DATING: FINDING A QUALITY WOMAN

One thing is for sure....dating these days can be extremely draining....especially for us single man. Speaking from a single male perspective, I find it extremely difficult to keep going on and on and on...meeting, dating, becoming interested, only to find myself disappointed, frustrated and back to square one.  

As a heterosexual man, with standards, I think that it is a shame that it's so difficult to find a good, decent woman to fall in love with! I like to think that I am a good catch!  I'm educated, close to my family, I work, no children, a doctor, I have my own house, car,  and needless to say....I think i'm attractive :)....so really, I can't understand why dating has become such a task for me!  Not saying that I'm perfect, because I am flawed just like the rest, but I promise you, my good qualities out weigh the bad.

There must be good QUALITY and ATTRACTIVE women out there!  Why must we have such a hard time finding QUALITY women???  If I knew the answer to that, I would be a billionaire and off in a villa in Tahiti right this moment!

Now, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a hopeless romantic, because regrettably I am.  I can't help it, I just love LOVE!  I love to see people in love and in healthy relationships.  Oddly, it gives me hope.  Sure, sometimes I get around others who have seemed to find their love or they are married and seem to be so happy and I may feel a brief moment of saddness that I am not able to experience that feeling, but at the end of the day, I am glad that someone I care about is able to experience what so many of us single have yet to experience or experience again.  I refuse to be a hater...I think it's bad business for me to be jealous of someone else's happiness and love.....just for fear that I may mess up my "love karma".

I'm sure some of you ladies who are feeling the same way I am would agree that dating should not be this hard!!  I simply find it exhausting to be out there on the dating scene when it seems that the pickings of good women are slim to none.  I don't know about you, but I AM ABSOLUTELY TIRED OF meeting women who can't bring anything to the table but a headache and confusion!  I'm tired of scraping the bottom of the barrel hoping to find my queen of hearts!

What's a guy to do? The people will often say "Don't look for her, let her find you", "Pray about it and God will send your one", or my favorite "Your time is coming".... (mind you, doesn't it seem that always comes from your guys that are already married or in long-term relationships....smh lol).  I know they mean well, but it is so easy for them to forget how being single and out here dating these days feels when they have lucked up to get the love they have been waiting for.  To tell you the truth...let me luck and find a woman, I will forget how it feels too! So who can blame them? I can't! But the fact is, you feel some kinda way when someone who isn't in your shoes at that moment is telling you how the shoe feels.

Woman come a dime a dozen, but a quality woman is like finding a needle in a hay stack.  I don't believe that all women are bad...I KNOW there are still some good women out there.  The challenge is....not letting the dating scene exhaust you to the point of frustration.  I teeter on this all the time.  I can't tell you how frustrated I get when I meet a woman who has no concept of what it means to be a WOMAN.  She isn't working, she's out in the club poppin' bottles every week, she staying at home still with her parents, etc and she feels it's okay to piggy-back on what you have.  If it isn't that, then there's "Ms. Right Now"....the one who has no interest in genuinely being involved, she just wants your goodies and willing to do and say whatever she needs in order to make it happen.  

My quest to find Ms. Right has become such an exhausting ordeal, I even wonder if it is meant for me to encounter that "enchanting love experience".  I don't know....but I do know that eventually, something has got to give and get better....it sure can't get no worse!