Big A: I am not leaving you
Little A: I am scared..I get frighten...and alone. I will starve and be homeless.
Big A: You won't...i won't let that happen to you.
Little A- i am unable to take care of myself..I don't know how. Where am I going to sleep? Who is going to feed me?
Big A: I will feed you and bath you and you can always sleep with me.
Little A: I am never good enough...that is why everyone leaves me. I am not beautiful enough. Everything I do is always wrong. I am not smart enough. Even mom and daddy said so...all the time to us. We can never get anything right...even the simple thing or big thing. We couldn't get a job without daddy...we couldn't have brought the house without daddy. We couldn't do anything without mom and daddy helps.
Big A: There is nothing wrong with you Homan. I know you always do the best you can. You are who you are..it not like you are lazy. I see you do your best. I see you try not to hurt anyone. I think you are perfect to me. You are so handsome...your beautiful eyes and black hair....always smiling. I love you.
Little A- I can't be myself...i need to fake being someone else. No one like me..when i am me...I have to project a different person.
Big A: You don't have to be anything but yourself with me. I will love you no matter what. Believe me when I tell you this...because it is true.
Little A: Even Laleh thinks she is better than you...and you are older than her.
Big A: Laleh isn't better than you...she is just different.
Little A: Our wife left us...and we were so much better than her in every way possible....looks...money..and family.. What does say about me?
Big A: It doesn't say anything about you. She is making a mistake.
Little Homan: I guess i want affection..or sex because that is how i am preceived as OK. If someone is loving me...then I must be OK...that they want to be with me...that I am not ugly enough to be with.
Big Homan: You aren't ugly. I have seen pictures of you...You are so handsome...very attractive.
Little Homan: You are just saying that.
Big Homan: No i am not...i started to look at pictures and we look OK.
Little Homan: I am trying to be my partner servant so they won't leave me...that they need me.
Big Homan: You don't have to be anyone servant. I will love you when no one will.
Little Homan: Mommy tell me that everything I do is wrong and she just trying to help me.
Big Homan: she has her own issues. She is projecting.
Little Homan: Am I defective? Do i have a defective gene? Because everything I do is constantly wrong!!!!!!!!!
Big Homan: There is no such thing as a defective gene. There is nothing wrong with you.
Little Homan: I am so weak...unable to take care of myself....that is why I constantly need someone.
Big Homan: You need me. You can rely on me.
Little Homan: I can't trust my decision...i am afraid of making mistake and the being attacked and told that I was stupid and I didn't know.
Big Homan: I will support your decision. You know what is best for both us...you always did. You are so smart...
Little Homan: I am constantly in need of mommy approval and daddy approval. Afraid of their criticism.
Little Homan: I don't feel like doing anything ..but sleep
Big Homan: That is not good for you...you can't hide forever
Little Homan: I just can't believe she left me...All i did was to help her..but she would lie to me constantly. I couldn't trust her.
Little Homan: Another weekend is coming and I will be alone
Big Homan: You won't be alone. I will be with you
Little Homan: I feel lost...abandoned like when I got lost in the department store or in the street one time.
Big Homan: But this time you are not a child...you are with me. I will hold you and talk to you..and take care of you.. You know Homan...she didn't really love you and took care of you...our wife. She won't be coming back again...she wasn't good for us. You know that. Instead of her taking care of us...you had to be adult and take care of her constantly....remember. You were constantly stress out.
Little Homan: You are right...I had to act like the adult with her. But why does my heart beat so fast..why am i nervous?
Big Homan: You been hurt...and you think I will leave you...you are worried....but i won't leave you.. I love you.
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