LOVE: WHY SO MANY WOMAN INTIMIDATE MEN

Each of us makes a statement with the way we present ourselves, conduct ourselves and interact with others. I seek a woman who has a nurturing style. Its the way a woman makes me feel that ultimately determines the longevity and quality of my relationship. I am not going to waste my time pursuing a woman when all appearance signal "proceed with caution". The first thing that goes through a man nice when they meet a woman is what kind of sexual partner she would be. Stop thinking of sex as luxury and put it hight on your priority list. Being sexually satified and feeling wanted by your partner are legitmate and healthy part of a relationship. You never get what you want in this life unless you believe that you deserve it

The truth is that powerful, successful woman can be terrifying to man. Men like to be hero, the rescuer, the knight in shining armor. Men like to feel needed, and in fact indispensable, because they believe this puts them in a positions of control and security. If he looks at you and see that you have a solid job, financial security, and a great social life, he wonders what he has to offer you. When he can't come up with a good enough answer, the intimidation factor sets in—he fears that you won't want him. So many woman give off the message that a man is merely a convience for their pleasure often find their men going off to be with woman who actually have some needs. It is not so much that a man doesn't like strong woman---because men love independent, smart woman, but when a woman's strenght trumps his whole reason for being, he would rather find someone who really need him. They need to feel as though they are vitally involved..have something to offer and are in a position of power in the relationship. That doesn't mean that they have to be the boss or that you have to be helpless. But you have to let a man konw he as something vital to offer.

They may look at you and say, "Why would she be interested in me? She's got education, money, social connections, What do I have to offer? If they think the answer is nothing...some otherwise good-quality guys might be intimidated. And you might think."Hey, that's his problem. If he is that weak, then I don't want him anyway. I am who I am and I'm not going to dumb it down to make him feel good..but I have to tell you...everyone likes to be wanted, and he might just be worth going to the trouble to poing out that even thought many parts of your life are working really well, this doesn't mean that you don't have unmet wants and needs just like everyone else.

A competent, self-reliant woman you need to be able to show men that having your act together doesn't mean you don't need them.

If you know what a man need and you give it to him, his experience of you will be of a high quality. He will be drawn to you, he will seek you out and he will soak up the validation that you have to offer. The more he falls in love with you, the greater power you have to validate him and the more he will value you for his balance in the world. Men need to konw that you find them attractive and are proud to be seenwith them. Every man need to feel a sense of acceptance and a strong sense of belonging to someone. If you provide that for him, if you become his "soft place to fall" you will become a vital part of his life and his future. Men need to feel sexual powerful. They need to feel virile and attractive.

Again..once you identified your man's needs, and make the value judgment that those needs are healthy, it is time to make a very focused "to do" list. Once his need are identified, and you make them priority, you are going to be building power regarding your ablility to bond with this man and solidify a committed relationship.

You have to neogotiate the spirit of giving. You need to find out what your partner want and focus on these things just as much as you focus on what you want. You have to ask: "How can I get the other person the most of what he or she wants?" You have to decide whether those things that you can and will bring to your relationship. You have to smooth their fears. You have to ask...All right, I want this person, but what's it going to cost me? What do I have to give up? What am i going to have to give up to get what I want?