LOVE: WHAT NICE GUYS DO ...

A Nice guys fall in love all the time. He's attentive, he's 'kind', he's demonstrative, he gives a woman lots and lots and lots and lots of attention. He nobly sacrifices his feelings for her benefit. He sees her as the perfect princess (she believes) she really is. He apologises when she gets mad at him, *whether it's his fault or not.*

Why do Nice Guys do this? Because men have been lied to. We have been told that when love is involved, people will do anything to make each other happy. And if you love someone then *of course* you want what's best for them. Which means they'd be stupid not to love you right back. Which in turn means you'll both get to be happy.

Riiiiiiiiiight.

We all know what really happens. Most women don't go for guys who 'love' them. They go for guys who excite them, frighten them, give them an adrenaline rush and can keep their little puzzies moist by acting like real men. I have been lied to by my mom, socieity,....and the media.

So why do Nice guy still do it? Here's the real reason. All of that crap about a woman's specialness, uniqueness, all of that is a crock. NICE GUY believe quality PUSSY is impossible to find. Especially for them. So they either try to buy it with attention. Or they don't try at all.

If you love yourself... and you don't "NEED" your girlfriend, wife, etc. to give you attention to feel good, you'll be free to do what you want/need - without waiting for a woman - ANY woman - to fill that hole that makes you feel loved


NO WOMAN should be worshipped, but all should be respected. We must realise that women are not nice, sweet, adorable creatures just because they're female and pretty. A lot of them actually are self-centred, self-obsessed and controlling to the extent that they can be completely blind to a guy's feelings.Are all like this? Thankfully, no. There are some real sweeties out there. But the vast majority are woman may go all gooshy over little fluffy animals and still be completely unable to understand that you have feelings that can be hurt by her actions. It's not pretty, it's not nice, but it is the way it is out there. I was with a women who would cry during movies...and yet cause me alot of emtional pain...does that make sense. I know alot of you experience this also. ...we all do. This means that if you find you ever want to go beyond the sex stage and give your heart to a chick, you have to check out whether she is like this or not. Otherwise you'll be paying big time later

Here are some evil assumptions that I was trying to call out:

The belief in scarcity

The belief that 'love' will buy you a worthwhile relationship

The belief that if you love someone you can ignore how they actually act towards you

The belief that if you love someone and act in a loving way, that's all you need to worry about for a guaranteed happy ending

The belief that any one woman is so unique that she is 'the one',

The belief that you should choose a woman based on how you feel about her, and whether or not she condescends to spend time with you because of those feelings, instead of choosing her for how she feels and acts towards you, and how *good you feel* (or not) when she's around

The belief that women are angels who can absolutely be relied on to be nice, mature, honest, straightforward and to know more about relationships than you ever could *just because they're female*, and that you should always, absolutely, trust everything they say, because (hey...) don't you see it's for your own good?

The belief that 'the one' is 'THE ONE' - and there will never be another who even comes close to comparing, and therefore much pain and anguish is due when she leaves

You still need to keep checking to see what she's doing, whether she's respecting you, whether she's lying to you over things big and small, how sorted her own life is, where she is with her exes. And all of that.

What women do want is to believe they're unique - at least to you. Women hate the idea that they're predictable, or simple, or easy to see through.

But in fact the ultimate, single, predictable chick fantasy is to be pursued relentlessly by a high status quality guy who could have any chick he wants, but who wants *her* because of her seductiveness, intelligence, allure, feminine grace, or whatever qualities she feels make her stand out. So if you're high status enough (or can act high status enough) to get her attention, and can make a chick feel 'special' like that, she's yours.

Pussy is not a dirty word. We should not be so uptight when it come talk about sex. Maybe the love that Nice guy to feel is really CO-DEPENDENCY. A man or woman who latches on to another person whether the feeling is reciprocated or not and sheds his/her own identity, thinks the other makes them "complete" is doing so out of a weak sense of self.
The gushy, constant need for affirmation from the other has nothing to do with what the person feels for the object of his/her attention. It's an indication of what he/she doesn't feel for themselves.

BUT WHY DO I NEED THAT CONSTANT NEED FOR AFFIRMATION, EVEN THOUGH I GIVE MYSELF AFFIRMATION? IS IT I AM NOT GIVING MYSELF ENOUGH?

Love takes an acceptance of not only those qualities in another person that makes them feel "complete", but also those qualities that make them feel "apart". It's about learning how to be intimate for the sake of intimacy not for the sake of self-gratification, and how to be alone for the sake of solitude not for the sake of loneliness.

I think that most Nice guys spent their entire life NOTHING BUT TRYING TO GET WOMEN. They are the gold at the end of the rainbow.

Here is an important aspect to raising your confidence with women: STOP NEEDING THEM SO MUCH! Find yourself an exciting hobby, go out and have fun without the constraints and presence of women – women are not and should not be the center of your universe. Do something that gets you AWAY from women.