DATING: DATING AN OLDER MAN....

So I recently heard that John Stamos is going to be a dad! He is 54 and his fiancée Caitlin McHugh is 31. If a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is YEARS OLDER?  

Have you ever heard the saying, “Certain things get better with age”? That’s definitely true when dating older men...this is why dating older men in my opinion is better:


1. Experienced and cultured...

Men are like wine. They get better with age. Their experiences in life, at work and in previous relationships have taught them a lot of life lessons to make their situation better than before. They are more mature now to understand that things don’t always happen the way they want them to and so they are more understanding and patient with their partners. They know what they want and they go for it. They are very confident and so they carry themselves very well especially in public. They are generally well-mannered. They have been to several places in the past and so they know a lot of things about other cultures. Older men are also better when it comes to handling their finances. They have lived long enough to be self-sufficient and to know how to handle their money very well. So if you are dating an older guy, do not be wasteful of money. He earned every penny through hard work and he wouldn’t like it if you spend it carelessly on things that don’t really matter.


2. Women date older men for practical reasons

Now this is the financial aspect which, by the way, is an important aspect of every relationship. Let’s face it, women look for men who have the capacity to support financially. It is not about being a gold-digger or a social climber. It is all about practicality. When you start a family for example, it is important that the man is able to provide security. A self-sufficient woman will not easily settle for anything less than what she earns. In logical perspective, a typical guy of late 30’s will have less savings or less wealth and assets accumulated compared to what he’s become 20 years later. That is considering that he continued to work and save as he gets older. In this regard, an older man has enough assets and money in the bank to support a family. This is why women go for financially-stable men instead of those who are still generally starting with their career. Money is not everything in a relationship but without money the relationship is bound to fail at some point especially when there are kids involved in the relationship already. I am not saying that women should depend on their partner financially. Women don't date just for the sake of dating. They are also thinking of the future...


3. Older Men May Be Better in Terms of Pleasing and Handling Women

In my opinion though, older men have had their fair share of both short-lived and more stable relationships and this gives them a bit of an advantage when it comes to handling relationships. Their previous experiences have helped them learn what women generally want and what makes women happy. Not only do they know more in bed but they also understand women a little bit better. They are more sensitive to their partner's needs. They are generous in bed and they are passionate lovers. Older men tend to be more romantic as well. They have good sense of humor that does not involve shaming their friends or whatever. They’ve already slept with a girl who was infinitely hotter than you, and a girl that was infinitely less attractive than you. They’ve had their heart broken a million times already. The best sex you ever will have will be with an older man.


4. Older Men Generally Look for a Serious Relationship

Men mature much later than women  This is where they seek for a more stable and healthy relationship. Playtime is over and it is time for them to be serious with their life. This is the age where they usually have pieced their life altogether and they are now ready for a more serious and deeper commitment. Women who are tired of short-lived and immature relationships can find a more satisfying and more stable relationship with an older guy than a guy in his late 30’s for example. Younger men are still in their vigorous stage where they are easily tempted. They are still at an age where they love to explore and try different things before settling on something more serious. So if a girl feels that she is ready to tie the knot, or when she is ready for a serious commitment and start a family, a younger man is just not the right person for her.There's absolutely no denying that a man who is older than you is definitely more mature than the one who is either your age, or younger. And thank god for that! Because honestly, dealing with immature guys is like taking care of a man child, and no woman's got time for that.


5. Older Men Have More Sophisticated Taste

When it comes to the finer things in life like wine, food, beer, traveling and clothes, older men tend to choose the more sophisticated ones. First, they can afford it and second they just know that it is better quality. They also know however, that when it comes to food and drinks quality does not always come with a price. You don’t need to eat at a 5-star restaurant to be able to enjoy your food. You can find an affordable place that serves a 5-star quality food and drinks with much better service as well. When travelling, older men avoid touristy places because they know that they won’t get authentic products for the right price and they won’t be able to enjoy the scenery with the entire crowd roaming around. They understand "value for money". They are happy to sit in one corner where you have all the view to yourself …now that takes careful planning, timing and experience...and older men as experienced travelers, know that.


7. Older Men Generally Live a Healthy Lifestyle

8-His manners will bowl you over

If your man is older than you, you know what I'm talking about. The respect with which they treat you is unseen among men in their  30s. And these gentlemen can bowl you over with tiny gestures like opening a door, and holding your hand when crossing the road. These definitely count.

9-Your conversations will be of this world and beyond

Since your man is older, he's seen the world and more people than you have. And he knows how to carry on a conversation - from gossiping to talking about politics, to the workings of the world and the plans he has for the two of you, this man can talk about everything and anything under the sun.



So, if you're thinking about dating a younger woman, here are five things you should bear in mind before doing so:

1. The Power Dynamic Is Skewed

"Power dynamic" is a term that recognizes that power in social relationships can come from many sources: money, age, prestige, class, and so on. Speaking in general terms, older people have more social power than younger people, and, in a variety of demonstrable ways and despite measurable progress in this area, men have more power than women. Hence, when you combine the two variables — an older man and a younger woman — the power dynamic favors the older man. The bigger the age gap between you, and the younger she is, the more skewed the power dynamic will be in your favor. If she doesn't respect that, she isn't the right one for you



2. She Is, By Definition, Not Mature

A young woman can be smart, witty and worldly, but she is, by definition, not mature or experienced. Certain life experiences and personal qualities only come from being alive on earth for a decent length of time, so if you are considering dating a woman who you would otherwise think is too young but for the fact that she's "really mature for her age," stop kidding yourself. If your prospective partner is fresh out of collegel having never weathered a job loss, heartbreak or any of the other hallmarks of adult life, 

3. She Might Be Expecting Too Much From You

Stereotypically speaking, when a young woman dates an older man she may have a few qualities in mind that she expects you to have: financial security, maturity and gentlemanliness, for example. She may think that guys her own age are immature and directionless, and be looking for an older guy to provide more stability for her.

The only way you can figure this stuff out is to talk openly about your expectations. If she's seeking a guy who will open car doors for her and order Champagne at every restaurant you visit, you're going to need to be straight with her if you're not going to be providing that for her. Let her know that you're a person she'll be dating, not a weird father figure or security blanket. Likewise, she can let you know that she's a human woman with flaws and insecurities, not a hot babe who will never "burden" you with a single emotional need.

5. You May Not Want The Same Things From Life

Let's say you're not burdened by the above issues: she has a realistic idea of what she expects from older men, and you in particular; and vice versa. You're not looking for a flawless one-dimensional sex doll and she's not looking for a sugar daddy either — you're just two regular people who like each other and clicked, If your significant other is an amazing person who you mesh with well, but you simply aren't looking for the same things (she just wants to party, you're ready to start thinking about settling down and having kids, for example), it's just not going to work out. These issues can, of course, affect couples who are the same age and who have different priorities,


However, if a young woman is into older men, it’s usually comes down to one of the following reasons:

-She likes how girly he makes her feel because he is so masculine.
-She is more emotionally mature than guys her age, so she feels more compatible with older guys.
-She prefers having sex with guys who are experienced.
-She has a “daddy complex” and likes to be a man who will give her the love that she didn’t get f-rom her father.
She prefers guys who are more financially established.