FAN: A FAN WRITES TO ME ABOUT HOW MY STORIES MADE HER OPEN MINDED

I didn't know if I should share this post. A fan send it to me recently. She likes reading my sex stories. The stories were just fantasy about cuckolding. She told me those stories made her open minded and was open to the idea. I was shocked. I



Prior to meeting “D”, (my husband) I was a serial monogamist.  I had been cheated on in my previous marriage, and yet I managed to remain faithful even in a bad situation.  I had it in my head that love meant being with one person and one person only…forever.  As it turns out, my new man had desires that would make me question my thoughts and views on this stuff.  

Throughout my life, I’ve always been “that girl” who wouldn’t sleep with a guy unless I thought the relationship was going somewhere.  In order to get sexually turned on, I had to have an emotional connection with someone.  When “D” and I began discussing his desires and fantasies, I did my best to try and change my thoughts and feeling toward sex in general…I thought that I had to somehow become okay with meeting a guy online, going to a hotel room or picking him up at a bar and getting down to business.  This terrified me.  I wanted to make my man happy - I had an incredible drive and desire to make all of his fantasies come true by being the girl he had always wanted - and yet I was riddled with fear and worry over how I could make this happen.  

I read your stories...  and it turned me on. Now, I like “cock” as much as the next girl (maybe more), but I like that cock to be attached to someone who I am attracted to both mentally and physically, otherwise it just doesn’t work for me.  I knew this about myself, but I was also trying to deny it.

So, how was I going to make this whole lifestyle work with the way that I felt about sex?  I wasn’t the type of girl to just go out and give a random stranger a blowjob, or meet a guy  and set up a sex date without even knowing more than his first name - it works for some women, but just not for me.  I was convinced that I needed to either change my views and just “bite the bullet” or I wasn’t cut out for this stuff at all.  Still, I WAS open minded.  I wanted to make my man happy and to turn him on in insane ways.  I was okay with the idea of it, but it had to somehow be on my terms.  I knew that I had it in me somewhere…  

The answer was out there, I just had to find it.  I can’t change who I am to fit into a mold or be something that I’m not - I would never get the personal benefit or any type of gratification from the lifestyle.  I realized that for the Hotwife lifestyle to work for me, I had to look for “playmates” who were willing to put in more than 3 hours on a Saturday night.  I needed to find “playmates” who were okay with getting to know me a little bit before jumping into bed.  I also needed the comfort of a “playmate” who was willing to be a little more romantic and a little less “lets fuck”.   Luckily, there is something out there for everyone in this world, and it’s not impossible (or even that difficult) to find “playmates” who are willing to be “that guy”.  

Yesterday I had a fantastic afternoon with a “playmate”.  It was our third time together and it was by far the best time, because some familiarity had been built.  I was able to be more comfortable, and I was able to have multiple incredible orgasms - which would not have been possible if I was dealing with the nerves associated with meeting a random stranger and having a crazy rendezvous.  I felt wanted, taken care of, safe, and ultimately extremely pleasured by a pretty erotic afternoon encounter.  This was possible because it was on my terms and I found a guy who I was able to get comfortable with.  

I’m not saying that all women are like me and need the romance or comfort from their “playmates”.  What I’m saying is that I know there ARE a lot of women who are like me, and believe that they either have to change who they are to fit into this lifestyle or they say no to the lifestyle all together because they don’t believe it will work for them.  There are a lot of men out there who would really love to have a Hotwife, but are met with resounding “no’s” simply because their wives don’t see how it’s possible to have an encounter with a “playmate” that isn’t strictly “porno sex”.  

If you are a woman (or love a woman) who is thinking about the Hotwife lifestyle, but feels as though you have to concede who you are as a sexual being in order to make things work, I’m here to tell you that you don’t.  You can do things on your terms because you have the power to choose…and you have the power to orchestrate how your “dates” happen.  Be picky.  Choose a “playmate” who is willing to fill whatever role that you need filled in order to be comfortable and satisfied (because, let’s face it, we all want to be able to have those amazing orgasms, right?) - if you want something more detached and focused on sex, then go out and take it, if you need that little bit of extra care, charm and romance, there are “playmates” out there who are happy to do that for you.  As much as this is your man’s fantasy, it’s also your life…so do things on your terms and he will be happier with things in the end.  A happy Hotwife makes a happy man!      

Rules that I found out that helped me

Unbreakable Rules:


1. HONESTY…NEVER lie about ANYTHING.


2. COMMUNICATE…Listen to his needs, after all your husband is letting you fuck other men, the least you could do is listen to and fulfill his sexual needs. My husband is a big dominate man but SEXUALLY loves to be told what I’m going to do & how he can’t pleased me, who I want to fuck & little humiliation is in some cases important to the husband ..so guess what ? That’s what I do. 


3. NEVER become attached to a lover. DON’T let it happen EVER…FOR ANY REASON. If you do you’re an IDIOT.

4. If you have solo sex, return to your husband as soon as you’re finished fucking your stud so that he can have his wife, fresh AND NASTY from her encounter. Be a SLUT !


5.ALWAYS RECONNECT with him immediately after sex with someone else. TRAIN him to want to use you. That way he will encourage you to fuck other men for his satisfaction.


6. SHARE the experience with him. This is for the enhancement of your relationship and for mutually exciting sexual experiences….NOT to make other men feel good. Always make sure your hubby feels INVOLVED and SATISFIED and he will put you on a pedistal and let you be the slut you want to be. If husband not present you must video your time with your stud all the times. Ladies, is very important for your husband to feel satisfied make him go crazy for you. Be the nasty slut he wants you to be.