SPIRITUALITY/PERSONAL/LOVE:MOST PEOPLE DON'T RECOGNISE THE PREFECT MATCH

There’s no point whatsoever in an unloving man or woman bemoaning their inability to find a partner. They’re doomed to endless frustration because they don’t recognise the perfect match when it appears. That loving person could be right here, right now, and their resistance doesn’t allow them to see it. The unloving person continues to blame bad luck or external factors for their not having a loving relationship. If no one showed up, it was because you needed to handle something on your own and therefore attracted no one to fulfill your energy level at that time.

Love can only be attracted by and returned by love. 

Spiritually you’re already connected to those you want in your life – so act like it. You share the same Source energy with everyone, and consequently, you must begin to think and act in a way that reflects your awareness of this principle. When you feel the need to have the right person show up, being to change your inner dialogue to reflect this awareness. Rather than saying, I wish this person would show up because I need to get out of this rut, activate a thought that reflects your connection, such as: I know the right person will be arriving in divine order at precisely the perfect time.

It’s all unfolding in divine order. By now you should affirming that everyone you need for this journey of yours will show up, and that they’ll be perfect in every way for whatever needs you have at this time. Furthermore, they’ll arrive at precisely the right moment. In this intelligent system that you’re part of, everything arrives from the field of intention where the infinite, invisible life force flows through everyone and everything. This includes you, and everyone else as well. Trust in this invisible life force and the all-creating mind that intends everything into existence.

Don't believe me?....I suggest that you do a quick review, and note all of the people who’ve shown up as characters in this play called your life. It’s has all been perfect. You may feel that they didn’t show up when you needed them, that in fact, you were alone and no one showed up at all, but I urge you to see it from the perspective of all of life being in divine order. If no one showed up, it was because you needed to handle something on your own and therefore attracted no one to fulfill your energy level at that time. Viewing your past as a play in which all characters and all entrances and exits were scripted by your Source and was what you attracted at the time , frees you from the very low energies of guilt, regret, and revenge.

To be infinitely patient means to have an absolute knowing within you that you’re in vibrational harmony with the all-creating force that intended you here. You are, in fact, a co-creator of your life. You know that the right people will show up on divinely ordained schedule. Attempting to rush the schedule based on your own timetable is akin to getting down on your knees and tugging at an emerging tulip shoot, insisting that you need the flower to grow. Creation reveals its secrets by and by, not according to your agenda.

The immediate result that you’ll receive from your infinite patience is a deep sense of peace. You’ll feel the love of the creation process, you’ll stop making incessant demands, and you’ll start being on the lookout for exactly the right person.

LOVE/DATING/PERSONAL: EVERYTHING WILL HAPPENS AS IT SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN

We’ve heard the phrase “ “Everything happens in God’s time”, but when you’ve been patiently waiting and nothing happens what do you do?  Give up or continue to wait until something magical occurs? At a certain age we’ve done all we can and ready for that moment. The moment where we meet someone that enriches our lives for the better. Someone who changes our way of thinking, feeling and loving. Many people wait a whole lifetime waiting for that “one” to come along. Dismissing a few of the rotten apples, bypassing the not so together and totally ignoring the baggage filled. We search for what we can’t find and complain that we don’t see it. You’re waiting for this miracle of a person to appear, the right person is right there and you can’t see it because you just refuse to believe it was that simple. 

Don’t get me wrong; I do believe patience is a virtue and everything happens in God’s time, but some people have this unrealistic expectation of the “one”.  As I got older and fell in love with the wrong fucking people I realized that what I wanted was so different from what I needed. As I got older I learned that love can take you all the way down and can turn around and build you all the way up. Finding that right person can take as much time as it needs to take, but when it’s suppose to happen it will. The one thing you’ve gotta learn is to keep your options open. All that energy you’re putting into one person and they turn out to be a fraud. This is the mess we face as we wait. The salesmen/saleswomen who try to enter our lives only to  get us open and drain the love from us. Only to misuse it and disrespect it. Hence why there are so many single people today. Too scared to open up, but want to but fear the hurt. 

You might get to the point where you’re ready to give up. Trust me giving up only shows God that you were never ready.  If you aren’t truly ready there is no way to receive what he has to offer. Open your eyes to the beauty of what could be and stop living in the land of doubt. No matter how “ready” you think you are it’s still not going to happen until it’s your time. In the meantime allow yourself to open up to the possibilities you never thought were possibilities. Like I said it all happens in God’s time, but what if she’s shown you but you just refused to see what was right in front of you. 

THOUGHTS/ DATING, LOVE: LOVE WITHOUT ACTION

-A man may say to his wife "I love you" but he beats her and does not provide for her. Does he love her?
-A wife says to her husband "I love you" but when he desires sex she does not agree to it. Does she love him?
-A child says to his parents "I love you" but he disobeys them most of the time. Does he/she love them?

Love must be translated in action, attitude and behavior, otherwise it is just a word without meaning.

LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE

Dear Soulmate,

Your love touched me in a way I have never been touched.It was like God finally sent me an angel. Your love opened my eyes to a whole new world.You were sent here to heal my heart and show me love. I see now you were meant for me. I have never been so happy 'til you found me. For you have touched my heart and made me love again.When one single minute with sixty seconds in it. Can seem like an eternity within the heart of me. It makes me realize how precious to me you are. Those beautiful  eyes that twinkle like the brightest star. I love you with all my heart; I love you with all my soul.I love everything about you;Your love, I truly treasure
Your warmth, your tenderness.Takes me back to those sixty seconds again that I feel within your kiss. There is a place where sun, moon and heavenly stars are there for the asking, Where scenery changes by thought. Where the woman I meet is always you. If, but for a moment,I had closed my eyes it would all have been gone. Such a place, I've come to realize,resides in the heart where soft candles glow, where to home I always go and where the door opens and all the possibilities are there- the wants and desires the hopes and dreams the love for you between today and tomorrow...



You know, love is like a lava lamp trapped in an airless glass jar
and powered by a burning light bulb
it comes in all different shapes and colors
and you can turn it on and off whenever you feel like it

inside, when it's off, it's just a cold lump of mass
it's not alive and moving
but when you turn it on, it's an amazing sight
It goes up and down and changes into different shapes

as it heats up, at first, it's broken apart into lil bitty pieces
As it stays on, it gets warmer and the pieces form together
If you leave it on long enough,
it forms into one big glob of beautifully colored moving liquid

but when you turn it off,
it stars to cool
and the pices form into a cold mass once again,
...lifeless

JOURNAL: BIRTHDAY COMING UP AND REFLECTING ON LIFE'S LESSONS

I’m not usually one to make a big deal about my birthday which is coming up next month, but as always, it has given me an opportunity to reflect. I thought I’d share a handful of lessons I’ve learned — as a helpful guide for those just starting out.

1. Always swallow your pride to say you’re sorry. Being too proud to apologize is never worth it — your relationship suffers for no good benefit.

2. Possessions are worse than worthless — they’re harmful. They add no value to your life, and cost you everything. Not just the money required to buy them, but the time and money spent shopping for them, maintaining them, worrying about them, insuring them, fixing them, etc.

3. Slow down. Rushing is rarely worth it. Life is better enjoyed at a leisurely pace.

4. Goals aren’t as important as we think. Try working without them for a week. Turns out, you can do amazing things without goals.

5. The moment is all there is. All our worries and plans about the future, all our replaying of things that happened in the past — it’s all in our heads, and it just distracts us from fully living right now. Let go of all that, and just focus on what you’re doing, right at this moment. In this way, any activity can be meditation.

6. When anyone asks for your attention, always grant it. Give your full attention, and instead of being annoyed at the interruption, be grateful for the reminder to spend time with someone you love.

7. Don’t go into debt. That includes credit card debt, student debt, home debt, personal loans, auto loans. We think they’re necessary but they’re not, at all. They cause more headaches than they’re worth, they can ruin lives, and they cost us way more than we get. Spend less than you earn, go without until you have the money.

8. The only kind of marketing you need is an amazing product. If it’s good, people will spread the word for you. All other kind of marketing is disingenuous.

9. Never send an email or message that’s unfit for the eyes of the world. In this digital age, you never know what might slip into public view.

10. You will miss a ton, but that’s OK. We’re so caught up in trying to do everything, experience all the essential things, not miss out on anything important … that we forget the simple fact that we cannot experience everything. That physical reality dictates we’ll miss most things. We can’t read all the good books, watch all the good films, go to all the best cities in the world, try all the best restaurants, meet all the great people. But the secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful.

11. Mistakes are the best way to learn. Don’t be afraid to make them. Try not to repeat the same ones too often.

12. Rest is more important than you think. People work too hard, forget to rest, and then begin to hate their jobs. 

13. There are few joys that equal a good book, a good walk, a good hug, or a good friend, good movie and good sex. All are free.

14. Fitness doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long process, a learning process, something that happens in little bits over a long period. .

15. The destination is just a tiny slice of the journey. We’re so worried about goals, about our future, that we miss all the great things along the way. If you’re fixated on the goal, on the end, you won’t enjoy it when you get there. You’ll be worried about the next goal, the next destination.

16. A good walk cures most problems. Want to lose weight and get fit? Walk. Want to enjoy life but spend less? Walk. Want to cure stress and clear your head? Walk. Want to meditate and live in the moment? Walk. Having trouble with a life or work problem? Walk, and your head gets clear.

17. Let go of expectations. When you have expectations of something — a person, an experience, a vacation, a job, a book — you put it in a predetermined box that has little to do with reality. You set up an idealized version of the thing (or person) and then try to fit the reality into this ideal, and are often disappointed. Instead, try to experience reality as it is, appreciate it for what it is, and be happy that it is.

18. Giving is so much better than getting. Give with no expectation of getting something in return, and it becomes a purer, more beautiful act. Too often we give something and expect to get an equal measure in return — at least get some gratitude or recognition for our efforts. Try to let go of that need, and just give.

19. Competition is very rarely as useful as cooperation. Our society is geared toward competition — rip each other’s throats out, survival of the fittest, yada yada. But humans are meant to work together for the survival of the tribe, and cooperation pools our resources and allows everyone to contribute what they can. It requires a whole other set of people skills to work cooperatively, but it’s well worth the effort.

20. Gratitude is one of the best ways to find contentment. We are often discontent in our lives, desire more, because we don’t realize how much we have. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, be grateful for the amazing gifts you’ve been given: of loved ones and simple pleasures, of health and sight and the gift of music and books, of nature and beauty and the ability to create, and everything in between. Be grateful every day.

21. Get some perspective. Usually when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. In the larger picture, this one problem means almost nothing. This fight we’re having with someone else — it’s over something that matters naught. Let it go, and move on.

22. Use the magic of compound interest. Invest early, and it will grow as if by alchemy. Live on little, don’t get into debt, save all you can, and invest it in mutual funds. Watch your money grow.

23. Learn the art of empathy. Too often we judge people on too little information. We must try to understand what they do instead, put ourselves in their shoes, start with the assumption that what others do has a good reason if we understand what they’re going through. Life becomes much better if you learn this art.

24. Life is exceedingly brief. You might feel like there’s a huge mass of time ahead of you, but it passes much faster than you think. You get gray hairs before you’re done getting your bearings on life. Appreciate every damn moment.

25. Fear will try to stop you. Doubts will try to stop you. You’ll shy away from doing great things, from going on new adventures, from creating something new and putting it out in the world, because of self-doubt and fear. It will happen in the recesses of your mind, where you don’t even know it’s happening. Become aware of these doubts and fears. Shine some light on them. Beat them with a thousand tiny cuts. Do it anyway, because they are wrong.

26. I have a lot left to learn. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that I know almost nothing, and that I’m often wrong about what I think I know. Life has many lessons left to teach me, and I’m looking forward to them all.

PERSONAL: I AM KIND MAN

I am kind man who wants to love and be loved. I like to live in harmony and happiness. I am a man who knows how to create comfort and happiness in the family and in the house! I will keep our home and not give love to break our boat about all sorts of adversity! I'm easy-going, sympathetic. I'm very positive person, life-loving, kind and understanding. I'm also romantic and attentive. I love traveling, I have many interests that I would like to share with me beloved and I'm open to find new ones together with her (you). I'm looking for a reliable woman who is willing to start a family. I do not care looks, no matter work and hobbies. Just want to fall asleep in the arms of a loved one. The main thing that we were happy together. I am looking for not just my lover and my best friend, with whom we will be frank, we understand and respect each other

DATING/LOVE: I LOVE YOU LIKE MY SOCKS

 In the 19th century, having a husband mattered in that you had to have one — and that was the end of the story. There was no real love or romance, just being cast off by your meddling mother to the highest bidder. You can even see this theme played out in Pride and Prejudice...the classic opening sentence: “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.” Note: It doesn’t say “his perfect match” or “a soulmate,” but a wife, as if he were purchasing her at an auction.

Pride and Prejudice is about balancing pragmatism and idealism — looking at love the way Charlotte does versus Elizabeth’s views on love, where she’s looking for her match just as much as she’s looking for a husband. It’s not about finding love in the abstract — like Kitty and Lydia, who will fall for the first guy who comes their way and bats an eye at them. It’s about waiting for the right person, a person that intrigues you, infuriates you and challenges you. It’s about finding someone you love so much that you hate them half of the time, someone you want to kiss and then throw in a lake.

When I see couples who have settled for a Charlotte kind of love, I always want to know what keeps them together at the end of the day. Woody Allen once posited that only stupidity and narcissism could lead to that kind of complacent happiness, but I think it’s fear. You are afraid to feel that kind of burning passion, the kind that makes you want to rip your heart out and throw it on the ground. You are afraid of loving someone so much and not being loved back, being rejected, being in a relationship where you love them too much or being dumped and left behind. Whoever said its better to have loved and lost has never eaten half a bucket of tear-stained ice cream in their underwear.

I don’t think its better necessarily, but I think we need those loves — even if they don’t work out in the end. We need to give ourselves over fully to another being or force, whether that’s God or love, to prove that we have the ability to have faith and take that leap. Waiting for the right person — when you are that heart-in-the-pit-of-your-stomach kind of in love takes patience, perseverance and more than a bit of stupidity. You have to be willing to look like a total fool and demand that they love you back. You have to demand that they love you back every single fucking day — and that takes strength, energy and courage.

Real love takes time. The great thing about getting into a relationship with someone you aren’t passionate about is that you don’t have to work for it. It’s as simple as updating your status or hitting the “four star” option on OKCupid. It’s not love, just poking. But actually falling in love with someone isn’t a decision you make once. There’s the first time you realize what’s happening and the second time you consent to the falling, but there’s also the thirtieth time where you have to keep trying, continuing to love them just as much as when they first set your heart on fire. There’s the sixtieth time you fall in love with them, when you let them surprise you and when you do the work of continuing to learn and grow.

You could probably have that feeling with anyone. You could walk up on the street and find some cute guy and say, “Hey, want to marry me?” and I bet some dude would take you up on it. He wasn’t doing anything today, so why not spend your life with a total stranger? I bet you could grow old together and not learn a real thing about each other, loving him like you love the socks on your feet, warm and comfortable. You love them because you know they’re still there in the morning and you think that’s what matters most.

There’s something to be said for this kind of love, but ask yourself: Is this what you really want? Do you want a love that’s like socks? Your love should be like the Trojan War, something for which you would risk the safety of an entire civilization. If love is sending all your ships into battle, you don’t do that for anyone or an everyday kind of love. Love should be the person you’d rather blow up the world than live without.

There’s nothing comfortable or easy about love. What could be less easy than building a life with someone? What could be harder than having this person who knows everything about you and is always around to expect better from you? When it comes down to it, love kind of sucks — the uncertainty, the learning to trust someone with all your neuroses, the opening up and the horrifying feeling it could all come crashing down at any second. Love sucks so much that you couldn’t possibly live without it — all of the drama, the heartache and the beautiful, beautiful bullshit.

Love sucks, but it sucks a lot less when you find the right person to be in love with. Actually, you might find that it doesn’t suck, not even a little bit, not even at all

DEAR SOULMATE: I WONDER IF I DREAMED OF YOU...IF YOU WOULD APPEAR

Dear Soulmate,

I wonder if i dreamed of you-if you would appear?To make my nights full of love,and always hold me near.I wonder if i thought of you-if you would feel it in your soul?Like two spirits in the universe,who always seem to know.Even if the stars went black and the sun were to shine no more.They could find their way to each other,no matter how far the shore.Safely in each other's arms, to bid the rest of time.Finding Eternal Love so many seek to find. Caring for each other through the worst of storms. Leaning on the arms of love and never need anymore. This is how i feel for you, i've known it all along. You are my one true love My world.. My heart.. My soul! A stare from deep inside.I see right through,conceive your thoughts from far beyond my view. I see your kindness breath its fire. Behold the love that you aspire.Discovering two...without words told, A stare so deep inside it connects the souls. You're in the very deepest place where no-one else can see.  Fathoms down in consciousness where I meet you and you meet me Fantasy and energy combine in fire and synergy.Life sparks independently Powers surge contentedly.Dimensions connect dynamically Dreams can become reality. We feel so new...the love between us breathes eternal springtime.Hope blossoms for love that never ends...You and me


In the eyes of the soft wind
She blows.  Where she's going-
who knows.  Love comes and goes
every now and then
with a passion so strong... so fast
Here she comes to look upon me once again
with her gentle eyes and her beautiful past.
O how I wish I could roam with her
in the endless skies toward the angels cries
and look at love through Love's eyes.
But it seems her beauty never lasts,
At least not with the passion of a constant stream
to quench my thirsty dreams
from the crusty sand in this dry sea.
O soft wind, please stay with me.
I can't see the truth through the lies
without your eyes and your purity.
O Love, freely blow upon me for all eternity

PERSONAL: SURRENDER AS I SURRENDER

Surrender, as I surrendered. Don't worry about understanding, living exceeds all understanding. I'm not looking for someone "perfect". Someone intent on finding perfection is bound to be disappointed. I am looking for someone who is well balanced. I just want to meet someone that gives back as good as they get. Someone who I can go out with and have a good time, but also likes to stay in. It would be great to meet someone with common interests, that we could enjoy spending time together, and just see where things go without pressure or expectations.  I can't define the type of relationship I want, but I know what I want, regardless of how it's defined. I'm looking for someone real, honest, open, available, affectionate, kind, easy-going, attractive (to me of course) with a great sense of humor and realistic expectations. Communication is extremely important to me. I want to have the kind of relationship where we share the same morals and values, have mutual respect and attraction for each other. For me, the best kind of relationship is where I'd rather do nothing with you than do anything else with anyone else.

ARTICLE: NY POST>>Tiger Mom: Some cultural groups are superior By Maureen Callahan

Tiger Mom" Amy Chua is known for claiming that Chinese women make the best mothers, but now she and her husband say that some groups are just plain better than others. Photo: ZUMAPRESS.com

She’s doubling down.

Amy Chua, the self-proclaimed “Tiger Mom” who, in 2011, published a book arguing that Chinese women are superior mothers — thus their offspring superior children — has even more to say.

In “The Triple Package,” Chua and her husband, co-author Jed Rubenfeld, gather some specious stats and anecdotal evidence to argue that some groups are just superior to others and everyone else is contributing to the downfall of America.

Unsurprisingly, the Chinese Chua and the Jewish Rubenfeld belong to two of the eight groups they deem exceptional. In no seeming order of importance, they are:

Jewish
Indian
Chinese
Iranian
Lebanese-Americans
Nigerians
Cuban exiles
Mormons

These groups — “cultural,” mind you, never “ethnic” or “racial” or “religious” — all possess, in the authors’ estimation, three qualities that they’ve identified as guarantors of wealth and power: superiority, insecurity and impulse control.

“That certain groups do much better in America than others — as measured by income, occupational status, test scores and so on — is difficult to talk about,” the authors write. “In large part, this is because the topic feels so racially charged.”

And so begins their cat-and-mouse polemic, in which they claim they’re courageously agitating for a greater good: the revival of America itself as a “Triple Package Culture.” It’s a series of shock-arguments wrapped in self-help tropes, and it’s meant to do what racist arguments do: scare people.

Chua, a law professor at Yale, became a media sensation in 2011, when The Wall Street Journal published an extract from her book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.” She herself is an American, raised in the Midwest, but she used her heritage and all the worst stereotypes of Chinese women — cold, rigid Dragon Ladies, hostile towards their own children — to criticize the Western way of parenting, which she also said would be the downfall of America.


Chua made waves with “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” but she makes even more outrageous claims in her new book.

Chua wrote about calling one of her two daughters “garbage” for being rude, dismissing a homemade birthday card as subpar (“I don’t want this — I want another one”), refusing to let her girls watch TV or participate in school plays or have sleepovers, of threatening to give away a beloved dollhouse if her daughter couldn’t master a complicated classical composition within days.

Her book really can be reduced to a simple argument: Chinese mothers are better than those of any other race, and these parenting methods are going to result in the West’s big fear — the continued rise and ultimate supremacy of China. Chua’s book was a best-seller, so it’s little surprise she’s back with an even more incendiary thesis, one so well timed to deep economic anxiety, to the collective fear that the American middle class is about to disappear, for good, and the misguided belief that immigration reform will result in even less opportunity for Americans than there is now.

She and Rubenfeld stoke those fears. “Although rarely mentioned in media reports,” they write, “the studies said to show the demise in upward mobility largely exclude immigrants and their children.”


Chua with her husband and co-author Jed Rubenfeld pose with their two daughters.Photo: Peter Z. Mahakian

Yet the authors do not mention whether these immigrants are low-wage workers who have a greater chance at upward mobility, and the Pew study they cite is from 2007 — one year before the global financial collapse, resulting in an American economy that may be structurally altered for decades to come.

All of the groups profiled by Chua and Rubenfeld are done so only as American immigrants, with the exceptions of Mormons and Jews, who are superior to Catholics, Protestants, Buddhists, atheists and Muslims — the latter group, it seems, too controversial to warrant a mention.

On to the distinguishing factors that make these eight groups the best in America:

1. A superiority complex

Any group that collectively believes they are inherently better than any other, say the authors, has an advantage. They do not note that this is perhaps humanity’s oldest and ugliest flaw, the bottom-line cause of wars and genocide. In their estimation, it’s not nearly common enough in America, where “the Superiority Complex . . . is antithetical to mainstream liberal thinking . . . the stuff of racism, colonialism, imperialism, Nazism.” This way of thinking, they write, has been a big boon to Mormons and Jews, though they also fail to note that believing in the superiority of a belief system is the driving force behind almost all organized religion. (Except the Amish. The authors freely note that the Amish are losers for this very reason.)

2. Insecurity

Here are the authors sounding most like Malcolm Gladwell: Posit something, make a solid case for it, then immediately refute it with equal fervor. The result: Readers are so confused that they can only conclude that this book is so much smarter than they are.

The authors are very impressed with their boldness in juxtaposing insecurity with superiority. “That insecurity should be a critical lever of success is another anathema, flouting the entire orthodoxy of contemporary popular and therapeutic psychology,” they write. In fact, insecurity has long been known as a prime motivator among actors, artists, CEOs, despots. “Imposter syndrome,” the term used to describe highly successful individuals who believe, deep down, they are frauds, was identified back in 1978.

“Note that there’s a deep tension between insecurity and a superiority complex,” the authors continue. “It’s odd to think of people being simultaneously insecure but also convinced of their divine election or superiority.” Really? Just ask anyone who’s ever met a narcissist, or read a profile of A-Rod.

3. Impulse Control

Yet another hallmark of self-help, impulse control is considered to be a key factor in personal success — the ability to delay instant gratification in the service of a greater goal. But this isn’t really what the authors have in mind: “As we’ll use the term,” they write, “impulse control refers to the ability to resist temptation, especially the temptation to give up in the face of hardship or quit instead of persevering at a difficult task.”

You know who’s bad at this? Americans not among their eight groups. “Because all three elements of the Triple Package run so counter to modern American culture, it makes sense that America’s successful groups are all outsiders in one way or another,” they write. “Paradoxically, in modern America, a group has an edge if it doesn’t buy into — or hasn’t yet bought into — mainstream, post-1960s, liberal American principles.”

As curious as the groups that Chua and Rubenfeld elevate are the absence of ones they denigrate. Aside from the Amish (not big book-buyers), the only other group the authors take aim at are the Appalachian poor, noting, without irony, that “it’s far more socially acceptable today to insult and look down on ‘white trash’ than the poor of any other racial group.’”

Even though he lost the election to Barack Obama, Mitt Romney and his family somehow prove the superiority of Mormons.Photo: Getty Images

As for why African-Americans don’t make the list, the authors believe that the Civil Rights Movement took away any hope for a superiority narrative, and so the black community is screwed — even as they cite Mitt Romney’s loss to Barack Obama as evidence of Mormon ascendancy.

“In this paradoxical sense, equality isn’t fair to African-Americans,” they write. “Superiority is the one narrative that America has relentlessly denied or ground out of its black population.”

Nigerian immigrants, they argue, are bolstered by the belief that they are better than other West Africans — much as the Lebanese believe, as descendants of Phoenicians, that they are superior, or that the Chinese believe that their 5,000-year-old civilization makes them superior. But feeling superior to other nations, races or religions is nothing more than that — a feeling.

The authors have such dubious data — “getting a statistical fix on Mormon income and wealth is notoriously difficult”; “hard numbers, however, are surprisingly hard to come by” — that they undermine every assertion of so-called “cultural” supremacy.

hua and her co-author husband Jed Rubenfeld rely on flimsy evidence to make their argument in “The Triple Package.”

The real story here — the less controversial one, the more interesting and possibly instructive one — is that historically, immigrant groups tend to experience upward mobility in America until the third generation, and then, for reasons unknown, tend to level off. It’s interesting, too, that the authors either dismiss or outright ignore the large swaths of immigrant groups who built up this country — the English, Irish, Italians, Germans, Eastern Europeans. They ignore two very basic explanations for the success of immigrant groups in America: Anyone who leaves their homeland for parts unknown, no matter how desperate, is, by definition, bold; America’s uniqueness as a nation founded by immigrants.

Once we were a Triple Package nation, say the authors, but no more. We have been done in by our superiority complex, our poor, Western-style “self-esteem parenting” and lack of impulse control.

The question they finally pose — Should America be a Triple Package country again? Can it? — is followed by a paragraph-long, yes-no-maybe answer that will give you whiplash.

“The real promise of a Triple Package America,” they conclude, “is the promise of a day when there are no longer any successful groups in the United States — only successful individuals.”

Today, the demographic predicted to have the greatest impact economically, politically and culturally, by the year 2042, are Hispanics. Just don’t tell the Mormons or the Jews.

PERSONAL: YOU SING MY SONG

Everyone in the world has a different song in their heart,except the only person God laid out for them to love. Sometimes people think they find their match though they think their hearts may sing harmoniously and perfect  with this person when there are a few notes out of tune.  But finally God lets them find the person with the same heart's song as theirs. God lays out a path for everyone, To find the one with the same heart's song sung. You go through life finding plenty of people's hearts songs sung. Finally you find the path of that heart's song sung as yours hath. God wills your paths to meet, And love to come on soft whispering feet.
Like a beautiful dove flys,Your heart's songs will soar through the skies. I watch our love, And thank the holy one above for letting me find, The only one in the world with the same heart's song sung as mine.

LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE

Dear Soulmate
 
With eyes as inviting as sea, I invoke thee. I wait for her scent to send me adrift on the Sea of Tranquillity. From the moon, I reach down and grab her hand leading her into the stars. A journey of incomparable miles  and philandering peaks. We float in the absence of gravity but soar in the presence of love. I cannot see her nor can I hear her, I can only feel her. On a clear night, we can see the moon in its sheer wonder. We have a common bond among the satellite heart shaping a comfort of hope.  To be with you. I would do the impossible.Change the world and make sure it never rains.Just to be with you. I would move a mountain as far as the eye could see. Just to be with you.I would conquer the moon and stars to see your face shine shine like the sparkling sea.Just to be a part of you.

ISLAM....THE GREETING WORD

Do you know how Islam was spread? Islam is the best religion chosen by Allah for Muslims. Starting from the greeting words to the miraculous talk with a Muslim, he represents the love of Allah in each and every word. Is it only the words or is it glory of the religion Islam. Well its complexities may not be the first thing that you glance at, but you surly would want to smile back at a Muslim smiling at you with a peace and tranquil gesture of greeting. Quran tells a Muslim to be kind while talking to a person. Following are the words used by the Muslims in everyday life:

The first thing that a muslim doest is greet a person by the beautiful words Assalaamu Alaykum. This means Peace be upon you. It’s a wonderful way of greeting.
If someone has greeted you with the words of salaam Muslim send the peace back on the person greeting by saying Wa alaykumus salaam. The meaning of it is too peace be upon you.
Muslims start every work by the name of Allah. They say Bismillah which means in the name of Allah.
Muslims thank in a beautiful way by saying Jazakallah. This means that a person is saying that may Allah reward you.
Muslims have a beautiful word for good bye i.e. Fi Amanullah which means may Allah protect you.
Everything in this world is created by Allah therefore the Muslims when praise someone their praise is actually of the creation of Allah. The word Subhaanallah is used by them for this purpose. The translation of this Arabic word is “glory be to Allah”.

· When a Muslim desires he expresses his feelings by saying Insha Allah. Muslim is confident that until Allah grants him something one cannot get it. Therefore while making a desire he says if Allah wishes.

Allah is pleased by the way man repents on his mistakes and forgives him for his sins. For the sake of forgiveness Astaghfirullah is said. This means “I beg Allah for forgiveness”.
When a muslim wants to appreciate something he says Maa shaa Allah (as Allah has willed).
After something is completed Alhamdulillahis said which means (praise be to Allah). This is a gesture of showing that the success he has was by the help of Allah.
Muslims always call Allah when in pain or distress by saying Yaa Allah which means” oh Allah”.
While leaving everything to the will of Allah in a dua muslims use the word Aameen which means “may it be so”
Last but not the least “Innaa lillaahi wa innaa ilayhi raaji’oon” which means “to Allah we belong and to Him is our return”. These words are said as a gesture of grief when you hear about the death of a person.

PERSONAL/SPIRITUAL/ THOUGHTS: THIS INVISIBLE THREAD

I believe there is an invisible thread connects those destined to meet, despite the time, the place, and despite the circumstances. The thread can be tightened or tangle, but will never be broken. Call it a soul contract. Call it destiny, kismet, karma, fortune or fate. Call it whatever you want to call it. The more I live, the more I meet people in supposed “random” ways, the more I know: we meet the people we need to meet at the exact moments we’re meant to. And each and every one of them offers us a lesson. Some experiences are painful. Some are blissful. Most are intertwined with both. There is an invisible thread between me and you...

If you’re feeling lonely or lost, take comfort. That person you need is out there. S/he can feel you somehow, too. But remember: that  thread won’t lead you to what’s on the other side if you’re stuck in your day-to-day routine or on your couch. Take a new route home from work. Go on vacation somewhere – by yourself. Go to the grocery store at an hour you normally wouldn’t. Just do something different. And you’ll see.

PERSONAL: RANDOMNESS AND LOVE IN TRYING TO FIND A GENUINE PERSON

No one knows the life-changing power of luck better than couples.Just the sheer odds of standing out among thousands of bright-faced, oh-so-impossibly attractive individual could test the stamina of a Zen master. Add to this the randomness of what a person might be looking for at any given period of time for the person they want to spend their life with. Fortunately, luck does exist. Its glittery fingerprints are all over the place. Call it happenstance, coincidence or even fate, but there's a match to your hold card somewhere in that deck and if you're lucky, it'll be the next card you turn up.  Usually people  look back and celebrate the first date, the first kiss, the first holiday together, but what really counts is what happened before this public story: that moment, more of pulse than of thought, which goes, Yes, perhaps her, and Yes, perhaps him

I think one of most endearing qualities a person can possess is genuiness.  When you meet a genuine person they tend to look you directly in the eye and many times they touch you in order to connect.

They don't have the average walls up that many people have in life.  They seem to touch you in a way where you immediately connect and they have no false pretenses.  I am sure if you think of all the people you have met in life; you will remember many people you felt were genuine.  This type of person crosses all barriers and has the ability to connect with others and radiates great empathy to others.  It's almost like they have an additional sense.  They don't pretend to be perfect or know all the answers but one thing is for sure anything they tell you is coming straight from the heart.