LOVE: CHEAP WITH MONEY, CHEAP WITH LOVE

Cheap with money, cheap with love,' my mother said. She was right. A woman who is cheap is someone who always has the funds to spend on herself, no matter how stupid or trivial the purchase, yet never seems to cough up the dough to either go Dutch with me or treat me once in a blue moon.

Is she just cheap with money, or is she cheap in other ways as well? Is she cheap with time?  Is she cheap with sex? Is she cheap with emotion? When you ask for her to be there for you -- or for her to express herself, how much do you get?

People way of spending money is so different. One person's priorities might be for big-budget expenditures such as exercise equipment and new windows (like myself) ; others are weekends in Paris and more kitchenware. Expenditure such as going to the cinema and out to dinner may appear as  luxury items to one person but necessities to other.It's also possible the two of you simply have different views on what constitutes generosity. People value giving in different ways and all are equally good -- be it spending money, giving compliments, sharing time, being affectionate, etc.. What is critical  to me is that the way you want to receive gifts be compatible with the way a woman wants to give them to you, and vice versa. Maybe she gives in other ways, but not in a way that is meaningful to you.


My parents’ financial ease was derived from their shared attitude about money. They had a joint account and both deposited their wages into it. If my mother wanted new shoes or a new sofa, she simply wrote a cheque for them, no questions asked. If my father wanted to go out with his friends, no problem. They both worked hard, and enjoyed living well. Joanne was my first real adult relationship.She worked in marketing research. she spoiled me with dinner at my favourite restaurant,sex anywhere and even took me on vacation.. I did the same for her, finding the obscure music she liked and buying nice wine for the meals she cooked. We  happily stayed at home watching old movies on television, eating pasta, kissing.

My ex wife was a totally different story. On our first date...since she came to the city to see me..she request that I pay for her parking in the parking lot, I knew I married the wrong woman at our first Christmas together  when I went out and brought her a gift..and she gave me a box full of love notes...and that was it!!!! It wasn't like she was poor and didn't have money...she had money. Hell she gives her parent money every Christmas. I was so hurt that I cried...and the worst part is that she still think that what she did was right. It was at I knew I married the wrong person. The emphasis on money became symbolic of something deeply wrong in our relationship. I couldn’t stay with a woman who would not share her heart fully. She  couldn’t share anything, except her pussy and that wasn’t enough for me. Why did I spend so much time with a woman who never once really cared about me...someone I couldn't trust. To this day, the answer is difficult to discern. I wasn’t desperate for love ...it was chemistry. After that day....and it was a slow build up...but.there are many other things...too much to mention here that just made me realize we were two different people.  We had separate accounts. We have never shared our money. No joint account.

One resounding fact that I have found out is that no matter how high-maintenance and good looking a woman may be, if she "genuinely" likes you she WILL at least attempt to chip in and show that she is not an entitled brat just looking for some guy to fund everything. Listen I know that most woman view how a man spends -- or fails to spend -- his money as a direct reflection of how generous and giving he is as a person, they will assume that this trait applies to all aspects of the man's character, from how open he is with his feelings to how much love he is able to give. This is not to say that women equate love with money; simply that women will be more drawn to a man who is generous both in finances and spirit. Another reason why women don't like cheap men is, quite simply, that it is much harder to have a good time with a cheap man than it is with one who doesn't mind investing in one. Unfortunately, those activities that are the most fun tend to cost a little more. Consider watching wrestling on pay-per-view for a few bucks versus going to see it live; it just can't compare. But all this can all be turned out as well..... No woman has any right to view a man as a meal ticket -- ever.

The thing is this: What makes you think that you, simply by being a woman, are entitled to having everything paid for? That would be like me saying that BECAUSE I'm a man, and I pay for everything, the women I date should be having sex with me when, where, and how I want. Or that a woman should be cleaning and cooking for me when I date her. What are YOU giving back to the men that are expected to cough up their hard earned money just for the opportunity to be in your presence? If I ask a woman out, I never expect her to pay, and I almost always turn her down if she IS classy enough to offer to help out (the only times I accept her offer are when I suspect she is not interested in me). But it sure impresses me when a woman at one point soon into our relationship offers to take ME out or do something nice for me. It honestly makes me want to do that much more for her! Relationships should be give and take, not give and TAKER. And if you DO think that your company at dinner is worth his money, well, have you ever considered that HIS company is worth YOUR money, as well? And that at one point in the relationship, it would be nice (not to mention fair), if YOU occasionally stepped up to the plate? If you make enough money to afford to go to nicer places and events from time to tome that would be outside a man's budget...why not take him also? What happen to a woman who is taught it is better to give than to receive?

I am a very generous person, I don't mind invest in the relationship, but I am not going to spend an exorbitant amount of my hard-earned cash wining and dining a woman whom I don't even know very well, I am not going to buy her expensive jewellery and clothing. But I will  make her smile with small, thoughtful tokens of your affection, such as concert tickets and dinner. And after I have been dating exclusively with her for a while,  it's time  for her to show me how important I am to her  and appreciate me, and if that means spending a little more on a nice dinner or weekend getaway, then that would be great. But if she is cheap with her money, she cheap with her emotions as well, and totally incapable of ever letting go and truly loving me