What is it about beautiful women that drives me so insane? Heidi Klum is simply amazing. Christy Turlington…perfection. And all the rest, just unbelievable. When I look at these women I begin to feel aggression and feel like cussing–”God damn she is gorgeous!” Of course this is all evolution and the physical and chemical structure of my mind. But in spite of this knowledge, I am amazed at what I feel when I see a very good looking woman. All you guys out there can relate, I am sure. I feel the adrenaline rush every time I see such a site. My fists clench and my mind is running through a self-referential loop. It is like the site of a beautiful woman bypasses my thoughts completely and my brain processes what I see directly into physical reaction. I feel myself wanting to launch into a lesson to women about the way men think, right now, but I am going to resist.
There are two types of beautiful women: the woman you see and immediately want to fuck, and the woman that you see and want to love. In either case, similar emotions, I guess you could call them, run through my body. There are women out there that have figures that fit very specifically into the image of the woman that is so sexually desirable that the idea of love would always be overridden. These females are doomed to be taken for granted as thinking, respectable people. It goes without saying that there are exceptions. A man that happens to bag such a sexual find might very well fall in love with her, but there will be a vastly more powerful urge to copulate than spend ‘quality’ time. Again, I feel the urge to launch into the lesson to women. I’ll touch on one idea: it is wrong to assume that because men have such a one-track mind when it comes to sex that he has no boundaries, self control, or respect for women. Assuming that implies a disrespect for men. But this man who gets to bang such a powerfully attractive creature will grow used to his situation, as do all people in aging relationships, and this whole dynamic will fade. Now the woman that I see and immediately want to love is something special. She is so beautiful that the same physical response occurs, except, the thoughts that flash inside the mind are not of bending her over. She is the girl that you want to hug and have as a companion. She is the girl that you could look over at at any time and feel like the luckiest man on Earth. She could be asleep with her stinky morning breath and hair in a mess, and you would still be thinking how lucky you are. She is the girl that can look at you for the smallest fraction of a second and you will feel special. Of course this girl is not exempt from the sexual objectification of the male mind. Men want sex. That is as simple as it gets. But all humans are beings of emotions and thoughts. Man oh man I want to meet that gorgeous loveable woman. Thinking like that does not mean that the ‘average’ girl does not stand a chance. It is the average girl that is more likely to fit the bill. It is the girl that slips ‘under the radar’ that I am looking for. The good looking girl that has not been corrupted by the attention good looking girls get too much of. The attention is what leads girls away from independence, education, equality. Anyway, I’ve lost the direction of this entry and the motivation to continue.
There's a fine line between feeling insecure - and feeling challenged! MEN ARE HUNTERS and a smart woman knows this! Your smile and F-factor (fuckability - the overall physical package) will draw him in. Your warmth, confidence, smarts and happiness about life in general will keep him there. Alot of women are focused more on the physical aspect and less on being the interesting, sensual, engaging person that real men are looking for! 'looks are skin deep,' and to that I say, AGREED! Smart men know this and once attracted, they get by the looks pretty quickly - and want to know more. Smart women know this too -- they know their looks ARE their calling card - JUST this. Women come in all shapes and sizes, thank God, because so do men! 'Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder' . . . and there's lots of folks, both men and women, doing the beholding!
There's no guy who decides to be with a woman who he doesn't find sexually attractive but has a wonderful personality. Men only pick women they'd like to have sex with.Woman know the only reason most men act so nice is because they have no other way of making them interested in you. And the reason most men act so mean is because they're trying to hide that they want and/or you think you can make us underestimate our own worth. None of your bullshit will work on a woman with experience with men, and beautiful women see it all.
Women have been exploited sence time has begun. The main problem is that their are women out there whom line up to be exploited. The money is good, and alot of women just show off their body. Then there are those who get paid to perform in Adult XXX movies. Women hold a certain power over men, and being a man, I have curiosity's as well. But im not out looking for a cheap thrill. As long as there is a man or woman looking at these photo's, or movies; then there will always be someone performing, or showing it off.We as a society are shallow minded, and just generally looking to be happy, and satisfied
I know its hard to accept, but it's human nature to look at other asthetically pleasing humans. I check out hot women all the time and if a straight guy ogles her, he's probably thinking, "Wow, she is so smokin hot, I wonder if she'd have sex with me?" - THIS is an observations are based on looks ONLY, and exist within a vacuum where reality, responsibilities, and current relationships hold no influence... it's like a theory: 'would she sleep with me if both of us were single.'
But men are not two dimensional... their attraction to women is just as complex What gets him going isn't just a tight ass or perfect proportions, it might be the cute way you laugh, the way you smell in the morning, the way you kiss, the cute way your butt shimmies when you walk, or a hundred other things that have to come together to really turn his crank. You have them, she doesn't.
Most women have a "dream guy" - he has a look and a set of behaviors that she would LOVE to meet, but as they get older we realize that's just fantasy. He probably picks at his toes before bed and eats too many onions to REALLY be their dream guy. Plus, his laugh is annoying and he's far too obsessed with his hair. You get the picture.
I dont think many people realize that this beauty thing they keep chasing is only temporary. As soon as you think you've found the finest thing around, someone finer will come along and make you rethink your whole situation. Beauty can be easily compromised. When the poop hits the fan, a person wants to know if their partner will ride storms out with them or if they'll bail. A person wants to know that if they become less glamorous, their partner will love them and not leave them for the next peice of eye candy. People who place SOOO MUCH value on having a trophy wife/husband, usually are very clueless and havent been through enough to know whats important because they think that when bills need to be paid and children need to be fed, that good looks are going to help. They wont (not unless she sells herself somehow.)
Heres the big difference between female shallowness and male shallowness. Men get blamed for being “visual” or “shallow” but in reality women, WOMAN are much more shallow. Let me explain. Women are the choosers AND rejectors. They are the selective ones. Men aren’t. Men have an infinite number of sperm. Women a finite number of eggs. By nature, women are much more selective. That is why it matters what a man does for a living. How much money he makes. How much power he has etc etc. But women are also JUST as visual as men.
But here is the difference. Men mostly look at women’s bodies. Biologically speaking. It’s almost subconscious. Scientists say it’s the hip to waist ratio that signals fertility. A high hip to waist ratio can be found in women of ALL shapes and sizes and why men are attracted to MOST women. Most women have this sexual power over men. Even average or ugly women can have this power. All that is needed is a shapely figure with the appropriate hip to waist ratio. Or large boobs. It takes VERY LITTLE to get a man excited visually. So yeah…you could say men are shallow. I know alot of women like to say that. But in reality men are much more forgiving of women since they find MOST women sexual beings and will go ga ga over them.
So even an average or ugly woman can work out her body if she is overweight and become a sexual being.
I know women don’t like to be “objectified”, but the reality is that they don’t want to be so by ugly or average men.
Women on the other hand only look at men with handsome faces as “HOT” or “SEXY” for the most part. Sure money and power can blur that a bit, but in todays age of equality and the media….women want it all. Looks AND Money/Power.
An average or ugly guy(unlike an average or ugly woman) can hit the gym all he wants to no avail. He can sculpt his body into a Greek Statue and he will NEVER be considered “HOT” by the masses of women. For women it’s all about a man’s face.
When groups of women get around and talk about a “HOT” guy…it’s ALWAYS referring to his face.
Unlike a body, a face can’t be changed. So men have it FAR FAR worse than women, and are basically less shallow and more inclusive in what they find attractive. Like I said, MOST women no matter what their face looks like can be SEXY to a WIDE group of men. It doesn’t work the other way around.
All those ugly and average guys hitting the gym should just give up.
The flip side is that many women mistakenly think men want supermodels. So they plaster on the make up and buy the latest fashions….when in reality, men don’t give a shit about all that. It is such a myth. Men find women sexy PERIOD. Not because of what they wear or the make up they use to cover their faces.
The truth is that women do all that to compete with OTHER women. The fashion industry feeds off this competition and is dominated by gay men who WISH they were women.
Real men find women sexy because of their natural femininity.
So men have it much worse in my opinion. Where most women can be sexy and have sexual power over men….very few men enjoy this same kind of animal magnetism. A man has to have a chiseled handsome or symmetrical face to pull off that kind of power. You’ve all seen it before. A guy with a great body but ugly face can walk into a room and get ZERO attention or reaction from the ladies. But have a guy with an extremely handsome face walk into the same room with an ok body…and the women will practically fall all over themselves trying to flirt with him.
Yet if a woman with an average or even ugly face walked into a room but had a fly body or just big boobs….men would fall all over themselves to get to her.
It’s easy to change a body. Very hard to change a face. So most average men and all ugly men suffer in frustration while their average or ugly counter parts enjoy the joys of sex and attraction.
The great equalizer is AGE. 40 may be the new 30 now for women. And women can be sexy much longer. But eventually ALL women will “hit the wall” so to speak and lose that power they once enjoyed over men. Plastic surgery can only go so far, most men prefer the natural beauty. They don’t want overly made up women. And women who make the mistake of trying to stop time with plastic surgery run the danger of entering “freakville” if they are not careful. Excercise and proper diet go much farther in staving off the effects of time than do numerous face lifts and botox that only turn women into walking freakshows. Don’t do it ladies. There comes a time to let it go and grow old gracefully.
Women who never develop a personality and only relied on their looks growing up can turn into real angry bitter people. A little humility goes a long way too. I’ve seen many a HOT women snag the HOT guy only to be left for a younger HOTTER trophy down the road. Life can be very lonely when you only see beauty as skin deep. Shallowness is all well and good when you’re young, because like every generation, you think you’re gonna live forever. But time spares no one. And eventually the “power” you once enjoyed in your youth will be gone. When the music stops, will you have a chair to sit in?
That is why I find women who enjoy their femininity but aren’t attached to their looks or the looks of men the most attractive. Women who aren’t afraid to walk around without makeup(I have ALWAYS found the women I’ve dated MOST sexy when they first wake up in the morning).
I guess I’ve gone off on a tangent. I guess we can all be shallow. But I felt compelled to point out that men aren’t as bad as women say. Yeah we’re visual creatures….but I think we include a MUCH wider variety of what we think is sexy than women do. To us, MOST women are sexy for just being women. Men really get a bad rap. But women are MUCH more selective and throw out a much smaller net when it comes to what they find SEXY.
Like I said, the average or ugly dude will NEVER enjoy the same kind of sexual power that an average or ugly woman does. An ugly or average dudes best hope to even come close to that is to be in a Rock Band or to be Rich. But even then…it’s not really the same.
I think most men would LOVE to be objectified by women. Oggled over and lusted after. Women say they hate this…but really it’s that they don’t want to be lusted over by average or ugly guys.
Of course I’m talking generally here and only about look. But real love is much deeper and less superficial. ALL beauty fades. It’s nice to enjoy youth and beauty while you have it, but cultivating a more well rounded and deeper sense of love is key to true happiness.
Women are actually more shallow than men. Most guys just want someone decent looking, someone that will go to the local sports bar w/ them and eat hot wings like one of the guys from time time. A good looking woman however wants it all, money, looks, social status, a comedian personality, the list is endless. What American women expect from a man now is incredible. Being a good looking man that could be a loving partner forever isn’t enough anymore for American woman. I blame television/movies partially. This all ends up hurting the women in the end though…as many women are actually very unhappy deep down inside even though they may be driving around in some fancy sports car that their rich fiance bought them. Ladies, good looking or not, if you can find a guy thats in shape, decent looking, faithful and loving to you, earns some money, your lucky enough right there.
There are alot of women out there who fabricate this idea of their "perfect" man in their minds, and since they have set that ideal so high, no man will ever meet up with that standard. Their ideal might be one of a man driving a certain car, making over 6 figures a year, treat them like a queen, looking like Denzel Washington or Shemar Moore, and possibly of a specific religious faith. And the man who might be right for them might meet those standards might meet them all, but instead of looking like Denzel, they look like Tito Jackson. Or they may only make 5 figures a year & push a Grand Am instead of a Benz & 6 figures. Or they may be wrapped up with baggage from a previous relationship, and project the faults of the previous guy onto every prospective man they come across. Ladies should learn to set alot of that "ideal perfect" BS aside, and judge each man specifically for what he is and does. You never know what you may find when you open your eyes to everyone in it.
THIS IS WHAT A WOMAN WROTE IN ONE OF COMMENT IN THE BLOG:
The ugly and average guys should NOT want or chase the hot girl, because there isn't enough hot girls, so why should they try?
For example: Why should a retail clerk expect to date the CEO of a company? They aren't similiar....
Should the average guy cry his whole entire life because he doesn't own a million dollar house? Should he just give up and then be homeless?
Why not get an average house and enjoy life????
This is about people having UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
Get over yourself ! The tv and movie industry, porn and sex magazines have sole you a lie. The lie is that there is an unending supply of hot girls that are just waiting for you to trick them into letting you bang them. OPEN YOUR EYES, that's not the way life is.
Select someone like yourself! People have been doing it for years, that's how you were brought into this world.
So, in a nutshell, don't worry about the theorizing... just concentrate on reality.
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