LOVE: HOW CAN YOU GIVE IF YOU'RE JUST ASKING? YOU CAN'T

My journey with women has been long and very confusing. Not because women are bitches (though some really are) or because they’re after money or tall guys (SURPRISE! some still are).

Nobody taught me how to ‘behave’ with women. I had to learn from my every mistake – with anxiety omnipresent, with the feeling of ‘I don’t wanna fuck up’, with trying to be someone I wasn’t. I would pretend I don’t care, I would be shit-scared when I would have to talk to a unknown woman.

I keep wondering how fucked up relationships between men and women are. Movies are over-rated, go watch a couple interact. For me it’s 10 times more entertaining. Then I would go cry because we as men are so stupid and women are stuck in a position of ‘not knowing any better’. We, as genders, are in a prison –the prison of our erroneous beliefs and social conditioning of how we should behave.

Let’s face it. Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone wants to be supported and appreciated. But how can we find someone that’s loving and appreciative if everyone is searching for the same thing too? How can you give if you’re just asking? You can’t.

My purpose is #1, then come the ladies. Why? Because I feel it’s way more important to run after making the world a better place through my passions and abilities than run after meaningless skirts (although I do love summer skirts) . Second, true women are attracted to men who know who they are and what they want. It’s a byproduct of working on yourself.

After I stopped seeing women like strict pleasure-giving creatures, my vision of them changed. They’re human beings. (let the trumpets blow, the party begin and bring in the cake!) They’re just people like us men, only different.

Wait, the stupid conclusions don’t stop here! There’s more! …

As I connect deeper and deeper with them I can get a sense of how vulnerable they are. Like us, they have to hide behind social masks to protect their feelings. They have to act in a certain way (playing hard to get, being overly-cool and uninterested – sounds familiar?) to have success and be attractive. They’re just as scared as we are (most of them) and want a strong man, a stable and confident one that can guide her on a adventure, on a incredible journey where she feels fun, joy and protected.

So I can be a jack-ass, as I did many times – crack jokes about everything, especially her. I trained myself that way (alpha-male-bullshit) because it put me in a position where I was the leader and it worked. (it worked for who? for the meaningless chicks) Is that really the solution? My only solution is to open up. Being myself vulnerable. Telling her what I really think and feel. That way, we can relate as two intimate human beings, not two social masks.

She DOESN’T want to make fun of you. She doesn’t want your money, your attention and doesn’t want you to brag about how cool you are so she will be ‘attracted’ to you.

VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: I’m talking about non-psychotic women here, those who are pretty stable. Of course there are a lot of women who just want attention, money and just want to make fun of you. The question is – do you really want to meet them? I can tell pretty quickly when I deal with them. I just leave. I have standards for people in my life, I don’t want crap. And neither should you.

Ultimately, I see women as beings that need love more than anything. They need to be appreciated and cared for. Like a flower, they blossom when watered with love. This gives me a fantastic opportunity – connecting my purpose of giving love to the world with loving women for who they are, as human beings, so they can blossom and give love back even more – to the world and to me, if they wish so.

There’s another VERY important detail here. Notice I’m not asking for anything. I’m not desperate. I don’t want sex, attention, validation of anything of such. I just don’t care. If it doesn’t work out – you don’t like or I don’t like you, it’s ok. There are plenty other people for both of us out there.

It’s not self-imposed – it’s just when you get over sex (which is great, don’t get me wrong, it just doesn’t run the show of my thoughts and feelings anymore) you get over these things. I’m in a position of giving. I’m sure I will receive plenty for this but again, that’s not the catch. If I’d give just to receive, would’t I be desperate again?

You have to be willing to joyfully give from your abundant heart and mind to get here. You have to be full of love (for yourself, for others, for the world) before you can give.

Currently I think my current vision is bringing me happiness, love and peace of mind. In the same time, I’m giving more love than ever and continue to evolve and learn more than ever. It’s like a vortex.


I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.