PUSSY: POWER OF THE PUSSY

THE POWER OF THE PY....IT IS AMAZING

Okay so that's a title that needs to be talked about. After all PUSSY rules the world right? I mean why does any man truly want power and wealth, because it gets him the PUSSY in the "prettiest" package. PUSSY has brought down many a empire, turned brother against brother.Just the sweet scent of it is enough to bring a grown man to his knees. Brings him to his knees so he can taste it devour it. Eventually a man wants to own it, to harness the power of the PUSSY. In your humbliest opinion what dictates a pretty pussy? Does the mere sight of wet pussy make you wanna lick it? ..like the picture above?

If you could use (1) word to describe the fragrance of pussy..what would it be?

When easing into the pussy do you prefer it?
A) Mildly Moist
B) Warm N' Wet
C) Slip Slidin' Soppy
D) Other

Pussy, nappy dugout, birth canal, sugar walls, pum pum, cho cha, cootie cat, kat, coochi, coochieball, cunt, unda yanda, the black hole, vagina.

All the names deemed to recognized a woman's love nest. Men have killed for it, been killed for it, gone to prison for life over it (even some women) and would do it all again for the pursuit of it.

It's very nature has destroyed and built kingdoms, started wars and changed history.

It's stinky sweet juice can make a grown man's mouth get slick and wet like a country road on a stormy night.

In it's understood but never short of miraculous way it has brought forth the lives of Malcolm X, Hitler, Sojourner Truth, Michael Jackson, Budda, Mother Teresa, even Christ Himself. You would think that God, in His infinite wisdom would have chosen any path to bring the Savior into the world, but yet He chose a WOMAN's birth canal. A virgin. Bringing the pussy to an even more miraculous level. Mary didn't even need a man to bring forth a child.

It's used as a bargaining tool. It can make or break a deal. It can calm a man down. Quiet his hunger, make him forget his pain, heal his heart, doubt his manhood, surpass his ability to reason, not trust the truth, tame a murderous hate, bring a quickening down to the soul of a man, make his toes curl, his body buck and his eyes roll. The pussy can make him scream out your name even when he's not speaking to you. Hell, some pussy is strong enough to make a man scream out the wrong name on the mere memory of it all.

That snapping turtle can make you forget who you are married to, forget where you live. Some good pussy can make you care for another man's children with no questions asked. You'll kick down doors, drive past a house every night to make sure your pussy is safe. It will make you turn your whole check over. Make a man pay all your bills when he knows he ain't got no money! It can get him to drink all his liquor and drown in all his tears. Pussy can make you cry out to God and make you bargain with the devil. Its healing waters can turn a gay man straight. Revive a man back from a coma.

Truly, pussy can make a grown man cry.

I ask you, do you know your power, your pussy, your control? Do you know if you use it wisely you wouldn't have to use it at all to all the woman reading this blogIt doesn't have to be sacrificed to a man simply because it's familiar. Pussy is not your first option but your last to get what you want from a man. Pussy is the most passive aggressive weapon ever created. Just ask Adam. Since the beginning of time men have been paying for the scent, the heat, the heaven, the hell, the glory, the war, the pain and the joy of pussy. Guard yours like it's the last one! I am sure you have my female reader that you made grown men cry and cried for the sweetness that your PUSSY longed for. Why is PUSSY such a dirty word? Why is it so harsh to so many ears? It's beautiful bountiful! It's hidden treasures in its folds. Men seek those folds like true treasure. PUSSY!I like to call the pussy ....the PY




 If there truly is a God, I know he didn't bring Eve to Adam because Adam was lonely. In my opinion , it was God who was bored and said out loud to himself, "OK, I know this man's heart and I know what his desires are. Fuck, why did I make him so boring? All he cares about is food, masturbating, and naming animals. I know exactly what to do- I'll bring a similar looking human into this world, who is overly complicated, wishy washy, emotional, and is never satisfied. Also I'm tired of seeing this Adam guy stroking himself. I'll make sure this other human looking thing will have a soft, warm, wet hole that will not only bring him to his knees and make him addicted to the very first addiction known to my creation. Now this will be entertainment for me, the almighty. Also, this soft, warm, wet hole will populate this very blue planet that only took "7" days to create."

So, he took the rib of Adam, rubbed some dirt together, and long behold, the yin to the yang was created for Adam to enjoy. And God obviously named her Eve. God then told Adam, "Make sure you stick it in the right hole, because if you don't, I'll send you to hell and outcast you as a homosexual, and just for your INFORMATION- I won't put up with that shit. Put your thingy in the right hole and just make me more of you two and populate this blue planet. By the way, it's the hole that once aroused, becomes lubricated, Adam. Got that? Not the exit hole you have as well."

Adam smiles from ear to ear, "Yes, my father." and gives him a high-five.

Little did Adam know that what he thought was going to be his little boredom killer, baby making machine would soon commit the first sin known to man with the help of a very sly serpent and one good looking, delicious apple. The devious, genius serpent passed an offer to Eve in the Garden. The serpent said a simple statement that still rings true today: "Beauty and a vagina can be power, Eve. That miracle of the hole between your legs is actually bigger than any miracle that God has actually created and will ever create from this point on. Fuck Adam. Eat this apple and if you do you'll know your true calling: To give you the realization that the wondrous hole and your beauty will be your power and it will be passed on to your future female offspring. That very power given to you will and can bring hell to earth and to make these stupid, one track minded so called "men" become pussy whupped with just a little perfume and something I call, flirting. Flirting will cause lust- You know the big guy does not like the thought of lust. You my dear, can cause wars, get away with murder all in the name of beauty. Hell, I can even allow the very skin you have make you a fortune and desired with no effort, whatsoever. I know it's just you and Adam right now, but this power will be put forth in your heart, so like I've said before, this power will be passed down the line of the girls you two will have in order to populate this planet. So if you believe what I'm saying, eat this apple, and the power will be yours. At least in a place called America, Eve. I know you don't know anything of America, but one day, your offspring counterparts will. It will eventually be my favorite place, second being Bangkok. I will make sure almost anything goes and I will have my hands in everything, especially the churches. Nevertheless, back to the offer, Eve-So what do you say?"

Eve looks at the serpent sharply, eyes squinting, "What will happen to Adam?"

"Adam is a man. A dumb, single track minded man. I will have him wrapped around my finger with the help of you. It starts with you. I will not harm him. Nor will I harm the male offspring. I will give them free will."

"What is free will?"

"A term that will confuse the hell out of your species. A term that basically allows you to make your own decisions. A term that is either a blessing or a curse. It's up to you. In order to give you that- you have to agree to my offer. Remember, you and your daughter's and your daughter's daughters and so forth will have absolute power in certain places on this blue planet. Eventually, maybe in all places one day. You may not see that day, but what glory would it be for your offspring to have such power, huh?" The serpent, with his deceiving, tremendous lie of a game plan notices the deceit starting to work. He feels her giving in, he sees it in her eye's. He knows she can't refuse.

So, of course, she eats the fucking apple! Goddamn it, Eve. Of course, having a perfect man from God just isn't enough. Of course it isn't-you are a woman. It's never good enough, right? On top of that she blamed it on Adam and said, "you just wanted to use me. You didn't love me." The serpent made me feel appreciated and wanted. So I ate it."

So the offspring was given the power promised by the serpent. That very day will forever live in infamy.

Many, many years later, the story of Cinderella was created- and you know damn well, this very serpent we now call the boogie-man, I mean the devil, jumped on that shit and used that supposedly innocent story to wreck havoc in the lives of men. See, the devil is a man, too, right? So he doesn't want to see "men" have peace with women. He wants to cock block and have the fun and glory to himself. Fucking douchebag. Well what the devil decides to do is to put in the minds of most women, is that they too, can be Cinderella. They can have a big, humongous ceremony called a wedding aka death sentence and spend exuberant amounts of money on. The glass shoe will be the fucking wedding ring that will cause you to go into debt. Remember Jesus doesn't like debt, but the devil does. So, he had to fool us into thinking that weddings are "of God." Fuck that, they're his fucking idea!

See, at the end of Cinderella, all we know is that they live happily ever after, right? Well just look at most married couples around you. They're happily ever after is giving up, blowing up, being pathetic posing as success with an invisible gun to your head, shopping at Walmart, having things called kids(an investment with no fucking return), and having zero life in their eye's, whatsoever. Again, the devils fucking slick ass trick, I tell ya!



POWER OF THE PUSSY PART II
 Pussy is the most important thing in the universe. It is the giver of life. None of us would be here if it wasn't for Pussy. One of the best kept secrets man has held close to his heart is the neverending POWER of the pussy. The greatest trick man ever created was hoodwinking & bamboozling women into believe that they don't possess the greatest power on earth right between their legs.

This is one of the biggest issues in our lives. A man with many partners is viewed as a "player" or "ladies man" both terms with semi-positive connotations in our society. A woman who is equally as friendly with the opposite sex is considered a "skeezer," "ho," or a "hoodrat." My view on the reasoning for this is the fact that it is much easier for a woman to find a sexual partner than a man. If a man wants to go out and have a one night stand he can try & put his best foot forward. If a woman wants to have a one night stand all she needs to decide is who, when, and where. Since men have to try so hard, this makes the art of attracting sex a game or test for males. Men who are more successful than others feel like winners in this game while men who are continually unsuccessful feel less confident in themselves. This dynamic makes men who easily attract women icon's and glorifies the existence of this "Alpha-Male" personality, strengthening the stereotype..

Pussy of pleasure makes the world go around.
Pussy of pleasure makes the world seem at peace.
Pussy of pleasure brings pleasure to all adult kind.

Pussy of pleasure is the ultimate emotion.
Pussy of pleasure is the ultimate lust.
Pussy of pleasure is the ultimate need.
Pussy of pleasure is the ultimate pleasure tool.
Pussy of pleasure will make all those who feel the pleasure, become a pleasure victim.

Pussy of pleasure is deep.
Pussy of pleasure is hairy.
Pussy of pleasure is wet.

Pussy of pleasure can cum.
Pussy of pleasure is a symbol of strength.
Pussy of pleasure is a symbol of life.



Guys love the pussy (Excuse my language to all the fine ladies out there)! They work hard and go beyond for it. I dont have a problem with this, hey I love the pussy too but only from a Pretty Source. Pussy is great but Pussy can change guys especially in relationships! It's like guys love pussy so much that they do anything for their girlfriends. The guys are not themselves and become what the girlfriends wants them to be. The main thing that makes guy give in is not the girl's feelings but the pussy, i mean if the girl doesnt get what she wants - You think she's going to put out? So a guy has to change a part of his character for the Pussy. Sadness! I'm no different, I fell victim to this but damn the pussy was unbelivable, a one of a kind!! ( THAT WAS A LONG TIME AGO...life and learn) Pussy makes you lose sight of what is rational, its like I told my good friend the other day that he's whipped and he's changed with his new girlfriend. Freud wanted a pussy, he wanted to experience sexuality in all its forms... but he couldn't. Nobody can, Sexuality, or the lack thereof, is what gives us the capacity to be monsters or angels, demons or saints


There are many disadvantages to being a woman in this culture. Historically they have had to fight for their rights to be respected and cherished by the men who rule the world around them. Still today they make less on the dollar than males. They face discrimination and often lack the full respect they deserve in this society. Tradition, religion, and just plain ole ignorance have slowed the progress of the woman's ability to fully shine and blossom in all the ways she can. When she's ultra feminine she can be mistaken for soft thus downplaying her true inner strength. When she speaks her mind she's considered a bitch or a barracuda. If she's really about her business some call her a dike. But God gave the woman the ultimate weapon to assure that she will be listened to and heard at some point in this game of life. And when mastered properly, it's a tool fitting to be called God's Great Equalizer. And what is this great equalizer? Behold the Power of the Pussy!

Now before your proverbial panties (pun intended for both male and females) get into a bunch – check out the facts and observe the status. When we observe the pervasive cultures worldwide, men do rule the world. They have founded cities, started nations, ruled kingdoms and conquered civilizations. They have created inventions that have changed the world many times. They have created organizations and established even the name of the street you live on.

And now what is there to all of man's great innovations and accomplishments? It's vanity and all for nothing unless he has with him the experience that rivals no other. For man wants to – needs to – have the right woman to share his dreams – to help him manifest his visions – and to find that place of comfort that nothing else can give on the planet. No amount of money, no amount of power, can give the man a feeling that he has in the comfort of the pussy that embraces him like he is the king of the world.

Ice-T put it this way….

Power – its starts with P like Pussy
She knows she's got it
She doesn't worry does she?
Spending your cash – leaving you in the trash
While your little head's thinking – they're gone in a dash
They got it – know it – that's why they show it
The power sex – if man could overthrow it he'd be king in a day
No way – we get rich, hard, give it away. Ice T - Power

Now – when I say pussy. I am not talking about merely sex. I am talking about the femininity of a woman - The softness of her voice and the touch of her hands – Because of the pussy she has the ability to approve or disapprove whatever the man is working on. And let me tell you – when your pussy is happy – the whole house is happy. When it's not – let's just say there is no good nights sleep. A man can accomplish great things. And his boys and comrades can applaud with great approval. But if his woman, the one that has the pussy does not approve… it may as well be dead. The right woman has the ability to make a man believe in himself. Her influence can make him a king or a pauper. That is the power of the pussy. You see it's not just a physical thing. It's totally spiritual as well. When a man enters a woman – and he respects the place that she allows him to dwell – he's lost in the realm of fantasy that is his greatest reality. Remember he was born from a pussy. And like Dorothy he wants to go back to where he came from. Instead of coming out of one he wants to enter one. The roles are different. And instead of the pains of birth he gives her (his new momma) the pleasure of the rod. And he does so at great pleasure until he releases himself totally into the places that are so private and intimate that it bonds him to her soul. After that there is nothing left to give. And when she comforts him, lets him know that he is approved and that everything is alright – you could kill him and he would die with a smile on his face.

Check the math and the history – even biblically. David had a man killed to get the one that satisfied him the most. Sampson gave up the source of his strength to a woman he knew was trying to get him killed. And yet what was it about Delilah that caused him to tell her how he could be defeated anyway. It wasn't merely the physical pussy – it was the mental and spiritual pussy. She understood him – studied him – mastered him. See if you relegate the pussy to mere physical characteristics you'll miss the boat. The pussy is the all encompassing aura of a woman, her total womanhood and her ability to communicate to her man as only she can. Once she has him – she's got him. Because only the comfort of her welcoming spirit and body can satisfy his soul.

The worst thing that can happen to a man - is to get caught up in the wrong pussy! Thats a whole nother story!

And so it goes - If he buys a nice car he doesn't really do it for himself. It's for a woman. A nice house is to put the woman in. Someone asked Eleanor Roosevelt what her life would be like had she not married Teddy. She simply said she would still be first lady – because whomever she married would have been the president. In other words – she's saying that her pussy is king making material. And with her influence any man she commits to with will reach his maximum potential. It's automatic.

According to Genesis, God created man in His own image and in His likeness. But ever since, no man can be born except through the womb of a woman. She is the passageway to the earth. And there you have it – God's great equalizer! Man may rule the world. But a woman who understands the power of her pussy – will never lack any good thing.

Some women waste their power by keeping the man's mind embroiled in drama. Nobody is happy unless they are fighting about something. Neither of them going anywhere, but oh the passion. What a waste.

Some woman have the power and the man is crazy about them, but the power is too much for even the woman to handle, so they over power the man and emasculate him. He's beaten before he has a chance to thrive. Shake my head.

The smart woman wields her power masterfully. Using it to, as Beyonce say's, upgrade him. There is nothing that man wouldn't do for that woman's love. She loves him so tough he wants to conquer the world for her. Now that's some good stuff right there.

I am not saying that a woman's value and worth are between her legs. I am in no way challenging the great intellect, ability, or fortitude of the woman and am not comparing it to a man's. I have no male superior complexes to say the least. I am not speaking in terms of the dog who does not respect the woman, nor the woman who does not understand the value of her body and who does not properly discriminate with whom she shares it.

I am speaking in terms of the potential and possibiities of the aura of a woman and giving respect to her influence. I am speaking of when things are done the right way and all parties are respected and valued as they should be.

The way you wield the power in my opinion is just by first understanding and respecting your gifts. To value them first is to allow others to do the same. And then to understand it is as you say a mind thing. Again - the premise it to see the power that a woman has with the right man. You can try to get the Kingdom - or just motivate him to get it for you and then hand it over to you. To me - that's sweet on God's part. Genius! Cause He set it up so that we actually like giving it to you. I mean come ON! LOL!

I've always said that for the most part - if the right woman loves, respects, honors, and values me and my opinions, dreams, and visions... if she understand that I do not want to compete with her but want to partner with her, if she pays enough attention to me to love me beyond my faults, failures and fears, and can push the right buttons in the meantime - if she understands her power of influence with me and yet respects it enough to know it's not a game or a pissing contest - She respects and understands that our abilities are not necessarily the same as our roles - I am telling you that is a helluva start. See a woman can be greater than the man - and still not overshadow him. And she won't overshadow him cause to de-ball him would be to undercut her own blessings. Thats why I say its not about ability. Its about understanding one another and embracing a no ego stance to build greatness!

Is there true power in pussy? Oh, stop the emphatic head shaking; I’m not finished with my question. Ok, and if so, does that power belong to the possessor or the perceiver? In other words, does this all inclusive, albeit elusive power exist with the owner, the woman/women whom this incredible ability is attributed, or the perceiver, the man or men of whom this power allegedly affects?

Perception is in and of itself a powerful force. By perception alone, without the benefit of real, tangible experience, one can imagine “what it is” and “what it will do” before one can actually say for sure. The American Heritage Dictionary cites the definition as:

per•cep•tion (pər-sěp'shən) Pronunciation Key

n.

1. The process, act, or faculty of perceiving.
2. The effect or product of perceiving.
3. Psychology
a. Recognition and interpretation of sensory stimuli based chiefly on memory.
b. The neurological processes by which such recognition and interpretation are effected.
c. Insight, intuition, or knowledge gained by perceiving.
d. The capacity for such insight.

4.
a. Insight, intuition, or knowledge gained by perceiving.
b. The capacity for such insight.

While your brain chews through that verbal artillery, let me drop some more science on an already thought contorting subject: if there is true power in pussy, “pussy” being a nicknamed metaphor for femininity, and, if true power is attributed to "pussy” is it really a one woman, life-changing sword that can often be wielded uncontrollably or a collective power, one that exists essentially in female community? In other words, can a single woman bring a man to his proverbial knees solely on the basis of her “pussy”, (there you go shaking your head again!) entangling him in her feminine wiles or is this alleged power better attributed to the crux of femininity as a whole? I’d say the answer to that is yes, emphatically yes. But, we’re just talking, so let’s just continue to talk about it a little bit more.

Now I can definitely get with the notion that we women wield an unusual power over our sexual counterparts. Honestly, I think the “pussy’s” true power lies primarily in man’s perception of what it is. You know, what it can do for him, how it makes him feel, and let’s not forget how it looks to him and on him. And, allegedly, all this, too, can happen to a man in seconds simply from a look. But see, therein lies what I would say was the true power-the perception- it’s what he thinks it is in his mind. No, you shake your head? Ok, really? Well, let me ask you this. Have you ever either been that man or having been with a man who’s seen a beautiful woman, who by the sheerest of looks renders a wrench in the gut enough for a verbal eruption of, “Mmm, now that’s wifey right there!” Or something akin to locking her down for a lifetime just ‘cause she look good? See, and still my point – it’s perception.

Pussy is indeed powerful. I just wanted to foster a deeper discussion into, what I imagine, will remain one of life’s great mysteries; for both the possessor of such God-given ability, a gift of power to be handled carefully, mindfully, consciously and intentionally. And to the perceiver- he who hungers and thirsts after righteous pussy, after that Eleanor-Roosevelt-“king making material”-Hillary-Clinton president producing pussy-watch out for that-Monica-Lewinsky-fat-


president-impeaching-Sampson-

mighty warrior-Kingdom-killing-pussy-
! I mean, pussy must be powerful ‘cause even God called the nation of Israel a harlot!

Men don't realize anything about life until we reach 50, and our dicks no longer work.

But that’s because the dick is a magical creature. It talks us into any number of things. Men with dicks are not totally human, but then again women don’t fall for humans, they fall for MEN.

A man and his dick can do great things.

Very few men actually want to get married. And no penis ever does. But more often than naught the penis is trapped by a female before the penis can live out its dreams. If the female trap works the wonderful life the penis envisioned for its owner is doomed.*

*The penis not the vagina is the source of all creativity.

The penis and I hardly ever talk. The penis has its own agenda. The penis is hostage to young, hot pussy:

There was a time when you could control the penis and wield its wonderful power. Be thankful. That is more than I will ever know and must be the reason for my use of a masturbatory fantasy life The moral of the story is that wielding a powerful instrument like the penis is addictive and just like your husband you are caught in its trap.

Your husband is addicted to the penis because he loves the idea of slamming strange pussy. You too are addicted to the power of the penis, because you love to control the MAN behind the penis.

You are each addicted to penis power.

Stop worrying about hypothetical adultery. Allow the penis to do what it wants as long as it is hypothetical.*

*It is possible for the man to fool his penis. A rich fantasy life can fool the penis. Sometimes for 30 years. Just long enough for the erect penis to deflate and the destructive/creative properties of testosterone to extinguish.

If we do not fool the penis MEN cannot stay married. The penis wants nothing to do with marriage, kids, car pooling, and recycle trash days.

What I am saying is that the man you are married to is engaging in a bit of diversionary fantasy for his penis, and this is good news for you. You are still married to a MAN. And not just a penis.

Men value their unit as a tool to achieving their primary drive of life. It's a means to an end and since that drive defines us, it is central to our value system and thoughts. Not because we want to model it in a puppet, not because it's a pet, or we actually think with it. A hammer is valuable to a contractor or someone who wants to hang a picture. A penis is valuable to someone who wants to get laid. A pussy is valuable to men and an object of desire because it is the end to which the drive pushes us. We love to gaze at them and admire them in much the same way women do a diamond ring, because it represents her primary drive of enslaving a hapless male to fulfill all of her whims forevermore. If it didn't come with the man and imply his subjugation, it wouldn't be nearly so fascinating. That's why women don't want a ruby engagement ring, but a diamond one, even though by fundamental rarity rubies are more valuable. It is merely the monopoly on diamonds that makes them actually cost more, it's artificial rarity and the resale value shows it. Men could give a shit about a pussy puppet, because you can't sire children with it, and furthermore no man in his right mind would pay $400 for a real one, let alone a simulacrum. women always overvalue their pussy is one of the most salient things I've ever heard a woman say. They all think theirs is the only one in the world, and those of all the other 3 billion women are mere pale imitations of the midas snatch. Puh-leez. They are virtually interchangeable. As men like to say, it's all pink on the inside. So long as it's healthy and attached to an attractive woman we could care less which one we inhabit for the night.


So the last few weeks have seen some major damage done to some very powerful men’s careers all ’cause of the pussy. The Pussy: that mystical place that lies between the legs of half the population that so many men are willing to leave their wives, fight and even kill for. As a possessor of one, I’m still at a lost at how men so willingly throw it all away for a piece of a rather plentiful commodity.

Well, the following men have truly been caught up ’cause of the pussy and my guess is the pain from their poor decision making is really just beginning:
Senator John Ensign

Now this fool was the 4th ranking Republican leader in the Senate and had to resign because it came out that he had a mistress. Not like that’s surprising, he does look like a used car salesman, but this fool was pegged as a future “party leader” and not all that’s in question.
Also, while he (currently) is slated to keep his Senate seat, his former mistress (aka former campaign aide) is PISSED that this came out and has lawyered up. This still has the potential to get real ugly.
Stay Tuned
Pastor Gary Lamb

Sigh.
Pastor Gry Lamb is was the charismatic pastor and founder of Revolution Church in Canton, Georgia. Recently he resigned from his church because he was having an affair with his assistant.
SMH.
It never ceases to amaze me how many “men of God” are so tempted by worldly things, but particularly tempted by fleshly desires. Now obviously Pastor’s aren’t perfect by any means, but you’d think with their calling from God and their commitment to their parsihoners they’d take extra precautions about these type of things.
Personally I don’t understand why a married minister would have a female assistant. You spend more times with your assistants then you do your spouse in most cases. That’s just asking for trouble. How many stories have we heard where the man was having an affair with his secretary, intern, assistant or campaign aide? When are men going to learn that this isn’t the way to go.
As Pastor Shaun King said, “Is getting some booty worth throwing it all away?”
Well, is it?
Govenor Mark Sanford

his mutha-fucka here.
Who the hell flies all the way to Argentina for some Poon after telling his wife that he was hiking on an Appalachian trail?
Like seriously dude? Hiking? You didn’t think after day 2 she might become a little worried?
Not only that…it’s a recession. He should give up his governorship alone for taking money out of the economy. There was plenty of South Carolina Pussy that was available to be his mistress. He should have spent his hoin’ dollars right there in SC to stimulate the economy. Hell, with the 10% unemployment in South Carolina he would have been giving someone a job…talk about selfish and unpatriotic.
Seriously though. I wanna meet the women who has “Make-a-man-fly-to-Argentina-

on-the-taxpayers-dime-and-


tell-my-wife-I’m-going-hiking-

and-expect-folk-to-believe-
that-shit” Pussy.
I really wanna meet her.
Like one comedian said, she had Fisticuffs Pussy, not Make-a-Man-Fuck-Up-His-Life Pussy.
More power to chicky. She needs to give lessons.
Now Governor Sanford should be giving that resignation speech in 5…4…3…

There are two ways that woman seeks to gain power over man. One, is to control him by finances. Second I like to call pussy control:

We've all seen it, girl makes a demand, guy tries to fight it, girl puts the pussy on lock, and then guy finally complies in hope that said girl will open her legs again. Many of you have been through this.

The first step in pussy control is to immediately let her know that she can't use it against you. How do you do this? The VERY FIRST time you come to a disagreement and she tries to put the pussy on lock down, you ignore it. I don't care how long she tries to put it on lock, you need to establish that it has no effect on you whatsoever.

How you start the relationship, is how you end it, and if she realizes that she can control you once with the pussy, she'll use it to her advantage every single fucking time. However, once she realizes that she can't control you with it, she'll stop trying to.

Another little tactic that women will use against you, is try to eliminate every other source of pussy you have. Thus, she monopolizes your source of pussy, as if to say "I'm your only source of pussy. What're you gonna do now?". I'll tell you what you'll do. You never completely leave the game. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be loyal, but you need to always have other options.

Option number one, is to have a few female friends. The instant she tries to eliminate your female friends, you use one of the tactics that females always use on males when you try to eliminate their male friends, "stop acting jealous, it's just a friend, don't you trust me?" and if she says no, you give her the relationships are all about trust speech.

Option two, my favorite, is to always have a female or two on standby. Since I don't do relationships, she can't hold it against me. Now the purpose of the above techniques, is to always have the jealousy advantage. The instant she tries to hold back the pussy, you immediately stop spending as much time with her, and start spending time with your other females, whether they are just your friends or not.

In turn, she gets jealous, and gives you all the sex you want in fear of you going to another woman to get it. It's a dirty tactic, but women are very insecure, use it to your advantage, just like she'd use your need for sex against you. If a dog doesn't get fed at home, then this dog is going to have to go out to eat. And if you "go out to eat", who does she have to blame? You're not the one holding back the pussy.

The purpose of the above two options is to make sure that you're always in the game in one way, shape, or form. I'm sure some of you guys have been in long term relationships, ended them, and had no clue of how to get another woman because you've been out of the game for so long.

Finally, it's time for the best part of the game, REVERSING it.Men who know how to give women mind blowing sex is a rarity. I know that I blow away all of my women. How do I know this? There are some that only come to me for sex, and sex only.

When you can give her mind blowing orgasms, when she knows that she can't use her pussy against you, and when she knows that you are always able to find another woman, who has the power? And that's what this game is all about.

POWER OF THE PUSSY 3

Why don’t girls know how guys are? Why don’t they understand how sexual we are?The male existence is an endless drive for hip thrusts into…well, anything female, really. Of course, I speak for myself, but I’m pretty damn sure most of this goes for the testosterone pumped among the species.

The sex drive is like no other. I don’t think—no, I know I could not—ever put into words the extent that sex drives me. I know it is the same for most men. We are so driven that it is the only end that any means could justify. I mean, it isn’t the “end of all ends” but it is the only one that holds such enormous significance physically and mentally, whether we like it or not, that any man would disobey his strongest principals to hear the siren song. The allure is enough to force a man to assess whether or not he could make any obstacle to the goal disappear. “I love my girlfriend but this is…”. I can’t justify it but it is real. All my ex girlfiend, bless their soul, appears to understand. I’m cursed with blunt and frank honesty. “Listen, I would have you bent over every piece of furniture in this house every day if, one, I didn’t feel like I was taking advantage of you; two, I felt like exercising every time I wanted to get off; and three, what I’m not willing to put out in the open, I didn’t want to fuck a hundred times more girls than just you.” I don’t care how devoted to your girl/wife you are, you want to spread that seed as thin as possible. “You, you, and you. Get your skinny asses over here and suck this cock.” And the end of that extraordinary day you come home and say to yourself, “Please God, don’t ever let me lose the love of my life.” Because, you see, we don’t want to hurt anyone. We, as men, don’t have any choice but to be driven by an insanely persistent and powerful force to have sex with as many women as we can possibly convince, deceive, pay, or force. But few of us actually want to lose the mainstay of our emotional existence. If any of us could have our ideal situation, it would be that we could taste the nectar of any peach, test the tenderness of any melon, smell the scent of any blossomed flower, and enjoy the warm, loving embrace of the woman that we love. It is exactly that, without modification, that any man truly wants. We don’t have a choice in that. Girls are pretty, even the ugly ones.

I would never cheat. It is a matter of principle. I love my girl. She is the best girl I have ever known and I am convinced “beyond a shadow of a doubt” that there is no other girl on the planet for me. No joke. She is THE one. But should I end up on a business trip and a beautiful woman, even quite modestly beautiful, perhaps with a big ol’ ass that ripples with a good smack from the side as I pile-drive behind it, a little flatness to the cleavage indicating how many years gone since the perk has abandoned those boobies, but a cute face and an aggressive posture toward experiencing my masculinity dripping sweat above her, make obvious advances at hooking up with me, I’d really have to consult the devil and the angel about how I should proceed. You see, these things just don’t happen to the willing when the situation actually is appropriate. How often does a man find himself in a situation when a woman wants to scratch the only itch he so, insanely, needs scratched right here and now? A man feels that itch constantly and ever since he began feeling the itch he has come to terms with the fact that relief is not going to come from the plethora of feminine analgesic that surrounds him. Women are not driven like men; probably for the better. There are too many people on this planet to have both parties hell-bent on reproduction—or at least enacting conditions that facilitate it.

What does age have to do with any of this? Honestly, perfection will bring a tear to my eye but a flawed woman will draw the same. How I do love small tits. How that bit of swell on the outside of the thighs sets my loins on fire. How I love it when a woman shows a bit of cleavage or sits across the way in a skirt, legs crossed, smelling like some supernatural flower. Mmm, it is like a freshly lit barbeque on a Saturday evening before you’ve satisfied your hunger. Let me get a taste of that! But it is a different allure than the spring flower with the book bag slung over her shoulder and the ridiculous MTV-inspired worldview. She has breasts at attention, burgeoning into the new frontier of my palms. Soft, tight skin, unaffected by years of vegetating in a cubicle chair to which she is destined. Her naiveté is ripe for my devastatingly, deceptively mature and sophisticated pessimism. She says, “He’s so fresh; so unlike anyone I’ve ever dated; so confident.” Of course, any girl that says that to me is wise ahead of her time since most misinterpret fearless, shameless, showy, ignorance as confidence; none of which is who I am able to be. Nevertheless, whatever this spring chicken is willing to chase down into my manufactured rabbit hole (into Wonderland, of course) is all I’m after. Who foresees long term emotional bonding with a girl that hasn’t had boobs for more than a few years? That’s what young girls do, right? And eventually they turn thirty and suddenly start looking my way. “You’re such a great man” they say as they eyeball the calendar for the point-of-no-return if they ever want kids. Ignore my Sinicism. I found my girl. I just didn’t bang enough individually or at once before I met her. Regardless, I don’t know if I could have ever had enough anyway.

How do men deal with women? Purely speculation, of course, but women, one, must not know what is going on in men’s heads (or to what insane extent); two, men are not acting on their impulses as they truly, honestly, intently wish to; and three, men are driven by control, money, competitiveness as a response to their chemical disposition. These conditions all go together, though. A man is driven by his insane desires but overrides them with sympathy, empathy, respect, humility, and competing desires. Most guys have a dual idea of women: the woman he wants to have sex with and the one he is having sex with. For the one he wants, we all want. When she walks past, we men look at each other, bighting knuckles, muttering the words, “…dude, did you see that.” And then there is the girl we are having sex with. We love our girlfriends. We need that unity; the pair bond. We are emotional creatures, after all. And the familiarity with our favorite girl’s vagina means we can treat them differently. We can treat them like the women whose vaginas we cannot ever be familiar with because of it. And really, the only other classification of women is those we don’t want to have sex with. Besides that, all is fair game.

So what about the receptionist? What about the store clerk, the engineer, the paper-pusher, the mother, the neighbor, the audience member, the patron? It is all live and let live. I’m not going to try to have sex with you (which involves a whole lot of money and time if it isn’t your only goal). I’m only going to imagine having sex with you, however detailed or brief that mental picture might be. And if you keep showing me your legs, cleavage, and ass, I’ll keep peeking when I get the chance. But that’s it. I respect your words, ideas, and decisions like any random man: be quite, pay attention, drive faster, and get out of my way. I kid. Really the idea is just that life goes on. We do what we do and all the while I admire the female body in a graphically sexual manner.

 POWER OF THE PUSSY 4

Men value their unit as a tool to achieving their primary drive of life. It's a means to an end and since that drive defines us, it is central to our value system and thoughts. Not because we want to model it in a puppet, not because it's a pet, or we actually think with it. A hammer is valuable to a contractor or someone who wants to hang a picture. A penis is valuable to someone who wants to get laid. A pussy is valuable to men and an object of desire because it is the end to which the drive pushes us. We love to gaze at them and admire them in much the same way women do a diamond ring, because it represents her primary drive of enslaving a hapless male to fulfill all of her whims forevermore. If it didn't come with the man and imply his subjugation, it wouldn't be nearly so fascinating. That's why women don't want a ruby engagement ring, but a diamond one, even though by fundamental rarity rubies are more valuable. It is merely the monopoly on diamonds that makes them actually cost more, it's artificial rarity and the resale value shows it. Men could give a shit about a pussy puppet, because you can't sire children with it, and furthermore no man in his right mind would pay $400 for a real one, let alone a simulacrum. Women always overvalue their pussy is one of the most salient things I've ever heard a woman say. They all think theirs is the only one in the world, and those of all the other 3 billion women are mere pale imitations of the midas snatch. Puh-leez. They are virtually interchangeable. As men like to say, it's all pink on the inside. So long as it's healthy and attached to an attractive woman we could care less which one we inhabit for the night.



PUSSY: POWER OF THE PUSSY 5



To understand the nature of female power. As stated in the book Anatomy of Female Power by Chinweizu:

Female power exists; it hangs over every man like a ubiquitous. shadow. Indeed, the life cycle of man, from cradle to grave, may be divided into three phases, each of which is defined by the form of female power which dominates him: mother power, bridepower, or wifepower.

From birth to puberty, he is ruled by motherpower, as exercised over him by his one and only “mummy dearest”. Then he passes into the territory of bridepower, as exercised over him by his bride-to-be, that cuddlesome and tender wench he feels he cannot live without. This phase lasts from puberty to that wedding day when the last of his potential brides finally makes herself his wife. He then passes into the domain of wifepower, as exercised over him by his own resident matriarch, alias his darling wife. This phase lasts till he is either divorced, widowed or dead.

In each phase, female power is established over him through his peculiar weakness in that stage of his life. Motherpower is established over him while he is a helpless infant. Bridepower holds sway over him through his great need for a womb in which to procreate; if he didn’t feel this need, he wouldn’t put himself into the power of any owner of a womb. Wifepower is established over him through his craving to appear as lord and master of some woman’s nest; should he dispense with this
vanity, not even the co-producer of his child could hold him in her nest and rule him.

There are five conditions which enable women to get what they want from men: women’s control of the womb; women’s control of the kitchen; women’s control of the cradle; the psychological immaturity of man relative to woman; and man’s tendency to be deranged by his own excited penis. These conditions are the five pillars of female power; they are decisive for its dominance over male power. Though each is recognized in popular jokes and sayings, their collective significance is
rarely noted.

There is a joke which goes thus:

1st woman: The way to a man’s heart is through his belly.
2nd woman: Aren’t you aiming a few inches too high?

This joke pays tribute to how the womb and the kitchen control the feelings of men. A man can be controlled by the hunger in his belly, and by the other hunger which flares up just below his belly. Consequently, he can be manipulated by whoever controls the kitchen which feeds him, or by whoever carries the womb through which he craves to procreate. That man abandons the kitchen to woman, and grovels for access to a womb, are not ordained by nature or by god, but result from how woman, who controls the cradle, has chosen to condition boys and girls. We must remember the saying that “the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world”. That is so because whoever tram. s achild in its first years shapes it for life. Woman, who rules the nursery, shapes boys and girls for life; and the ways in which she shapes boys make them what they become as men.



boy grows up seeing only a small part of his mother. He never sees her flaws. Even if it’s not just a front and she really is almost flawless now, the boy doesn’t see the road she took to get to her current state. Maybe she was a little bitchier and stuck on herself when she was younger and hot and hanging out with the cool kids in school. He doesn’t see how cruelly she may have used, chewed up and spit out beta males, brokesters and nerds who were trying to date her during her high school and college years. She may have sucked a jock’s dick once or twice behind the bleachers in high school. Or maybe she cheated on a boyfriend once or twice in her lifetime before she met your dad. Or maybe she cheated on your dad once and no one ever found out. Or maybe she is utterly loyal to your dad and does none of those bad things but is just an absolute freak in the bed and was doing all types of kinky stuff with your dad with sick toys and getting every opening used and abused. I mean, you truly never totally know who your mom was before you were born, and especially before she met your dad. This is how the madonna part of the madonna/whore equation gets created.

Another great passage from Chinweizu:

Many a son is only vaguely aware of being ruled, through such precise techniques, by his mummy dearest. A vague awareness makes it unlikely that he will ever stand up to his mother; and even if, by some miracle, he did, he is not likely to battle effectively against a power he hardly understands. With a daughter, matters are different. As her mother’s apprentice, a daughter learns the game, is privy to its techniques, and could effectively counter her mother’s moves if she got up the courage. The result of such knowledge is that the average daughter can, at some point, shake off her mother’s authority, whereas the ignorant son cannot. Her hold over him usually lasts till his death; even if she dies before him, her hold is maintained through his ingrained desire to please her memory.

The classic example of the man who is ruled all his life by his mother is the great macho dictator presented in so many Latin American novels, most notably in Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s The Autumn of the Patriarch. Though a bloodthirsty and ruthless dictator; though a generalissimo and the everlasting patriarch of his nation, he always felt for his mother the obedient, babyish awe he learned to feel for her when he fed at her breast.

But what is motherpower used for? The primary objectives of motherpower are to prepare boys so they can be ruled by their future wives, and to train girls to rule their future husbands. To this end, the main tasks of motherpower are these:

1) to lay the appropriate personality foundations in the children:
narcissism in girls, and heroism in boys:
2) to secure kitchen power and cradle power for girls; and
3) to magnify wombpower hy teaching sexual restraint to girls,
through codes of modesty, while undermining sexual self-control in boys
by addicting them to the female body.

Consider a”beautiful girl and a strong boy. When they are successfully reared by motherpower, they mature into their respective genderideals: the dolly bird and the macho. To bring this about, the girl is taught self-worship or narcissism; the boy heroism or self-sacrifice. Her narcissism induces an absolute self-centredness which smothers those self-sacrificing impulses which are fostered in the boy by male codes of honour, gallantry and heroism. When they grow up, the dolly.bird will worship herself; but the macho willworship woman and serve her, even to the point of sacrificing his life to preserve hers.

The future dolly bird is trained in narcissism.on the principle that a woman must worship herself if she is to inspire worship, and so elicit service from men. Narcissism is taught her by everything around her. The general admiration she receives is explained to her, in the American case, by the children’s verse which says:

Sugar and spice and everything nice Are what little girls are made of.

For good measure, the verse concludes with a thorough devaluation of boys:

Snakes and snails and puppy dog tails That’s what little boys are made of.

This doctrine is reinforced by the sort of admonitions a girl is usually given: that “boys want only one thing” – the jewel box between her thighs – “and nice girls don’t give it to them”; 29 that her virginity is precious; that to lost”:it before marriage is to dishonour the family; that it must be protected by all, and defended, even to their death, by her male relatives. The general message – that she is precious beyond measure – is driven home by the behaviour of mothers and fathers who mount guard over their daughter, jealously protecting their property’s value. Now, whose sense of her worth would not be inflated by such fussing? Whose sense of self-preservation would not be made absolute by such protectiveness?

A beautiful girl so brought up (and all the others who take her as the model of womanhood) inevitably gets the notion that she must be worth all the gold in the world and more; that she is god’s gift to all male humanity. By the time puberty arrives to trigger her nest-making drives, she has already acquired that narcissism which will guide her conduct as maiden, wife, mother, widow and dowager.

The narcissist personality is what makes a woman take it as a matter of course that a man should offer goods and services to her for her contribution to their joint sexual pleasure. He gives her pleasure, she gives him pleasure, but he pays: to her, that is fair! The narcissist personality is what makes a peasant girl of 15take it as quite natural that a general or tycoon three times her age should lay all his hard-won power and riches at her feet when he courts her. It does not occur to her to ask if she is worth such tribute: she knows, in her wombsure narcissism, that she is worth much more, that she holds the most precious thing in her suitor’s world, and should be paid for it with all that he has in the world. This narcissist personality enables a divorced woman to have no doubt that it is fair for her to collect alimony for services she no longer renders to her ex-husband.

Whereas the mother equips the future dolly bird with a narcissist personality, she equips the future macho with a heroic personality. The hero is a servant who performs extraordinary duties for family, community or humanity: as warrior or protector, as organizer of wealth, or as bringer of vital knowledge. He is, at heart, a sentimental fool who takes great risks, carries out great labours, all in exchange for such vanities as medals, ribbons, statues, and being mentioned in talk and song.

In the course of his training, the future macho is taught to regard women as the weaker sex, to adore dolly birds, and to consider it heroic to provide for and protect his womenfolk. He is also taught that being given a beautiful woman to husband is the most precious reward for heroism. If he is a Fulani or Maasai herdsman in Africa, he learns that lesson from the flogging contests whose victors are rewarded with admiration and love by beautiful maidens. If he will fight and be wounded to earn a wreath; if he willfight and die for posthumous praise; how much more will the macho sacrifice to earn a beautiful bride? It is in this way that he acquires that heroic personality which seeks wealth, honour, power and fame with which to pay for the love of a woman.

This woman-fixated personality makes a macho consider it right and proper for him to give a woman sexual pleasure and pay her too. It prevents a love-smitten general or tycoon from entertaining the thought that the strumpet he is wooing might not be worth one millionth of what he is deliriously offering her for the right to help her put her womb to work.

These two types of personality (heroic macho and narcissist dolly bird) are complementary in serving female power. Narcissism imbues the dolly bird with a sense of her natural right to be worshipped and served by men; heroism imbues the macho with a sense of his natural duty to serve women. She displays the self-confidence and self-centredness appropriate to an absolute ruler; he the self-diffidence and self-sacrifice of a loyal serf. When a boy so trained and a girl so trained do encounter, isn’t it obvious who shall rule who?

Is the face that she portrays to you the same face she sees in herself? What is her core like? For example there can be two guys driving an identical Mercedes-Benz. They have the same front. They’re both “fronting” equally. But one guy is so rich he bought his by paying in full up front and he has a special garage he uses to park it next to his small mansion. The other guy lives at home or in an apartment with three roommates, lives from check to check at a shitty job and had to take out a huge note he can barely afford to front in that car. Both are fronting equally, but their cores are radically different.

If even adults can get fooled by people whose faces don’t match or whose strong fronts are masking totally weak cores, what chances do children have of spotting such inconsistencies? None. Children take what they see at face value. Maybe the son’s mother really was always virtuous her whole life. Maybe she only became virtuous later in life after spending her youth as a celebrity groupie or as a human sperm receptacle for neighborhood bad boys. Or maybe his mother is still secretly slutting it up without her husband or children know it. Regardless of what the truth is, the son only sees the virtuous front. The “naturals” with women I discussed in the earlier installments are men who at a young age had the illusion created by the front broken and got a glimpse of their mother’s less virtuous core. As a result of this early disillusionment they learned to not put women on a pedestal. I just used virtue as one example, but it could also be mental or emotional weakness. The boy who grows up believing his mother is of extraordinary mental or emotional strength can easily grow up to have a madonna/whore complex. The natural, like Ahmed in our previous installments, could be someone who learned early that his mother was much weaker emotionally and mentally than he initially believed and became disillusioned by that.

Picture a boy who never breaks through his mother’s perfect “front.” Growing up she always knows when he is lying. She always catches him when he sneaks his hand into the cookie jar. He begins to think she has supreme intuition and is all-knowing and wise. He not only grows up continuing to believe her divine omniscience and intuition, he extrapolates such traits to all women and begins to deify them. What he doesn’t realize is that the reason she always knows he is lying, the reason she always catches him in his mistakes, the reason she always seems two steps ahead of him is because he was a child. He was ridiculously easy to outsmart.

There is a story about circus elephants in fires that I read in a self-help book and I don’t know if it’s actually true or not, but it teaches a great lesson regardless. Supposedly baby circus elephants can be kept in place with nothing more than a stake driven into the ground and a rope. The baby circus elephant tries with all its might to pull out the stake hour after hour, day after day, to no avail. After a while, it accepts the fact that it will never be able to uproot the stake and stops trying. As it grows to its full size, it becomes powerful enough to pull out the stake with ease, but because it has been conditioned as a baby to believe it can’t pull out the stake. So strong is this belief that there are even records of circus fires where elephants tied to the stake stayed put, died and were burnt to a crisp when they could easily have uprooted the stake and escaped with their lives. So strong is that limiting belief that even to save their own lives they won’t even attempt to pull out the stake. The man with the madonna/whore complex is the elephant who never learns the truth about the nature of the stake and the rope. The “natural” who doesn’t worship women and put them on pedestals is an elephant who discovered early on that he could now pull out the stake after all.

Men with madonna/whore complexes are men who so buy into the myth of an infallible, asexual mother that they look to recreate her in their life partner. Since their mother image is so perfect and devoid of all whorish traits, anyone who does anything to break this idealized model must automatically fall into the whore category. They compartmentalize all women into two categories, the “madonna” like their mother or the “whore,” Ginger or Mary-Ann, not being aware that most women have traits of both the madonna and the whore coexisting in them to varying degrees. It’s hard for them to accept any middle ground. In very extreme cases, any woman who seems to enjoy sex too much period becomes a whore in their eyes. The problem is, every man and every woman has a social civilized side to them and a primitive, savage side, and both sides demand feeding. So while the madonna satisfies a man’s social needs as mother to his children and lady he can take around on his arm with pride, he finds his primal side incredibly bored and unfulfilled by the vanilla sex he has with his madonna. Even if the madonna wants to try to be less vanilla in the bedroom he won’t allow it because he has an illusion to preserve, and if she breaks it she is no longer the reincarnation of his mother. So he then finds himself seeking out women to fulfill the whore role for him, whether in porn, in prostitutes, in freak mistresses.

A perfect example of this is the Sicilian-American gangster, as typified by the tv show “The Sopranos.” Sicilians are very much a matriarchal society. Few cultures idealize the mother figure as much as Sicilians do. And if you watch the show, every single one of the Sicilian-American gangsters has a “gumar” or mistress that fills the exciting whore role for him, and does all the things that satisfy his primal side that he is not comfortable with the mother of his children, who is basically a proxy for his own mother, doing. Another great example of this dynamic is John Leguizamo’s Sicilian-American character in the movie “Summer of Sam.”

Like men, women also have a social, civilized side and a primal, savage side. One of the great ironies of the madonna/whore dynamic is that these men who are paranoid about keeping their wives virtuous end up only satisfying their madonna wives’ virtuous sides, which can cause them to grow bored and desire adventure, which can often drive them to cheat in an effort to satisfy their own primal sides. Many bored housewife affairs begin like this. Casanova for example understood this dynamic and targeted many of these types of wives, who on the surface would seem too virtuous to cheat. Thus by trying to create the perfect woman who would never cheat, men often create the perfect conditions to awaken the urge to cheat in their madonna wives.

People put their “good girl” on a pedestal, are afraid to do anything kinky with her for fear of defiling her or making her “filthy,” which ends up boring her and just leaves her open to swept off her feet by some cad willing to bang her like a beast and give her a sense of adventure. History’s biggest rakes like Casanova were able to succeed in defiling so many mens’ “respectable” wives primarily because their husbands bought into this good girl, bad girl Madonna/Whore thing, which (1) caused them to let their guards down too much because they were overconfident about their wife’s purity and (2) created a profound boredom in the woman, making her into a bird in a gilded cage vulnerable to the promises of sexual abandon and romantic adventure the rake provides.

This is why one of the worst pieces of advice women often receive is to find a man who adores his mother. There are plenty of guys out there who love their mothers and treat the women in their lives like shit. The Sicilian-American gangsters for example. Or some of the worst criminals and cheaters around. There are some mentally and physically abusive men who absolutely adore their mothers. There have been bloodthirsty dictators and killers whose mothers can do no wrong in their eyes. This is because such a guy was raised to revere his mom way excessively, which caused him to want to recreate her in his wife. And since he naively believes his mom to be some unerotic saint who never had a whorish thought in her life and only had sex to procreate and please her husband, he foolishly tries to recreate this imaginary ideal in his wife, who also foolishly encourages this saintly myth because she knows that’s how to get him to marry her. But chances are it wasn’t 100% true in his mom’s case and it’s not 100% true in his good girl’s case. It’s a cliched cycle that’s been repeating itself since the beginning of time. Even his actual mom, if he knew every dirty secret about her, probably couldn’t even live up to this ideal. So either he gets disappointed by his wife’s lack of perfection because unlike when his mom created her perfect front, he is no longer a naive child and is harder to fool, and he takes it out on her either aggressively or passive-aggressively each time she shows any defect that doesn’t conform to his madonna ideal. Or he does totally buy into his wife’s madonna front just like he bought into his own mother’s, and with his social, civilized needs met at home he ends up seeking out ways to satisfy his primal, savage needs through porn, dominatrices, hookers, mistresses, whatever. Meanwhile she’s unhappy because she’s only getting half her needs met at home as well, her social, civilized needs.

Another problem that happens is when the former mama’s boy becomes a late-bloomer ladies’ man. It becomes the sexual equivalent of finding out that Santa Claus isn’t real at 30 instead of at 10. The kid who discovers that Santa Claus isn’t real at 10 doesn’t take it so hard and doesn’t grow up with a chip on his shoulder about it, but I’d imagine the guy who finds out at 30 the hard way is going to feel like a fool, be pretty pissed off and have a chip on his shoulder about it. You find a similar phenomenon with “natural” ladies’ men versus late-bloomer ladies’ men who learn to understand and game women later in life. Both can understand a woman’s flaws, but the natural ladies’ man has more of an acceptance of womens’ somewhat mercenary natures, even if only a begrudging acceptance, and doesn’t dwell on them. He’s learned to adjust to their flaws early, and sometimes can even learn to appreciate them on some level and see past them to some positives. The late-bloomer, or former beta, because he feels like he’s been lied to so long and thinks of all the grief and embarassment and heartache he could have avoided for so long, obsesses over the mercenary nature of many women and the many ways they can be less than virtuous because he feels like it’s more of a betrayal, and a deeper and more recent one than whatever the natural ladies’ man may have experienced. So for him, he develops a mission statement of revenge against women. He goes from dividing all women into madonnas and whores to just lumping them all into the whore category, or at least over 80% of them. His life becomes a giant exercise of confirmation bias looking to gather more evidence of women’s whorish and mercenary ways, which just feeds into his self-righteous sense of betrayal even more, which then motivates him to search out even more evidence, aaaaannnd….vicious circle. I think every late-bloomer needs to go through this stage at some point to properly exorcise his formerly beta male ways, but this stage should be a means to a better end, and not an end in and of itself. Men who never move past this phase end up becoming toxic to everyone.

There’s a great article here about this phenomenon, talking about how men can change once they get some game later in life by joining the seduction community:

Trading one set of misguided ideas about women for another
Before they get into the Community, the typical guy has beliefs about women such as:

* Women are special, beautiful creatures.
* Women need to be saved and protected.
* Women need to be loved and nurtured.
* You need to make women feel special.
* Women need to be wined and dined and romanced.
* Women want nice guys.
* Women don’t like sex.

A little too naive and romantic in other words. Then they get into the Community and before long they’ve been exposed to ideas like:

* Women are flaky and unreliable.
* Women are emotional and illogical.
* Women only live in the emotion of the moment, do what feels good at the time, and justify their actions to themselves after the fact.
* Women are manipulative and use guys for free drinks and dinners.
* Women are fickle and have short attention spans.
* Women are self-centered and self-interested.
* Women primarily go to clubs for attention and validation from men.
* Women constantly test men, try to devalue them, and try to make them jump through hoops.
* Women try to make men suck up to them and put them on a pedestal.
* Women think their pussies are made of gold and sell them to the highest bidder.
* Women don’t know what they really want.
* Women are confused and hypocritical. They’ll profess to dislike whorish behavior then blow a guy in a bathroom that night.
* Women are programmed to want to get knocked up by an Alpha Male then ensnare an unwitting Beta Male into raising the child for her.
* Women will cheat on their partners coldly and unemotionally.
* Women are slaves to how their friends and society sees them. They want to sleep around, but have to be discrete about it.
* Society’s expectations have given women all kinds of weird hang ups up about sex and hooking up. Their minds are full of strange rationalizations and justifications.
* Women are powerless to resist the right type of guy. Even if they’re married, they’ll get sucked along.
* Women are easily manipulated by simple magic tricks and talk of new agey topics.

I’m not saying there’s no truth at all in these statements, of course there’s some. These statements do describe some women, or the way some women act in certain circumstances. But taken as a whole, you gotta admit this set of beliefs is pretty negative, misogynistic even. Just as all women aren’t special creatures that need to be rescued, they aren’t all fickle, emotional, and selfish either. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle, and it depends on the girl. Some girls are really normal





POWER OF THE PUSSY 6

 Pussy is a many splendid thing. Pussy power has been known to help construct civilizations and destroy them. Wars have been fought over pussy. And the most powerful men in the world have been brought low behind pussy. What a powerful thing it is, totally confounding men time after time, season after season, century after century. The more men learn about pussy, the more they forget

It would probably be proper to first discuss the mythology of dick before discussing the mythology of pussy, but for dramatic effect we will continue our discussion of pussy, for it is common sense that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. And furthermore, there is more oppression in the world caused by men’s attitude toward pussy than toward their dick, although the patriarchal society gives dominance to the dick, but in the male’s headlong rush to enter the pussy, he becomes blind to his own sexuality and consumed by the need to plunge his organ inside the vagina. In his blindness and his resulting sexual pathology, he becomes numb to the reality that the female is more than pussy, that pussy has a mind, a brain, a cornucopia of emotions based on phases of the moon. “If you think I am just a physical thing, wait til you see the spiritual power I bring”, says a poem by Phavia Kujichagulia.

Let us begin by saying pussy is transient, elusive and ephemeral. “See,” a woman demonstrated to me as she jumped, “When I jumped my pussy jumped—therefore my pussy belongs to me.” Thus the locus of control of pussy is with the pussy, not any external source such as a man, based on marriage rites and patriarchal social definitions of authority, or de facto slavery when the female is viewed as chattel (personal) property. “I pay the cost to be the boss.”

And so the male, in the absence of manhood training, is left to his own ignorant notions of the nature and value of pussy. His main concern is that the pussy is his and nobody else’s. That he can come and go into the pussy at will, at his beck and call. Of course this is a mental blindness he must overcome immediately so he can enter the road to spiritual maturation.

After losing control of the pussy forever, some men turned into pussy, became weak and passive, a disgusting representation of the macho man so familiar to the female who concluded if she was going to have a woman she might as well have a real woman.






POWER OF THE PUSSY 7
 Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you’ve got the world’s most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she’s going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it’s beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn’t it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I’ve seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl’s cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman’s unique qualities and tell her what makes her special.

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her; the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you’re petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn’t mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn’t have any juices of its own and it’s extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry and that hurts. But you don’t want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.

Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, and make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, and then float away. Make her anticipate it.

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you’ve done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she’s straining to get more of you closer to her… then put your lips right on top of her slit.

Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you’re about to eat must be done gently.

Tongue-fuck her. This feels define. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of its covering. If so, lick it. If you can’t see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up tot he top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience its presence. But even if you can’t feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin.

Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she’s getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady’s face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don’t fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don’t let go. That’s what she’ll be saying too: ‘Don’t stop. Don’t ever stop!’

There’s a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who’s a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him.

But back to your pussy eating session…There’s another thing you can do to intensify your woman’s pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she’s enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, curing or after. She’ll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you’re fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking.

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can’t get deep enough. Make sure they’re wet so you don’t irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She’ll let you know what to do. If you’re sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you’re giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she’s getting high on this. If there’s any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one who’s nipples get hard when she’s excited or only when she’s having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you’ll be a more sensitive lover.

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven’s sakes, don’t let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.

The last advice I have for you is this: After you’ve made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she’s ever had, don’t leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she’s come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex.

Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it’s what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover’s signals, and most of all…enjoy yourself



POWER OF THE PUSSY 8
 (FORM A FAN POINT OF VIEW)

 The power of the coochie is amazing. You can crumble the very existence of a man and his dick with your walls. I know alot of men turn in to Pops and say, "Oh I don't get pussy whipped, I whip that pussy". All men in one time of their lives will become pussy whipped. It's a fact. It's really a wonderful thing for a woman to have that power, but is that all she needs to actually whip a man into shape?

It's a sad realization, but not all women have whip appeal. Some strive and strive to gain the power, but some folks were just not given the gift. Pussy whipping is real and whoever denies it is the devil. Alot of people just look at it as having good coochie, but there is more to it. A woman that has that whip appeal can not only fuck him the way it was intended, but she has other characteristics that keeps him coming back and wanting more. I've been with men that love my corners and begged for some of my good good, but also the fact that I'm the type of woman that doesn't flaunt her shit and keeps it 100 they're drawn to me. For years I tried to understand what it was about me that kept them coming back, but sometimes certain things are not to be questioned.

Now, I've heard some men that actually said that there is no such thing as good pussy. There are alot of chicks that got that good pussy, but then they're alot of women out there that got that GREAT put a ring on it pussy. A woman that has that pussy fiyah just makes your dick melt. Once you enter her all your problems seem to drift away. I love when a man enters and you hear that sigh of relief moan. That moan that sounds like "OMG, I've waited for this my whole life and finally this day is here." I love that type of man. Those are usually the men that get pussy like it's flowing water. These are the men that keep chicks dick shook, but the minute they get that real great put a ring on it pussy, their ideals shift, their priorities linger, and their peen in rock hard position. Just thinking of this woman leaves their mouth salivating, and their eyes glazed.

So ladies, embrace what you've been blessed with because only a few are chosen. Men, there is nothing wrong with meeting your sexual equal. She can go as long as you can and when it's all over you'll be laying in the fetal position sucking your thumb. That's the power of GREAT PUSSY!!!



POWER OF THE PUSSY 9--VISIBILITY IS POWER: PUSSY ENVY (WHY YOU SHOULD SHOW THE PY MORE)

Vagina envy. Everybody knows it's as prevalent as penis envy and probably more intrinsic, given that the mother of all envies may be caused by the inability to give birth. To settle a wager about which gender has better sex, Zeus and Hera asked Tiresias, who for reasons I won't go into here had spent seven years as a woman. When he chose women by a ratio of nine to one, Hera was so enraged she struck him blind. Zeus took pity and gave him the gifts of prophecy and long life, and the rest -- as we know -- is Oedipus.

The shaved, waxed, trimmed and otherwise depilated female pubis that has become a cultural norm might be called a Pandora's box of conflicting fears and desires. On the one hand, there's the fear of hair or chaetophobia. Hair is a sign of maturity and strength, which far too many men find scary in women. Removing pubic hair may be a wish to infantilize women -- to make them look more like little girls. Which, if taken further, comes uncomfortably close to pedophilia.

For their part, women may internalize a distaste for hair and develop a love of bareness. Some would say this is self-exploitation. But it seems to me -- and I'm sure I'm not alone -- that women are turning something that objectifies them into a tool of empowerment. This is consistent with lowered waistlines and bared midriffs, which may be surrogates and pointers for the pudenda below. A woman I know describes the bared-belly look as "a way of showing more skin without revealing more breast or being tacky." Either way, visibility is power. The male anatomy has already taught us as much. This is why I love a woman who wear short dress and no underwear. It is about showing the power of the pussy to all the world to see.

The power of the shaved pussy increases in direct proportion to the "otherness" of the woman in question. Or does it? After all, the more you see of the female anatomy, the less "difference," "otherness," or "mystery" you can project on it. When difference is accented, it is sometimes reduced.

When it comes to nudity, women have always been in the artistic vanguard, whether they liked it or not. The female body has been presented much more naked, much more often than the male body. It's anyone's guess what could happen next. But if men follow in these footsteps it could lead to our particular last frontier: the visible hard-on.



POWER OF THE PUSSY 10
PUSSY WHIP AND COCK WHIP: WHY WE PUT UP WITH AWFUL BEHAVIOR FOR OCCASIONAL INTENSE SEX

Being PUSSY WHIP or COCK WHIP implies a sexual passion so intense that it dissolves the boundaries between the lover and the beloved. It is a very sexual ecstasy that unites two people. Any man who experience this union with a woman he sexually enthralled with will tell you there is nothing else like it. Not success…not anything. If something feel this incredible and is so full of meaning, it’s going to feel like torture when it’s take away. The loss of woman’s bodily contact and her physical persence alone is enough to throw a man over the edge. Noe matter how psychologically healthy you are and how great your childhood was, you will experience a tremendous amount of deprivation when a woman you made love to is gone. It’s only natural that you feel horrible and want to get back with her again. You want to be relieved of the pain of losing her and the physical intimacy you shared. 

Once you have sex, your ability to reason goes proof. It is as though once the penis or vagina becomes engaged, your brains leaves your body. You go into a trancelike state and pretty much saying: “I slept with this person, It was great. This is the person I am meant to be with, andI will see that this will work out not matter what, whether she or he wants it or not. Even if we are not compatible, she or he will treat me like crap and she or he doesn’t see a future for us, if I see we have great chemistry that’s all I need to know. My relationship with Melissa was like that.

So why do so many attractive smart successful people put up with awful rejecting behavior for occassional intense sex? For a woman I think that subordination is a normal manifestation of female sexuality. Many people completely idealized their partner….and having sex is a symbolically incorpating the person’s characteristics they admired into themselves. I have talk to friends who think their girlfriend or boyfriend are so hot and sexy and that they are meant to be with them. After some discussion, they finally usually break down and fess up to the fact that she or he are not even that good-looking and sometimes even lousy in bed. Often they are major loser in other aspect of their life as well. But what they are idealizing is their partner lack of neediness, the ability to be so distant and smug. In some way they wish they could be like him or her and occasionally feel inferior next to their magnificence. If they suddenly act needy, wanting and longing for them in return, then the spell would be broken. The sex would be downgraded to mediocre.

Many attribute sexual longing to kismet and romantic chance. They keep going back for more no matter how many times their partner abandaons or disappoints them, because they cling to the unrealistic optimism that their partner will magically change and become a committed stable partner. They have temporary amenesia about how much the partner has hurt, humiliated, and even emotionally abused them in the past. They fixate on the hope that she or he will come through for them the way way they hoped their parent would. It gets to the point that their sense of reality sounds almost delusional. 

No matter how I dissect and analyze the topic, the sex is still great. We must ask ourselves then why the excitement and pleasure is more important than the grief and humiliation you expereince when your partner is distance and abandons you again and again. You need to face the reality that this intense sex is self-destructive in the long run. It’s physically depleting and emotionally draining from all the aggravation and drama you deal with while your partner act out your partner ambivalence issues. Deep down you know it always end up tragically with your feelings hurt. Nothing of substance ever comes of it. A real relationship with a future and commitment will never materialize with your partner. Getting together with him or her for the intense sex may feel good momentarily, but in a larger sense, you are attaching yourself to a painful go-nowhere situation.


Have you considered all the other great feelings in life you’re missing out on by remaining sexually hooked on your partner…things like being part of a permanent couple, and building a life and future with someone who doesn’t cause you pain and heartache? Don’t the wonderful feelings that could result from these experience with another type of person count for anything. Maybe you’re better off putting your energies into finding out why you can’t have good sex with a person who fully reciprocates your feelings and doesn’t breatk your heart, rather than putting your energies into staying sexually hooked with the wrong person. 


POWER OF THE PUSSY 11


Man is in a natural state of awe for the beauty and power of the woman.

If this state is just left lying there – unused -- it deteriorates,disintegrates.

He looses respect and he looses his awe. Every woman is Queen, but she MUST rule, and her failure to rule absolutely creates chaos,disharmony, confusion in her man, unhappiness for her, and loss of place in the world for both of them.

If the woman knows and understands this, she can use this natural, inherent aspect of the man to be in a state of awe for her beauty and sexuality. She does this by using her sexuality as the basis of her authority over him in the relationship. In short, in the relationship, she commands by and through her sexuality.

If she does not use her sexuality for command (in a very particular way, as described below), she does not command. The more she uses it -as he needs it to be used, the more she commands.

What is so fascinating about this dynamic of sexual power is that it is: ------- NOT OPTIONAL ------IT MUST BE USED as a "power" over the man, OR IT IS LOST.

A slight digression. A man can make anything. He can change anything. He can do ANYTHING, given enough time and resources. That is his nature. He is built and designed, and hormonally driven to do stuff, change stuff, make stuff  better / different / or worse; in other words, alter his world. He is better at doing that than any force in the universe. With all that he can do, there is one thing over which he has utterly no power. A woman's loving sexuality. There is nothing he can do to force a woman love to him. To give her body to him out of love, in that deep melding place that grabs him deeper than any other force in the world. That is hers, totally and utterly beyond his "doing" reach. He can't buy it. He can't make it. He can't invent it. He can't manipulate it. He can have sex with a woman, whether by chance, or force, or buying it, but, even in relationship, he is utterly helpless in his attempt to make her feel what he wants her to feel when he wants her to feel it. That
is hers and hers alone.

He has no power over it, and yet, it has total power over him. He gives up his power in the face of it every day, in a million ways. The power of a woman's sexuality is as profound and as real and tangible to a man as the power of splitting atoms. It is awesome, irresistible, unstoppable, and can annihilate every other emotion and feeling in his body. It can make him do things that totally override every other sense in his body – self-preservation included.

The woman is in command of the relationship because she is the woman. It's that simple. As the woman, you possess something that is priceless beyond words, is the most important thing in the universe (to a man), and one of the main things he lives for. Only you can give it to him. He needs it, lives for it, breathes for it, and will (in many cases) die for it (or for the lack of it).

What is meant by "IN CHARGE?" Just that. Totally, completely, utterly, absolutely, in control of everything that goes on in the relationship, between the woman and the man.

What does that look like?

If the proper kind and amount of devotion is not paid by the man to the woman's sexuality, she does disservice to both of them. He looses perspective of the rarity, the awesome gift, the inestimable value of what she possesses – and she squanders one of the rarest and most valuable things in the universe in exchange for meaningless, petty, and self-debilitating trivialities. By failing to assume command, no one is in command except the unfulfilled needs of both parties –

--His for sexuality, loving guidance, eternal affection, devotion to another, the need to build palaces, and to change the world.
--Hers for being cherished, worshiped, adored, appreciated, respected, and loved.

It is the woman's responsibility and duty to harness that need /desire and channel it, control it, and use it for loving purposes.Nothing will change his biology. But it is her place and her role –- HER RESPONSIBILITY -- to harness that biology for their mutual growth, loving, joining, and direction. It is her responsibility and obligation to use these tools and this natural symbiosis appropriately, powerfully, confidently, and productively. If she gets lazy, he looses direction. They loose their natural relationship to each other. It is both great benefit to her and great responsibility that she takes this role. She gets everything she wants. He gets to give her everything she wants. And in return, he gets his deepest, most powerful needs (loosely described as "Hot Sex 24-hours-a-day") met in the giving.

Without this relationship of command, she is forever insecure, totally dependent upon others to reassure her that she has worth – That she is pretty enough. That she compares favorably. That she's smart enough. That she doesn't look fat in those jeans. She, too, is guideless, rudderless, aimless – seeking scrapes of what the command relationship inherently provides her, but without any of the fulfillment, security, or long-term satisfaction – in other words, she is dependant upon others for what is her own natural birthright. By failing to take control she is controlled, and poorly so.

The unconscious woman believes that she must submit – must "give" her sex to satisfy the needs of the man. This is exactly wrong. It is not enough for her to "give" him her sexuality. To let him take what he needs. To make sure he is "taken care of" by letting him get the sex he so compellingly needs and seems to be so obsessed about. This is the mistake virtually all women make. She believes that if she gives him what he wants (sex), he will do the same for her (security, home, family, etc.). This is a profound error.

Giving him what he wants in this way elevates his pleasure above hers. It means he gets something without the proper honoring, without the proper earning of it. This makes the man lazy, selfish, distorted. He looses his appreciation and gratitude, and instead gains a false belief that he is "entitled" to her sexuality; that she is obligated to satisfy his needs. This, in turn, can only lead to resentment, disappointment, and self-justifying rationales for going outside the relationship to get what he perceives she is "withholding" from him. Or, staying in the confines of the resented relationship dynamic and being miserable.

According to today's norms, the guy ALWAYS gets off. And the woman is left with infrequent, indeed, rare, satisfaction. This is actually a complete distortion of the true entitlements of the man and the woman. Contrary to "norm," in this world, HIS pleasure is secondary. HER pleasure is not only primary, it is supreme. In this natural order,

--►THERE ARE NO POOR LOVERS ◄--
--► THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "BAD SEX"◄--

She has trained him to please her in exactly the ways that work for her. He has learned utmost patience. She is totally in control and he dare not rush or push or leave her pleasure behind. If he does, she stops and redirects his attentions in the proper way.

"If you want access to my body, you do it my way. No exceptions. If you please me in all the right ways, you will get access. On occasion, it pleases me to give you total access. But you will learn that my pleasure controls everything that happens."

Whether or not he is given release is totally within her control. Each couple must settle on ways of enforcing her control (a decision that ultimately is hers to make, and if the man is lucky, he has chosen a wise and loving partner to whom he has given this power). But, because she TOTALLY CONTROLS the keys to his sexuality, she is NEVER unsatisfied. It is always done HER WAY, to HER pleasure. If something isn't working, she directs the changes, whether it be to direct to him to do something other than what he is doing, or simply to opt for something else, like having him give her a relaxing bath or a massage.

When the entirety of his sexuality is given over to the control of the woman, -- he KNOWS that his entire sexual fulfillment is totally in the hands of another. Every interaction, if not completely pleasing to her, may lead to a lessening or restriction of the next time he needs – with all his being – that secret place and those secret gifts that only this woman can give to him. The conscious woman totally controls his needs, and he, 100% of the time (without exception), submits to her wishes. Though this statement is counterintuitive and goes against everything you know and have experienced, the truth is, if the woman meets his needs for conscious sexuality, he is fulfilled to the depth of his core.

She never looks at his longing for her sex as a disappointment or with resentment. On the contrary – that incessant and unquenchable need of his is how she controls him and keeps him productive for her. "He just wants me for my body," stated with derisive offense, is a total distortion and misunderstanding. Yes, it's true. He utterly cannot help wanting and needing her body. Never-ending. Never tiring. Never enough. He is utterly dependant upon her in this way. That is his nature by design. She would no sooner resent his need and dependency upon her sexuality than she would resent a magic ring that gave her everything she wished for.

He, so overwhelmed by the effects of his hormones, and by the control of that heightened state that his woman keeps him in, is, sexually, for her, a puppy dog, eagerly awaiting the slightest hint of sexual attention, 24-hours-a-day. Always on. Always ready. Always eager. She needs to use him regularly, in ways that take advantage of this part of his nature. When this relationship is properly established, the use of him is only limitedly sexual (sex is never a burden for her), because everything he does for her becomes "sexual." Grocery shopping becomes for him a sexual act when she commands him to do so from the authority of her sexuality. His chores, his work, his paying for their lifestyle, ALL is sexual to him when the woman has assumed command of him through her sexuality. If she were to use him in this way, to command him fully, he would be hers completely. There would be nothing that he could refuse her. And this, in his deepest places, is what he has longed for and fantasized about his whole life – A WOMAN WHO IS 100% SEXUAL WITH HIM.

Doesn't this relationship emasculate the man? Not in the least, and quite the contrary. Because he is so powerfully motivated to achieve under her loving guidance, he is actually more powerful, more directed, more capable, more effective. Out in the world he is a stallion -- powerful, dominant, influential, authoritative. He rules in this world, ruled only by one other – her – and only in the private sanctity of their relationship. It makes him less self-centered, more humble, and more real in his business dealings out in the world. Incredibly focused, and motivated, he achieves every goal for their relationship because it is so dear to him. To support his woman so fully, so that she can give to him in the ways she does, he will move a continent. Powerfully motivated to fulfill his own destiny in the world, when backed by the
loving guidance and nurturing of the woman who loves him, and who fulfills his deepest, most primal needs, he is literally unstoppable.

The nature of man is essentially to go out and do and achieve. But, without the woman in his life, this doing and achieving is directionless. Without direction he may seek power. But there is no end to power and he is ultimately unhappy. He may seek money, but there is no end to money, and he ultimately cannot make enough to fill the void and make him happy. Directionless achievement gets men into trouble – wars, conflicts, power grabs, waste, ego aggression, environmental destruction. Stuff for stuff's sake, regardless of the cost to himself or anyone else. He cannot find his true happiness in empty pursuit of any of these objectives. He lacks the balance of the loving female authority to bring into harmony these drives, and focus them for the benefit of the long term needs of the union, which is where this energy is all supposed to go.

Aimless and directionless, he compensates for what is lacking in his undirected pursuit of soulless goals in unhealthy indulgences. Eating, drinking, smoking, unhealthy weight and lack of exercise. He doesn't know any better, and it's really not his place to know better. His health and fitness, is, however, essential to HER needs and preferences. Under her loving guidance and authority, and because this is always an important consideration of hers, he is fit and healthy, so as to better fulfill her needs, and ultimately, the needs of the relationship. In this type of relationship, the woman holds and wields real tools that powerfully motivate him to achieve the needs of the relationship as she sees them and needs them, including his health. If drugs, alcohol, and a sedentary lifestyle are not within her picture of what their relationship should look like, there is little room for their tolerance, and great latitude for the means she has to enforce their absence.

If she were to wake him up in the morning with a suggestion and a tease. . . If she were to nonchalantly leave an image burned in his mind of her beauty just before he went out the door, in ways she knows make his heart beat uncontrollably. If she were to send him off to work with a provocative note with instructions to open at a certain hour during his work day . . . If that note, when opened, were to contain her idle and amused thoughts for her plans for that evening, or perhaps some instructions for him on his way home. . . If she were to call him during the day, to remind him of her plans, to totally distract his every thought for the last part of his day . . . That man would could not be but totally captivated by the net she spun, he as a willing victim and accomplice. So, seriously, would that man stop on his way home for a beer? Would there be ANYTHING that could keep him from coming home to this woman who excites him more than anyone he could ever have imagined he could be with?

This is why she MUST be beautiful to her utmost. (I hate to interrupt the flow here, but this is most important -BEAUTIFUL in HIS eyes. Every man is different, and every man has his own inner sense and inner wiring of what moves him to that place of awe and beauty in a woman. The differences and variations that exist in the physical appearances, and the physical preferences of both men and women cannot be overstated. I believe that EVERY man and EVERY woman has and can find their ideal match out there.)

So, to return: This is why SHE ►MUST◄ BE BEAUTIFUL TO HER UTMOST.

Her looks, her powerful sensuality, her most provocatively sexually appealing appearance, taking advantage of a man's visual vulnerabilities (the places that connect his eyes to his cock without any routing through the brain) ---- this is how she retains her utter command over him.

This is how and why it is vital for HER to stay healthy, fit, and in shape. It is essential to the early stages of the relationship for her establishment of her authority over him (men naturally being highly visual creatures) that she retain and maintain the physical characteristics of beauty that so trigger him. Over-eating, drinking, smoking, unhealthy weight, and lack of exercise have no place here either, if she is to retain her authority. To the extent that SHE allows laziness to enter into her own physical appearance and being, SHE is disrespecting what the man is giving to her, and why he is giving it. She harms the relationship dynamic when she slacks off on what is one of her key contributions to this heightened relationship state.

In the later stages of the relationship, as the couple ages, visual factors become less critical, though they are still important. The man will be powerfully triggered by the visual for his entire life, but love, trust, and respect inevitably become deeper places from which the couple draw to keep their connection dynamic and exciting. Though the visuals may change, the healthy lifestyle habits the couple implements from the beginning never diminish in importance.

She wears sexy underwear for him, not because "he likes it," but because he is UTTERLY UNABLE NOT TO LIKE IT. She does it not to please him, but to own that part of him -- to reassert her ownership every time she shows him, however blatantly or discretely, her pretty little panties. She wears beautiful clothes not for his pleasure, but because they are the crown and scepter of her royal status over him.

Like the soldier wears the uniform – each article of the uniform being a completely essential component in order to accomplish the job, her every sexy accoutrement, the sexy panties, stockings, jewelry, are her tools for her command of him. They serve a definite purpose and are totally utilitarian – they arouse him into the state where he can resist nothing she asks. If she wants something and he resists, she takes her clothes off. The authority of her nakedness in her beauty is absolute. He can now resist nothing. (This description is by way of example – every man and every woman will have their own triggers for arousal.)

When they go out, she dresses to show her body, in ways that are specifically arousing for him. This is how he is in thrall to her outside their home. She doesn't do it to show herself off to others. She doesn't do it for them at all. She does it because this is how she owns her man, stakes her claim over him, proclaims to the world that he is hers. She dresses provocatively because these are her tools in trade, by which she asserts her control over him.

A strategically positioned body reveals to him places that he knows, and she knows, own him. Any opportunity missed to show him these special places that have such power over him is a missed opportunity to strengthen the bond that holds him to her. The amusing thing is there is no such thing as too much power over him. He never tires of every act of her sexual ownership of him, no matter how small, no matter how many times repeated – he is built that way, to respond to her sexual enticements, over and over again, into infinity. It is in his DNA / in his deep uncontrollable unconscious - that he cannot ignore / he cannot fail to succumb to, every single demonstration of her beauty's natural power over him. Does she dress to be comfortable? Or does she dress so that, at any time she pleases, she may command him to give her a two-hour massage? A command to which he will lovingly, gratefully, eagerly comply.

Every article of clothing has relevance to him. When he is in a state of controlled arousal, he utterly notices everything she wears, wonders compulsively about what he cannot see, and is profoundly excited by the knowing that she consciously dresses with this control in mind. She always dresses consciously. She should never wear anything in the relationship without calculating the sexual effect upon her man. Every article of clothing (both seen and unseen) has powerful significance for him, every day, every time. So it should for her, too. The only time sweatpants / sweatshirt should ever be worn, is as a specific punishment for the man.

Every man has some secret, hidden weakness – some part of her body or some kind of need that is his secret, most deepest place. Some action, or some access, perhaps some ritual, that makes him weak, makes him totally vulnerable, that he has no ability to resist – this she shamelessly exploits. She uses this need of his to establish and reestablish and remind him, over and over again, who is in control. He NEEDS her to do this. That is why it is his weakness. The truth is, it is his most powerful and deepest fantasy that the woman, who, of course, forces him to divulge this deep dark secret from his places of
darkness, will exploit this weakness in him, will use it, will mercilessly exploit it over him – it is simultaneously his terror and his deepest wish. When he tells her what it is, (when she assumes control in the relationship, he has no more secrets), when she uses it over him, he knows he has given up any ability to say no to this woman. But this is only true IF she ruthlessly exploits it. He has given her the power over him. It only stays a power and only for so long as it is used and exploited. For deep psychological reasons, he NEEDS to experience his weakness as a weakness that someone LOVING
will exploit over him.

The reasons are complex, and deeply entangled in the deepest recesses of his unconscious, but, in a nutshell, the following digression illustrates why this is so. The emotional, physical and psychological body is always striving towards healing. Trauma, whether early or late in life, is always seeking some release, or, if release is not possible, then a rebalancing – some way to make what happened ok. Sexuality is one of the most potent emotional / physical / psychological forces in our being, and it is often through sexuality that the unconscious seeks a rebalancing of some of our deepest and most painful traumas. A way to make that early trauma, if not disappear, than at least be experienced as 'acceptable' is to sexualize it. And so, through a 'recreation' of the trauma (and it may look nothing like the original trauma to our conscious mind, a trauma probably long forgotten by the individual in any case), with, or by, or through another person (and this part is critical) ---whom we know "loves" us -- we reenact the original trauma in a way that makes it somehow ok. It even becomes sexually exciting. And this sexualization of the trauma will be repeated over and over and over again, until it is healed. His weakness is out of his trauma – but healing comes when that weakness is (counter intuitively) exploited by one who loves him.

And so, she seduces him. She uses his attraction to her beauty, her physicality, her sexuality. She exploits the weaknesses that he has given her the keys to. Relentlessly. Ruthlessly. Every day. With her clothing, with her sexuality, with her body, with her knowledge, with her off-hand, seemingly innocent comments, with hints and innuendos, she pulls him ever deeper into her, in every way. He is helpless, and he loves it.

Keeping him in a heightened state of arousal serves many purposes.

First, when he is in a heightened state, he is in a state of perpetual courtship – of amorous pursuit. He is wooing the woman from whom he seeks favors, and this energetic interjection into the relationship keeps things fresh, exciting, and always appreciated.

Second, it makes EVERY interaction in the relationship, whether or not sexual – sexual. The sexual charge permeates all of their interactions, whether it be planning trips, making meals, or taking out the garbage. This, too, keeps things exciting.

Third, it is easier for her control. It is less work. It leaves him vulnerable -- always -- to her state, completely dependant upon her wishes and desires as to when and how to grant him further access to what she holds and represent for him. It means a single word or even a specific look can trigger in him the most profound arousal.


And here is the more important part of this whole lengthy post:
A woman who is totally supported to be who she is;
who is totally loved;
who is totally secure;
who is totally in touch with her own needs, her own sexuality, and her own body;
who is self-aware, self-confident, and self-assured;
who has no inhibitions over either fully giving or fully receiving pleasure;
-------- very few men on this planet have ever experienced such a woman. Or the profound depths of giving that such a woman who is "full" in this way is capable of giving. And, once experienced, the man who receives from this woman will NEVER seek anything (or anyone) else.

When she does give to him, she gives to him totally. What she gives to him comes totally from love, with nothing held back. She gives out of her own appreciation of all that this man gives her. When she is full, she shares immeasurably. She is incapable of anything else. She gives him her body in deep ways, and the rarity of such incomprehensible takings / giftings of pleasure only make him love her more. That is his reward for his giving his life to fulfill hers.

And that is what makes all of this worth it.


And, so, which of the two sounds more like you?

I have to get up and go to work today. I have to work because it pays the bills because that lets me do the things I really want to do. If I don't work, I won't be able to keep my nice place and I won't be able to go on my vacation this year. I do have some free time, which is on the weekends, but, because I have this intense job, I'm so tired when I get home that I can barely . . .

or

I have two jobs, today. The first is what I do in the world outside of my relationship that I find fulfilling. I do it because I choose to, and I can do it because I am totally supported by this man who worships me. My second job today is to make myself beautiful. And, to give some thought to new ways to find pleasure in my relationship. To be creative in sending unmistakable messages to my man, letting him know that I'm thinking about him. That he is pleasing me by supportingour lifestyle in this way. But letting him know that he has got to please me in other ways too. Maybe I'll go shopping for some new toys today, or an outfit that will drive him to distraction. I will show him that his hard work is making me happy. He will know how happy I am in my life, when he experiences what I choose to do with him this evening. When I hint to him about what I have been thinking about for our weekend. That he supports me so totally without any resentment issuch an amazing thing, and it takes a bit of work and planning and thought on my part, but all of that work and planning and thought pays dividends in strengthening this relationship, and, I have to say, that work and planning and thought is rather fun. All that he gives me, all that he does to support this incredible lifestyle, all that he lets me do and be whatever I choose, he knows, comes back to him in spades, in just the way he most wishes it would come back to him. He has made me
fulfilled in my every desire, and so I fulfill his one most profound desire. How could life be more perfect?

Which of these women would you rather be?

This post describes a method to keep your relationship hot, sexually-charged, and exciting -- 24/7. It requires a lot of work by both parties, but the return on the investment to the relationship and to both parties individually is 100-fold. By both parties willingly entering into this dynamic, the man gets what he wants above everything else– a woman who is hot, sexy, and sexual with him ALL OF THE TIME. The woman gets what she wants above everything else → "everything else." Even though it may not look like it, THIS IS AN EQUAL TRADE. The woman must work equally as hard as the man to make this work. They both have to make a huge commitment to each other. The benefits paid out, though vastly different in character, are actually equal for both parties. The description above presents an "ideal" – but one that is achievablefor the right couple willing to open to new ways of perceiving and acting in their relationship.

POWER OF THE PUSSY  12

I held my cock for some time. It shrank a bit but my thoughts were racing. Like every woman I had ever been with came blasting back across my mind. But this time it was not just remembering the moment, that time when I exploded, but, no, it was like slow motion. I saw their eyes. Their eyes talked to me. Welcomed me. Even women who I didn’t do right by, that didn’t come up. But that’s something I caught onto after. As I recall, I began to feel a chill. Again, I thought it was all over. I was just a bit pissed when I started to stroke and though I was flaccid it all started to come again. This time I wasn’t thinking about them. It seemed to rise on its own. I stroked it and I began to feel it. Feel it as a part of myself. Feel it as part of me which I could look at and talk about. Does that sound funny.You know there are times when you look at your hand. Hold it up in the sunlight. Look at it as if it’s a separate thing. Alive and not part of you. The same with my feet. But I’ve never done that with my cock. Even though I touch it so many times during the day when I pee, I just never let it be thought about. Just zip and pull out, then shake and slip back in. Then back to work. Now, I was feeling its power.The power of the pussy!

Its all about the pussy! Right..? In the end, it is what counts. To get the pussy. Pussy right? Well .. For a man it's very important to get the pussy. Everything we do in this world comes down to one thing. To get pussy. And the pussy knows this. Because a pussy can make you feel like a million dollar. Pussy is nice, I like pussy. So treat pussy with respect. But the pussy dont like a pussy, so you should not be a pussy. A pussy can give life, respect the pussy. A pussy can have lots of hair, so shave the pussy, if the pussy wants to be shaved. A pussy can smell bad, so shower the pussy. A pussy is beautiful .. And it is the gateway to the heavens. All hail the pussy .. The pussy does not need to be over protected by a horny hot dog the pussy knows very well how to protect them self. Do not underestimate the power of the pussy.





POWER OF THE PUSSY 14: THE POWER OF THE PUSSY ( IS A MYTH): TAKING THE POWER BACK



Dinner now for two is $30, movie for two is $20

And all you get is a hug good-bye. Not me.

Would you invest in a business that has 70% failure rate, 70-80% of the investors are disappointed on the return of their investment and 60-70% of the investor openly admitting to cheat on their business partner. So many men make themselves weak for the PY.

Realize this..You don't need to get married to have sex, closeness or even being part of family. You can get married anytime and have kids anytime. Woman can't. They have a limited amount of time to have kids, and a limited amount of time before they lose their attractive value.

With time...the value of men and woman are different. Men increase in value in the social market while woman decrease in value in the social market. Don't believe me? Huh? I once saw a show on Bravo called "Bond Girls"...They interviewed most of the woman who starred in the James Bond movies. If you compare how they were before (slim, beautiful, attractive) and come to them now (overweight, old) Most woman will lose their product value...Meaning attractiveness.

Just like business...Don't throw good money after bad into a failing business. If a woman doesn't appreciate or noticed the things you do for them...Move on. Most woman expect the man to handle all the work while they can focus on having a good time and not be responsible for any consequence. Don't for for this behavior either. The average length of a relationship that most woman with jerk is about 2-3 years. The average length of a relationship with a nice guys ..is 1-2 dates. Woman will tell you all day about the qualities they want in a guy, yet they never go out and have fun with someone that meets their description. You should have as much faith and trust in the ideas that woman tell you they are "going to do" or "intended to do" as you would the driver in front of you who seems to be going around the world to the left.

Give only to woman that not only strongly need what you have to offer, but more importantly APPRECIATE WHATEVER EFFORT you put in and recognize that you really went out of your way. If you are with someone that does not appreciate you -DUMP HER. That fact is that there are 3 billion woman on this planet and most of them will never even the opportunity to meet you personally.

Are you crazy enough to pay an inflated premium price for a depreciating product that is selling at its all time high, and sold to you from a manipulative saleperson who wanted you to sigh a contract stating that if you ever decide to default, it would cost you half of your assets and a garnishment of your income for years to come.

When are men at their most vulnerable point in their life and really need someone to believe in them? The answer is between the age of 20-30 as they are just starting a new career that they have been preparing for years. That is exactly the same time frame that woman are pitching their products in order to get what they want.

Men buy into physically attractive depreciating woman at their all time beauty high (24-30 years old) after they have had fun with jerks and offered much lower prices for more, emotional, mental, and sexual service in the past. Woman buy into financially appreciating men at their all time financial low---What a geat deal!

Hell, forget about impressing their parents with where you work and what your father does for a living because they are the ones with their biological clocks ticking. They are the one that need to find a buyer for their product and it is them against the clock. Not us. The price of woman drop substantially around the age of 30 because woman are more open and willing to give you a great deal on their product, the same way a used car saleperson is trying to unload this year's model because next year's new and improved models with more sleek look and sexier appeal

You should be acting like you are doing her a favor and you are going out with her the same way a businessman would treat the saleperson that is trying to sell him something expensive that he could buy from anybody else in the industry. Remember she is selling you on her product and you must gain her respect by saying NO to more of her ideas than you are saying YES.

You should be complaining how her social service and attention you are receiving from her by pointing out ways she can improve the relationship. I have come to the conclusion that dating and marriage over the long term are more expensive than prostitution. I don't condone prostitution, financially speaking, prostitution is cheaper. Let take a look:

10 years of marriage with average couple having sex twice per week ( i am being generous here)

2 X 52 weeks per year X 10 yrs= 1,040 sexual encounter

Financially cost of another person for 10 years= 444,000 (vacations, meals,shelter, car, insurance, ect.)

440,000/1,040= $423 per sexual encounter.

So many woman use sex to meet their need, desire and wish. The truth is ...she should be selling her product, not the other way around. Don't give a woman free credit and trusting her too soon in the relationship and volunteering to become her slave for any work she needs to have completed that is interfering with her having a good time today. The girl links up in her mind that if she did nothing and got reward for it, why bother changing her strategy and invest any emotions if she gets it all for free. Remember you have value. If you have to continuously sell yourself on why you should be together, you are doing the both of you a disservice by creating the same cheap feeling people received when they heard the pitch from a hungry salesperson.. You are like a Ferri or Lamborghini in the social market place. In business..if you are not taking care of your clients, then somebody else is. Woman should be taking care of you. And you should expect it to be honest...but you have to know what you want. Would you ever go into a restaurant, sit down and expect them to feed you exactly what you wanted without you even placing an order? Or go in and say, "I'll have whatever" and actually look surprised when "whatever" comes your way? You should have expectation of what you want a woman to do for you...Don't rely on her to know exactly what you want, need, and desire and wish.

Don't accept her bitching either. If she wants to continuously bitch about her family, friends, or broken nail, then do yourself a favor and leave now. if they are interested in complaining and bitching, then let them find a therapist or a nice guy to listen to them because he has nothing better to do. He will probably think she has interest in him, and there might be sex later if he just provide good listening skills now.

Woman love to test guys and see just how far they can push them. They are going to dish out as much crap as you can tolerate to see what it takes to get you mad. The next time you feel that you are being put through this test, wake up and remind yourself that this is America and there are plenty of choices available to you. In other words, YOU DON"T HAVE TO TAKE IT.

The reason why guys get pussy whipped and I was there myself one time...is because a woman constantly complains and criticizes while the guy is busy trying to make her shut up by running around and meeting her every want, wish, need and desire. The guy actually feels that if he does as he is told and carries out her wish as his command, there might be sex later and he could be involved. He doesn't even question what actions she wants him to do for her as long as she doesn't start bitching and the options of sex later remains open.

One thing I know about woman is this: WOMAN LIKE EXPENSIVE THINGS ON SALE

Think of yourself as a product. What kind of price do you have for yourself? By price, I mean your level of self-respect that you have for yourself and what you expect people to pay out (emotionally, mentally, socially, financially, and sexually) in order to afford you. If you have a high level of self-respect them most people will automatically treat you with a high level of respect as well. Most guys are too good a quality for their discounted price and as a result any girl can afford them. In a woman's mind you will become low cost, low maintenance, low impact, and low value in a girl's mind. Most men thing they are doing them a favor by keeping their price so low because they know woman like things on sale. Remember..Woman like expensive things on sale. What makes people willing to buy expensive product if they are completely aware of cheaper ones?...The answer is IMAGE...Perceived value. What the customer thinks it's worth is much more valuable than what it is really worth.


Here is the difference between nice guy and bad guy:

Nice guy: believes that he needs a woman to make his life complete
Right guy: not hungry and doesn't need her for anything

Nice guy:convinced that the woman is the best he has ever gone out with
Right guy: he had better

There are two types of woman in this world:

-Premiums:over-priced woman that walk around with their nose up in the air and expect everyone to kiss their ass. They have an attitude, a highly inflated price and high maintenance because all thief life people have been handling them compliments.
-Discount: have not been compliment enough.

Beauty is a leading indicator to whether a woman is a Premium or Discount.


Regardless if you are a man or a woman, I believe that we all want and desire the same thing from relationships---Memorable moments.We all want to have fun and exciting stories to tell our grandchildren, yet most people spend the majority of their time planning their life and forgetting about the moment they are in. These are the same people that come to the end of their life and say: I wish...Listen I want to get married and have kids and be in a great relationship, but I have to tell you the social market sucks. A lot of woman are just plain nasty and stuck up. They think their pussy is like gold and it isn't at all. They expect the guy to do everything and pay for everything and that is totally wrong. Most woman want the man to pursue them but it should be both. I want to awaken my fellow male to wake up. The power of the pussy is the power you give to them because of your perception. Take back the power now and be happy.



PART 15-  LOVE AND JEALOUSY AND THE PUSSY

If you were to go about your friends and ask the question, "Do you think jealousy is a sign of devoted love or hidden insecurity?" you would receive some interesting answers in return. First we'll examine a few other principles behind love in order to put this question into it's proper perspective.

The first thing we must look at is the element of 'freewill choice'. What makes 'actual' love such a special event in our lives is that it is given to us as the result of a freewill choice by another person. I make the distinction here between 'actual' love and 'compulsory' love, which is not real love at all. When love is compulsory it is given not because of a choice by the one giving so much as it is given because they have been manipulated or forced into such a situation. The man who keeps the devotion of a woman by convincing her she is of no worth without him does not have the 'actual' love of that woman. He only has the type of devotion that comes by way of verbal duress or fear.

So when someone we meet spends time with us and, under no requirement whatsoever, chooses to love us of their own free will it is something that happens outside of our own control. We can do many things to encourage someone to love us, but we can never actually require or force someone to give us actual love. For if we do then love is no longer love but rather nothing more than enslavement.

The second thing we will bring to light, before returning to the issue of jealousy, is that of 'Exclusiveness'. We have many relationships in life. We have relationships known as friendships, associates, acquaintance, etceteras. Of all these relationships the one thing they hold in common is that they are 'non-exclusive'. We will have not just one friend, but several friends. We are not limited to one family relationship, but many family relationships. Perhaps we have as many as three best-friends, but we are not required to be exclusive if we desire to have a fourth best-friend. However, when speaking of a mate in life, we are now bringing in what I have always referred to as an "Exclusive Relationship".

I have always made a point upon beginning an actual 'relationship' to let the person know what I mean by being 'exclusive' in our new status. There is dating which may be with several different people throughout the month when not in an exclusive relationship. But upon beginning an actual exclusive relationship it becomes clear that the desire for close, intimate, supportive company from the opposite sex will now be 'exclusive' to one person in particular so as to build the relationship with them in priority above all others. It does not mean we forsake all others out of our lives, it only means that when we desire the closeness of a loving, long-term relationship, we turn exclusively to that one person.

So now we return to the issue of jealousy. Let's say we have a couple named Bill and Mary. Bill and Mary have fallen in love. Each one freely making the decision to exclude all others from this special, one-on-one relationship of love they now share between them. They are not merely dating, they have entered into an 'exclusive relationship'. Now we will see under what conditions jealousy can arise and whether it stems from virtue or vice.

Bill gets off work early and decides to stop by Mary's workplace hoping to meet her at her lunch break. He enters the cafeteria where he finds Mary sitting at a table with a male co-worker discussing a bit of business and general conversation. Bill would have opportunity at this point to become enraged with jealousy. However, he would have no right to be. The exclusiveness of his relationship relates to the fact that he has promised not to bring any other woman into his life with the same intimacy (physically or emotionally) as he has vowed to Mary. It is the same with Mary. But Mary has not violated this exclusive status by merely having conversation with a friend or co-worker of the opposite sex. It is no more a violation of their relationship than for her to maintain her relationship with her brother or best-friend. If Bill understands this he will not see the need for jealousy and all is well. If he does not understand this and instead believes she must exclude 'all' men from her life, then he will be in error to fall prey to jealousy under such a presumption.

Now let's go to a different scenario. Bill gets off work early and decides to go straight home. Upon walking into his living room he finds Mary cuddled up in the arms of another man, drinking wine and exchanging kisses. Once again Bill finds himself opportune to jealousy. The behavior Mary is exhibiting with this other man has now breached the limits of what had been previously promised exclusively to the relationship between Mary and himself. She has gone beyond friendship, which is non-exclusive, and now endeared closely to herself another man to know the intimacy that was only meant to be shared exclusively between her and Bill. In this case Bill's response of jealousy within himself is justified. I will make note, however, that because Bill's response of jealousy is justified it does not bring with it impunity to then carry out acts of violence or hatred arising from jealousy. Bill still has the responsibility to contain his jealousy and deal with the situation at hand in a mature manner.

This brings us back to the issue of 'freewill'. It must always be remembered that while in a loving relationship we receive the love of the person we are with because they freely choose to give us that love. This is much of what gives it its value. And likewise, when the person we love has made a conscious decision to cease in their love for us and choose instead to grant that love to someone else, we do the situation well to respect the decision our former mate has made. This is hard because we ourselves do not wish to see the end of the love that has been known up to this point. But to chase after a person who chooses not to love us anymore can be very futile and heart-wrenching. I believe it is good to try to appeal to them to see if any love remains that might bring them out of the often manic state of mind that can induce such radical behavior. But even then one can only hope that it will turn their heart for so long. When someone has made an acute, ongoing decision to either cease loving or begin loving another person such appeals often fall upon deaf ears.

Misplaced jealousy, as in our first scenario, has ruined many otherwise good relationships. Eventually a person feels isolated from all others of the opposite sex and loses what friendships or acquaintances they had in order to stay within the critically watchful eye of their mate. I have seen this lead to causing a person to one day shrug off the false accusations in exchange for actual ones by persuing an affair with someone who is not so critical and jealous. In this instance the mate actually helped induce the very thing they were afraid of.

It is also possible, as in our second situation, where the failure to rise and make a noise about instances of the exclusive relationship being infringed upon that affairs have occurred practically in front of the mate's presence instead of being brought to a halt at the outset. Here it is not a restriction of freedom that destroys the relationship but rather the allowance of infringement upon what is meant to be exclusive that causes the erosion of an otherwise good relationship.

And so it is we should always be ever thankful to our mate for every day they arise and call us their one, devoted, exclusive beloved. It is their choice to do so and we should not take them for granted no matter how much time passes. There is a time to let someone go when they make a decision to leave, and it is a grievous, correct thing to do. But given the explosive nature of jealousy it is best to look at things as they are and handle them with honesty, communication, forbearance and love. For if we let jealousy dictate its presumptuous, suspicious whispers upon us it will surely use the best of our passions to ignite the worst of our behavior.



PART 16:    I LOVE YOUR PY.....I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT IT


I love your pussy

I love you PY

I love everything about it.

I love the look of it.

I love the feel of it.

I love its sweet aroma, floating to meet me when I go to kiss you there. I love its soft heat, drifting across my cheek like warmth from a distant fire. I love the taste of it. I love to kiss it, to press my lips again and again against that soft, warm hair and soft, warm skin.

I love to kiss it. I love to kiss it all.

I love to look at it.

I love to look at it when you stand, the dark hair a mysterious shadow, the top of the fold just peeking through with all its promise. I love it watch it when you walk, the lips moving ever so slightly with every step, or when you turn and bend, baring it like the sweet halves of the sweetest peach. I love to see it when you lie back and shift a bent knee to one side, just enough that the lips part slightly, like a lover's lips inviting a kiss.

I love to kiss it. I love to kiss it all. I love the feel of it against my lips.

I love to touch it. I love to caress it, to caress the tips of its dark hair with the tips of my fingers, to caress it softly, softly, softly and oh, so slowly. I love to open it, to open you, to my gaze and touch and tongue, to tease a single finger along that hidden groove, to gently so gently part the hair with a touch so light it takes your breath away.

I love to stroke it, to palm it, to tease it, massage it, to play with it, to pet it like a favored cat. To hear you purr. I love to hold it all, cupping your lovely woman's cunt in my hand, feeling its heat, the tender skin, the soft luxury of your pubic hair, the whole of it a soft fire against my palm. I love to dip my finger lightly, like a swallow dipping to a pond, to steal the wetness there. I love to tingle upwards along your sweet pussy's lips to lavish that sweet lubricant around your clit and tease it out of hiding. I love to climb that little mountain with a fingertip, lightly, lightly, then to stroke that finger slowly full length along its tiny peak.

I love your pussy

I love your PY

I love everything about it.

I love to look at it. I love to look at it when it's opened. I love its pinks and reds, its silvers and corals. I love the way the colors change with heat, how the hot blood engorges the lips and brightens the reds. I love its hood, sheltering its little monk. I love its entrance. I love its petals. I love its folds. It's a flower, a rose, a lily, an iris, a painting by O'Keefe.

I love to kiss it. I love to kiss it all. I love to rub my cheek against it, to brush the top of my head against it, hair against hair, its scent now my scent. To turn again and kiss it, to nuzzle it, yes, to slither a fingertip along the slit and part the hair, then tickle the lips open with my tongue. I love to spread it wider then, to open it like a rose opens to sun and water, to open it to my loving kisses.

I love your pussy

I love your PY

I love everything about it.

I love its taste. I love to pleasure it, to pleasure you, to make your cunt and its pleasure the center of our universe. Like this. . .

My tongue, just the tip, slides along inner halves of your sweet, sweet peach. It tracks up and up and up to make a circle around your hood, then slides down the length of it with the joy of a child in a park. It runs the ridges of those inner lips, one side then the other, back and forth and up and down. It takes little side trips into the valley below, then circles and slides again and yet again.

That tongue, my tongue, flutters south down your pussy, a butterfly migrating to an exotic tropical home. It finds its destination, a little cavern with its door squeezed tightly shut. It flies about, teasing and flitting all around your pretty anus. Nerve endings light up, come alive. Tiny wet stabs to the opening send little electrical shocks of pleasure through your body. Flutters and flickers and stabs, oh, my, you relax into those exquisite pleasures. I take my time there; it is new to you. You love it. I think I hear you purr.

My tongue drifts back upward, pleasuring the delicate space between your sweet anus and your even sweeter cunt. It reaches that pink palace and pauses to circle around its entrancing door. My thumbs spread the portals; my tongue probes within. I press my mouth to your cunt. I press my tongue inside. It's a short, fat, and oh so nimble penis, this tongue, this tongue in your cunt. It moves in and out, reaching for the interior. It explores the edges, circling and circling and plunging again. My lips cup the whole opening, and rhythmic suction comes into play. Lips and tongue work in unison, lips sucking and tongue fucking that hot cunt, stoking the fire within. The heat builds. Your pussy is so hot, so engorged, so enflamed. The pleasure is unbearable. You have to come, you have to.

Your hands find the back of my head. You pull me tightly against your tight cunt, pressing your desperate pussy's mouth against my mouth. You squeeze your thighs together and thrust your hungry cunt against that probing tongue, squeezing your hot pink lips against my lips, squeezing an orgasm from deep within the high canyon of your cunt. Your pleasure comes as a flash flood in my waiting mouth, a sweet and salty river along my tongue. I drink it in; I probe and thrust and circle and suck.

You thrust back hard. Again you rock your hips and squeeze your thighs and pull my head and press your cunt against my mouth. Another flash flood of pleasure soaks us both. Then again. And yet again. You're riding a wild river of pleasure, a screaming, swirling, dizzying rush through rapids. You shudder with each release, your body twitches in the aftershocks. I feel your cunt spasm, sucking my tongue in deeper. You tremble, relax, the floods subside for the moment. Your thighs part, your hands release my head for the next round of pleasure.

There is a pause; we each catch our breath. Then lips and tongue take a long, slow slide back north. They track along the inner lips, attending to each as they find their way to your yearning clit, hidden, throbbing, anticipating. That equally eager tongue flicks under the hood, finding your clitoris there. You spread your legs wide, spread those upper lips with your own hands. Your clit pops out to play and oh, how we play. My tongue, so smooth and wet and soft and wide, slides full length across your clit then makes the trip again. I flutter the tip against it, fast, fast flutters like a moth caught in your hand. I capture it between my lips, my wet lips that suck your clit like a tiny penis.

Still sucking and licking up above, I tease a finger around your anus, slip it in, slip it out, slip it in again. I slide my thumb into your cunt; thumb and finger, finger and thumb exalt at your openings while my mouth exalts at your engorged clit. One finger, then two, replace the thumb, easing their way into the slickness of your cunt. I slide them in and out, fucking you with my paired fingers. They stretch your pussy open. You groan in pleasured protest, but hold your cunt wide open while I bathe your swollen, aching clit. The fingers curl to caress your G-spot, rubbing and stroking and pressing and stroking some more. And those lips and tongue keep playing their music on your lovely pink flesh like an organist gone mad.

Mouth, hands, hips, tongue, lips, fingers, cunt, clit all play in symphony. You come and come and come.



PART 17-PUSSY: POEM MY FAN SENT ME

My Pussy is a miracle of Nature. My Pussy is
strong. My Pussy is Sensual. My Pussy is a
Life Source. My Pussy is Love, Compassion,
Beauty and Wisdom. My Pussy is one of The
Great Mother's Bodies. My Pussy is of The
Earth. My Pussy is of The Spirit.

My Pussy houses a Beautiful Soul. My Pussy
is Magnificent.

Pussy Don't Fail Me Now!

My quiet vagina is sensitive to my moods
and needs constant communication in
some form or fashion. I give her warm
baths and tell her how sweet silky smooth
she is. When I choose the perfect lingam
to lie inside of my wet cunt I feel her power
envelop my lover and grip his cock and
lock his heart to mine.

Pussy Don't Fail Me Now!

Keep it up pussy...and let that tingling
sensation that takes my breath away flow
from the top of my head down my spine
and into my nipples straight into my clit
slipping into my toes. My great wonderful
cunt keep it coming� keep me coming
and dump all of my sweet smelling juice
all over my lover!




PART 18- PUSSY: THE POWER OF THE PUSSY WRITTEN BY A FAN

The power of the pussy isn't based on whether they get inside a pussy, it's based on whether they think they have a CHANCE to get inside. And giving boys a look at my pussy was my way of reminding them that I had one - right between my legs. It was my way of saying, "Look at what I got. Isn't this what you want? Wouldn't you like to put your hard dick inside it? Who knows? Play your cards right and you just might!" I wasn't even 13 years old yet, and I was learning the theory of pussy power.

I discovered the power of the pussy. I found out that boys - and later, men - will do anything for pussy. Wow! Such power! I could get them to do my bidding if they thought they had a chance of seeing my cunny again. I'd let them buy me candy or sodas or gum or toys. They never asked to see my cunny, it was an unspoken deal. They wanted to see it and I knew it. Lots of times I'd give them a peek, sometimes a long peek, sometimes long enough for them to rub their dicks and shoot off on me again. I enjoyed it as much as they did. But I didn't always give them a show. I didn't reward them all of the time, just enough to satisfy their needs occasionally. Of course, if one of them pissed me off, they weren't ever gonna see my pussy again.the power of the pussy is massive in many situations. It dictates behaviors, can control people, their choices and destiny, and even houses new life and brings forth a new human being. Oh the mysterious power of the pussy lips! .



PART 19-POWER OF THE PUSSY: THE POWER OF THE PY (P***Y)- SOMETHING I WROTE A LONG TIME GO


If I avoid conflict>>>>>she would give me PY
If i hide my flaws>>>>>she would give me PY
If I am great lover>>>>she would give me more PY
If I AM GOOD GUY>>>>SHE WILL GIVE ME PY

Let not tip-toe this topic any longer. Our greatest fear is being alone....no one will love us. We will be old men with no one to love us. And once we get PY from a women...we are convinced that this women who is giving us the PY is the best women we have ever gone out with. We are constantly whip because when a women bitchs we are trying to shut her up by running around and meeting her every want , wish, and need and desire. We do what we are told and carry out her wishes..not because we are nice....let be real now...we carry out her wish as command because there might be sex later and we could be involved. SOME GUYS AREN'T LUCK WITH GENETIC BEAUTY. WOMEN LOVE HOT GUY..WOMEN SLEEP WITH THEM. 10% OF THE GUYS DO GET 90% OF THE PY ( RICH, FAMOUS, OR GOOD LOOKING GUYS) come on..let be honest....here

If we can't be happy now, with what we have and who we are, we will not be happy when we get what we think we want. If you don't know how to full enjoy $500, you won't enjoy 5 million dollars. We nice guy are just not happy with ourself.....maybe we really don't love ourselves...maybe that is the root of the problem. What if even after forming boundary and standing up for ourselves....we still are not happy? We think that PY will make us happy...and it won't....we will just want more...to numb our feeling. TO forget ourselve...for even a brief moment where in the act of sex...we are strong, we are expressing what we want and getting it, we are accepted. It's brief ...that moment of when we are about to cum.....when we are GODs. We can create life...we matter to someone other than ourselves...that we have the power to make a women feel great.

Your loneliness is your Self-wanting to make friends with itself. Your loneliness is your HEART wanting to sing to it. Your loneliness is your BEING wanting to dance with it.

I think we are addicted to sex....we are addicted to the PY. All addiction have on thing in common---they numb you out of what is happening in the moment. When a healthy beautiful women is standing before us giving herself to us they are offering an intense sensory experience which absorb our attention. This sexual experience is actually disconnecting you from your true emtions and our true emtion is that feeling of being defective, of not being good enough. All addicts have that "no one could want them or love then as they are" I'll be okay if i can put my penis in this beautiful women PY. Our neediness is like a toothache and we are searching for the person who will relieve our pain.....we go from one women to the next to the next ...to the next...hoping that we will met one who will be our dentist...who will stop our pain. Our need for PY is insatiable because it really Our need for acceptance. Take it from me....i have been with beautiful women and had a lot of PY and it still was never enough. I do love myself....but i guess the self-love i have is not enough. But you know this need of approval and acceptance and looking for other to care and parent out inner child....we didn't matter to our parent that much (maybe we expect too much from our parent who were are just human being)We must make contact with the hurt and lonely inner child who are abandoned long ago. We must go back and re-experience the emtions that were blocked out lost childhood must be grieved. Children need their pain to be validated....we need our pain to be vaildate....we need a women to sit down and hold us and we must spill our guts to her....to make us feel our feeling and need are validated....that our pain..our toothache does matter. That is what we need to do....COME FACE TO FACE WITH OUR PAIN...TO FEEL IT....but we can't ...we can't...it too painful to feel that we didn;t matter....it too painful to realize that we might not be attractive enough....it too painful to realize that maybe ..maybe they were right...something is missing inside ourself. To face that would mean death to us...........the question i leave in the forum is how ...do we develop the courage to face our biggest fear.......

I realize this morning that the reason we are addicted to the PY is that it might be the only place we have power to feel adequate and superior. Through having power over a women....to make her cum or not ...to make her feel good or bad.....we reverse the role of our childhood. To compensate for the sense of being defective, we need power....that is why we have tendacy for helping and taking care of other....we want them to be in debt to us ...to dependend on us...debt in that they own us their PY for being nice.
As nice guy...we have this idea that everyone must love us...must accept us. This belief is totally disfunctional. Even the president didn't get 100% of the vote...infact..43% is consider as landslide. When a women reject us ...or don't want to be with us...it might have nothing to do with us....but i might be just a perference they have...just like we do.. Some women want tall guy....or muscule men....just like some men want slim women or blond head. Just because i want apple instead of banana...doesn;t mean that banana are defective. How many time have we all reject a women ....for some reason or other....did we consider them to be bad or...we just didn't want to be with them...and move on.
I notice another habit here, If i was so defective...so unlovable...how is it that i had a few women who were in love with me...so much that they wanted to marry me. Isn't that prove that my belief statement is totally wrong. Why would a women love something defective? If i found a defect toy or camera..or car..i wouldn;t want to keep it. But yet ...i don't focus on that..i focus on what i want to believe. I screen the evidence to prove what i want to prove. WE ONLY SEE WHAT WE WANT TO SEE. How can a women truly love me...if i am totally defective...the truth is that i am not defective...i am just a inprefect human being like everyone else. But it is amazing how our belief system ...seek out and find evidence that will prove it point.....even when there is evident that can prove other wise.

To stop being addict to the PY ...we must learn begin with self-acceptance and self-love. Love ourself unconditonally and accept ourselve uncondtionally. If we love ourself, we are willing to delay gratification so that something constructive to our growth. We never believe there is going to be enough. Enough PY....ENough money, enough of anything. I wouldn't delay graticiation because of my shame....because my self didn't trust I could get anymore

We have to give up feeling sorry about ourselves, straining to be someone we are not, hiding the parts of ourself that we fear are unacceptable, and worry about what other might think. We need to forgive ourself and other for not being perfect and stop expection superhuman feats from everyone. We have to learn to accept part of ourself that we have been resenting our entire life. It just so hard...i am so tired...i want to wake up and just not need a women approval anymore ...to be more confident. when will i feel this way?

What's underneath the fear of approaching a women...? A fear of rejection.But, consider this:Most of the women that you're NOT interested in probably aren'tinterested in YOU, either. But you're not hurt by that, are you?Their approval doesn't matter.Why not?
Because their judgment holds NO MEANING for you. You don't need their approval.Rejection is only important to you if you believe you NEED HER APPROVAL. We need her because you think she is beautiful and you want her PY. In your head...not in reality, you are placing high value on her PY.And why would a strange woman who doesn't even KNOW YOU or anything
ABOUT YOU have any ability to judge or grant you approval?
She doesn't that is my point. Her PY is just like the other PY in the world. 

he negative internal dialogue we tell ourselves make us overlook vital information that could otherwise be so powerful. Our data processing center has closed. Suppose you have a converstaion with yourself "I am defective, I am not attractive" and you believe this about yourself. Why would you continue to process data? You might had a beautiful girlfriend that would run counter to your being unattractive or defective, but your data processing window is closed. IT OUR PAIN THAT BLOCK EVERYTHING. WE MUST HEAL OUR PAIN.

When you "really want" something, whether it's pussy or a new car or a new job or a new union - regardless, when you want anything at all, that thing, whatever it is immediately assumes control over you. The more you want it, the more power it ultimately has over you. The false assumption that wanting a woman means the woman has power over him and if he can manage to turn the tables and gain control, he's somehow redeemed, even if he has to consistently devalue the woman in the process...but at the root of the issue, the only thing that has power over him is the beast of his own desire. Goes for everybody, us too. We're all in the same boat on this one.

The more you want it, the more it frustrates you when you can't obtain it. The reason why we will do whatever is because we want pussy...but pussy isn't "evil" and neither is the woman it belongs to. we want a woman and she'll make you do doggie tricks...ergo, the woman is heartless, ironically overlooking the biological fact that the pussy they want FROM the woman is the part that makes them do doggie tricks, like women "wielding the pussy". We simply recognize that our desire is easily controlled. And if you can't control it, It will control us.

Your DESIRE is what gets you wrapped and it's your DESIRE that keeps you wrapped. And TRAPPED. Think about it this way.... I did. The vast majority of women are pretty intimate with their pussy and know what it looks like and cannot really fathom what it is about a couple peices of fatty flesh and a strange alien looking slit that makes us take all leave of our senses and do half the shit we done to get a hold of it.

Some men think that whatever you do for a women is special if you do it from the heart and the fact you simply want to see her smile...but don't make the mistake of thinking she can't get ANYTHING you do or have anywhere else. There's an entire PLANET of men at her fingertips at any given moment, many who will give her so much more than what's within your power. If you think that the orgasms you give her are so astounding no other man could bring her such rapture, then the only fool here is you. Anything else you have can be replaced. Quickly and easily. We nice guy put women on a pediestal, they are no different from you and me. What i am trying to do here is break down our belief system that women are the ultimate validation for approval. They are not...the place to go for that is within our soul. We must more comfortable under our own skin.

The very reason we are enslaved by the *beautiful women*. Sharon Stone, Pam Anderson, Angelina Jolie, all those women with oozing sex appeal and "presence" that blends bad girl with good girl, captivate and enslave yes because they embody our Archetype Ideal...the consumate Perfect Woman. In her you recognize your own Ideal Archetype - and every woman you encounter that radiates some certain qualities of this Ideal Woman, you're drawn to her beyond your best intentions, compelled by her magnetically.

The more integration women obtain, the more you'll just about sell your souls to "obtain" her. And THEREIN lay the root of our fear. THAT is why we completely petrified of these women, somewhere down deep we KNOW she's not supposed to be real, she's fantasy, yet, here she is, sitting among a group of mere mortal women . We're scared to death to walk up to her and "just say hi" because it'll "mortalize" this entire experience - you still wanna hang onto the perfect fantasy woman. Somewhere that trigger goes off that somehow, before it's all said and done, she'll say or do something that will make her just another buttercup and thus lose her magnetic appeal. That fear immobilizes you as much as it electrifies you. You absolutely worship her, you build nations for her, you destroy mankind for her...and to keep her sacred and holy, you'll never *really* marry someone like her because that's surest the way to instantly strip her of her overpowering appeal. You'll marry Suzie Homemaker because she won't destroy any illusions. You know what you're getting.

She is the Ultimate challenge...but once you get her, once you buckle up some nut and just say hi, and she cheerfully returns the greeting, the illusion begins to unravel...which is the part you start lying to yourself all over again about what you want in your heart, just so you can hurry up and bed her down, conquer the daring temptress, capture her like a butterfly and put her in a jar next to all the others. Devalue her for even giving you what you wanted And eventually, she too will lose her magnetic appeal and off you go, roaming the earth until you come across yet another composite of your Ideal Archetype reflected back to you in the sudden gaze of a woman waiting for the taxi...and there ya go again. We aren't afraid of this women once we see she is just human.

Womean are compelled to *fall* for those guys who embody the qualities of their Archetype Ideal...what *WE* mistake for "guys who are jerks" It's not the *jerk* that compels them...it's the essence of the strong, silent, vulnerable, brooding, passionate, smouldering, free spirit some certain guys seem to emanate naturally. When these guys cross their paths, they are just as petrified for the same reasons. He's so...perfect... and he's the one they agonize over...wait by the phone for his calls, spend hours on the phone with their friends talking about him obsessively, he's the one that inspires them to go to the gym, tone up, to broaden their horizons, to go within and understand what's happening inside them, and then how to integrate it all into a balance. HE is the one that makes them spend billions on perfume, makeovers, new clothes, and Light His Fire Weekends.

As for everyone else, they'll forever be compelled by their ideals. THIS is why if we look like Howdy Doody and act like Howie Mandel, and meet a beautiful woman whose Ideal Archetype is along the lines of the Gothic Knight, we will NEVER EVER get her into bed, no matter what we do, no matter how hard we try, unless we can do the work to come as close to the Gothic Knight as we can get away with and still come across as somewhat legitimate. And it's why if a woman looks like Rosanne Barr and acts like Jenny Jones, meets a guy she's creamin over, if his Ideal Archetype is along the lines of Zeena Warrior Princess, she might as well hang it up because he'll NEVER FUCK HER. EVER. Unless she can manage to do the same, which will also entail a kickass weight loss regime.

Here's a little secret you'd do well in comprehending. NEITHER MALE NOR FEMALE WILL EVER MATE WITH ANY OTHER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX WHO DOES NOT EMBODY AT LEAST SOME OF THE IDEAL ARCHETYPE CRITERIA. EVER. PERIOD.

You very well may have met someone you never much considered "ideal" but you got on well with her, had sex with her, and went on about your business. Same went for her. Somewhere, something, however subconscious it may have been to you - and her - reflected back to you at least a portion of your archetype criteria which ignited the physical attraction at all. Nine times out of ten you'd not even realize it nor recognize it or ever worry about it. But that's a simple fact of human nature and part of the biological "selection process" we humans are motivated thru in order to perpetuate the species. Mother nature is pretty adept at creating a natural attraction polarity...keeps the "likes" from breeding with "likes"...we NEED AND REQUIRE this polarity of active and passive, dominant and submissive to perpetuate the species. It's why two men or two women will never produce offspring, and why two individuals of the same physical and psychological type will never be attracted to one another enough to find each other attractive - they're too similar on the wheel. So they won't mate.

when you encounter your "perfect woman", instead of immediately trying to get in her pants, hang back, watch her, observe her, pay attention. Learn what sort of "type" she is, and learn what is her actual Ideal Archetype.If and when you can determine her archetype ideal, look within yourself for your own natural qualities that reflect this ideal. If you don't have any, then start growing them...Feed her the Archetype Ideal she craves...the more of Him you feed her, the more willing she is to do any goddamn thing you want. And it's sooo much more effective than "up and down on a merry go round and come again and again" - which will make her laugh at you for being so unforgivably "original".



I'm gonna give you a totally mundane stereotype to work with, to make it easier to grasp the simplicity of it all. Take the movie Grease...John Travolta, Olivia Newton John. These two charaters, Danny and Sandy represent a typical archetype ideal "stereotype" pair - the good girl and the bad boy. It's classic, universal and immediately recognizeable.

In real life, Danny the bad boy is indulging his ego in slut city. Meanwhile, good girl Sandy is whiling away her time doing tea with good wholesome boys. Both are fundamentally unfulfilled...because they're compelled by their Archetype Ideals but surrounded by their same types on the wheel. They just are completely oblivious to the fact - let alone what those Archetype Ideals even are.

One day their paths cross...they are compelled to each other despite all their best intentions. He's drawn to her wholesome innocence, she's drawn to his liberated spirit and rebellious nature. They have a really sweet little thang, but unfortunately, they're both still hungry for the Archetype Ideals. The magnetism is very much a reality because each is reflecting back - feeding each other - certain qualities of this AI but neither is all that conscious of it...and as it stands, they cannot seem to make a solid love connection because they are pulled by circumstance.

Sandy erroneously thinks that getting his attention means she has to be a bad girl, since these are women he tends to go for, and Danny erroneously thinks that in order to impress her he needs to be a good guy jock, since these are like the guys closest to her, "ergo" this must be the kind of guy she "goes for" or "prefers". And essentially, all they did was "trade places" or transfer archetype ideals...or, projection, if that one's easier.

She vamps out in black leather and he's tripping out and dropping to his knees like a sex starved hound dog. The reason he gets all goofy is because this was a full composite of his AI...the good girl - bad girl. She's more or less unimpressed whether he's a jock or not - she's still inherantly female and KNOWS that it was his spirit, his nature, his essence (dominance) she was drawn to...not how many letters he got. (Which is where guys miss the boat all over the place).

In real life, they wouldn't because of the projection of the ideals. She's still a good girl. And he's still a bad boy. And as long as each of them tried to "become one another" they'll end up fundamentally unfulfilled because they'll cancel each other out. Say for example, she might be dolled up like Vikki Vixen and he might be prepped out like Skip the Dip, but it's superficial. Naturally they balance each other out, she's good, he's bad, he gives her the means to let go and indulge, and she provides him with the substance and goodness, each need to maintain the balance...and they manifest enough of a physical and chemical polarity that fuels the desire and attraction, which, according to the laws of nature and the selection process, is naturally supposed to lead to mating, which leads to procreation, which leads to perpetuation of Life. Which is the point.




PART 20 PUSSY: THE LADDER OF SUCCESS, LOVE, PY AND THE AMERICAN WAY

THE LADDER OF SUCCESS, LOVE, PY AND THE AMERICAN WAY

Before we get to the core of the ladder theory let's introduce a few lemmas.

Lemma 1:Every time you meet someone you give them a quick mental rating. Just how this is done is based on your sex, like so:



It should be noted that this is not an entirely conscious process. To make it clear here's an illustrative example of what really happens:

• Bob Meets Jane
• Then Bob Meets Connie

Now the ladder theory description goes like this:
1. Bob Meets Jane
2. Bob sizes her up based on the above criterion
3. Bob puts her on the ladder
4. Bob meets Connie
5. Bob sizes her up based on the above criterion
6. Bob puts her on the ladder above Jane

You can recognize this has gone on because Bob says " I'd like to fuck Jane, but not as much as I want to fuck Connie"

I think that everyone has heard this or something like it enough times for us to accept it as axiomatic and move on. You might be thinking, " Well what about Jane and Connie?" We'll get to them next.

The graphs above testing. I say this because this is invariably the section I take the most flak for. Although almost all guys who have not had the manhood stripped out of them know this intuitively. As far as intellectual whores can determine, the average female bitch has a rating system that works like this:.




So the breakdown looks like:
Money and Power: 50%

Attraction: 40%

Things Women Say They Care About But Do Not: 10%
(this includes intelligence, sense of humor, honesty, sensitivity etc. )

As to the first point, that of money. Well most guys know that women dig guys with money. Would Donald Trump be fucking models if he wasn't rich? That question is rhetorical. Now I don't even believe this is wrong, I think it is just nature. But I also think women who are this way (and it is almost all of you) should be honest and admit that they are basically whores, and stop saying bad things about the so-called "actual whores" who are just trying to earn an honest living.

Most women read this and say something like, "Well I'm not the average woman because..blah...blah...not true...blah blah...my boyfriend/lover/husband/masseuse was poor...blah...blah."

If you thought something like this you are very likely the average woman. If you read it and went "Hmmm..." and then you went back to doing physics, then you have a case.

Looks are not to be discounted. I see many girls revert to about a seventh grade emotional level when they see some guy at the club, or some guy from a crappy movie. I think everyone has seen this phenomena, and it seems to have become an alarming trend in women of increasing age.

The attraction category is broken down further in the next section. This is a change from previous versions of the ladder theory that included looks here instead of attraction. I feel this is a more accurate depiction, as evidenced by experiment and peer review.

The last 10% was my effort to give women the benefit of the doubt. A common question men ask of women is "Tell me what you want in a man?", which is like asking how many guys she's slept with, an invitation to be lied to. Because she'll almost invariably answer with some combination of

• sense of humor
• intelligence
• sensitivity
• emotional stability


As far as I can tell this is mostly rubbish. But in an effort to be fair I have included this, since there seem to be a few rare cases of this. Just none that I have ever seen.

Another thing to watch out for is the code words women use. Here is a translation guide for dealing with women.


Says: I want a man who is motivated and has goals.
Means: I want a rich man

Says: I want a man who knows how to treat a woman.
Means: I want a rich man

Says: He's from a really good family.
Means: He's from a really rich family.

I'm sure you get the point. Let's move on

It was previously thought that the pie chart was fundamental. New advances in Ladder Theory have brought us to a more complete understanding. We have made new advances in the inner structure of the woman's rating system and now present it here.

First let's look at the rating system in Classical Ladder Theory




Now this is a fairly accurate description, and is essentially accurate. It misses a number of fine points. By defining the 40% block as "looks" the theory had originally assumed that looks were influenced by factor's other than just phyical attraction. For example, a guy who is a complete asshole to a woman seems to somehow look better to them. It soon became apparent from peer review that the term looks was inappropriate and has been replaced by the more accurate "attraction". The new chart then looks like this.



Previously it had been assumed that looks was fundamental. That is, that it could not be broken down any further, and that a score was assigned based on whatever biological principles made women attracted to men. Through extensive research we have been able to discern the inner structure of attraction. A chart will illustrate a very close approximation of the inner structure of attraction for the female. Commentary to follow




Physical Attraction/Looks - This is still a big factor in attraction. This is self-explanatory.

Competition - I almost titled this section disinterest. The two are closely related. We can only pursue what runs away from us. A man who is devoted to something else besides the woman is autmatically more attractive. Any intellectual whore who has ever listened to a girl complain about how her boyfriend-ran-off-with-a-slut or how her boyfriend-is-really-not-dumb-he's-just-streetsmart-and-he- has-to-sell-weed-to-support-his-baby's-mama or he's-really-nice-even-though-he-ignores-me-and-hits-me-sometimes-but-you-don't- know-what-he's-like-when-we're-alone or he's-not-emotionally-available-that's-why-I-like-talk-to-you-until-it's-time-to-go-fuck-him while he himself is sitting right there and would like nothing better than to be with her but of course is sitting solidly on the friends ladder knows this intuitively. Ultimately, almost all guys learn this truth for themselves: The best way to never score with a woman is to show too much interest in her.

Women seem to especially like it if you are more devoted to your bad music, biker gang, forearm tattoo or marijuana. These all seem to work wonders. There are some interests you can show in a woman that will help you to fuck her: a healthy interest in destroying her self-esteem and in fucking her friends more than her seem to work wonders. Note that the following topics of disinterest have been field tested and shown conclusively not to work: Unix, literature, poetry, international politics, and sodomy.

Novelty - Let's face it, if you're like every other guy who works a normal job and tries to live a good life, you're probably like just about every other guy. Chicks don't dig this, and why would they? Who wants someone who is just like everyone else? Something different is more attractive. Like someone who does not have to work during the day like most people because they have lots of money from business or selling drugs. Or like someone who has stabbed a man and went to prison for it. Different and a veritable ticket to getting laid.

Deconstructing money/power


"Power is a great aphrodesiac" - Notorious Asshole and War Criminal Henry Kissinger

"A woman's test is material. A man's test is a woman...if a man could fuck in a cardboard box, he wouldn't buy a house." - Rabbi Dave Chappelle.

It was previously assumed that money was a fundamental unit of attraction to a woman. Further investigation has revealed a better understanding of this very important piece of the woman's rating system. The piece which was formerly labelled money has been replaced by a money/power paradigm. The two are almost always intertwined in a way that makes them hard to distinguish, so I don't think it productive to make a chart of how they breakdown exactly. One almost always follows the other in any case.


What is important to know about the money/power piece is that previously it was thought of as static. Now we know that the money/power piece of attraction displays time-variance. That is, the amount of money needed to get maximal "points" in the money category varies according to the age of the woman. When a woman is younger her perspective is different as to what makes a lot of money. As she gets older the amount of money neccessary for full points increases.

For a girl of 16 full points for money might be obtained by having access to a car and beer money. When she is in her early college years, a nicer car and enough money to join a fraternity is probably sufficient. As she advances into her twenties what we consider to be the normal money chart will begin to manifest itself -- that is, she'll want the richest man she can get.

At no point that we can discern does money ever not become a factor. Take any guy. Take a woman that has that guy. In no circumstance that is known would she not rather have a guy just like that, but with more money. Actually, maybe in one circumstance -- when the guy has enough money to buy her basically everything she wants. This is self-evident, I should think.

Dreams of a Final Theory

I think is very very close to a final analysis of how a woman's rating system works. If you are very attractive, rich, and novel and show no interest in her she is almost guaranteed to want to fuck you. Indeed, isn't this the very definition of Alpha Male? In this way we have derived from our theoretical framework an idea that agrees with observation and experiment to many degrees of accuracy. It also provides a frameowrk for the Logic. Strive to be attractive, novel and aloof and you will go far.

Now for the core of the theory. Since everyone you meet has a rating, it is only natural to stack them up on a ladder.

Let's look at the ladder of some example man.




So it should be self-evident, if you are following this at all, that the people you want to have sex with the most will be at the top of the ladder. Descending down to the bottom of the ladder we pass the following people:

1. The people we really want, who may even be out of our league, are on top.
2. Then come the people we like.
3. Moving further down we pass the people who we would fuck if we were intoxicated and would admit to doing it later.
4. At the bottom are the people we would fuck drunk, and would lie about doing it later.


Clinging to the bottom are the girls that are wolf ugly. These are women so ugly you would chew your own arm off to get away rather than fuck them. Usually fake teeth, or the loss of several hundred pounds can move a woman up from wolf ugly.

Now let's take a look at what the typical woman's ladder looks like:



The first thing to notice here is that a woman has not one ,but two ladders. This is becasue in addition the normal ladder, a woman also has a friends ladder. The friends ladder is where a woman puts guys that she considers "just friends". More to the point where she puts guys who don't get to have sex with her.


The problem arises because a woman never lets a guy know which ladder he is on. Obviously there is a huge difference, or gap between these two ladders. It is in this gap that kisses of death are delivered and intellectual whores are made. All a man can do is "go for it" and make a move on a girl; ask her out, try to kiss her, write her a love note or whatever. If he's on the good ladder fine. If he is on the friends ladder this is a case of ladder jumping. The man is trying to jump the gap from the friends ladder to the real ladder. The girl has two choices at this point: she can let him on the ladder and all is well, or, more likely, she can kick him in the head, and off the ladder. If you look you'll see that below the ladder is the Abyss(what was it Nietzsche said about a man being on a rope stretched over an Abyss?....well it's worse than he thought; there is no rope.) So the man falls into the Abyss. The Abyss isn't really as bad as it sounds. Mostly it's a period of self-loathing, embarrassment, and of course utter awkwardness with the girl in question if they are talking at all.

To fully illustrate the point I'll now examine some common scenarios and their ladder theory explanations. For purposes of these examples Tom will be our boy and Jane will be out girl.

Scenario 1: Tom meets Jane. She's pretty and seems interesting to talk to. Tom and Jane start haging out and talking more and more. Tom develops an attraction to Jane, and one day tries to kiss her. Jane tell Tom she doesn't think of him that way and she wants to remain friends. The next few weeks contact between the two falls off. Jane starts fucking an outlaw biker.

Ladder Theory Explanation: Tom met Jane. Tom was immediately placed on the friends ladder. Tom didn't know this. Tom tried to jump ladders. Jane kicked Tom in the head rather than let him on and sent him hurtling to the Abyss below. The oulaw biker was not on her friends ladder (they never are) but rather on her good ladder.

Scenario 2: Tom meets Jane. She's cute and seems smart. After an appropriate amount of time he asks her out on a date. She acccepts and they have what seems to be a perfectly nice date. Tom thinks he has a chance with Jane. He asks her out again. She says no, either explicitly or by never returning his phone call. Tom has no idea what the Hell just happened. Jane starts fucking an unemployed alcoholic.

Ladder Theory Explanation: Jane misrepresented which ladder Tom was on. He thought he was on the good ladder because of her acceptance of the date. Mistake. This led to an unintentional ladder jump. He was kicked into the Abyss. In this situation, Jane often wants to stay friends becasue you are so interesting and funny or some shit like that. If this happens you are most likely an Intellectual Whore. I'm sorry. This is most likely to be a ninja-bitch.


Scenario 3: A girl says any of the following to you:


• "You're like a brother to me"
• "You're like a big teddy bear".
• "I feel like I can talk to you about anything"
• "You're so nice"
• "Can you help me with my homework"

Ladder Theory Explanation: You are on the friends ladder. So Sorry.

You can see that a lot of problems can be avoided(though sadly not problem two) by declaring as soon as possible to a girl that you will not be friends under any circumstances. You can explain that she is too attractive or you can be blunt and say you don't want to bend your "friends" over a table and fuck them, but would rather play poker and go to the races with them, thus disqualifying her from friendship. As long as you are clear. This may scare a girl away. But if it does what would you want with such a skittish little twit anyway?.


Next we'll explore some of the consequences of the ladder and applications in every day life.

The Ladder Theory is assumed to be correct for all classical phenomena. There do seem to be some "hidden" variables that modify the Ladder to some extent. These variables do not affect the rating system, nor do they affect the fundamental theorems of the Ladder. They do, however, modify how we act with regard to the Ladder.

These are the hidden variables that have been identified.

Religiosity:
While most people, even people who believe in God, will have sex before they are married and thus fall under the rules of the ladder, some people are so religious they will not have sex until they are married. This is of course a silly and anachronistic practice, but it does occur. In this case, the Ladder should me modified as follows: change instances of 'would have sex with' to be 'would like to have sex with.' This works because while religious people have the same impulses, they choose to deny them as opposed to embracing them.


Drunkenness:
Of course when drunk we do things we wouldn't do otherwise. Usually when sobriety sets in, there is a return to the tenets of the ladder theory. In most cases, it should be noted, repressed Americans use being drunk as an excuse to do what they wanted to do anyway, so one should be very careful in applying this variable. For example, I'm drunk as I type this, but I would have typed it anyway, even though I might fall back on that excuse if there are a lot of typos in there or it doens't stand up to peer review. Do not let me get away with this.


Loyalty:
A lot of people have asked about the significant others of friends and if they are special cases of the Ladder. They are not. These are not your friends. These are virtual friends. For example, a friend of mine is fucking a girl. I like her, she's great, we get along, etc... But when they break up she is dead to me. Or if the friend leaves the picture the normal rules of the Ladder apply. So are we really friends? Of course not. We are conditional friends. This does not affect where she goes on the Ladder. Think of it like this: the Ladder is a rating system, and I'll rate her along with everyone else based on how much I would like to fuck them. A note for guys: if your friends girl offers you a piece you should hit that shit, because he shouldn't be laying up with no ho. Ideally you should tape it also, because most guys will believe the person they're fucking.

Desperation:
What desperation does is shift downward the line of quality that one would consider for fucking. There is a line on the ladder that is the quality of the last person you were fucking. Since one of the purposes of life, if not the purpose, is to move up the ladder, you want someone above this line. Sometimes you can't find someone above this line. This leads to a virtual shift in the line downward as one gets more and more in need of a fuck. But in terms of what a person wants, nothing changes -- you'd leave your desperation fuck for someone else with the requisite ladder attributes.

Hidden Variables and Sanity:
Note that all known hidden variables are indicative of an altered consciousness of some kind. At the 'limit of sanity' the Classical ladder's rating system still applies. So I don't feel that these change the core theory, but explain times when the theory is not able to be applied because your perception is wrong.


You'll note that a man has one ladder while a female has two. The man is lacking a "friends ladder." The man's ladder reflects the conventional wisdom that a man generally only wants one thing. That's because the conventional wisdom is correct. This leads us back to the conclusion that many women I have explained this to find so distasteful:
IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS

Many women want to argue this point and say things like " I have lots of guy friends." Maybe. There are exactly 3 cases Intellectual Whores has identified whereby a guy and a girl can be friends:

1. The guy is gay
2. The guy does not find you attractive
3. The guy already has a woman much higher than you on the ladder

Even Nietzsche knew this. Most guys know this intuitively. Most girls doubt. I have a challenge for all of you girls who still doubt. Pick a guy who does not meet any of the criterion on the above list that you think is your friend. Then ask yourself this question: If you were both alone at his place one night, and you excused yourself to the bathroom and came out naked and asked him to have sex with you would he:


1. Tell you he doesn't want to risk the beautiful friendship you have created with messy physical entanglements.

2. Comply.

Remember
...this only works if you are honest with yourself. Number one is of course something that guys hear all the time. Intellectual Whores refers to it as the Kiss of Death. It is more likely that he will jump you eagerly.

Toward A Meaning of Life
Convieniently, the ladder theory answers the oft asked question, "What is the purpose of life?" The purpose of life is to move up the ladder. The person you are with now should be better (higher on your ladder) than the person you were last with. Okay it's not perfect but if you have no direction in life, trying to fuck hotter and hotter chicks or richer and richer guys is as good a place as any to start. In addition to giving a good base toward a meaning of life there are a few other things that ladder theory explains.


Topping out the Ladder:
Have you ever seen a guy that was not particularly attractive, rich or muscled yet was with a lovely woman? For most guys the most common reaction is envy, something like "Hey I'm not all that muscled, attractive or rich either. Why can't I be fucking a girl like that?" We at intellectual whores used to feel this way about "stump factor" as well. But then ladder theory was discovered and we realized that it was more rational to pity this man.

Ladder theory tells us that the purpose of life is to move up the ladder. When their relationship ends, he will probably never be able to get another woman as good as the one he is with right now -- the rest of his life he'll likely be striving in vain. In effect, he's doomed the whole rest of his life to meaninglessness unless he marries this girl. This of course is just trading one type of doom for another.



Ladder Disparity
The ladder is obviously a two-way process. When Bob meets Jane he puts her on his ladder and she puts him on her ladder. It often happens that one person is a lot higher on your ladder than you are on theirs, or vice versa. The leads to a situation that looks like this:



Notice that Bob has Jane very low while Bob is very high on Jane's ladder. He is most likely rich and she is most likely ugly. Anyhow this is a classic case of disparity. If we connect the two points we can make a right triangle. The resulting hypotenuse "c" is the magnitude of the disparity


c = total disparity


Common shorthand among ladder thoerists is "Well, she caught him fucking a stewardess and didn't leave him but what do you expect for a level 5 disparity." The position of being high on someone else's ladder while having them low on yours is referred to as being in the "upper" or "power" position. This is good and leads to different things depending on who is in the power position.

If the man is in the upper position the disparity is a measure of how long the woman will put up with him cheating, using her physically without committing, or paying his rent and all his bills.

If the woman is in the power position then it is a measure of how much the man will spend money on her, fetch her things at midnight, and listen to stories about other guys she is fucking


Classical Ladder Theory admittedly treats relationships as binary, in the sense of sex or not-sex. There are in-between cases, which I feel the Ladder addresses. In this section we will take some common scenarios and see how they are explained within the framework of ladder theory. The first two, cuddle bitches and friends with benefits, were proposed in an email I received so I have dealt with them first.



Cuddle Bitches
cuddle bitch(n) - a guy who never gets to sleep with a girl but gets to have intimate moments with her like cuddling, spooning, or otherwise being affectionate. Usually this will occur in private. She probably considers him a really sweet guy, which is the kiss of death.

First off, cuddle bitches are bad, bad things to be. Maybe the worst thing to be. I mean, being an Intellectual Whore is bad, but being an Intellectual Whore who has to endure blue-balls is bordering on criminal.

As to how it fits into the framework of the ladder.

Basically this is just a guy who has a very high position on the friends ladder. So far up the friends ladder that he gets the dubious honor of getting to provide all the intimacy that a girl is missing when she's off fucking guys who basically don't care about her like outlaw bikers and band members. So he gets to be the proxy father/confessor/friend/teddy bear for her, depending on what she is missing at the time. Perhaps the only consolation of this is a ladder jump to the real ladder seems statistically a little more likely to succeed. Of course, when one is that high up the fall is dreadful indeed...


How do we know this? Well, if a woman had a nice loving boyfriend then he would be doing all the cuddling and whatnot and likely wouldn't stand for a woman maintaining a stable of cuddle bitches. Unless he's completelty pussified, in which case she's likely fucking some other people anyway.

For guys unacquainted with Ladder Theory, it is even worse. The cuddle bitch often thinks he is on the good ladder as opposed to the real ladder. So he gets all excited about his position instead of realizing he is being completely used. So this poor tool is really setting himself up for a fall at that point.

Note: This does not apply if cuddling under the influence of mushrooms, for the express purposes of avoiding hypothermia, or if the woman is a whore that you've recently paid for sex. Cuddling is perfectly acceptable and probably non-sexual in these circumstances.

Friends With Benefits:

This is the case where you get to sleep with a woman or have some sort of intimate physical relations without any sort of committment.

All we can say to this situation is: bravo! This is the optimal condition to be in--with as many women as possible.

A lot of people try to use this condition as a criticism of ladder theory, so I'll state again here that this fits perfectly in the framework of ladder theory. A woman has two ladders, but the second one is the 'guys I would have sex with' ladder, NOT the 'relationship ladder.' So 'friends with benefits' is a complete fucking misnomer, since you are not actually 'friends', you are quite more than that. The Ladder Theory only states what makes a woman want to have sex with a man, it does not take the puerile view that women don't want to have sex, or that they have to be somehow tricked into it. If you are a 'friend with benefits', then you are on the Real Ladder. Congratulations. If you get replaced, you haven't been demoted ladders, you have merely been replaced by someone higher than you on the Real Ladder.

That being said, usually women are more interested in long-term relationships than men, and consent to this form of relationship because there is ladder disparity in favor of the male. A lot of women say that they are just having sex, they like it as much as men etc... While the second statement is undoubtedly exaggerated, there is no reason to think that women don't want to have sex just as much as men. Which if course only makes it worse if a woman doesn't want to have sex with you.

Of Female Footstools

Judging by the amount of mail I have gotten about it, a LOT of guys are using the tactic of making friends with the less-than-attractive friend of a girl they want to fuck in order to score points with the girl higher up the ladder. I have never found this to work very well for me personally, but it does not require an addendum to the Theory, and can be explained within the framework of Classical Ladder Theory.

Let us call the woman you are using to score points with the woman you want to fuck the 'footstool.' The woman you are trying to fuck we will call the 'target.'.

There are two basic situations here. One is that you would fuck the footstool. This is the easiest one. If you would fuck them then you're not really friends. The other is that you wouldn't fuck the footstool. If we look at the ways that men can have female friends we find if you wouldn't fuck them or if you are fucking someone better. In this case the target is by definition better, or else the target would be the footstool. So the whole thing is explained by the Ladder Theory already. Of course the very idea of calling someone you are merely using to fuck someone else a 'friend' is a little ridiculous also.

One interesting thing about footstools is it is about as close as a woman can usually get to knowing what it is like to be an intellectual whore.

Exes

Exes are not a special case in the ladder. Usually when someone gets broken up with it's because the other person thinks they can do better on the Ladder. Or already has. If you didn't think you could do better why would you leave the one you were with?

The usual pattern for exes is to try to be friends, realize it's not going to really work, and then become more and more distant toward each other over time. In any case, if you continue to fuck for a while, then you continue to fuck. You wouldn't have had a relationship with them if they were not on the real ladder, so if it's convienient there's really no reason not to.

If you are friends, then the normal rules of how men and women can be friends applies. But it should be said, that many exes try to be friends because it seems like some shit they should do, when in reality one of them is hoping they will get back together or at least continue to fuck

Criticism: You're just bitter.
Answer: Maybe I am. But ladder theory made me that way, my bitterness did not make ladder theory. Attack the theory, not the person behind it. And why does everyone always say I'm bitter just because 99.999% of chicks are bitches?

Criticism: I have lots of male friends who would never think of me that way blah blah blah.
Answer: Your friend doesn't find you attractive, or he's currently doing better, or he's gay or you're wrong.


Criticism: That's not true
Answer: Yes it is.

Criticism: So a woman is a bad person just because she won't sleep with you? Don't you hang out with people you don't want to sleep with? Are women supposed to just fuck every guy who wants to fuck them so they won't be bitches?
Answer: Yes, I hang out with people I don't want to sleep with, but they're all people who don't want to sleep with me either. So there's equity. It's not that I think women are bad people for not wanting to sleep with me. It's moreso that:
I have plenty of friends already
I will never be able to truly be friends with them because my perspective will be colored by my desire to sleep with them
If they are not cool then they are probably just attractive and why would i want to hang out with them if they won't sleep with me? If they are cool then the desire to sleep with them will only intensify the more I hang out with them so I am really only torturing myself emotionally to hang out with them and pretend that that is all I want. Why would I or any guy want to put himself through that?


Criticism: Do you expect to get laid when you have this whole site devoted to how much you hate women?
Answer: First off, this is a forum for my narcissism. As to hatred of women -- if that's what you think then you are clearly projecting your guilt about being a bitch onto me. Not a single woman who wasn't a bitch has ever complained about misogyny at this site. I can prove this on an abacus.

Criticism: In the section on ladder disparity you make reference to the 'hypotenuse.' The ladders however, are metaphorical constructs, and are not a defined distance apart from each other so this term is misleading.
Answer: It seems that way at first, but that's because you have failed to understand the topology of Ladder Space, which should of course should be so obvious that a formal proof is not required. Idiot.

Criticism: You must have been terribly hurt, or had a terrible relationship with your mom or [insert pseudo-Freudian amateur psycho-babble analysis here]
Answer: See my answer to the first criticism. Also, why doesn't anyone ever assume that my mother was so great that I have never yet found a woman to live up to her standard and thus became bitter?

Criticism: You must have too much time on your hands, and you must not be getting laid, to write all this stuff. Lighten up, and [insert one of: grow up, get laid, or get a life.]
Answer: Depends on my mood.

For a good mood: Who says I don't get laid? For all you know I've only had 4 rejections in 25 years. Not bad on the whole. Also, I'm just presenting the world as I see it. I never said I was angry that women all want rich guys. Indeed, it gives me an incentive to save money. To the contrary I don't have enough time. Like Keats, I am afraid my pen, or keyboard as the case may be, will not have time to glean my teeming brain before I shuffle off this mortal coil. Assuming you are correct, though, how would that change the ladder theory?

For a bad mood: Right, some kind of life it must be if you're spending time writing missives about the virtues of women friends to guys who have websites. You obviously got married too soon or are a pussy whipped little bitch who knows he can't pull off what women really want so you spin these little defensive theories about how you should be nice and sweet and kind, and I'm sure it occasionally gets you some very boring women. As for me, I'll be partying with a couple of hookers who are VERY honest about what they want and suck a good dick. Just please raise your mewling little brats not to talk in movie theatres, and not to bother people trying to do something creative with their snivelling.
How can a woman want rich guys and outlaw bikers? Isn't this a contradiction? The Rich Man/Biker 'Paradox'



One problem often brought to my attention as a 'contradiction' in Ladder Theory is that it postulates that women want rich men as well as Outlaw Bikers, who are generally the opposite of rich men in every way. This leads to insightful analysis like 'well, how can they want both? your theory sucks.' I can see how one could come to this conclusion since I state that women want rich men and Outlaw Bikers, but Outlaw Bikers are typically are not rich, barring drug dealing activity.


The best place to start is to reformulate the question in another form. Given the high percentage of female attraction attributed to money/power, why isn't every woman fucking a wealthy man? When we state the question in this way the answer becomes clear: scarcity. To belabor the point, if all men were equally wealthy or powerful then there would be no distinction between them, and this variable would be eliminated from the Ladder. Since rich men are scarce, they are more in demand. Since they are high up on a lot of women's ladders, they are able to have women that are high up their own ladders.

Despite the common misconception that males are out to fuck anything that moves(although they might be out to fuck anything really HOT that moves), they have a Ladder and a ranking system of their own. A lot of people make the mistake of assuming that men never exercise judgment regarding whom they fuck. If that was the case, it would
be like a game of tag -- whatever women gets there first and promises to lick his balls wins. Not the case.

What many people forget about the Ladder is that men have Ladders and ranking also. A woman can't have any man she wants. Sometimes a man doesn't want a woman because he's had much better, or he just doesn't find her attractive.

If we put the following question to a female honestly, the answer will be yes almost all of the time: "I like that person now, but would I prefer that they were as they are plus more attractive or more wealthy?" Well why wouldn't you want someone just as they were but with a little more money or a little better looks? There is one instance, that is when gaining those things would put them high enough on the ladders of others that you could no longer compete. We know that if someone improves themselves drastically they will move on to better people unless they feel a very acute sense of loyalty.

All women want a hot, rich man. That is not possible for all women. There are a shortage of rich men, and a definite shortage of hot rich men, since if a man is rich he doesn't have to bother to look good. So if most of the men in a woman's life are of basically average looks and similar income, what is going to win out? Novelty, and power, which many outlaw bikers possess. By the description of attraction in the Ladder Theory it only goes to follow that if a woman can't have a rich man, that she'll gravitate toward an Outlaw Biker. Note also that the time-relative nature of the money variable predicts that a woman will be more likely to want an Outlaw Biker when she is younger, since the Outlaw Biker is usually lacking in money. This appears to be consistent with observation.


Can't the two ladders be represented as just one big ladder for women?

A lot of people have suggested that women really only have one ladder, or men really have two, and both are completely missing the point of the 1-2 ladder scheme. Yes you COULD say that guys who women won't fuck are way down on their only ladder and you COULD say that guys have a separate ladder for women they wouldn't fuck.

The point of saying women have two ladders and men have 1 ladder is to illustrate the fundamental difference in outlook between men and women. The point is that for men, there is a ranking that takes place based on the pie charts and women get put on the ladder and that's it. How much do I want to fuck her is the fundamental unit of a man's thought.

A woman on the other hand, seems able to recognize atrributes in a man that would make her want to fuck him and yet still not fuck him, either because he is too good a friend, or because she just 'doesn't see him that way' or by some strange mystery of human chemistry. So the metaphorof the two ladders is to illustrate this fundamental difference in thought.


Are you serious or is the site just satire?
Nothing is just satire.

What about homosexual/bi-sexual/trangendered/spongecake fetishists?
I pretty much reject those labels. I think it's more of a spectrum with 1 being something like perfectly straight, and 10 being perfectly gay. I am about a 2.5. Therefore I don't feel qualified to write about h/b/t/s relationships. If someone who is more gay than I wants to, I'll be glad to post it if it isn't a total piece of shit.


I don't understand how my situation -- [ insert situation XX ] -- fits in with the ladder theory
Try harder. Ask your friends, Ask your friends again.

PART 21- THOUGHT: A WOMAN'S PUSSY AS A PRIZE

"I need to win a woman over" is an insidious belief that has snaked inside the minds of many a man. Too many men think that if they were only a bit younger or taller or skinnier or richer or better looking, women they desire would start feeling attraction toward them.

The sight of a pussy whipped man taking a woman he's just met shopping, in my opinion, is more grotesque than seeing a baby calf being slaughtered...

Because he's communicating to a woman that he views her as a Prize he wants to win over. He wants her validation and approval. He's trying to impress her. The bastard desperately wants her to like him. This makes him look like a human lapdog. Women are attracted to men who are the Prize, not human lapdogs.

A woman can’t give you pussy. But you can definitely give her some dick.

We’ve been taught in our society to place pussy on a pedestal. We’ve been indoctrinated into the belief that pussy is the goose that lays the golden egg. But that’s ass backwards thinking. It’s time to raise the penis back to it’s place of prominence!

Understand: a man’s sexual body parts are attached to the outside of his body. This means his body is designed to give. A female’s sexual body parts are for the most part inside her body. This means her body is designed primarily for receiving. So in this respect a female’s pussy isn’t designed to give anything.

As a man you need to develop the kind of mindset that says to females: I’m offering you the pleasure of my body because I deem you worthy to share in my life energy. Learn your self-worth. And stop thinking: ‘ I hope she gives me some pussy’.

That’s a misnomer. Pussy doesn’t give; it can only receive. It’s the penis that does all the giving. So the next time a woman offers to give you some ass, like she’s doing you a special favor, remind yourself that really you’re about to do her one! You’re about to give her pleasure; and whatever you get in return comes from your own efforts.

Think about it: if you get up in some pussy, you won’t bust a nut just from laying up in that joint. You don’t get an orgasm unless you work for it. Her and your pleasure basically comes from you doing most or all of the work! She really doesn’t have to do anything but lay there, and she still gets pleasure; and if you’re not careful she’ll also be getting a baby and monthly child support checks for the next 19 or 20 years too…

What I’m basically showing you is: sex is something that the female benefits from more so than the man. And females know this. And they use your lack of knowledge to their own advantage.

So get wise and realize that when it comes to sex, you are the one doing all the giving. Stop chasing pussy around like it’s something special and realize its the penis that’s special, not the pussy. By developing this type of mindset you set yourself apart from 99% of the men out there. And consequently, confident women find men who know their worth extremely desirable.

PART 22-THOUGHTS: WOMAN WHO HOLD OUT THEIR PUSSY.....

Vast and complex is the rhetoric that surrounds the occasions when a woman chooses to be fucked. Insults and abuses range from the ever popular slut and skank, to more classic terminology such as whore, floozy, harlot, hooker, hussy, bimbo, loose, woman of the night, streetwalker, woman of ill-repute, strumpet, tramp and my personal favourite, slattern. No matter the term used, women find themselves having to navigate its reach, avoiding the connotations of being dirty, used, loose, easy, and all around undesirable. For the most part then, every time that she meets and begins to date a guy it becomes an obsessive point of discussion for her and her friends as to how many dates it will take before it is no longer considered skanky to fuck him. Varying theories range from a three-date rule, so long as they are spent alone; whenever he decides to introduce you to his friends; or even as extreme as whenever he says “I love you” first. However, in every scenario there are two fundamentally absurd assumptions: (1) That holding out your pussy makes it more valuable, and consequently makes you more desirable and (2) that it is wrong to fuck whenever you want to.

In seriously considering the dilemmas that face women when they choose to have sex, I wanted to understand why, as a society, we have made it so difficult for women to get some guilt-free cock. And then it came to me [no pun intended]: Pussy is a commodity. When you get right down to it, pussy is “an article of trade or commerce, esp. a product as distinguished from a service”, “something of use, advantage, or value.” If pussy then is the commodity, obviously, men are the consumers [all puns intended].

In following this economic analogy, if pussy truly is a commodity, what is being exchanged? As with the trade of any goods the answer is ownership. When a woman finally chooses to fuck a man she is trading the ownership of that pussy to him for a determined period of time. However, the price is often steep – relationship security. Therefore, for the duration of the relationship, the pussy is her partner’s to use and dispose of as he wishes, and she is no longer free to distribute her goods in any other market.

Thus, if pussy is a good to be bought or sold, it must be exchanged in the appropriate commodity markets, which require the existence of agreed standards so that trade is made possible without visual inspect of goods. Within these commodity markets then, the price and value of pussy is determined by its quality, which is in direct proportion to its cost and relative availability. Therefore, in order for women to maintain and increase the value of their pussies they must ensure that the market does not become saturated. In other words, they must insist that other women do not sell their pussies for deflated costs, or worse, give it away. By stamping down on sluts who exchange their precious orifice ‘for free’, other women inflate the costs of their own vaginas. By doing this, women are able to secure steady buyers [men] and develop forward contracts [relationships], which by definition is “an agreement between two parties to exchange at some future date a given quantity of commodity for a price defined today.” However, women must be wary of the male practice of ‘hedging’: “Insuring against a poor harvest by purchasing other future contracts in the same commodity.”
In this rather heady analogy, it becomes clear to me that neither ‘society’ on whole nor men are responsible ultimately for placing our value as women on the value of our vaginas. The blame lays with us, women. It is our own conception of our pussies as valuable and tools for power that has shaped and proliferated the discourse of sexual promiscuity to inflate our own worth. So what then is the solution?

So long as men desire pussy, it will be a commodity, therefore I suggest that women on whole practice Spot Trading: “A transaction where delivery of goods takes place immediately, normally involving physical inspection of the commodity or a sample, and is carried out in wholesale markets.” Sure, to accepted definitions this could be construed as being a slut, but know that every time you fuck what you are really doing is helping to re-imagine women’s bodies separate from rhetoric that seeks to control them, as sexual and proud beings. Reject the regulation and artificial price pressures to exchange your goods for the relationship security of the previous commodity markets and instead decide for yourselves when, where, to whom and at what cost you wish to trade your pussy, seeking always to increase your profit margins.

Chug a beer, have sex if there is a return on investment.



"Generally, ordinary guys can go years between relationships with ordinary women, because they are constantly meeting (in everyday life) very few women, very few of whom ever find them (the guys) attractive. [..] Holly's Magical Vagina Power blinds her to the experience of a totally average guy who's just middling employed, middling-looking, and middling charming. Bruno's and Bookworm's (and my) experience of how (almost) no women see them and how few connect with them is a real truth about the experience of ordinary men that you constantly elide with the "PUA bad, grr" act."
-Eurosabra



Data
The sex ratio at birth in the USA is about 105 boys to 100 girls. Boys are slightly more prone to die young, however, so for the age range 15-30 the ratio is 1:1 and at older ages there are more women. As an average for the population as a whole, there are 95 males to 100 females. (CIA World Factbook)

Statistics on homosexuality vary widely (and often follow the "one drop rule" that if someone reports any history of same-sex sex or attraction they're counted as gay), but generally seem to agree that there are more exclusively homosexual men than women. The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior, for example, reports 9% of men and 5% of women are homosexual.

I couldn't find any documentation on the prevalence of polyamory that wasn't written by a crazy person, but I believe that it's not really super common. I mean, it's like 20% of everyone I know, but I live in weird circles, I'm guessing it can't be more than 2% of the population, and even fewer are in polygynous arrangements where multiple women are exclusive to one man.

In "Patterns of Asexuality in the United States," presented at an American Sociological Association conference, the authors conclude that 0.7% of men and 0.8% of women report being asexual. They also mention that 12% of men and 11% of women report no sexual contact in the last 12 months.

So let's crunch those numbers (well, assumptions) for young adults in the US, and we get... 100 available straight women for every 97.9 available straight men. Of course that's extremely rough and there's other reasons a person could be off the market, but on the whole these data support the frankly obvious conclusion that for every wanting cock there's a willing pussy. In fact there's slightly more than one.



Analysis
I want to stop hearing all this fucking bullshit about how women can get laid and men can't, because there's the same goddamn number of women looking for cock as men looking for pussy. And every time a woman gets cock, a guy gets pussy. It is not possible for straight women to get laid more than straight men.

In pickup rather than partnership contexts it's difficult to disprove the "a few super-promiscuous guys get all the pussy" theorem so popular among self-pitying couchfucks, but (just based on personal experience, anecdote, and Earth Logic) the vast majority of sex is partnership, not pickup. It's obvious that in monogamous heterosexual partnerships, men and women have exactly the same amount of sex.

Also, please note that women are reusable, and a woman who is "taken" for a night by a super-promiscuous man will be right back on the market the next night. (Or a couple weeks later if he really burns her.)

Because most people require more than just availability from their sexual partners, some people will end up celibate against their wishes, but note that this is a bi-directional problem; for every man sitting at home alone sighing, there's a woman in the same position. Not only do men have the same amount of sex as women, women have the same amount of not-sex as men. Incel women are less likely to be vocal about it, however, because culture encourages them to blame their own lack of attractiveness rather than demand men accept them as they are.



Conclusion
Men get laid just as much as women. If you don't get laid and are unhappy, this is your problem, not a gender issue. Being "incel" is the fate of the picky, shy, or socially inept, not of the male. And implicitly blaming women for cruelly making themselves unavailable to you is super creepy and I wouldn't fuck you either if I heard you saying that shit.



Women have always had the upper hand when it comes to propositioning Sex. Pretty much all a woman has to do is ask, "hey wanna fuck?" and 9 times out of 10 (if he is not Clay Aiken) a guy will say "um yea". The problem emerges when the tables turn and the guy asks the girl the same question, "Hey wanna fuck"? The girl responds in disgust from atop her moral high ground and exclaims, "ewww you're creepy". After being rejected via text message the girl sends a series of ball busting insults that further diminishes a man's confidence of making random booty calls. This female sexual soliciting phenomenon is the Pussy Comitatus Law and the following will explain why men are at a woman's the beck and call when it comes to having sex.



Pussy Comitatus Law became widely known during the information age of the 1990's often referred to as the IT BOOM as things such as internet, email, cell phones, and text messages started to be used for booty calling. The Law states that men can not initiate a sexual proposition with a female as it matters to a one night stand, booty call, random hook up or similar sexual act and have the women feel compelled or obligated to act on it. In addition to, only a woman can offer sex on her terms and have a man drop whatever he is doing to have sex with the woman who initiated the booty call. Furthermore, guilt trips associated with booty calls are only effective when a woman suggests this will be the only time that she will have sex with you so if you want it you better come get it now. This is the crux of the Pussy Comitatus Law and men do not have the ability to achieve a sexual ultimatum with a girl they would not normally have the opportunity to have sex with so they welch (anglo-saxon slur) and comply to her sexual offer hands down.



Women have always had the upper hand when it comes to sex. Men are visually stimulated by a woman's body combined with her psychological persona of what sex would be like to have with her. Although evidence suggests that women are just as horny as men, women have created an illusion that they are not preoccupied with sex and this illusion is in the guise of Victorian etiquette. In other words, they use a facade in the form of lady like prudish behavior. Regardless if we know this not to be true, women all operate under this collective deception and it's power is undeniable. The purse strings to the pussy are always in the hands of the woman who is dangling it in front of men they wish to have or not have sex with.



The issue men face is a struggle with their own ego as to why a man must always drop what he is doing in order to get laid on a woman's terms alone. Some men refuse to drop what they are doing in order to go get laid but I assure you they regret it in the long run but keep it to themselves. More specifically, they will be fantasizing about that regret for months and in the end they will admit they fucking should have done it. However, there are cases where a man's principles will over come the power of the pussy because he realizes he will get a chance with someone one else more closer to equal terms and an equal playing field (or at least that's how we rationalize missing out on primo ass).



There are always examples of men being able to manipulate sex out of women but the statistics are far more in the favor of women holding all the cards. More over, using the caveman days where a caveman clubbed a woman in the head and took what he wanted can not be used as a legitimate example. Sorry guys, this is not Viet Nam, there are rules here. In addition to, women can cause men to cheat on their wives, fiancees and girlfriends by giving them a pussy ultimatum. A woman either it be friend or even a stranger can create this pussy pedestal of erotic hormonal curiosity that causes a man to want experience this sexual opportunity. A man is programed to be a farmer and he must plant his seed (at least the act of planting anyway) and women are the field. In conclusion, because a man reacts on his hormones and women cause the reaction, the Pussy Comitatus Law of sex dictates a man can not statistically give booty call ultimatums and will more often than not accept any pussy offering from a woman giving the same.

PART 23-LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY

I know i seek validation and acceptance through pussy...many men do. So I decided that i am going to try to get to core of this need I have. Many men aren’t angry and confused because they don’t know what women want. They’re angry because they want what their fathers or grandfathers had, and they can’t get it. They’re confused because they can’t quite grasp why not.

Women attaining something like social equality with men has created not so much liberation as a kind of toxic confusion. When women are free to be individuals, free to want different things than other women, men can’t be sure what any particular women might want from him. To open the door for her or not!? To pick up the check or not!? To be a nice guy like she says she wants or a bad boy like she really wants?! These unresolved and unresolvable questions

The problem is that you want something from women (to whit, pussy) that you can't figure out how to get, but that it really is her choice. You're not entitled to pussy. You're looking for a deal you can make (buy her dinner maybe?) or some trick you can pull (maybe if you pretend to respect her independence?). But your fundamental problem is that you're a desperate, whiny and have an overblown sense of entitlement and your pseud0-machismo doesn't serve to hide it. Oddly enough that isn't attractive.







LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART II

Chasing women is an expensive and humiliating activity. It nearly always leads to failure and men do not always realise how deep these wounds go. The more worthless a man feels in his heart the more desperately he will seek validation by pleasing women - and the more worthless he will feel in the end. Seeking validation from women therefore becomes an addictive cycle by which the man comes to feel he is worth nothing and women are empowered to abuse. Each failure adds to his store of pain and motivates him to continue the behaviour that caused it. Whenever a man buys the company of women through expensive gifts or acting as a free therapist he is sending the message that he has no innate value. One reason that women have no respect for men in our culture is simply that men show no respect for themselves.

Only an aim or mission can truly validate a man. A woman cannot. She is the weather, the clouds, the ever-changing nature of the world. A man is the ground, the secure stable force to support this element of change. Making a woman the number 1 priority in my life is akin to trying to control the weather. It’s insane and destined for a tragic end. Years of failure with that would piss off any guy. It is reinforcing the attainment of women as a number 1 priority. It is placing cement around this as an aim, and regularly reminding guys how “vital” it is to get this handled. And ultimately, it further distances ourselves from the goal of intimacy and connection by expanding the objectification of women

I grew up around all women, and everything I was ever “taught” about how to treat women has lead me wrong. When I grew up Ibegan to realize the hypocrisy of what women say they want and what they really want. I’d point out that the women in my family who want to have it all ways, being the tough modern woman, yet have a man treat them like a traditional lady, have a lot harder time getting a man than the women who act the tough modern lady, but allow the man to be the man.

Traditionally, the male was the one to seek and hunt for food, to protect the home and to direct the family’s course through the challenging world. The female was the one to nourish the family, care for the children and home and inspire and support the man. Even though the lifestyle illustrated is antiquated, the biological truth remains.

In other words, a man - by nature - is the assertive/directing/focused one; the female - by nature - is the receptive/nourishing/radiant one. There are clearly differing scales and levels between individuals, but in general, this is true.

David Deida, in his seminal work “The Way of the Superior Man“, describes the difference very well:

“The ‘mission’ or the search for freedom is the priority of the masculine, whereas the search for love is the priority of the feminine. This is why people with masculine essences would rather watch a football game or boxing match on TV than a love story. Sports are all about achieving freedom, such as by breaking free of your opponent’s tackle or barrage of punches, and about succeeding at your mission, by carrying the ball into the end zone or remaining standing after 10 rounds. For the masculine, mission, competition, and putting it all on the line (indeed, facing death), are all forms of ecstasy. Witness the masculine popularity of war stories, dangerous heroism, and sports playoffs.

But, for the feminine, the search for love touches the core. Whether in soap operas, in love stories, or talking with friends about relationships, the desire for love is what appears in feminine forms of entertainment. The feminine wants to be filled with love, and if the bliss of real love is not forthcoming, chocolate and ice cream - or a good romantic drama - will do. The masculine wants to feel the bliss of life lived at the edge, and if he doesn’t have the balls to do it himself, he’ll watch it on TV, in sporting events and cop shows.”

David Deida boils the question down to its spiritual essence as two differing forces. The quest for freedom (male) and the quest for love (female).

Over the years, this biological truth has been more and more distorted for a “socially acceptable” one which is the result of an unfair cultural system which needed revising. Women certainly deserve a fair shake in business. They absolutely need voting rights, and equality under the law. But, how does this profound socio-cultural shift impact social dynamics, relationships and family life? How has it reshaped the mating dance between men and women? What results can we see from this movement between men and women?

Women have become the dominant sex in the social, dating and sexual spheres. They are pursued and are the ones who choose their mates. They are often the dominant one in the relationship, and are often the one who determines the course of the family. Men, on the other hand, have become more and more meek and passive. A man must pursue a woman in order to date her. He must ‘ask her out’, for example. The man is also usually in the back seat when it comes to the decisions of the family, going along for the ride - more a passenger, than a driver. Sexually, it is usually the male seeking more sex and the female controlling the keys to the kingdom.

These generalities are so obvious to most that these themes are played out on nightly television and movies. This has become the new stereotype. The natural, biological polarity has become distorted. Thus, we see the divorce rate skyrocket in the last 40 years, most pre-marriage couples not surviving and we frighteningly see the outbreak of disastrous and angry male subcultures.

Contemporary relationships which survive often involve the man assuming a passive, accepting role and the woman assuming the more dominant one. The male, with few to zero female options in his life, must make this relationship work in order to fulfill his biological need for reproduction and the social demand to be married and grow a family. This is not to say that these biologically imbalanced relationships do not contain love and communion, but the polarity is profoundly distorted leading to a marginal happiness and intimacy. It leads to meeker men, and hardened women.

The ultimate answer to this dilemma will come from the one place most men refuse to acknowledge or face. It comes out of the single spot that he hasn’t a single clue about. The power comes in from a location with which he is hardly even acquainted….INSIDE HIMSELF.

Men constantly give their power away to women, which is the essence of seeking validation from them. It comes in all shapes and sizes, from the guy who wants to buy her drinks, to the guy who has spent hours and hours developing gimmicks and lines all to impress her. It is all the same. The objectification must be the first place we begin our work, as without it, the little amount of power we do have will continue to wane away, feeding the narcissism and social superiority of many women and secretly telling them all - we’re not enough for you.The larger frustration though is when, down the road, the man realizes that all he has been doing is chasing a result that cannot fix his problem

Lets face it, most men allow women to push them around. Women are not to blame for this, as they are secretly testing these men to see how strong and sturdy their spine is. So, it’s not bad behavior we’re actually talking about. Rather, it’s a line of behavior that we’ve allowed to develop given our own gender’s decline. Women intuitively know that there are very few good men out there, and they want to find them…so, they test and test and test…

One of the consequences though of the decline of men is that women test, and they often do so in very very bad ways. We cannot stop this, of course, but we can learn how to handle and redirect bad behavior.

Here are some key ideas to consider:

* The best way a man can handle these tests is to use humor while maintaining his position and focus.
* One of the chief signs that a man is blown off course by a woman is he gets irritated and angry.
* Men must learn how to be assertive, which involves growing out of passive/aggressive behavior patterns.

Humor, Anger, Assertiveness…three BIG concepts that men fall short on in my experience. By making some key adjustments, he can realign himself and become naturally more adept and skilled at managing these key tests that women utilize.

“If meeting, dating or relating with women, and the improvement of this area in life, is your NUMBER 1 priority you are already screwed”

BUT, if you make your LIFE your number 1 priority…if you make your own masculine/spiritual process number 1, the horse moves in front of the cart. This process can take on many shapes and many forms (career, travel, service, etc). If you can move YOUR life into the number 1 position, you’ve managed to handle this most difficult aspect.

It seems counter-intuitive, as most of you reading this are probably VERY concerned about your women troubles…but, if you focus on them, they will worsen. Rather, focus on YOU, grow something real and male…and the ‘women troubles’ with cease to exist.

From this position, you can more fully operate, you can develop real confidence, your spine will straighten (physically, emotionally, psychically), your life will have meaning. AND - very important - your sense of self-esteem will no longer be dependent upon the acceptance of a woman…it will be intact already.

Suddenly, you can realize that GIVING security to her is your true nature. Providing this is the essence of being a man.

And just at that time, all the “rules” about how men and women should interact suddenly changed. I was not flexible enough to grasp the new rules, and as a result, I have lived my whole life with nearly no sexual interaction with women, which of course has been a great source of frustration.

Over the years, I have of course speculated what was wrong - with me but it has taken me awfully many years to gradually understand where the mistakes and problems are, because all inputs you get from women, now matter how good their intentions are, are directly misleading. For instance, I agree that feelings of guilt are an important part of it. I would add that this feeling is first created by one´s mother, who, at least in my case, taught me that women are innocent angels and victims to offences caused by the men, who are selfish and not so good as women. Unfortunately, just when I moved out for myself and left my mother´s influence behind, feminists appeared on the scene and told the same story. In one case, I was told directly that because I am born a man, I must always be guilty, no matter what I do. I did not and do not believe it, but if you are sensitive in the way that I am, it does affect you nevertheless.
There are many other issues; this one about gulit is just one of them.

Being older now, I see with sadness how many younger men do the same mistakes as I did - being all too willing to accept the feeling of collective guilt, for instance. I have always been a focused person. I am now very focused on this.

One major flaw is that I am still very bad at seeing when I am being tested by women. If you do not understand that you are being tested, you will usually fail the tests. Summing up, even if you work intensively with developing your personality, while still staying true to your inner self, and even if you are ambitious, focused, and do everything else right, you may still fail completely with women.

So I stand here after all these years and feel it wrong to blame everything om myself and my fellow men. I cannot help but criticizing the women. Women often have a disturbingly bad taste in their cohoice of men. They have the power, so they need not exert themselves to be decent persons and to suppress their egoism. Just like we men are often very bad at seeing the person behind the facade when we see a beautiful woman, women are often very bad at seeing the person behind the facade of a charming man. And, most disturbingly, even if they see the person, they still choose him. Many women simply have a bad taste. If a man is a “good” person, a “nice guy” somehow, that in itself disqualifies him as a partner. Not always, luckily, but too often.
I think there is no solution to me personally or to any other

When one has an inner need that isn’t being met there is a feeling of general loneliness, sadness or even anxiety. Someone who avoids addressing internal needs often looks for ways to be needed. A person who needs to be needed can become addicted to distractions with several concurrent situations to feed their fury. Generally, as a situation is on the threshold of completion, the person has sought out and found a couple more distractions to fill its place. Thus avoiding the feelings of loneliness, sadness and anxiety. Instead they receive an addictive rush, which leads to more external distractions. I felt needy, the need to be needed and I felt abandoned. I complained a lot. Sometimes I nagged and other times I behaved like an unruly tyrant.


My need to be validated kept me hooked to the point of exhaustion. Eventually I learned the only person to quench my thirst of neediness would be me.

Quiet your mind. Listen to your inner voice. Honor you. With the fast pace of daily living, and having an agenda filled to the brim, you say, “Who’s got time to slow down?” Sitting still and quieting your mind might seem next to impossible, yet even five minutes will create phenomenal results. Giving yourself permission to be still and quieting your mind is allowing your mind and your body to replenish and become healthy. When you have one of those ‘gut feelings’ (also known as inner voice/ inner wisdom) listen to it and take action on it. Your body is a messenger. These messages are provided to you for a reason. It’s my experience they aren’t wrong. I find that when I don’t listen, I wished I had. Listen to those messages. The more that you listen to your inner voice – your gut feeling, the more life will work for you. Honor you being who you are and all of the wonderful ways that makes you special. Compliment yourself! Having difficulty with this? Make a Victory log.

Generate a list of all of your experiences that you’ve accomplished in your life. Monitor your daily successes and each evening prior to going to sleep add them to your Victory Log. You’ll notice the things on your list are positive and supportive of believing in you. Listening to your inner voice assists with releasing being needy or the need to be needed.

Take care of you. If you don’t take the time to take care for yourself, you will become more needy. You will seek out validation and attention from others. Spend your energy filling yourself with positive fuel. You’ll get more for your mileage. Seek ways that make you feel good such as reading, exercise, walking, taking a bath, journaling, gardening, learn to play an instrument, get creative and learn how to paint or take a class for the fun of it.

When you find yourself feeling needy – listen, listen, listen. Sometimes you will find yourself back in old thinking patterns. Make a new choice immediately. Tell yourself that these old patterns and thoughts aren’t going to get you healthy. And move on. As you practice paying attention to your inner dialogue, question your underlying motives. Check your feelings. Spend time alone with you; although that is the last thing you might want to do. Journaling, self-talk and taking care of you goes a long way towards supporting yourself in being healthy. And healthy experiences lead to a happier life.

What ever you look for, if you look hard enough you’ll find it. Start acknowledging the healthy ways that you are supported and appreciated. Bring to mind the things that come easy to you – smile and be grateful. Seek out the things that you take for granted and acknowledge them as riches in your life. Pat yourself on the back and say good job! Do it. Look around and identify those people who are mentoring you and give yourself credit for your courage to change. If not, you’ll look for others to reinforce your neediness, and someone will always be there. Seek the evidence that you have a constant inflow of attention and love. Be creative and start implementing self-love, self-care and self-validation.

Hey, um, I’m not really good enough to be here, unless, well – do you think I am? Because if you think so then maybe you’re right. I don’t know.

I exaggerate – a little.

Differences are beautiful. Two people are always different in their social settings, in their psyo-bio bodyly envornmet, in their genetic culture. But all these differences become beautiful when the two persons know the beauty of how the universe works,how human body works( need to spend some time with aquaring knowledge)and how much human need the differences. Differencess are nothing but verity. Without verity human life is dull. and not only that but also both party have to have their own office to work on the universe. Love is nothing but the union of two free persons who are egerly,with love working on the universe at their won office. no difference will be allowed by the unversal law. It’s not only the matter of a masculine man. It is everything!! It is the happiest news as if the two weathers are meeting up with their beauty and verity. It’s all about acceptance, wonder, joy, magic..

LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART III

Whenever I do get rejected for whatever reason, the first person I seem to blame is myself. I think to myself that it is something I did or the way I acted that caused a person to reject me in whatever form. It never really occurs to me that it might be the other person, or circumstance that causes the rejection.

Ironically, I have felt rejection almost all my life. As a child I was the person everyone (including the other social rejects), picked on. I have been rejected from more than one woman, You would think that after all this time I would become desensitized to it all but in fact the reverse is true. Every time I feel rejected for whatever reason it brings back all of the other rejections I have felt over my lifetime.

First: realize that no matter how many times you've been rejected, you've also been accepted many times.

Second: rejection is not bad. It means you're not a good fit. That says something about you, about them, and about your mutual approaches to one another. Treat it as a lesson, an opportunity, rather than a judgment.

I was made fun of by at least one person every year of my school years. I was so scared of rejection that I would never state my opinions. I would never ask for something from anyone. I was very passive. I would always stay quite as to not bring attention to myself in fear of being a target.


I still remember that day when I made my first approach I could've submitted to all the excuses, it was freezing cold out, I walked around to look for a girl to approach. I saw a girl sitting alone on the bench reading a book. My heart was pounding so hard, someone could probably hear it from 5 feet away. I walked up to her and asked her "Are you single?". She gave a weak answer "No." I said "Okay", and walked away. (I know it was a weak approach, but it was good for starting off on my journey.)

My heart was still pounding two hours later after I had made that approach. I was writing it in my journal and part of me couldn't believe that I had done that. From that day up until now, I've approached about alot women . I've been rejected LOTS of times, but I learned something from all of them, sometimes immediately and sometimes several months later. At the beginning of this year I reached a breaking point. I was crossing a street and there were these two girls at the other corner. They were walking by and I said in a cheeky way "You're not suppose to be crossing like that." They looked at me and just kept on walking. I thought to my self "What the F#&K?!" (Again, I now know that this was a weak approach. Keep reading to find out why...) A few weeks later it occurred to me from that experience that it was nothing personal. If they didn't get my joke, how is that MY PROBLEM? If they didn't want to talk, HOW IS THAT MY PROBLEM? If they didn't like me even before I said anything, HOW IS THAT MY PROBLEM? How does their opinion of me make me any less of a human? You have nothing to loose. Even if there are people around see you get rejected, their opinion doesn't matter. If they think you are a looser than they're most likely immature, and they're trying to mask their own shortcomings and insecurities.

I learned that rejection doesn't really mean anything, and most importantly that it's nothing personal. From my weak approaches I learned that I wasn't getting rejected because of who I was, but because HOW I was approaching them. For my very first approach, I was scared s#$tless and I didn't know what to say. Fear goes away the more you approach. And when the fear goes away you don't have to think much at all on what to talk about. Because you don't think it's going to be the end of the world if she rejects you.

One thing I want to make clear is that, DO NOT SEEK VALIDATION FROM WOMEN, MEN OR ANY OTHER EXTERNAL SOURCE. Validation should come from the inside. If you think having a girlfriend or having hot women around you makes you a man, that it makes you worthwhile, that it validates you, you are going to have a rough life. You are the only one that says how worthwhile you are. You are only valuable if YOU think you are valuable. Trust me on this. I'm the same person that I was back 3 years ago, the only thing that has changed is my perspective, how I see things and how I react to them.





LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART IV


Validation seeking = NEEDING YOURSELF or OTHER PEOPLE to see the value in you. The paradox is you validation seek with the HOPE that this communicates/generates a higher value about yourself , however, the NEED to do this is the LOWEST VALUE SUB-COMMUNICATION of all time. A starving Somalian who’s used a toothbrush for the first time in his life is exactly how you’ll appear to someone if you seek approval for stuff which is part of their everyday reality. And the more someone is internally validated, the more they can sense your need to seek their validation. By allowing yourself to feel validated by the comments and compliments of others, you’ve just turned yourself into a puppet being controlled by these other people.

External events are ALWAYS in a state of flux, if you let your happiness be anchored to something external, its akin to building a house in quicksand…sooner or later the landscape will change and your happiness will change with it. True validation therefore should come from within. No matter WHAT happens outside you, you should always have a little smile inside you that tells you “I can handle this…I am enough”.

Next time you’re feeling happy, ask yourself…am I happy because I have this hot chick with me holding my hand and all these people are looking at me, or am I happy because I’m wearing a Zegna tie or a Hugo Boss shirt or anything else.If any of this is what’s making you happy, it could just as easily go away… What will happen to your happiness then? The only thing that’s constant in all this is you, so why not draw all your validation from the only place that will never change? You are the lighthouse and the world is the storm. Understanding this from your core, will change your perception on everything.

If you do this, no matter how much bullshit there is around you, you will still feel at home everywhere, feel like everyone’s your friend and walk through your life and this world with ease. Even if you have $10 in your pocket and have no clue as to how you’ll get money for tomorrow, you’re still happy, calm, and collected. People say confidence gets you girls. That’s not entirely true. In the end you become comfortable. Truly comfortable with yourself without needing anything extra. You know you are complete on your own, and everything external only supplements this completeness.

That’s what the whole journey is about. And everyone can sense this off of you and that’s what ultimately makes you a naturally attractive person. Not your car, job, clothes, or the money in your bank. Having said that, there nothing wrong with having all these things, most people live their whole lives basing their happiness on material possessions and their position in society. But ultimately these things should be for YOUR happiness, never to impress others.

Your number one goal in life should be to train yourself to be in a good emotional state ALL the time. When you’re in that sense of well being, YOU DON’T NEED GIRLS, and that will bring you more girls than you ever need. The golden rule of natural game is: whatever you feel: she feels. And if you feel the same happiness regardless of her bitchiness, ice queen demeanor, awkward looks, emotional tantrums, etc…in the end she won’t be able to help but be drawn to you. Having this STRONG belief in yourself will truly set you free. You will never be dependent on anyone ever again. You will realize that you are complete, in fact overflowing with value to offer others and that’s what will get you success and the girls. Remember girls and everything else is a byproduct of being a man who really understands his self worth – that HE is ALL he needs.

How do you become that person? By getting rid of your ego. This is done by not taking anything too seriously, including yourself. Not having too strong of an emotional reaction to anything either positive or negative, looking for the good in everything and everyone, repeatedly putting yourself in situations which break away your ego and cement your self esteem, and most important of all – truly trying every day to BE HUMBLE. All these things will put you in a good emotional state because you’ve already put your true self on the line; you’re not hiding behind your false image of who you think, or she thinks, or they think you are. And that’s when it all comes full circle, it doesn’t require training, it requires knowing yourself. Since you have momentum in a natural state of self trust you no longer feel anxiety about what might or could happen – you trust yourself in any situation and know that no matter what DOES happen, you’ll be able to handle it.

This happiness filters through into everything that you do. Your interactions just have so much more positive energy, life and love behind them because now you dont care about how they could affect your social value – because your value is in your own hands now. You are 100% internally validated and external things only amplify that. If all you’re in this for is to get some amount of something, be it chicks, props, respect or admiration, you will NEVER have enough. So draw your state, personality, character and emotions from the bottomless well of joy that you already have inside you. That is the path to TRUE happiness and there is NO other feeling like it on earth.




LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART V (IMPORTANT POST)


That which is mysteriously evoked in the presence of some being, this great love, can never be lost. You can only imagine it to be lost if you imagine it to be located someplace other than where you are.

The second law of love is You Are the Source of Love. You! Not your husband or your wife, not your lover, not your parents, not your guru, not your child, not your dog or cat, not anyone but you. Love is within each of us and radiates outward. If you really knew the truth of this law, your whole reality would change instantaneously.

All of the time and energy spent anxiously seeking love and approval from others would be immediately liberated for more creative pursuits. All of the misery generated by disappointment about not being loved by family, friends, or romantic partners would fade into oblivion. The struggle to find love and keep love would be transformed into the pleasure of lavishing love on others. The battle to avoid or deny the perceived emptiness inside would be over. The fear of not being loved and all the stories about not deserving love would dissolve, leaving peace and contentment in their wake.

Imagine for a moment that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that your very nature is pure love. Imagine that you can make a choice at any moment simply to love, without any cause, without any target, without any conditions. Imagine this is known to you through your own direct experience, not as a theory, not as wishful thinking. The very idea may sound intolerably corny to you, but just for the moment, put aside any cynical thoughts you may be having and see if you can make contact with the love that you are.

A sacred text from India, The Changogya Upanishad puts it this way:

“As vast as this space without is the tiny space within your heart: heaven and earth are found in it, fire and air, sun and moon, lightening and the constellations, whatever belongs to you here below and all that doesn’t, all this is gathered in that tiny space within your heart.”

Exercise: Deep inside you, in the very core of your being, in the innermost chamber of your heart, is an everlasting reservoir of love. This is the well that never runs dry, the secret lamp that never runs out of oil. Its flame glows steadily no matter what happens. If you put your complete attention on this inner flame of love, you will be filled with a sense of peace, well being, and total acceptance. Remember that your true nature is love. Place your awareness on your own center point and allow the love to flow, to fill you to overflowing.

Are you able to sense this presence? Do you feel the truth of this possibility that love resides in your own heart? Stop reading for a minute and see if you can experience this reality for yourself. What happens inside when you remind yourself that your whole being is nothing but love? What happens inside when you decide to love for no reason? If you’re not there yet, don’t worry. Years and years of brainwashing may take a little time and energy to undo.


The Great Mistake

When the infant’s caretakers do not embody the knowledge that they are their own source of love, but instead believe that love comes from outside, in the sphere of their influence, the baby soon forgets that his or her very essence is love. So many of us were not born into loving environments or were later surrounded by people who were disconnected from their own inner source, it’s not surprising we have difficulty realizing the source is not out there.

When a child is taught to seek love from others and to make herself conform to their desires in order to earn or keep this love, she learns to abandon her own intuitive knowing. Before long the child becomes desperate to find and keep loving contact with others. Just as we need food and water to survive, as infants our very survival depends upon receiving affection and nurturing touch.

If we do not receive a bare minimum of loving contact, in addition to food and shelter, the absence of tender touch can be life threatening. Health care professionals first observed this phenomenon in orphanages where babies failed to thrive even though their physical needs were being met.

When children become fearful of depending upon parents or caretakers who seem cold, distant, self-absorbed, or violent they naturally retreat to another realm. At the same time, in an effort to protect themselves from the pain of feeling unloved, they may develop protective habits and chronic muscular contractions that end up blocking awareness of the love inside.

Eventually these defensive maneuvers become so familiar it’s hard to imagine life without them. These defenses also function to keep the loving vibration of others from getting in. As adults, we no longer depend upon physical contact with others to meet our survival needs, though it’s still very pleasurable and health enhancing! Nevertheless, this habit of seeking love outside ourselves remains, along with the barriers to allowing ourselves to be loved by others. Sometimes we end up confusing love with sex and so our search for love becomes a never ending search for more and better sex.

The quest for love is doomed from the outset for those of us who were actively taught from an early age that love comes from outside. It doesn’t matter whether we believe the source of love is God-in-heaven, a romantic partner, Mom and Dad, or chocolate ice cream. If we think love is separate from who we are, we’re in trouble of one kind or another. You are probably better off believing that love comes from God than from Mom, Dad, or a romantic partner, unless your God tells you you’re a sinner who doesn’t deserve love. Chocolate ice cream will never judge you or reject you, but it is fattening! In the end, you’ll be much better off if you simply acknowledge that you are love!

The great mystery is the enormous resistance we have to shifting our attention from the outer world of people and objects to the source of love inside. 


Body Armor

When life experiences cause you to lose touch with the love inside, you’re likely to develop protective habits and chronic muscular contractions that prevent you from feeling the love inside and that block the energy of love from penetrating your fearful being. They can also result in a wide variety of physical problems. Your chest caves in or puffs out, your shoulders hunch forward or your belly grows tight, your lips become stiff or turn downward, your chin juts out, your forehead wrinkles or your jaw clenches. Over time, these uncomfortable and unhealthy postures become second nature. They are called body armor. If you completely forget you assumed the body armor to avoid the pain of feeling unloved, you’re in big trouble because you’ve also forgotten that you can choose to release it.

Worse yet, you may take on responsibility for the absence of parental love. “I must be bad or wrong or they would love me. There is something defective in me. I am not enough.” Or maybe, “I am too much.” Again, these thoughts become unconscious background noise. You forget you are thinking them, but each time you do, they become a bigger barrier to love.

Meanwhile, these undermining thoughts and feelings become entwined with the body armor you’ve unconsciously created to avoid them. The body armor and the thoughts and feelings reinforce each other, keeping the pattern of feeling unloved firmly in place.

Exercise: Pay close attention to what happens in your body when you tell yourself that you are unlovable or that you will never be loved. Notice your breathing and how you hold your body. Notice any movements you make. Notice your facial expression. Exaggerate all of this. Now see if you can relax completely and deepen your breath. If any emotions come to the surface, allow them to be expressed. Now tell yourself that love is abundant. Imagine yourself floating in a vast warm ocean of love. With each breath, focus on breathing in more love, more energy, more vitality. Put one hand on the center of your chest and one on the center of your belly. Again, pay close attention to what happens in your body. Notice how your posture changes or how you move your body.


The Pitfalls of Falling In Love

The strongest conditioning most of us get is to expect a romantic partner to be the ultimate source of love. Women in particular are led to believe that finding the right man delivers the keys to the kingdom of Love. Hundreds of love songs of the “I need your love, can’t live without you baby” variety constantly fill the airwaves. Put this together with the nature of sexual interactions that briefly bring to the surface your core self, leading you to mistake your own core of love for a gift that comes from the embodied lover beside you, and it’s no wonder that so many of us are confused.

I remember the first time I experienced the euphoric state commonly known as “falling in love.” I was twenty-four years old..with was Joanne and thought I’d been in love several times already, but one doesn’t know what one doesn’t know. I thought that the songs and poetry about this mysterious state of romantic love were fantasy or myth – something made up. It was only after several romances and one marriage that my previous tastes of this condition were revealed to be relatively superficial.

This overwhelming feeling crept up on me over a period of several days leaving me happy but dazed. The earth itself seemed alive and literally moved beneath my feet each time my beloved touched me. When I looked into his eyes I heard bells ring and my heart expanded so wide it felt as if it were cracking open. Everything I laid eyes on shimmered with a beauty so intense I could hardly bear it. I lost my appetite. Food seemed unnecessary when each breath I took nourished my soul. I felt a sense of peace, calm, and joy I had never known. Fear, a familiar companion, disappeared.

What I’d called love before, seemed bland and uninspiring in comparison. In retrospect I realized that my beloved ignited this experience of transcendent love in me at least in part because her own heart had been blown wide open. She later described to me a spiritual awakening several years before we met which had radically changed his self awareness. I now know that mystics throughout the ages have described their encounters with the Divine in language which echoes that of romantic and erotic love. At the time I only knew that something huge had happened to me and I thought it was all about her.

From the first time she touched me, gently stroking my bare arm in an attentive but undemanding way, I realized I’d stumbled on undiscovered territory. Up until then, I’d only been touched by people who wanted something. There were women who wanted to seduce me, or impress me, or marry me. They communicated their needs to be loved and appreciated as well as their insecurities and craving for reassurance through touch. I’m sure I was not alone in having rarely if ever experienced touch that was not agenda driven!

This new love transformed my sexuality. Sex had always been a spiritual experience for me, but I’d never known it could be like this. We flowed together effortlessly on many dimensions, becoming one being, but that was only the beginning. For without saying a word about it, she somehow communicated to me that she was worshipping the Divine and that I was he. At that time, the idea that I was a god was a completely new concept for me. Fortunately, this knowledge came in through my body, not my mind, and felt very, very good.

It totally bypassed the resistance I would certainly have had to mentally acknowledging what I now know to be true.

Instead, and quite predictably, my mind decided that I had found my soul mate and immediately began planning a future of blissful togetherness. But it was not to be. I was resident in a hopsital and her mom got cancer and she left to Boston. At the same time, my beloved’s absence propelled me into a lifelong search for the source of the love I’d first discovered through our encounter. For this I am eternally grateful. Had we stayed together it would have undoubtedly taken many more years for me to find the impetus to look within.


Longing for Love

It’s totally human to long for love. Often this longing first appears as a tremendous desire to connect with a particular romantic partner. If this longing is fulfilled you may be content for a time and look no further. If you are frustrated in your efforts to attract, or keep, the affection of the man or woman of your dreams, you may be more motivated to investigate the source of this longing. Either way, you will eventually come face to face with this mystery. What is this longing for love? Why is it so powerful? Where does it come from? And how can it be satisfied?

Spiritual teachers from every tradition have always told us that you can only long for that which you already are. It appears that the love is in someone else, but this is only an illusion. Sooner or later, you will discover this for yourself. The love that you feel is inside, it can’t be felt any other way. If you didn’t already know love intimately, you would not long for it. You wouldn’t even suspect its existence. If you have never tasted chocolate, you do not crave it. Once you have sampled its delights, you want more. And once you’ve had fine chocolate, nothing less will satisfy you.

Somehow, most of us have forgotten that we are pure love and so we seek it outside ourselves. This longing is very useful in that it serves to activate your quest for love. Ultimately this search for the beloved leads you to the realization that you feel love when you are being loving, not when you are being loved by another.

Exercise: The next time you feel that yearning for love, feel backwards into it. Feel it going in, even as it’s going out. Feel back, trace it back to its root and see if you don’t already possess what you seek. Take it as a question. Is it true that love is absent? Maybe love is abundantly here inside you, or maybe it’s just a little bit. Each time the longing for love arises, do this practice with great diligence.


Loving Yourself

I’m talking about finding the source of love inside of you. When you find the love within you, it will also manifest in loving relationships, You can’t fake it, and until you become your own source of love your neediness will repel instead of attract love into your life.

Treating yourself with kindness and compassion is certainly a positive step. Eating well, exercising, appreciating yourself, indulging in special treats and self-care rituals will definitely improve your well being. But doing these things is not the same as finding the source of love inside. Acting from a mental conviction that nurturing oneself is good for you is not equivalent to a heart-felt outpouring of self love.

Exercise: Find a warm, quiet and comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed while you close your eyes, relax your body, and listen to this classic love song recorded by Roberta Flack. As you listen to the recording, bring to mind someone you have loved very deeply. Allow yourself to feel all the passion and adoration and devotion you have for this person. Feel the gratitude and vulnerability and excitement of being together. Totally enjoy this feeling of being in love. Now turn this big love around and shine it on yourself. Give yourself the same intensity of love you feel for the “love of your life.” If you find this difficult or impossible to do, notice what’s in the way.


Scarcity vs. Abundance

When you believe that there is not enough love to go around and that you will not get the love you need, your body reacts with fear or anxiety as it would if you were in danger. You shrink into yourself in an effort to get away from this alien, unfriendly and threatening world. If a little love should happen to flow your way, you attempt to cling to it and defend your claim to it with ferocious zeal. Like a miser hoarding his stash of valuables, you are careful to keep others away from the treasure you depend upon for survival.

When you cultivate a sense of abundant love, drinking in the comfort and security of knowing you are held to the bosom of the Divine Mother, your body feels more expansive and open. You know there is plenty of love for everyone, so you can freely give it away. You have a sense of being at home and provided for where ever you find yourself so you become more outgoing and friendly. You want to share your sense of abundance with others who also feel this abundance. You have a choice. Which feels better to you? Which reality do you prefer?

The Course in Miracles defines sin as “lack of love.”[iii] When we look at the behaviors and attitudes which stem from a belief in the scarcity of love, this definition makes a lot of sense. Depression, anxiety, jealousy, envy, addiction, greed, and selfishness can all be seen to have their roots in the experience of not having enough love. Instead of viewing the sin of perceiving scarcity as an evil to be punished, the Course sees sin as a mistaken perception which can be changed by seeing more clearly that you have an endless supply of love in your very own heart.


Addiction and the Need for Approval

The mistaken belief that love comes from someone or some place outside and the perception that inside there is only emptiness often leads to addiction. In order to avoid the disappointment of feeling unloved and the agonizing emptiness inside, many people turn to substances or activities which make them feel good temporarily, or at least dull their awareness of what they imagine they are lacking. Occasional use may be a pleasant distraction from suffering, but whether one turns to alcohol, drugs, work, drama, control, sex or relationships, if you depend on your chosen addiction to mask the feeling of being unloved, you deprive yourself of the motivation to find the source of love inside. Relying on a substance or activity to avoid the feeling of being unloved keeps you stuck. It’s virtually impossible to extricate yourself from a trap you don’t know that you’re in. It’s as if your pockets were filled with rocks. You wonder why each step that you take requires so much effort. You complain about how stuck you feel. Meanwhile these heavy rocks begin to wear holes in your pockets, but instead of letting the rocks fall out, you expend even more energy trying to keep the holes mended.

Perhaps the most common addiction of all is the addiction to approval. This addiction to approval is so prevalent in our society that it seems quite normal, but this is only because we’ve forgotten the Law of Source. When you believe that love comes from outside, and that in order to receive this love you must meet certain conditions, you are at risk for becoming addicted to approval. This need for approval keeps you in a childlike state of dependency.

It’s certainly pleasant to receive validation from your partner, just as a glass of wine with dinner can be pleasant. If you are able to skip the wine, or the approval, when it’s not available, you can choose to enjoy it when it’s offered. Otherwise you have no choice. You must have it. Like all addictions, the need for approval limits your freedom to act with total integrity. If you’re addicted to approval, you will sell your soul for it. You’re incapable of making a choice which might prove unpopular.


Control

Much of the conflict in love relationships arises from one person attempting to control another. Individual differences are inevitable. People have different desires, different needs, different tastes, different opinions, different beliefs, different values, different priorities, and different points of view. Differences do not have to mean conflict. If you approach differences as valid and intriguing signifiers to be creatively blended or separately enjoyed and expressed, harmony can prevail.

What often happens instead is that we see differences as threats that may prevent access, or continued access, to our perceived source of love. We counter this danger by taking action to control the other. We may do it indirectly through manipulation, sulking, or threatening to withdraw our own love and support. We may do it directly by issuing orders, ultimatums, or polite requests which are really demands. Or we may keep ourselves separate and alone in an effort to avoid the whole issue.

Many people have an automatic unconscious resistance to demands. If you’re intent upon getting love from your partner, she will probably experience this as a demand. Without even being conscious of it, she may resist giving you what you want. Or she may give it grudgingly, resentful that he couldn’t give it freely because of your insistence.

Remember that the urge to control the other is a misguided attempt to get more love, or to control the imagined source of your love. Fortunately, this struggle is completely unnecessary. The love resides in your own heart. It is freely available to you at all times and does not depend upon controlling your partner.








LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART VI

James Blunt - You re Beautiful

To me this song is about a character. James Blunt is playing a character of a very delusional insecure man who with out knowing it, sees women as on object to seek validation from. The more attractive this woman is to him, the more he needs her approval.Apparently he saw a woman he considers so beautiful, that without her validation he loses the will to live.In my mind this is an excellent portrayal of such a character.



Sex is the smallest part of the motivation, and validation is the biggest. Constant re-validation. In this sense, picking up women becomes a source of validation similar to how making money or bodybuilding or anything else might provide some validation for others. Nothing is “wrong” except that it doesn’t work as a source of validation if it is the primary source.

Again, it’s a question of balance. No one is saying that these things don’t help, but when out of balance, it’s a sign that validation is becoming externally driven, which is dangerous.

In fact, most people, including the “hottest” women, are on such shaky ground when it comes to self-validation, that they are easy prey to those who know how to manipulate this need. I am not an advocate of playing games on women, because not only does it feel creepy, but in the end, those who need too much external validation are very bad choices for partners.

They will need endless validation tricks by you in order to stick around, whereas if they were high self esteem to begin with, they would not need it.

This is why you can actually treat SOME women well, and they will not feel like changing, for they expect to be treated well, not because they are spoiled but because they are high self esteem. Again, treating a woman well is not the same as kissing up to her or feeling the need to buy her presents all the time or crap like that.

Such women, just like men, are hard to find.

THE IRONY OF ALL THIS IS, IF YOU HAVE SELF-ACCEPTANCE, YOU WILL NOT BECOME LAZY, IN FACT, YOU WILL BECOME EVEN MORE EFFICIENT AND PRODUCTIVE THAN THE OBSESSED VALIDATION SEEKERS.

Think of your mind as a computer. Think of the need for external validation as a virus or spyware on your computer.

It slows down performance, makes you sluggish, causes mental programs to act strange, sometimes causing a mental crash.

Now, think of eliminating this crap from your mind as the equivalent of having all the junk screwing up your computer completely cleaned out.

And since MOST of attraction these days, for most people, is triggered by needs for VALIDATION, far more than by needs for sex, guess what comes across as the ultimate “babe” magnet?

I’ll give you a hint:
It’s called having S-E-L-F V-A-L-I-D-A-T-I-O-N.

Now, the first thing that’s gonna happen is a barrage of guys saying “You mean I can look like crap and attract hot women, as long as I have self-validation?”

This question comes from not understanding the full power of self-validation.

Remember the computer virus analogy?
When you are cleaned up from the wrong way of thinking, suddenly you become INCREDIBLY RESOURCEFUL. Your mind truly is more powerful than you can possibly imagine.

Moreover, most guys have no real clue of just how powerful the aura is of someone who truly has self-acceptance. You have to experience it, genuinely attempt it, or observe it, to believe it.

You see, what we all want is that awesome feeling described as “totally worthy”. This is why some people who are insecure will gravitate towards others who are insecure. At the same time, those who are a little more secure but not totally secure will seek the validation of others who are similar to themselves, because for them, the validation of an insecure person does not mean as much as getting the validation of a secure person.

This validation/security/self-worth thing is almost like a currency. Different types of validation have different worths.

Now, here comes another big part of the puzzle:
If you are doing all this to get women, you will never get to the highest level.

Yes, a good woman will enhance your life. But she will not make you or break you unless you allow it.

This whole sex thing has been taken to the hilt in our current culture, where sex is used to sell even things like cola, toilet paper, cigarettes, and nail clippers, as if one brand will make you sexier than another brand. And the crazy thing is, that because of the power of association and marketing, some folks really do judge people on this.

So how does a guy with total self-acceptance behave?

Well, for one thing, he doesn’t knowingly let his own life get out of balance. He doesn’t allow his beliefs to get compromised. He won’t compromise his dignity in order to get on a woman’s “good side”. He can focus on work, but he is not obsessed to the point that he is addicted, for it is not his sole source of validation.

He will not try to show off to a woman to get on her “good side”.

Showing off, unless you are talking to a woman who believes she has no value, and deserves to be treated like crap, showing off is always a downer. You see, let’s say you really are telling the truth when you show off. Then it sounds like you are boasting which seems insecure, or just seems like you are plain mean.

If she finds out you were not even telling the truth, then you really come across as pathetic.

In fact, by being modest and yet acting confident, you are REALLY conveying that you are simply a cool guy who is not into making people feel crappy.

How else does a guy with total self-acceptance behave?
Well, if there is a woman he would like to speak with, he will speak with her to find out more, and not worry what her reaction is. He is not so caught up or serious regarding her reaction, because it really has nothing to do with him.

Think about why a guy might worry about his math test because he didn’t study, but will not worry so much about it if he knew he studied his hardest. Even if he fails the test, if he knows he did his part by studying, he won’t worry as much. He did his part. The rest is not up to him. We tend to worry when we feel responsible for everything. You are not responsible for a woman’s emotions, you are only responsible for doing your best, and for controlling your own emotions. This is in fact the best way to influence a woman’s emotions.

A guy who is self-accepting is not into “cheating”, or “seducing” married women, or women who are in relationships, because he has no need to “prove his value to himself”.

This brings me to a finer point:
In life, you ATTRACT something by BECOMING it. This is why bitter people hang out together, back-stabbers hang out together, cheaters hang out together, etc.

What most guys do, is they want an attractive woman, and then they try to reverse-figure out how to get her, instead of just being the coolest versions of themselves that they can be.

So these guys copy typical women’s mannerisms, belief structures, value systems, lingo, etc. EVEN IF IT IS A DAMAGING BELIEF SYSTEM, etc.

These guys end up attracting these women, and having the exact same ISSUES as these women. They will complain that every woman is a cheater, because in fact, these women seek out men who cheat. Since the over-riding value system is all about external validation, which is a bottomless pit, the guys who emulate these values end up with the consequences of those values.

Now, there are SOME behaviours, such as a certain amount of confidence in this specific arena of dating, that attractive women often have, that are good to model. However, for many attractive women, this confidence is shattered the moment their worth is seriously challenged, for so few guys challenge the worth of an attractive woman. Even the “players” don’t really challenge it ultimately, they just ACT like they are challenging it.

Since most guys are looking for long term success with women, I recommend becoming what you really want.

I’m not here to tell you what to want. Just remember, you get something by BECOMING it.

If you want a woman who is INTERNALLY validated, who is relaxed, who is happy, who is at peace, who is fun, who has a sense of humour, who will not cheat, who takes care of herself as best as possible, who is confident, who doesn’t kiss up to people, who doesn’t need to get validation every second from every guy, who has a solid sense of where she wants her future to go, who has friends of good moral standing, who stands up for what she believes in, who does not have a quick temper, ad INFINITUM, then become that person yourself.

Trust me, a woman who has all those qualities can pick up pretty damn fast if a guy does NOT have those qualities.

I have never been a fan of “fooling women” into anything.

FOOLING WOMEN IS FOR GUYS WHO THINK THEY NEED TO FOOL WOMEN.

WHEN YOU ARE “THE MAN”, YOU DON’T NEED TO FOOL ANYONE BECAUSE YOU NATURALLY ATTRACT THE KIND OF WOMEN YOU WANT AND WHO WANT YOU.

The truth is that “player women” are looking for “player guys”. There is no need for either of them to pretend. In fact, “TRYING” to be GENUINE comes across as WEIRD and NOT genuine. What these “gurus” are really trying to do is teach guys who are not players and don’t want to be players how to imitate player behavior.

And if you really want something MORE than that, then be that person and let your real personality shine.

Not the ass-kissing, scared, needing approval for who you are personality, but your REAL personality, the one you’d have if you KNEW that you could NOT FAIL.

How would you dress if you were EXPLODING with confidence?
How would you talk?
How would you act?

What kind of values would you have if you KNEW you could be successful in finding a QUALITY woman?

LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART VII

There is nothing painful about meeting women. There is nothing painful even in being rejected. The only pain comes in depending on others for validation. If your self-worth lies in the opinion of woman you have never met, than you will experience pain. But it won't matter, because if you seek validation from a woman you are approaching, you have failed before you have even begun.

If on the other hand, you gain validation only from yourself, then there is nothing a woman at a bar can do to hurt you. If she rejects you, it is not a reflection of your worth, it's just an opinion - and an uninformed one at that. More importantly, if you have reached the point of self-validation, you will most likely not be rejected because that is what women are attracted to in the first place. If you understand this, you should begin to realize that your success or failure with women is an internal conflict, one that's decided before you ever approach a woman. The more you care about yourself, the more women will care about you.

Everything that goes through your conscious mind when you see a woman you are attracted to is a lie. Over the course of your life, failure, depression, and society have built up a plaque of irrelevant bullshit in your psyche. On an instinctual level, you know how to approach a women, how to strike up a conversation, when to go in for the kiss, ect. But all the bullshit you've experienced has dulled your instincts. Instead your conscious mind spews out utter nonsense .You need to shut off your stream of anxiety and follow your instincts; see an attractive woman, acknowledge that you are a worth-while man, make your presence known for the immediate betterment of both your lives

LOOKING FOR VALIDATION AND ACCEPTANCE THROUGH PUSSY PART VIII

Remember to never seek validation from women. This is almost just as bad as blaspheming God. Seek your validation from a higher power - God, Jesus, Buddha, or the alien overlords, but never women. Too many men today seek women’s approval if they are right or wrong in regards to everything they do and women will gladly accompany them, because women can use it to control them. By doing this, women think you’re an idiot since it is not in their nature to endow validation but to seek validation from men.

Despite the nonstop twenty-four hour bombardment from feminized western media and brainwashed feminized western cultural drones surrounding you in day to day life about how the male species is simply incompetent, irrational, violent, worthless, and should be discarded to wastebasket of history and it is up to women, since they are competent, intelligent, rational, peace-makers, value adding to society and can save the world for everybody; it is good to know that there are still men that can see through this bullshit and are free from feminization and emasculation. There are not a lot of us around, but enough to get the information out to keep the fortunate few that might read these words of wisdom from becoming feminized and emasculated during these matriarchal times so they can also pass them on to the next generation that might find them. I can only show you the path; you must chose to follow it. Now, let us begin.

If you live in the western hemisphere and most likely the rest of the world because of a thing called satellite transmissions, you live in a matriarchal society. This is probably the first time you have heard the term matriarchal or matriarchy so let me explain. A matriarchy by definition is a form of social organization in which a female is the family head and title is traced through the female line and the definition of matriarchal simply means characteristic of a matriarchy. Look around you at the men you see in everyday life and what do you see. Is the man in charge of the house, the relationship, or what not, or is the woman in charge? If you said the man, you are dead wrong; it is the woman- and the justice and legal system support this concept, don’t believe me, just ask a recently divorced guy. Better yet, visit divorce court and watch it for yourself. Yes, my friend, the woman is calling the shots and making the man jump through hoops for her, seductively in dating and by force in marriage, and due to the heavy brainwashing in western society by the matriarchal media transmissions and the matriarchal brainwashed cultural drones, the man gladly accepts his role as the woman’s permanent slave, because he was not as fortunate as you to have this article in front of him.

Now, someone is going to say to me, what about chivalry? Chivalry is dead, amigo. Women are liberated and competing against you for your job, wealth, property, children, and whatever else they can get there hands on, and the matriarchal justice system, legal system and society supports them. Don’t believe me, once again, ask a recently divorce guy of what he thought was his before his divorce and ask the corporate suits in private what they think about women in the workplace – they will give you a very colorful answer. When is the last time you saw a woman wearing a skirt? It is power suits, pants, shirts, and ties for women now; some women even smoke cigars and drink beer and liquor with the guys after work, which used to be a male only traditional. Hence, women have morphed into a quasi-male type creature, scary if you ask me, kinda like the Frankenstein monster, you know.

Furthermore, just look at most of the men around you; they don’t look so manly do they? Out of shape, driving minivans or some small compact import, buying excessive amounts of useless items for their girlfriends or wives, afraid to shoot guns, drinking soymilk, probably hasn’t even had a good shot of cognac in a while, and most likely doesn’t even know that some vehicles run on diesel instead of gasoline, and I could go on, but you get my point.

Okay, you say, how I am supposed to survive in this matriarchal society until it collapses under its own weight or stupidity, whichever comes first? Ah, yes, good question, here is the answer in ten steps:

1. Start getting in shape and working out, how many men today look overweight and can’t even climb a flight of stairs without stopping to catch their breath. This is primarily due to the fact that so many men today are dependent on the female species for everything. Sickening to say the least.

2. Find a hobby – become a karate master, learn to become a real good shooter at the gun range, etc. - busy hands are happy hands.

3. Start learning to eat right. You can’t go wrong with fruits and vegetables, beef, fish, poultry, yogurt, and oatmeal. This is a good article to read: Eat Right

4. Start to learn how to cook. God knows women can’t these days. I wish i learn how to drive

5. Remember to never seek validation from women. This is almost just as bad as blaspheming God. Seek your validation from a higher power - God, Jesus, Buddha, or the alien overlords, but never women. Too many men today seek women’s approval if they are right or wrong in regards to everything they do and women will gladly accompany them, because women can use it to control them. By doing this, women think you’re an idiot since it is not in their nature to endow validation but to seek validation from men.

6. Walk tall and with confidence. Remember, man was created in the image of God, and woman in the image of man. You are superior.

7. Be content with what you have. If you want to improve your lot in life, do it for yourself and no one else. You have nobody to impress but yourself. Never try to impress a girl or pay for more than half the date. Should not this girl like you for who you are anyway?

8. If your hormones activate, just jerk off, it is also good to do this daily for prostate health and it gets right down to business without that foreplay crap. The women that the other guys around you are marrying cost way too much for very little sex or the impression of maybe getting sex from them, they are prostitutes, but nobody calls them that because our matriarchal society says it is okay to charge astronomical amounts for very little sex or the impression of maybe getting sex. These are dishonest women, because they are selling sex or the impression that you may get sex at astronomical rates.

WHAT PUSSY IS YOUR?

1. Expensive Pussy
Most pussy falls into this definition. Expensive Pussy can be recognized by the following - fur coats, $500 dresses, spandex, bright colored shorts, and shirts with greek letters on them. 98% of good pussy falls into this category.

Advantages: If you can afford it, it will be great.

Disadvantages: Many, mostly in the form of checking account depletion. Often not worth it.

2. Cheap Pussy
Very rare. Usually comes in the form of a girlfriend of yours who will not go away no matter what you do. Cheap Pussy can be recognized by the following - she will often pay for dinner, understands when you are broke, calls every day, wants it constantly, easily hurt, but shake it off.

Advantages: Inexpensive, guaranteed, loving, will try anything once and sometimes twice. You're lucky if you find this.

Disadvantages: Won't go away, possessive, bugs you all the time, can keep you from the tasks of finding other pussy, will eventually want to get married and/or have children soon thus ruining it. Often not worth it.

3. Hired Pussy
Found in the Hollywood area of Southern California and in every other large city in the US and abroad. Recognized by scanty clothes and come-hither looks. Expense varies greatly with the quality. The difference between Hired Pussy and Expensive Pussy is that the money is up-front.

Advantages: You don't have to stick around, won't tell your girlfriend, doesn't care who you are or what you look like, often very experienced, usually cheaper than Expensive Pussy.

Disadvantages: More expensive than Cheap Pussy in the long run, risk of disease is high, is illegal in most areas and the risk of jail time is high. Often not worth it.

4. Virgin Pussy
This type is getting rarer each day. Recognized by conservative clothes, good manners, and a marked distaste for dirty jokes and porno movies. Can be very loving if you promise marriage, but will cause you more problems as you go along. Frustration level is high as Virgin Pussy tends to want to stay that way for some unknown reason.

Advantages: Risk of disease is very low, will offer a very tight "fit" if it gives in, sometimes open to new experience, will often offer "other" services if Virginity is to be maintained.

Disadvantages: Usually will not give in until marriage, will cause discomfort upon use, not very imaginative, not usually into using birth control which can cause "accidents", can only be used once. Usually not worth it unless you're into that sort of thing.

5. Nympho Pussy
Very rare. Recognized by the tendency to drag you by your balls into bed and going at it to the point of exhaustion Very experienced, will teach you things you never knew. Expense varies depending on level of Nymphomania.

Advantages: Will send you into la-la land, will try anything once.

Disadvantages: You are probably not the only one, thus disease risk can be high, will tire you out and ask for more, can be unstable, will not give a steady relationship. Often not worth it.

6. Frigid Pussy
Less rare. See (4) for recognition. Difference is that this Pussy will not yield no matter what. Any expense involved is simply wasted (unless you are into real frustration).

Advantages: There are no advantages.

Disadvantages: Too many to list here. Best to stay away once recognized. Never worth it.

7. Innocent Nympho Pussy
Rare. Recognized by being in a small, sweet, innocent package which you would never in a million years think would give in, but when it does, you are in for a hell of a surprise. Often mistaken for (4). Expense varies, but usually falls into the cheaper category.

Advantages: The surprise is blissful. Always worth it. Keep it if you can.

Disadvantages: If (4) is mistaken for (7), serious consequences may result. May or may not be faithful.

8. Party Pussy
Found at bars and at parties. Recognized by glass of wine in hand and bloodshot eyes. Will engage in group festivities while completely ripped. Expense usually covers drinks. Make sure you are not ripped as to better enjoy the experience.

Advantages: Easy to obtain unless you are real unlucky. Be sure to say the right things.

Disadvantages: Disease risk is high, will not usually remain faithful, the Support System may tend to puke all over you. Often not worth it.

9. Nutsy Pussy
Support System has psychological problems. Recognized by the fact that she will go out with you, then spill her problems on you. May tend to kill you while you sleep. Gives in for no apparent reason.. Usually found as a quiet co-worker.

Advantages: Easy.
Disadvantages: Never really worth it.

















THE PROMISE OF PUSSY

A  woman knows very well that the promise of sex is an irresistible lure for men, that with a touch of her hand she can arouse a man to a frenzy of desire. This is true power, and she knows it, and she wields it coldly. The average man is a pawn to her sexual domination and abuse. He will buy her drinks, take her to dinner, pay for her vacations, and all she has to do is hint at the possibility of sex, even when she.has no intention of going through with it. When she does decide to take her partner to bed-and the decision is always hers, and always after he's spent an appropriate amount of money so that she can assure herself that her vagina doesn't come cheap-it will be strictly on her terms.

Mom and Church, witnessing the verge of her womanhood, begin to instruct her to withhold sex, sermonizing that her body is a "gift" which she must save to give to "someone special". But it's too late. She's already learned that it's not a gift, but stock in trade-boys are waiting in line to bring her presents and compete for her attention. She really doesn't understand what all the fuss is about, why they are so intent on "getting into her pants". She has already assimilated the knowledge that her body is a tool, to be used for gain, not pleasure. Her mother continually warns her that "nice girls don't", and the more she holds out, the bigger the pile of presents grows. She doesn't realize that "nice girls don't" is just a euphemism for dishonest prostitution; that as she flirts and sticks out her breasts and wears sexually provocative clothing she is exchanging the promise of sex for gifts (money). And Mom is frantic to make sure that she remains a "good girl" (dishonest whore), so she teaches her that if a boy really likes you, he'll: take you out (spend money on you); date you exclusively (he's willing to let you train him, and he won't be wasting the resources he could be giving to you on other girls); and not demand sex in return (play the game by your rules, so that you can extort as much money as possible from him without obligation before surrendering your "gift", if you do at all). Mom is teaching her that for women, love is power; for men, it is enslavement. The greater a man's sexual needs, the more obedient he will be forced to become. If she manages her "gift" astutely, the payoff will be a lifetime of ease without her ever having to lift a finger.

If a woman give it up for free she'll ruin everything! So they have to hate her and they call her a slut. I say, at last, a normal woman!" "There's a difference between the sex you pay for and the sex you get for free. The sex you get for free usually costs more." "I hear married women complaining that their husbands come home dog tired and don't have the energy to do anything. Well, somebody's gotta pay the mortgage . . ." "It's amazing what a broad will do for a buck." "Women are always bitching about how shallow men are you know, looking at tits and ass. Hey, I've got news for you, babes. Nature put those things there so you would look at them. That's what keeps the ball game going. Women are hypocrites. I see them looking at guy's butts all the time (that's because they're too fucked up about sex to stare at crotches). You don't hear men getting bent out of shape about that, do you? That's because men think sex is normal, and women don't. Also, women are doubly shallow. They want looks and a fat wallet." "Women are so fucked up. If you don't do what they want, you're a jerk. If you roll over and do what they want, you're a wimp. You can't win." "Once in a while you run into a naturally sexual woman who has her head on straight. You know, she wants to screw, not go to dinner. If all women were like that, we wouldn't have half the problems in this world." "Women are so fucked up about sex-if she sleeps with you on the first date, she has to make all kinds of excuses. `I usually don't do this', or `I was drunk'. Why can't they just have fun?" "Women want a guy who looks like Tom Cruise, acts like James Bond, who just won the Lotto and reads poetry. Women are stupid." "When a man says compromise, he means I'll meet you in the middle. When a woman says compromise, she means do it my way and like it, or no more sex."

Withholding sex is a lesson which encourages a young girl to overrate the value of her body. By the time she's in her twenties and searching for "Mr. Right" (Mr. Cash), she innately believes that her vagina is worth an expensive car, a huge house, and a lavish lifestyle, no matter what she looks like. After all, Mom, trained by her mother to be a prostitute as well, has always been fond of telling her, "It's just as easy to marry a rich man as a poor one". She believes that a man should provide her with everything she wants without expecting any sort of reciprocal payment. When she dates, she will passively wait to be asked out, thinking that only a "desperate woman" or a "slut" chases men; she will not pick up a check, or even make the offer. If for some reason she should feel pressure to make such a gesture, it will only be perfunctory-if her date takes her up on the suggestion, she will never see him again. As before, he has tacitly implied that her body isn't worth paying for. She will judge all prospective lovers explicitly by how much they are willing to spend on her.

Even if her looks are a bit more ordinary, nevertheless she still believes that her body is worth a high price, and she will hold out for a surgeon or a stockbroker for as long as her biological clock permits, having failed to notice that the men with the level of salary she desires will pass her by in favor of a woman with superb looks or youth

She truly believes that such fairy tales come true in the real world; in her heart of hearts she imagines herself a latter-day Cinderella, patiently waiting for Prince Charming to come riding up on his white steed to sweep her off her feet in a gush of romantic ecstasy. So she passively marks time, spending her weekends alone, or going out to dinner with her girlfriends, convinced that her true love will find her without any effort at all on her part. Unfortunately, because of the depression she's been suffering over the string of "losers" who have been asking her for dates, she's been stuffing herself on an eating binge, and the only man who comes knocking on her door is delivering a pizza, and he certainly couldn't earn enough money to qualify him as a suitor. Yet she, too, will profess to her friends that what's important is to find a man who will love her for herself. But when too many birthdays fly by and her magical thinking begins to grow stale, and her delusions fail to materialize, she will finally "settle" for an average guy with a decent job and a not-too-shabby roof over his head. But inside, she's seething with jealousy. One of her girlfriends married a dentist, and another just got engaged to a man from a rich family. Why is she cursed with such bad luck with men? For what possible reason should she have to miss out on the good things in life?  Soon after their marriage, she begins to wield her sexual tool like a club, hounding the bewildered sucker into greater earning power. She doesn't pout, like Lucy Ricardo, brattily crying and stamping her foot when Ricky says he can't afford to buy her a fur coat; and withholding sex is too benign a weapon. Instead, she attacks his male ego, shaming him, belittling him, flogging him remorselessly to find a higher-paying job. jabbing an accusatory talon at him, she snivels that he's not a "real man" unless he finds the means to support her in style. He is a "loser". He has "ruined her life". Going home for him has become a living, sexless hell. What happened to the "nice girl" he married, who swore that all she ever wanted from a man was respect? Love, which had never really been an issue in the first place, has fled in disgust. And when he straggles home after his new 60- or 70-hour work week, does she offer sympathy, or do they talk about their plans for a lifetime of shared happiness? No. She complains that he's working too much, not paying enough attention to her. And he's still not making enough money. She's tired of working and wants to quit her job so that she can go shopping in the afternoons with her girlfriends who married successful men. She lives in a world of invisible self preoccupation. To her a man is a workhorse, a slave worthy only of exploitation. In her dreams, she's still having visions of the rich handsome prince who will carry her off to his enchanted castle. After all, it's only what she deserves-it's the price tag on her vagina. .

 A man doesn't have to be intelligent to be rich, nor does he have to be sensitive or considerate or attentive or faithful. In fact, these latter sensibilities are usually notably absent in most men striving for money, power, and influence. Women, however, claim that these more "spiritual" qualities are what they are seeking in a mate. But if this were true, they would be dating poets, not entrepreneurs. Women are liars and hypocrites. One university study showed a group of women photographs of men dressed in fast-food uniforms, and asked whether they would consider dating or having sexual relations with these men. The response was a universal negative. Then the researchers presented the same men to the panel, but in this test, the subjects were attired in more upscale uniforms (white shirts and ties). All the women were willing to consider these men as sexual possibilities. Love, trust, partnership-virtues which men value highly in a relationship-are at best secondary in the female hierarchy of desires. These attributes only become important after the initial question of wealth has been answered. Because women want men to take care of them without any obligation or reciprocation, they always search out high-income males who are willing to spend money freely. This is what a woman means when she says that she is looking for an "eligible" man or when she complains that "all the good ones are taken". The world teems with kind, considerate, "average" men, but such candidates are passed over with contempt. In the sexual arena, not only do nice guys finish last, they fail to even qualify for the race.

 A man's inborn craving for sex dooms him to a lifetime of servitude and obedience to women, conferring on the female race an awesome power. Put simply, if a man isn't willing to play the game of "love" by a woman's rules, he does not get laid. This is "Pussy Power", a vile, unwritten contract between the genders. It is sexual blackmail, and it is the true sexual harassment. So the modern male is bludgeoned into an unwholesome subservience, forced to participate in his partner's version of "romance" (treating her like a princess), then waiting in frustration until she is in the mood for sex. He is obliged to tolerate women in the business world, where they are often incompetent, indecisive, and lazy. She commands him to be "politically correct" (pussy-whipped), to cater to her exalted vision of herself and to stroke her ego while she "empowers" herself and blithely steals his money. He is required to endure her cyclical moods and bitchiness, and her residual anger at men who have "screwed her over" (got tired of paying for her for nothing). And all without complaint, or he is a "sexist pig" who "hates women". He is chastised for not putting the toilet seat back down, because, so thoroughly absorbed in her selfishness and arrogance, it would never even enter her mind to consider putting it back up for him. A woman's vagina holds the whip hand, and a man has no choice but to bow his head in submission if he wants to enjoy even a minimal sex life.  It should be the other way around-she should be on her knees every night, waiting for him to come home, with her mouth open and ready, so she can thank him for the easy ride he's giving her. Women have it made and all they do is bitch about it." "When was the last time a woman bought me a gift? All I get is a bill."

All women think their pussies are worth a million dollars. They aren't." "God, women are stupid! When it comes to men, they're their own worst enemies. Always count on a woman to act directly opposite her own best interests." "What really aggravates me about women is that they can have sex anytime they want to. They can just walk up to some guy they think is attractive and say, `Let's do it'. What's the guy going to say? No? Men aren't game-players like women. But, if a man wants to get laid, he has to jump through hoops, and then maybe she'll sleep with him. And after you've spent all that time and money and mental bullshit just to get her into bed, Women are so attractive. Why do they have to be so fucked up?" "I've heard women say that if a guy looks at their bodies he's a jerk. What kind of fuckedup thinking is that? Breasts are there to be looked at. They're sex organs, gender markers so men will be attracted. Women want you to like them for `themselves', whatever the hell that means, as if somehow their bodies aren't part of who they are.

"Women are always moaning that they can't meet any men. What they mean is, a guy who looks like Tom Selleck and has plenty of cash. There are men everywhere, always looking to meet women. But if a woman isn't asked out by Mr. GQ with a BMW, she'll stay home by herself on Saturday night and fantasize." "Women want money now-they don't care about a guy's potential. They're walking cash registers. The only possible exception is if you're in some training program for a highpaying career, like medical school. Then they'll work to put you through school because they're dreaming of the big house you're going to build for them. It's like making an investment in a growth stock. It's funny-once in a while you hear a story about a woman who helps put her boyfriend through school, and then he dumps her after he graduates. My God, you'd think the world had ended! This babe is on the Oprah show whining and moaning about what `pigs' men are. But think about it, turnabout is fair play. Women have been doing this to men for centuries. They can dish it out but they can't take it." "Women are incredibly threatened by other women younger than themselves, especially the ones with great bodies, because they know that their looks are what they're selling to men. That's when the older broads come out with, `Oh she's just a bimbo'. Just jealous!"

 "A woman's cunt is between her ears. Attitude. The one between her legs is sewed up tight unless you've got a lot of cash." "Women are as shallow as a mud puddle, but they'll never admit it. What they say and what they do are miles apart." "I've always been the classic nice guy that women say they want. I bring flowers, send cards, remember birthdays. It's just the way I am-if I like a woman, why shouldn't I be nice to her? It seems logical to me. But I get nowhere. Usually I get treated like a friend and they dump me for some asshole. And later these women come crying to me about what jerks men are, because the asshole just got her into bed and took off. But I'm thinking, hey, wait a minute-you picked him. You've got nobody to blame but yourself. I was nice to you and you treated me like your brother. What the hell do you want, anyway?" "You've seen these strippers who can squat down and pick up a dollar bill with their pussies? Well, that's putting the whole thing in a nutshell." "This woman told me, `I won't date any man unless he makes at least 75,000 a year.' And she was a dog! Where do they get this attitude?" "Of course women are whores. Everybody knows that. But you're supposed to pretend it's not true, the way women do. It's all a big game-I didn't make the rules, they did. I just have to play along. If you don't spend money, you don't get laid. Period." "It's funny to watch women turn 35 or 40. They panic because they know they're losing their visual appeal to men. If a guy has money, why would he want to buy a jaded, wrinkled old mummy when he can get a fresh 25 year-old with a happy disposition?" "Let's be honest. Women accept you or reject you as a lover based solely on the level of your income. They say they don't, but they do. You can be short, bald, fat, and ugly, but if you've got a million dollars, you'll get a woman. But turn the equation around-what if a guy said to a woman, `I'd like to go out with you, but your tits are too small'. She'd be calling him every name in the book. Yet she feels it's O.K. to reject men without big bucks. Pretty sad." "Women think that men want to have sex 24 hours a day. Sure we would, if you look like something out of Playboy." "All the men I know are romantics-they're looking for a great relationship with a great woman. Holding hands, enjoying spending time together-all that stuff. And sex, too. Men think sex is normal. But when it comes to love, all the women I know are cold-blooded accountants."

"They say a boat is a hole in the water you pour your money into. A vagina is the same thing-it's a hole in a woman's body you pay for dearly. At least with a boat you can sell it and maybe get some of your money back." "Women are whores? How can you say that? You know-you never see a fat old guy with a young babe on his arm. Must be his daughter." "Men don't think there's anything immoral about prostitution because they're used to it from dating and marriage." "If you're an asshole around women, you might not attract them. But if you're an asshole with money, all of a sudden you're a `challenge'." "The female scam is to think that since men make more money than they do-and I know plenty of women who make more than me-the man should buy dinner. But when two women go to a restaurant, does the one who earns more pay?" "A woman said to me, `I have what you want and you're going to have to pay for it'." "The definition of a woman: gimmee, gimmee, gimmee." "Show me a guy who uses and abuses women, and I'll show you a guy who's been dating a while. He's been taught well." "Women expect me to work 9 to 5, come home at night and hold their hand, and make 200 grand a year. Even Ward Cleaver couldn't pull that one off." "I have ultimate respect for any woman who is honest about her sexuality, the ones who just love sex. I have zero respect for women with their knees sewn together, who are out there hooking for as much as they can get. And that's 99% of them." "All women think they're Cinderella. They wait for things to happen to them." "Once in a while I'll hear a guy say, `I've never paid for sex'. It makes me laugh. You always pay for it." "I've heard it said that a pretty face doesn't make a pretty heart. It's true. It makes an ugly, greedy heart." "Pussy power. They've got it and they know it and they use it against us."

 "Women say they want a sensitive guy, then go for a bastard with cash. Put your love where your mouth is." "I know a woman in her fifties, gray hair, out of shape, built like a box, bad attitude. On a scale of 1 to 10, she's at best a 5. But she tells me that she's only going to date men 20 years younger with a lot of cash. And she's serious! What does she possibly have to offer? I just can't believe how arrogant women are. They all think, I've got a pussy and every guy wants it. Sure, every guy wants it when you're a young babe, but not when you're an old prune. These women are dreaming." "I was at a restaurant and I happened to strike up a conversation with a couple of women at the next table. We talked for a while, and then one of them said to me `Why don't you buy us dinner?'. Just like that, like it was the most natural thing in the world. just because I was talking to them I was supposed to pay for their time. What arrogance! So I said to her, `Sure, if you give me a blow job in the parking lot'. Of course they got all pissed off and huffed out of there. That's when I realized, women are just takers." "I waited for all my friends to get married so I could see what happened. All these guys are paying through the nose, and their hair's turned gray from stress. First the blow jobs disappeared, then sex altogether. And all their wives do is complain-I want a bigger house, a nicer car. These guys are miserable. All I hear from them is, you're lucky you're single." "I was having a drink with a couple of my friends and we were having a good time and this girl comes over and says hi. I figured she wanted to join in the fun. She looked at me and said, `Want to buy me a drink?' I said sure and bought her one, and she took it and started to walk away! So I called after her and said, `Hey, aren't you going to stay and talk?' She said no and kept on walking. From that day on, I've never bought a woman a drink again. I hate drink whores!" "When they're on their backs, the meter is running." "I went out with this chick and she was really flirting-you know what I mean. Touching, the looks, rubbing her leg against mine, all that stuff. So of course I was turned on, and when you get excited, you get loose with the cash, because you're thinking, if I don't spend money, this is going to stop. So I'm wining and dining her, and she invites me back to her place, and I try to kiss her and she's shocked. `I thought we were just friends,' she tells me. Well, then why did you take my money, you bitch? Can you believe that? She knew exactly what she was doing. She had a good time on my money, getting me all turned on so I'd do it. And she had no intention of following through with sex. Don't these women have a conscience? This should be against the law."

A date is (as usual) an affair entirely controlled by the female, even though she will work very hard to convince men. For a social engagement to take place, a man and woman first have to meet, or to be introduced. If she is physically attracted to this man-or even if she's not, if she smells cash-she will almost immediately institute "The Probe". The Probe consists of an innocuous-sounding list of questions, sometimes put bluntly, but more often insinuated into the flow of conversation, which is designed to calculate a man's earning power, the way a salesman qualifies a prospect. Taken at face value, these questions appear quite ordinary, the sort of polite queries one might ask when talking with a stranger. But in the hands of a woman sizing up a man, they take on a sinister significance. "What do you do?", "Where do you live?", "What kind of car do you drive?" all may seem innocent enough inquiries, but a woman interested in a man will work them into the first few minutes of a conversation so that she can determine whether he is worth an investment of her time. These questions all translate into, "How much money do you have?", while the little calculator inside her brain goes clicking away. One wrong answer and she will immediately excuse herself

 When a man asks a woman for a date, he is risking soul withering rejection (most women, flushed with sexual power, feel no remorse at shredding the male ego); he must plan the location and activities of the evening or she will brand him as weak or wishywashy; he is expected to bring offerings as if she were a member of royalty; she waits for him to pick her up like a chauffeur; and there is unspoken pressure that he take her to a "nice" (expensive) place or he will be labeled "cheap" and thus emasculated. While on the date, he is supposed to pander to her every whim and help her on with her coat and hold doors open for her, like a servant. And then he is rewarded with the exquisite pleasure of having to pay for all of this. She, of course, goes out of her way to keep her escort deeply hypnotized, deadening his senses to her treacherous agenda, for it wouldn't serve her purposes at all if he suddenly realized what a sucker she's been making of him. Sexual initiative certainly is humiliating for men, but it is a system designed to serve a woman's best interests. A single, dating woman is the queen of dishonest prostitutes. What arouses her is not an aching hunger for the pleasures of intercourse, but an unquenchable materialistic lust. Sex is not about sensuality, but power. A woman has frightening sexual leverage over a man: he might as well just hand her a club so that she can beat him into the ground. In this unhealthy game of smoke and mirrors, women dictate all the rules. Thus she restricts access to her body until he has made a significant investment in her-the more he spends, the less likely he'll be to walk away. Eternally buttressing her illusions, she will feign disinterest in sex and slap his wrist or invoke "date rape" when he makes a pass at her. She will pretend to flee when he comes on too strong. Dripping with sugary charms, she commands him to dress up the date with flowers and candlelight to mask the dispassionate business deal at its core. This masquerade allows her to envision her sexuality as innocent and pure, her vagina as sexless as a plastic doll's. She can dupe herself that lavish meals and a glittering diamond aren't just bald faced surrogates for cold, hard cash. A woman's version of "romance"

A woman does not consider a social encounter a date unless the man pays for the evening. She will only offer to pay her fair share if she isn't sexually interested and doesn't want to be "obligated" (proving that she in truth knows that she's trading her body for money). Women justify such robbery by rationalizing that whoever asks for the date should pick up the check, but they conveniently never extend such invitations. This rather selfindulgent logic serves her well: being pandered to is her reason for living. She loves glamour and excitement, but expects someone else to fund her good time when the bill arrives she daintily looks the other way. The world is a magical place; everything is free as long as she keeps sticking out her chest. In her solipsistic universe she may even imagine herself to be a feminist, trying desperately to be independent in a "man's world", but this is a narrow-minded conceit-she has become too accustomed to getting something for nothing. A dating woman lives the unwholesome existence of a parasite, feasting on another's healthy blood. The more a man pays, the more a woman dreams of "romance"-a pizza and a beer credit up many less romantic points than a weekend in Paris. Love is money. But her avarice blinds her to a more optimistic reality: true romance is an exchange of intimacies between two people passionately in sync with one another. It can occur anywhere, just by having a conversation, with no compensation exchanged. When women deny and withhold their sexuality, they are effectively road blocking the path to true love. Jetting to France is a magic carpet ride, not heartfelt emotion, although the difference doesn't matter to the average woman. The pathetic truth is that such an expensive adventure only serves to underwrite her narcissism, and reassures her that her vagina-the ultimate source of her self-image-can't be bought cheaply. So long as she's munching pepperoni, she'll still be the ball-buster, forcing her date to jump through her mental hoops; but the instant she boards the jet, she'll start to unbutton her blouse. A high enough price has already been paid-she doesn't have to deceive herself anymore.

If he wants to get laid-get his money's worth-he must act out a starring role in his partner's drama of lies. He must pamper her like the spoiled child she is, compliment her on her intelligence and independence, tell her what she wants to hear so that she can play out her role of "virtue". He knows the sham is ridiculous: while he's picturing her naked and spread-eagle on the bed, she has climbed up upon her pedestal of illusion, having visions of the two of them strolling hand-in-hand under the rattling palms on the beach of some exotic resort, where any imagery of sex is symbolized by a cut to the crashing surf. He, however, has both feet in the real world; he understands that someone must pay the price. Her fantasies somehow fail to include scenes of her partner opening the American Express bill a month later.

Even though her date has discretely paid for dinner (it is no coincidence that she demands to be taken to an upscale restaurant where prices are not printed on her menu), her pretenses refuse to vanish once the check has been settled. "Romance" dictates that she must make him wait longer for his sexual reimbursement. The proof that he genuinely enjoys her company is that he will "respect" her while she continues to dip her hand deep into his pocket. A "gentleman" is just a sucker who picks up the tab and doesn't make a pass. "Morality" is just a woman's word for holding a man up. Whiplashed as he is by testosterone, a man will grudgingly tolerate female con games and extortion, rationalizing to himself that getting laid is expensive. But he is teetering on a slimy tightrope stretched across a fiery abyss. If he should touch her breast too soon, she will recoil in horror ("men are only after one thing"); but if he "respects" her too long, she'll brand him as gay, or castrate him into a "friend". He is expected to divine her thoughts like a mind-reader while she carps that men just can't communicate. LIAR, LIAR "Every man in a bar is a stockbroker or a brain surgeon," women bitch. "Men just lie to you. You can't trust them." It would only be fair to admit that men sometimes sculpture the truth to get women into bed. But then they have to, because they know what women want. Men are conscripted players in a game whose rules have been engineered by the female mind, and the playbook decrees that honesty will guarantee sure rejection. Thus, if a potential lover confesses to the object of his interest that he repairs copiers, instead of generalizing that he works for the Xerox Corporation, she will without hesitation disqualify him as not worthy of consideration. He has learned through bitter experience that he must misrepresent his status if he even wants to begin a conversation. If women weren't so intent on selling their sexuality, men would not be pressured into hyperbolizing the truth. This is a program which females themselves have created and which they continue to promote. Then, with their usual circular thinking, they blame men for their obedience. This is like allowing a cat to roam free, and then hating it when it kills a bird. When women, the master con artists, have been conned, they stamp their feet in rage. But these are the same women who spackle their wrinkles with make-up, Clairol the gray out of their hair, and shore up their meager bustlines with Wonderbras. Aren't liposuction, eye tucks, and silicone breasts every bit as deceptive as a garbage collector fibbing to a woman that he works for a large trucking company? The hypocrisy is self-evident. As is typical with females, they brutally censure men but disregard the rather large motes in their own eyes. When a woman reinvents her looks, her excuse is, "That's what men want", as if a slathering of cosmetics or a plastic surgeon could really make a silk purse out of a sow's face. She is projecting her own shallowness into the minds of men. Women are invincible narcissists, rabidly obsessed with their personal appearance. It is how they

 As exploiters, they have sufficient time and money to buy the products specifically marketed to them to concoct their fraudulent attractiveness. They merchandise themselves. Even a cursory glance inside any department store is alone proof of this assertion: most of the floor space is taken up by cosmetics, jewelry, perfume, and female clothing. Men don't wear makeup or oil their bodies or agonize for hours over what clothes to wear. This is because women have made men the buyers, not the sellers, and they're too busy working to replace the funds lost on the "fairer" sex to worry about whether their pants make their asses look big. They are nowhere near as superficial or self-absorbed as women, who can shop for recreation because they take such delight in focusing on themselves. The psychology of store displays is hardly arbitrary-a business keeps its doors open by providing the goods its customers demand.

A woman uses marriage to gain power, and once she attains it, her husband is fated to a life of abuse. This is very expensive pussy. When a naturally polygamous male commits to his bride-to-be, not only does he forfeit control of his finances, but he is constrained to forsake all opportunities to mate with other females. Of course, this is in her best interestshe calls it "security"-but it is really a blasphemy against nature.

if he divorces her he will lose half of his assets, she has effectively padlocked him into a chastity belt. No one knows better than she that a woman has no use for an impoverished man. A husband enters into matrimony assuming that the wedding vows have granted his new wife societal approbation to revel in uninhibited sex, but in his naiveté he has not noticed the gleaming pair of castration shears hidden in her bridal bouquet. She has no real interest in him sexually-a workhorse should be out in the fields laboring, not wasting his energies on intercourse. He has dreamed of years of wild passion and pleasurable company; what he gets is a lifetime of mood swings and an infrequent and indifferent lay. A wedding is an orgy of female narcissism. This is her day, her starring role in her personal soap opera, the glorious denouement of all her childhood and cultural fantasies. It is "me" with a capital M. Dating has been a specious and unbridled quest for a man of means and courtship meant keeping her boyfriend hypnotized by the lure of her sexuality, numbing his senses to the trapdoor swinging wide open in front of him. Long before her wedding day she is avidly planning, binging on brides' magazines and being fawned over in dress shops, spending hours picking out the right invitations, wallowing in the presumption that the whole world is focusing on how special she is. She certainly won't forget to arrange for the novel-length lists of gift suggestions at various bridal registries (expensive stores only, of course), and she'll yelp like a pampered child when she rips open presents at her shower. It goes without saying that she is oblivious to the reality that someone must actually pay for her egoism-she is too busy daydreaming about herself, the virtuous, trembling bride, two-stepping down the aisle in a nave like a movie set, all eyes upon her. The wedding guests gasp, awestruck by her beauty and elegance, as if the cold marble of a perfect statue had suddenly come to life. Her husband-to-be, his mind unclouded by such reveries (there are no grooms' magazines for him), has pacted an uneasy truce with her self-worship. His participation in the nuptial preparations has been to log in more hours at work to pay for the first-class tropical honeymoon she has ordered, which is making him wince even at his salary. It's not for nothing that she forced him down on his knees in front of her to propose. He's not fantasizing about storybook castles or how handsome he'll look in his tuxedo (appropriately enough, a funereal black); instead, he's sweating out the credit-card bill on the two carat diamond' his "Fiancée" has pressured him into buying by skillfully rationing sex. While her mind is awash with abstractions of dizzying "love", he's still cringing from her recent assaults on his manhood-pouting that his house just isn't going to be big enough for her. A bride doesn't really love her husband-what she is actually in love with is the persona she has created for herself: the blushing newlywed who's fallen head over heels for a good man who will take care of her until death do us part, as if life were really a Doris Day movie. She has succeeded in mythologizing herself. But what she ignores is the reality that she has spurned and demoralized decent suitors who lacked sufficient capital to indulge her tastes; that all along she has used her body as a tool and a weapon; that she is bringing nothing to the marital bargaining table except greed and a vagina; and she has addicted her husband to a sexual fix, so that when she restricts her availability, he will pay any price to get it, thus turning marriage into legalized crime. She is a venal whore and human enough to be at least on some level aware of her inner fraudulence

The human condition promotes learning through trial and error; it is a fatiguing and often frustrating means of education. Women are excellent teachers of the bitter lesson that being a nice guy does not get a man laid. An "average" guy (who is often the one most capable of love and trust) is routinely brushed off as a "loser", and passed over for an abusive jerk who screeches up in a Porsche, scores, and disappears. So in a woman's mind, if a man is nice, he's weak. The nice guy wanders through life in a state of psychic castration, his heart scarred by the talons of female avarice and flawed psychology. He is a poor fool who has listened too literally to the women who lie that what they want from men is adoration and understanding. He has not suffered enough trial and error to lay bare the clandestine agendas of the female gender. So the nice guy has to settle for the vicarious company of flirting with a photo in a magazine delivered in a plain brown wrapper. But what of the "bad boy" phenomenon? Every man knows, or has seen in action, that the more he abuses women, the more successful he will be in attracting them; and the nicer he is, the more likely he will wind up as a "friend". But most men are socialized to cultivate harmony, not discord, and so they refuse to participate in such pathology. Most men are nice guys, who have no interest in acting like jerks to women. Logic would suggest that a woman would want to avoid being brutalized, so why then does she so lustfully climb up on the back of a Harley, instead of, as usual, wait for a limo to appear? The answer has to be unraveled from the tangled mess of feminine psychology. What a woman really wants is a rich bastard who turns out in the end to be a nice guy-he is the storybook hero of her novels and soap operas. But she will settle-for the short term, at least-for a poor thug who can offer her excitement. In her muddled vision of the world, she equates abusive behavior with earning power, because she assumes that television and the movies actually mirror reality, so that successful men are always conniving, ruthless, and underhanded. Bad boys are untamed and reckless and charged with sexuality. They are a "challenge" (meaning that they don't instantly fall prey to her Pussy Power). Flexing their Neanderthal biceps they are apt to drag her off to the nearest cave, and she can feel-for once-powerless in their grip, a rape fantasy come to life. A woman's hormone-driven "logic" will equate excitement with money, at least until she tires of eating at taco joints. She glories in the sensation of raw adventure-it is the same thrill which ripples through her when a rich boyfriend pampers her and indulges her every whim. For as long as she dallies with the bad boy-and it will be brief because his budget is in his pants-she can afford to let herself be wild, to experience unfettered humanity, to freely express her sexuality as nature intended. For a few racing heartbeats she will cease to be a whore and become a human being. And when the fling is over, her "morality" has not been compromised in any way-she can reconstruct her delusional self-image by accusing the bad boy of abusing her

All I want is to meet a nice girl who doesn't act like a cunt." "Women aren't whores? Just try asking one to split the cost of dating! She'll dump you in a New York second. Let's call a spade a spade-all they care about is how much money you spend on them." "When a woman says that all the good ones are taken, she means the guys with the right job, the right car, the right haircut, the right clothes. But have these babes ever wondered why they're alone? The guys with the right stuff aren't picking them." "There's nothing more ugly than a greedy woman." "When it comes to romance, a nice guy will finish dead last. That's why I see some guys who are really good people, who start treating women like shit because they're tired of getting turned down. The second they're abusive to women, these girls are all over them. Women are sick." "Dating is about fucking. It's mating . Women have to dress it up with champagne and flowers, but hat's what it is. It's fucking." "A man's dating prospects directly parallel his ability to earn money." "Women don't care about romance. They don't care about love. What they care about is cash and they want it now. They don't care if you have potential, they don't care if you're the nicest guy in the world. When my parents got married, they didn't have a dime. Not any more. Women are pathetic." "Run a test sometime. Ask a woman out to dinner and when the check comes, tell her you're a believer in equal rights, so she should pay her half of the bill. Believe me, you'll never see her again. And I guarantee, if you had asked her during the meal what she found attractive in a man, she'd say, `I've never cared about money, I look for personality'. But if you don't pay for her, you're not worth spending time with, because you're setting the rules up that you won't be buying her anything. A woman can't stand it if she can't use men. If you're rolling in dough, and she knows it, she might put up with you because your cash is just too attractive to let you slide by. She wants to get her hands on it. Otherwise, you're history." "Women are spoiled brats." "Here's the way it's set up. Women are in control of relationships because they have sexual power-the power to say yes or no. They know that men want sex above all else, so they know that they're in control-unless he rapes her, a guy has to go along with what she says. So women make us pander to them. We have to be romantic, kiss their asses, cuddle

 Guys don't want to put up with all this bullshit, it's female stuff. Guys just want to fuck. But women make them do all this so they won't feel `used' sexually, when in reality it's the woman who's the real user-she forces the guy to play her head games so she can feel okay about having sex. Like if he cuddles her, then she's not really selling her body to him, which she always is, every time he gets stuck picking up the check. It's all crap." "Dating is whitewashed prostitution." "If women don't get what they want, which is usually `take me here, take me there, buy me this', they'll stop giving you sex until you give in." "If you don't do exactly what they want to do, go exactly where they want to go-and pay for it on top of it-they pout and cut off the sex." "I lost all respect for women after I had worked really hard to buy a new car, and I was feeling really proud of it, and I went to pick up this girl for a first date and she said, `This is your car?', like it was some kind of rusted-out junker or something. It was a new car! It was a nice car. And she had a 5 year-old Civic sitting in the driveway." "I was at a nightclub and I was listening to the conversation three women were having., They were drooling over the bartender-he was a young stud. Then one of them said, `But he's just a bartender'. In other words, not enough money to be worth their time. Now I happen to know this bartender, and he comes from a very wealthy family, and his father owns the nightclub. This guy is going to be worth millions. It just shows you how venal and short-sighted women are. They didn't want to know anything about him as a person-they were physically attracted to him, which is natural, but as soon as they thought he was poor, they lost interest. Women are stupid." want to make a commitment. I don't want to stick my head in a noose, either." "A friend of mine was out on a second date with a woman. He was down because he'd just lost his job that day, and they were having a good time, so he was feeling pretty cheered up and optimistic. Then he told her that he'd lost his job and she excused herself and went to the bathroom. She never came back." "Sex should be like the salad bar at a restaurant. You pay once and come back as many times as you want." "What happened to love and laughter and fun and romance? Unless you pull up in BMW, you'll be stuck at home strangling the python." "Romance is dead. Women stabbed it in the heart." "A real woman is one who is genuinely nice, who likes the company of men, who enjoys sex for its own sake, and who pays her own way. I'd do anything for a woman like that."

 "A woman's entire goal is to lure a man in and control him with sex. It's a carrot on a stick to get what she wants." "I'll tell you how bad it is out there. Every time I meet a woman, within five minutes she's dragging out a questionnaire, like I'm applying for a job just talking to her. Do you own a house, what kind of car do you have, things like that. All it is is, they're trying to find out how much money you have. So finally I got fed up with it and I said to one of them, `Let me see those tits of yours to see if they're big enough for me'. She was shocked-she didn't get it. It's unbelievable. They're so used to hooking, and to thinking only of their own welfare, that they don't even realize how mercenary they are." "I ran into a friend from college I hadn't seen in years. He was a stud back then, and it looked like he still had it. He told me he'd never gotten married, and I asked him why. He said he was looking for a really nice, cute, girl-next-door who wasn't looking for a guy as a meal ticket. I said, `Oh. That explains it. You'll be single forever."' "Women bitch about men, blame all their problems on men, steal men's money-and then they wonder why men don't want to make a commitment. I don't want to stick my head in a noose, either." "Any woman who says let's be friends first (before sex) has deep psychological problems with men. Run. Fast." "People kind of snicker when they see a much older guy out with a woman young enough to be his daughter. Like he bought her. But this is the way all women are-the ones with the age difference are just more obvious." "When I was younger (and more foolish) I used to believe in `Some Enchanted Evening'. Then I got a little experience under my belt and woke up to the real world. The truth is, some enchanted evening you'll see a stranger across a crowded room and she'll come over and start quizzing you about how much money you make." "Women-if you don't want to feel you owe a man sex after he buys you dinner, then split the cost. You can't have it both ways." "Women are forever bitching about how men don't communicate. But dealing with them is a constant guessing game. They never say anything directly and they expect you to read their minds. This is communication? Then they blame men for not being able to open up. It's pretty hard to get a dialogue going when you ask, `What's wrong?', and the answer is, "Nothing'. And then she gets mad when you can't figure it out by ESP If you have something to say, say it. Don't blame your failure to communicate on me." "Here's the female mentality: they want what they can't have, and as soon as they get it, they don't want it anymore. Then they blame men for the whole situation." "Wake up guys! We have to stop pandering to these broads!"

"A female friend of mine was telling me that men and women shouldn't have sex before marriage. This is absurd, of course, and ignorant. But then women use sex to trap men, so if they hold out, they force men to marry them. So we're supposed to shell out hundreds and hundreds of dollars to take a woman out and not even get laid? What a scam!" "Once in a while I browse though the personal ads in the paper. They're a riot, because it's pure female greed. 'Looking for a successful man who knows how to treat me like a lady'-translation: a guy with bucks who will spend it on me. There was one I saw that was just unbelievably rude. She wanted the "three M's": marriage, mansion, and a maid. What are these women thinking? How could they possibly get so arrogant?" "I know a woman who continually uses men. She dangles her sexuality (sticks her tits out) so that she can get free meals. She has absolutely no conscience. And what she usually does is have them take her to nice restaurants, and she orders three or four big items from the menu. Then she says she's not hungry, and takes the food home in a doggie bag. That's her dinner for the week. Then as soon as the men start making sexual moves, she dumps them." "All women should be required to watch porno films before they start dating. For technique and proper attitude toward sex. They should learn how to please men. If we're going to pay for it, the least they can do is be good at it." "Women are incredible abusers of men." "I know these two women, both married, who answer personal ads and let the suckers take them out to expensive restaurants. Then they say thanks but it just didn't work out and they're on to the next victim. They brag about it. They should be in jail." meet the right guy, fireworks will go off, or an angel will ring bells-the sort of crap you see on stupid sitcoms." "I see these ads for diamonds-you know, tell her you'd marry her all over again. It's like maintenance fees on a condo." "What women really want is to find a guy with cash and steer him like a car." "As soon as you say, `I do', they say `I don't'." "The problem is, there are too many men out there who are either brainwashed by women, or just willing to go along with the program. Sort of `Well, what can you do, that's the way it is'. As long as men pay for pussy, women will keep using and abusing us." "No matter what they say, all women have a hidden agenda. You can be just friends with a girl and split the bill, but the minute that friendship were to cross the line over into sex, she'll start demanding payment and you alone will be expected to pick up the check. Women always require money for sex."

A generation of foolish women, cocooned in their "romantic" fantasies and in denial of their venality, desperately listening to the tick of their biological clocks until "Mr. Right" magically rings the doorbell, would rather stay home alone on Saturday night than "waste time" on a date with a man who earns an average income. They cling and wait while their flesh sags and wrinkles crackle their faces, still kidding themselves that their mummifying vaginas are still worth paying for. These aging womand fail to realize (or admit to themselves) that the men they desire know that they are quite able to buy women, and the women of their dreams are young and firm-fleshed and bursting with life. When the "average" man is sneered at, and denied an outlet for his sexuality, the result is painful frustration. To men, sex is one of the great joys of being alive. But testosterone makes this a commandment rather than a choice. Pornography helps displace some of this inner tension-it bleeds off frustration.

You want to know why men love porno... well adult movies portray women being sexual because they like it, because it feels good, not because a man has bought them dinner. No time is wasted in "romantic" head games. A man without adequate means cannot hope to court and win a woman, but for a rental fee he can interact, for an hour or two at least, with women normal and unrestrained about their sexuality. The sex may be two-dimensional, but it's honest, and the price is right. Feminists rant that pornography objectifies and degrades women, but nothing could be further from the truth. Such an unenlightened interpretation only underscores their hysterical agenda. Men's magazines and X-rated films glorify the female body. They celebrate women, not as abstract ideals, but as real people enjoying their sensuality. And this is precisely what the feminists can't stand, and why they have to screech so loudly against.

Pornography shows women having sex because they love it . Over the years, pornography has increased in prices as well. Another form of freedom that people have been trying to deprive people from (as well as education. The higher the education, the higher the cost). Then again, pornography can kill sexuality. America has the highest rape & domestic violence rates than most foreign countries where sex is open (Europe, South America, Australia, etc...). Why? Because of conservatives, high-moral grounders and restrictions of what people learn and witness. Another reason why the US is the laughing stock of the world now. When you watch French movies like "Irreversible" (with the incredible Monica Bellucci) that make rape look artistic, you never know if the director Gaspar Noe is doing it for glamourization, for shock value or to show realism. Rape rates are very low in France (and other foreign countries) than it is here in the States.

Let talk about equality. Equality means equality, and nothing less. You cannot have your cake and eat it, too. True equality means being slaughtered on the front lines; it means paying a fair share in dating and marriage; it means back-breaking hours at the office to earn a "man's salary". To compete for an equal paycheck a woman must have intelligence, drive, and ambition, not just a pair of breasts; to earn 20% more she must work 20% harder, as men have to do. All of this quarrels with the ease of traditional female whoredom. And so women blame men because now they are paying the price of the male worker: 60 or 70 soul-killing hours a week at a job which smothers them; interminable rush-hour commutes; jawclenching stress; ulcers and heart disease and early death; non-involvement in family life; divorce; and no time for "communicating". Suddenly women are opening their eyes and realizing that Lucy Ricardo and June Cleaver and Laura Petrie had the world literally by the balls-a little housekeeping and occasional sex for a life of comfort in the suburbs, spinning away the afternoons playing bridge or gossiping with the neighbors, while their husbands slaved at the office and worried about the bills. But women were determined to make it in a "man's world". The feminists had brainwashed them and sold them a bill of goods. Their journey has led them on a circular path, like a dog chasing its own tail, from awareness to protest to victory to unvarnished reality

Feminism didn't free the ordinary woman, it simply gave franchise to her greed". This is very sad because this is where women are the ones being duped. They are being duped by all the moronic articles, talks shows, and general society endorsed man bashing. They are going to learn the hard way that feminism and self entitlement is not delivering what it promised. Believe me this will happen over time, and it will be an intense period for them. We already see in the United States that the number of marriages over the past 5 years have been consistently dropping and it is no mystery as to why. An entire generation of the female gender is now destined to grow old alone with a vibrator and a cat and they will wonder why they were left on the shelf, why Prince Charming did not come to sweep them off their feet

Most woman don;t get what a catch so many guys are. Those guys who don't drink, smoke, take drug, have a steady job...ect. I personally want someone who understands all the things I have to offer and is excited to be with me. In my arranged relationship system,- both sides know that they are actually going to be in a relationship that will lead to marriage.. The intention is clear, whereas in dating, even bringing up the subject of marriage would be a no-no. When people are dating, they are looking for a good time. What I find convenient about my arranged relationship idea is that they take most of the guessing work out of the dating game