I am ok even if I never find the special person who I am looking for. This means that if I am alone, I am not a bad person to do it with.Whatever happens it;s not going to change my life. I realized that the things I really enjoy, the things that give me the most pleasure and make life worth living, are all things I already have. A walk in the park, Some quality time with family and friends. An hour in the sun, just me and my mp3 player. No woman can give these things to me or take them away, so there's no reason to act as though the world will come to an end if that random conversation with any woman doesn't develop into a relationship.
When people are really confident, they are not hungry for external validation. they do not enter into a relationship looking for evidence--as to whether they are okay or not. They have already held that debate--and won. Confident people care calm without being aloof or arrogant. This sense of peace comes from an awareness of their authentic self, the part of you that can be found at your absolute core. if on the other hand, you are unsure of yourself, you'll be very vulnerable to the whims of others. It could be something as minor as someone being rude to you in line at the grocery store. you maybe offended all day, wondering why would she treat me that way. Was it because she didn't think I was important person. But the truth is that you already know who you are, you are neitehr validated nor deflated by what someone else does, because you are neither validated nor deflated by what someone else does, because you haven't given your power to anyone else.
Woman sense desperation: You don't have what you need, so you're going to take it from me. If she lonley, she will take my independence and my free time. Desperate people are leeches, they will suck you dry and then still not leave.Fear fules your desperation. You're like a hungry bird "feed me, love me" over and over again.80 % of all question are just statement in disguise, what they're really going is saying. There's nothing wrong with me. I shouldn't still be single. I'm good enough to be married. When someone ask, "What's wrong with me?..they are feeling there is something wrong with them. If you're telling yourself you're desperate and you must have a woman, you will reek of fear and weakness and desperation. if you're telling yourself things like, "I must, " "I have to" and It's a castastrophe if she doesn't love me, then you are putting yourself into a state of desperation and panic, and state that scream. I need I want.
-If i don't get married , I'll die alone
-there must be something wrong with me because no one want to marry me
-I need her approval or she will dump me like the rest
-if she love and accept me, then I can finally feel okay about myself.
-No past relationship have worked out, so I never let myself believe that there is one that really will work
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