I am a man who I would consider to have normal goals, a good personality, and good looks,.While I may not be the most amazing man out there, I donít think it would be unreasonable to expect woman to be interested in me. Unfortunately however, my experience hasn't been great.. I have been very disappointed with the attitudes of the girls I have gone out with as far as their willingness to make a commitment goes.
My dentist recently set me up with a very nice girl. Our first date lasted for about three hours and I had a good time. A few days later, I tried to call her several times to ask her out on a second date, but could not get through to her. She finally emailed me described me as a very nice guy with similar interests to hers, she was too busy with law school to date anyone seriously right now. Now, if she isn't ready for a serious relationship yet, I understand, but in that case, why did she feel the need to waste my time and go out with me?
A friend of mine had a similar experience. He went out with a girl and tried to ask her out on a second date a few days later. She replied, she had had a good time with him, she was going to be studying in California for the next two months and therefore couldn't commit to getting into a serious relationship. While I'm sure she didn't intent to hurt my friend in any way, she succeeded in making him very upset by essentially playing with his emotions.
I just can't understand what these girls are looking for when they agree to go out on a date with someone. I find it hard to believe that a girl would just be looking for a good time. This reminds me of another experience that I had: I was set up with and went out with one girl five times. I really liked her and wanted to continue dating her, but after our fifth date, she told me that she didn't think we should go our anymore because she didn't think that the relationship was moving quickly enough. Since I really liked her, I asked her what she meant and expressed a willingness to get more serious with her. However, she told me that she just wasn't sure about me and didn't want to prolong the relationship by going out on, say, another five dates while she could have perhaps been meeting other people. Now that comment was not only extremely hurtful to me, but it led me to believe that she was not really interested in being in a serious relationship with anybody. She was a smart girl and I cannot imagine that she didn't realize that a relationship must develop between two people over the course of several months while they grow toward each other.
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