LOVE/ DATING: SOMETIMES IT EASY TO SHUT DOWN

After a few bad relationships, it's so easy to shut down, give up, and stop believing that the right person is out there for us. But I can't stop my hearts form yearn to fall in love, but my minds insist it's not possible, and I enter into a tug-of-war with myself. It's as if one part of me is screaming, Yes! I deserve a great relationship! while another part insists, I'll never find her. When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience an inner conflict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognizing the possibilities for love that exist all around us.

Every girl is beautiful. It just takes the right guy to see it.We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime. It’s easy. The last woman I love will be someone I haven’t even met yet, probably.But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life, and you’ll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years. But there’s still one more tier to all of this; there is always that one person you love who becomes that definition...it happen to me during my residency as a doctor. It usually happens retrospectively, but it happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about someone else.

So what is it which makes a man and a woman know that they, of all other men and women in the world, belong to each other? Is it no more than chance and meeting? no more than being alive together in the world at the same time? Is it only a curve of the throat, a line of the chin, the way the eyes are set, a way of speaking? Or is it something deeper and stranger, something beyond meeting, something beyond chance and fortune? Are there others, in other times of the world, whom we should have loved, who would have loved us? Is there, perhaps, one soul among all others--among all who have lived, the endless generations, from world's end to world's end--who must love us or die? And whom we must love, in turn--whom we must seek all our lives long--headlong and homesick--until the end?

The universal Law of Attraction states that we draw to us those people, events, and circumstances that match our inner state of being. In other words, we attract experiences that are consistent with our beliefs. If we believe that there is plenty of love in the world and we are worthy of giving and receiving that love, we will attract a different quality of relationships than someone who believes in scarcity or feels unworthy of happiness. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful, and fearful place, then eventually that will become our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soulmate is out there is a critical first step.

All souls exchange energy with one another. You have your special, unique energies that you’re exchanging in many areas of life –romantically, professionally and socially..just like I do. What I am doing right now is is sending out my energy to the universe through my word..hoping that it will attract similar energy. Most people aren’t conscious of what they’re actually bringing to others, So what happens when two people interact is an exchange of two energy.

People who are unselfish in their desire to love others usually find people of like mind and become soul mates together. It's all about their energy that they sent out to the universe. This is a process, however, so there are no guarantees. One person may think the other is a soul mate, but unless the two of them agree to build that sort of bond, it won't evolve. People who say they can't find a soul mate usually have unreasonable expectations that no one can meet. I'm not suggesting that anyone should lower their standards and settle, but to find a real soul mate, you have to look for a real person, someone who has warts and makes mistakes as we all do.

So, often when you have a strong connection like that with someone, whether it’s short-lived or long-lasting, you have to ask...Is that person a soul mate?The important question to ask is, do you and this person have a lot of energy to exchange with one another on a long-term basis in a way that serves you both? Recognizing a soul mate by the supreme level of comfort and security we feel with that person doesn't mean that there aren't issues that remain to be ironed out. Rather, it means we know intuitively that we can resolve issues with our soul mate without losing respect. I think a soulmate is... a person who makes you be the most you, you can possibly be. A soul mate is... the person... who forces your soul to grow the most. Not all growth feels good.Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.

We make ‘appointments’ and agreements with certain souls and I want to make an appointment with yours..I think the reason why we make those soul-level agreements to meet up is because we want to exchange energy and teach each other a little something through our interaction. Our soul…tries to direct us to individuals who share our purpose in life, complement our strengths, and supplement our weaknesses. But there is no guarantee that these ideal mates are going to look the way we expect, or be of our own background. Our soulmates seldom appeal to our personality—our ego. That’s why they are called soulmates rather than egomates. A soul mate is…someone whose way of viewing life is not necessarily the same as yours but complements yours, so that there is not a compromise, there is a complement. For every person, there are thousands of soul mates who can be found all over the world, and each of those people has thousands of soul mates too. Everyone you meet is a potential soul mate. Anyone who is LIVING could be a soul mate for anyone else. People create soul mates..I think... It's not just your destiny - it's also your choice. When two people love each other and work to build a lasting, fulfilling partnership, they can become soul mates. And yes, people always find each other, if that's what they want to do. To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.

When love isn’t in our lives, it’s on the way. If you know that a special guest is coming at five o’clock, do you spend the day messing up the home? Of course not. You prepare. And that is what we should do for love.The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we're afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we'll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy. Everyday we encounter lots of people. We walk by them. We sit next to them, but that doesn't necessarily mean we make eye contact or talk to them. Loneliness is part of the human condition, but we are eager to communicate and better understand our surroundings. What happens when you see someone that makes you want to make eye contact? Striking up a conversation with a complete stranger actually takes guts and courage, it's not as easy as you may think. Most of the time...i don't have the courage to go up to someone and that is because of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of the unknown.

What if it's your only chance? Do you seize the moment? Or do you let it escape you forever? Chance is that moment when two or more events occur at one time, but if that moment is not seized, that moment becomes nothing. We need those something moments, because those moments can change your life. That single moment can become something permanent. This is what both characters are trying to figure out in their own lives. And this is also something I'm trying to incorporate into my own life. If there's something you want, you should go for it. This is the life philosophy that I want to live by.

What do you think my chances might be of making the dream I wrote about come true. One click of the mouse could change your life and mine forever. Think about this for a moment…one choice, just one, can change your life forever. Simply put, your life today is what your choices have made it, but with new choices, you can change directions this very moment. For me, that idea alone is highly motivational because it offers tremendous hope, regardless of circumstances, for a better tomorrow. There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts. My life has taught me that life presents opportunities at the strangest times and in the strangest places. Often times when you least expect it. Open your mind to them. You never know what you might miss out on if you don't.

Shyness tells a story of fear and courage. Fear is what stands between you and me and courage is what we both need to make our dream become a reality. A story about two people who meet is quite ordinary, but a story about us has the potential to be extraordinary. The story is set in the magical, romantic internet. Any place can be magical, because we make our experiences and memories. During this chance meeting meeting right now..through my words....are, the two characters who find themselves in the same place at the same time and they share an open dialogue about things that matter and things that don't matter.
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