased out.
But nevertheless the spirit is admirable, and that’s what I want to endorse. There’s nothing morally wrong with the idea that people should spend their time in non-productive pursuits rather than working to earn extra income. It’s not “socialism,” since we’re not changing the free market or the ownership of the means of production. It would just be nice to live in a world where people did challenging things because they wanted to, not because they were forced to in order to survive. Maybe someday.
Pope Francis condemned trickle-down economics and the world of inequality and exclusion it fosters in the first apostolic exhortation of his papacy:
“Some people continue to defend trickle-down theories which assume that economic growth, encouraged by a free market, will inevitably succeed in bringing about greater justice and inclusiveness in the world. This opinion, which has never been confirmed by the facts, expresses a crude and naïve trust in the goodness of those wielding economic power and in the sacralized workings of the prevailing economic system. Meanwhile, the excluded are still waiting. To sustain a lifestyle which excludes others, or to sustain enthusiasm for that selfish ideal, a globalization of indifference has developed.”
Francis asked, “How can it be that it is not a news item when an elderly homeless person dies of exposure, but it is news when the stock market loses two points?”
ARTICLE FROM NYPOST: The $150 haircut that got me laid! By Jane Ridley
Manhattan hairdresser Mischa G laughs out loud at the grateful message from a client thanking her for the look she crafted for him the previous day.
“Your haircut got me a threesome!” texts Philip McElroy, a 21-year-old Hunter College student. A few seconds later, he follows up with: “Next time, I’ll give you a bigger tip!”
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Stylist Mischa G’s own bright yellow-dyed hair comes down to her waist and gives her a larger-than-life Jessica Rabbit-style sex appeal.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Reviews like this are all in a day’s work for the Bumble and Bumble stylist, who sported a distinctive bright yellow-dyed beehive when she spoke with The Post but likes to change up her look every day.
Thirty-year-old Mischa Gobie (professionally, she goes by the initial G for her last name) is the creator of “The Get Laid Haircut,” a term she coined herself.
Unlike “The Rachel,” “The Kate” or “The Clooney,” the GLH is not modeled on a celebrity. “The look” varies from person to person, and might include a sultry bang here, a straytendril there.
Ask any Mischa devotee and they’ll swear it gets results in the bedroom. Fireworks might not necessarily explode the same day — “actually, most people find they look their best after it [the style] has settled down a bit on day two or day three,” she stresses.
New York City matchmaker Amy Van Doran is so convinced by the powers of “The Get Laid Haircut,” she instructs all her clients to shell out $110 for the complete cut and blow-out package, which usually amounts to $150 including tip, before sending them out on dates.
“She just has this amazing talent for knowing what will flatter the shape of their face and bone structure,” says Van Doren. The duo has a quid-pro-quo arrangement wherein they send business each other’s way.
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Philip McElroy ditched his “stupid scruffy” image for a cleaned-up look that bagged him a threesome.Photo: Brian Ach
“Crazy things seem to happen to people after they’ve seen Mischa. It’s just a massive shot of confidence,” adds Van Doren.
The Buffalo, NY, native started her hairdressing career upstate after graduating college. She moved to New York City and joined Bumble & Bumble six years ago.
“I get a lot of my inspiration from a bunch of drag queens who were my clients upstate,” reveals Mischa. “They aren’t necessarily the most confident people in the world, but they learn how to build up their confidence by altering their appearance.
“I’m a firm believer in the theory: ‘fake it until you make it’ — look and behave like you are fabulous and,after a while, you will be.”
Although she is in a “wonderfully confusing and complicated” relationship with a man who laps up her quirky style — one day, she’ll wear her tresses in schoolgirl braids, the next, they’re up in an Amy Winehouse-style bun — she is constantly hit on because of her hair.
“It’s a great conversation starter,” adds Mischa, who has around 300 clients on her books.
She came up with the term, “The Get Laid Haircut,” a couple years ago after so many of her customers shared stories of their conquests after she did their hair. Since then her business has taken off through word of mouth.
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Mischa injected Lisa Pomery’s straight hair with some va-va voom; Lisa’s boyfriend was blown away by her “mermaid” curls created on the day they met.Photo: Brian Ach
Lisa Pomery, 33, a marketing specialist from the Bronx who is another Mischa disciple, met her now live-in boyfriend the same night as her hair appointment last year.
“I’d stopped by to get my hair cut before an event and Mischa gave me what I now call ‘mermaid waves’,” recalls Pomery, who at the time hadn’t been feeling on top of her game after being single for several months.
“Mike [her boyfriend] always tells me that it was the first thing he noticed.”
Meanwhile, Mischa has even been known to match-make her own clients — with one couple hooking up after meeting at the salon and falling in lust over the sinks.
“There was a definite chemistry between them and he hung around while I was finishing up her hair,” says Mischa.
“He lives in Williamsburg, she was going to something in Greenpoint. They ended up sharing a cab together and hung out a few nights.”
And it was all chalked up to “The Get Laid Haircut”!
In the interests of research, The Post decided to put the fabled magic Mischa G touch to the test. Three single volunteers received the Get Laid makeover. Here’s what happened:
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Hairdressed Mischa G transformed Amy Distler’s lackluster tresses into textured layers with not-too-perfect-looking bangs.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Amy Distler, 29
Gowanus, Brooklyn
Press and marketing associate for an art gallery
The mission: Last month, Distler broke up with an “emotionally unavailable” boyfriend after almost a year. (Her ex waited nine months before revealing he had three kids and was going through a divorce.) She is cautiously re-entering the dating scene after downloading the popular Tinder app, which offers up potential dates who you can either chat with or disregard depending on their looks and whether you have mutual interests.
The hair: Before her makeover, the willowy blonde admits she was slightly disillusioned with the opposite sex and keen to get a confidence boost. “Maybe my ex will see me in The Post and realize what he’s missing,” says Distler, with a laugh.
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Amy Distler says her date, Dean McCarthy, 36, didn’t recognize her and was confused (but charmed) by her new bangs as she didn’t have them in her original Tinder picture.Photo: Stephen Yang
“I want to give her a more tousled, bed-hair Brigitte Bardot kind of look,” says Mischa. “Sometimes it just takes a different eye — a new person instead of your regular hairstylist — to come up with a new idea.”
She softened Amy’s look by creating bangs, adding “subtle nuances” by straight-edge razoring sections of hair around her eyes and mouth to emphasize her facial features. Then she added “Kate Moss-style waves” to create a devil-may-care look. “Guys shy away from high maintenance and fuss,” says Mischa. “Amy looks more natural and fun and sexy this way.”
The verdict: Distler’s dinner date that night, Dean McCarthy, failed to recognize her when she walked into the restaurant as he’d only seen a photograph of her beforehand on Tinder. Then it was compliments all around. “I’d been contemplating bangs for some time now and Mischa helped me dive right in, ” says Distler. “They definitely made me feel more sexy and sophisticated.” She adds that putting herself in Mischa’s hands made a difference because she wasn’t given the chance to over-think and went with the flow.
Did she get laid? “Let’s just say we went for a second date the following day,” says Amy coyly. She and Dean have been going strong ever since. “The conversation is great, and he’s an excellent kisser,” she adds. “Two very important parts of dating someone!”
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Drummer Jamie Ingalls used to cut his own hair, but thanks to Mischa he now rocks a tidier image and hotter sex life.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Jamie Ingalls, 29
Bushwick, Brooklyn
Professional musician and pizza maker
The mission: He knows he has to clean up his act after splitting with his girlfriend a month ago and getting back into the “dating scene,” a term which makes him cringe.
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Bumble & Bumble salon workers Helen Walker (left) and Faith David gave Jamie Ingall’s new look the seal of approval.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
“Truthfully, I don’t really go on dates,” he says. “I’m more into meeting someone at a show or bar because that’s where I am more likely to meet the kind of girls I like.”
The hair: Ingalls sheepishly admits that he doesn’t get his hair cut professionally. “I don’t really see the point in paying money for something I can do myself,” he says. Unfortunately, it shows.
“Women like the unkempt look like Jamie’s, but it has to be a controlled, artful type of unkempt,” says Mischa. Ingalls’s brown curly locks were carefully trimmed and the mass of unruly hair at the back of his neck contoured into his neck. Mischa buzzed his beard and he emerged sexier, suave and more sophisticated. “The new cut definitely draws more attention to his gorgeous brown eyes,” says Mischa. “It opens up his face and makes him more approachable.”
The verdict: “I’m pretty into it,” says Ingalls, “The response has been pretty positive.”
Did he get laid? “Yep, the night of the make-over,” admits Ingalls, who went to go see his younger brother, Jake, perform in the band The Flaming Lips, before heading home with the lucky lady.
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Management consultant Jo Lim says her hairstyle lacked volume and movement and she felt “stuck in a rut.” Now, she gets cat calls in the street.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Jo Lim, 36
Brooklyn Heights, Brooklyn
Management consultant
The mission: While Lim is seeing a man, the arrangement isn’t exclusive yet — “we haven’t had the chat,” she laughs — and she is keen to rev up her sex appeal
The hair: British import Lim admits she’s in a hair rut. She’s had the same style for years and, though she doesn’t want a radical change — “I can’t go short, it doesn’t suit my face type,” she insists — agrees with Mischa that a softer, wavier look would make her look more feminine.
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Jo Lim turned heads on her night out in Brooklyn after her fabulous makeover.Photo: Anne Wermiel
“A wave and a touch of curl really makes you more approachable,” says Mischa. “In my experience, guys like anything which isn’t too tidy. You [should] look like you care about how you look but don’t obsess over it.”
Mischa used a straight-edged razor to add texture to Lim’s hair and cut shorter strands around her eyes, again drawing attention to her best features. Next she created waves with a curling wand.
The verdict: Mischa certainly injected some va-va voom into Lim’s look. The result was a fuller, bouncier version of her original style with height around the crown and sexy tendrils of hair. “I’m not usually the type to get catcalls, but I actually got a few of them along the street walking home from the Meatpacking District,” says Lin, who is fully immersed in the New York dating scene, which she describes as “very different from London — there are so many strange rules about how you’re supposed to behave!” She met one of her gay BFFs that night for a drink and definitely passed the test with him. “He was really impressed,” says Lim. “Let’s hope it has the same effect on straight guys.”
Did she get laid? “I’m English and quite reserved so I won’t answer that,” laughs Lim, who nevertheless spent the weekend at the Austin City Limits Music Festival and had an “awesome time.”
Bumble and bumble
415 W 13th St
8th Fl
(between 9th Ave & Washington St)
New York, NY 10014
(212) 521-6500
bumbleandbumble.com/salons/
“Your haircut got me a threesome!” texts Philip McElroy, a 21-year-old Hunter College student. A few seconds later, he follows up with: “Next time, I’ll give you a bigger tip!”
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Stylist Mischa G’s own bright yellow-dyed hair comes down to her waist and gives her a larger-than-life Jessica Rabbit-style sex appeal.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Reviews like this are all in a day’s work for the Bumble and Bumble stylist, who sported a distinctive bright yellow-dyed beehive when she spoke with The Post but likes to change up her look every day.
Thirty-year-old Mischa Gobie (professionally, she goes by the initial G for her last name) is the creator of “The Get Laid Haircut,” a term she coined herself.
Unlike “The Rachel,” “The Kate” or “The Clooney,” the GLH is not modeled on a celebrity. “The look” varies from person to person, and might include a sultry bang here, a straytendril there.
Ask any Mischa devotee and they’ll swear it gets results in the bedroom. Fireworks might not necessarily explode the same day — “actually, most people find they look their best after it [the style] has settled down a bit on day two or day three,” she stresses.
New York City matchmaker Amy Van Doran is so convinced by the powers of “The Get Laid Haircut,” she instructs all her clients to shell out $110 for the complete cut and blow-out package, which usually amounts to $150 including tip, before sending them out on dates.
“She just has this amazing talent for knowing what will flatter the shape of their face and bone structure,” says Van Doren. The duo has a quid-pro-quo arrangement wherein they send business each other’s way.
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Philip McElroy ditched his “stupid scruffy” image for a cleaned-up look that bagged him a threesome.Photo: Brian Ach
“Crazy things seem to happen to people after they’ve seen Mischa. It’s just a massive shot of confidence,” adds Van Doren.
The Buffalo, NY, native started her hairdressing career upstate after graduating college. She moved to New York City and joined Bumble & Bumble six years ago.
“I get a lot of my inspiration from a bunch of drag queens who were my clients upstate,” reveals Mischa. “They aren’t necessarily the most confident people in the world, but they learn how to build up their confidence by altering their appearance.
“I’m a firm believer in the theory: ‘fake it until you make it’ — look and behave like you are fabulous and,after a while, you will be.”
Although she is in a “wonderfully confusing and complicated” relationship with a man who laps up her quirky style — one day, she’ll wear her tresses in schoolgirl braids, the next, they’re up in an Amy Winehouse-style bun — she is constantly hit on because of her hair.
“It’s a great conversation starter,” adds Mischa, who has around 300 clients on her books.
She came up with the term, “The Get Laid Haircut,” a couple years ago after so many of her customers shared stories of their conquests after she did their hair. Since then her business has taken off through word of mouth.
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Mischa injected Lisa Pomery’s straight hair with some va-va voom; Lisa’s boyfriend was blown away by her “mermaid” curls created on the day they met.Photo: Brian Ach
Lisa Pomery, 33, a marketing specialist from the Bronx who is another Mischa disciple, met her now live-in boyfriend the same night as her hair appointment last year.
“I’d stopped by to get my hair cut before an event and Mischa gave me what I now call ‘mermaid waves’,” recalls Pomery, who at the time hadn’t been feeling on top of her game after being single for several months.
“Mike [her boyfriend] always tells me that it was the first thing he noticed.”
Meanwhile, Mischa has even been known to match-make her own clients — with one couple hooking up after meeting at the salon and falling in lust over the sinks.
“There was a definite chemistry between them and he hung around while I was finishing up her hair,” says Mischa.
“He lives in Williamsburg, she was going to something in Greenpoint. They ended up sharing a cab together and hung out a few nights.”
And it was all chalked up to “The Get Laid Haircut”!
In the interests of research, The Post decided to put the fabled magic Mischa G touch to the test. Three single volunteers received the Get Laid makeover. Here’s what happened:
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Hairdressed Mischa G transformed Amy Distler’s lackluster tresses into textured layers with not-too-perfect-looking bangs.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Amy Distler, 29
Gowanus, Brooklyn
Press and marketing associate for an art gallery
The mission: Last month, Distler broke up with an “emotionally unavailable” boyfriend after almost a year. (Her ex waited nine months before revealing he had three kids and was going through a divorce.) She is cautiously re-entering the dating scene after downloading the popular Tinder app, which offers up potential dates who you can either chat with or disregard depending on their looks and whether you have mutual interests.
The hair: Before her makeover, the willowy blonde admits she was slightly disillusioned with the opposite sex and keen to get a confidence boost. “Maybe my ex will see me in The Post and realize what he’s missing,” says Distler, with a laugh.
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Amy Distler says her date, Dean McCarthy, 36, didn’t recognize her and was confused (but charmed) by her new bangs as she didn’t have them in her original Tinder picture.Photo: Stephen Yang
“I want to give her a more tousled, bed-hair Brigitte Bardot kind of look,” says Mischa. “Sometimes it just takes a different eye — a new person instead of your regular hairstylist — to come up with a new idea.”
She softened Amy’s look by creating bangs, adding “subtle nuances” by straight-edge razoring sections of hair around her eyes and mouth to emphasize her facial features. Then she added “Kate Moss-style waves” to create a devil-may-care look. “Guys shy away from high maintenance and fuss,” says Mischa. “Amy looks more natural and fun and sexy this way.”
The verdict: Distler’s dinner date that night, Dean McCarthy, failed to recognize her when she walked into the restaurant as he’d only seen a photograph of her beforehand on Tinder. Then it was compliments all around. “I’d been contemplating bangs for some time now and Mischa helped me dive right in, ” says Distler. “They definitely made me feel more sexy and sophisticated.” She adds that putting herself in Mischa’s hands made a difference because she wasn’t given the chance to over-think and went with the flow.
Did she get laid? “Let’s just say we went for a second date the following day,” says Amy coyly. She and Dean have been going strong ever since. “The conversation is great, and he’s an excellent kisser,” she adds. “Two very important parts of dating someone!”
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Drummer Jamie Ingalls used to cut his own hair, but thanks to Mischa he now rocks a tidier image and hotter sex life.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Jamie Ingalls, 29
Bushwick, Brooklyn
Professional musician and pizza maker
The mission: He knows he has to clean up his act after splitting with his girlfriend a month ago and getting back into the “dating scene,” a term which makes him cringe.
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Bumble & Bumble salon workers Helen Walker (left) and Faith David gave Jamie Ingall’s new look the seal of approval.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
“Truthfully, I don’t really go on dates,” he says. “I’m more into meeting someone at a show or bar because that’s where I am more likely to meet the kind of girls I like.”
The hair: Ingalls sheepishly admits that he doesn’t get his hair cut professionally. “I don’t really see the point in paying money for something I can do myself,” he says. Unfortunately, it shows.
“Women like the unkempt look like Jamie’s, but it has to be a controlled, artful type of unkempt,” says Mischa. Ingalls’s brown curly locks were carefully trimmed and the mass of unruly hair at the back of his neck contoured into his neck. Mischa buzzed his beard and he emerged sexier, suave and more sophisticated. “The new cut definitely draws more attention to his gorgeous brown eyes,” says Mischa. “It opens up his face and makes him more approachable.”
The verdict: “I’m pretty into it,” says Ingalls, “The response has been pretty positive.”
Did he get laid? “Yep, the night of the make-over,” admits Ingalls, who went to go see his younger brother, Jake, perform in the band The Flaming Lips, before heading home with the lucky lady.
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Management consultant Jo Lim says her hairstyle lacked volume and movement and she felt “stuck in a rut.” Now, she gets cat calls in the street.Photo: Tamara Beckwith
Jo Lim, 36
Brooklyn Heights, Brooklyn
Management consultant
The mission: While Lim is seeing a man, the arrangement isn’t exclusive yet — “we haven’t had the chat,” she laughs — and she is keen to rev up her sex appeal
The hair: British import Lim admits she’s in a hair rut. She’s had the same style for years and, though she doesn’t want a radical change — “I can’t go short, it doesn’t suit my face type,” she insists — agrees with Mischa that a softer, wavier look would make her look more feminine.
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Jo Lim turned heads on her night out in Brooklyn after her fabulous makeover.Photo: Anne Wermiel
“A wave and a touch of curl really makes you more approachable,” says Mischa. “In my experience, guys like anything which isn’t too tidy. You [should] look like you care about how you look but don’t obsess over it.”
Mischa used a straight-edged razor to add texture to Lim’s hair and cut shorter strands around her eyes, again drawing attention to her best features. Next she created waves with a curling wand.
The verdict: Mischa certainly injected some va-va voom into Lim’s look. The result was a fuller, bouncier version of her original style with height around the crown and sexy tendrils of hair. “I’m not usually the type to get catcalls, but I actually got a few of them along the street walking home from the Meatpacking District,” says Lin, who is fully immersed in the New York dating scene, which she describes as “very different from London — there are so many strange rules about how you’re supposed to behave!” She met one of her gay BFFs that night for a drink and definitely passed the test with him. “He was really impressed,” says Lim. “Let’s hope it has the same effect on straight guys.”
Did she get laid? “I’m English and quite reserved so I won’t answer that,” laughs Lim, who nevertheless spent the weekend at the Austin City Limits Music Festival and had an “awesome time.”
Bumble and bumble
415 W 13th St
8th Fl
(between 9th Ave & Washington St)
New York, NY 10014
(212) 521-6500
bumbleandbumble.com/salons/
Wednesday, November 27, 2013
PERSONAL: WHERE ARE YOU?
I feel you beside me,but turn around to find no one there.Your presence is near, but you are only God knows where.At times I wish I could have you near, just so I may kiss your tears away and say,"everything will be ok".At times I just want you to be here and comfort me when all isn't right, and then we both tuck away to bed, asleep in our arms just where we should be,Feeling we could stay that way for eternity.I know where I want you, But know you can't be for there is a reason greater than me. Why do you have my heart, why is it you? Oh angel of mine, please stay pure of heart and pure of body 'til I can be with you again in time.
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