LOVE: THE HUGE ATTRACTION TO MARRIED LIFE

As we travel through life we always have a mental picture of what our future will look like. We look out five, ten, fifteen and sometimes even twenty or thirty years into our future and contemplate what our little worlds will look like. I’d look out in to my future and see myself single throughout my mid-twenties, married and enjoying life in my 30′s, a parent soon after and a grandparent somewhere in my 60′s. In all that projecting, the person I projected by my side was always some beautiful phantom of a woman whose face I could never quite discern because I had yet to meet her. Somewhere along the line in my relationship with Mrs Right that all changed. When I imagined my future life, the face of the beautiful woman standing next to me in both my immediate and long term future was clear.  It was her, and there was nothing I could do to shake that. 

When I think about settling down,there is a huge attraction to married life:

1. Steady pussy from a girl that is at least as hot and good sexually as the average girl I'd be banging otherwise - ideally, she will be significantly better. In fact, most guys are settling for the girls they bang casually, while they wait for a girl worth marrying.

2. The ability to raise children. A man loves (perhaps even has a need) to feel powerful, just as much as a woman loves to feel beautiful and nuturing. Psychologists among those reading can correct my unlearned observation here, but the power a man feels being responsible for the life of a child (even the physical power he feels being able to lift a baby up with such ease) should not be underestimated as a draw of married life and commitment.

3. Companionship. The idea of being an old man alone (albeit one who has a ton of notches in his belt from 40 years earlier) is depressing. Men are more independent than women, but we are not autonomous. Most of us want someone to share our life with. True, we want someone who doesn't nag, and makes herself beautiful as she can, and is a pleasure to be around, of course, but loneliness is a real consideration.

These things are "pull factors" towards marriage, rather than "push factors" from single life (like being the oldest guy in the bar). Aging may make men start to consider these things, but for me personally, it is those things that draw me to the idea of settling down. We'll see if I ever make it there...