LOVE: TO THE AVERAGE WOMAN, THE AVERAGE MAN LOOKS LIKE CRAP

Picky isn’t even bad, as long as you’re being picky about the right things. No alcoholic, drug-addicted, mean-tempered people? Check. But 6′ 2″, $100,000/yr, and emotionally available too? Perhaps that’s just a tad unrealistic. The only problem I have is that relaxing the criteria for tall, well paid, muscular, blonde, etc. is lumped in with excluding the mean alcoholics and drug addicts when the word “settle” comes up. Why in the world would you lump that stuff together? Still, I was concerned about one of those statistics, and that was the 21% who would commit to a woman they are not sexually attracted to. The idea of having sex with someone I don’t find sexually attractive is pretty horrible to me. Mostly because, if I don’t find her sexually attractive, I’m not going to enjoy having sex with her. Doesn’t it work the same for women? If so, this just seems like they are setting themselves up for failure, either with affairs later or sexual frustration for one or both partners. That really disturbs me. Men and women, who have a lot going for them in terms of looks, money, career, intellect etc do NOT settle because they don’t need to. The “settling” is almost always done by those who are lacking in these areas. The difference here is that women tend to expect more from marriage and would rather be alone than in a less than satisfactory union. Their ability to make friends and their emotional resilience ensure they are never lonely. The other point is that women with lower “market value” have gotten used to being alone, not having been asked out on dates or having been dropped for someone “better”. Men on the other hand, get the message a bit later. They initially refuse to believe (because their egos won’t let them) they have low market value as partners, and keep trying and trying and finally they realise they are not going to get what they want or think they deserve. To the average woman, the average man looks like crap. Truth is, in dating, average women still can come out on top by being pleasant and kind-hearted. The average man, on the other hand, pretty much has to move Heaven and Earth to get a woman’s attention. Even after that, he has to bring his A game because it’s one thing to get your foot in the door, but something totally different to stay in the door.