PERSONAL/ LOVE: ARE YOU MY MS RIGHT

I believe in Ms. Right and I believe that there is at least one for every single guy who is ready for love. The figure of Ms. Right is all very mysterious and sometimes she is hiding under a mountain of absurdly idealistic expectations. So lets define, who is Ms. Right? And more importantly, how can I get my hands on one?

Ms. Right is not a summation of the list of credentials I made up for the “perfect” woman. She is not just any who who says, “I love you.”  She is not going to look like my favorite movie star

Ms. Right is the woman that meets my needs and makes me happy. If you rely on a woman to meet ALL your needs than you will doom your search to fail because you have unrealistic expectations. My job is to fill your life with love, support, family, friends, hobbies and work. Then notice what needs are left over that are not being met. This small list of remaining needs is the realistic job description for Ms. Right. If we both do our jobs well, we will find each other and be happy together.

As you grow and learn, your life and the priorities of your needs will change. My version of Ms. Right will probably change as well. This process of learning and growing, involves, what I call, a series of “Ms. Right Now’s.” Every year I change and grow into more evolved person. I notice huge changes in who I am and what needs I have year-to-year. And I find that I always manage to attract a new person into my life that meets those needs and teaches me something I am ready to learn. These experiences take me to the next level. I believe that the sum of these Ms. Right Now’s will lead me to become the person I need to be to eventually attract my life partner.

Just as I may not be ready to meet my ultimate Ms. Right, she may not be ready to meet me. I don’t want a piece of chicken that’s undercooked! Ill let other guys deal with that mess. When she is hot, ready, and cooked to “perfection,” she will find me. Meanwhile I will get myself ready and enjoy my time and development with some wonderfully charming Ms. Right Now’s!

When it comes to finding Ms. Right/Now (whichever it may be) compare the arduous dating process with the romantic and everlasting fun of suit shopping. That’s right. Date as if you are trying on  suit. Have a sense of what I want but at the same time,  I stay open minded.  Sure, looks are important when it comes to suit but the most important thing is, how do they feel? How does the suit make me feel? When you try them on, just a try, (you are not committing to anything by saying yes to a walk around the store) observe if they make you feel confidant? Happy? Irritated? Small? Silly? Shy? Sexy? Relaxed? Nervous? Uncomfortable? Just observe.

If you feel any version of bad with the girl then don’t go out with her again. If you feel any version of good with her then let yourself be interested. If she calls you, great! This is your opportunity to either let him know that yes!  Everyone has different tastes. My friend likes ketchup on her spaghetti (gross!) I like pesto. You don’t see ketchup getting insecure because I don’t like it that way. Somebody else loves ketchup on spaghetti. It only takes one to be loved.

Many modern women don’t have room for a man in their life. They been taught that a strong woman is completely independent, successful in the workforce, owns her sexuality, and basically “does it all.” While I very much encourage women to become independent, I want them to be independent with their happiness. But you have to leave room to be made happier. If there is no NEED for a man in your life, he’s not going to apply for the job. Without a call to duty, I'm not going to show up.



PART 2

In the digital world, and the physical world, I keep hearing women talk about finding a husband, and how hard it is to get one. Ladies, it is not that serious or hard at all. Men are quite simple, so you can get one, if you want one. If you want a husband, find one and marry his ass. The problem is that you want Tall, Dark, Rich, Handsome, Muscles, A little of this, a little of that, but I am here to tell that it WILL NOT HAPPEN! There is no perfect man, and I am willing to bet that you are not so perfect your damn self!

Let’s take away all of the physical features and deal with what kind of person you want, or should want. Most women would want a nice, sweet, charming, and romantic man who will listen to them. The type of man who makes them feel as if they are the only woman alive. Am I right, or at least kind of close? How about the type of man that would not mind holding your hand in the public, and/or the type of man that loves to take you out to a nice event? Now I am pretty sure that all of this sounds quite well, but all of this is not good enough for you. You would probably also like this man I just described to have a damn good job, look good, and be physically fit. It’s okay to want all of this, but I’m about to keep it way too real with you. You can have all of this, but you might not be able to get this all at one time.

When it comes to us, we are simple as can be. All a man wants is some food, loving, and for his woman to stroke his ego every now and again. You know! Tell him that he is all the man that you ever wanted. Make him feel like you are proud to have him, and that other dude’s don’t have anything on him. Make him feel like a man, not the little guy at the job that’s barely making it.





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