LOVE/JOURNAL: I REMEMBER HOW BEING IN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WAS LIKE

I remembered how being a good relationship was like.

- When you and your partner are in a quality relationship that is bound to last, the ridiculous pet names that you call each other won’t seem the least bit embarrassing. Calling each other “bae” or “boo” can sound horrifying until it’s actually happening with the the right person. At that point, those names can take over and calling each other by your standard nicknames or *gasp your full names will seem awkward.


-What really shows a strong relationship is when the two of you start doing things that you haven’t explored too deeply before. I’m not really talking about dates, which are definitely an important part of relationships, but about ongoing activities. If you can handle it, reading the same book at the same time can actually be a lot of fun. Books may not be for you, so watching a seriously terrible Netflix comedy together may be your style (we like Trailer Park Boys a lot).

-The first time with someone new can be the best sex you’ve ever had in your life. The way their skin feels against yours, that little thing they do…you were surprised at first but it really brought you some place you’ve never been. This is fairly common – most people get a thrill from doing new things. Your first time with someone should only be a starting point Getting kinky is great option, provided that you’re being safe and consensual as you should always be. I

-Instead of being sad when that special person is away, you are looking forward to what it will be like when they return. Time apart gives each of you time to think about what you appreciate in the other person and time to let dissipate anything that gets under your skin. When you’re falling asleep in bed alone and you’re longing for their scent, you know what’s truly important.This isn’t to say that you don’t miss them terribly, but it’s more of an appreciative sort of ache.

-Couples that don’t have any contrasting characteristics are scary and cult-like. There’s no way you both have the same favorite movie, song, and favorite color.

-Let be honest here – love is something that takes time. Love-at-first-sight is an infatuation; an appreciation for another person. Love is about trust and a mutual understanding of values.The sign to look for is that when “I love you” is said, there is some obvious feeling behind it even if it is only a text message. Saying those words out of habit and not out of feeling is a bad thing to start doing

-Your happiness is just as valid as theirs, and you recognize that. Sure, you’d really like to go to that football game you’ve been waiting for three months to go to but their mother’s 60th birthday is today and you’re going to leave at halftime because it’s the right thing to do. The best part is, you’re not even upset about it. This applies in the bedroom too. Yeah, you’ve never considered putting that in there but it’s not going to cause damage, you’re not morally opposed to it, and it doesn’t frighten you so why not? Pleasing your partner makes you just as happy as it makes them.