LOVE: BARE YOURSELF

Many relationship derail because both partners want to be loved while neither wishes to give it. The fear is that if you give love you'll lose something. The reality is that if you're willing to offer another human being the love you secretly crave, it will boomerang back to you. A relationship shouldn't be a power struggle, but a mutual surrender to the other. The happiest couples know that their individual power is partly due to a willingness to give as well as take.

How can you detach from the need to attach? Realize that you're been taught to look outward instead of inward for the source of your happinesss. Realize it but don't judge yourself harshly for subsequently clinging to the person you believe can give you the fulfillment you seek. Looking honestly at yourself take strength and involves pain. But we grow from pain.

The act of opening up and letting someone special, someone you have solid reason to trust, really know you is a risk. It requires more courage and heart than any other human endeavor. There is no guarantee that your bravery and vulnerablity will be rewarded with a happily ever after ending. There is a guarantee that is you guard yourself against love, you will ultimately lose more than you gain. Know that even id the relastionship ultimately doesn't last you'll still be the richer for having allowed another person into your life. Loving and being loved is a journey, not a destination.