PART 1
I know that I'm not just a victim of a game of chance. I can't believe that I live in a universe where the things that happen to us don't have any meaning. There is some meaning in this, a message in a bottle for me. The message feel just out of reach, but it's important to me. It really changes everything if you can discover the reason why some life even has over taken you.
These are the lessons life teaches us. If the universe really is a nutruting place designed to help us grow, then this is what that nurturing is all about. Great teacher often makes you do an incredibly difficult task that seem pointless. Why in the world am i having to go through this? you ask. Then at some point, maybe years later, you discovered that the task had a wonderful meaning because it helped you learn something you couldn't have learned any other way. And then you finally understood what you teacher was doing. You had a view of what was going on inside your teacher's mind.
The reason something happened to you was to make something better in your future. The cosomos worked hard to give you this gift, so you damed well better use it. If not, you'll just keep falling into holes until you can graps the gift the cosmos keeps on trying to give you. The good that comes out of bad things that happen to you is to help you become your best self. Things happen to help you get rid of parts of yourself that aren't you. to help you be more real and more yourself, not like everyone else. to help you lead a more real life. We go along thinking we know who we are until some event comes along and makes us realize that we've never know who we really are, which then for the first time makes discovering our true selves possible. On the surface we have complete identites- names, degrees,..ect. Then some cruel-seeming event comes along and wakes us to the fact that we've not know our true selves.
When something happens in life to teach you a lesson, the lesson is all bout you. Maybe this is one reason why it's been so hard for people to figure out the reason why something happens to them. They've looked too hard at the even and not hard enough at themselves. I know you's think that meanign would come from the event itself, but you can't read an event for its meaning the way you can read and X-ray. EVENTS DON'T CARRY THEIR OWN MEANING. People who've gone throught the same event typically come away with very different meaning. I had two patients both dying of cancer..one was depress another took it differently made peace. Two similar events, but two different meanings. This makes clear that the lessons you need to learn doesn't exist in the even themselves. They come to you through what happened to you, and they come because of what you were needing before that event even happened.
It's not always easy to find a home in the world. Most of us have had experience like this: You're in a new relationship. The other peson certainly look good in paper, but it doesn't feel right. You're just not at home with this person. It's the same when you don't feel at home in the world, Even if things look perfect, they're not perfect for you. Your life may look great, but you don't completely feel you belong there. This doesn't mean you feel like a weirdo. It doesn't mean you don't feel at home in any way. It's ust that you're one of those people who hasn't yet found a life that feels completely right. And when you don't feel at home in the world, you imagine that there's some different career that would be right for you, some other person who could share your life with who would be right for you, some other place you could live that would be right for you. But you may not know what's missing and you may not know how to get it. When you don't feel at home in the world, you feel there's something wrong with you, and the world doesn't feel right either. The truth is...The world is right, you're just a person in the wrong place. For example if you took a happy squirrel from Central Park and plunk him down in the dessert. This wonderful animal will suddenly feel depressed, anxious, confused, completely at loss. There's nothing wrong with the squirrel..he is perfect,..but he's only perfect when he's at home, In the dessert, he is a unhappy misfit. There are so many people who are miserable because they are squirrel in the dessert. They think there's something wrong with them. They endlesslly try to fix themselves but the fixing doesn't work. Yet they keep trying because it's hard to face the fact the ways they're not at home in the world. And yet how simple it would be if they could see there's nothing wrong with who they are, there's something wrong with where they are. They just have to look for ways that events in their lives are showing them the way home. Because this is what they need, this is something that the cosmos is trying very hard to give them
NOTHING HAPPENS BY ACCIDENT: PART 2 (SELF-ACCEPTANCE)
I am one of many people who struggle with self-acceptance. Everyone achieves self-acceptance the same way. It's like remembering someone's name. It's on the tip of your tongue. You've almost got iit. You have a sense that because you want to remember it, you will remember it. But there's nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, and suddenly there it is. When you get self-acceptance, you get all of it, and you get in a flash. And what you get is kind of sweeping power to let yourself alone. How does some big event in our lives being this about for us? There's something massive and mindless about a terrible event. Whether it's an attack, an illness, or getting hurt by tought economic times, the tidal wave that sweeps over us can make us feel like we're nothing. But:
It's the opportunity to show back, "I'm worthwhile!", when life says "You're nothing", that makes it possible for some people to gain that flash of self-acceptance and so find meaning in what happened.
Life will come along and smack you in the face with some disaster or difficulty and you get fed up. You say, Wait a minute, I don't deserve this crap. It hits you that you don't deserve to be treated this way by life. And then something else hits you---you realize that you've been treating yourself the same way. (If it sucks tha way life's treated you, it's totally nuts that you'd be treating yourself the same way). that's it then, For most people it's like a light going on. Self-acceptance was impossible and then suddenly it's absolutely necessary and easy. What does this feel like? It feel like looking at the parts of yourself you'd hated or rejected but now look at them and suddenly you feel they're oklay. You can live with them.
We we don't accept ourselves, we look at some bit of our boides, our minds, our desires and we get worked up over how yucky it is. We're like a movie critic who's all excited at how much he hates a certain movie. Life today is set up to make it hard for people to accpet their weakness and imperfections. Just pick up any magazine which are filled with articles showing you how to do things the right way. They're filled with tips on how to improve yourself. They're filled with images and stories of people who are beter looking, more capable, and more successful than we'll ever be. What's scary me is how easily we swallow this message when it's offered in the guise of help. Our society has an image of a STANDARD MAN. He is muscular, attractive, well groomed, well dressed, and smiles alot. He has a career, makes alot of money, has lot of friends...got a beautiful wife, a sport car. And then you know a dark truth that you yourself aren't as much of a STANDARD MAN as people think you are. Most of us inside don't live up to societys models. And you know this has hurt you. Either you've had to reject the part of yourself that is different, or you've had to suffer at the hands of other for being different. In the end, family school, workplace and society as a whole can easily combine us with this message: We want you to dislike about yourself everything we dislike about you, and that includes we think is outside the norm.
Sometimes we fail at liking ourselves because we do about it in the wrong way. We think it's about having some big crush on yourself because that's what we experience when we really like someone else. But that's not what it's like for people who really like themselves. We know ourselves too well to have crush on yourself. If you want to like yourself, accept yourself as you are. For most people that's all liking yourself really means. you see who you are, you let in the idea that you have good qualities and you stop giving yourself such a hard time with your bad qualities. Isn't this what we do with our friends? We just accept them?
Then as you go through the pieces of who you are that you've had trouble accepting, it helps to remember that there too, everything happens for a reason. Maybe you've had trouble accepting something about the way you look--For me I am skinny and I think I am average looking. Ultimately. self-acceptance is a matter of SEEING. You see that by not accepting yourself you're doing to yourself what was done to you. then you look for more ways to accept yourself. One of my patient who kept trying to diet but never really made the changes necessary for dieting to work. You need to exercise and diet. The scale just told her number. The mirror just showed her image she was used to seeing. But then one summer walking down the street she caught a glimpse of herself reflected in a darkened store window. She was horrified by this completely unprepared for glimpse of herself. Finally she saw. That gave her all the motivation she needed.
To me...I didn't think I was attractive until I was with Joanne (my ex). She was the first woman who told me I was attractive..handsome beside my family member...and I still remember how that affirmation affected me. I finally looked at myself throught the eyes of my beloved and it made all the difference in the world.
It's the opportunity to show back, "I'm worthwhile!", when life says "You're nothing", that makes it possible for some people to gain that flash of self-acceptance and so find meaning in what happened.
Life will come along and smack you in the face with some disaster or difficulty and you get fed up. You say, Wait a minute, I don't deserve this crap. It hits you that you don't deserve to be treated this way by life. And then something else hits you---you realize that you've been treating yourself the same way. (If it sucks tha way life's treated you, it's totally nuts that you'd be treating yourself the same way). that's it then, For most people it's like a light going on. Self-acceptance was impossible and then suddenly it's absolutely necessary and easy. What does this feel like? It feel like looking at the parts of yourself you'd hated or rejected but now look at them and suddenly you feel they're oklay. You can live with them.
We we don't accept ourselves, we look at some bit of our boides, our minds, our desires and we get worked up over how yucky it is. We're like a movie critic who's all excited at how much he hates a certain movie. Life today is set up to make it hard for people to accpet their weakness and imperfections. Just pick up any magazine which are filled with articles showing you how to do things the right way. They're filled with tips on how to improve yourself. They're filled with images and stories of people who are beter looking, more capable, and more successful than we'll ever be. What's scary me is how easily we swallow this message when it's offered in the guise of help. Our society has an image of a STANDARD MAN. He is muscular, attractive, well groomed, well dressed, and smiles alot. He has a career, makes alot of money, has lot of friends...got a beautiful wife, a sport car. And then you know a dark truth that you yourself aren't as much of a STANDARD MAN as people think you are. Most of us inside don't live up to societys models. And you know this has hurt you. Either you've had to reject the part of yourself that is different, or you've had to suffer at the hands of other for being different. In the end, family school, workplace and society as a whole can easily combine us with this message: We want you to dislike about yourself everything we dislike about you, and that includes we think is outside the norm.
Sometimes we fail at liking ourselves because we do about it in the wrong way. We think it's about having some big crush on yourself because that's what we experience when we really like someone else. But that's not what it's like for people who really like themselves. We know ourselves too well to have crush on yourself. If you want to like yourself, accept yourself as you are. For most people that's all liking yourself really means. you see who you are, you let in the idea that you have good qualities and you stop giving yourself such a hard time with your bad qualities. Isn't this what we do with our friends? We just accept them?
Then as you go through the pieces of who you are that you've had trouble accepting, it helps to remember that there too, everything happens for a reason. Maybe you've had trouble accepting something about the way you look--For me I am skinny and I think I am average looking. Ultimately. self-acceptance is a matter of SEEING. You see that by not accepting yourself you're doing to yourself what was done to you. then you look for more ways to accept yourself. One of my patient who kept trying to diet but never really made the changes necessary for dieting to work. You need to exercise and diet. The scale just told her number. The mirror just showed her image she was used to seeing. But then one summer walking down the street she caught a glimpse of herself reflected in a darkened store window. She was horrified by this completely unprepared for glimpse of herself. Finally she saw. That gave her all the motivation she needed.
To me...I didn't think I was attractive until I was with Joanne (my ex). She was the first woman who told me I was attractive..handsome beside my family member...and I still remember how that affirmation affected me. I finally looked at myself throught the eyes of my beloved and it made all the difference in the world.
NOTHING HAPPENS BY ACCIDENT: PART 3 (OVERCOMING YOUR FEAR)
Life is full of things that scare the crap of us. We go through some painful experience and realize the reason we went though it was to give us a way to live without fear. You realize that catastrophe has already happened. Yet you survived. You're still intact. Although you may not have realized it at first, the experience of facing your catastrophe eventually forces you to see that your fear is irrelevant. You've been given a gift designed to help transport you outside the realm of fear.
Sometimes I feel like I am afraid of life. I am afraid that ai am not good enough. I am afraid I would just break apart in the face of the difficulties of life and show myself to be a very small, mediocre person. I am afraid of everything.
Everything you were afraid of has already happen. There is nothing more to be afraid of. Isn't that what makes us scared of anything. You are still standing, here...not a basket case. And you're not alone in your situation. Lot of people can't move forward in life until the thing they're most afraid happens to them and liberates them from their fear. So are you going to wait until you're old and as you slip through the portal of death see that death itself is nothing to dread, and then realize what a waste your lifetime of fear was?
The reason that things happne works in one way or another to end our fear: fear of not being loved, fear of no being strong, fear of not being happy..and so on. So it's important to make sure that we do everything possible to get what we need to end our fear. It's blowing my mind thinking that the reason I lived through what I did is so I could face my worst fear and give myself what I needed to move on.
What am I afraid of?-being poor (homeless)
-being alone
-losing my job
-my parents dying
Fear tires to make itself as amorphous and vague as possible. That's is how it gains power over you. You win by getting really specific. It is more easy to conquer because it's smaller.
What is the worst that can happen?
-being poor>>>live in the projects, food stamps, live in shelters
-being alone>>>no love, no sex, no one will know when I die
-losing my job>>>getting another job that will pay less
-parent dying>>>being alone
Many times we're afraid because we've panicked ourselves unnecessarily. There's simply no point in being afraid if, once you've looked into it, the worst that can happen isn't really something so terrible.
How likely is it?
-being poor>>>low
-being alone>>>low
-losing my job>>low
-parent dying>>low to moderate
Many of things we're afraid of lose their power to scare us when we realize how unlikely they are to happen.
Can I prevent this?
-being poor>>>save money, invest
-being alone>>search for love, invite love
-losing my job>>>make myself valuable to the company
-parent dying>>>nothing
Could I cope with it if thing I'm afraid of come to pass?
YES TO ALL
We get so paincky we fail to realize that if thing we're afraid of happened, we'd actually be abl to cope rather well. If I get laid off. We say things like "this would be devasting. I don't know what i'd do. Notice how we can use words to create their own panic. But come on. I'll look for another job.
Sometimes I feel like I am afraid of life. I am afraid that ai am not good enough. I am afraid I would just break apart in the face of the difficulties of life and show myself to be a very small, mediocre person. I am afraid of everything.
Everything you were afraid of has already happen. There is nothing more to be afraid of. Isn't that what makes us scared of anything. You are still standing, here...not a basket case. And you're not alone in your situation. Lot of people can't move forward in life until the thing they're most afraid happens to them and liberates them from their fear. So are you going to wait until you're old and as you slip through the portal of death see that death itself is nothing to dread, and then realize what a waste your lifetime of fear was?
The reason that things happne works in one way or another to end our fear: fear of not being loved, fear of no being strong, fear of not being happy..and so on. So it's important to make sure that we do everything possible to get what we need to end our fear. It's blowing my mind thinking that the reason I lived through what I did is so I could face my worst fear and give myself what I needed to move on.
What am I afraid of?-being poor (homeless)
-being alone
-losing my job
-my parents dying
Fear tires to make itself as amorphous and vague as possible. That's is how it gains power over you. You win by getting really specific. It is more easy to conquer because it's smaller.
What is the worst that can happen?
-being poor>>>live in the projects, food stamps, live in shelters
-being alone>>>no love, no sex, no one will know when I die
-losing my job>>>getting another job that will pay less
-parent dying>>>being alone
Many times we're afraid because we've panicked ourselves unnecessarily. There's simply no point in being afraid if, once you've looked into it, the worst that can happen isn't really something so terrible.
How likely is it?
-being poor>>>low
-being alone>>>low
-losing my job>>low
-parent dying>>low to moderate
Many of things we're afraid of lose their power to scare us when we realize how unlikely they are to happen.
Can I prevent this?
-being poor>>>save money, invest
-being alone>>search for love, invite love
-losing my job>>>make myself valuable to the company
-parent dying>>>nothing
Could I cope with it if thing I'm afraid of come to pass?
YES TO ALL
We get so paincky we fail to realize that if thing we're afraid of happened, we'd actually be abl to cope rather well. If I get laid off. We say things like "this would be devasting. I don't know what i'd do. Notice how we can use words to create their own panic. But come on. I'll look for another job.
NOTHING HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT: PART 4- THE TRUE IMPORTANCE OF LOVE
There's also a lot of counterfeit love going around these days.There are relationships where the word love is used to paper over selfishness, distance, and anger. Anyone can be in a relationship. Anyone can justify any behavior in the name of love. But just the way a counterfeit bill is worthless, just the way food with empty calories provides no nutrition, love that's not real can never be satisfying. We need a crisis to shake us out of our laziness, blindness and fear. And that's good because deep down we're hungry for the real thing, and we need it, even if we don't seem to realize it yet. Oh, and by the way, this wake-up call may not be an event that directly has anything to do with love, like a relationship that blew up in your face. It could be a car accident, a spell of unemployment, anything. Wouldn't it be wonderful to know that you've already had that wake-up call and that it's given you everything you need to bring real, lasting, high-quality love into your life? Maybe you've failed to realize how much love you have to give. Maybe you've been too willing to put up with relationships that can enver give you geniune, healthy love. Maybe you've been afraid to commit to or to work at the love you've found in your life.
The element of real love in my opinion is the following:
-Real love is not just how you feel about your partner. It's much more how your partner makes you feel about yourself
-Real love is not about losing yourself in your partner. It's about becoming true to yourself with your partner
-Real love is not about how great your partner is. It's about how great you can become alongside your partner.
-Real love is not just about how much you love your partner. It's about how your partner helps you love yourself.
-Real love is not just about your partner finding room in his or her heart for you. It's about your partner finding room in his or her life for your energy, drive, ambition, passions, interests, and needs.
-Real love is not just based on how good your partner is "deep down". It's based on how much actually experience your partner's goodness as your live your life together
-Real love is not based on how your partner makes you hungry to be with him or her. It's based on how much your partner makes you feel at home when you are with each other.
-Real love is not about love you say you share. It's about the life you really do share, fully, equally, deeply.
-Real love is about treating your partner the way you'd want to be treated
-Real love is about falling in like.
It feels clear to me that the reason I was deprived of an atmosphere of love was so I could see how important love is---for me, for all of us. You might thing, Who doesn't know that? Well, it was not so obvious to someone like me. I like to be alone. I like to work hard. I don't like distractions. I could so easily never have found anyone to love like most people. I could so easily have ruined all my relationship by making them low priorities. But the lesson I learned growing up made is possible for me to have love in my life---I was committed to doing whatever was necessary to find real love and keep healthy. Maybe as soon as I was born the people who run the universe took on look at me and knew exactly the kind of lesson someone like me would need to learn. Understanding the true importance of love is one of the meaning of the events in my life.
Life always makes things happen to people to show them the true importance of love. Everything happens for a reason. I know a girl who been plagued for years with the wrong guys liking her for the wrong reasons. Her "problem" was that she was not only great looking but she had a sweet, friendly dispositions. A guy would know her for two seconds, and think she was incredibly easy, not in the sense that she'd go to be with him but in the sense that this relationship that would give him alot and require very little from him. In other words, she kept attracting shallow, selfish, self-centered men. She need help to understand the true importance of love. Her taste in men had been pretty superfical : arm candy, guys she could use to impress her girlfriends---in other words, men who almost guaranteed that lasting love would come last in a relationship. Soon she will be forced to be more discriminating, to focus more on what was most important in love, she wasn't going to have anything more to do with guys who couldn't appreciated what was most important about love to her.
Maybe we serve at the altar of love, but it's mostly lip service. We talk about how important love is but then we allow a lot of other priorities to creep in. The result is that if you look at our lives as they actually are, there's too often little real love in them, love that truly bring us close, love that make usfeel good about ourselves and brings out the best in us, love that's based on truly liking and respecting the other person. No wonder we so often need to learn a lesson about love. The lesson is wake-up call, driving home the idea that you need to take love a lot more seriously and really shows that you should insist on the highest quality love. Most people say that they know the value of love, but that having a successful relationship is a complex and mysterious process. The opposite is true. Most people have a lot of information about how to make their relationship satisfying, but they don't implement this information because they don't give the highest priority to the things taht ensure real love. They know what to do but they don't do it.....like surrendering to someone.
Instead of thinking about what you wish you'd done differently in the past, think about how you an do things differently in the future. From now on in my relationship, I'm going to pay more attention to what I really need and make sure my important needs get met, or from now on in all my relationship I'm going to be more honest about who I really am even if I find that a little scary.
I remember when I my dad had his heart attack and I almost lost him. And I asked my dad what he wished he'd done differently around this experence. He said, "It's funny you asked. There's nothing I could've done differently. I was just at home walking and then all of sudden my chest started to hurt and I knew I was having a heart attack and when I really understood what had happened, the first thing I thought was I could've been died so easily. And then the second thought was I wish I 'd nicer to your mom. We've so mean to the people we care about sometimes because we think we're going to live forever and so we have all the time in the world to patch things up. But of course we don't. If I can die at any minute, then my mean selfish words can easily be the very last things you mom is going to remember about me"
A radical decision to be yourself comes up so often for people who have gone through hell--to wake them up to the importance of finding real love. It's hard, it's risky, but if you don't show who you really are, you 'll never feel really loved and you'll never be able to give the love you're capable of giving.
If you just think about it a moment, this makes a awful lot of sense. What in the world is the universe for if it's not about helping you become your best, most authentic self? And where in the world is it more important for this to happen than in the land of love
The element of real love in my opinion is the following:
-Real love is not just how you feel about your partner. It's much more how your partner makes you feel about yourself
-Real love is not about losing yourself in your partner. It's about becoming true to yourself with your partner
-Real love is not about how great your partner is. It's about how great you can become alongside your partner.
-Real love is not just about how much you love your partner. It's about how your partner helps you love yourself.
-Real love is not just about your partner finding room in his or her heart for you. It's about your partner finding room in his or her life for your energy, drive, ambition, passions, interests, and needs.
-Real love is not just based on how good your partner is "deep down". It's based on how much actually experience your partner's goodness as your live your life together
-Real love is not based on how your partner makes you hungry to be with him or her. It's based on how much your partner makes you feel at home when you are with each other.
-Real love is not about love you say you share. It's about the life you really do share, fully, equally, deeply.
-Real love is about treating your partner the way you'd want to be treated
-Real love is about falling in like.
It feels clear to me that the reason I was deprived of an atmosphere of love was so I could see how important love is---for me, for all of us. You might thing, Who doesn't know that? Well, it was not so obvious to someone like me. I like to be alone. I like to work hard. I don't like distractions. I could so easily never have found anyone to love like most people. I could so easily have ruined all my relationship by making them low priorities. But the lesson I learned growing up made is possible for me to have love in my life---I was committed to doing whatever was necessary to find real love and keep healthy. Maybe as soon as I was born the people who run the universe took on look at me and knew exactly the kind of lesson someone like me would need to learn. Understanding the true importance of love is one of the meaning of the events in my life.
Life always makes things happen to people to show them the true importance of love. Everything happens for a reason. I know a girl who been plagued for years with the wrong guys liking her for the wrong reasons. Her "problem" was that she was not only great looking but she had a sweet, friendly dispositions. A guy would know her for two seconds, and think she was incredibly easy, not in the sense that she'd go to be with him but in the sense that this relationship that would give him alot and require very little from him. In other words, she kept attracting shallow, selfish, self-centered men. She need help to understand the true importance of love. Her taste in men had been pretty superfical : arm candy, guys she could use to impress her girlfriends---in other words, men who almost guaranteed that lasting love would come last in a relationship. Soon she will be forced to be more discriminating, to focus more on what was most important in love, she wasn't going to have anything more to do with guys who couldn't appreciated what was most important about love to her.
Maybe we serve at the altar of love, but it's mostly lip service. We talk about how important love is but then we allow a lot of other priorities to creep in. The result is that if you look at our lives as they actually are, there's too often little real love in them, love that truly bring us close, love that make usfeel good about ourselves and brings out the best in us, love that's based on truly liking and respecting the other person. No wonder we so often need to learn a lesson about love. The lesson is wake-up call, driving home the idea that you need to take love a lot more seriously and really shows that you should insist on the highest quality love. Most people say that they know the value of love, but that having a successful relationship is a complex and mysterious process. The opposite is true. Most people have a lot of information about how to make their relationship satisfying, but they don't implement this information because they don't give the highest priority to the things taht ensure real love. They know what to do but they don't do it.....like surrendering to someone.
Instead of thinking about what you wish you'd done differently in the past, think about how you an do things differently in the future. From now on in my relationship, I'm going to pay more attention to what I really need and make sure my important needs get met, or from now on in all my relationship I'm going to be more honest about who I really am even if I find that a little scary.
I remember when I my dad had his heart attack and I almost lost him. And I asked my dad what he wished he'd done differently around this experence. He said, "It's funny you asked. There's nothing I could've done differently. I was just at home walking and then all of sudden my chest started to hurt and I knew I was having a heart attack and when I really understood what had happened, the first thing I thought was I could've been died so easily. And then the second thought was I wish I 'd nicer to your mom. We've so mean to the people we care about sometimes because we think we're going to live forever and so we have all the time in the world to patch things up. But of course we don't. If I can die at any minute, then my mean selfish words can easily be the very last things you mom is going to remember about me"
A radical decision to be yourself comes up so often for people who have gone through hell--to wake them up to the importance of finding real love. It's hard, it's risky, but if you don't show who you really are, you 'll never feel really loved and you'll never be able to give the love you're capable of giving.
If you just think about it a moment, this makes a awful lot of sense. What in the world is the universe for if it's not about helping you become your best, most authentic self? And where in the world is it more important for this to happen than in the land of love
PART 5- SPIRITUAL: WHY WE ARE ALL ONE AND WHY THINGS DON'T HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT *******
How do I fit into the scheme of things? What is my destiny? These are the question I think about all the time. To me the world is made out of three different level. The first level of existence is physical or material, the visible universe. This is the world we know best, what we call the real world. It contains matter and objects with firm boundaries, everything is three-dimensional that we can see, hear, feel, taste, or smell.
At teh second level of existence everything consist of information and energy. This is the quantum level. It cannot be touched or perceived by any of the five sense. Your mind, your thoughts, your ego, the part of you that you typically think of as your "self" are all part of the quantum level. These things have no solidity, and yet you know your self and your thoughts to be real. Everything in the visible universe is a manifestation of the energy and information of the quantum. Every solid object is made up of molecules, and molecules are made up of even smaller units called atoms. We come to understand that this seemingly computer you are reading my blog in is made up of atoms so small that they cannot be seen without the aid of a powerful microscope. These tiny atoms are made up of subatomic particles, which has no solidity at all. They are, quite literally, packets of waves of information and energy. This concept can be difficult to grasp at first. How can invisible waves of energy and information be experienced as solid object? The answer is that events in the quatum level occur at the speed of light, and at that speed our sense simply cannot process everything that contributes to our perceptual experience.
The reason we don't see the world as huge web of energy is that it is vibrating far too fast. our sense, because they function so slowly, are able to register only chunks of this energy. If we were capable of perceiving everything that was happening at the quatum level, we would see that we are all part of a energy soup. At any given moment your energy field will come into contact with and affect everyone else's energy field, and each of us responds in some way to that experience. Most of us have had the experience of walking into and room and sense being engulfed by a sense of peace when you with someone. At a deeper level, there is really no boundary between our selves and everything else in the world. When you touch an object, it feel solid, as though there was a distinct boundary between it and you. When we touch an object, we perceive solidity when the clouds of electrons meet. Our eyes are programmed to see objects as solid...in the reality of quantum level, however there is no solidity. Is there solidity when two clouds meet? No They meld and separate. Something similiar happens whenever you touch another object or even a person when you make love. Your energy fields (and electron clouds) meet, small portions meld, and then you separate. Although you perceive yourself to be whole, you have lost a bit of its energy field in return. With every encounter we exchange information and energy, and we come away changed just a little bit. In this way we see how connected we are to everything in the physical world. Ine the quantum level, we would see that everything we think of solid in the physcial world is actually flickering in and out of an infinvite void at the speed of light. Just like the frame and gap sequence of a motion picture, the universe is an on-off phenomenon. In reality, we are al flickering in and out of existence all the time. Scientist know that it takes a snail about 3 seconds to register light. So imagine that a snail was watching me and that I left the room and robbed a bank, and came back in 3 seconds. As far as the snail was concerned, I never left the room. I could take her to court and she would provide a perfect alibi. For the snail, the time that I was gone from the room would fall into on of those gasp beween the frames of flickering existence.
The third level is this spiritual or universal intelligence level. The universe is made up of both solid particle and waves. At any given moment any object can be either a particle or a wave because we can't know both the location and the momentum of the wave-particle. In fact, as it turn out, until we mearsure either its location or its momentum, it is both particle an wave simultaneously. This concept is know as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle. Imagine a closed box with a wave-particle in it. Its absolute idenity is not fixed until it is observed or measured in some way. At the moment before observation, its identity is pure potential. It is both wave and particle, and it exist only in the virtual level. After observation or measurement take place, the potential collaspes into a single entity- either particle or wave. The idea that a thing can exist in more than one state at the same time is totally a open mind idea. ..think about this...really thing about this. Before we make any observation on anything...at that moment both possibilites exist at the same time. It is the observation alone that possibility into reality. As remarkable as this might see, phyiscists recently completed an experiment proving this phenomenon by demonstrating that a charged, unobserved beryllium atom was capable of being in two separate locations at the same time.
Perhaps even more mind-boggling is the nothing that the very idea of two separate locations may be a perceptual artifact, In other words, two correlated events in two different locations might in fact be the movement of a single events. Imagine a single fish in a tank, with two video cameras recording its movements. The two cameras are at right angles to each other and project their respective images to two separate video screens in another room, You are sitting in this room looking at both screen. You see two different fish and you are amazed when one fish turns or moves in a certain direction and its behavior is immediately correlated with the behavior of the other fish. Of course you do not know what is happening behind the scenes. If you did, you would see that there is only one fish. If we placed many different cameras at many different angles, and projected these images to different screens to the same room, you would be amazed athat all these different fish are in instant communicational correlation with one another.
What we experience every day is a projected reality where events and things only appear to be separated in space and time. Int the deeper realm we are all members of the same body, and when one part of the body moves, every single part of the part is instantly affected. There is a level the third level where a dimension of existence where we are all inseparably one. Separation may be just an illusion. When we feel love in any form, it has the effect of beginning to shatter that illusion. When you are in love.....you let go of the ego and you become one with your beloved. When you die, all near-death experience tell about a light of love and wholeness. LOVE....LOVE ALONE IS HOW YOU YOU ENTER THIS LEVEL OF UNIVERSAL INTELLIGENCE.
Because observation is the key to defining the wave-particle as a single entity. Many physicists believed that consciousness alone was responsible for the collapse of the wave-particle. It might be said, then, that without consciousness, everything would exist only as undefined, potential packets of energy, or pure potential. WITHOUT CONSCIOUSNESS ACTING AS AN OBSERVER AND INTERPRETER, EVERYTHING WOULD EXIST ONLY AS PURE POTENTIAL. The pure potential is the third level of existence.
Albert Einstein devised his own though experiement: Imagine creating two idential wave-particle that are then shot off in opposite directions. What happens if we ask about the location of wave-particle A and ask about the momentum of wave-particle B? Remember, the particles are identical, so whatever measurement is calculated for one will, by defintion, hold true for the other. Knowing the location of wave-particle A (and thus collasping it into a particle) simultaneously tell us that location of wave-particle B, and therefore also collapse it into a particle. The implication of this thought experiement is that: if observing wave-particle A affects wave-particle B, that mean that some nonlocal connection or communication is occuring in which information is exchanged faster than the speed of ligh, without the exchange of energy. This thought experiment is know as the Einstein-Podolsky-Rosen paradox. Laboratory experiment have shown that the laws of quantum physics do hold up, and that nonlocal communication or connection is a reality.
Awareness is the key to all this. Only with awareness can you see all this and change your mind . For example...like right now I am looking to buy a new car and was thinking about this one car...now i have seen this car everywhere where before my awarness ...I really never notice it. THAT IS WHY AWARENESS CHANGES YOUR REALITY
PART 6-SPIRITUAL: VIBRATIONAL MATCH-UP OF YOUR IMAGINATION
You are here in your physical body and there was a time when you were an embryo, before that a seed, and before that formless energy. That formless energy contains God, which brought you from now where to now here.Where does your mind begin and end? Where are its boundaries? Where is it located? More important, where is it not located? Is it born with you or is it present before your conception? At our core, we are formless energy. There's a universal intelligence subsisting throughout nature inherent in every one of tis manifestations. You are one of those manifestations. You are a piece of this universal intelligence--a slice of GOD, if you will. Be good to God, since all that God created was good. Be good to yourself. You are God manifested, and that's reason enough to treat yourself kindly.When life appears to be working against you, when your luck is down, when the supposedly wrong people show up, or when you slip up and return to old, self-defeating habits, recognize it as a sign that you're out of harmony with the universal energy.Your have to trust the universe. Be willing to accept any guidance that comes your way. Stay in vibrational harmony with the all-providing energy. I love what Patanjali said, "Dormant forces, faculities, and talents come alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be." You'll see the right people magically appearing in your life. Beautiful thoughts build a beautiful soul. If we focuson what's ugly, we attract more ugliness into our thoughts, and then into our emotions, and ultimately into our lives. Don't contemplate on what's missing.
Coincidence does not describe luck or mistakes. It describe that which fit together perfectly. You're looking for a vibrational match-up of your imagination and the universal energy. There is no stopping anyone who can think from the end in mind. In imaginatino, dwell on the end, fully confident that it's there in the material world and that you can use the ingredients of the all-creative energy to make it tangible. Behave as if all that you like to create is already here. But most people just want. They want the new car, or new relationship or anything. And what they get is more of the state of wanting. To get what you want you must be in harmony with the power of the universal energy, which is responsible for all of creation.
You will is the ego part of you that believes you're separate from others, separate from what you's like to accomplish or have, and separate from God. It also believe that you are your acquisitions, achievement.There was something I learn from Dr. Wayne Dyer in one of his PBS special...If you say with kindness in your voice and in your heart, "How may I serve you?" the universe's response will be, "How may I serve you as well?" It's attractor energy. It's this spirit of cooperation with all of life that emerges from the essence of intentions. And this spirit of kindness is one that you must learn to match if connection back to intention is your desire. And that is something I have done this summer...I ask myself to the universe "How may I serve?" and the universe does give me what I ask to service me back.
At teh second level of existence everything consist of information and energy. This is the quantum level. It cannot be touched or perceived by any of the five sense. Your mind, your thoughts, your ego, the part of you that you typically think of as your "self" are all part of the quantum level. These things have no solidity, and yet you know your self and your thoughts to be real. Everything in the visible universe is a manifestation of the energy and information of the quantum. Every solid object is made up of molecules, and molecules are made up of even smaller units called atoms. We come to understand that this seemingly computer you are reading my blog in is made up of atoms so small that they cannot be seen without the aid of a powerful microscope. These tiny atoms are made up of subatomic particles, which has no solidity at all. They are, quite literally, packets of waves of information and energy. This concept can be difficult to grasp at first. How can invisible waves of energy and information be experienced as solid object? The answer is that events in the quatum level occur at the speed of light, and at that speed our sense simply cannot process everything that contributes to our perceptual experience.
The reason we don't see the world as huge web of energy is that it is vibrating far too fast. our sense, because they function so slowly, are able to register only chunks of this energy. If we were capable of perceiving everything that was happening at the quatum level, we would see that we are all part of a energy soup. At any given moment your energy field will come into contact with and affect everyone else's energy field, and each of us responds in some way to that experience. Most of us have had the experience of walking into and room and sense being engulfed by a sense of peace when you with someone. At a deeper level, there is really no boundary between our selves and everything else in the world. When you touch an object, it feel solid, as though there was a distinct boundary between it and you. When we touch an object, we perceive solidity when the clouds of electrons meet. Our eyes are programmed to see objects as solid...in the reality of quantum level, however there is no solidity. Is there solidity when two clouds meet? No They meld and separate. Something similiar happens whenever you touch another object or even a person when you make love. Your energy fields (and electron clouds) meet, small portions meld, and then you separate. Although you perceive yourself to be whole, you have lost a bit of its energy field in return. With every encounter we exchange information and energy, and we come away changed just a little bit. In this way we see how connected we are to everything in the physical world. Ine the quantum level, we would see that everything we think of solid in the physcial world is actually flickering in and out of an infinvite void at the speed of light. Just like the frame and gap sequence of a motion picture, the universe is an on-off phenomenon. In reality, we are al flickering in and out of existence all the time. Scientist know that it takes a snail about 3 seconds to register light. So imagine that a snail was watching me and that I left the room and robbed a bank, and came back in 3 seconds. As far as the snail was concerned, I never left the room. I could take her to court and she would provide a perfect alibi. For the snail, the time that I was gone from the room would fall into on of those gasp beween the frames of flickering existence.
The third level is this spiritual or universal intelligence level. The universe is made up of both solid particle and waves. At any given moment any object can be either a particle or a wave because we can't know both the location and the momentum of the wave-particle. In fact, as it turn out, until we mearsure either its location or its momentum, it is both particle an wave simultaneously. This concept is know as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle. Imagine a closed box with a wave-particle in it. Its absolute idenity is not fixed until it is observed or measured in some way. At the moment before observation, its identity is pure potential. It is both wave and particle, and it exist only in the virtual level. After observation or measurement take place, the potential collaspes into a single entity- either particle or wave. The idea that a thing can exist in more than one state at the same time is totally a open mind idea. ..think about this...really thing about this. Before we make any observation on anything...at that moment both possibilites exist at the same time. It is the observation alone that possibility into reality. As remarkable as this might see, phyiscists recently completed an experiment proving this phenomenon by demonstrating that a charged, unobserved beryllium atom was capable of being in two separate locations at the same time.
Perhaps even more mind-boggling is the nothing that the very idea of two separate locations may be a perceptual artifact, In other words, two correlated events in two different locations might in fact be the movement of a single events. Imagine a single fish in a tank, with two video cameras recording its movements. The two cameras are at right angles to each other and project their respective images to two separate video screens in another room, You are sitting in this room looking at both screen. You see two different fish and you are amazed when one fish turns or moves in a certain direction and its behavior is immediately correlated with the behavior of the other fish. Of course you do not know what is happening behind the scenes. If you did, you would see that there is only one fish. If we placed many different cameras at many different angles, and projected these images to different screens to the same room, you would be amazed athat all these different fish are in instant communicational correlation with one another.
What we experience every day is a projected reality where events and things only appear to be separated in space and time. Int the deeper realm we are all members of the same body, and when one part of the body moves, every single part of the part is instantly affected. There is a level the third level where a dimension of existence where we are all inseparably one. Separation may be just an illusion. When we feel love in any form, it has the effect of beginning to shatter that illusion. When you are in love.....you let go of the ego and you become one with your beloved. When you die, all near-death experience tell about a light of love and wholeness. LOVE....LOVE ALONE IS HOW YOU YOU ENTER THIS LEVEL OF UNIVERSAL INTELLIGENCE.
Because observation is the key to defining the wave-particle as a single entity. Many physicists believed that consciousness alone was responsible for the collapse of the wave-particle. It might be said, then, that without consciousness, everything would exist only as undefined, potential packets of energy, or pure potential. WITHOUT CONSCIOUSNESS ACTING AS AN OBSERVER AND INTERPRETER, EVERYTHING WOULD EXIST ONLY AS PURE POTENTIAL. The pure potential is the third level of existence.
Albert Einstein devised his own though experiement: Imagine creating two idential wave-particle that are then shot off in opposite directions. What happens if we ask about the location of wave-particle A and ask about the momentum of wave-particle B? Remember, the particles are identical, so whatever measurement is calculated for one will, by defintion, hold true for the other. Knowing the location of wave-particle A (and thus collasping it into a particle) simultaneously tell us that location of wave-particle B, and therefore also collapse it into a particle. The implication of this thought experiement is that: if observing wave-particle A affects wave-particle B, that mean that some nonlocal connection or communication is occuring in which information is exchanged faster than the speed of ligh, without the exchange of energy. This thought experiment is know as the Einstein-Podolsky-Rosen paradox. Laboratory experiment have shown that the laws of quantum physics do hold up, and that nonlocal communication or connection is a reality.
Awareness is the key to all this. Only with awareness can you see all this and change your mind . For example...like right now I am looking to buy a new car and was thinking about this one car...now i have seen this car everywhere where before my awarness ...I really never notice it. THAT IS WHY AWARENESS CHANGES YOUR REALITY
PART 6-SPIRITUAL: VIBRATIONAL MATCH-UP OF YOUR IMAGINATION
You are here in your physical body and there was a time when you were an embryo, before that a seed, and before that formless energy. That formless energy contains God, which brought you from now where to now here.Where does your mind begin and end? Where are its boundaries? Where is it located? More important, where is it not located? Is it born with you or is it present before your conception? At our core, we are formless energy. There's a universal intelligence subsisting throughout nature inherent in every one of tis manifestations. You are one of those manifestations. You are a piece of this universal intelligence--a slice of GOD, if you will. Be good to God, since all that God created was good. Be good to yourself. You are God manifested, and that's reason enough to treat yourself kindly.When life appears to be working against you, when your luck is down, when the supposedly wrong people show up, or when you slip up and return to old, self-defeating habits, recognize it as a sign that you're out of harmony with the universal energy.Your have to trust the universe. Be willing to accept any guidance that comes your way. Stay in vibrational harmony with the all-providing energy. I love what Patanjali said, "Dormant forces, faculities, and talents come alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be." You'll see the right people magically appearing in your life. Beautiful thoughts build a beautiful soul. If we focuson what's ugly, we attract more ugliness into our thoughts, and then into our emotions, and ultimately into our lives. Don't contemplate on what's missing.
Coincidence does not describe luck or mistakes. It describe that which fit together perfectly. You're looking for a vibrational match-up of your imagination and the universal energy. There is no stopping anyone who can think from the end in mind. In imaginatino, dwell on the end, fully confident that it's there in the material world and that you can use the ingredients of the all-creative energy to make it tangible. Behave as if all that you like to create is already here. But most people just want. They want the new car, or new relationship or anything. And what they get is more of the state of wanting. To get what you want you must be in harmony with the power of the universal energy, which is responsible for all of creation.
You will is the ego part of you that believes you're separate from others, separate from what you's like to accomplish or have, and separate from God. It also believe that you are your acquisitions, achievement.There was something I learn from Dr. Wayne Dyer in one of his PBS special...If you say with kindness in your voice and in your heart, "How may I serve you?" the universe's response will be, "How may I serve you as well?" It's attractor energy. It's this spirit of cooperation with all of life that emerges from the essence of intentions. And this spirit of kindness is one that you must learn to match if connection back to intention is your desire. And that is something I have done this summer...I ask myself to the universe "How may I serve?" and the universe does give me what I ask to service me back.
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