I don't understand why I can still feel your kiss,
even when I know you're not there...
It's like the air is possessed by you,
you?re simply everywhere...
My every thought relates to you,
whether your name, your lips, or eyes...
Now all that's left to my reality is my dreams,
and that's something I can't deny...
2
For the one I love,
I yearn to grow old with thee.
For the one I love,
My love grows more and more for you each day.
For the one I love,
I pledge to thee:
I will stand by you through thick and thin,
I will hold you when you need to be held,
I will cry with you,
I will love you,
I pledge this for the one and only one I love.
3
"I don't know what I want"
I thought I wanted love
Love didn't want me
Happiness
Or even sadness
Nothing seems to fill this void
I thought
If it is not love I want
Surely it must be hate!
No
Not even a powerful feeling of hate
Filled this void of want
Song
Speech
Laughter
Nothing gets rid of want
Many times I have said
"I love you"
Each time I thought
I wouldn't loose it so easily this time
This time she loves me
Every time I thought I had it
I really didn't
Such a hard fact
One would think love will never come
But it is my faith
It will
That keeps me from giving up
Forever
I want to be love
And be loved
4
Immerse me in her,
Like a rose drowned in a vase.
Past my eyes,
past my forehead,
past each strand of my hair.
Let me bathe in her,
let her roll over me,
like the kissing water
of an ocean, so vast.
Let the night, the dusk,
the rays of the moon or the sun,
disappear.
However,
let ahe infiltrate me.
As does each tune of a violin...
When she finally reaches her aim,
and seeps into my heart.
I will become that which is sweetest....
I will be her.
5
Her eyes.....
Deep and dark,
Making their mark
Beautiful in every way
Brighten up my entire day
Her eyes...
Fast as a cart
Sinking my heart
Telling me to stay
I never wanna look away
Her eyes...
Absolutely Fascinating
Completely Intoxicating
Give the feeling of eternal bliss
Asking for a lasting kiss
Her eyes...
Be they moving or still
I'll follow until
As pure as a dove
Make me sure of my love.
Her eyes...
6
On a bright cloudy day,
shortly before dawn of the morning,
and at the penultimate period
of midnight solitude,
I raised my head to the sky
and shouted aloud to be heard.
Echoes of my lovely voice
were gently played back to me;
tunes of joy from heaven above
were sent through me to the world.
Rhythm and melody
that was lost to the wind
resuscitated every fiber of my being.
But the closing glee
of rehearsed fulfillment
remained unmatchable
with spontaneous accomplishments...
Scattered hope, and shattered dreams
resurfaced in moonlight reflections.
Everything remembered...
Wonderful revelations...
Tender loving feelings
of our love past.
7
If tomorrow should never come,
It would be too soon.
For this night should never end,
Our night under the moon.
As we hold hands, walking all alone,
You?re the only thing on my mind.
Thoughts of me never being loved,
Are all left behind.
The moment is like a picture,
Displayed in a golden frame.
As we walk along the beach,
I?m whispering your name.
As we look into each other?s eyes,
I assure I?ll always be there.
You talk of the beauty of the sea,
But of it?s beauty, I am not aware.
But then I awaken, and remember you?re gone,
Still you?re forever in my heart.
But today just had to come,
And tear my dreams apart.
8
My love for you, is so true.
So what else is there for me to do?
No matter how much I say I love you,
there can never be enough, for me to
undo!
When I say the three words, it's comming from
my heart,
but you never stop to think, as you always
glanse back to the start.
Why don't you hear me, and take my love in?
Instead you choose to shut me out
and I feel closed from within!
I tell you I love you, but you don't care
I tell you I need you, but you're unaware
I tell you I want to be with you, but you're not
all there.
I tell you I give my heart unconditionally to you,
and to no one else.
You don't know the affect you have on me
I'm starting to believe love can
really be crazy.
You are my one true love, the one who holds me.
Yet no one else could ever take me!
Love me like you used to, take me back to
your heart, as I would do anything
for my one true love....
9
When the last spring comes and the last flower blooms,
I still won't lose my love for you...
When the mountains break down and the oceans become dry,
you'll still be the only girl in my eyes...
I'll love you forever, till death do us part, Baby can't
you see.....you're the only girl in my heart?!?
And if the day ever comes when I'm not here with you,
it's only because I passed away.....but I died loving you.....
10
Without you, I don't know where I would be
Without those sweet tender kisses
Without those loving words
Without you by my side
Without being able to wake up
and stay strong through the whole day
knowing I have you
I don't know where I would be
Without you by my side
guiding me along life's cruel journey
I don't know where I would be
Without your arms to hold me when I cry
Without your caring words of encouragement
Without your soft touch
Without the love of my life
I don't know where I would be
If I didn't have you
I don't know if I would be here today
You're the best thing in my life
and I never want to lose you
11
what if i said my dreams of who i have
long awaited for are starting to come true.
what if i said that is you in my dreams.
what if i said i am staring to like you.
what if i said i do like you.
what if i said i love you.
what if i asked u to marry me.
will you?
what if i said i want to make all ur dreams come true.
what if i said i can be that someone you can trust.
what if i said!!!!!!!!!!
am i dreaming or is it what i think it is.
have i fallen in love again?
12
Beautiful lad, queen of beauty
You crawled into this lonely heart of mine
With the gentleness of invertebrate crawlers
You reached the delicate spot of my soul
When the world is weak and weary
Of the things that were and never will be
With a sense of purpose and clear vision
You make sure all is within my reach
Slow and steady you walked into me
Taking control of all that was within me
Cloud and moon, sun and stars...
All bear witness to the glory you bring
You lift me up to your lovely chest
And hold me tight to your succulent skin
You never for once let me grow cold
You didn't let grass grow under my feet
13
we enter and exit our dreams,
like the tide touching sand on the shore.
whetting our appetite for each other's love,
wanting to taste more.
"have I lost my mind," I said,
checking the mirror that was my soul,
but the only answer returned was
'seek that which is your goal'.
I knew before the question was asked
that she was my answer, and then
I exited my fitful sleep
and entered her paradise again
14
When a Man Loves a Woman", it's a favorite song.
With your love beside me, I do nothing wrong.
With your eyes upon me, with your heart in mine,
the cares of this world are left easily behind.
When a man loves a woman, he finds inner peace.
A sense of belonging, a sense of release.
The future looks brighter with each passing day.
A journey together, we'll find our own way.
When a man loves a woman, for her he would do,
whatever her heart would require him to.
Nothing too simple or hard by request,
until he accomplishes the task, there's no rest.
When a man loves a woman, no one could divide,
his thoughts and feelings, deep down inside.
He's a little bit crazy, and he acts like a fool,
like a lovesick kid who is still back in school.
Don't under estimate the love of your man.
His love isn't built on some weak shifting sand.
All that he has, unto you he would give,
his life for yours, if it meant you would live.
Monday, November 26, 2012
SPIRITUAL: FINDING ALL THE BARRIERS WITHIN YOURSELF
Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ A Course in Miracles ~
Many people, even when they are in committed relationships feel lonely. The loneliness creeps in irrespective of your situation. We all go through this phase of feeling completely alone. And its not a very good feeling. This feeling can open a “pandora’s box” of negative feelings from the past, present and future. We try to escape the feeling by filling in the void we feel within us with external negative habits. But that’s not the solution, rather it becomes the bigger issue in future.
We might feel alone at times, lost at times…but its in these times if you notice, that after a while the pain subsides, the feeling becomes less severe. How did that happen? From feeling completely alone and devastated to feeling better in an hour or a day…how did this transformation happen within you? Have you ever thought about it? When you cry for so many hours, and then amazingly feel calmed. Its not because you cried and let it all out, its because our soul our heart is pure. Its full of divine love and completely connected to the divine at all times. At no given time are you disconnected with God or the universe. I remember Dr. Wayne Dwyer said that in one of his PBS shoes.. You might feel disconnected with yourself, but you are never disconnected from God. Hence, you are never ever alone. In fact in your most trying times, when you pray or just ask for help from God
You heal from the inside out, not the other way around. This healing love, not only heals you of your issues, your loneliness, your problems…but also heals all those who come in contact with you. You need not even make the effort, you just need to think of another person with love and the divine healing energy will be directed in that direction. Its simple. You just need to be aware of this divine love you are swimming in.
Our constant awareness allows us to truly be the mirror, the candle that not only glows with healing divine love but also spreads it to all it encounters. We are all pure divine souls. Embracing that fact can rid you of any and all negativity in and around you.
Try it…close your eyes for that split second and take a deep breath.
Believe this- You ARE loved….constantly
Many people, even when they are in committed relationships feel lonely. The loneliness creeps in irrespective of your situation. We all go through this phase of feeling completely alone. And its not a very good feeling. This feeling can open a “pandora’s box” of negative feelings from the past, present and future. We try to escape the feeling by filling in the void we feel within us with external negative habits. But that’s not the solution, rather it becomes the bigger issue in future.
We might feel alone at times, lost at times…but its in these times if you notice, that after a while the pain subsides, the feeling becomes less severe. How did that happen? From feeling completely alone and devastated to feeling better in an hour or a day…how did this transformation happen within you? Have you ever thought about it? When you cry for so many hours, and then amazingly feel calmed. Its not because you cried and let it all out, its because our soul our heart is pure. Its full of divine love and completely connected to the divine at all times. At no given time are you disconnected with God or the universe. I remember Dr. Wayne Dwyer said that in one of his PBS shoes.. You might feel disconnected with yourself, but you are never disconnected from God. Hence, you are never ever alone. In fact in your most trying times, when you pray or just ask for help from God
You heal from the inside out, not the other way around. This healing love, not only heals you of your issues, your loneliness, your problems…but also heals all those who come in contact with you. You need not even make the effort, you just need to think of another person with love and the divine healing energy will be directed in that direction. Its simple. You just need to be aware of this divine love you are swimming in.
Our constant awareness allows us to truly be the mirror, the candle that not only glows with healing divine love but also spreads it to all it encounters. We are all pure divine souls. Embracing that fact can rid you of any and all negativity in and around you.
Try it…close your eyes for that split second and take a deep breath.
Believe this- You ARE loved….constantly
Sunday, November 25, 2012
LETTERS: DO YOU REMEMBER....MY LOVE
My love,
Do you remember that time we took that trip to the beach? How we laid upon the sand holding hands? How the water rolled up over our prone bodies until we were one with the sea?
Do you remember how I clung to your fingers and told you I felt like I was drowning? And how you said don't be silly, the water isn't that deep. And I said I am not drowning in water as I looked into your sky blue eyes. Then it dawned on you that what I meant was that I was drowning in you. So you smiled.
And do you remember that when the next wave came up over our naked bodies and covered us and then faded away I asked "Where did our blanket go?" and you laughed so loud that even in the darkness it caused everyone to shift. Then you continued to giggle as we stood and dried each other off, wrapping the towels around our bodies as we worked our way back up the beach to our room.
I remember that trip so very well, like it was yesterday. But it was not. So much has happened over the years since that moment until this one. But the feelings still remain. My feelings haven't changed. Have yours?
Our friends look at us and sigh. Twenty five years together seems like forever to them but to me it is as if I met you yesterday. I remember it so clearly. You were standing on the sidewalk, pulling on the strap of your sandal as you unsuccessfully attempted to hail a cab. I came to your rescue when it began to rain and offered to share my umbrella. You looked up at me and smiled and said in that soft sweet voice of yours, "Thank you."
I didn't know then that that one act of kindness would lead me on to a lifetime of happiness, every moment filled with you.
We dated for weeks before I even thought to try to make love to you. I wanted to, I surely did, but I was crazy about you even then and did not want to rush things. When the night arrived, the night I planned to lay it all on the line and seduce you, I was ready. I was never known for my patience or my ability to finesse a woman into sleeping with me. I was more of a by the book kind of guy. But then you came into my life.
The night of your seduction was well planned. I had a bottle of champagne chilling on ice, a few candles lit for ambiance and I had made sure there were no dirty socks lying around. I wanted to cook but even then my culinary skills were lacking. So instead I had ordered Thai from our favorite restaurant and even made sure the plates and silverware were clean. The stage was set.
After we had finished eating and were enjoying the chilled champagne on the sofa out of crystal glasses I had purchased for the occasion, you were curled all up, your legs stuck under you. Your lips were glossy and wet and looked so kissable. So I did. You sighed as my tongue touched yours. And I did not stop there. I placed my hand on your thigh. It was bare, you were wearing a skirt. The skin was warm beneath my touch, heated from some source deep inside you. You began to breathe a little heavier.
Soon, my hand had managed to work its way up underneath that delightful skirt. It found your very sweet pink cotton panties and began to ease them down over your thighs past your knees to your feet and off. I tossed them aside as I knelt at your feet, looking up at, lost in your eyes. Then my hands, of their own volition, worked their way up your thighs, parting them gently until your heat was before my eyes.
My tongue slipped between your pussy lips and further, tasting you for the first time. Your head slipped back onto the edge of the sofa, your mouth falling open as you began to purr like a kitten. I continued on my voyage of discovery, pressing my tongue inside the velvet folds again and again until I could feel the heat and the pulse of you through my tongue.
It was like heaven, you were heaven, and the taste of you as honey on my lips, sugar in my coffee, burgers on my buns. I was lost in the glory of you. To feel your body react to my touch, the way you parted your thighs, the way you arched your back, the way you pressed yourself against me, I could ask for nothing more. I think I fell in love with you at that moment. The look in your eyes as you came in my mouth was and is indescribable.
But that was just the beginning of our journey together. Wasn't it, love?
Yours Forever,
Do you remember that time we took that trip to the beach? How we laid upon the sand holding hands? How the water rolled up over our prone bodies until we were one with the sea?
Do you remember how I clung to your fingers and told you I felt like I was drowning? And how you said don't be silly, the water isn't that deep. And I said I am not drowning in water as I looked into your sky blue eyes. Then it dawned on you that what I meant was that I was drowning in you. So you smiled.
And do you remember that when the next wave came up over our naked bodies and covered us and then faded away I asked "Where did our blanket go?" and you laughed so loud that even in the darkness it caused everyone to shift. Then you continued to giggle as we stood and dried each other off, wrapping the towels around our bodies as we worked our way back up the beach to our room.
I remember that trip so very well, like it was yesterday. But it was not. So much has happened over the years since that moment until this one. But the feelings still remain. My feelings haven't changed. Have yours?
Our friends look at us and sigh. Twenty five years together seems like forever to them but to me it is as if I met you yesterday. I remember it so clearly. You were standing on the sidewalk, pulling on the strap of your sandal as you unsuccessfully attempted to hail a cab. I came to your rescue when it began to rain and offered to share my umbrella. You looked up at me and smiled and said in that soft sweet voice of yours, "Thank you."
I didn't know then that that one act of kindness would lead me on to a lifetime of happiness, every moment filled with you.
We dated for weeks before I even thought to try to make love to you. I wanted to, I surely did, but I was crazy about you even then and did not want to rush things. When the night arrived, the night I planned to lay it all on the line and seduce you, I was ready. I was never known for my patience or my ability to finesse a woman into sleeping with me. I was more of a by the book kind of guy. But then you came into my life.
The night of your seduction was well planned. I had a bottle of champagne chilling on ice, a few candles lit for ambiance and I had made sure there were no dirty socks lying around. I wanted to cook but even then my culinary skills were lacking. So instead I had ordered Thai from our favorite restaurant and even made sure the plates and silverware were clean. The stage was set.
After we had finished eating and were enjoying the chilled champagne on the sofa out of crystal glasses I had purchased for the occasion, you were curled all up, your legs stuck under you. Your lips were glossy and wet and looked so kissable. So I did. You sighed as my tongue touched yours. And I did not stop there. I placed my hand on your thigh. It was bare, you were wearing a skirt. The skin was warm beneath my touch, heated from some source deep inside you. You began to breathe a little heavier.
Soon, my hand had managed to work its way up underneath that delightful skirt. It found your very sweet pink cotton panties and began to ease them down over your thighs past your knees to your feet and off. I tossed them aside as I knelt at your feet, looking up at, lost in your eyes. Then my hands, of their own volition, worked their way up your thighs, parting them gently until your heat was before my eyes.
My tongue slipped between your pussy lips and further, tasting you for the first time. Your head slipped back onto the edge of the sofa, your mouth falling open as you began to purr like a kitten. I continued on my voyage of discovery, pressing my tongue inside the velvet folds again and again until I could feel the heat and the pulse of you through my tongue.
It was like heaven, you were heaven, and the taste of you as honey on my lips, sugar in my coffee, burgers on my buns. I was lost in the glory of you. To feel your body react to my touch, the way you parted your thighs, the way you arched your back, the way you pressed yourself against me, I could ask for nothing more. I think I fell in love with you at that moment. The look in your eyes as you came in my mouth was and is indescribable.
But that was just the beginning of our journey together. Wasn't it, love?
Yours Forever,
SPIRITUAL/ JOURNAL : MESSAGES TO THE UNIVERSE
Through the years....I would write messages to the universe:
I am so blessed in my relationships – they have taught me to understand much, to accept much and to have tolerance and compassion. These lessons have helped me to help others and that has given me much joy and financial freedom. I am truly sorry I have often not been smart enough or quick enough or available enough or strong enough at the right moments always to have responded positively. I know what it is to receive acceptance and forgiveness and I know I haven’t always offered the same. I am asking for forgiveness and an opportunity for my own happiness in a close relationship with another person. I have had glimmerings of what happiness and contentment can feel like from being alone; from my son’s lovely nature;and from those brief moments when my mother reached out to me from behind the fog of her own difficulties. I am truly blessed. Please bless me with meetings of minds and easy friendships in my new life.
To the Universe!
Thanks to everything that i already have and thanks for my soulmate that is beeing delivered to me just when the time is right. Yes, the partner, soulmate that i had already and let it go because i wasnt ready… that gourgeous girl with those big brown eyes, strong and caring, that you already know who she is. We are so happy because our incondicional love, and because we care for each other so much. Thank you for answering so fast to my thoughts.
Dearest Universe,
I know she is out there, he knows I am here. Please help us get together as soon as possible. I miss my dear soulmate, to the point of tears at times. I want both of us to have the experience of joy that comes in being with THE person of our hearts..to be loving, laughing, and dance the joy of life together as soon as possible. To give one another just what we need in this lifetime.
Thank You for that beautiful and special woman!
To the Universe!
Thanks to everything that i already have and thanks for my soulmate that is beeing delivered to me just when the time is right.
Yes, the partner, soulmate that i had already and let it go because i wasnt ready… that gourgeous girl with those big brown eyes, strong and caring, that you already know who she is. We are so happy because our incondicional love, and because we care for each other so much. WE are so deeply connected that give me goose bumps
Thank you for answering so fast to my thoughts.
I love You
Dear Universe,
I know she is out there, I know she brings out the best in me and I bring out the best in her, I know that I can bring flowers to her at work and she will be lovingly surprised. I know she is beautiful inside and out and that she cares for me . I know she is smart, caring, nice, kind and just wants to be loved. I know she is there somewhere and she is out there somewhere..I want to share my life with her and her share her life with me. I know she is caring, compassionate and I love her for what she is and I mean I love her with unconditional love!!
Dear Universe
Thank you for bringing me my true soulmate who is
-Honest,Tender,loving,caring,sensitive,sensible, gentle, balanced,sexy, passionate,grounded and matured,with childlike innocence,full of life,with a beautiful rich sexy voice, deeply loyal,faithful and committed.to me
-materially abundant,generous,successful,
-spirituality elevated-deeply connected to his inner self,higher self and me,with a rich and beautiful soul
-She is single and comes in physical vicinity….She’s all mine and created for me only in body mind and soul
-She belongs to my energy level and spiritual path
--we experience pure deep true complete love with each other, that brings us deep joy,beauty,touches our heart and elevate our souls.
-we have a deeply happy fulfilling and successful monogamous love marriage for ‘forever’
-we are deeply happy and fulfilled with each other(only) in body mind and soul..
-we connect and energise each other in every aspect and help each other to be a whole and fulfill our individual purpose for this lifetime.
she is seeking me just as I'm seeking her
-she comes to me in complete freedom by her /divine will in physical reality NOW.by July 1, 2013
Thank you universe
To the Universe!
Thanks to everything that i already have and thanks for my soulmate that is beeing delivered to me just when the time is right.
Yes, the partner, soulmate that i had already and let it go because i wasnt ready… that gourgeous girl with those big brown eyes, strong and caring, that you already know who she is. We are so happy because our incondicional love, and because we care for each other so much. WE are so deeply connected that give me goose bumps
Thank you for answering so fast to my thoughts.
Thank you Universe for connecting me with my true soulmate. She is kind, considerate, romantic, affectionate, funny, spontaneous, passionate, generous, loyal, trustworthy, caring, responsible, fun-loving, loves movies and reading, family-oriented, healthy, sexually compatible, devoted,, interesting, has a good work ethic but doesn’t live to work, loves good food, enjoys traveling, is a good friend,beautiful, and loves me for who I am. We are so happy in this marriage that will last forever, and we share a mutual passion and love for each other that never stops. We are so happy in our relationship, and our lives are satisfying. Our love brings happiness to those around us. Thank you Universe!
My soulmate is smart, childlike , innocent, loves to be with me, hugs me a lot, give me attention. Have a sense of humor worse than mine. Loves to read and share ideas. Beautifull but intelligent, her eyes must shine with please all the time. She must have a naughty side that like to be different than everyone around her. I want to be sexually as well as mentally attracted to her. I want her to be my dominant thoughts all the time. Wheter we together or not. Her mind is quick and her fashion sense brings me closer to looking great.
Thank you Universe for bringing me my dream partner who has all of the following qualities: is financially secure, loves me, respects me, is kind, compassionate, loves animals, is dependable, responsible, likes to be spontaneous sometimes, someone I can count on through thick and thin, who loves to travel and has a great sense of humor. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Dear Universe,
My soulmate is with me now and I thank you for giving me the opportunity and wisdom to receive him into my physical life. She is considerate, affectionate, intelligent, funny, successful, healthy, spiritual, neat, conscious, patient, and is an attentive, exciting lover. She supports and encourages me in my life choices as I do her. We communicate openly and honestly with each other, discuss our disagreements and come to understandings easily, and we make plans for our daily activities as well as for our home, finances, families, health, retirement, vacations, and so on. She appreciates and acknowledges the things I do for her and she loves doing things for me because I appreciate her so much. I have SO MANY blessings in my life and she makes my life even richer. I look forward to growing old with her. Thank you, Universe for this and all the other blessings in my life. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!
I am SO grateful for this beautiful woman in my life! I have waited so long for her and we share a deep spiritual love that is beyond my wildest imagination…we are compatible in every way; We enjoy finding the humor in situations, she loves to cook (yes!). she has strengths in areas where I am a bit weak –we balance one another wonderfully. She is confident and knows alot about finance, history and so many things! She’s beautiful and slim and health concious, light hearted and spiritually aware. She cherishes me and I admire her. We are truly meant to be together for the rest of this lifetime. She loves my family and I love her–she has brought so much joy into my life. I feel so safe and loved with her. For all of this and so much more, Universe, I thank you and am truly grateful. Keep it coming!!!!!
Thank you for this wonderful, loving woman! She is my best friend and I am her best friend. We are both such passionate people who love life and are grateful for our good health and every second on this planet! She is young like me, in body and spirit–and is optimistic and energetic–just like me!!! I am so grateful that she is a woman of high moral integrity, with my same core vales. We get along so well because she loves babies and children, she loves to have fun and laugh! She is humble, has humility, yet also has healthy self-esteem. She is family woman who adores our life together with our new baby. Our physical and emotional chemistry is so good it is beyond proper words! Our love-making is phenomenal!! Thank you for my woman who is in touch with her emotions and feels deeply about everything…and she just loves to share his thoughts and flashes of insight with me! We have the same political mindsets…we share each other’s personal interests… it’s so wonderful! She is all i ever dreamed of! She is so into me and I am so into her! We can’t stand to be apart. She loves me more than anything and wants to be by my side for ever! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!
How blessed I am that Divinity, that The Universe, has made me aware of the meeting of my True Love. The time I have spent with my Self, nurturing my Self and preparing myself for Her has been well worth every moment. Thank you Universe for the special woman who is to be my wife. She is everything I could ever hope for, and so much more. Our meeting, our dating, is every day a celebrating. Our Partnership is a match made in Heaven! Thank you Universe, thank you Divinity
I hug and thank the amazing Universe that we all are part of. Thank you so much for keeping my faith going till I met my soul mate. She is a secure woman who dances with the waves and rolls in the sand with kids. She is self-assured, adventurous and kind. She is financially stable and emotionally secure. She has a great sense of humour and she makes me laugh and lighten up. We try new things all the time. She loves everyone and is non-judgemental. She loves me a lot.
She loves children and music. She believes in the divine that flows through us all connecting us and works with me towards a global unification. She challenges me to pursue my dreams and achieve new goals. She is my anchor in life, the wind beneath my wings as we soar high. Her hugs makes me feel safe and soft, her voice gives me strength and her eyes and pussy assure me of my purpose of life. She is my equal partner as we share the chores and the dreams and make a life together.Thank you so much for all the sweet sharing moments we have.
Dear Universe
I know that this year will be the year that you will find me a loving and supportive partner to travel with me through the rest of my life here on Earth. I am so grateful for all the possibilites out there and know that when the time is right you will introduce me to the one who I can love and cherish until the end of time. My perfect partner is waiting to love and cherish me and is sending the same order to you with much excitement and anticipation. I am truly amazed at all the wonderful things you have brought to pass in my life and know that you are a truly good and bountiful and perfectly loving universe that is caring about me and my desire.
Dear Universe
You have always been kind to me and given me that which i ask but now i am asking to met my future wife. The only person I have ever really wanted to meet and be with is my Twin Soul. If she is out there I would like her to link to my soul energy so we can meet at the right place and the right time for both of us. That way our paths are in correct alignment to begin the journey to eternal love. Thank you got the love of my partner…thank you for his kisses in the morning when i wake up...thank you for her lovely warm eyes..thank you for her great presence into my life..she really changed my existence.. into an miracle…may it last forever!
Dearest Universe-you can do anything for anyone and I would humbly like to ask you to bring me a beloved companion to share my life and my dreams. I would love a person to love and accept me for who I am and for what I am trying to do in this life and to support me in all my efforts. I would love a woman to be a soft place to fall at the end of the day and to embrace me with love and passion and be my special person for ever until I die. I would do my very best to be a good strong and loving partner to her and would love that person to appear soon as I am struggling a lot on my own. She is there waiting for me as I am waiting for him so please Universe bring us together without any more time passing by if it is your will and your pleasure? You are my most abundant and loving Universe now and always.
Dear Universe,
I know she’s out there waiting for me – just help me to reach the vibrational alignment to allow her back in..I have chased her away by not trusting the wisdom of the ALL, and I’m humbly asking you for a second chance. IF that is what you had in mind…And otherwise, please send me my soulmate – I have so much love to share and I still have so much to learn too.Sending you lots of love and gratitude for everything you gave me already – I am such a blessed person for having had the love of my life. And it would be so wonderful to get her back, you know, as a Christmas present..
Dearest Universe
I can’t find the words to really express what I feel so I’m just trusting that you now what I mean. I’ve loved all the time we’ve had together and thank you for that even though the year didn’t turn out how I was expecting but then I didn’t really have a proper plan. I’m planning on making opportunites to have more time together in 2013 and let it be do that those opportunities are realised. What is, is and what isn’t, isn’t will be my mantra for the New Year. Suffering is caused by not accepting reality and I intend to be accepting and try to love every minute – be more in the present and stop worrying so much about what people think. I want what I want and I want more time. I want time to enjoy the kinds of things we’ve written to each other. A perfect day, 24hours is what I want. 1 day out of 365, just 1 with her one to remember for all the right reasons.
Dear Universe:
As you know, my wife and I are separated and are to divorce. I pray for the best divorce possible, where we part satisfied and each prosper in our new lives.I wish for a wonderful partner for my future ex-wife, when she is ready.Oh goodness me dear Universe. Last night I read a Zen proverb that said to be careful if you want to cause hurt to people because it will come back at you 1000 times greater. What goes around, comes around and I know of someone who is not having the greatest of times just now. How can you expect to treat people as badly as she has and get away with it. Every behaviour has a good intention behind it but hers I find hard to understand. Control driven by fear of losing everything? Has she brought exactly that about? Self sabotage. I have never wished hurt on her but she has caused me great pain as well as other people and I hope that she learns from this experience and treats people better in the future. If not, then her life will be whatever the Universe decides is appropriate.
We all make mistakes, we´re all fallable, we all have inconsistencies and inconguencies and we have to take resposibility when these things come back to bite us. She´s not a bad person. Be patient with her. Maybe you can forgive her…I´m not sure I´m up for it right now. I desire a wonderful partner for myself, as well, when I am ready. I have written some of her wonderful qualities down. I will just state here that we love each other dearly, are largely compatible and desirous to be together long-term, and help each other to live a joyous, loving life together and be happy also when apart. I want a sweet, vital, caring, woman who is really intersted in me!! A woman who enjoys being with me!!
Thank you so much, Universe.
Dear Universe,
I just want someone who will make me happy everyday. Someone who adores me, everything about me. Someone who will motivate me and encourage me with everything I want to pursue or am currently doing in life. I want someone who will travel with me and who I can just learn from each and every day.
Thank you.
Dear Universe,
I am ready for my partner. Please show me what I need to let go of in order to let love into my heart. Please send her to me. There is so much good work I want to do, for myself and for others. But I need a partner here. I need someone to laugh, love, dream with and make things happen. I need someone to hold me close. I need a partner. Please have her be smart, kind, silly and a lover of life. But please, most of all, have her get me, and how wonderful and giving I am. I’m ready to meet her and create a life and a family. I’m ready to end this chapter of struggling with love in my life. I have learned a lot, but really, isn’t it time to move on?
Thank you in advance
Dear Universe:
We are co-creating together, you and I, the perfect union between two souls – me and my beloved. She and I are perfect for each other in every way. We bring happiness and joy to one another and ourselves. We love each other dearly, desire each other physically, connect with each other spiritually, and understand each other mentally and emotionally. We enjoy each moment together, but do not feel desperation or neediness toward each other. We are perfectly-matched companions in this life. We support one another, respect one another, treat one another with kindness, and have compassion and passion for one another. We are a solid partnership and are the one thing that was missing from each other’s lives. I am grateful for her every day and he shows me in every way that I am the perfect man for her
Dear Universe:
I am married to my soul mate whom I love and who loves me, and this is so. I receive all of her love easily, effortlessly and unconditionally. I give her all my love ea ortlessly and unconditionally. I love everything about her. I love her inner and outer beauty. I love her face, her eyes, her nose, her mouth, her smile and her hair. I love her body just as it is. I love the way she winks at me secretly to let me know that she loves me too.
I desire and deserve to be with her. I am worthy of her love. I offer her love that is trusting, open, and vulnerable. I am willing for her to see me as I really am. I commit to loving her as consistently as I possibly can. I love and accept her as she is. I allow her to feel, act, and be any way she wants to be. I now surrender my desires for and expectations of you. You are free to follow your own inner guidance and wisdom.
I will work at the soul level to enhance the love that exists between us. I now amplify love so that we may experience new qualities and expressions of love, find new ways to love, and bring love into new areas of our relationship. I send a beautiful radiant light from my heart center to her heart center. It comes back to me even more beautiful.
I love you with a love that is transparent, not influencing you with my emotions, desires, or wants.
I am so blessed in my relationships – they have taught me to understand much, to accept much and to have tolerance and compassion. These lessons have helped me to help others and that has given me much joy and financial freedom. I am truly sorry I have often not been smart enough or quick enough or available enough or strong enough at the right moments always to have responded positively. I know what it is to receive acceptance and forgiveness and I know I haven’t always offered the same. I am asking for forgiveness and an opportunity for my own happiness in a close relationship with another person. I have had glimmerings of what happiness and contentment can feel like from being alone; from my son’s lovely nature;and from those brief moments when my mother reached out to me from behind the fog of her own difficulties. I am truly blessed. Please bless me with meetings of minds and easy friendships in my new life.
To the Universe!
Thanks to everything that i already have and thanks for my soulmate that is beeing delivered to me just when the time is right. Yes, the partner, soulmate that i had already and let it go because i wasnt ready… that gourgeous girl with those big brown eyes, strong and caring, that you already know who she is. We are so happy because our incondicional love, and because we care for each other so much. Thank you for answering so fast to my thoughts.
Dearest Universe,
I know she is out there, he knows I am here. Please help us get together as soon as possible. I miss my dear soulmate, to the point of tears at times. I want both of us to have the experience of joy that comes in being with THE person of our hearts..to be loving, laughing, and dance the joy of life together as soon as possible. To give one another just what we need in this lifetime.
Thank You for that beautiful and special woman!
To the Universe!
Thanks to everything that i already have and thanks for my soulmate that is beeing delivered to me just when the time is right.
Yes, the partner, soulmate that i had already and let it go because i wasnt ready… that gourgeous girl with those big brown eyes, strong and caring, that you already know who she is. We are so happy because our incondicional love, and because we care for each other so much. WE are so deeply connected that give me goose bumps
Thank you for answering so fast to my thoughts.
I love You
Dear Universe,
I know she is out there, I know she brings out the best in me and I bring out the best in her, I know that I can bring flowers to her at work and she will be lovingly surprised. I know she is beautiful inside and out and that she cares for me . I know she is smart, caring, nice, kind and just wants to be loved. I know she is there somewhere and she is out there somewhere..I want to share my life with her and her share her life with me. I know she is caring, compassionate and I love her for what she is and I mean I love her with unconditional love!!
Dear Universe
Thank you for bringing me my true soulmate who is
-Honest,Tender,loving,caring,sensitive,sensible, gentle, balanced,sexy, passionate,grounded and matured,with childlike innocence,full of life,with a beautiful rich sexy voice, deeply loyal,faithful and committed.to me
-materially abundant,generous,successful,
-spirituality elevated-deeply connected to his inner self,higher self and me,with a rich and beautiful soul
-She is single and comes in physical vicinity….She’s all mine and created for me only in body mind and soul
-She belongs to my energy level and spiritual path
--we experience pure deep true complete love with each other, that brings us deep joy,beauty,touches our heart and elevate our souls.
-we have a deeply happy fulfilling and successful monogamous love marriage for ‘forever’
-we are deeply happy and fulfilled with each other(only) in body mind and soul..
-we connect and energise each other in every aspect and help each other to be a whole and fulfill our individual purpose for this lifetime.
she is seeking me just as I'm seeking her
-she comes to me in complete freedom by her /divine will in physical reality NOW.by July 1, 2013
Thank you universe
To the Universe!
Thanks to everything that i already have and thanks for my soulmate that is beeing delivered to me just when the time is right.
Yes, the partner, soulmate that i had already and let it go because i wasnt ready… that gourgeous girl with those big brown eyes, strong and caring, that you already know who she is. We are so happy because our incondicional love, and because we care for each other so much. WE are so deeply connected that give me goose bumps
Thank you for answering so fast to my thoughts.
Thank you Universe for connecting me with my true soulmate. She is kind, considerate, romantic, affectionate, funny, spontaneous, passionate, generous, loyal, trustworthy, caring, responsible, fun-loving, loves movies and reading, family-oriented, healthy, sexually compatible, devoted,, interesting, has a good work ethic but doesn’t live to work, loves good food, enjoys traveling, is a good friend,beautiful, and loves me for who I am. We are so happy in this marriage that will last forever, and we share a mutual passion and love for each other that never stops. We are so happy in our relationship, and our lives are satisfying. Our love brings happiness to those around us. Thank you Universe!
My soulmate is smart, childlike , innocent, loves to be with me, hugs me a lot, give me attention. Have a sense of humor worse than mine. Loves to read and share ideas. Beautifull but intelligent, her eyes must shine with please all the time. She must have a naughty side that like to be different than everyone around her. I want to be sexually as well as mentally attracted to her. I want her to be my dominant thoughts all the time. Wheter we together or not. Her mind is quick and her fashion sense brings me closer to looking great.
Thank you Universe for bringing me my dream partner who has all of the following qualities: is financially secure, loves me, respects me, is kind, compassionate, loves animals, is dependable, responsible, likes to be spontaneous sometimes, someone I can count on through thick and thin, who loves to travel and has a great sense of humor. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Dear Universe,
My soulmate is with me now and I thank you for giving me the opportunity and wisdom to receive him into my physical life. She is considerate, affectionate, intelligent, funny, successful, healthy, spiritual, neat, conscious, patient, and is an attentive, exciting lover. She supports and encourages me in my life choices as I do her. We communicate openly and honestly with each other, discuss our disagreements and come to understandings easily, and we make plans for our daily activities as well as for our home, finances, families, health, retirement, vacations, and so on. She appreciates and acknowledges the things I do for her and she loves doing things for me because I appreciate her so much. I have SO MANY blessings in my life and she makes my life even richer. I look forward to growing old with her. Thank you, Universe for this and all the other blessings in my life. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!
I am SO grateful for this beautiful woman in my life! I have waited so long for her and we share a deep spiritual love that is beyond my wildest imagination…we are compatible in every way; We enjoy finding the humor in situations, she loves to cook (yes!). she has strengths in areas where I am a bit weak –we balance one another wonderfully. She is confident and knows alot about finance, history and so many things! She’s beautiful and slim and health concious, light hearted and spiritually aware. She cherishes me and I admire her. We are truly meant to be together for the rest of this lifetime. She loves my family and I love her–she has brought so much joy into my life. I feel so safe and loved with her. For all of this and so much more, Universe, I thank you and am truly grateful. Keep it coming!!!!!
Thank you for this wonderful, loving woman! She is my best friend and I am her best friend. We are both such passionate people who love life and are grateful for our good health and every second on this planet! She is young like me, in body and spirit–and is optimistic and energetic–just like me!!! I am so grateful that she is a woman of high moral integrity, with my same core vales. We get along so well because she loves babies and children, she loves to have fun and laugh! She is humble, has humility, yet also has healthy self-esteem. She is family woman who adores our life together with our new baby. Our physical and emotional chemistry is so good it is beyond proper words! Our love-making is phenomenal!! Thank you for my woman who is in touch with her emotions and feels deeply about everything…and she just loves to share his thoughts and flashes of insight with me! We have the same political mindsets…we share each other’s personal interests… it’s so wonderful! She is all i ever dreamed of! She is so into me and I am so into her! We can’t stand to be apart. She loves me more than anything and wants to be by my side for ever! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!
How blessed I am that Divinity, that The Universe, has made me aware of the meeting of my True Love. The time I have spent with my Self, nurturing my Self and preparing myself for Her has been well worth every moment. Thank you Universe for the special woman who is to be my wife. She is everything I could ever hope for, and so much more. Our meeting, our dating, is every day a celebrating. Our Partnership is a match made in Heaven! Thank you Universe, thank you Divinity
I hug and thank the amazing Universe that we all are part of. Thank you so much for keeping my faith going till I met my soul mate. She is a secure woman who dances with the waves and rolls in the sand with kids. She is self-assured, adventurous and kind. She is financially stable and emotionally secure. She has a great sense of humour and she makes me laugh and lighten up. We try new things all the time. She loves everyone and is non-judgemental. She loves me a lot.
She loves children and music. She believes in the divine that flows through us all connecting us and works with me towards a global unification. She challenges me to pursue my dreams and achieve new goals. She is my anchor in life, the wind beneath my wings as we soar high. Her hugs makes me feel safe and soft, her voice gives me strength and her eyes and pussy assure me of my purpose of life. She is my equal partner as we share the chores and the dreams and make a life together.Thank you so much for all the sweet sharing moments we have.
Dear Universe
I know that this year will be the year that you will find me a loving and supportive partner to travel with me through the rest of my life here on Earth. I am so grateful for all the possibilites out there and know that when the time is right you will introduce me to the one who I can love and cherish until the end of time. My perfect partner is waiting to love and cherish me and is sending the same order to you with much excitement and anticipation. I am truly amazed at all the wonderful things you have brought to pass in my life and know that you are a truly good and bountiful and perfectly loving universe that is caring about me and my desire.
Dear Universe
You have always been kind to me and given me that which i ask but now i am asking to met my future wife. The only person I have ever really wanted to meet and be with is my Twin Soul. If she is out there I would like her to link to my soul energy so we can meet at the right place and the right time for both of us. That way our paths are in correct alignment to begin the journey to eternal love. Thank you got the love of my partner…thank you for his kisses in the morning when i wake up...thank you for her lovely warm eyes..thank you for her great presence into my life..she really changed my existence.. into an miracle…may it last forever!
Dearest Universe-you can do anything for anyone and I would humbly like to ask you to bring me a beloved companion to share my life and my dreams. I would love a person to love and accept me for who I am and for what I am trying to do in this life and to support me in all my efforts. I would love a woman to be a soft place to fall at the end of the day and to embrace me with love and passion and be my special person for ever until I die. I would do my very best to be a good strong and loving partner to her and would love that person to appear soon as I am struggling a lot on my own. She is there waiting for me as I am waiting for him so please Universe bring us together without any more time passing by if it is your will and your pleasure? You are my most abundant and loving Universe now and always.
Dear Universe,
I know she’s out there waiting for me – just help me to reach the vibrational alignment to allow her back in..I have chased her away by not trusting the wisdom of the ALL, and I’m humbly asking you for a second chance. IF that is what you had in mind…And otherwise, please send me my soulmate – I have so much love to share and I still have so much to learn too.Sending you lots of love and gratitude for everything you gave me already – I am such a blessed person for having had the love of my life. And it would be so wonderful to get her back, you know, as a Christmas present..
Dearest Universe
I can’t find the words to really express what I feel so I’m just trusting that you now what I mean. I’ve loved all the time we’ve had together and thank you for that even though the year didn’t turn out how I was expecting but then I didn’t really have a proper plan. I’m planning on making opportunites to have more time together in 2013 and let it be do that those opportunities are realised. What is, is and what isn’t, isn’t will be my mantra for the New Year. Suffering is caused by not accepting reality and I intend to be accepting and try to love every minute – be more in the present and stop worrying so much about what people think. I want what I want and I want more time. I want time to enjoy the kinds of things we’ve written to each other. A perfect day, 24hours is what I want. 1 day out of 365, just 1 with her one to remember for all the right reasons.
Dear Universe:
As you know, my wife and I are separated and are to divorce. I pray for the best divorce possible, where we part satisfied and each prosper in our new lives.I wish for a wonderful partner for my future ex-wife, when she is ready.Oh goodness me dear Universe. Last night I read a Zen proverb that said to be careful if you want to cause hurt to people because it will come back at you 1000 times greater. What goes around, comes around and I know of someone who is not having the greatest of times just now. How can you expect to treat people as badly as she has and get away with it. Every behaviour has a good intention behind it but hers I find hard to understand. Control driven by fear of losing everything? Has she brought exactly that about? Self sabotage. I have never wished hurt on her but she has caused me great pain as well as other people and I hope that she learns from this experience and treats people better in the future. If not, then her life will be whatever the Universe decides is appropriate.
We all make mistakes, we´re all fallable, we all have inconsistencies and inconguencies and we have to take resposibility when these things come back to bite us. She´s not a bad person. Be patient with her. Maybe you can forgive her…I´m not sure I´m up for it right now. I desire a wonderful partner for myself, as well, when I am ready. I have written some of her wonderful qualities down. I will just state here that we love each other dearly, are largely compatible and desirous to be together long-term, and help each other to live a joyous, loving life together and be happy also when apart. I want a sweet, vital, caring, woman who is really intersted in me!! A woman who enjoys being with me!!
Thank you so much, Universe.
Dear Universe,
I just want someone who will make me happy everyday. Someone who adores me, everything about me. Someone who will motivate me and encourage me with everything I want to pursue or am currently doing in life. I want someone who will travel with me and who I can just learn from each and every day.
Thank you.
Dear Universe,
I am ready for my partner. Please show me what I need to let go of in order to let love into my heart. Please send her to me. There is so much good work I want to do, for myself and for others. But I need a partner here. I need someone to laugh, love, dream with and make things happen. I need someone to hold me close. I need a partner. Please have her be smart, kind, silly and a lover of life. But please, most of all, have her get me, and how wonderful and giving I am. I’m ready to meet her and create a life and a family. I’m ready to end this chapter of struggling with love in my life. I have learned a lot, but really, isn’t it time to move on?
Thank you in advance
Dear Universe:
We are co-creating together, you and I, the perfect union between two souls – me and my beloved. She and I are perfect for each other in every way. We bring happiness and joy to one another and ourselves. We love each other dearly, desire each other physically, connect with each other spiritually, and understand each other mentally and emotionally. We enjoy each moment together, but do not feel desperation or neediness toward each other. We are perfectly-matched companions in this life. We support one another, respect one another, treat one another with kindness, and have compassion and passion for one another. We are a solid partnership and are the one thing that was missing from each other’s lives. I am grateful for her every day and he shows me in every way that I am the perfect man for her
Dear Universe:
I am married to my soul mate whom I love and who loves me, and this is so. I receive all of her love easily, effortlessly and unconditionally. I give her all my love ea ortlessly and unconditionally. I love everything about her. I love her inner and outer beauty. I love her face, her eyes, her nose, her mouth, her smile and her hair. I love her body just as it is. I love the way she winks at me secretly to let me know that she loves me too.
I desire and deserve to be with her. I am worthy of her love. I offer her love that is trusting, open, and vulnerable. I am willing for her to see me as I really am. I commit to loving her as consistently as I possibly can. I love and accept her as she is. I allow her to feel, act, and be any way she wants to be. I now surrender my desires for and expectations of you. You are free to follow your own inner guidance and wisdom.
I will work at the soul level to enhance the love that exists between us. I now amplify love so that we may experience new qualities and expressions of love, find new ways to love, and bring love into new areas of our relationship. I send a beautiful radiant light from my heart center to her heart center. It comes back to me even more beautiful.
I love you with a love that is transparent, not influencing you with my emotions, desires, or wants.
SPIRITUAL: BEING GRATITUDE EVERYDAY.
I have trying to be gratitude everyday. And I have to tell you..it is hard. I am trying to do a couple of things:
1 When you’re having a hard day … make a gratitude list. We all have those bad days sometimes. We are stressed out from work. We get yelled at by someone. We lose a loved one. We hurt a loved one. We lose a contract or do poorly on a project. One of the things that can make a bad day much better is making a list of all the things you’re thankful for. There are always things to be thankful for — loved ones, health, having a job, having a roof over your head and clothes on your back, life itself.
2. Instead of getting mad at someone, show gratitude. That’s a major switching of attitudes — actually a complete flip. And so this isn’t always easy to do. But I can promise you that it’s a great thing to do. If you get mad at your co-worker, for example, because of something he or she did … bite your tongue and don’t react in anger. Instead, take some deep breaths, calm down, and try to think of reasons you’re grateful for that person. Has that person done anything nice for you? Has that person ever done a good job? Find something, anything, even if it’s difficult. Focus on those things that make you grateful. It will slowly change your mood. And if you get in a good enough mood, show your gratitude to that person. It will improve your mood, your relationship, and help make things better. After showing gratitude, you can ask for a favor — can he please refrain from shredding your important documents in the future? And in the context of your gratitude, such a favor isn’t such a hard thing for the co-worker to grant.
3. Instead of criticizing your significant other, show gratitude. This is basically the same as the above tactic, If you constantly criticize your spouse, your marriage will slowly deteriorate — I promise you. It’s important to be able to talk out problems, but no one likes to be criticized all the time. Instead, when you find yourself feeling the urge to criticize, stop and take a deep breath. Calm down, and think about all the reasons you’re grateful for your spouse. Then share that gratitude, as soon as possible. Your relationship will
become stronger. Your spouse will learn from your example– especially if you do this all the time. Your love will grow, and all will be right in the world.
4. When you face a major challenge, be grateful for it. Many people will see something difficult as a bad thing. If something goes wrong, it’s a reason to complain, it’s a time of self-pity. That won’t get you anywhere. Instead, learn to be grateful for the challenge — it’s an opportunity to grow, to learn, to get better at something. This will transform you from a complainer into a positive person who only continues to improve. People will like you better and you’ll improve your career. Not too shabby.
5. Instead of looking at what you don’t have, look at what you do have. Have you ever looked around you and bemoaned how little you have? How the place you live isn’t your dream house, or the car you drive isn’t as nice as you’d like, or your peers have cooler gadgets or better jobs? If so, that’s an opportunity to be grateful for what you already have. It’s easy to forget that there are billions of people worse off than you — who don’t have much in the way of shelter or clothes, who don’t own a car and never will, who don’t own a gadget or even know what one is, who don’t have a job at all or only have very menial, miserable jobs in sweatshop conditions. Compare your life to these people’s lives, and be grateful for the life you have. And realize that it’s already more than enough, that happiness is not a destination — it’s already here. And when I finally do get pussy and love...i will be grateful for that as well.
1 When you’re having a hard day … make a gratitude list. We all have those bad days sometimes. We are stressed out from work. We get yelled at by someone. We lose a loved one. We hurt a loved one. We lose a contract or do poorly on a project. One of the things that can make a bad day much better is making a list of all the things you’re thankful for. There are always things to be thankful for — loved ones, health, having a job, having a roof over your head and clothes on your back, life itself.
2. Instead of getting mad at someone, show gratitude. That’s a major switching of attitudes — actually a complete flip. And so this isn’t always easy to do. But I can promise you that it’s a great thing to do. If you get mad at your co-worker, for example, because of something he or she did … bite your tongue and don’t react in anger. Instead, take some deep breaths, calm down, and try to think of reasons you’re grateful for that person. Has that person done anything nice for you? Has that person ever done a good job? Find something, anything, even if it’s difficult. Focus on those things that make you grateful. It will slowly change your mood. And if you get in a good enough mood, show your gratitude to that person. It will improve your mood, your relationship, and help make things better. After showing gratitude, you can ask for a favor — can he please refrain from shredding your important documents in the future? And in the context of your gratitude, such a favor isn’t such a hard thing for the co-worker to grant.
3. Instead of criticizing your significant other, show gratitude. This is basically the same as the above tactic, If you constantly criticize your spouse, your marriage will slowly deteriorate — I promise you. It’s important to be able to talk out problems, but no one likes to be criticized all the time. Instead, when you find yourself feeling the urge to criticize, stop and take a deep breath. Calm down, and think about all the reasons you’re grateful for your spouse. Then share that gratitude, as soon as possible. Your relationship will
become stronger. Your spouse will learn from your example– especially if you do this all the time. Your love will grow, and all will be right in the world.
4. When you face a major challenge, be grateful for it. Many people will see something difficult as a bad thing. If something goes wrong, it’s a reason to complain, it’s a time of self-pity. That won’t get you anywhere. Instead, learn to be grateful for the challenge — it’s an opportunity to grow, to learn, to get better at something. This will transform you from a complainer into a positive person who only continues to improve. People will like you better and you’ll improve your career. Not too shabby.
5. Instead of looking at what you don’t have, look at what you do have. Have you ever looked around you and bemoaned how little you have? How the place you live isn’t your dream house, or the car you drive isn’t as nice as you’d like, or your peers have cooler gadgets or better jobs? If so, that’s an opportunity to be grateful for what you already have. It’s easy to forget that there are billions of people worse off than you — who don’t have much in the way of shelter or clothes, who don’t own a car and never will, who don’t own a gadget or even know what one is, who don’t have a job at all or only have very menial, miserable jobs in sweatshop conditions. Compare your life to these people’s lives, and be grateful for the life you have. And realize that it’s already more than enough, that happiness is not a destination — it’s already here. And when I finally do get pussy and love...i will be grateful for that as well.
THOUGHTS: TRUSTING THE UNIVERSE
I never had the best luck with relationships. I always longed for a meaningful, loving relationship but somehow always got into relationships with people that were wrong for me, . And after three failed long term relationships I didn't know what to do anymore. My last relationship which I was married to... turned out to be the biggest heartache of them all. And it was the one that I used The Secret, but unfortunately I went about it the wrong way, which leads me to Lesson 1 - YOU TRULY HAVE TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE. Even though I made a detailed vision board of what I wanted in a soul-mate I didn't trust the universe to bring her to me. Instead I went out and looked and looked and when I couldn't find the person I ended up settling Needless to say that it was a bad decision and a year into our relationship everything fell apart. But out of my biggest heartache came the best and most wonderful life changing experience.
When I re-watched The Secret movie I realized my biggest mistake. As Lisa Nichols says, I thought that by being in a relationship I would find happiness, and time and time again I failed. I never gave myself a chance to find the happiness within me and I never truly let go of the pain from all my past experiences. So finally I decided to change my life and do things differently once and for all, which leads me to Lesson 2 - YOU HAVE TO FIND THE HAPPINESS WITHIN YOURSELF FIRST, THUS YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOU BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE AND BE LOVED IN RETURN.
After I learned my second lesson I was ready to do things right. I went back to my vision board and edited my list of qualities in my perfect mate. I was very specific and detailed to write down every thing that truthfully mattered to me. I made a date by which I wanted to meet her by, which was a month away from the time I made my request. I wrote "That I wanted to meet my soul-mate, exchange information with her and plan our first date by July 1 ,2012" From then on I would go back to my vision board at least once a day and really envision what it would be like being with that person. Also I really learned how to love myself for the first time in my life. I learned how to enjoy my own company and truthfully do thing that made me come alive that made me happy,
To everyone out there that has made the wish to find their soul-mate, to anyone who might even be losing their faith, let go of your fears, let go of the doubt and believe, KNOW that your perfect soul-mate is on their way to you!
When I re-watched The Secret movie I realized my biggest mistake. As Lisa Nichols says, I thought that by being in a relationship I would find happiness, and time and time again I failed. I never gave myself a chance to find the happiness within me and I never truly let go of the pain from all my past experiences. So finally I decided to change my life and do things differently once and for all, which leads me to Lesson 2 - YOU HAVE TO FIND THE HAPPINESS WITHIN YOURSELF FIRST, THUS YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOU BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE AND BE LOVED IN RETURN.
After I learned my second lesson I was ready to do things right. I went back to my vision board and edited my list of qualities in my perfect mate. I was very specific and detailed to write down every thing that truthfully mattered to me. I made a date by which I wanted to meet her by, which was a month away from the time I made my request. I wrote "That I wanted to meet my soul-mate, exchange information with her and plan our first date by July 1 ,2012" From then on I would go back to my vision board at least once a day and really envision what it would be like being with that person. Also I really learned how to love myself for the first time in my life. I learned how to enjoy my own company and truthfully do thing that made me come alive that made me happy,
To everyone out there that has made the wish to find their soul-mate, to anyone who might even be losing their faith, let go of your fears, let go of the doubt and believe, KNOW that your perfect soul-mate is on their way to you!
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
LOVE:THE REST OF MY LIFE
I don't want to live the rest of my life thinking about you and dreaming of what
might have been if we would have stayed together in spite of the miles that
separate us. I can't live my life happily knowing you're with someone else. That
would kill a part of me. What we have is rare. It's too beautiful to just throw
it away. I don't want it to end this way. I don't want it to end at all. I can't
force you to stay with me, but no matter what happens in my life, I'll never
forget my time with you.
might have been if we would have stayed together in spite of the miles that
separate us. I can't live my life happily knowing you're with someone else. That
would kill a part of me. What we have is rare. It's too beautiful to just throw
it away. I don't want it to end this way. I don't want it to end at all. I can't
force you to stay with me, but no matter what happens in my life, I'll never
forget my time with you.
LOVE: WHAT I LEAVE FROM MY LAST RELATIONSHIP
PEOPLE ARE NOT PROJECTS.
God, I’ve learned this the hard way. I’ve dated people in the past because I thought I could rebuild them, make them faster, stronger…etc. Do you know how fucked up that is? Getting into a relationship out of a place of judgement? Looking at someone whose tastes you could colonize like a White Savior? What this does is set you up as the superior in a relationship or the teacher, and if you’re dating someone in order to change them, you’ll find out the hard way that people don’t change, so your entire raison d’relationship is a total lie, and you’re in it for wrong reasons that will go nowhere. Besides, people who are only willing to change someone aren’t going to be that willing to change themselves or allow another person to push them to be a better and more caring person. You think that you’re doing it because you care about other people, but if you’re engaging in this dating behavior, honey, you’re the one who needs to change.They are not their job.
Have you ever dated or been attracted to someone based solely on what they do for a living? Of course, we all have, or else Charlie Sheen and Janet Reno would never get laid. It’s not a money thing. We’re attracted to someone we think is making a difference in the world and doing something with their lives. But the thing is: it doesn’t matter if they’re the CEO of a non-profit, the director of the CIA or a waiter at a Stookey’s. All of these people have equal potential to be a good or bad partner for you, and just because they are technically doing good in the world doesn’t mean that they’re a good person. I’ve dated plenty of young, upwardly woman with cool jobs at saving-the-world non-profits who couldn’t even figure out how to text me or call me on a regular basis. These things do not correlate.So, don’t worry so much about what they do. Focus on who they are. Besides, that Stookey’s waiter could open their own restaurant someday, and everyone knows there’s nothing sexier than someone who cooks.
Pay attention to the major red flags.
Whenever we’re dating someone, we have a tendency to ignore major warning signs like the fact that they always bail on you while you’re sleeping, refuse to meet your parents, own a lot of realistic life-size dolls or have their dead mother in a rocking chair. It’s because we want to believe the best in other people and are very good at lying to ourselves.But after awhile, you need to wake up and smell the rotting corpse. These things are easy to ignore — the fact that they never introduce the two of you as a couple or that they never seem to return your calls or texts right away — because we don’t want to give up or go back to being single, which can be difficult. We’ve invested all this time and energy in finding a mate and it’s depressing to think of being fed back through that cycle again or ever going on another bad date. But it’s better to be honest and deal with it now. Not only will it help you to be more realistic about your partner’s limitations as a human being (who might just be busy and still loves you!) but it will also save you from a lifetime of frustrationsAre they a jerk to other people? They’re probably also a jerk to you.
if they’re not that nice to everyone else around you, they’re not that nice to you. It’s not that you’re special or different from everyone else. It’s that they hate the world, and that someday will include you, if it doesn’t already. Selfish and mean isn’t sexy. Selfish sucks.THOUGHTS:: DREAM
It is driving me crazy now, I believe, this time apart. I find myself living on the most surreal of time scales, where nights and days tend to merge and melt into one another. I am constantly perplexed by the time difference between us: when it is midnight for me, it is midday for you; midnight for me, midday for you. Sometimes I tempt myself to share your daily rhythm, but this only leads me into a reality of living my days at night. My nights then taint my days, and my normal life here. On too many occasions I am sleeping in the daylight hours, not really sleep, but daydreaming. It is these dreams that captivate and take hold; and it is these dreams that make me write now.
It is inexplicable. I do not know where it comes from. At one moment my concern is the mundane routine of everyday life: eating, washing, working, planning for the future travels ahead; and I cannot say that I have much time to consider sex. I do, however, as I have told you before, satisfy my voyeuristic tendencies using the Internet and pornography, but I these images seem only for that moment, contained within one instant and then discarded the next. I have read Freud, and in his analysis one stimulus of dreams are the very things in waking life, whether we are conscious of them or not, but I cannot attest that what I see affects me as deeply as other things I witness around me. However, in my sleep and in my dreams, I am taken suddenly by a seeming lucidity, which is to say that I not only dream, but I can feel my body absorbed into this world that I create, the world I will describe in a moment, and for a second it appears that there is nothing except this alternate world.
It starts quite slowly. The world - the real world - begins to fade slowly in a palpitating rapid ebb and flow, all the sounds and senses become liquefied, and once in this liquid state, bond and permeate one another to make but one total layer of experience. When this happens, I am being lulled, called by the song of a siren who lives inside me, promising with this liquid state a tranquil haven made only for me. My body does not what for my mind to accept the invitation, and so it carries me there under it's own volition. Once inside, there is a background of one colour or rather lack of, for it is a negative black. Upon this canvas are painted then hazy images, outlines, clouded figurines that come towards me and sing for me to come to then. The sound and movement they project has a sonorous tone, so thick and heavy, their mouths and bodies are music itself. Sometimes they are bare fleshed, like angels with soft white skin and flowing hair, such grace in their repose. There is no I, except for my perspective. I have no impulse, no effort, no will; yet I also have no repulsion, no resistance and no temptation.
The whole scene is vague and ephemeral, just as is my daydream, but it is an eternity also. These angels come close, they pull me in, and in doing so we conjoin our flesh, which is a new sensation born unto me, both my having flesh in this dream and touching with another. It feels like two sheets of silk sliding over one another; cold, yet refreshing and enough to sharply awaken the senses.
There is a creamy, rich, sensuous feel about this whole moment, as if this touch then surrounds the whole of and becomes me. I feel as if I am taken into this angel and wrapped inside her, and yet when I look I am in fact still apart from her, except that I have penetrated her and she has taken me this far into her body. She seems to work with that same enveloping sonorous tone: a natural rhythm that works forwards and backwards, sliding smoothly and holding me warmly, her body in total control. I realise I am at once in possession of desire and being possessed by desire itself. This world exists for both of our aims and goals.
Our bodies move together for what seems like forever, yet in fact when I perceive that she is taking me on a path destined for orgiastic pleasure and climax, I realise that no time at all has passed and the moment has grown quite rapidly from tranquillity to a frenzied shrill of activity and sexual action. My angel now seems to turn into a demon, turning red with flame and fire, her eyes looking into mine seem to burn down into my soul, as she now takes me with a more fervent vigour and I feel her passions run with such a heat that I am convinced she will burn us both in this moment. I am clenched in between her legs, nothing but a puppet. She violently shifts her hips forwards and backwards, literally pulling the life out of me, with such a lascivious smile on her face that I am at once gripped by my own lust, but at the same time frozen with a sexual fear.
Just before my orgasm, it feels that her movements are too fast to comprehend and her body is just a machine, oscillating (for this is her movement, round and round upon me, clamped to me like a suction device, pulling, teasing, ripping the essence from inside) at thousands of revolutions per minute. My orgasm is a cataclysm of time, as it all collapses around this world, bending inwards and then outwards, from the infinitesimal to the infinite beyond. It is at this moment that I find myself waking back into reality, in a sweat, with heart racing and with the pangs of my lust, yet for a moment my head is caught in a cloud of which I can both envision the real and the demon turning back to a pure, white innocent state, her back already turned, her movement like a wave in the ocean of space.
Like I have said, I know not from where this comes. My only sexual contact with pornography concerns only girls and breasts and cunts and cocks and sucking and fucking and physical sex; but my dreams are of a feeling within, more of a conjoining of flesh and bone and spirit and soul, than the physical act itself.
I think something special will happen when I see you again, these sirens are keeping things alive inside of me and since no person has made me feel them before, I am starting to suspect that you have infected me, perhaps left a piece of yourself inside me of which I can dream.
It is inexplicable. I do not know where it comes from. At one moment my concern is the mundane routine of everyday life: eating, washing, working, planning for the future travels ahead; and I cannot say that I have much time to consider sex. I do, however, as I have told you before, satisfy my voyeuristic tendencies using the Internet and pornography, but I these images seem only for that moment, contained within one instant and then discarded the next. I have read Freud, and in his analysis one stimulus of dreams are the very things in waking life, whether we are conscious of them or not, but I cannot attest that what I see affects me as deeply as other things I witness around me. However, in my sleep and in my dreams, I am taken suddenly by a seeming lucidity, which is to say that I not only dream, but I can feel my body absorbed into this world that I create, the world I will describe in a moment, and for a second it appears that there is nothing except this alternate world.
It starts quite slowly. The world - the real world - begins to fade slowly in a palpitating rapid ebb and flow, all the sounds and senses become liquefied, and once in this liquid state, bond and permeate one another to make but one total layer of experience. When this happens, I am being lulled, called by the song of a siren who lives inside me, promising with this liquid state a tranquil haven made only for me. My body does not what for my mind to accept the invitation, and so it carries me there under it's own volition. Once inside, there is a background of one colour or rather lack of, for it is a negative black. Upon this canvas are painted then hazy images, outlines, clouded figurines that come towards me and sing for me to come to then. The sound and movement they project has a sonorous tone, so thick and heavy, their mouths and bodies are music itself. Sometimes they are bare fleshed, like angels with soft white skin and flowing hair, such grace in their repose. There is no I, except for my perspective. I have no impulse, no effort, no will; yet I also have no repulsion, no resistance and no temptation.
The whole scene is vague and ephemeral, just as is my daydream, but it is an eternity also. These angels come close, they pull me in, and in doing so we conjoin our flesh, which is a new sensation born unto me, both my having flesh in this dream and touching with another. It feels like two sheets of silk sliding over one another; cold, yet refreshing and enough to sharply awaken the senses.
There is a creamy, rich, sensuous feel about this whole moment, as if this touch then surrounds the whole of and becomes me. I feel as if I am taken into this angel and wrapped inside her, and yet when I look I am in fact still apart from her, except that I have penetrated her and she has taken me this far into her body. She seems to work with that same enveloping sonorous tone: a natural rhythm that works forwards and backwards, sliding smoothly and holding me warmly, her body in total control. I realise I am at once in possession of desire and being possessed by desire itself. This world exists for both of our aims and goals.
Our bodies move together for what seems like forever, yet in fact when I perceive that she is taking me on a path destined for orgiastic pleasure and climax, I realise that no time at all has passed and the moment has grown quite rapidly from tranquillity to a frenzied shrill of activity and sexual action. My angel now seems to turn into a demon, turning red with flame and fire, her eyes looking into mine seem to burn down into my soul, as she now takes me with a more fervent vigour and I feel her passions run with such a heat that I am convinced she will burn us both in this moment. I am clenched in between her legs, nothing but a puppet. She violently shifts her hips forwards and backwards, literally pulling the life out of me, with such a lascivious smile on her face that I am at once gripped by my own lust, but at the same time frozen with a sexual fear.
Just before my orgasm, it feels that her movements are too fast to comprehend and her body is just a machine, oscillating (for this is her movement, round and round upon me, clamped to me like a suction device, pulling, teasing, ripping the essence from inside) at thousands of revolutions per minute. My orgasm is a cataclysm of time, as it all collapses around this world, bending inwards and then outwards, from the infinitesimal to the infinite beyond. It is at this moment that I find myself waking back into reality, in a sweat, with heart racing and with the pangs of my lust, yet for a moment my head is caught in a cloud of which I can both envision the real and the demon turning back to a pure, white innocent state, her back already turned, her movement like a wave in the ocean of space.
Like I have said, I know not from where this comes. My only sexual contact with pornography concerns only girls and breasts and cunts and cocks and sucking and fucking and physical sex; but my dreams are of a feeling within, more of a conjoining of flesh and bone and spirit and soul, than the physical act itself.
I think something special will happen when I see you again, these sirens are keeping things alive inside of me and since no person has made me feel them before, I am starting to suspect that you have infected me, perhaps left a piece of yourself inside me of which I can dream.
SPIRITUAL: GOING WITH THE STREAM OF LIFE
There is just the right moment for everything. If you find obstruction on your path, back off just a minute. Take time to allow for an integration of this new information. Your being wants to create perfection, but perfection cannot be forced. If things are not working out well, take a break, especially a mental break. Let go of how you were looking at the situation. Allow the superconscious to do its tempering work of synthesis.”
“It will re-inspire you to right and harmonious action. Imagine there is a smooth flowing river of life with a strong current just for carrying you effortlessly forward. Step into it in your mind’s eye. Feel the gentle push and let your body float on it. Just a moment’s visualization can put you on the right course. It gives your higher being time to see what’s really needed. It may only be an adjustment of thought, a slight change in plans, but the increment of difference may be all that is needed to make everything happen easily
“It will re-inspire you to right and harmonious action. Imagine there is a smooth flowing river of life with a strong current just for carrying you effortlessly forward. Step into it in your mind’s eye. Feel the gentle push and let your body float on it. Just a moment’s visualization can put you on the right course. It gives your higher being time to see what’s really needed. It may only be an adjustment of thought, a slight change in plans, but the increment of difference may be all that is needed to make everything happen easily
Monday, November 19, 2012
LOVE: THE CHOSEN ONE
Needless to say, I haven’t really found someone I’m interested in, even after making a whole new commitment to putting myself out there. I always try to find the lesson in everything — the silver lining that will make it all make sense, that will make it all seem part of a grand scheme, or some predetermined fate that I can’t even begin to visualize yet. But really the only thing I’ve become convinced of is…
…dating can suck. It can honestly, really, really suck.
It’s constant disappointment. It’s something being off even if you’re not quite sure what that something is. It’s trying to avoid the wolf underneath the sheep, and to find the sheep that’s hidden by your mesmerization with the wolf. It’s hoping for a someone you’re not entitled to meet just because you’re you. It’s a lot of scheduling and work, compromising and wondering when it’s all going to fall into place. Frankly, it’s so exhausting, I’m tired of writing about it — but…
…I still want to do it.
Because you can’t find the right one if you don’t know how to spot a bad one. And you can’t get what you want if you refuse to go after it. Or to let it go after you. You can’t have your heart feel those many wondrous things it longs to feel if you don’t open it wide enough to let someone touch it. To capture it.
Internet dating is the new bar scene, which means there are a lot of people in my boat. And internet dating is just not the same as meeting someone at a bar. For example...you look at my picture and that caused you to respond to me..
Most people based their internet dating on picture. Most woman see a handsome picture of a guy and they don't know at him at all. They have fallen in love with a pretty face, and an idea. The image of who he is, what he cares about, his flaws and perfections, are nearly entirely made up through their imagination. That alone should be a problem for any rational person. But love isn’t rational – or so I hear.
More specifically, most woman knee-jerk reaction is to the idea that she fell in love with a face. With the way he looks. Does that mean that looks are really all that matter? And if people are calling this romantic, does that mean that our society is ok with the idea of falling in love with the way someone looks? What ever happened to being a good person? An honourable man or a knowledgable man?
I am not arguing that physical attraction doesn’t matter – it does. You need that initial physical attraction to notice the other person at all. But, it’s definitely not sustainable. What if the man who looks like your dream guy has a problem with gas? What if Mrs. Dreamboat picks her nose and eats it?
And isn’t that the goal? Find someone who mixes with you? A partner in crime? A yin to your yang?
Most average woman who goes after men who are
a) heavily pursued
b)have a lot of options or
c) are wicked obnoxious.
Women in their twenties and thirties pursuing the Don Drapers, They come to Manhattan with dreams of meeting the rich i-banker.They don’t care how smug or self-important he is. They want the man who will help them believe that they are more attractive or engaging than they really are. The problem is that they can’t compete. So rather than setting their sights lower, they decide to make it about how awful and entitled the men are. For the record, nobody is debating this point. But if you would just accept that you belong in a certain caste and stop trying to date out of it, your experience would become exponentially more positive.
You message these men on dating sites because you want them to go out with you. You want to be The Chosen one, and when you repeatedly fail, you heap all of the blame and frustration on men. You play a huge part in this and you need to get that. These men? They don’t have to choose you They will sleep with you, but won't marry you. They have more than enough options. Common sense would dictate that you lower your standards. But no. Much like the men who suffer from similar chips on their shoulder, you’re going to continue to go after men way out of your league because you can’t admit that you just aren’t what they are looking for.
Yes, I know. You’re awesome. If people would only give you a chance, etc. Sweetie, nobody owes you a Blue Ribbon just for participating. Everybody doesn’t get a trophy. Only the winners. You want to win, you compete in the appropriate class. If you want to compete in a higher class, you train for it.You do not sit around and whine about how unfair it all is. Nothing – and I mean NOTHING – is more unattractive than a weak woman. Whining and complaining are inherently weak traits.There is no dignity in that. Not for men. Not for women.
There’s a lot of talk about the Sexual Market Place and the man’s value or lack there of in it. Well, here’s what you need to understand. The more of these whiny, disgruntled women that enter the market place, the higher the value of the entitled man. That man is the one all of you woman are trying to date, whether you admit it or not. I mean, if you were pursuing decent, kind, feminine men, you wouldn’t be complaining in the first place.
If all a woman wants is someone to call a boyfriend and to follow her around, she can effortlessly find one. The Alpha guys don’t want her and will use her for a month or two only to discard her. Once she’s had enough of that she’ll settle for The Beta, but she won’t see it as settling because The Beta showers her with attention and validation and gifts and meals. Anything to compete and keep her interested. She’ll continue to ride that carousel for years on end until she’s sitting alone in her apartment and telling everybody how she “chose” to be single or how she’d rather be alone than in a bad relationship or whatever mantra she repeats endlessly in an attempt to avoid the real reason she’s single.
Meanwhile the rest of us, aka The Ones Who Get It, are out here happily dating decent, good, fun, attractive to us people. We’ve accepted our league. We’ve learned to spot the signs of someone who might pose trouble down the road. We don’t over-think or over-analyze every little thing. We employ critical thinking. We’re not talking about how hard dating is or how nobody responds to us because dating isn’t hard for us and people do respond because we know what we can pull. We’re not quitting. We accept that it all means nothing until it means something. We aren’t marking down days on the calendar until we can bray or write smug tutorials about how we found a boyfriend or girlfriend.
In short, we’re Dating Realists. Join us, won’t you?
PART II
Somewhere in this world, and perhaps in this city, lives a woman.
She is a living, breathing, actual person with a history that I don’t know. She was born somewhere and she may or may not have moved away from her hometown. She has a freckle in an odd place that’s hidden away under her clothes. She has an ex-boyfriend who broke her heart, a certain way she loves to be kissed, and she may care less if the Jets won or loss. She has a food that she can’t get enough of, a vegetable she isn’t the biggest fan of, and a scar that has a story. Her girlfriends known since elementary school and a teacher who made an impact that lasted past the classroom. She knows every single word to a few songs, has read a book or two that she couldn’t put down, and she has a place she dreams of going, but never has. She may have an affinity for intelligent men who like to write.
I haven’t met this woman. Or if I have, I don’t know it yet. But this person, with all of her incredible and messy qualities, is the woman I have faith I will meet, and marry one day. I don’t believe in the idea of a soulmate who makes your “half” a whole, but I do trust there is a single person for everyone, who is suitable (and preferable) for life-long commitment.
Before this journey, the fact that my person, my wife-to-be, existed, and I had no control over when I’d meet her – really bothered me. I would watch all of my friends, either on Facebook or in real life – getting engaged, talking about how they met their match, and waltzing down the aisle, and all I could think was: “Why not me?! Why don’t I deserve to meet my gal? Where the hell is she?“
And so, to combat these desperate thoughts that made me feel unworthy and unattractive, I immersed myself in romantic illusions about her – and at any given moment, I prepared for our paths to cross.
Somehow, fantasies of an elusive Ms. Right: what she’ll look like, how she’ll kiss me, how we’ll meet, how we’ll both ‘just know’, and how it will all play into a divinity I’ve yet to experience – are easier to dream about then to focus on what really deserves attention: myself.
And that’s a self-defeating approach I’ve seemed to master. I’ve had a reoccurring dream about being married to someone named Laura, who I’ve yet to meet – but if you’re out with me, and a woman says her name is Laura, my head whips around quicker than it does when I see a sample sale near my office. I’ve filled nearly 5 years of writing of “Letters to My Soulmate” that have chronicled my life and as ridiculous as it may sound, I went to a psychic (who has been scarily accurate thus far) and she told me to put a rose quartz in the most right-hand corner of my room along with a list of all the qualities I looked for in my future soulmate, to bring her near me, faster.
Until I realized that my expectations of this woman, who while I’m sure will be kind and beautiful will most likely not be a princess, and will really have no need for me to rescue her from anything. So what was I doing putting all of this energy into her? Especially when I haven’t even, technically, met her?
While I was picturing her, getting lost in the endless wondering of when (or if) I would meet her or pondering if I could catch a glimpse of her on the next train or bump into her at the next cocktail hour – I had forgotten that a relationship with myself is really the one I needed to be working on.
Really, I knew had a choice: I could get lost in this fantasy character I’ve established in my mind, with blond hair, blue eyes, and perfect, succulent lips who like to have sex all the time than I can dream of (but is insanely humble and talented) – or I could first accept myself, and then accept her, for whoever she is. This doesn’t mean I settled for less than I deserved or lowered my standards, but I realized that instead of writing her letters and wishing on a “magical” pink-colored stone, I could just go about my life and let whatever is meant to happen, happen.
I still have a ways to go on this journey, but I hadn’t realized how much progress I made until a beautiful stranger locked eyes with me on the subway yesterday and I smiled back, before getting off at my stop – and it occured to me: I haven’t thought about running into Ms. Right in such a long time.
And that was it. I did it. I finally let go of anticipating our encounter or wishing on stars to meet her.
And today, I’m a living, breathing person. I have dozens of stories that she doesn’t know. I’ve been lucky to love some wonderful women, and I’ve learned from the ones who have done me wrong. There are foods that I would never give up,and I admittedly have memorized most Backstreet Boy songs. I have a scar on my left wrist that’ll forever remind me of how i burned my wrist making lunch for a picnic with one of my ex. I’m full of endless hope and can be inspired by even the slightest of sightings, conversations, or words. I’m short, but my personality isn’t.
Regardless of when she stumbles into my life or what she is really like or what color her eyes are, I am just as important of a character, of a person, as she is. And finally, she isn’t my top concern, my highest priority, or the thing I worry the most about. I don’t dress to impress her, imagine all of the ways I could meet her during the activities before me each morning, or curse the universe for delaying our impending marriage.
Instead, my look, my style, is my own. I look forward to the moments of my day where I’ll do something that’s fulfilling and helps others. And I thank the heavens above for giving me the chance and the drive to devote my passion, my enthusiasm to the most important, most beautiful, and most life-altering relationship I’ll ever experience: the love I have for me, or what I’d like to call myself…Mr. Right.
…dating can suck. It can honestly, really, really suck.
It’s constant disappointment. It’s something being off even if you’re not quite sure what that something is. It’s trying to avoid the wolf underneath the sheep, and to find the sheep that’s hidden by your mesmerization with the wolf. It’s hoping for a someone you’re not entitled to meet just because you’re you. It’s a lot of scheduling and work, compromising and wondering when it’s all going to fall into place. Frankly, it’s so exhausting, I’m tired of writing about it — but…
…I still want to do it.
Because you can’t find the right one if you don’t know how to spot a bad one. And you can’t get what you want if you refuse to go after it. Or to let it go after you. You can’t have your heart feel those many wondrous things it longs to feel if you don’t open it wide enough to let someone touch it. To capture it.
Internet dating is the new bar scene, which means there are a lot of people in my boat. And internet dating is just not the same as meeting someone at a bar. For example...you look at my picture and that caused you to respond to me..
Most people based their internet dating on picture. Most woman see a handsome picture of a guy and they don't know at him at all. They have fallen in love with a pretty face, and an idea. The image of who he is, what he cares about, his flaws and perfections, are nearly entirely made up through their imagination. That alone should be a problem for any rational person. But love isn’t rational – or so I hear.
More specifically, most woman knee-jerk reaction is to the idea that she fell in love with a face. With the way he looks. Does that mean that looks are really all that matter? And if people are calling this romantic, does that mean that our society is ok with the idea of falling in love with the way someone looks? What ever happened to being a good person? An honourable man or a knowledgable man?
I am not arguing that physical attraction doesn’t matter – it does. You need that initial physical attraction to notice the other person at all. But, it’s definitely not sustainable. What if the man who looks like your dream guy has a problem with gas? What if Mrs. Dreamboat picks her nose and eats it?
And isn’t that the goal? Find someone who mixes with you? A partner in crime? A yin to your yang?
Most average woman who goes after men who are
a) heavily pursued
b)have a lot of options or
c) are wicked obnoxious.
Women in their twenties and thirties pursuing the Don Drapers, They come to Manhattan with dreams of meeting the rich i-banker.They don’t care how smug or self-important he is. They want the man who will help them believe that they are more attractive or engaging than they really are. The problem is that they can’t compete. So rather than setting their sights lower, they decide to make it about how awful and entitled the men are. For the record, nobody is debating this point. But if you would just accept that you belong in a certain caste and stop trying to date out of it, your experience would become exponentially more positive.
You message these men on dating sites because you want them to go out with you. You want to be The Chosen one, and when you repeatedly fail, you heap all of the blame and frustration on men. You play a huge part in this and you need to get that. These men? They don’t have to choose you They will sleep with you, but won't marry you. They have more than enough options. Common sense would dictate that you lower your standards. But no. Much like the men who suffer from similar chips on their shoulder, you’re going to continue to go after men way out of your league because you can’t admit that you just aren’t what they are looking for.
Yes, I know. You’re awesome. If people would only give you a chance, etc. Sweetie, nobody owes you a Blue Ribbon just for participating. Everybody doesn’t get a trophy. Only the winners. You want to win, you compete in the appropriate class. If you want to compete in a higher class, you train for it.You do not sit around and whine about how unfair it all is. Nothing – and I mean NOTHING – is more unattractive than a weak woman. Whining and complaining are inherently weak traits.There is no dignity in that. Not for men. Not for women.
There’s a lot of talk about the Sexual Market Place and the man’s value or lack there of in it. Well, here’s what you need to understand. The more of these whiny, disgruntled women that enter the market place, the higher the value of the entitled man. That man is the one all of you woman are trying to date, whether you admit it or not. I mean, if you were pursuing decent, kind, feminine men, you wouldn’t be complaining in the first place.
If all a woman wants is someone to call a boyfriend and to follow her around, she can effortlessly find one. The Alpha guys don’t want her and will use her for a month or two only to discard her. Once she’s had enough of that she’ll settle for The Beta, but she won’t see it as settling because The Beta showers her with attention and validation and gifts and meals. Anything to compete and keep her interested. She’ll continue to ride that carousel for years on end until she’s sitting alone in her apartment and telling everybody how she “chose” to be single or how she’d rather be alone than in a bad relationship or whatever mantra she repeats endlessly in an attempt to avoid the real reason she’s single.
Meanwhile the rest of us, aka The Ones Who Get It, are out here happily dating decent, good, fun, attractive to us people. We’ve accepted our league. We’ve learned to spot the signs of someone who might pose trouble down the road. We don’t over-think or over-analyze every little thing. We employ critical thinking. We’re not talking about how hard dating is or how nobody responds to us because dating isn’t hard for us and people do respond because we know what we can pull. We’re not quitting. We accept that it all means nothing until it means something. We aren’t marking down days on the calendar until we can bray or write smug tutorials about how we found a boyfriend or girlfriend.
In short, we’re Dating Realists. Join us, won’t you?
PART II
Somewhere in this world, and perhaps in this city, lives a woman.
She is a living, breathing, actual person with a history that I don’t know. She was born somewhere and she may or may not have moved away from her hometown. She has a freckle in an odd place that’s hidden away under her clothes. She has an ex-boyfriend who broke her heart, a certain way she loves to be kissed, and she may care less if the Jets won or loss. She has a food that she can’t get enough of, a vegetable she isn’t the biggest fan of, and a scar that has a story. Her girlfriends known since elementary school and a teacher who made an impact that lasted past the classroom. She knows every single word to a few songs, has read a book or two that she couldn’t put down, and she has a place she dreams of going, but never has. She may have an affinity for intelligent men who like to write.
I haven’t met this woman. Or if I have, I don’t know it yet. But this person, with all of her incredible and messy qualities, is the woman I have faith I will meet, and marry one day. I don’t believe in the idea of a soulmate who makes your “half” a whole, but I do trust there is a single person for everyone, who is suitable (and preferable) for life-long commitment.
Before this journey, the fact that my person, my wife-to-be, existed, and I had no control over when I’d meet her – really bothered me. I would watch all of my friends, either on Facebook or in real life – getting engaged, talking about how they met their match, and waltzing down the aisle, and all I could think was: “Why not me?! Why don’t I deserve to meet my gal? Where the hell is she?“
And so, to combat these desperate thoughts that made me feel unworthy and unattractive, I immersed myself in romantic illusions about her – and at any given moment, I prepared for our paths to cross.
Somehow, fantasies of an elusive Ms. Right: what she’ll look like, how she’ll kiss me, how we’ll meet, how we’ll both ‘just know’, and how it will all play into a divinity I’ve yet to experience – are easier to dream about then to focus on what really deserves attention: myself.
And that’s a self-defeating approach I’ve seemed to master. I’ve had a reoccurring dream about being married to someone named Laura, who I’ve yet to meet – but if you’re out with me, and a woman says her name is Laura, my head whips around quicker than it does when I see a sample sale near my office. I’ve filled nearly 5 years of writing of “Letters to My Soulmate” that have chronicled my life and as ridiculous as it may sound, I went to a psychic (who has been scarily accurate thus far) and she told me to put a rose quartz in the most right-hand corner of my room along with a list of all the qualities I looked for in my future soulmate, to bring her near me, faster.
Until I realized that my expectations of this woman, who while I’m sure will be kind and beautiful will most likely not be a princess, and will really have no need for me to rescue her from anything. So what was I doing putting all of this energy into her? Especially when I haven’t even, technically, met her?
While I was picturing her, getting lost in the endless wondering of when (or if) I would meet her or pondering if I could catch a glimpse of her on the next train or bump into her at the next cocktail hour – I had forgotten that a relationship with myself is really the one I needed to be working on.
Really, I knew had a choice: I could get lost in this fantasy character I’ve established in my mind, with blond hair, blue eyes, and perfect, succulent lips who like to have sex all the time than I can dream of (but is insanely humble and talented) – or I could first accept myself, and then accept her, for whoever she is. This doesn’t mean I settled for less than I deserved or lowered my standards, but I realized that instead of writing her letters and wishing on a “magical” pink-colored stone, I could just go about my life and let whatever is meant to happen, happen.
I still have a ways to go on this journey, but I hadn’t realized how much progress I made until a beautiful stranger locked eyes with me on the subway yesterday and I smiled back, before getting off at my stop – and it occured to me: I haven’t thought about running into Ms. Right in such a long time.
And that was it. I did it. I finally let go of anticipating our encounter or wishing on stars to meet her.
And today, I’m a living, breathing person. I have dozens of stories that she doesn’t know. I’ve been lucky to love some wonderful women, and I’ve learned from the ones who have done me wrong. There are foods that I would never give up,and I admittedly have memorized most Backstreet Boy songs. I have a scar on my left wrist that’ll forever remind me of how i burned my wrist making lunch for a picnic with one of my ex. I’m full of endless hope and can be inspired by even the slightest of sightings, conversations, or words. I’m short, but my personality isn’t.
Regardless of when she stumbles into my life or what she is really like or what color her eyes are, I am just as important of a character, of a person, as she is. And finally, she isn’t my top concern, my highest priority, or the thing I worry the most about. I don’t dress to impress her, imagine all of the ways I could meet her during the activities before me each morning, or curse the universe for delaying our impending marriage.
Instead, my look, my style, is my own. I look forward to the moments of my day where I’ll do something that’s fulfilling and helps others. And I thank the heavens above for giving me the chance and the drive to devote my passion, my enthusiasm to the most important, most beautiful, and most life-altering relationship I’ll ever experience: the love I have for me, or what I’d like to call myself…Mr. Right.
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