THOUGHTS/JOURNAL: THOUGHTS ABOUT MY MARRIAGE

There something happening to me..my wife left and i am unlovable. I failed yet another relationship.

Truth: my wife left me                             False: My wife
left me because I am unlovable.                         She left me over the house

Truth: only my marriage is ending              False: My life is ending

I guess what is brother me is that fact that my wife left me and I find that unacceptable. I am just focusing on my picture of my life.

Being spiritual...i have to believe that everything that happen as it should be. Nothing happens by accident. Right now ..i don't any reason why I must go through this pain..i just don't. It is hard to trust God right now when you are in pain. If i step out of my ego and trust the universe....i would feel better. Why is this happening to me....why am
I being mistreated.
My life shouldn't be like this...I am suppose to be married like everyone else and have kids..and not I am left behind. I am spending all my energy to try to change the outer reality of my life. When we're attach to something...we resist any outcome different from the one we want.

I keep telling myself...this can't be...this is unfair...this is not what is supposed to happen to me. This is not how I planned my life...it's not suppose to look this way and feel this way.

I have to believe that God has my happiness in his or her heart. Although I feel alone...i am part of whole world. I am like a wave of the ocean of GOD.I have to trust that there is a greater plan for me and it will unfolded in time.

You can't force someone to love you if they don't. You can't for someone to be with you if they don't. Everyone has the right to do what they want. I can't force my wife to come back. You can't make someone be honest with you when they want to lie.

I have to let go of this....

What am i resisting in my life? I am resisting being on my own...and be independent.

What am I afraid of? Being homeless and not loved and alone

What will happen If i surrender to this situation? I will have to start cooking for myself, I will be unable to save money, I will have to sleep alone..., i will have to start all over again and date.

Who is getting hurt? ME

What obstacles need to be removed before I can surrender? I guess..my fear that I am unable to handle being alone, that I will die if i am alone, that I don't have the skill to survive...that I will have to work more and do more instead of resting.



The positive things:
-I don't have to take care of her
-Stress level is down
-I don't have to deal with someone who lies to me
-I don't have to deal with someone who doesn't listen to me.
-I have more time for myself


I guess if I let go....and surrender...i will be face with something I can't handle. I have been living in fear...and have constant anxiety. I need to get to the bottom of this: What am i afraid of?

fear of the unknown
fear of doing without
fear of the future...the uncertainty.

1-I will never get married again and I will be alone forever.
2-I will never have a family of my own
3-I will have to start dating again
4-I will be unable to take care of the house myself
5-I am unable to feed and cook for myself.
6-I the clinic close...i don't have a support system
7-I have to start paying for my health insurance
8-I will be unable to save money


If all of my fears came true what steps do i need to take:
1-get on dating sites online
2-learn how to cook online and get cook book
3-if i lose my job...rent the house and use some of the money to rent
an apartment
4-Start saving....