LOVE: THE MOMENT YOUR LIFE CHANGED// SOMETIMES WE MEET PEOPLE WHO CHANGE OUR LIVES

There are certain moments when your life changes, it just shifts… sometimes you realize them as they are happening… other times you have to reflect at a future date … looking back to see just were it shifted.

That instant when you make a decision, that one snap call… that when you look back upon in some time hence, you realize that is were it all changed … in an instant whether you realized it then or not at the time.

That moment when you find out you are going to be a parent… the terror, the joy, that “holy shit! WTF am I going to do now?” moment!

That moment when you learn you just got that scholarship, that acceptance letter from the college you wanted to get into…

That moment when life changes…

and you finally decide to put all you’ve got into a business because you’ve finally figured out just what you are going to do with YOUR life.

That moment when life changes and you realize your current marriage or relationship is truly, irreversibly over. The crushing pain, the feeling of failure for so long… then you decide to try to rebuild, but you go through so many losers you cant bare another and you give up. But just days later when you’ve stopped looking, by some seemingly random series of events meet THE ONE online as just as you close your dating account… and you know it instantly.

Horrible things to experience at the time for sure… but in time you look back and see that they were in fact critical moments in time… that for better or worse shaped who you are now as a result, and you couldn’t imagine it happening any other way.

We’ve all had these moments when our life changes ..But the thing is… is we seldom look at or consider all the little moments… the little things that lead up to those big moments.  The incredible chain of events that must have occurred to put us in that place, at that time.

It’s true the people we meet shape us. But the people we don’t meet shape us also, often more because we have imagined them so vividly. There are people we yearn for but never seem to meet. Every adult yearns for some stranger, but it is really childhood we miss. We are yearning for that which has been stolen from us by what we have become.

We are not at home in the world because we imagined it is as we have become, full of nothing but yearning and forgetting and hoping for something so raw we can’t describe it. We think of the world as the place of beginnings and ends, and we forget the in between, and even how to inhabit our own bodies. And then in adulthood, we sit and wonder why we feel so lost.

Our lives, are they written somewhere up there? Besides our parents, of course, we have met people that changed our lives. Persons that defined our character and our ways.  What if you, myself and them made other choices in life? You would've, and we could've had another life, and maybe other kids; the ones you have today would've been just part of a sweet dream from yesteryear. So we keep pushing the original question: Were we suppose to live this existence with the parents that gave us life? Were our cells and molecules, set to reproduce a person like us?

Going back to people that came into the picture, to an almost perfect timing to direct our lives. We are to meet people that will learn from us, as though they were appointed to meet us... even before birth .