LOVE: BE YOURSELF IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

We are never separated from the source, from our power, but our power can be used constructively or destructively, to win or to lose. Your belief system determines whether you will use the power constructively or destructively. You have the choice. In the beginning of each new relationship, we have no way of knowing whether we will really grow together of whether we will grow apart. If we understand that our security lies within ourselves, we have a much better chance for a successful relationship. If we look to people, places and things for our well-being, we are almost certain to have disruptive relationship. A relationship can't be right for one partner and not for the other. It absolutely has to be right for both, or it doesn't work for either and some body's lying.

Partners have all these expectations as to what relationship is going to do. Relationship is going to solve all of their problems. When they discover on the morning after that they're still the same person they were the day before, disillusion sets in. Refusing to confront their own responsibility, they begin the familiar refrain: I'm still unhappy, so it must be you!!!!!!!!

What do you think single life is going to give you? The answer usually is- "At least I can be myself". I think that you should be yourself in the present situation, and you will find you will either stay in the relationship of you won't. What you do then won't be the effect or the other person. What people say is : I must leave the relationship to be free. I have to leave to have fun, to be healthy. Whether your relationship is nurturing to you? Are you alive or are you dying? Are you physically well or ill? Do you want to be there or not? Are you afraid of your partner?