JOURNAL: LEARNING NOT TO GET ANGER

I had a fight this weekend with my sister over stupid stuff. I sometimes react to circumstance in my life. I know some people are always irritated by everything, It seems as though no one can say anything around them without them getting irritated. They don't know how to be in the world. Research showed that the more often you get angry, the more often you are likely to get angry. The more you react with irritation, the more you are clearing the neural pathways. Most people who are anger are conditioned thought that whole world is idiotic and wrong and they must make it right.

Understand that a person in anger, whether it is you or somebody else, is in a form of suffering. If you are the one who getting angry at another person's behavior, you are the one who has the problem, not them. They are just fine, living life in the best way they know how.

Trust me...people are indifferent s the weather to what you want. So their actions, for your own peace of mind, should be treated as impersonally as the weather. You wouldn't expect the weather to act in a different matter than it does..would you? We want to change the other person. We develop expectations of the way they should act. We learn how to say...you make me feel....instead...of more accurate...I feel.... They make us mad we might say...but no you make yourself mad. There is one thing that can reduce irritations, anger in relationship. ...it is to reduce your expectation of how your partner should act. They are going to be who they are. That is why you are with them in the first place.