SPIRITUAL: A NEW YEAR PRAY

Dear God I ask for your presence.. My value and my worth is not contingent to people lusting after me. I renounce any negative forces that are keeping me on the path of destruction. God help me to know my worth. Help me to be humble and respectful. Love is unconditional. Love is an act of the will accompanied by emotion that leads to action on behalf of it’s object. Love is a choice. .Marriage and family should come first. I make responsible decisions and I commit to my choices.

I have a list of things to look for in a relationship with yourself and in a relationship with my future wife. First of all you need to look for the acronym C.A.R.E.S.S.

C-Compassion,
A- Acceptance,
R- Respect,
E- Encouragement,
S-Support
S- Stroking

I got this from a book by Carolynn Hillman called Recovery of your self-esteem

Secondly (this is my idea,I made it up) look for and receive the 6 C’s which is
COMPASSION,
 COMMUNICATION,
 CHARACTER,
COMPATIBILITY,
COMMITMENT,
COMPLIMENTS.


The other two C’s are COMPROMISE and CHEMISTRY. WHICH ARE LESS IMPORTANT.

I have learned that someone you are sexually and physically attracted to today,you may not be sexually or physically attracted to them in two years,five years or twenty years time. Physical attraction and sexual attraction doesn’t usually last a lifetime, but compatibility usually does last.So I am saying that you should find someone you are compatible with intellectually rather than going for physical and sexual chemistry.The more compatible you are, the less you are likely to need to compromise.


The world is a giant mirror reflecting and attracting my beliefs.
My relationships reflect back the way I treat myself.
My relationships reflect back the way I treat others.
My relationships reflect back to me my sub-conscious thoughts
and beliefs about myself and past unresolved problems.
My relationships reflect back to me what I need to learn.
My relationships attracts what I believe about other people.
When I change the way I view things,
my thinking and my perception also changes and as a result my life changes.

This is about how we unconsciously attract and reflect our thoughts in our relationships.This is similar to “mirror like awareness” and “mirror like consciousness” in Buddhism.