Sunday, December 8, 2013
VIDEO: GORDON LIGHTFOOT: IF YOU COULD READ MY MIND
One of the most beautiful songs ever. The supposed meaning of the song is under the lyrics for those interested.
If you could read my mind, love
What a tale my thoughts could tell
Just like an old-time movie
'Bout a ghost from a wishin' well
In a castle dark or a fortress strong
With chains upon my feet
You know that ghost is me
And I will never be set free
As long as I'm a ghost that you can't see
If I could read your mind, love
What a tale your thoughts could tell
Just like a paperback novel
The kind the drugstores sell
When you reach the part where the heartaches come
The hero would be me
But heroes often fail
And you won't read that book again
Because the ending's just too hard to take
I'd walk away like a movie star
Who gets burned in a three-way script
Enter number two
A movie queen to play the scene
Of bringing all the good things out in me
But for now love, let's be real
I never thought I could act this way
And I've got to say that I just don't get it
I don't know where we went wrong
But the feeling's gone and I just can't get it back
If you could read my mind, love
What a tale my thoughts could tell
Just like an old-time movie
'Bout a ghost from a wishin' well
In a castle dark or a fortress strong
With chains upon my feet
But stories always end
And if you read between the lines
You'll know that I'm just tryin' to understand
The feelings that you lack
I never thought I could feel this way
And I've got to say that I just don't get it
I don't know where we went wrong
But the feeling's gone and I just can't get it back
Some comments I read somewhere. Maybe the true meaning:
Many people interpret this as a song of regret. It is not. It is a song of sorrow, not regret. Leaving his wife is something he understands that he must (unfortunately) do. He is sad about it and has sympathy for his wife. But leave he must before something worse and regrettable happens.
While the Gordon may have eventually acquired "feelings" for other women (which may be what he is referring to in "I never thought I could act/feel that/this way".....I am not sure), that is not what caused this relationship to fail.
The most important and powerful words in the song are in the last verse:
And if you read between the lines
You'll know that I'm just trying to understand
The feelings that YOU lack
These lines are so powerful and personal that Lightfoot's (now grown up) children from this broken marriage have requested that he use the line "the feelings that WE lack" (which changes the true meaning of the song, IMO) when he now performs this in concert. Gordon has honored their request.
ARTICLE/ DATING: (NY POST) Short men don’t stack up with NYC women By Gary Buiso
It’s a tall order dating women in the Big Apple.
The likelihood that a man under 5-foot-9 is contacted by a Manhattan or Bronx woman online is a scant 1.2 percent, with Brooklyn coming in with a paltry 2.4 percent response rate, according to a study conducted by the dating site AYI.com, which analyzed 50,000 interactions over two months.
Staten Island short stacks had just a 4.1 chance of being chatted up online, and Queens mini-men rounded out the boroughs with 5.4 percent.
“People in bigger cities have more options and tend to be pickier,” explained Josh Fischer, who led the study.
Brooklynite Nick Rizzo knows the sting of big-otry all too well.
“It’s just a fact of life that most women taller than me aren’t willing to date me,” confessed the 5-foot-7 28-year-old, who said he has found that women are often “uncomfortable” when their date doesn’t measure up.
“Maybe they’re worried about how it will look to other people,” he added.
But there’s hope across the Hudson.
Shorties in Jersey City have a 7.6 percent likelihood of being contacted by the fairer sex — that’s a staggering 533 percent more likely than short men in Manhattan/Bronx.
“Jersey City, as opposed to Manhattan, has a bit more of a community vibe. People actually get to know each other here, and are a bit more laid-back,” said Bethany, a 5-foot, 28-year-old Jersey City woman who doesn’t mind dating a short man.
Still, there are some pitfalls when dating the diminutive, she warned. “Short men don’t always have Napoleon complexes, but definitely steer clear of the ones that do.”
Some short men don’t help their cause.
“I met an [online] date at a bar in Manhattan. He was already seated when I walked in,” recalled a 5-foot-6, 42-year-old Chelsea woman. “We had a nice time chatting over a glass of wine. When I got up to leave, I saw that the man who had said he was 5-6 was actually 5-0.
“I must have had a fairly surprised look on my face. To my horror, he said, ‘I can climb you like a tree.’ I made a hasty exit.”
Experts said size matters — because of evolution.
“Cross-culturally, women show a preference for taller mates,” said Dr. Jill Shapiro, a biological anthropologist at Columbia University. “Most people think it’s related to sexual selection. Taller men are perceived to be healthier, be better providers. By being tall, you are signaling that you have good genes.”
So what’s the matter with Jersey City women? Evolutionarily speaking, a lot, said Shapiro.
“It’s going against the normal pattern for most humans,” she said.
The likelihood that a man under 5-foot-9 is contacted by a Manhattan or Bronx woman online is a scant 1.2 percent, with Brooklyn coming in with a paltry 2.4 percent response rate, according to a study conducted by the dating site AYI.com, which analyzed 50,000 interactions over two months.
Staten Island short stacks had just a 4.1 chance of being chatted up online, and Queens mini-men rounded out the boroughs with 5.4 percent.
“People in bigger cities have more options and tend to be pickier,” explained Josh Fischer, who led the study.
Brooklynite Nick Rizzo knows the sting of big-otry all too well.
“It’s just a fact of life that most women taller than me aren’t willing to date me,” confessed the 5-foot-7 28-year-old, who said he has found that women are often “uncomfortable” when their date doesn’t measure up.
“Maybe they’re worried about how it will look to other people,” he added.
But there’s hope across the Hudson.
Shorties in Jersey City have a 7.6 percent likelihood of being contacted by the fairer sex — that’s a staggering 533 percent more likely than short men in Manhattan/Bronx.
“Jersey City, as opposed to Manhattan, has a bit more of a community vibe. People actually get to know each other here, and are a bit more laid-back,” said Bethany, a 5-foot, 28-year-old Jersey City woman who doesn’t mind dating a short man.
Still, there are some pitfalls when dating the diminutive, she warned. “Short men don’t always have Napoleon complexes, but definitely steer clear of the ones that do.”
Some short men don’t help their cause.
“I met an [online] date at a bar in Manhattan. He was already seated when I walked in,” recalled a 5-foot-6, 42-year-old Chelsea woman. “We had a nice time chatting over a glass of wine. When I got up to leave, I saw that the man who had said he was 5-6 was actually 5-0.
“I must have had a fairly surprised look on my face. To my horror, he said, ‘I can climb you like a tree.’ I made a hasty exit.”
Experts said size matters — because of evolution.
“Cross-culturally, women show a preference for taller mates,” said Dr. Jill Shapiro, a biological anthropologist at Columbia University. “Most people think it’s related to sexual selection. Taller men are perceived to be healthier, be better providers. By being tall, you are signaling that you have good genes.”
So what’s the matter with Jersey City women? Evolutionarily speaking, a lot, said Shapiro.
“It’s going against the normal pattern for most humans,” she said.
Saturday, December 7, 2013
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: YOU ARE THE ONE
It’s hard to introduce myself,
start a conversation about simple things,
learn the ways we can join hearts,
touch minds, swap smiles, be warm with each other.
All I want, is to roam those miles of your eyes,
be a good soul finding grace in your gaze,
reel the sparks dancing between glances,
draw in the gravity of who we might be.
But how, how will you even notice me?
Mouthing these, these tiny, silly words
too soon, too much, too late, no doubt -
and blood is rushing my intentions,
the world is spinning, twisting, whirling
and everything is blurring
into one.
You are that one.
start a conversation about simple things,
learn the ways we can join hearts,
touch minds, swap smiles, be warm with each other.
All I want, is to roam those miles of your eyes,
be a good soul finding grace in your gaze,
reel the sparks dancing between glances,
draw in the gravity of who we might be.
But how, how will you even notice me?
Mouthing these, these tiny, silly words
too soon, too much, too late, no doubt -
and blood is rushing my intentions,
the world is spinning, twisting, whirling
and everything is blurring
into one.
You are that one.
VIDEO:: THAT ONE NIGHT WHERE TRUE LOVE SEEMED POSSIBLE.....CONSEQUENCES, DAVID
We erased what really happened from your memory. - Erased?- Replaced. By a better life... under these... beautiful, Monet-like skies. My mother's favorite. A better life because you had Sofia. You sculpted your Lucid Dream out of the iconography of your youth. An album cover that once moved you. An album cover? There are some things... that you're not old enough to understand just yet. A movie you saw once that showed you what a father could be like... or what love could be like. This was a kind woman... an individual... more than your equal. You barely knew her in real life,but in your Lucid Dream... she was your savior. What happened in my real life?Something happened. What did you erase? Do you really want to know? Tell me everything. The morning after the nightclub,you woke up on that street... hung over and alone. You got up, walked away. You never saw Sofia again. I didn't kill Sofia. You battled your board for control of the company... You battled your board for control of the company... and in the end it was Thomas Tipp,your father's friend... the man whose job you saved... who wrenched the company back into your control. Tommy. But then... somebody died. You longed for Sofia. You shut yourself away for months. You were alone. You couldn't standthe pain anymore, the headaches. You could barely function. I found you on the Internet. I signed a contract with you,and then-- I remember. Somebody died. It was me. And on a day in late December... you gave your self to us. You're now in a suspended state. Your friend Brian Shelby threw a three-day memorial in your old home. He was a true friend. You were missed, David. It was Sofia who never fully recovered. It was she who some how knew you best... and like you, she never forgot that one night... where true love seemed possible. Consequences, David. It's the little things. The little things. There's nothing bigger,is there?
ISLAM: THE LIES AND TRUTH ABOUT ISLAM
1-Muslims don't believe in Jesus
In the Qur'an, stories about the life and teachings of Jesus Christ (called 'Isa in Arabic) are abundant. The Qur'an recalls his miraculous birth, his teachings, and the miracles he performed by God's permission. There is even a chapter of the Qur'an named after his mother, Mary (Miriam in Arabic). However, Muslims believe that Jesus was a fully human prophet and not in any way divine himself.
2-Islam oppresses women
Most of the ill-treatment that women receive in the Muslim world is based on local culture and traditions, without any basis in the faith of Islam. In fact, practices such as forced marriage, spousal abuse, and restricted movement directly contradict Islamic law governing family behavior and personal freedom.
3-Muslims are violent, terrorist extremists
Terrorism cannot be justified under any valid interpretation of the Islamic faith. The entire Qur'an, taken as a complete text, gives a message of hope, faith, and peace to a faith community of one billion people. The overwhelming message is that peace is to be found through faith in God, and justice among fellow human beings. Muslim leaders and scholars do speak out against terrorism in all its forms, and offer explanations of misinterpreted or twisted teachings.
Contrary to what is alleged by bigots like Bill Maher, Muslims are not more violent than people of other religions. Murder rates in most of the Muslim world are very low compared to the United States.
As for political violence, people of Christian heritage in the twentieth century polished off tens of millions of people in the two world wars and colonial repression. This massive carnage did not occur because European Christians are worse than or different from other human beings, but because they were the first to industrialize war and pursue a national model. Sometimes it is argued that they did not act in the name of religion but of nationalism. But, really, how naive. Religion and nationalism are closely intertwined. The British monarch is the head of the Church of England, and that still meant something in the first half of the twentieth century, at least. The Swedish church is a national church. Spain? Was it really unconnected to Catholicism? Did the Church and Francisco Franco’s feelings toward it play no role in the Civil War? And what’s sauce for the goose: much Muslim violence is driven by forms of modern nationalism, too.
I don’t figure that Muslims killed more than a 2 million people or so in political violence in the entire twentieth century, and that mainly in the Iran-Iraq War 1980-1988 and the Soviet and post-Soviet wars in Afghanistan, for which Europeans bear some blame.
Compare that to the Christian European tally of, oh, lets say 100 million (16 million in WW I, 60 million in WW II– though some of those were attributable to Buddhists in Asia– and millions more in colonial wars.)
Belgium– yes, the Belgium of strawberry beer and quaint Gravensteen castle– conquered the Congo and is estimated to have killed off half of its inhabitants over time, some 8 million people at least.
Or, between 1916-1930 Tsarist Russian and then Soviet forces — facing the revolt of Central Asians trying to throw off Christian (and then Marxist), European rule — Russian forces killed an estimated 1.5 million people. Two boys brought up in or born in one of those territories (Kyrgyzstan) just killed 4 people and wounded others critically. That is horrible, but no one, whether in Russia or in Europe or in North America has the slightest idea that Central Asians were mass-murdered during WW I and before and after, and looted of much of their wealth. Russia when it brutally conquered and ruled the Caucasus and Central Asia was an Eastern Orthodox, Christian empire (and seems to be reemerging as one!).
Then, between half a million and a million Algerians died in that country’s war of independence from France, 1954-1962, at a time when the population was only 11 million!
I could go on and on. Everywhere you dig in European colonialism in Afro-Asia, there are bodies. Lots of bodies.
Now that I think of it, maybe 100 million people killed by people of European Christian heritage in the twentieth century is an underestimate.
As for religious terrorism, that too is universal. Admittedly, some groups deploy terrorism as a tactic more at some times than others. Zionists in British Mandate Palestine were active terrorists in the 1940s, from a British point of view, and in the period 1965-1980, the FBI considered the Jewish Defense League among the most active US terrorist groups. (Members at one point plotted to assassinate Rep. Dareell Issa (R-CA) because of his Lebanese heritage.) Now that Jewish nationalsts are largely getting their way, terrorism has declined among them. But it would likely reemerge if they stopped getting their way. In fact, one of the arguments Israeli politicians give for allowing Israeli squatters to keep the Palestinian land in the West Bank that they have usurped is that attempting to move them back out would produce violence. I.e., the settlers not only actually terrorize the Palestinians, but they form a terrorism threat for Israel proper (as the late prime minister Yitzhak Rabin discovered).
Even more recently, it is difficult for me to see much of a difference between Tamerlan Tsarnaev and Baruch Goldstein, perpetrator of the Hebron massacre.
Or there was the cold-blooded bombing of the Ajmer shrine in India by Bhavesh Patel and a gang of Hindu nationalists. Chillingly, they were disturbed when a second bomb they had set did not go off, so that they did not wreak as much havoc as they would have liked. Ajmer is an ecumenical Sufi shrine also visited by Hindus, and these bigots wanted to stop such open-minded sharing of spiritual spaces because they hate Muslims.
Buddhists have committed a lot of terrorism and other violence as well. Many in the Zen orders in Japan supported militarism in the first half of the twentieth century, for which their leaders later apologized. And, you had Inoue Shiro’s assassination campaign in 1930s Japan. Nowadays militant Buddhist monks in Burma/ Myanmar are urging on an ethnic cleansing campaign against the Rohingya.
As for Christianity, the Lord’s Resistance Army in Uganda initiated hostilities that displaced two million people. Although it is an African cult, it is Christian in origin and the result of Western Christian missionaries preaching in Africa. If Saudi Wahhabi preachers can be in part blamed for the Taliban, why do Christian missionaries skate when we consider the blowback from their pupils?
Despite the very large number of European Muslims, in 2007-2009 less than 1 percent of terrorist acts in that continent were committed by people from that community.
Terrorism is a tactic of extremists within each religion, and within secular religions of Marxism or nationalism. No religion, including Islam, preaches indiscriminate violence against innocents.
It takes a peculiar sort of blindness to see Christians of European heritage as “nice” and Muslims and inherently violent, given the twentieth century death toll I mentioned above. Human beings are human beings and the species is too young and too interconnected to have differentiated much from group to group. People resort to violence out of ambition or grievance, and the more powerful they are, the more violence they seem to commit. The good news is that the number of wars is declining over time, and World War II, the biggest charnel house in history, hasn’t been repeated.
4-Islam is intolerant of other faiths
Throughout the Qur'an, Muslims are reminded that they are not the only ones who worship God. Jews and Christians are called "People of the Book," meaning people who have received previous revelations from the One Almighty God that we all worship. The Qur'an also commands Muslims to protect from harm not only mosques, but also monasteries, synagogues, and churches -- because "God is worshipped therein."
5-Islam promotes "jihad" to spread Islam by the sword and kill all unbelievers
The word Jihad stems from an Arabic word which means "to strive." Other related words include "effort," "labor," and "fatigue." Essentially Jihad is an effort to practice religion in the face of oppression and persecution. The effort may come in fighting the evil in your own heart, or in standing up to a dictator. Military effort is included as an option, but as a last resort and not "to spread Islam by the sword."
SPIRITUAL: WHEN YOU MET GOD
You were on your way home when you died.
It was a car accident. Nothing particularly remarkable, but fatal nonetheless. You left behind a wife and two children. It was a painless death. The EMTs tried their best to save you, but to no avail. Your body was so utterly shattered you were better off, trust me.
And that's when you met me.
"What... what happened?" You asked. "Where am I?"
"You died," I said, matter-of-factly. No point mincing words.
"There was a... a truck and it was skidding..."
"Yup." I said.
"I... I died?"
"Yup. But don't feel bad about it. Everyone dies." I said.
You looked around. There was nothingness. Just you and me. "What is this place?" You asked. "Is this the afterlife?"
"More or less," I said.
"Are you god?" You asked.
"Yup." I replied. "I'm God."
"My kids... my wife," you said.
"What about them?"
"Will they be alright?"
"That's what I like to see," I said. "You just died and your main concern is your family. That's good stuff right there."
You looked at me with fascination. To you, I didn't look like God. I just looked like some man. Some vague authority figure. More of a a grammar school teacher than the almighty.
"Don't worry," I said. "They'll be fine. Your kids will remember you as perfect in every way. They didn't have time to grow contempt for you. Your wife will cry on the outside, but will be secretly relieved." "To be fair, your marriage was falling apart. If it's any consolation, she'll feel very guilty for feeling relieved."
"Oh," you said. "So what happens now? Do I go to heaven or hell or something?"
"Neither," I said. "You'll be reincarnated."
"Ah," you said. "So the Hindus were right."
"All the religions are right in their own way," I said. "Walk with me."
You followed along as we strolled in the void. "Where are we going?"
"Nowhere in particular," I said. "It's just nice to walk while we talk."
"So what's the point, then?" You asked. "When I get reborn, I'll just be a blank slate, right? A baby. So all my experiences and everything I did in this life won't matter?"
"Not so!" I said. "You have within you all the knowledge and experiences of all your past lives. You just don't remember them right now."
I stopped walking and took you by the shoulders. "Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you can possibly imagine. A human mind can only contain a tiny fraction of what you are. It's like sticking your finger in a glass of water to see if it's hot or cold. You put a tiny part of yourself into the vessel, and when you bring it back out, you've gained all the experiences it had."
"You've been a human for the last 34 years, so you haven't stretched out yet and felt the rest of your immense consciousness. If we hung out here for longer, you'd start remembering everything. But there's no point doing that between each life."
"How many times have I been reincarnated then?"
"Oh, lots. Lots and lots. And into lots of different lives." I said. "This time around you'll be a Chinese peasant girl in 540 A.D."
"Wait, what?" You stammered. "You're sending me back in time?"
"Well, I guess technically. Time, as you know it, only exists in your universe. Things are different where I come from."
"Where you come from?" You pondered.
"Oh, sure!" I explained. "I come from somewhere. Somewhere else. And there's others like me. I know you'll want to know what it's like there but you honestly won't understand."
"Oh." You said, a little let down. "But wait, if I get reincarnated to other places in time, could I have interacted with myself at some point?"
"Sure. Happens all the time. And with both lives only aware of their own timespan, you don't even know its happening."
"So what's the point of it all?"
"Seriously?" I asked. "Seriously? You're asking me for the meaning of life? Isn't that a little stereotypical?"
"Well, it's a reasonable question." You persisted.
I looked in your eye. "The meaning of life, the reason I made this whole universe, is for you to mature."
"You mean mankind? You want us to mature?"
"No. Just you. I made this whole universe for you. With each new life you grow and mature, and become a larger and greater intellect."
"Just me? What about everyone else?"
"There is no one else," I said. "In this universe, there's just you, and me."
You stared blankly at me. "But all the people on Earth..."
"All you. Different incarnations of you."
"Wait. I'm everyone!?"
"Now you're getting it." I said, with a congratulatory slap on the back.
"I'm every human who ever lived?"
"Or who will ever live, yes."
"I'm Abraham Lincoln?"
"And you're John Wilkes Booth." I added.
"I'm Hitler?" You said, appalled.
"And you're the millions he killed."
"I'm Jesus?"
"And you're everyone who followed him."
You fell silent.
"Every time you victimized someone," I said, "You were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you've done, you've done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you."
"Why?" You asked me. "Why do all this?"
"Because someday, you will become like me. Because that's what you are. You're one of my kind. You're my child."
"Whoa." You said, incredulous. "You mean I'm a god?"
"No. Not yet. You're a fetus You're still growing. Once you've lived every human life throughout all time, you will have grown enough to be born."
"So the whole universe," you said. "It's just..."
"An egg of sorts." I answered. "Now it's time for you to move on to your next life."
And I sent you on your way.
It was a car accident. Nothing particularly remarkable, but fatal nonetheless. You left behind a wife and two children. It was a painless death. The EMTs tried their best to save you, but to no avail. Your body was so utterly shattered you were better off, trust me.
And that's when you met me.
"What... what happened?" You asked. "Where am I?"
"You died," I said, matter-of-factly. No point mincing words.
"There was a... a truck and it was skidding..."
"Yup." I said.
"I... I died?"
"Yup. But don't feel bad about it. Everyone dies." I said.
You looked around. There was nothingness. Just you and me. "What is this place?" You asked. "Is this the afterlife?"
"More or less," I said.
"Are you god?" You asked.
"Yup." I replied. "I'm God."
"My kids... my wife," you said.
"What about them?"
"Will they be alright?"
"That's what I like to see," I said. "You just died and your main concern is your family. That's good stuff right there."
You looked at me with fascination. To you, I didn't look like God. I just looked like some man. Some vague authority figure. More of a a grammar school teacher than the almighty.
"Don't worry," I said. "They'll be fine. Your kids will remember you as perfect in every way. They didn't have time to grow contempt for you. Your wife will cry on the outside, but will be secretly relieved." "To be fair, your marriage was falling apart. If it's any consolation, she'll feel very guilty for feeling relieved."
"Oh," you said. "So what happens now? Do I go to heaven or hell or something?"
"Neither," I said. "You'll be reincarnated."
"Ah," you said. "So the Hindus were right."
"All the religions are right in their own way," I said. "Walk with me."
You followed along as we strolled in the void. "Where are we going?"
"Nowhere in particular," I said. "It's just nice to walk while we talk."
"So what's the point, then?" You asked. "When I get reborn, I'll just be a blank slate, right? A baby. So all my experiences and everything I did in this life won't matter?"
"Not so!" I said. "You have within you all the knowledge and experiences of all your past lives. You just don't remember them right now."
I stopped walking and took you by the shoulders. "Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you can possibly imagine. A human mind can only contain a tiny fraction of what you are. It's like sticking your finger in a glass of water to see if it's hot or cold. You put a tiny part of yourself into the vessel, and when you bring it back out, you've gained all the experiences it had."
"You've been a human for the last 34 years, so you haven't stretched out yet and felt the rest of your immense consciousness. If we hung out here for longer, you'd start remembering everything. But there's no point doing that between each life."
"How many times have I been reincarnated then?"
"Oh, lots. Lots and lots. And into lots of different lives." I said. "This time around you'll be a Chinese peasant girl in 540 A.D."
"Wait, what?" You stammered. "You're sending me back in time?"
"Well, I guess technically. Time, as you know it, only exists in your universe. Things are different where I come from."
"Where you come from?" You pondered.
"Oh, sure!" I explained. "I come from somewhere. Somewhere else. And there's others like me. I know you'll want to know what it's like there but you honestly won't understand."
"Oh." You said, a little let down. "But wait, if I get reincarnated to other places in time, could I have interacted with myself at some point?"
"Sure. Happens all the time. And with both lives only aware of their own timespan, you don't even know its happening."
"So what's the point of it all?"
"Seriously?" I asked. "Seriously? You're asking me for the meaning of life? Isn't that a little stereotypical?"
"Well, it's a reasonable question." You persisted.
I looked in your eye. "The meaning of life, the reason I made this whole universe, is for you to mature."
"You mean mankind? You want us to mature?"
"No. Just you. I made this whole universe for you. With each new life you grow and mature, and become a larger and greater intellect."
"Just me? What about everyone else?"
"There is no one else," I said. "In this universe, there's just you, and me."
You stared blankly at me. "But all the people on Earth..."
"All you. Different incarnations of you."
"Wait. I'm everyone!?"
"Now you're getting it." I said, with a congratulatory slap on the back.
"I'm every human who ever lived?"
"Or who will ever live, yes."
"I'm Abraham Lincoln?"
"And you're John Wilkes Booth." I added.
"I'm Hitler?" You said, appalled.
"And you're the millions he killed."
"I'm Jesus?"
"And you're everyone who followed him."
You fell silent.
"Every time you victimized someone," I said, "You were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you've done, you've done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you."
"Why?" You asked me. "Why do all this?"
"Because someday, you will become like me. Because that's what you are. You're one of my kind. You're my child."
"Whoa." You said, incredulous. "You mean I'm a god?"
"No. Not yet. You're a fetus You're still growing. Once you've lived every human life throughout all time, you will have grown enough to be born."
"So the whole universe," you said. "It's just..."
"An egg of sorts." I answered. "Now it's time for you to move on to your next life."
And I sent you on your way.
Friday, December 6, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate.....
When I am alone at night.I let my mind open and my heart relax for I know you are here.In my heart and soul...you run through my veins and heal my wounds.Like you healed my heart.You are the air I breathe and the flowers I see.The sun that warms my once cold soul.The blanket that keeps me warm at night.How good you make me feel wrapped around my warming body waiting for you I love to do.Because I know my thoughts are of you alone at night no more will I be thinking of you sets me free.Together forever we will always be.You are the voice that caresses my soul. The touch that eases my aching muscles. The body that swims in my eyes. The person I am one with. The soul that mates with my own. The object of my passion.
The dreams that soothe my sleep.The hand that wipes my tears away.The company that pulls me from loneliness.The light in my dark existence You are the obsession that keeps me alive. Loving you inspires me.Loving you has released me from the chains of a broken heart.Loving you leaves my heart swollen with this incredible pressure.Because I can love you,
Because I love you,Because I'm not afraid to love you.I love you and want to dive into your deep mind and stay forever lost in the wonder of you.Lost forever in the wonder of you. Dive into the warmth of your arms,look into the intensity of your eyes, watch your thin lips move as they speak of everything. I know that time can never change,the love I have for you except to make it deeper still with everything we do. In all my dreams of coming years you are the biggest part.I can get you out of my head but never out of my heart
When I am alone at night.I let my mind open and my heart relax for I know you are here.In my heart and soul...you run through my veins and heal my wounds.Like you healed my heart.You are the air I breathe and the flowers I see.The sun that warms my once cold soul.The blanket that keeps me warm at night.How good you make me feel wrapped around my warming body waiting for you I love to do.Because I know my thoughts are of you alone at night no more will I be thinking of you sets me free.Together forever we will always be.You are the voice that caresses my soul. The touch that eases my aching muscles. The body that swims in my eyes. The person I am one with. The soul that mates with my own. The object of my passion.
The dreams that soothe my sleep.The hand that wipes my tears away.The company that pulls me from loneliness.The light in my dark existence You are the obsession that keeps me alive. Loving you inspires me.Loving you has released me from the chains of a broken heart.Loving you leaves my heart swollen with this incredible pressure.Because I can love you,
Because I love you,Because I'm not afraid to love you.I love you and want to dive into your deep mind and stay forever lost in the wonder of you.Lost forever in the wonder of you. Dive into the warmth of your arms,look into the intensity of your eyes, watch your thin lips move as they speak of everything. I know that time can never change,the love I have for you except to make it deeper still with everything we do. In all my dreams of coming years you are the biggest part.I can get you out of my head but never out of my heart
LOVE/DATING: WISDOM
There is a time and a place for everyone to see their true love face to face. I've witnessed first hand false love and what a wise one once told me:"True love won't hide, false love hides behind close heart".This wise one is one I used to love, do love, and always will love. This person taught me things that would have taken forever to learn on my own. Therefore, I am thankful for all the things this being has taught me. Then, I witnessed true love for the first real time. This love showed me that you can never put all your trust into unsure facts.Love also showed me pain like no other, pain that cut through my soul, pain that eventually made me stronger, and somehow made me love this love more. Although I have hurt a few and have been hurt by a couple, no one is the total blame for how my heart cried. I say what can kill me will, and what doesn't won't, but what seems to hurt more than death itself makes me stronger. Most think, just as the wise one does, that love is simply a manipulation of the mind and isn't worth the run around once more once you have been hurt. I say it's not love that hurts you, it's the people you fall in love with. Not to say that you can control whom you love, but try to choose more carefully who you share your temple and your mind with. You may not fall as hard and get as disappointed as you seem to have done in the past.It is said that if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything. I stand for true love, because I am blessed to have love and one who loves me. I will stand by love and wisdom through it all, because I believe that they are the keys to leading a better life. I have based my life on the love that love has shown me through love, and the wisdom that has been taught to me by wisdom. Love and Wisdom is all I need on this earth to survive life's never ending turmoil and pain.Thank you Love, Thank you Wisdom.
Thursday, December 5, 2013
FAN: FROM A FAN
I was in love with you for such a long time, for so long you were in my every thought and in many actions. I carried this love around with me somewhat secretively and silently. It had no where to go. I was alone with it. There was nobody and no body to accept it. But I realized later it is what it is. Cant change anybody, cant make them love or want you if they don't. Being committed is not about chasing someone in hopes they will return your love and accept you. No, I made that mistake before also. Being committed needs to be about a relationship, a relationship with two minds, hearts, and souls. If there is only one person loving the other it is not that, and if you commit yourself to that you are committing yourself to the lonely zone of unrequited love. And there is no reason to try to be a matyr and savior, we already have Jesus. And don't try to understand things, if you live in the world of why, you wont get out. The hardest thing maybe is trying to figure out what to do with that space. Kinda like decorating. What do you do with that empty space? Take a breather and enjoy the extra oxygen, or fill the space with something new, or cherish the development of a different type of love a renewed friendship of sorts.
I love you Alex. And I love you for you, I see and feel you I always will. God can explain that that one to me when I meet him. When im old and grey, without one glimmer of sexiness left in me, I will still love and would like you to meet my grandchildren, maybe they can be friends with yours, although ill be watching what you whisper in your grandson ear about my granddaughter, saying go after that, that is some good pussy right there.
PERSONAL: DEAR FUTURE SOULMATE...YOU ARE NOT A DREAM
Dear Future Soulmate,
Many nights I sit and ponder. I dream but I cannot find the truth. Who am I? Who is the one? I go through life searching for.In my dreams you are there with your blue eyes like liquid sky. Blond hair of midnight lust.Your touch sends shiver to my heart and your embrace is like soft silk. On a fresh crisp morning, need I speak of your kiss.Passionate, loving....How long did I long for thee.I count the seconds 'till next I rest in your arms. Every waking hour my heart beats for you. My thoughts are always centered around you, yet when I wake the morning air, cool and soft hits me and I know it's just a dream. Yet how can something so real be just a dream? I know who you are.You know who I am.We hunger for the touch, the embrace of our souls. But one day I will reach you and then all will know that you are real.Your soft arms will embrace me...I can even now feel their warmth.I can see your eyes of blue ice glitter as you look upon me.And your lips-how I yearn for their breathtaking touch...So soft and pure.Always shall I love you.But for now I'll wait for you see, you've already captured my heart.So, it can be won by no other.They all wonder why I sit and wait on a dream, but you are not a dream.You are my life. If it takes forever, I will wait for you hold the key and you are miles away,Yet I know that as soon as you are near,I will sense your presence. For you and I are connected by a sliver of silver thread. My heart is yours and yours is mine and all I ask is that you do not wait too long to bring the key and open my inner soul.For I am but a half without you, you see you are not a dream because our love is written in the crystalline stars. In the quiet of the night,I felt your touch. Two hearts blending as one, Souls reaching out for that familiar feeling of completeness. Peace at last, the day is done.
Many nights I sit and ponder. I dream but I cannot find the truth. Who am I? Who is the one? I go through life searching for.In my dreams you are there with your blue eyes like liquid sky. Blond hair of midnight lust.Your touch sends shiver to my heart and your embrace is like soft silk. On a fresh crisp morning, need I speak of your kiss.Passionate, loving....How long did I long for thee.I count the seconds 'till next I rest in your arms. Every waking hour my heart beats for you. My thoughts are always centered around you, yet when I wake the morning air, cool and soft hits me and I know it's just a dream. Yet how can something so real be just a dream? I know who you are.You know who I am.We hunger for the touch, the embrace of our souls. But one day I will reach you and then all will know that you are real.Your soft arms will embrace me...I can even now feel their warmth.I can see your eyes of blue ice glitter as you look upon me.And your lips-how I yearn for their breathtaking touch...So soft and pure.Always shall I love you.But for now I'll wait for you see, you've already captured my heart.So, it can be won by no other.They all wonder why I sit and wait on a dream, but you are not a dream.You are my life. If it takes forever, I will wait for you hold the key and you are miles away,Yet I know that as soon as you are near,I will sense your presence. For you and I are connected by a sliver of silver thread. My heart is yours and yours is mine and all I ask is that you do not wait too long to bring the key and open my inner soul.For I am but a half without you, you see you are not a dream because our love is written in the crystalline stars. In the quiet of the night,I felt your touch. Two hearts blending as one, Souls reaching out for that familiar feeling of completeness. Peace at last, the day is done.
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE/ FUTURE WIFE
Dear Soulmate,
The light in your eyes is the love in your eyes and the love in your eyes is mine.So the love in my eyes meets the light in your eyes to wine and dine through time. If i try to sleep... i dream of you. Awake, I walk still dreaming tooI live to love you nothing more...what else is this poor heart for? When kissed by you, my lips are blessed and when I'm alone with you my soul undressed. Kiss me again and never cease for when I'm alone with you my mind has peace. When i hold you ...I hold everything from your resplendent eyes my existence springs. The world may stop and the moon might bust but this dream lives on... just the two of us....I love you. I love the fact I wake up every morning with a smile on my face because thinking about you places it there. I love the fact that when I talk to you I lose all my words and my senses. I love the fact that the more I talk to you is the more I want to talk to you.
The light in your eyes is the love in your eyes and the love in your eyes is mine.So the love in my eyes meets the light in your eyes to wine and dine through time. If i try to sleep... i dream of you. Awake, I walk still dreaming tooI live to love you nothing more...what else is this poor heart for? When kissed by you, my lips are blessed and when I'm alone with you my soul undressed. Kiss me again and never cease for when I'm alone with you my mind has peace. When i hold you ...I hold everything from your resplendent eyes my existence springs. The world may stop and the moon might bust but this dream lives on... just the two of us....I love you. I love the fact I wake up every morning with a smile on my face because thinking about you places it there. I love the fact that when I talk to you I lose all my words and my senses. I love the fact that the more I talk to you is the more I want to talk to you.
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
PERSONAL/LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE..I CAN SEE ALL THE PAIN
Dear Soulmate
I can see all the pain you hide. No one can see how your hurting inside, but I can see so much when I look in your eyes and I can feel the pain from all the good-byes.Baby, just come to me and cry because on me you can rely.No more do you have to fear because I finally found you, I'm here.Just open your heart and let me in.I can make love and happiness begin.You won't be in the dark tonight because I'm here with your light, I've been through it all and I've taken that painful fall, but you walked into my life.Now I know that I'll be alright.I'll do whatever it takes to make the rain go away. That's the promise that I'll make...you don't have to be afraid. All you have to do is trust me and take my hand because I've been through it too, I understand.Break your heart, no I'll never...I want to be here, past forever. I've fallen in love with you, Can you tell? Do you know? Here in this charmed night that spinning lights shine down on us. And I can only think througout the sound of your voice echoing in my mind that I have found forever in your eyes. As we move together...past being strangers and the shadows;I still can't speak one word of this truth.My love is a silence,but then you take my hand and you take my soul with you whispered words:"I've fallen in love with you"The pleasant memory of holding your hand. Never do I want this feeling to fade.In the palm of your hand I felt a piece of your heart.
I can see all the pain you hide. No one can see how your hurting inside, but I can see so much when I look in your eyes and I can feel the pain from all the good-byes.Baby, just come to me and cry because on me you can rely.No more do you have to fear because I finally found you, I'm here.Just open your heart and let me in.I can make love and happiness begin.You won't be in the dark tonight because I'm here with your light, I've been through it all and I've taken that painful fall, but you walked into my life.Now I know that I'll be alright.I'll do whatever it takes to make the rain go away. That's the promise that I'll make...you don't have to be afraid. All you have to do is trust me and take my hand because I've been through it too, I understand.Break your heart, no I'll never...I want to be here, past forever. I've fallen in love with you, Can you tell? Do you know? Here in this charmed night that spinning lights shine down on us. And I can only think througout the sound of your voice echoing in my mind that I have found forever in your eyes. As we move together...past being strangers and the shadows;I still can't speak one word of this truth.My love is a silence,but then you take my hand and you take my soul with you whispered words:"I've fallen in love with you"The pleasant memory of holding your hand. Never do I want this feeling to fade.In the palm of your hand I felt a piece of your heart.
Monday, December 2, 2013
PERSONAL: FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
** PLEASE READ THIS ENTIRE AD CAREFULLY BEFORE CONTACTING ME INCLUDING THE FAQs/COMMENTS AT THE END. THANK YOU.
(P.S. If you contact me it will be assumed you have read, understood and agree with everything on this page. If you disagree or don't like anything please don't contact me. On the other hand, "If you SNOOZE, you lose. . .") Please take this as a fair and friendly prior warning.
ME = A very nice, mature , "gentleman." with a higher college degree and education. I have my own house (not apartment), car, income, etc. A professional man with a GOOD BACKGROUND. Better than 99% of what you will find, GUARANTEE #1.
YOU = Good girl for friendship and romance. You would be treated very well and nobody will treat you better (GUARANTEE #2). HOWEVER IN ORDER FOR THIS TO HAPPEN . . .YOU HAVE TO BE. . . "Worthy," "Deserving" and "Reciprocate."
IF YOU WANT A RESPONSE, please E-mail
(1) your name,
(2) your email address,
(3) phone number.
If your email message is incomplete (does not include all 6 items above), ignorant, disrespectful or sarcastic you will NOT get a response. NO exceptions or excuses. The email gets deleted without paying any attention to it. DO NOT contact me if you are unwilling or unable to exchange phone #, talk on the phone a
*Note #1 - If you are currently pregnant or have children, it won't work out. DO NOT contact me. I have been with single mom before and it didn't work out.
* Note #2 - Remember something ladies, especially THOSE OF YOU who "Complain" about "Men." The problem is NOT "Men." The problem is YOUR "Pick," "Selection" and "Taste" in men. Do you see the difference? Choose "Better" men and you will have "Better" experiences with men. GET IT? I tell all ladies the same thing. Either you appreciate, value and can recognize a "good" man (gentleman) or you don't. If you do, you benefit (win). If you don't, you lose. The smart ones do and the dumb ones don't. WHICH ONE ARE YOU??
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) & Comments. . .
1) Question: If you are such an amazing guy then why are you still searching or single?
Answer: Good question. I am looking for a "Worthy and Deserving" girl. By this, I mean, "mature," "intelligent," "responsible," "grateful," etc. That's like finding a needle in a haystack. Basically, I'm looking for "quality" over "quantity" so that takes longer to find.
2) Question: Most guys say they are great or a gentleman. How do I know that's really you?
Answer: Good question. I also find that most girls tell me they are a "Good Girl" too or "Worthy and Deserving" but often that's not the case either. Thus, the best and ONLY way to really know if the guy or girl is "great," is by talking to them and eventually met that persons and having conversations, etc. Otherwise, you will never know for sure. This works both ways for men and women. The man has to "test" the woman and vice-versa.
3) Question: Do you really think online dating is a good or serious place to find what you are looking for? Do you really take this serious?
Answer: What do you have to lose by trying? You never know for certain unless you try. Right? If you have a negative expectation, the results will be the same. Thus, I look at "online" places as another place with "potential" and "possibilities" instead of looking at it from a negative or pessimistic perspective.
4) Question: I'm not in New York I currently live in where ever. Is that OK?
Answer: No. If you live "outside" of New York it will be very difficult or impossible for a real friendship or relationship requiring traveling.
Long distance relationship don't work. As long as we are both in New York. it's not a major problem UNLESS you are unwilling or unable to "drive" —OR- use public transportation including the bus or train. I will drive to you but you must also be able or willing to travel to me and to some equal extent. I may ask you to drive or travel to me on the first meeting to "test" if you are serious. The focus and priority is on the "person" not their distance. If you allow "distance" to distract your attention from the main focus (the two people) or use "distance" as your excuse then DO NOT contact me because you have your priorities and focus out of line.
I wish we lived in a "perfect" world and everything was across the street from my house or within walking distance so none of us would need cars, trains or airplanes. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect or ideal world. This world is full of "challenges" for everyone. Relationships (especially "successful" ones) require enormous time, energy and effort from both man and woman. Relationships are like a full time "JOB." It's NOT "EASY." If you are not able or willing to commit to the challenges of the "job" then you are not ready for the "job." It's that simple. (P.S. If everyone could find someone close to them or across the street, then none of us would need to be looking online for someone. Right? Get it?).
5) Question: What exactly are you looking for?
Answer: A romantic relationship that will end in marriage. Thus, if this is not what you are looking for then you SHOULD NOT contact me. (P.S. I am NOT looking for a Facebook, email, telephone, texting or platonic friend. I am NOT looking for patients either. So don't contact me for anything besides what is described above).
6) Question: I'm only 18 or 27. Don't you think you are too old for me?
Answer: DEPENDS on your level of "MATURITY," mental growth, intelligence and overall cognitive understanding. If you are MATURE for your age it shouldn't be a problem unless you are still playing with barbie dolls, teddy bears, video games, etc. Generally speaking the MAN should be OLDER than the woman because females mature or age faster than males (both physically and mentally). This is a scientific fact. For example, females reach puberty on average at age 9 or 10. Males don't reach puberty until 14 or 15 on average. Another reason why bigger or older age gaps work better is because older men have more resources, maturity, education, life experiences, etc., to provide, treat or care for a woman properly.Generally, men under age 40 are still considered "young" while women under 30 are considered "young." Age has a different meaning and consequence for men and women.
7) Question ("Comment"): You sound or seem rude, aggressive, controlling or cocky. Just like my asshole ex-boyfriend or husband.
Answer: And you sound ignorant just like my XXXXX ex-girlfriend. It's ignorant and ridiculous to judge someone so quickly without ever talking to them, meeting them and not even spending 10 minutes with them. Trust me, I am not like your ex-boyfriend or husband. I'm much better. Don't be quick to judge someone (especially negatively) until you really get to know them which takes time.
8) Question: Are you at least 6 foot tall? Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
Answer: NO. And if this is your first focus or priority don't contact me. Instead, you need to FIRST "educate" yourself about the keys to success and happiness in relationships. These are not based on how many tattoos or inches on a ruler.
9) Question: I am super cute and have a great body. Are you good enough for me?
Answer: Tell me something about yourself that I or other men cannot $$ PURCHASE $$ for a few dollars off the street and you will have my attention. Being cute or attractive is no doubt appealing but NOT sufficient. Sadly and more humorous, most girls think just being "cute" or "pretty" will get them far or that's all they need to be successful with men. Sorry, this is not the case especially with smarter and more intelligent men with resources. We know better and not easily fooled by just a "pretty" girl. You need more than "pretty" ladies, especially if you want something real, serious or long-term with a man.
10) Question: Do you drink alcohol like beer or liquor? Do you smoke or do any type of drugs? Do you mind if I do?
Answer: NO and I don't mind if you drink on once in a while, but I personally don't drink, smoke or take drut.
11) Question: I like to be "spoiled" and I want to know how much you are going to spend on me. How much?
Answer: You sound like a gold-digger or prostitute. My headline doesn't say $ATM$ Machine. If you are looking for an ATM Machine to finance and "spoil" yourself look somewhere else. You have to appreciate the company of a "gentleman" and at the same time appreciate any amount he spends on you, if any. He has no obligation to spend a dollar on you BUT he MAY depending on what he thinks you are worthy and deserving of (not what you think) and how well you reciprocate and show appreciation for it. If you are focused on his money instead of him or if you are a gold-digger, escort or prostitute don't bother. (P.S. I don't need to be online to find a XXXXX. and are easily accessible. Get it?)
12) Question ("Comment"): Sorry, I passed out in bed and wasn't able to call or text you back. Now I am in bed sick, I have a sore throat. My phone battery died too.
Answer: I think I have heard you say that before or that you had to take your dog to the vet or something else. If you have a tendency to make "excuses" for a lot of things, then you probably aren't ready for any friendship or relationship for that manner. So that gives you a hint. If you are an "excuse-maker" don't contact me. It won't get you far with me.
13) Question: Do you have any children? Do you have a wife?
Answer: NO I am divorce
14) Question: What type of music do you like? Do you like dogs? I need to know before I send you any information about myself.
Answer: I will answering your questions when I know who you are and know you are serious. This will give me confidence that I'm not wasting a lot of time answering questions to a fake or phony person. As of right now, and if you have been reading this far, you know A LOT more about me than I know about you.
15) Question ("Comment"): I can only text or email you -OR- I can't talk much over the phone —OR- I will let you know in a few days when we can meet.
Answer: Seems like you aren't too serious and aren't looking for something real or serious either. If you are looking for a "texting" relationship or uncertain as to what exactly you want, then DO NOT contact me. If you have read this far, it should be clear to you what I am looking for.
16) Question ("Comment"): I am scared of "Internet" dating. I don't meet anyone from the Internet.
Answer: Then why are you on the "Internet" and searching here? You don't get into a car and start driving and then tell your passengers inside the car that you are afraid to drive. Either you are scared or not. Do yourself a favor. On the top right of your screen there is a "Log-Out" or "X" button. Close your screen and turn off your computer and hopefully your fear will go away soon.
17) Question ("Comment"): I am going to be evicted from my house and will be homeless soon. My parents are also going through a divorce and I have to go to Court next week.
Answer: Sounds like you have a lot of personal problems or distractions in your life at the moment. It's best to resolve whatever your personal tragedies or challenges are first and before you pursue a relationship with someone. DO NOT contact me if you are too distracted from personal matters in your life because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship.
18) Question ("Comment"): I have to work all this week and my school starts the week after. I am super busy and don't have time to meet or date for some time.
Answer: It sounds like you don't have time for a "relationship" either which is like another "JOB." You have to be "available" and willing to set aside time to show up to the "JOB." You have to resolve whatever "outside" distractions or obstacles you have (i.e., other jobs, school, etc) so you can be available for at least 2-3 full days per week and at various times including weekends for dating, hanging out, etc. DO NOT contact me if you are too "busy" or "unavailable" because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship. You will not make any progress in that matter and in the area of relationships.
19) Question: Why can't you XXX?! —OR- I want to know why XXX!?.
Answer: Asking questions is fine but "arguing" is NOT attractive. You have a right to disagree BUT if your intention is to "argue," just do us both a favor and don't contact me at all. Men, in general, are TURNED-OFF by aggressive or argumentative woman BECAUSE it is characteristic of a traditional "masculine" person and NOT someone feminine. Have you heard of the "Bitch" stereotype? That's what I mean. When men date the opposite sex they don't want to feel they are with another man but with a female. If this is your style, please DO NOT contact me because we won't get along.
(P.S. If you contact me it will be assumed you have read, understood and agree with everything on this page. If you disagree or don't like anything please don't contact me. On the other hand, "If you SNOOZE, you lose. . .") Please take this as a fair and friendly prior warning.
ME = A very nice, mature , "gentleman." with a higher college degree and education. I have my own house (not apartment), car, income, etc. A professional man with a GOOD BACKGROUND. Better than 99% of what you will find, GUARANTEE #1.
YOU = Good girl for friendship and romance. You would be treated very well and nobody will treat you better (GUARANTEE #2). HOWEVER IN ORDER FOR THIS TO HAPPEN . . .YOU HAVE TO BE. . . "Worthy," "Deserving" and "Reciprocate."
IF YOU WANT A RESPONSE, please E-mail
(1) your name,
(2) your email address,
(3) phone number.
If your email message is incomplete (does not include all 6 items above), ignorant, disrespectful or sarcastic you will NOT get a response. NO exceptions or excuses. The email gets deleted without paying any attention to it. DO NOT contact me if you are unwilling or unable to exchange phone #, talk on the phone a
*Note #1 - If you are currently pregnant or have children, it won't work out. DO NOT contact me. I have been with single mom before and it didn't work out.
* Note #2 - Remember something ladies, especially THOSE OF YOU who "Complain" about "Men." The problem is NOT "Men." The problem is YOUR "Pick," "Selection" and "Taste" in men. Do you see the difference? Choose "Better" men and you will have "Better" experiences with men. GET IT? I tell all ladies the same thing. Either you appreciate, value and can recognize a "good" man (gentleman) or you don't. If you do, you benefit (win). If you don't, you lose. The smart ones do and the dumb ones don't. WHICH ONE ARE YOU??
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) & Comments. . .
1) Question: If you are such an amazing guy then why are you still searching or single?
Answer: Good question. I am looking for a "Worthy and Deserving" girl. By this, I mean, "mature," "intelligent," "responsible," "grateful," etc. That's like finding a needle in a haystack. Basically, I'm looking for "quality" over "quantity" so that takes longer to find.
2) Question: Most guys say they are great or a gentleman. How do I know that's really you?
Answer: Good question. I also find that most girls tell me they are a "Good Girl" too or "Worthy and Deserving" but often that's not the case either. Thus, the best and ONLY way to really know if the guy or girl is "great," is by talking to them and eventually met that persons and having conversations, etc. Otherwise, you will never know for sure. This works both ways for men and women. The man has to "test" the woman and vice-versa.
3) Question: Do you really think online dating is a good or serious place to find what you are looking for? Do you really take this serious?
Answer: What do you have to lose by trying? You never know for certain unless you try. Right? If you have a negative expectation, the results will be the same. Thus, I look at "online" places as another place with "potential" and "possibilities" instead of looking at it from a negative or pessimistic perspective.
4) Question: I'm not in New York I currently live in where ever. Is that OK?
Answer: No. If you live "outside" of New York it will be very difficult or impossible for a real friendship or relationship requiring traveling.
Long distance relationship don't work. As long as we are both in New York. it's not a major problem UNLESS you are unwilling or unable to "drive" —OR- use public transportation including the bus or train. I will drive to you but you must also be able or willing to travel to me and to some equal extent. I may ask you to drive or travel to me on the first meeting to "test" if you are serious. The focus and priority is on the "person" not their distance. If you allow "distance" to distract your attention from the main focus (the two people) or use "distance" as your excuse then DO NOT contact me because you have your priorities and focus out of line.
I wish we lived in a "perfect" world and everything was across the street from my house or within walking distance so none of us would need cars, trains or airplanes. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect or ideal world. This world is full of "challenges" for everyone. Relationships (especially "successful" ones) require enormous time, energy and effort from both man and woman. Relationships are like a full time "JOB." It's NOT "EASY." If you are not able or willing to commit to the challenges of the "job" then you are not ready for the "job." It's that simple. (P.S. If everyone could find someone close to them or across the street, then none of us would need to be looking online for someone. Right? Get it?).
5) Question: What exactly are you looking for?
Answer: A romantic relationship that will end in marriage. Thus, if this is not what you are looking for then you SHOULD NOT contact me. (P.S. I am NOT looking for a Facebook, email, telephone, texting or platonic friend. I am NOT looking for patients either. So don't contact me for anything besides what is described above).
6) Question: I'm only 18 or 27. Don't you think you are too old for me?
Answer: DEPENDS on your level of "MATURITY," mental growth, intelligence and overall cognitive understanding. If you are MATURE for your age it shouldn't be a problem unless you are still playing with barbie dolls, teddy bears, video games, etc. Generally speaking the MAN should be OLDER than the woman because females mature or age faster than males (both physically and mentally). This is a scientific fact. For example, females reach puberty on average at age 9 or 10. Males don't reach puberty until 14 or 15 on average. Another reason why bigger or older age gaps work better is because older men have more resources, maturity, education, life experiences, etc., to provide, treat or care for a woman properly.Generally, men under age 40 are still considered "young" while women under 30 are considered "young." Age has a different meaning and consequence for men and women.
7) Question ("Comment"): You sound or seem rude, aggressive, controlling or cocky. Just like my asshole ex-boyfriend or husband.
Answer: And you sound ignorant just like my XXXXX ex-girlfriend. It's ignorant and ridiculous to judge someone so quickly without ever talking to them, meeting them and not even spending 10 minutes with them. Trust me, I am not like your ex-boyfriend or husband. I'm much better. Don't be quick to judge someone (especially negatively) until you really get to know them which takes time.
8) Question: Are you at least 6 foot tall? Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
Answer: NO. And if this is your first focus or priority don't contact me. Instead, you need to FIRST "educate" yourself about the keys to success and happiness in relationships. These are not based on how many tattoos or inches on a ruler.
9) Question: I am super cute and have a great body. Are you good enough for me?
Answer: Tell me something about yourself that I or other men cannot $$ PURCHASE $$ for a few dollars off the street and you will have my attention. Being cute or attractive is no doubt appealing but NOT sufficient. Sadly and more humorous, most girls think just being "cute" or "pretty" will get them far or that's all they need to be successful with men. Sorry, this is not the case especially with smarter and more intelligent men with resources. We know better and not easily fooled by just a "pretty" girl. You need more than "pretty" ladies, especially if you want something real, serious or long-term with a man.
10) Question: Do you drink alcohol like beer or liquor? Do you smoke or do any type of drugs? Do you mind if I do?
Answer: NO and I don't mind if you drink on once in a while, but I personally don't drink, smoke or take drut.
11) Question: I like to be "spoiled" and I want to know how much you are going to spend on me. How much?
Answer: You sound like a gold-digger or prostitute. My headline doesn't say $ATM$ Machine. If you are looking for an ATM Machine to finance and "spoil" yourself look somewhere else. You have to appreciate the company of a "gentleman" and at the same time appreciate any amount he spends on you, if any. He has no obligation to spend a dollar on you BUT he MAY depending on what he thinks you are worthy and deserving of (not what you think) and how well you reciprocate and show appreciation for it. If you are focused on his money instead of him or if you are a gold-digger, escort or prostitute don't bother. (P.S. I don't need to be online to find a XXXXX. and are easily accessible. Get it?)
12) Question ("Comment"): Sorry, I passed out in bed and wasn't able to call or text you back. Now I am in bed sick, I have a sore throat. My phone battery died too.
Answer: I think I have heard you say that before or that you had to take your dog to the vet or something else. If you have a tendency to make "excuses" for a lot of things, then you probably aren't ready for any friendship or relationship for that manner. So that gives you a hint. If you are an "excuse-maker" don't contact me. It won't get you far with me.
13) Question: Do you have any children? Do you have a wife?
Answer: NO I am divorce
14) Question: What type of music do you like? Do you like dogs? I need to know before I send you any information about myself.
Answer: I will answering your questions when I know who you are and know you are serious. This will give me confidence that I'm not wasting a lot of time answering questions to a fake or phony person. As of right now, and if you have been reading this far, you know A LOT more about me than I know about you.
15) Question ("Comment"): I can only text or email you -OR- I can't talk much over the phone —OR- I will let you know in a few days when we can meet.
Answer: Seems like you aren't too serious and aren't looking for something real or serious either. If you are looking for a "texting" relationship or uncertain as to what exactly you want, then DO NOT contact me. If you have read this far, it should be clear to you what I am looking for.
16) Question ("Comment"): I am scared of "Internet" dating. I don't meet anyone from the Internet.
Answer: Then why are you on the "Internet" and searching here? You don't get into a car and start driving and then tell your passengers inside the car that you are afraid to drive. Either you are scared or not. Do yourself a favor. On the top right of your screen there is a "Log-Out" or "X" button. Close your screen and turn off your computer and hopefully your fear will go away soon.
17) Question ("Comment"): I am going to be evicted from my house and will be homeless soon. My parents are also going through a divorce and I have to go to Court next week.
Answer: Sounds like you have a lot of personal problems or distractions in your life at the moment. It's best to resolve whatever your personal tragedies or challenges are first and before you pursue a relationship with someone. DO NOT contact me if you are too distracted from personal matters in your life because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship.
18) Question ("Comment"): I have to work all this week and my school starts the week after. I am super busy and don't have time to meet or date for some time.
Answer: It sounds like you don't have time for a "relationship" either which is like another "JOB." You have to be "available" and willing to set aside time to show up to the "JOB." You have to resolve whatever "outside" distractions or obstacles you have (i.e., other jobs, school, etc) so you can be available for at least 2-3 full days per week and at various times including weekends for dating, hanging out, etc. DO NOT contact me if you are too "busy" or "unavailable" because you are not ready to be in a real/serious relationship. You will not make any progress in that matter and in the area of relationships.
19) Question: Why can't you XXX?! —OR- I want to know why XXX!?.
Answer: Asking questions is fine but "arguing" is NOT attractive. You have a right to disagree BUT if your intention is to "argue," just do us both a favor and don't contact me at all. Men, in general, are TURNED-OFF by aggressive or argumentative woman BECAUSE it is characteristic of a traditional "masculine" person and NOT someone feminine. Have you heard of the "Bitch" stereotype? That's what I mean. When men date the opposite sex they don't want to feel they are with another man but with a female. If this is your style, please DO NOT contact me because we won't get along.
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate,
A vision of a woman without a face stays with me day and night.This woman, this perfect woman is my perfect princess. She made her way into my life,not knowing what we would share.I knew she existed, but didn't see her standing there. One night, one perfect night,our paths crossed once more.A vision of a woman without a face...gone, when you opened the door. I had the dream, again, last night,you were there with open arms waiting for me to join you......The smile on your face,the light in your eyes said it all.......You came to rescue me, to give me love,life.......You always knew I wanted to live again to be free to laugh,love......You could feel it in my words,in my actions and you came for me......And I ran to you, to hold you, to love you......From the moment I first met you,I knew right then-you were the one.You bring happiness to my life.from the moment you touched me-our life had begun.Nothing else matters but you and me.You followed the path to my heart and then you became my destiny.When we kissed.. I felt forever. I can feel your breath upon my skin. I can feel your love from deep within.
A vision of a woman without a face stays with me day and night.This woman, this perfect woman is my perfect princess. She made her way into my life,not knowing what we would share.I knew she existed, but didn't see her standing there. One night, one perfect night,our paths crossed once more.A vision of a woman without a face...gone, when you opened the door. I had the dream, again, last night,you were there with open arms waiting for me to join you......The smile on your face,the light in your eyes said it all.......You came to rescue me, to give me love,life.......You always knew I wanted to live again to be free to laugh,love......You could feel it in my words,in my actions and you came for me......And I ran to you, to hold you, to love you......From the moment I first met you,I knew right then-you were the one.You bring happiness to my life.from the moment you touched me-our life had begun.Nothing else matters but you and me.You followed the path to my heart and then you became my destiny.When we kissed.. I felt forever. I can feel your breath upon my skin. I can feel your love from deep within.
Sunday, December 1, 2013
PERSONAL/ LOVE LETTER: DEAR SOULMATE
Dear Soulmate
Everyone in this world dreams of the perfect relationship at one time or another. I think I stumbled upon what I have dreamed all my life.But can this be real? Can this be it? Do I finally have my wish of all wishes, to be with someone who will make me truly happy? When you get what you wish for, it almost doesn't seem real or true, I never thought it would happen for me! I talk to you late at night or early day, I have this silly grin from ear to ear. As if you can hear me smiling through the phone. Did you know I had a smile on my face each time I spoke with you? I wondered if you could hear it in my voice. Ecstasy is you here with me..The way that things should be A simple touch, A gentle kiss. Those the things that I most miss. A loving stare, a simple phrase. Can keep me going on for days. You are the most beautiful thing to ever meet my eyes,More beautiful than a sunrise in the vast sun-broken sky. I'm going to make you part of me. You're going to be a part of my soul. Every breath you take I'll take it with you. And in every thought of mine, you'll be there to make me smile and forget my sorrows.And every tear you shed I'll be there to help you through your pain. With every day that passes by I will love you even more. And when we grow old and there is no more tomorrow, I want to be there by your side because when the day comes to leave it all behind,I want to know that every day of my life was spent with you by my side.
Everyone in this world dreams of the perfect relationship at one time or another. I think I stumbled upon what I have dreamed all my life.But can this be real? Can this be it? Do I finally have my wish of all wishes, to be with someone who will make me truly happy? When you get what you wish for, it almost doesn't seem real or true, I never thought it would happen for me! I talk to you late at night or early day, I have this silly grin from ear to ear. As if you can hear me smiling through the phone. Did you know I had a smile on my face each time I spoke with you? I wondered if you could hear it in my voice. Ecstasy is you here with me..The way that things should be A simple touch, A gentle kiss. Those the things that I most miss. A loving stare, a simple phrase. Can keep me going on for days. You are the most beautiful thing to ever meet my eyes,More beautiful than a sunrise in the vast sun-broken sky. I'm going to make you part of me. You're going to be a part of my soul. Every breath you take I'll take it with you. And in every thought of mine, you'll be there to make me smile and forget my sorrows.And every tear you shed I'll be there to help you through your pain. With every day that passes by I will love you even more. And when we grow old and there is no more tomorrow, I want to be there by your side because when the day comes to leave it all behind,I want to know that every day of my life was spent with you by my side.
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