LOVE: SLOWNESS AS REJECTION

It's true we need to be very careful with who we go out with. That's why, I think dating should be reserved only to those instances where the two person  involve are really serious in their belief that probably the other person can be their other-half; that they can see themselves in their mind of minds that they can share their whole life with the other. If they can't find peace in their hearts in their decision to be with this person, then that person is not for them. Absolutely! The sole idea of never been loved again is frightening. Why are  people so afraid to share their love with others. Why are there always high expectations of someone. I mean every person is lovable in their own  particular way. Nobody has the time to share an empty space in time. Everybody seeks "the instant attraction " which is not only impossible but  non-existent in many cases. You don't become "the one" or someone's best friend from a day to another. Things take time, space and patience. Nobody could never imagine why you smile alone in the middle of a long ride  on the subway, nobody will ever know why you prefer 2 sugars instead of three in your coffee, or know the routine you have after getting out of the shower or your secret fantasies you get every you ride the train. Small things that make you a whole are slowly discovered and cherish with time. Why are people so skeptical and closed minded? Why can anybody give one a chance. I  have not found someone who has the ability to care on the same level that I do. I can't find anyone who is ready and willing to trust openly and completely in order  to love completely and to give 100% to one another always. I don't  understand why this is such an elusive woman. I guess the key to it all is finding someone who truly wants to be in a relationship and love someone with everything that is in them.  I stopped believing in first impressions because I feel that a person openly expresses themselves as time passes and they become more comfortable with you. Slowness to me is  rejection