SPIRITUAL: HOW DO I FIND MY SOULMATE USING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

"How do I find my soulmate? Let's see how using the Law of Attraction can help.

Step 1: Forgive the Past

This is a big one for many people. So many people who wonder why they are not manifesting a good relationship. They are still obsessing about a past relationship that absorbs their attention, generating disappointment, anger, resentment and other negative emotions.

You cannot be emotionally available as long as you are still living in the past. Remember the Law of Attraction will give you more of what you are focusing on. So, as hard as it is, you must let the old, broken relationships go. Wish your ex-girlfriend, ex-wife well and send her on their way to a better life. How do you do this?

Stop talking about this person
Stop allowing yourself to be angry at this person
Stop feeling victimized over how you were treated
<>Summary: Stop giving it your attention. Take your power back and stop letting this situation control you

Instead:

Wish that person well
Be thankful for the lesson they have brought you to deal with which will make you a better person - it will teach you the importance of forgiveness, if you let it.
See releasing this old situation taking you one step closer to attracting your Perfect Mate.
Summary: Ah! Isn't that soooooo much better? Phew! Let's move on...


If you find letting go of bad relationships is a problem, you are not yet ready for a new relationship. You are still dealing with your own issues of pain, rejection and anger. Focusing on these things will not allow you to bring their opposites. The Law of Attraction will not allow it. You cannot bring positive things and people in your life if you are focused only on the negative. You will only bring more of the negative.

Then people talk about the need to "get closure". Getting closure is as simple as never thinking about that relationship again. Period. Block it out. Still thinking about it? Change the subject in your head. Period. Period. Period. There's your closure. You don't need anyone's permission or justification to move on. Just move on.



Step 2: Write down a list of the ideal qualities you wish for in a perfect mate

Be honest with yourself. List the ideal qualities, not what you feel you can "put up with". The Universe likes specifics.

Use Contrast to help you find the right qualities.

Contrast is all crappy stuff you didn't like in the past relationships. Let me explain something here - you are not focusing on these or writing them down. Instead use the contrast from past relationships and switch them to their opposites and write that down. Here are some ideas:

Dated a cheapskate in the past? Use that as inspiration to ask for what you really want: "My Perfect Mate is generous, giving and prosperous."
Had a problem with a cheater?

Try this one: "My Perfect Mate is loyal and loving to me. She values me and supports me in every waypossible."

Tend to attract married and unavailable? How about, "My Perfect Mate is single, available and ready for a long-term relationship".



Step 3: Eliminate Self-sabotage

This is another big one. You may feel you are not be ready for a new relationship because of your own fears and concerns. Or you may be thinking you will not find a perfect relationship at all. In your case, try some "pre-affirmations". See if you recognize something here you can use:

"Please God, give me the strength, understanding, patience and all other qualities I need to be the Perfect Partner."
"I am a Child of God, the Universe, Spirit, etc.) and manifesting Perfect Love is my Divine Birthright."
"I radiate harmony, love, trust and friendship to all I meet."
"I love my body. I am sexy, slim and attractive. I am a woman-magnet."
"The Universe knows what I need in a Perfect Mate and is paving the way for the two of us to meet and recognize each other."

Step 4: Affirm and Visualize What You Want

Twice a day, morning and night, go over your list and recite it out loud. Feel the passion and desire as you read off the qualities you have accumulated. Feel free to add or edit the list if you think of other great qualities. Visualize yourself and your new partner at the beach having a great time. Visualize the two of you in ... uh... intimate moments.

Step 5: Allow the Universe to work its magic

The Universe needs a little time to do it's thing. You need to trust that it is on the job and working behind the scenes, regardless of how things appear on the outside. This means don't worry about how you will meet this person or what the circumstances are. That is none of your concern - it is irrelevant and just causes you to focusing something other than the manifestation itself.

The Universe will find the fastest, quickest and most direct way of bringing the two of you together. When you meet this person, there will be no doubt - for either of you.

Step 6: Express Your Gratitude

Be grateful for all the signs that the Universe is fulfilling your request for perfect love, whether it be someone at work inviting you to lunch or the pizza man flirting with you. You are drawing people to you, so take your time and wait for the right one.

Manifestations often show small signs of manifesting before they deliver the big one. Never doubt the process. Trust that it is happening and continue your affirmations. And be grateful at all signs of manifestation.

Step 7: Be Vigilant, Be Persistent

After you start seeing signs of your manifestation, after you meet this Perfect Person, be sure to keep up the affirmations. Change or update them, if you need to.

"All things between my Perfect Mate and myself are peaceful, compatible and harmonious"
"My Perfect Mate and I are the best of friends"
"My Perfect Mate and I express our love for each other freely and warmly"
"My Perfect Mate is supportive of me and helps me achieve my dreams"

The tendency is to stop once we get what we want. The problem with this is that eventually doubt and our old negative ways start to set in and we start to manifest problems in the relationship because we start distrusting our partner or the process that brought him/her to us.





Present Tense Affirmations
I am attracting my soul mate
I believe deeply that I will attract my soul mate
My soul mate is strongly attracted to me
My mind is totally focused on attracting my soul mate
I am already connected deeply to my soul mate
I always radiate a loving and inviting energy
Others are drawn to me because of my positive energy
I deserve to find my soul mate
My soul mate and I are destined to be together
There is an unbreakable bond between my soul mate and I



Future Tense Affirmations
My soul mate and I will be together
I will find my soul mate and we will live happily ever after
I am attracting my soul mate more with each day
I will attract my soul mate
A positive loving energy is growing between myself and my soul mate
I am beginning to feel deeply that I will meet my soul mate soon
Each day the energy between my soul mate and I grows stronger
I believe more each day that I will find my perfect partner
My soul mate is beginning to sense our connection
I will know my soul mate the instant we meet



Natural Affirmations
I believe in my ability to attract my soul mate
I find it easy to give off positive and loving energy to others
I can sense deeply that there is 1 special person I am meant to be with
Being warm, loving, and loveable is just a natural part of who I am
Others see me as someone they’d like to get to know more
There is a magical connection between my soul mate and I
My Soul mate and I are being drawn together
My soul mate and I are just meant to be together
When I meet my soul mate, I’ll just naturally know
I effortlessly radiate positive and loving energy





 see you clearly with the eyes of pure, unconditional love. I love what I see.
My marriage/relationship made in heaven is made manifest on earth.
I am in a joyous, intimate relationship.
Every day in every way our marriage is getting better, better and better.
My partner and I are very much in love with each other.
My partner and I arefully compatible and perfectly aligned physically.
My partner and I arefully compatible and perfectly aligned sexually.
My partner and I arefully compatible and perfectly aligned emotionally.
My partner and I are fully compatible and perfectly aligned intellectually.
My partner and I are fully compatible and perfectly aligned spiritually.
I draw love and romance into my life and I accept it now.
My partner is loyal to me.
I am magnetic and irresistible to my partner.
I radiate pure, unconditional love towards my partner.
From time to time I ask my husband, "How can I love you more?"
I choose to see my husband clearly with the eyes of love and compassion, I love what I see.
Love happens! I release the desperate need for love. I release the need for my partner to approve of me. I allow love to find me easily and effortlessly.
Love is all around me. I feel everywhere. Joy fills my entire world.
I was born to learn to love myself more, and to share that love with people around me.
My partner is the love of my life and we adore each other.
I rejoice in the love I encounter everyday.
I now deserve love, romance, and joy--and all the blessings that life has to offer me.
Love is all there is!
Only love is real.
I radiate pure, unconditional love towards my partner.
I am safe in all my relationships. I am always treated well.
Long-lasting, loving relationships brighten my life.
I am very grateful for all the love in my life. I find it everywhere.
I am surrounded by love. All is well.
My heart is open to love. I speak loving words to my spouse.
I have a wonderful partner, and we are both happy and at peace.
I come from the loving space of my heart, and I know that love opens new possibilities.
There is no problem so big or so small, that it cannot be solved with love.
Deep at the center of my being is an infinite well of love.
I am in a joyous intimate relationship with a person who truly loves me.
My relationships are mirrors that show me myself.
I am now learning from all my relationships.
I laugh with my husband more and more each day.
My relationships are helping me to heal and love myself.
I am strong, vulnerable, and loving in my relationships.
I deserve love and sexual pleasure.
All is well in my marriage. Really.
I am now ready to accept a happy, fulfilling relationship.
I am now ready for my relationships to work.
I love myself and I naturally attract loving relationships into my life.
I am now attracting exactly the kind of relationship I want.
I am now divinely irresistible to my perfect mate.
All difficulties between me and ________ are now being healed.
The more I love myself, the more I love ___________.
I love ____________ and____________ loves me.
All of the changes in my marriage and life are positive. I am safe.
I am open to receiving love and to extending it.
I interact with my husband positively and joyfully more and more each day.
I/We remain focused on the big picture in our marriage.
Giving my husband unconditional love makes me feel energized.
I enjoy performing small acts of kindness for my husband. I love to see joy on his face.
I always keep a sense of humor about things in my marriage.
I am always centered and in present moment in my life and marriage.
I accept, respect, and enjoy our differences. Differences add interest and variety to my marriage.
I look for ways to contribute to my partner's growth and happiness. I support my partner in their goals unselfishly, knowing that it will make them happy.
I respect what my partner has to say. I listen to my partner with genuine interest. I offer empathy when appropriate.
I desire love, so I give my partner love.
I desire respect, so I give my partner respect.
I desire cooperation, so I give my partner cooperation.
I desire compassion, so I give my partner compassion.
I desire control, so I give my partner control!
For women:

I am feminine and full of grace.
I am feminine and receptive.
I possess great inner-strength.
I am fully receptive and appreciative for all the love that my partner showers upon me.
I release excessive control. I live and let live in my marriage.
I am receptive to my husband's romantic advances.
I greatly admire and respect my husband for all that he is.
I admire and respect my partner because ...
I verbalize my respect and admiration for my partner daily.
My yin/feminine energy blends perfectly and beautifully with my partner's yang/masculine energy.