DATING: USING THE GEORGE CLOONEY RULE

I'm handsome, intelligent,kind and friendly, nice  I don't need an app or anything, for that matter, to help me find a girlfriend. Never, I said to myself, would I need to put myself behind a virtual shopping window, sell my virtues like a desperate encyclopaedia salesman and hope that strangers would be persuaded enough to click "like".

Eventually, though, I came around.You see, when you work 12-hour days and also have to work on the weekends, the ability to date or meet new people is seriously compromised. On days when I can leave work early, I like nothing more than to read a book and unwind over a glass of whisky or watch a good movie in bed. Nothing about those activities brings me remotely close to another human being.  but I am not going to just meet anyone.

Finding someone you like is always a minefield, and there’s a reason kissing frogs before meeting your prince/princess is a well-worn cliche.

Let’s be honest, there isn’t really a ‘one’ out there. There are so many people in the world that statistically there can’t just be one person that is meant to be with another.  The idea that there is just one person for every person is actually a very depressing thought. It would be like trying to find a needle in a planet-sized haystack!

In reality, finding a person we might describe as ‘the one‘ means finding someone who has qualities and attributes that we are attracted to – and that someone also has to be at a stage in their life where they are ready to commit. It’s hard ticking all these boxes, so imagining that there would be only one person in the world that could fit that role would mean that very few people would be together.

So how do I know who to spend my time with actually take a leap of faith and open my heart to? How do you separate the shopper from the buyer? I use the George Clooney rule.

Imagine that instead of me, George Clooney had asked this same woman out. Would she use the same excuse with him? If George Clooney asked her on a date, would she still say she had to go to the movies with friends that night? Nope. She would have dropped pretty much anything and everything to be able to accept a date with George.

Now I know that I am not George Clooney obviously. But if a woman is interested in me, she will drop her other plans to be available to go out with me

Of course there are exceptions; the woman may have a legitimate reason she cannot make the date. Perhaps she has to work or go to a funeral. But if this is the case—and here is the real clincher—she will then suggest a different time for the date. She will say something along the lines of, “I can’t do it Saturday night; do you want to hang out next weekend instead?”

That is the person i will open my heart to and my soul. I want someone who want to be with me....not with just words...but with actions.