Once Upon a time, people would date for love and commitment. Now they are just shopping for someone who can help them get ahead in life. They will become serial dater…thinking that they will get closer and closer to the best. Whatever best mean to them. It's not that there is no one out there for them. People are everywhere. Their problem is they have not found worth anyone attractive enough, polished enough, or wealthy enough. Finding your soulmate is not about making a list of what they can being in the table-those are all superficial stuff. You go to find your soulmate because you are missing something in your life. This is what I found out in my life. I was convinced for the longest time that my job provided me with satisfaction and because I was so good at. what I was doing, I would hold out for the best. And when I felt lonely, I would simply go buy something or go out with my friends. I was self-sufficient. I was looking for someone who can either match or at least complement my contribution. Boy, was I stupid. To me relationship can be as unpredictable as the most suspense-filled mystery .novel. People start out being physically attracted and having similar interest and values. But eventually, they may notice something missing in the relationship.That is why i don't believe in chemistry. That something I think that is missing, iscompatablily. That is why couples that seem likely to thrive gotten do no, and couples that seem unlikely may have similar outlooks, but if one longs to be lo be recuse like Julia Roberts in Pretty Women and other want a partnership like some lawyers television show. I think what is most important to a relationship is that both partners having compatible exception Here are some of my exception...l believe sacrifice is a key part of true love. I cannot never be happy with partner who is not very adventurous in her sex life. I believe that beginning a relationship is like starting a new journey that promise to be both exciting an challenging. I believe that love is l.ike a secret garden because I believe that is left unattended will not survive at alt. Finding your soulmate is not about making list of what they can bring in the table- A soulmate ends your loneliness and make you fee like the most special person in the world. Love is salvation.....how do I know..because T was in love twice. Love takes away the pain and make life a celebration. I am not afraid to acknowledge my dependency on other. I am not afraid to tell a women that more than loving and admiring her, I need her and cannot live without her. To me life is tough enough, but the thought of my lover, the knowledge that she exists, that she belongs to me and that she loves me is enough to take away any pain that I may experience in life. She would appreciate me for what I am rather than what I can do for her. I would gain strength from knowing that she is out there. I would want to share with her everything I experience. I would immediately want to tell her all the things that happen to me throughout the day. She would complement me in the deepest way. What I caiee lacked, she being to life. But you know what I see out there...Everyone seem to want to be sure they are dating the right person. Everyone want the best. They can have the best car, best clothes, best dinner. They think that because they are successful mother endeavors, they are entitled to the very best human being that God created. So why shouldn't the person they are going out with be the best member of the opposite sex as well? And isn't it something that you deserve? Do you see how these people live in their-ego. The problem with these same people is that just as they tie the knot with their partner, their biggest fear is that somebody better will come along. Dating endlessly in the pursuit of something slightly better, handsomer, or prettier.Making it impossible for them to truly in their hearts commit to one. There will always be someone who is taller, prettier, richer, thinner. I don't want to be compared and evaluated as thought I'm an acquisition. I am not advocating that you lower your standards. I am just suggesting that you find someone who makes you feel special. That is what I am looking for, I will see her fault. She is not perfect, but she is perfect for me. For it doesn't matter at all what she lacks, what I (to know is that I need her. (No. I am not talking about CO-dependence here) Humility is important to me. To most people getting involve is a first a measure of their worth, only when they 're sure their potential mate measures up do they give themselves over to the pleasure of love.
What if someone even better come into their life 20 min after they got engaged? Up close to the person that they are thinking of marry ing, they are acutely aware of flaws. Off in the distance looms the rosy, ego-enhancing possibility of perfection. They find it a very difficult vision flaws you face more than the problem of how to cope with these (laws throughout the eternity of a marriage.They will start to wondering and worry..."What does it mean about me? Why did I settle?" Through some combination of love, timing, luck, and suitability, most of them will probably marry. These ' individual with big ego won't be able to stay when things get tough They will not be able to be loyal. Your job would be forever to build them up and let me tell you,..it gets exhausting, after a while .Inside each of individual with a sense of superiority is an insecure little person. And this sense of thinking that they are better than anyone is the drive that makes them feel good. They feel good about themself by winning the love and admiration of others. Ah, but no loved by, just anyone, not admired just anywhere. They are on a constant quest to want love, approval, and admiration from only the most worthy sources. And person is either rich, famous or popular or smart person - values them. They must be valuable. I can truly understand where they are coming from. When we buy beautiful.clothes;; or finally buy the Porsche. or get invited to the classy party, we do feel better about ourselves, in the end, this is all like a leak in your tire. You need a constant flow or complements, flattery, praise to keep it pumped up. You need endless love and approval to keep the good feeling become harder and harder to get. I am not here to build up anyone ego. I want someone to love me for me.-and nothing else. Why do people choose partners based on something changeable like looks.. money, job, sexual prowess-only 'to find the relationship collapse the moment one of those features disappears? If a relationship is based upon shared activities and they cease, then what is left? If the relationship is based on physical attractiveness and accident or age change that, where do they go from there? What happens to a couple whose bond is based on financial freedom if the markets crashes? The person's essence is exactly what you should wart. And hence l am peeling back many layers here. Hooking up with someone is not at all difficult, anyone can link up with another person and say they are a couple. But to form an authentic union.-that is different. So many time before I met a new person—I was ignoring my instincts knowing what will not work. But I convinced myself that my inner radar is wrong or that the other person will change. What I realize is that if I was truer to myself I will hopeful prevent pain. People want a guarantee that they are making the right choice and that this is "it." There are no ' guarantees in life. so the best you can do is search your heart for the truth, and if it tell you that this person is who you want, then you will have to take the leap of faith, I will mention this word a lot. Fear is the absences of trust. When fear is present, the basic of trust in not there and there is no reason to continue. I am always amazed how we draw to us the person who embodies issues that we meet to address in our soul. Each new person who came into my life has expanded my horizons and perspective of my soul and my life and open possibilities in my mind. One ex introduce me to jazz, another was an actress who introduce me to theater...each of them help me to get where I am now,, .but now I am tired of dating so many and wasting time. Don't ask what i do for a living and want more picture of me..-Can't you just love me for you I am. A couple can look good on paper, but real life is more complicated. What matter" are the core values inside. A good relationship make growth more possible, not less, because you have the advice and encouragement of.someone who loves you. Our lives have been made larger in relationship, not smaller, by embracing differences. You learn from each other's virtues and shored up each other's virtues and shored up each other's weakness. Both are better people together than separate. I look back at my past relationship and i ask my—-What is it that really love about my partner? Is it her body? Yes.-her body pleases me, and I am drawn to the ways it moves, feels, smells, and tastes. Yet if her body were to fail. if she gain weight or even ill, I might not find It as pleasing, but I would still love her nonetheless. So if it's not her body I love, perhaps its the way she is in her body. who is the person that inhabits this body? Is it her personality? Her personality is what I know. It please me sometimes and pains me in other ways. It is her soul
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